Akosua Dardaine Edwards's Blog, page 195
September 1, 2015
The Stand
t
he possibility of making an error should never, ever stop you from doing anything.
Don't ever be afraid of "not getting it right." In truth, there is no "right" way of doing anything...there is only the way you are doing it. So go ahead. Do it.
Nothing wonderful has ever been accomplished by anyone who was worried sick about it not being wonderful. NDW
To life:
Why are you afraid? What's it gonna do?
Scared that you may change, isn't that the truth?
Who are you to say? You're not gonna win
How'd you ever know if you just give in?
Tell me how will you know?How will you know?
If you just give in,
tell me
how you'll grow?
Stand up, you better stand up, every time you fall down
Stand up, even if you're small
You can stand tall,
Believe in yourself or who's gonna?
If you never dream for yourself then who's gonna?
How you gonna do for yourself, how you gonna ...?
When you know you wanna prove it to yourself so you've gotta
Gotta make a change, rearrange if you want it
Make it to the top, this is your shot you've got this!
The spotlight is all for you but you have to bring it
Bring your A game, your A team because you want it,
Stand up
Peace!
Don't ever be afraid of "not getting it right." In truth, there is no "right" way of doing anything...there is only the way you are doing it. So go ahead. Do it.
Nothing wonderful has ever been accomplished by anyone who was worried sick about it not being wonderful. NDW
To life:
Why are you afraid? What's it gonna do?
Scared that you may change, isn't that the truth?
Who are you to say? You're not gonna win
How'd you ever know if you just give in?
Tell me how will you know?How will you know?
If you just give in,
tell me
how you'll grow?
Stand up, you better stand up, every time you fall down
Stand up, even if you're small
You can stand tall,
Believe in yourself or who's gonna?
If you never dream for yourself then who's gonna?
How you gonna do for yourself, how you gonna ...?
When you know you wanna prove it to yourself so you've gotta
Gotta make a change, rearrange if you want it
Make it to the top, this is your shot you've got this!
The spotlight is all for you but you have to bring it
Bring your A game, your A team because you want it,
Stand up
Peace!
August 31, 2015
You have nothing to lose
What fear demands, love cannot even see. The fierce attraction that guilt holds for fear is wholly absent from love's gentle perception. What love would look upon is meaningless to fear, and quite invisible. ACIM
One of my mentors told me in everything you do act as if there is nothing to fear and nothing to lose because you always gain, even when or if you feel afraid still believe that there is nothing to fear and go through hard and do it! and this is one of the pieces of advice I took to heart and approach so many of my scenarios. So it was quite interesting yesterday when someone told me "you always seem to come here and act like you have nothing to lose" I stood watching her with my mouth wide open because I never told her that and it was indeed my philosophy in doing this project that I am now working on!
So the lessons for me on this encounter were
1. It pours out of you - just when you think people are not clued into what's going on inside of you, your actions reflect it and it pours out of you. As within so without- if you eat healthy food more than junk it will show up in your body structure, what you put in surely shows up on the outside.
2. You hold on less especially to fear and worry when you believe that you have nothing to lose
3. It's all lessons - everything is a lesson, there is something to learn about yourself in each and every encounter
So dwell on what you desire to create and move ahead focused, there really is nothing to fear
Peace
One of my mentors told me in everything you do act as if there is nothing to fear and nothing to lose because you always gain, even when or if you feel afraid still believe that there is nothing to fear and go through hard and do it! and this is one of the pieces of advice I took to heart and approach so many of my scenarios. So it was quite interesting yesterday when someone told me "you always seem to come here and act like you have nothing to lose" I stood watching her with my mouth wide open because I never told her that and it was indeed my philosophy in doing this project that I am now working on!
So the lessons for me on this encounter were
1. It pours out of you - just when you think people are not clued into what's going on inside of you, your actions reflect it and it pours out of you. As within so without- if you eat healthy food more than junk it will show up in your body structure, what you put in surely shows up on the outside.
2. You hold on less especially to fear and worry when you believe that you have nothing to lose
3. It's all lessons - everything is a lesson, there is something to learn about yourself in each and every encounter
So dwell on what you desire to create and move ahead focused, there really is nothing to fear
Peace
August 29, 2015
Tell your story
Shame hates it when we reach out and tell our story. It hates having words wrapped around it—it can’t survive being shared. Shame loves secrecy. The most dangerous thing to do after a shaming experience is hide or bury our story. When we bury our story, the shame metastasizes
Brene Brown
Tell your story - Tell it because it gives you back your power.
Tell your story - Tell it because you are never alone.
Tell your story - Tell it in a way that empowers you, and then it will empower someone else.
Tell your story - Tell it to someone who can be positive and constructive.
Tell your story - Tell it because you reclaim your voice, your mojo.
Tell your story - Tell it because it kills the shame and guilt.
Tell your story - Tell it on paper, tell it on voice notes, tell it on your phone.
Tell your story - Tell it so that you no longer feel alone in the world.
Tell your story - Tell it and see who remains in your corner.
Tell your story - It triggers courage and freedom.
Tell your story - inspire yourself
Tell your story - it frees you up to live a full life, to stop "toting" around issues that bleed into your life and seep into your relationships at work and at home
Tell your story - because you deserve to live a full, happy life
Peace
Brene Brown
Tell your story - Tell it because it gives you back your power.
Tell your story - Tell it because you are never alone.
Tell your story - Tell it in a way that empowers you, and then it will empower someone else.
Tell your story - Tell it to someone who can be positive and constructive.
Tell your story - Tell it because you reclaim your voice, your mojo.
Tell your story - Tell it because it kills the shame and guilt.
Tell your story - Tell it on paper, tell it on voice notes, tell it on your phone.
Tell your story - Tell it so that you no longer feel alone in the world.
Tell your story - Tell it and see who remains in your corner.
Tell your story - It triggers courage and freedom.
Tell your story - inspire yourself
Tell your story - it frees you up to live a full life, to stop "toting" around issues that bleed into your life and seep into your relationships at work and at home
Tell your story - because you deserve to live a full, happy life
Peace
August 28, 2015
Own it, Own Up. Own Your Stuff
Your actions reflect what you want for yourself and how much you love and value yourself. Your actions reflect how you see yourself, what you feel you deserve.
Tyrese G
Own your stuff!Own it! – Own the fact that you are at this stage of your life where if you haven’t made any decisions and choices you must now do so- because making no decision is also a decision and you will end up living someone else’s life or living by default.
Own up if you don’t have a vision for yourself and your life, a vision is something larger and bigger than what you can see now, it involves imagination and dreaming. How do you want your life to look? What type of life do you want? having a vision makes you focusedIt makes you determinedIt makes you persistentBecause challenges and hearing no is par for the course, it will not stop you for achieving the vision.If you have no vision, you will just be going along following blowing with the breeze and get frustrated.
Own the fact that you were born with the ability to create and it is your responsibility to tap into that power you were given to create the life you want and you deserve.
Own up to the realization that you alone are responsible for your life, no one else, as much as you would like to think it is someone else’s fault you are where you are you now know that you have the ability to make a choice to change that and be courageous enough to make that choice.You cannot outsource this responsibilityYou cannot give it away and expect to live a full life, your best lifeIf you don’t believe in yourself then who’s going to?If you don’t dream for yourself then who’s going to?
Own upOwn up to the fact that you may be scared and afraid to move and because of that you did nothing.
Own it, that you have the power to change that, that you can be scared but still make a move towards the vision towards the dream, to make a change in your life for the better.This is the time, this is the opportunity to get a vision for yourself and your lifeTo make a plan to achieve the visionTo have unwavering faith. to don’t let any doubt fool youOwn it, Own up!To admit that even though you are scared that your knees are knocking that you will feel the fear and do it anywayOwn it – Own your gifts and talents, do not ever dismiss them, they were given to you for a reasonEmbrace them. embrace the gifts you possess so that you can use them in achieving the vision and your goals and dreams that you have set for yourself. Honor yourself by honouring these gifts/ honor your mind choose what you feed it, choose who you spend time withHonor your body – what are you putting into it eventually what’s inside of you will show up on the outside.
Own up – that you have sometimes lost focus and by doing this started comparing yourself to others, Comparison and comparing yourself, takes time away for you focusing on your own goals and vision! What others think of you is none of your business.Own up. Own itPeace
Own your stuff!Own it! – Own the fact that you are at this stage of your life where if you haven’t made any decisions and choices you must now do so- because making no decision is also a decision and you will end up living someone else’s life or living by default.
Own up if you don’t have a vision for yourself and your life, a vision is something larger and bigger than what you can see now, it involves imagination and dreaming. How do you want your life to look? What type of life do you want? having a vision makes you focusedIt makes you determinedIt makes you persistentBecause challenges and hearing no is par for the course, it will not stop you for achieving the vision.If you have no vision, you will just be going along following blowing with the breeze and get frustrated.
Own the fact that you were born with the ability to create and it is your responsibility to tap into that power you were given to create the life you want and you deserve.
Own up to the realization that you alone are responsible for your life, no one else, as much as you would like to think it is someone else’s fault you are where you are you now know that you have the ability to make a choice to change that and be courageous enough to make that choice.You cannot outsource this responsibilityYou cannot give it away and expect to live a full life, your best lifeIf you don’t believe in yourself then who’s going to?If you don’t dream for yourself then who’s going to?
Own upOwn up to the fact that you may be scared and afraid to move and because of that you did nothing.
Own it, that you have the power to change that, that you can be scared but still make a move towards the vision towards the dream, to make a change in your life for the better.This is the time, this is the opportunity to get a vision for yourself and your lifeTo make a plan to achieve the visionTo have unwavering faith. to don’t let any doubt fool youOwn it, Own up!To admit that even though you are scared that your knees are knocking that you will feel the fear and do it anywayOwn it – Own your gifts and talents, do not ever dismiss them, they were given to you for a reasonEmbrace them. embrace the gifts you possess so that you can use them in achieving the vision and your goals and dreams that you have set for yourself. Honor yourself by honouring these gifts/ honor your mind choose what you feed it, choose who you spend time withHonor your body – what are you putting into it eventually what’s inside of you will show up on the outside.
Own up – that you have sometimes lost focus and by doing this started comparing yourself to others, Comparison and comparing yourself, takes time away for you focusing on your own goals and vision! What others think of you is none of your business.Own up. Own itPeace
August 27, 2015
It Pours Out of You
"Every gift I give is always a gift to myself. I never lose! I gain, and so does the recipient of my gift, especially if he or she learns from me to give again. "Who understands what giving means must laugh at the idea of sacrifice"
(6:2). A Course In Miracles
It Pours Out of You
Affirmation: We are all family and the planet is our home
Journal Entry 160 : I now drive myself to and from work every day; it’s a twenty minute drive with no “jam.” I’ve noticed as soon as I start packing up to get ready to leave the car is surrounded by women looking for a ride! A few times I have been in the car with them who speak not a lick of English. Those rides show me that we can communicate without words! Then there are the story tellers who sit in the car and talk and talk and I listen and listen! I’ve started looking forward to being a taxi driver! Yesterday one of the ladies said to me “Madam, your journey here is authentic and unique, compare it to anyone you must not, you are prepared for your journey, do you know that we all are? What you people do is want to show up with everything ready down to the last detail but that is not what is required for life.” Being a taxi driver has its benefits!
Excerpt from Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?
Peace!
It Pours Out of You
Affirmation: We are all family and the planet is our home
Journal Entry 160 : I now drive myself to and from work every day; it’s a twenty minute drive with no “jam.” I’ve noticed as soon as I start packing up to get ready to leave the car is surrounded by women looking for a ride! A few times I have been in the car with them who speak not a lick of English. Those rides show me that we can communicate without words! Then there are the story tellers who sit in the car and talk and talk and I listen and listen! I’ve started looking forward to being a taxi driver! Yesterday one of the ladies said to me “Madam, your journey here is authentic and unique, compare it to anyone you must not, you are prepared for your journey, do you know that we all are? What you people do is want to show up with everything ready down to the last detail but that is not what is required for life.” Being a taxi driver has its benefits!
Excerpt from Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?
Peace!
August 26, 2015
It is your moral duty to be happy
It is your moral duty to be happy: however you cannot exercise this duty by clutching unrealistic beliefs, struggling with unworkable assumptions, juggling painful images, jumping to false conclusions, running with impulsive decisions or hasty judgements
Sufi Hazarat Inayat Khan
Do not outsource your happiness, happiness is your own responsibility. Too often we place this job on someone else's shoulders. We expect our happiness to come as a result of a relationship or getting something rather than as a premise upon which to build one. Walk with your own happiness! Know what makes you happy and own that, do that, exercise that, choose that!
If we truly wanted to be happy, we would not be so eager to sacrifice happiness for nonsense, jealousy, possessiveness, anger, fear or any other function of the ego.
When you find yourself in a situation where you realize that you are tolerating "nonsense", what do you do? We cannot realize true happiness when we entertain nonsense in our hearts and in our minds. This is a recipe for you to keep searching, tolerating, ignoring things in the quest for the very thing you are searching for. Happiness is really a choice, you must make the choice to be happy, and walk with it everywhere you go!I am not saying you will be or ought to be walking around with a big grin on your face singling kumbaya everyday, but what will happen when you choose to not outsource your happiness is that you will know that waiting on other people, external circumstances, certain specific situations cannot be your only source of happiness as these things change, and of course you have absolutely no control over them, you have no control over it. You take responsibility for your own life!Pull out the Happiness Tool BoxPeace!
Do not outsource your happiness, happiness is your own responsibility. Too often we place this job on someone else's shoulders. We expect our happiness to come as a result of a relationship or getting something rather than as a premise upon which to build one. Walk with your own happiness! Know what makes you happy and own that, do that, exercise that, choose that!
If we truly wanted to be happy, we would not be so eager to sacrifice happiness for nonsense, jealousy, possessiveness, anger, fear or any other function of the ego.
When you find yourself in a situation where you realize that you are tolerating "nonsense", what do you do? We cannot realize true happiness when we entertain nonsense in our hearts and in our minds. This is a recipe for you to keep searching, tolerating, ignoring things in the quest for the very thing you are searching for. Happiness is really a choice, you must make the choice to be happy, and walk with it everywhere you go!I am not saying you will be or ought to be walking around with a big grin on your face singling kumbaya everyday, but what will happen when you choose to not outsource your happiness is that you will know that waiting on other people, external circumstances, certain specific situations cannot be your only source of happiness as these things change, and of course you have absolutely no control over them, you have no control over it. You take responsibility for your own life!Pull out the Happiness Tool BoxPeace!
August 25, 2015
Live Good
Get a mission statement for your Life. Know where you want to go. Know why you want to go there. Then create the plan to get there. My mission: Live good and spread Love. What's the mission statement for your Life?
Robin Riley David
Create your own life - trust me you have that power
Create your own life - so what does that really mean? It means to have a vision of the life you want to live and take the steps necessary for making it happen. Added to that is the person you will inevitably become along the journey. As, for sure, sometimes there will be people and even family who are not on board with the person which you are becoming
Create your own life - it means having faith and believing in yourself- and I mean unwavering faith- this is a challenge for me sometimes when I don't see how things are turning out in a way I envisioned. 99% of the time it turns out even better than you would ever even imagine
Create your own life - learn to say no to the things that diminish and devalue and dishonor you - don't feel bad when you say no either!
Create your own life - stop making excuses, take responsibility for your actions and stop blaming!
Create your own life - Have fun, rest, play, love
Peace
Create your own life - trust me you have that power
Create your own life - so what does that really mean? It means to have a vision of the life you want to live and take the steps necessary for making it happen. Added to that is the person you will inevitably become along the journey. As, for sure, sometimes there will be people and even family who are not on board with the person which you are becoming
Create your own life - it means having faith and believing in yourself- and I mean unwavering faith- this is a challenge for me sometimes when I don't see how things are turning out in a way I envisioned. 99% of the time it turns out even better than you would ever even imagine
Create your own life - learn to say no to the things that diminish and devalue and dishonor you - don't feel bad when you say no either!
Create your own life - stop making excuses, take responsibility for your actions and stop blaming!
Create your own life - Have fun, rest, play, love
Peace
August 24, 2015
Do not go along, to get along
Live from the space of authenticity, not pretense. Do not go along, to get along. Flex your independence. Autonomy is a good thing. Maxie McCoy
At a meeting on Saturday one of the participants said to me "why don't you push yourself up and speak more, you have so much more to offer" I listened to him go on and on about how I am devaluing myself by not speaking out.
I listened to him and responded "I don't have anything to prove to anyone and that is not why I am here, this is not my show"
"So why are you here?"
It seems to be the question that quite a few people ask me that said question.
A Course of Miracles says, the ego establishes relationships only to get somethingTo the ego, the mind is private, and only the body can be sharedAnd so, on this journey I have embraced the concept that the relationships that I establish to "get something" are based on my ego and the ones which have been established to share, learn, grow, have fun are the ones which really contribute to my joy and happiness. Hoarding information and that feeling of superiority is a sign of fear, of the ego screaming to you to hold on to what you have before someone takes it away and have an advantage over you! Life becomes less stressful when you know in your heart that you are doing your best, that you have nothing to prove to anyone and what is yours is yours no matter what!
Peace!
At a meeting on Saturday one of the participants said to me "why don't you push yourself up and speak more, you have so much more to offer" I listened to him go on and on about how I am devaluing myself by not speaking out.
I listened to him and responded "I don't have anything to prove to anyone and that is not why I am here, this is not my show"
"So why are you here?"
It seems to be the question that quite a few people ask me that said question.
A Course of Miracles says, the ego establishes relationships only to get somethingTo the ego, the mind is private, and only the body can be sharedAnd so, on this journey I have embraced the concept that the relationships that I establish to "get something" are based on my ego and the ones which have been established to share, learn, grow, have fun are the ones which really contribute to my joy and happiness. Hoarding information and that feeling of superiority is a sign of fear, of the ego screaming to you to hold on to what you have before someone takes it away and have an advantage over you! Life becomes less stressful when you know in your heart that you are doing your best, that you have nothing to prove to anyone and what is yours is yours no matter what!
Peace!
August 22, 2015
I am the decisive element
I have come to the frightening conclusion that I am the decisive element. It is my personal approach that creates the climate. It is my daily mood that makes the weather. I possess tremendous power to make life miserable or joyous. I can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration, I can humiliate or humor, hurt or heal. In all situations, it is my response that decides whether a crisis is escalated or de-escalated, and a person is humanized or de-humanized. If we treat people as they are, we make them worse. If we treat people as they ought to be, we help them become what they are capable of becoming.
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe Quotes
A divine friend of mine sent me this quote and it resonated with me over the past few days more than ever. I have been working on a project over the past couple of weeks that has been quite different to my norm. Just yesterday I kept asking, "hey, what is the lesson here?" I asked it over and over again as the challenges mount and the situation looked different to what I had imagined, and then I thought of this quote, as I read it this morning I thought that this is part of the answer! I am indeed the decisive element! A Course of Miracles says that somehow we have this belief that thinking and knowing that we are powerful beyond measure is arrogant but in fact it is arrogant to think that we are not because we have been given the power of choice and dominion to use any way we see fit, bestowed on no other living creature on the planet but us humans. It is me to decide how to respond to a situation and dramatic decisions does not have to mean high drama!So here I go today, me, oh powerful being bringing the sunshine, the joy and the love! And yes, that can scare the pants off of me but hey, feel the fear and do it anyway! Thank you Divine G!Peace
Today I am at the San Juan Public Library sharing lessons on the journey!
A divine friend of mine sent me this quote and it resonated with me over the past few days more than ever. I have been working on a project over the past couple of weeks that has been quite different to my norm. Just yesterday I kept asking, "hey, what is the lesson here?" I asked it over and over again as the challenges mount and the situation looked different to what I had imagined, and then I thought of this quote, as I read it this morning I thought that this is part of the answer! I am indeed the decisive element! A Course of Miracles says that somehow we have this belief that thinking and knowing that we are powerful beyond measure is arrogant but in fact it is arrogant to think that we are not because we have been given the power of choice and dominion to use any way we see fit, bestowed on no other living creature on the planet but us humans. It is me to decide how to respond to a situation and dramatic decisions does not have to mean high drama!So here I go today, me, oh powerful being bringing the sunshine, the joy and the love! And yes, that can scare the pants off of me but hey, feel the fear and do it anyway! Thank you Divine G!Peace
Today I am at the San Juan Public Library sharing lessons on the journey!
August 21, 2015
Trusting the Light
To trust the light you need to be honest with yourself and with others, and you need to let others be honest with you. That’s what the spiritual path is really about—it’s the interior devotion to self-knowledge. " You commit to becoming fully honest; to doing what's right for the people you live with and for your community; and to doing what's right for your body. So when your body says, “Don’t eat this,” you stop. If you tell your body you're going take it out for a walk, you do it. Because if you can't be honest with your body, you’re not going to be honest with anybody else. Caroline Myss
A woman at the mall yesterday asked me if I was religious and believed in God! I took a few seconds to respond because it is not the first time I have been asked that question! So after we got to talking and I mentioned to her how I feel about the entire thing, I remembered that someone even told me earlier this month that they realized that I have now chosen the Spiritual Path so it seems that I am confusing the living daylights out of people, they cannot figure out what I am doing, which makes me chuckle really.
Caroline Myss's work to me is seminal, I absolutely love how she breaks down the journey and one of my favorite descriptions of the spiritual path is " it's the interior devotion to self-knowledge" and trust me when you are devoted to self-knowledge you have no time nor desire to run after, fret or worry about arbitrary matters that do not relate to you and being your absolute happy highest self, whatever they are, this journey requires constant learning and unlearning, it requires reflection, honesty, authenticity, discipline and release of ego, it confuses people ( as you can tell) and you have to be OK with that.
For me, one of the most disappointing things is not honoring myself, and letting myself down. As a function of the constant journey within, people do not have the power anymore to offend nor disappoint me as much as before as you are focused on creating the life that you desire. It is a fascinating journey some times one has to go alone!So, here it is people, I admit, the journey to unconditional self love is an interior one, and that is all!
PeaceAkosua
A woman at the mall yesterday asked me if I was religious and believed in God! I took a few seconds to respond because it is not the first time I have been asked that question! So after we got to talking and I mentioned to her how I feel about the entire thing, I remembered that someone even told me earlier this month that they realized that I have now chosen the Spiritual Path so it seems that I am confusing the living daylights out of people, they cannot figure out what I am doing, which makes me chuckle really.
Caroline Myss's work to me is seminal, I absolutely love how she breaks down the journey and one of my favorite descriptions of the spiritual path is " it's the interior devotion to self-knowledge" and trust me when you are devoted to self-knowledge you have no time nor desire to run after, fret or worry about arbitrary matters that do not relate to you and being your absolute happy highest self, whatever they are, this journey requires constant learning and unlearning, it requires reflection, honesty, authenticity, discipline and release of ego, it confuses people ( as you can tell) and you have to be OK with that.
For me, one of the most disappointing things is not honoring myself, and letting myself down. As a function of the constant journey within, people do not have the power anymore to offend nor disappoint me as much as before as you are focused on creating the life that you desire. It is a fascinating journey some times one has to go alone!So, here it is people, I admit, the journey to unconditional self love is an interior one, and that is all!
PeaceAkosua
