Akosua Dardaine Edwards's Blog, page 191

I let the love go where it wants to go

What mattered was that I showed up. I let the love go where it usually wants to go: toward someone else who really needs it. Danielle LaPorte
The First Citizens Women's Conference gig was my best ever! I had so much fun! It just felt that I was supposed to be there at one of the biggest Women's Conference in the country and that is not a boast, it is the manifestation of a vision! I was well prepared really through a combination of self belief, preparation and faith!I want you to know that self belief and good ole' sweat and passion is enough, that you are enough and to keep on keeping onI want you to know that there will be challenges and people talking shit, but that is par for the course, continue, do your do! do you!I want you to know that you may get tired, find a place to reboot and recharge then come again!I want you to know that you have the ability to create and this power can be tapped into at any time!I want you to know that dreams become real!Peace!

This supposed life

This supposed lifeYou are caught up in what you’re supposed to do and how you’re supposed to be. You’ve decided that there is a way you’re supposed to act and a way you’re supposed to live. Your entire life has been designed to support the illusion of what life is supposed to be like.You pressure yourself not to feel the emotions you’re not supposed to feel. You allow more than you should because you’re not supposed to get angry. You do what good people are supposed to do, be quiet. This supposed life is slowly killing you.Why not try doing what you feel called to do? Why not be who you decide to be? Why not say what you want to say? Why not go where you want to go?  Why not feel how you want to feel.You’re are only supposed to be you. The only fairytale worth living is the one you design for yourself, anything else is not supposed to be for you. 
Thank you StaceyPeace

It's ok to feel...everything

As long as the present moment is seen as an obstacle, there can be no end to problems. “I'll be whatever you want me to  be,” says Life or the Now. “I'll treat you the way you treat me. If you see me as a problem, I will be a problem to you. If you treat me as an obstacle, I will be an obstacle.” Eckhart Tolle


It is okay to feel, everything. Allow the not-so-great feelings to move through you, without judging yourself for feeling it. Ask yourself  "would I say this to someone I love?" And if the answer is no... then you should not be saying it to you either. And that is all!!!
Peace

The Absence of Proof

Our beliefs about life and ourselves form and then come true for us when we find evidence to support them. By acting ‘as if’ we start creating evidence to prove this new belief about ourselves is right . Deborah Johnson
I was having a conversation with one of my favorite people, she said to me "you doubt because you want to see evidence, the evidence is missing according to your perception and you forget that you are creating the evidence and sometimes in fact all the time creation takes time"All I could have said was hmmmmm!!! because I know that what she said is that it made absolute sense.Doubt- the absence of what you believe is true, 
Doubt - looking for something you feel is not there based on your limited sight and perception.
Doubt - questioning what you asked for and questioning the wisdom of the Universe.The Universe is smarter than you! And it simply creates what you ask for and wants you to pay attention. If you plant a seed and then uproot it please do not expect it to grow. Doubting is uprooting.When our senses does not see evidence (based on our limited perception) we doubt!I have learnt that in my moments of doubt it is not the absence of faith it is the absence of proof.Don't let no doubt fool youEvery single doubt is a toolPeace

Have an opinion

if we instead pass judgement on our daily life challenges and make them “wrong” and resist them, we end up feeling trapped by them, as though it’s not even possible to have a life of joy.
We feel defeated by life instead of realizing how every single one of our circumstances actually provides a means for us to express our Perfection. Neale Donald Walsh

I am sharing excerpts of  an article here written by one of my favorite ladies Maxie Mccoy
Enjoy
Peace


Be someone that brings something to the table. Be a person who expresses. Have thoughts. Share your energy. Stand your ground. And for the love of sunsets and puppy dogs - hold an opinion. have an opinion. share your opinion.Do not coil down. Do not retract. Do not always remain in such an area of gray that you lose your distinction. Stand for something. Stand for lots of things. And don't be afraid to share it.When you find yourself without opinions it's typically out of a need for someone's approval. It comes from a place of wanting to be affirmed because you agree with whomever is around you.How often are you muting your opinion? Sometimes, this is smart. Very smart. But many times your lack of opinion stems from that deep concern with what others will think of you. Of a deep desire to please.You're not going to become an asshole just by having an opinion. That's a status reserved for people who have opinions and try to force their unproved belief on others. They project. And with it they hold no place for understanding, for empathy, for another person's place in life.That's not you. You'll be the person with an opinion. The same one who can share their voice while still showing such kindness. You can communicate, you can share, you can help someone see your opinion while still understanding theirs. You don't make someone wrong. You don't make yourself right. You simply have an opinion. And you share it when it makes sense.

This word is not in my vocabulary

Shame hates it when we reach out and tell our story. It hates having words wrapped around it—it can’t survive being shared. Shame loves secrecy. The most dangerous thing to do after a shaming experience is hide or bury our story. When we bury our story, the shame metastasizes Brene Browne

Confession or maybe the better term is pet peeve - using the word shame loosely! OMG I just refuse, I cannot! In our culture it is used often, someone is telling a story " Oh I was so shame, girl" someone laughs at a joke "Shame" I refuse to use it, just refuse to use the word, its not in my vocabulary! I want it to remain outside of my consciousness whether in a joke or not, it may just be my issues but hey I am owning it!
"Shame" I have seen stop so many actions- I have heard numerous times " I am too shame to do that" said just like that! Huh? What are you "shame" about? I absolutely refuse to use the word! Okay rant over
Shame says something is wrong with me, and hey as India Arie says " I know my creator didn't make no mistakes on me" so I am not or will never be "shame"
End of rant!
Peace

Give your body a break

no one else can give you what you have not yet given to yourself.
If you do not have what you crave in life right now, no one else can give it to you. And if you haven’t been able to give it to yourself, then what?
In my experience, what is needed is a new perspective. We must learn to see ourselves and our lives from a different place. Neale Donald Walsh

The body keeps score and it always wins- I heard that today and it resonated with me.  The lady went on to describe that we hold on to things and then the body says "hey, no more" and when it says that the body breaks down through pain, illness or it just stops and shuts down! So in the main, when we let it go the body is free to do what it is supposed to do
And I am referring here to the internal work, because it all starts inside, it is really inside out.

So the thing that you are holding on to, let it go, hell even the tax authorities only "chase" you for a certain time, after they let it go! When you keep the things in it leaves no room for your good to come in, for new things to be attached and find it's way into your life
Let it go, give your body a break!
Try a new thing, have a new thought, make another choice.

Peace

Call Forth a New Reality

"calamities" are blessings, not yet understood by the Mind .  Neale Donald Walsh

On my journeys, I make it a priority to pay attention, because lessons come in from everywhere! And with this in mind I want to share that all experiences have value, every single one
What messes us up is our perception and how we want it to look and how we believe things ought to happen. Leave the judgement aside and look for the lesson.

Whatever it is that is now presenting itself as part of your creation, own it, claim it, bless it, be thankful for it. Seek not to condemn it
If there is some aspect you find you do not enjoy, bless it and move on. Choose again
and end the moaning and complaining, do it magnificently, think a new thought, call forth a new reality!
Peace!

What are your rituals?

Inspiration doesn't turn its back. You do. I did. The only difference between periods of frolicking with inspiration and those empty of it is OUR daily choices. Do you cultivate a warm and inviting lifestyle for inspiration to come into? Do you open the door and invite it in? Do you stay open and connected to your deep sense of self on a daily basis? Maxie McCoy (love her work!)

What are your rituals? What are some of the things that you do daily, consistently which brings about the spark, the connection to your highest self, that fuels the inspiration that lives within you? What are the things that make it into your daily life, consciously? I mean the thing that you do everyday which brings a smile to your face, that ignites the fire within?
You don't have any? Well sisters and brothers, why not? Why would you prefer to not do something consistently which inspires you, motivates you, reaches into your soul? It could be as simple as a walk in the park, a football game on the greens with your friends, a green daily smoothie, candles and a book in the tub, listening to some uplifting music while in the shower, whatever it is
I love to wake up early go onto my porch write in my journal and read something inspirational while eating watermelon and  bananas and share it with the birds who come around now like my own personal friends. I write in my gratitude journal as well, I do it everyday wherever I am it's too bad I can't take my bird friends with me!
Your rituals.....
Figure them out. Commit to them. And connect like you've never connected before to your energy.
Peace!

Make friends with now

When you are Present, when your attention is fully in the Now, that Presence will flow into and transform what you do. There will be quality and power in it. You are present when what you are doing is not primarily a means to an end (money, prestige, winning) but fulfilling in itself, when
there is joy and aliveness in what you do. And, of course, you cannot be present unless you become friendly with the present moment. That is the basis for effective action, uncontaminated by negativity. Ekhart Tolle

Make friends with now, it is one of my absolute favorite lessons, it translates to me the following
1. Pay attention
2. Be present
3. Accept the reality of the situation in the moment as it is, not as you want, think or believe it ought to be. Acceptance does not mean that you like it, it means you recognize that this is what it is and make peace with that in order to assist you in deciding what is the best way forward
4. Make a decision - change the situation, if you could or leave it, Moaning does nothing to advance me into a place of peace.

I find myself saying it when I am in a bit of a jam! "Make friends with now, sis" and it triggers something, sometimes it may even be a little bit of a cry before action is taken and other times it may be the biggest bellyful of laughter! then its action time
Works for me! Try it and tell me what lessons you can share on your own journey
Peace!