Akosua Dardaine Edwards's Blog, page 196
August 20, 2015
Rest is a four letter word
Being busy is an addiction and it can be as challenging to stop as other addictions such as alcohol, shopping, or working because it is a way to escape or numb yourself. But, unlike other addictions, Western society puts a high value on being busy. We are conditioned to believe that being busy equates to being good, worthy, and successful. Dr Christianne Northrup
I am never busy I am sometimes occupied. One of my teachers on the journey shared this with me, at the time I rolled my eyes and said " you are strange" but what she was telling me, after breaking it down was a couple of things, one, do not estimate your self worth by how many things you have to DO! two, do not use busy as a reason or even an excuse to neglect the important things in life such as your friends and family and most importantly yourself (health and rest) and three question what your folks told you growing up that if you were not "busy" doing something you are a lazy sloth!
The main cure for my arm - rest! And I suspected that from the off but somehow I needed validation! No boxing, no skipping, no cutting up veggies, just rest the thing!
Rest is productive
I can still type though!
Peace!
I am never busy I am sometimes occupied. One of my teachers on the journey shared this with me, at the time I rolled my eyes and said " you are strange" but what she was telling me, after breaking it down was a couple of things, one, do not estimate your self worth by how many things you have to DO! two, do not use busy as a reason or even an excuse to neglect the important things in life such as your friends and family and most importantly yourself (health and rest) and three question what your folks told you growing up that if you were not "busy" doing something you are a lazy sloth!
The main cure for my arm - rest! And I suspected that from the off but somehow I needed validation! No boxing, no skipping, no cutting up veggies, just rest the thing!
Rest is productive
I can still type though!
Peace!
August 19, 2015
The universe has a way better imagination than you do.
The universe has a way better imagination than you do.
My life has no resemblance to what I thought it was going to be — and I’m impressed with where failure, and courage, and the mystery have brought me. More colourful. More expanded. Way deeper. Way better than I imagined . Danielle La Porte
Carolyn Myss, one of my favourite teachers broke it down for me in a way that keeps me so grounded,she said, not because you believe you are a "good" person that will make you exempt from the challenges of life, things happen, deal with it, that is just life! You are not so unique, it happens to everyone and please don't feel that the stuff/challenges are only happening to you regardless of what you see out there! Deal with it, learn from it and keep stepping! The worst question you can ask is "why me?"
What happens when we run and hide is that we hide deeper and deeper instead of going into the light. When we hide from the truth and we run to the other side what happens is that we start running away from ourselves, That leads to certain choices which have consequences, what is supposed to be beautiful becomes ugly because of these choices.
You take you where ever you go!Show up, as yourself, face it, it is life, and we are all here in it!Peace
My life has no resemblance to what I thought it was going to be — and I’m impressed with where failure, and courage, and the mystery have brought me. More colourful. More expanded. Way deeper. Way better than I imagined . Danielle La Porte
Carolyn Myss, one of my favourite teachers broke it down for me in a way that keeps me so grounded,she said, not because you believe you are a "good" person that will make you exempt from the challenges of life, things happen, deal with it, that is just life! You are not so unique, it happens to everyone and please don't feel that the stuff/challenges are only happening to you regardless of what you see out there! Deal with it, learn from it and keep stepping! The worst question you can ask is "why me?"
What happens when we run and hide is that we hide deeper and deeper instead of going into the light. When we hide from the truth and we run to the other side what happens is that we start running away from ourselves, That leads to certain choices which have consequences, what is supposed to be beautiful becomes ugly because of these choices.
You take you where ever you go!Show up, as yourself, face it, it is life, and we are all here in it!Peace
August 18, 2015
And real is all good....
There is a crack, a crack in everything / That’s how the light gets in.”
–Leonard Cohen
Show up as yourself, every.single.time! I learn't that on my travels and apparently this week is the week of reminders of some of these lessons!
Judging other people is an absolute waste of time, yea, I said it! It is the ego on show. We judge most times because we feel we are better or superior, or we are convinced that "they should know better", "they need a talking to", "how could they?" and the list goes on.
And many times it makes us feel better about ourselves because we, are better. of course! We would not dare do what they are doing, or be so stupid or reckless or mad, right?
As soon as something triggers us, we start a response, either we are inclined to give advice usually hoping to be helpful, though the shadow of that is sometimes that we are distancing themselves by trying to remain “above” the problem.We may distance ourselves as we are scared that simply by being around someone else who is walking through a life challenge, we, too, will “catch” that challenge, like a virus. Others are disappointed; perhaps secretly hoping that someone else had it all figured out. No more pedestal. And, sadly, there are others who will feel a delighted glee at someone else’s admission of struggle.The response of others when you show them the places where it isn’t all perfect will tell you a lot about who they are and what they fear.Your response of judging others when they show up as themselves will also show the same.
So, showing up, cracks and all, takes courage, and that is worth something!To me, its real!And real is all good!
Peace!
Show up as yourself, every.single.time! I learn't that on my travels and apparently this week is the week of reminders of some of these lessons!
Judging other people is an absolute waste of time, yea, I said it! It is the ego on show. We judge most times because we feel we are better or superior, or we are convinced that "they should know better", "they need a talking to", "how could they?" and the list goes on.
And many times it makes us feel better about ourselves because we, are better. of course! We would not dare do what they are doing, or be so stupid or reckless or mad, right?
As soon as something triggers us, we start a response, either we are inclined to give advice usually hoping to be helpful, though the shadow of that is sometimes that we are distancing themselves by trying to remain “above” the problem.We may distance ourselves as we are scared that simply by being around someone else who is walking through a life challenge, we, too, will “catch” that challenge, like a virus. Others are disappointed; perhaps secretly hoping that someone else had it all figured out. No more pedestal. And, sadly, there are others who will feel a delighted glee at someone else’s admission of struggle.The response of others when you show them the places where it isn’t all perfect will tell you a lot about who they are and what they fear.Your response of judging others when they show up as themselves will also show the same.
So, showing up, cracks and all, takes courage, and that is worth something!To me, its real!And real is all good!
Peace!
August 17, 2015
Honor your process with Patience
The greatest challenge to the development of patience is being able to wait for the tangible evidence that your efforts are paying off. We have a fixed idea of what we want and what it will look like when it shows up. We hold that idea so firmly that often we are unable to detect the very thing we want has actually arrived
Iyana Vanzant
Patience requires faith and faith requires trust. Without patience, we worry, we complain, and sometimes we give up.
Growing up my mother told me on so many occasions, that I had no patience. I always wanted what I wanted and wanted it right away, I wanted it now, and if I didn't get it, all hell would break loose. As I began growing up I realized quickly that not everyone responded the way my mother did so I figured I had better give this patience thing a further look. And that I have been doing and I must say that it has changed my outlook on things a whole lot, there is a lot less stress in my life. The ultimate test is standing in a line on a Friday evening at the bank when the pensioners come to collect their money! I can now smile and them and have a little chit chat
But I have learnt that patience is also about knowing that you have done your best, and that what will be in the test you already know! It's how you wait
And I needed a reminder these last couple of weeks, a reminder in patience, a reminder in trust and faith because I felt it coming on strong, wanting what I want right now! I want my arm to heal right now, I want to achieve the goals that I have been working towards right now, right now right now right now has been the new mantra just bringing about additional stress! And this is my lesson which I want to share
Patience is knowing that your efforts are paying off even though there is no tangible evidence right now to support that belief - this is where the faith and trust comes in
Patience is not only about waiting
Patience is a process of truth
Patience is knowing that the Universe has a plan that will manifest itself when it is supposed to and no amount of fussing will change that
Peace
Patience requires faith and faith requires trust. Without patience, we worry, we complain, and sometimes we give up.
Growing up my mother told me on so many occasions, that I had no patience. I always wanted what I wanted and wanted it right away, I wanted it now, and if I didn't get it, all hell would break loose. As I began growing up I realized quickly that not everyone responded the way my mother did so I figured I had better give this patience thing a further look. And that I have been doing and I must say that it has changed my outlook on things a whole lot, there is a lot less stress in my life. The ultimate test is standing in a line on a Friday evening at the bank when the pensioners come to collect their money! I can now smile and them and have a little chit chat
But I have learnt that patience is also about knowing that you have done your best, and that what will be in the test you already know! It's how you wait
And I needed a reminder these last couple of weeks, a reminder in patience, a reminder in trust and faith because I felt it coming on strong, wanting what I want right now! I want my arm to heal right now, I want to achieve the goals that I have been working towards right now, right now right now right now has been the new mantra just bringing about additional stress! And this is my lesson which I want to share
Patience is knowing that your efforts are paying off even though there is no tangible evidence right now to support that belief - this is where the faith and trust comes in
Patience is not only about waiting
Patience is a process of truth
Patience is knowing that the Universe has a plan that will manifest itself when it is supposed to and no amount of fussing will change that
Peace
August 15, 2015
Mirrors can be fun
Do you want it more than you are afraid of it? Do you want it more than you are afraid
of failing? Do you want it more than you are afraid of not doing it "right"? Do you want
it more than you are afraid of what people will think of you? Do you want it more?
Want it more than anything else. Then go get it.
Aren't mirrors fun? My friend asked me that today. Not the traditional mirror where we see a reflection of ourselves, the ones where you meet someone and they reflect back to you some of the behaviors and attitudes that you have inside of you, what's frightening to most of us is that when we see a behavior we recognize it immediately as someone else's fault and not something that we have to work on. And then the conversation starts about what they can do differently or what they are doing that they should not be doing yada yada yada.
Pay attention to the people in your life, the close ones especially that you chose to have around, they are reflecting to you something. And that is not to say its something bad, it can be something pretty darn awesome too!
Watch in the mirror, see what's there leave out the criticism , it really can be fun!
Peace!
of failing? Do you want it more than you are afraid of not doing it "right"? Do you want
it more than you are afraid of what people will think of you? Do you want it more?
Want it more than anything else. Then go get it.
Aren't mirrors fun? My friend asked me that today. Not the traditional mirror where we see a reflection of ourselves, the ones where you meet someone and they reflect back to you some of the behaviors and attitudes that you have inside of you, what's frightening to most of us is that when we see a behavior we recognize it immediately as someone else's fault and not something that we have to work on. And then the conversation starts about what they can do differently or what they are doing that they should not be doing yada yada yada.
Pay attention to the people in your life, the close ones especially that you chose to have around, they are reflecting to you something. And that is not to say its something bad, it can be something pretty darn awesome too!
Watch in the mirror, see what's there leave out the criticism , it really can be fun!
Peace!
August 14, 2015
Life requires release
Life requires release. You are not here to collect people and things. You are here to experience and remember.
Stacy Herera
Do you remember the t-shirt you bought on your last holiday? Or maybe it was a key ring, some sort of memorabilia? What do you remember most about the holiday? What you bought and collected or how you felt? We get caught up in collecting things on the journey, and many times it is unconscious, other times it is to show other people where we have been or to feel good about ourselves. The memories and feelings you get are priceless, and shape how we show up in our lives as we move along how we treat our fellow brothers and sisters.Same with people we meet, we meet someone on the journey and sometimes we want to ensure that they remain a part of our lives forever, we want a piece of them. Sometimes they are passing through on your journey as well, and forcing it is an absolute waste of time, effort and good sense! It's like the sun rising, you cannot collect it and keep it for your own pleasure! Trust me, I have learnt this the hard way so I am talking from experience - no not trying to catch the sun, the people part!So, enjoy the moment, feel it, feel it, that thing you don't want to feel, feel it and be free, set yourself free.Each moment adds up to a lifetime and before you know it, you are filled with good memories and great experiences rather than fighting to either clean the house with all the clutter you accumulated or wishing hoping and pining for some of the people you met along the way who have served their good purpose in your life. In the case of the people, if they are meant to be a part of your life it will happen, without you having to force it, pretend, and feel bad!
We each have our own journey. Our paths may cross for a moment. However, they might not be destined to be traveled together for a lifetime. Let people follow their own path. Release them with grace. Send them on their way with a grateful heart. You were together to teach and to learn. Thank them, bless them and let them go with Love.
Peace!
Do you remember the t-shirt you bought on your last holiday? Or maybe it was a key ring, some sort of memorabilia? What do you remember most about the holiday? What you bought and collected or how you felt? We get caught up in collecting things on the journey, and many times it is unconscious, other times it is to show other people where we have been or to feel good about ourselves. The memories and feelings you get are priceless, and shape how we show up in our lives as we move along how we treat our fellow brothers and sisters.Same with people we meet, we meet someone on the journey and sometimes we want to ensure that they remain a part of our lives forever, we want a piece of them. Sometimes they are passing through on your journey as well, and forcing it is an absolute waste of time, effort and good sense! It's like the sun rising, you cannot collect it and keep it for your own pleasure! Trust me, I have learnt this the hard way so I am talking from experience - no not trying to catch the sun, the people part!So, enjoy the moment, feel it, feel it, that thing you don't want to feel, feel it and be free, set yourself free.Each moment adds up to a lifetime and before you know it, you are filled with good memories and great experiences rather than fighting to either clean the house with all the clutter you accumulated or wishing hoping and pining for some of the people you met along the way who have served their good purpose in your life. In the case of the people, if they are meant to be a part of your life it will happen, without you having to force it, pretend, and feel bad!
We each have our own journey. Our paths may cross for a moment. However, they might not be destined to be traveled together for a lifetime. Let people follow their own path. Release them with grace. Send them on their way with a grateful heart. You were together to teach and to learn. Thank them, bless them and let them go with Love.
Peace!
August 13, 2015
What's in your happy toolbox?
I have a Happy toolbox. It is filled with things that I can go to at a moments notice to get me back to my Happy place. Know what makes you Happy. Know what can get the sunshine back in your day. When the storm clouds of Life come you don't have to sit there and get wet. Run to your toolbox! Mine is covered in glittery sparkles and is filled with music I feel in my soul, a barefoot walk outside and Rocky Road ice cream. What's in yours?
Robin Riley David
Changing my thoughts are simple and easy - this is an affirmation I use on a daily basis. Why? to remind and programme myself to remember that they are my thoughts and some of them are not always for my highest good and need to be entertained. So when I see the crappy ones appear I say hey there, I know you would like to come in but sorry, walk on by! Some of them I just yell stop!
And then I started reading some of Robin Riley's work and discovered her Happy toolbox theory. So what's in mine? David Rudder's ultimate playlist, I put that baby on and sing as loudly as possible, 3Canal, George Benson, Jill Scott and Mary J Blige gets a play as well. Arsenal football club, the Invincible season highlights, Thierry Henry and the team in full flight! Rivaldo's hatrick against Valencia is also in the box.
A list of books that is just too long to write out and a drive to the water!
What would you put in yours?
Peace
Changing my thoughts are simple and easy - this is an affirmation I use on a daily basis. Why? to remind and programme myself to remember that they are my thoughts and some of them are not always for my highest good and need to be entertained. So when I see the crappy ones appear I say hey there, I know you would like to come in but sorry, walk on by! Some of them I just yell stop!
And then I started reading some of Robin Riley's work and discovered her Happy toolbox theory. So what's in mine? David Rudder's ultimate playlist, I put that baby on and sing as loudly as possible, 3Canal, George Benson, Jill Scott and Mary J Blige gets a play as well. Arsenal football club, the Invincible season highlights, Thierry Henry and the team in full flight! Rivaldo's hatrick against Valencia is also in the box.
A list of books that is just too long to write out and a drive to the water!
What would you put in yours?
Peace
August 12, 2015
Create what you can't find
Create what you cannot find. If you really can’t find anything out there that speaks to the issue of your concern or that is doing what you want to see get done, create it. Stop waiting for some other group to form or some other person to stand up. Form a group or organization of your own. Call a meeting. Hold a rally. Raise your flag and see if anyone salutes
. Neale Donald Walsh
I have never been a big talker, now I have started doing it for a living- go figure! I prefer to act, I prefer to do something first and then talk about it after. The downside to not talking however is the limited expression of my feelings to the people around me, but I must say I have been getting much better at it.
Having said that, I am not one of the view to talk a situation to death, moan and complain about it forever thine kingdom come! Complaining is so easy, as Bob Marley says " you're saying prayers to the devil" it gives us a feeling as if we are doing something, news flash, you are just talking about it! If something is getting that much on your nerves what are you doing about it apart from moaning or sitting down writing posts on Facebook and Twitter?
Excuses are liars and fears are thieves and constant complaining is giving up responsibility for changing the situation.
Do something, anything, start where you are with what you have and learn as you go.
It can be something as simple as litter in your area, if that is your peeve, you stop littering. Hey that's a start! Rather than bemoan how many plastic bottles are in the drain while you pelt yours out of the car window.
Neale Donald Walsh says that we are all leaders. "It is just a question of what form our leadership takes."
Is the person who sits in the back of the room quietly stuffing envelopes and getting out mailings and handing out flyers and working the telephones and the social media and contributing hours of time and energy any less of a leader than the person in the front of the room waving his arms and issuing a call to action? No. So we are all leaders, and some of us do different things and excel in different areas than others.
BUT….we must at least be willing to stand up and be counted when the tally is taken. We must at least be willing to make ourselves known so that those who are in the front of the room can have a sense of how much support there is in the space for what is being proposed. And we must at least be willing to speak our mind if speaking our mind is what breaks the ice and gets the energy moving around a particular idea.
We must be willing to be uncomfortable, for at least a little while, if we want to help create a life that is comfortable for all of us for a long while.
Are you willing to do that? Or is complaining and moaning easier?
Peace!
I have never been a big talker, now I have started doing it for a living- go figure! I prefer to act, I prefer to do something first and then talk about it after. The downside to not talking however is the limited expression of my feelings to the people around me, but I must say I have been getting much better at it.
Having said that, I am not one of the view to talk a situation to death, moan and complain about it forever thine kingdom come! Complaining is so easy, as Bob Marley says " you're saying prayers to the devil" it gives us a feeling as if we are doing something, news flash, you are just talking about it! If something is getting that much on your nerves what are you doing about it apart from moaning or sitting down writing posts on Facebook and Twitter?
Excuses are liars and fears are thieves and constant complaining is giving up responsibility for changing the situation.
Do something, anything, start where you are with what you have and learn as you go.
It can be something as simple as litter in your area, if that is your peeve, you stop littering. Hey that's a start! Rather than bemoan how many plastic bottles are in the drain while you pelt yours out of the car window.
Neale Donald Walsh says that we are all leaders. "It is just a question of what form our leadership takes."
Is the person who sits in the back of the room quietly stuffing envelopes and getting out mailings and handing out flyers and working the telephones and the social media and contributing hours of time and energy any less of a leader than the person in the front of the room waving his arms and issuing a call to action? No. So we are all leaders, and some of us do different things and excel in different areas than others.
BUT….we must at least be willing to stand up and be counted when the tally is taken. We must at least be willing to make ourselves known so that those who are in the front of the room can have a sense of how much support there is in the space for what is being proposed. And we must at least be willing to speak our mind if speaking our mind is what breaks the ice and gets the energy moving around a particular idea.
We must be willing to be uncomfortable, for at least a little while, if we want to help create a life that is comfortable for all of us for a long while.
Are you willing to do that? Or is complaining and moaning easier?
Peace!
August 11, 2015
Right Now
So what do you choose to Be right now? Happy?
Content? Safe? Peace? Forgiving? Compassionate?
Love? Go ahead, choose. As many as you wish! NDW
Live right now. Right this second. Don't wait to be passionate until you have a job you're passionate about. Don't wait to marry the person you love to see big, bountiful love in the eyes of the postal worker handing over your statements. Don't wait for the perfect home to find grounding in the present. Don't wait for future dreams to be grateful for this day. Because some where to someone, you're living it. You're living the dream right now. Wake up and see it.You won't be different when. You won't be better when. It's right now. It's all of today.Peace
Content? Safe? Peace? Forgiving? Compassionate?
Love? Go ahead, choose. As many as you wish! NDW
Live right now. Right this second. Don't wait to be passionate until you have a job you're passionate about. Don't wait to marry the person you love to see big, bountiful love in the eyes of the postal worker handing over your statements. Don't wait for the perfect home to find grounding in the present. Don't wait for future dreams to be grateful for this day. Because some where to someone, you're living it. You're living the dream right now. Wake up and see it.You won't be different when. You won't be better when. It's right now. It's all of today.Peace
August 10, 2015
Release the subconscious crap
Call it whatever you want but more importantly: explore it. understand it. release it...the subconscious crap you're holding on to that's showing up as physical pain.
What you think matters. It's energy. Thoughts and beliefs, while not seen, are pumped with energy. So too are our bodies. And our pain. It's all cosmically connected. From the inside out. Maxie McCoy
Your beliefs shape you and your thinking (although sometimes it is good to question some of those beliefs, anyway I digress) So I believe that life always speaks to me and when I am not listening it does things to get my attention, I believe that my intuition speaks to me in stillness and pain is a wake up call to pay attention inward now.
So I needed to pay attention apparently,
Going along my usual Sunday business, I run on a Sunday morning, I decided to go to the beach and run. The scene was straight out of a movie, no one on the beach, the sun coming up, and I am happy. And then I fell, and the pain was intense! No one around I was on the ground thinking, what is this one about?? I managed to pull myself up and realized I couldn't move my arm without screaming! It started swelling, I thought ok I heard salt water cures it all, let me get into the water, got out the water and not even sure how I got home, and my mother was there! Halleluyer! So she sees my arm and says oh dear, it's really swollen, we go to the pharmacy and speak to the pharmacist get the medication and head back home, that pain was definitely a wake up call.
My thoughts at the time of the fall were heavy, I was not in the present moment, looking ahead with dread and boom! Brought back to reality in a way I had to pay attention. What is inside your heart and mind manifests itself in your outer world, I strongly believe that, pay attention, be in the moment, choose another thought.
Believe it or not, your body has nothing but unconditional love for you. The proof? without any effort on your part your heart is beating, your lungs are breathing and the rhythm of your life is graciously following through every second of every day unconditionally.
On the road to healing in partnership with this amazing body that all of us were blessed with
Peace!
What you think matters. It's energy. Thoughts and beliefs, while not seen, are pumped with energy. So too are our bodies. And our pain. It's all cosmically connected. From the inside out. Maxie McCoy
Your beliefs shape you and your thinking (although sometimes it is good to question some of those beliefs, anyway I digress) So I believe that life always speaks to me and when I am not listening it does things to get my attention, I believe that my intuition speaks to me in stillness and pain is a wake up call to pay attention inward now.
So I needed to pay attention apparently,
Going along my usual Sunday business, I run on a Sunday morning, I decided to go to the beach and run. The scene was straight out of a movie, no one on the beach, the sun coming up, and I am happy. And then I fell, and the pain was intense! No one around I was on the ground thinking, what is this one about?? I managed to pull myself up and realized I couldn't move my arm without screaming! It started swelling, I thought ok I heard salt water cures it all, let me get into the water, got out the water and not even sure how I got home, and my mother was there! Halleluyer! So she sees my arm and says oh dear, it's really swollen, we go to the pharmacy and speak to the pharmacist get the medication and head back home, that pain was definitely a wake up call.
My thoughts at the time of the fall were heavy, I was not in the present moment, looking ahead with dread and boom! Brought back to reality in a way I had to pay attention. What is inside your heart and mind manifests itself in your outer world, I strongly believe that, pay attention, be in the moment, choose another thought.
Believe it or not, your body has nothing but unconditional love for you. The proof? without any effort on your part your heart is beating, your lungs are breathing and the rhythm of your life is graciously following through every second of every day unconditionally.
On the road to healing in partnership with this amazing body that all of us were blessed with
Peace!
