Akosua Dardaine Edwards's Blog, page 184
January 16, 2016
The Body Speaks
The body speaks. We just don’t listen until we get sick and have to start paying attention to what our bodies need. By that time illness has manifested so strongly within us it will take extreme dedication and perseverance to heal ourselves – and that will require major lifestyle changes. The biggest issue many of us will face is releasing our beliefs about food and self denial. Ignorance and denial about our unhealthy lifestyles and refusing to create change leads to a slow suicide and it is also a reflection of our own lack of self love
. How to raise the vibration
Rest is productive, that is something I truly believe. I say it often enough and sometimes aloud to convince myself to make it a priority.Guilt is a waster emotion, that is something I truly believe. I say it often enough to ensure that I do not waste emotions.Healing starts within by taking an inventory and facing up to the truth that the feedback in your life is showing you - and that is not usually an easy thing, easier to escape through pain killers, excuses, busyness, taking care of others, shopping, looking good on the outside and so on. Lifestyle changes require commitment, discipline, order, facing the truth, patience and most important self belief. I know that for sure. My lifestyle changes have all been decisions that I have made when I was open to face the truth and have patience. I lapse sometimes but I know it's a lapse and I love myself out of it. I chose to incorporate weekly exercise into my life, I chose to include meditation into my life, I chose to include rest into my life and one thing I have learnt is that decision is power!Peace!
Rest is productive, that is something I truly believe. I say it often enough and sometimes aloud to convince myself to make it a priority.Guilt is a waster emotion, that is something I truly believe. I say it often enough to ensure that I do not waste emotions.Healing starts within by taking an inventory and facing up to the truth that the feedback in your life is showing you - and that is not usually an easy thing, easier to escape through pain killers, excuses, busyness, taking care of others, shopping, looking good on the outside and so on. Lifestyle changes require commitment, discipline, order, facing the truth, patience and most important self belief. I know that for sure. My lifestyle changes have all been decisions that I have made when I was open to face the truth and have patience. I lapse sometimes but I know it's a lapse and I love myself out of it. I chose to incorporate weekly exercise into my life, I chose to include meditation into my life, I chose to include rest into my life and one thing I have learnt is that decision is power!Peace!
January 15, 2016
Univestigated Stories
The problem is usually our uninvestigated thinking, and this happens when you’re mentally in someone else’s business. Uninvestigated stories
leave chaos and resentment and hatred within our own families and circles. Until we investigate nothing else is possible
Byron Katie
I love Byron Katie's work, it is simple yet effective to me, I love simplicity! And it basically says that many of our assumptions and made up stories affect the decisions that we make, she talks about asking ourselves when something happens or pop up that we start making up scenarios, assumptions and stories - is it really true? And that's a yes or no response, nothing elseUnivestigated stories, assumptions and scenarios cause quite a number of unnecessary challenges. Someone does something or says something, and we attach a meaning and story on to it which in many cases has absolutely nothing to do with us. When we find the courage to ask a question, and asking ourselves first is very important, it this realy true? We get a totally different perspective on things.
I have been practicing this asking of questions to clarify what is said this week and it has been quite an eye opener as it will either give you the answer to your query to make a more informed choice and decision or you can tell if the person is willing to answer and engage in communication.
Find the courage to askPeace
I love Byron Katie's work, it is simple yet effective to me, I love simplicity! And it basically says that many of our assumptions and made up stories affect the decisions that we make, she talks about asking ourselves when something happens or pop up that we start making up scenarios, assumptions and stories - is it really true? And that's a yes or no response, nothing elseUnivestigated stories, assumptions and scenarios cause quite a number of unnecessary challenges. Someone does something or says something, and we attach a meaning and story on to it which in many cases has absolutely nothing to do with us. When we find the courage to ask a question, and asking ourselves first is very important, it this realy true? We get a totally different perspective on things.
I have been practicing this asking of questions to clarify what is said this week and it has been quite an eye opener as it will either give you the answer to your query to make a more informed choice and decision or you can tell if the person is willing to answer and engage in communication.
Find the courage to askPeace
January 14, 2016
Above All Else I Want To See
Above All Else I Want To See
Recognizing that what I see reflects what I think I am, I realize that vision is my greatest need. The world I see attests to the fearful nature of the self-image I have made (of myself, within myself). If I would remember who I am, it is essential that I let this (false) image of myself go. As it is replaced by truth, vision will surely be given to me. And with vision, I will look upon the world and myself with (clarity) and love. ACIM
How do you see yourself? Start there, pay attention to that. We sometimes have unconsciously spoken about how we look upon ourselves and speak it into being, the things we say that unconsciously limit us many times without questioning where and why. We may have heard from our parents that we are "sickly" and maybe you were as a child, then you hold on to it for dear life and it manifests itself into realitySo pay attention to the labels you put on youRemember words have lifePeace
Recognizing that what I see reflects what I think I am, I realize that vision is my greatest need. The world I see attests to the fearful nature of the self-image I have made (of myself, within myself). If I would remember who I am, it is essential that I let this (false) image of myself go. As it is replaced by truth, vision will surely be given to me. And with vision, I will look upon the world and myself with (clarity) and love. ACIM
How do you see yourself? Start there, pay attention to that. We sometimes have unconsciously spoken about how we look upon ourselves and speak it into being, the things we say that unconsciously limit us many times without questioning where and why. We may have heard from our parents that we are "sickly" and maybe you were as a child, then you hold on to it for dear life and it manifests itself into realitySo pay attention to the labels you put on youRemember words have lifePeace
January 13, 2016
Bust a Move
Law of Action - Must be employed in order for us to manifest things on earth. We must engage in actions that supports our thoughts dreams, emotions and words - Universal Laws
Universal Laws - quite simple. Whether we obey them or not, they are there and they work. I have heard that ignorance is no excuse for not following the law, it will work and apply anyway. The Law of Gravity for example, you don't have to know about it but it works so living without knowing the laws does not mean that they are not there and is not working in your life or in every other person's life.Having said that, the Law of Action = Manifestationmake a move, bust a move perfection is not a requirement to start, to move, willingness isAction=ManifestationPeace
Universal Laws - quite simple. Whether we obey them or not, they are there and they work. I have heard that ignorance is no excuse for not following the law, it will work and apply anyway. The Law of Gravity for example, you don't have to know about it but it works so living without knowing the laws does not mean that they are not there and is not working in your life or in every other person's life.Having said that, the Law of Action = Manifestationmake a move, bust a move perfection is not a requirement to start, to move, willingness isAction=ManifestationPeace
January 12, 2016
What is an excuse?
Using the past to validate why you are where you are today is called - - - an excuse. Excuses cripple the mind to the power and presence of possibility. Instead of continually giving the past power, intend and expect something more for your future. What you do today determines what you experience tomorrow. Iyanla Vanzant
Oh we can all justify what and why we are where we are doing what we are doing!!!
Oh how we can make up excuses for not doing and having what we want!
Oh how we can blame and project
This morning I had a meeting with the University to chat about me completing my unfinished PhD. I sat there and heard the rationale, the excuses, the reasons, the justification for me not resuming the programme! When they fell out of my mouth and into my lap I stopped.
Oh my word, I am using the past to validate where I am today! Jeez!!! What a penny dropping aha moment!
What else have I been making excuses about?
Oh boi, am I ready for the truth
They say sometimes the truth has to slap you... Twice!
Our expectations become our reality, we get what we expect, what we believe and life loves us so much that everything in our lives are mirrros so when we pay atttention we get to see what we are thinking internally because it is reflected in our external lives that is the brutal honest truth whether we beleive it or not!
So yes, the excuses, the justifications, they are a form of fear and fear as we all know is part of the thing we must go through
So go through..... hard!
Peace
Oh we can all justify what and why we are where we are doing what we are doing!!!
Oh how we can make up excuses for not doing and having what we want!
Oh how we can blame and project
This morning I had a meeting with the University to chat about me completing my unfinished PhD. I sat there and heard the rationale, the excuses, the reasons, the justification for me not resuming the programme! When they fell out of my mouth and into my lap I stopped.
Oh my word, I am using the past to validate where I am today! Jeez!!! What a penny dropping aha moment!
What else have I been making excuses about?
Oh boi, am I ready for the truth
They say sometimes the truth has to slap you... Twice!
Our expectations become our reality, we get what we expect, what we believe and life loves us so much that everything in our lives are mirrros so when we pay atttention we get to see what we are thinking internally because it is reflected in our external lives that is the brutal honest truth whether we beleive it or not!
So yes, the excuses, the justifications, they are a form of fear and fear as we all know is part of the thing we must go through
So go through..... hard!
Peace
January 11, 2016
May I remember how much I have
May I remember how much I have
by remembering how much I have to give.
May I not be tempted by smaller things
but serve my larger mission of forgiveness and love . Marianne Williamson
GratitudeWhen all hell has broken loose and I feel that it’s all over or ready to pack it all in. I remember to be gratefulI start smallI woke up this morningI am wellAll my limbs are in tactI can see the birds outside my door waiting to share my banana with themI have clear thoughtsI can swallowI have a place to liveThe car startsThere are fruits in the refrigeratorI have a place to liveI have keys to unlock and maybe that is the keyHaving gratitude for everything and every place that I have beenI am grateful for good friendsFor coconut bake and salt fishAnd bread from the lady from First Citizens bank who gives me one just becauseI am ever grateful for activists + allies+ people using their voices for movements because we are worthy of so much moreI am grateful for the trees + the air+ the Savannah on a Saturday morning + Chaguramas run on SundayI am grateful for plane rides across the world to places that I have only ever dreamed ofOh to be grateful for the memories and the blessings.For the heartbreak that is now behind meI am grateful for the terrible days birthed by appreciation for tomorrow always comingI am grateful for sunshine + rain for friends turned to familyOh I am grateful oh so grateful to be whole healthy and here
Peace
by remembering how much I have to give.
May I not be tempted by smaller things
but serve my larger mission of forgiveness and love . Marianne Williamson
GratitudeWhen all hell has broken loose and I feel that it’s all over or ready to pack it all in. I remember to be gratefulI start smallI woke up this morningI am wellAll my limbs are in tactI can see the birds outside my door waiting to share my banana with themI have clear thoughtsI can swallowI have a place to liveThe car startsThere are fruits in the refrigeratorI have a place to liveI have keys to unlock and maybe that is the keyHaving gratitude for everything and every place that I have beenI am grateful for good friendsFor coconut bake and salt fishAnd bread from the lady from First Citizens bank who gives me one just becauseI am ever grateful for activists + allies+ people using their voices for movements because we are worthy of so much moreI am grateful for the trees + the air+ the Savannah on a Saturday morning + Chaguramas run on SundayI am grateful for plane rides across the world to places that I have only ever dreamed ofOh to be grateful for the memories and the blessings.For the heartbreak that is now behind meI am grateful for the terrible days birthed by appreciation for tomorrow always comingI am grateful for sunshine + rain for friends turned to familyOh I am grateful oh so grateful to be whole healthy and here
Peace
January 9, 2016
Evolve
Walk with me.
Tell your story.
Listen with your heart
to mine.
Build a bridge.
Cross over that bridge together.
Now destroy that bridge
and never look back. EVOLVE. -badu
We love the familiar, it's comfortable, it's easy. The minute it feels any other way we hold on for dear life.The Universe never leaves a void, never does. And what happens when we hold on for dear life? We end up blocking the path, restricting the flow. Life goes on and things will continue but it is like driving with your handbrakes up. The car does move however the ride is jerky and bumpy. Letting go is like releasing the handbrake, a smoother ride!Peace.
Tell your story.
Listen with your heart
to mine.
Build a bridge.
Cross over that bridge together.
Now destroy that bridge
and never look back. EVOLVE. -badu
We love the familiar, it's comfortable, it's easy. The minute it feels any other way we hold on for dear life.The Universe never leaves a void, never does. And what happens when we hold on for dear life? We end up blocking the path, restricting the flow. Life goes on and things will continue but it is like driving with your handbrakes up. The car does move however the ride is jerky and bumpy. Letting go is like releasing the handbrake, a smoother ride!Peace.
January 8, 2016
Ghosted?
Ghosted? I know that guy that was full-on obsessed with you for a few weeks. But he’s no where to be found now, so drop it where you found it. If you respected yourself as much as those who love you do, you wouldn’t give him the time of day. The universe was just making an (abrupt) shift. For something way
better
. Maxie McCoy
Big lessons with me and the fellas.. I'm just saying....
Marianne Williamson talks about our belief is that what is happening is the only thing that is going on and that is more times than not, the full story. There is always more, so remember that when you are making the thing bigger than it really is.
And I got it eventually, drop the expectations
Listen, not having expectations doesn’t mean you get walked all over. It doesn’t mean you don’t have values, integrity, or desires. But leaving expectations behind lets you evaluate what shows up exactly as is—instead of what it is in relation to the made up image you had in your head. It’s taking life at face value. It’s allowing life to literally be what it is. And from there you can decide… is this how I want to be treated? Is this how I want to feel? Is this the energy I want around me? Is this the value I want to give? Does this bring out the best in me?
Expectations. Where are you holding on to them? How are they jading your experience? How are they robbing you of presence? Figure it out and leave ‘em. Be present. And find love of the moment instead. Embrace it.
Peace
Big lessons with me and the fellas.. I'm just saying....
Marianne Williamson talks about our belief is that what is happening is the only thing that is going on and that is more times than not, the full story. There is always more, so remember that when you are making the thing bigger than it really is.
And I got it eventually, drop the expectations
Listen, not having expectations doesn’t mean you get walked all over. It doesn’t mean you don’t have values, integrity, or desires. But leaving expectations behind lets you evaluate what shows up exactly as is—instead of what it is in relation to the made up image you had in your head. It’s taking life at face value. It’s allowing life to literally be what it is. And from there you can decide… is this how I want to be treated? Is this how I want to feel? Is this the energy I want around me? Is this the value I want to give? Does this bring out the best in me?
Expectations. Where are you holding on to them? How are they jading your experience? How are they robbing you of presence? Figure it out and leave ‘em. Be present. And find love of the moment instead. Embrace it.
Peace
January 7, 2016
Willingness
I am willing to see things differently
- A Course in Miracles (ACIM)
ACIM says that our good intentions are not enough, our willingness is what propels us to move towards the life we desire to live or the task we want to complete. If we are willing to see things from a different perspective, willing to do something new, that is the start of transformation.or getting what you say you want. Willingness....
I have been in a situation for the past few weeks and my "good intention" has been right at the forefront of my mind. And there it was, the lesson - be willing, be willing to see and do things in a different way. The willingness propelled me to a whole new place. A new mindset.
Willingness is defined as "the quality or state of being prepared to do something; readiness"
Prepared to DO something- do something not talk about doing it
Do something- not talk about why you cannot do it
Do something - not moan and complain about why and why not
Do something - not wait for the "right time"
Readiness - get yourself ready
and then DO it!
That takes a level of willingness
Intentions is the start, following on from that is committing to it, acting on it, reflecting and review and then course correct
and all of those steps takes the decision to be willing
Peace!
ACIM says that our good intentions are not enough, our willingness is what propels us to move towards the life we desire to live or the task we want to complete. If we are willing to see things from a different perspective, willing to do something new, that is the start of transformation.or getting what you say you want. Willingness....
I have been in a situation for the past few weeks and my "good intention" has been right at the forefront of my mind. And there it was, the lesson - be willing, be willing to see and do things in a different way. The willingness propelled me to a whole new place. A new mindset.
Willingness is defined as "the quality or state of being prepared to do something; readiness"
Prepared to DO something- do something not talk about doing it
Do something- not talk about why you cannot do it
Do something - not moan and complain about why and why not
Do something - not wait for the "right time"
Readiness - get yourself ready
and then DO it!
That takes a level of willingness
Intentions is the start, following on from that is committing to it, acting on it, reflecting and review and then course correct
and all of those steps takes the decision to be willing
Peace!
January 6, 2016
I love listening
I love listening. It's one of the only spaces where you can be still and moved at the same time -
Nayyira Waheed (one of my fav poets)
Learning and listening fascinates me, it allows me to be completely in the moment, I can sit and just be quiet listening to not just people but the sounds from everywhere that I am, in the park, in the mall, walking down the street. It keeps me in the now
Listening is something I learnt on these latest journeys. I realized that me just waiting for someone to finish talk so that I can talk or interrupting someone while they speak I missed the moment, it sometimes even dismissed people's point and made them feel dismissed as well. I remember I was in a town hall meeting with quite a few people , ok not a few, it was damm near crowded and here I was after learning about how listening keeps me in the moment decided to practice this lesson. An elderly gentlemen stood up and started talking, with a passion and verve that drew me in even further, I was listening to him like he was the only person that existed at the moment and I started crying (so very much unlike me) the man's story brought out so much emotion I didn't touch my phone I didn't make up stories in my head about his outfit and how long he was on the floor I was so engrossed in his story that I felt the emotion, although I was crying it actually felt really good, like a connection to him. I said to myself, I really like this listening thing!
I am also very aware of persons who don't listen now since I have started to listen and recognize how to work. live and exist with them.
Listening brings me back into the now ..... and now is all I have for sure!
Peace
Learning and listening fascinates me, it allows me to be completely in the moment, I can sit and just be quiet listening to not just people but the sounds from everywhere that I am, in the park, in the mall, walking down the street. It keeps me in the now
Listening is something I learnt on these latest journeys. I realized that me just waiting for someone to finish talk so that I can talk or interrupting someone while they speak I missed the moment, it sometimes even dismissed people's point and made them feel dismissed as well. I remember I was in a town hall meeting with quite a few people , ok not a few, it was damm near crowded and here I was after learning about how listening keeps me in the moment decided to practice this lesson. An elderly gentlemen stood up and started talking, with a passion and verve that drew me in even further, I was listening to him like he was the only person that existed at the moment and I started crying (so very much unlike me) the man's story brought out so much emotion I didn't touch my phone I didn't make up stories in my head about his outfit and how long he was on the floor I was so engrossed in his story that I felt the emotion, although I was crying it actually felt really good, like a connection to him. I said to myself, I really like this listening thing!
I am also very aware of persons who don't listen now since I have started to listen and recognize how to work. live and exist with them.
Listening brings me back into the now ..... and now is all I have for sure!
Peace
