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April 7, 2018
Conscious Action and Determination
If we choose to be in denial, and we choose not to admit we have a problem, a dis-ease, a illness, an addiction then we will never be able to heal it.
We must be honest with ourselves and face whatever we have created for ourselves and do our best to transmute it, transform it and heal it on all levels of our beings and this will require conscious action and determination.
Thoughts are powerful, but we can not just "think" our problems away by ignoring them. We can't just eat a dozen doughnuts and "think" the sugar, fat, calories and chemicals away. There are consequences for every action so if we want to change, we must first get to the root of the cause and make necessary changes, through our actions, so we don't remain in the complacency of our self created insanity . Sabrina Reber
Sometimes we meet people who are messengers. When we detach from the messenger it is easier to receive the message. When the message is delivered the person may at most times disappear. It's Nothing personal.
Other times, the messengers keep returning in the form of different people - same issue or different situations - same issue
Pay attention!
Life speaks to us all the time!
Question everything!
Looking at it from the defensive stand point may hinder the viewing of the lesson. Listen, Be willing to see it differently.
Blaming others will definitely not bring the lesson.
It takes a level of humilty, disipline and awareness. Throw some courage in there.
Trust me, it is not easy to sometimes own up to the shit we created in our own lives by not paying attention, and then when we do own it, it is also not easy to choose responsibility over guilt and victim hood.
But listen lovies, keep going, you are doing well and I am here on the journey with you going through the same thing.
Last night I had a penny dropping moment! I was reflecting on the last couple of months. Starting off I was moaning about how difficult it was financially. I started off in guilt and victimhood- what is going on? How is it that I am still unable to move forward despite me planting the seeds, having income coming in?
And it hit me! I never think anything is enough, I always had this anxiety about money, from way back when. When I was married I felt a little bit safer because there were two of us, but my partner at the time, had a different perspective, he loved to live a lavish life and spent freely. There were many discussions about how I would over react about spending. I returned to my old self- anxious and never believing that it was enough. Never believing that I deserved what was rightfully mine.
And last night it hit me
The issue is, do you know how much you are worth? Do you know that money is not your supply, that no person, place or thing is? Do you know that all needs are met?
Or are you trying to get money to buy more things in an attempt to demonstrate that you are who you don't believe you are? Are you holding yourself hostage to a culturally generated story about who you are and what you must have?
The patterns were stark
Awareness is the first place of moving forward
Now that I am aware I am ready to take action
Peace
We must be honest with ourselves and face whatever we have created for ourselves and do our best to transmute it, transform it and heal it on all levels of our beings and this will require conscious action and determination.
Thoughts are powerful, but we can not just "think" our problems away by ignoring them. We can't just eat a dozen doughnuts and "think" the sugar, fat, calories and chemicals away. There are consequences for every action so if we want to change, we must first get to the root of the cause and make necessary changes, through our actions, so we don't remain in the complacency of our self created insanity . Sabrina Reber
Sometimes we meet people who are messengers. When we detach from the messenger it is easier to receive the message. When the message is delivered the person may at most times disappear. It's Nothing personal.
Other times, the messengers keep returning in the form of different people - same issue or different situations - same issue
Pay attention!
Life speaks to us all the time!
Question everything!
Looking at it from the defensive stand point may hinder the viewing of the lesson. Listen, Be willing to see it differently.
Blaming others will definitely not bring the lesson.
It takes a level of humilty, disipline and awareness. Throw some courage in there.
Trust me, it is not easy to sometimes own up to the shit we created in our own lives by not paying attention, and then when we do own it, it is also not easy to choose responsibility over guilt and victim hood.
But listen lovies, keep going, you are doing well and I am here on the journey with you going through the same thing.
Last night I had a penny dropping moment! I was reflecting on the last couple of months. Starting off I was moaning about how difficult it was financially. I started off in guilt and victimhood- what is going on? How is it that I am still unable to move forward despite me planting the seeds, having income coming in?
And it hit me! I never think anything is enough, I always had this anxiety about money, from way back when. When I was married I felt a little bit safer because there were two of us, but my partner at the time, had a different perspective, he loved to live a lavish life and spent freely. There were many discussions about how I would over react about spending. I returned to my old self- anxious and never believing that it was enough. Never believing that I deserved what was rightfully mine.
And last night it hit me
The issue is, do you know how much you are worth? Do you know that money is not your supply, that no person, place or thing is? Do you know that all needs are met?
Or are you trying to get money to buy more things in an attempt to demonstrate that you are who you don't believe you are? Are you holding yourself hostage to a culturally generated story about who you are and what you must have?
The patterns were stark
Awareness is the first place of moving forward
Now that I am aware I am ready to take action
Peace
April 6, 2018
Love vs Fear
Some of us are so full of fear we create chaos and confusion, not only for ourselves, but also with the very people we think we are being loving to. Love and Fear can never be experienced together, they are polar opposites. When we are in fear we are expressing the darkness and limitations of our ego and shadow consciousness.
Raise Your Vibration
A Course in Miracles says that there are only two emotions, Love and Fear. Anything that is not love is fear. Love promotes peace, harmony, balance, authenticity, abundance, forgiveness, fun, growth, sharing, discipline, intuitive thinking and action and courage. Fear promotes the opposite. Decisions made out of fear promote short term results and anxiety. Love is simple, it is an energy it cannot be destroyed
The best way to combat fear is to show love and show up in love.
Peace
Read Akosua's Books
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here?
A Course in Miracles says that there are only two emotions, Love and Fear. Anything that is not love is fear. Love promotes peace, harmony, balance, authenticity, abundance, forgiveness, fun, growth, sharing, discipline, intuitive thinking and action and courage. Fear promotes the opposite. Decisions made out of fear promote short term results and anxiety. Love is simple, it is an energy it cannot be destroyed
The best way to combat fear is to show love and show up in love.
Peace
Read Akosua's Books
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here?
April 5, 2018
You Can Learn From Anyone
Personal change cannot be accomplished by technology. It requires commitment, persistence, determination and PATIENCE! Iyanla
I met her when she was 15 years old, she was working at the hair salon that I would visit. She would be sweeping or doing any errands that was required. On one visit I had the opportunity to chat with her. She told me that she was determined to be a haridresser, it was her dream, nothing would stop her not even the area where she was from. She lived in one of the notorious "hoods" in the capital city where most of the society write people off who live there.
As I continued to visit the salon she started doing more than sweeping and errands, she would wash the client's hair, we would always have our conversations about life.She always was so determined and disclipined, I could not help but admire her tenacity.After a few months, she started managing the salon. The owner decided to give her an opportunity to manage the salon. Seemed to be the best decision the manager ever made the place was buzzing.Given a young lady from the hood who showed promise, dedication and discipline is something I was reminded of anytime I see her.Yesterday I saw her, she is married with her own salon and pushing ahead with the same discipline and tenacity. we spoke for hours, and anytime I sit with her I learn so much. We can learn from anything and anyone, give others a chance and change one, change a family.Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's critically acclaimed books?What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here?
I met her when she was 15 years old, she was working at the hair salon that I would visit. She would be sweeping or doing any errands that was required. On one visit I had the opportunity to chat with her. She told me that she was determined to be a haridresser, it was her dream, nothing would stop her not even the area where she was from. She lived in one of the notorious "hoods" in the capital city where most of the society write people off who live there.
As I continued to visit the salon she started doing more than sweeping and errands, she would wash the client's hair, we would always have our conversations about life.She always was so determined and disclipined, I could not help but admire her tenacity.After a few months, she started managing the salon. The owner decided to give her an opportunity to manage the salon. Seemed to be the best decision the manager ever made the place was buzzing.Given a young lady from the hood who showed promise, dedication and discipline is something I was reminded of anytime I see her.Yesterday I saw her, she is married with her own salon and pushing ahead with the same discipline and tenacity. we spoke for hours, and anytime I sit with her I learn so much. We can learn from anything and anyone, give others a chance and change one, change a family.Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's critically acclaimed books?What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here?
April 4, 2018
It Toughened Me Up
"If you are to free yourselves you must break the chains of oppression yourselves. Only then can we express our dignity, only when we have liberated ourselves can we co-operate with other groups. Any acceptance of humiliation, indignity or insult is acceptance of inferiority." Winnie Mandela
When I turned 13 ,my granma gave me a book called “Part of My Soul Went With Him” by Winnie Mandela.
Confessions on the Journey, I had no idea who she was! My granma told me to read it as she thought I could do with some “toughening up”. I read it. I read it again. I read it once more.
I marvelled at this woman’s courage and resilience and was I outraged by the system called apartheid.
The book planted a seed.
I did not know if it toughened me up then but it certainly peaked my interest in Women’s Rights and in this far away land called South Africa.
When I got the opportunity to go to South Africa for the first time I jumped at it. I learned more about how women were the backbone of the struggle.
I never in my mind believed that I would end up spending time in South Africa but I have had the absolute privilege to go a few times and Anytime I got the opportunity to go, I took it.
Last year, when I returned to SA, I reunited myself with Winnie through books and visiting Soweto and asking questions to any elder willing to answer me.
It gave me that extra motivation to stay on course despite my own challenges which, really, were pale on comparison to what those women went through.
As Thando Dlomo says For many of us, Winnie Mandela was the first time we saw the black woman as powerful and fearless and impactful. Her imperfections aside, she led us to our strongest selves.
I have seen some news reports as well as posts on social media which have painted a picture of her as a witch, a killer, and any manner of uncomplementary descriptions. That may be there memory of her, however for me, she embodied a type of courage and authenticity that made me want to be a brave and true woman!
Thank you Winnie. You kept it real.You shaped your own mind and you toughened me up.
Peace
Have you Read Akosua's Books?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here?
Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
When I turned 13 ,my granma gave me a book called “Part of My Soul Went With Him” by Winnie Mandela.
Confessions on the Journey, I had no idea who she was! My granma told me to read it as she thought I could do with some “toughening up”. I read it. I read it again. I read it once more.
I marvelled at this woman’s courage and resilience and was I outraged by the system called apartheid.
The book planted a seed.
I did not know if it toughened me up then but it certainly peaked my interest in Women’s Rights and in this far away land called South Africa.
When I got the opportunity to go to South Africa for the first time I jumped at it. I learned more about how women were the backbone of the struggle.
I never in my mind believed that I would end up spending time in South Africa but I have had the absolute privilege to go a few times and Anytime I got the opportunity to go, I took it.
Last year, when I returned to SA, I reunited myself with Winnie through books and visiting Soweto and asking questions to any elder willing to answer me.
It gave me that extra motivation to stay on course despite my own challenges which, really, were pale on comparison to what those women went through.
As Thando Dlomo says For many of us, Winnie Mandela was the first time we saw the black woman as powerful and fearless and impactful. Her imperfections aside, she led us to our strongest selves.
I have seen some news reports as well as posts on social media which have painted a picture of her as a witch, a killer, and any manner of uncomplementary descriptions. That may be there memory of her, however for me, she embodied a type of courage and authenticity that made me want to be a brave and true woman!
Thank you Winnie. You kept it real.You shaped your own mind and you toughened me up.
Peace
Have you Read Akosua's Books?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here?
Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
April 3, 2018
It doesn't matter how much you know.
“It doesn't matter how much you know.
It matters what you're willing to step into.
It matters what you're willing to do.
It matters how much transformation you desire.
It matters what your vision is.
It matters what decisions you make.
It matters what standards you set for your life.
It matters how much you get back up.
It matters how you treat yourself.
It matters how much you put to use.
It matters how you treat other people.
It matters what stories you tell yourself.
It matters what fears you'll step into.
It matters how you show up.” - Alexandra Covucci
To "know" is only part of the puzzle. Let's call it the puzzle of living our best life.Your good intentions are another part of the puzzle.Each on their own may not take you to that next level, to where you want to go, to you living your best life .You may ask what does living your best life mean, what does it look like? It looks like a life on purpose, of healthy relationships, a healthy body, living your truth and contributing to the space one is in in a positive manner. It is a life of authenticity and willingness, of open mindedness and progress. Yes yes I deliberately left out the material things. I did that because I am convinced that once you are indeed living your best life, all needs are met.
How many times have we heard "Oh they had such good intentions". Intentions alone won't do the trick.
How many times have you heard someone say "Yes, I know" and yet they continue to make choices and decisions that reflect something competely different. Helloooooo, no, you don't know because if you did you would act differently, you would act like you know.To know is to demonstrate.
So, it matters how and what we do with our knowledge and good intentions, talking alone about it hardly brings about the desired results.It takes courage to live this life, it takes responsibility, discipline and self loveAre you ready?
Peace
Have you Read Akosua's Books?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here?
Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
It matters what you're willing to do.
It matters how much transformation you desire.
It matters what your vision is.
It matters what decisions you make.
It matters what standards you set for your life.
It matters how much you get back up.
It matters how you treat yourself.
It matters how much you put to use.
It matters how you treat other people.
It matters what stories you tell yourself.
It matters what fears you'll step into.
It matters how you show up.” - Alexandra Covucci
To "know" is only part of the puzzle. Let's call it the puzzle of living our best life.Your good intentions are another part of the puzzle.Each on their own may not take you to that next level, to where you want to go, to you living your best life .You may ask what does living your best life mean, what does it look like? It looks like a life on purpose, of healthy relationships, a healthy body, living your truth and contributing to the space one is in in a positive manner. It is a life of authenticity and willingness, of open mindedness and progress. Yes yes I deliberately left out the material things. I did that because I am convinced that once you are indeed living your best life, all needs are met.
How many times have we heard "Oh they had such good intentions". Intentions alone won't do the trick.
How many times have you heard someone say "Yes, I know" and yet they continue to make choices and decisions that reflect something competely different. Helloooooo, no, you don't know because if you did you would act differently, you would act like you know.To know is to demonstrate.
So, it matters how and what we do with our knowledge and good intentions, talking alone about it hardly brings about the desired results.It takes courage to live this life, it takes responsibility, discipline and self loveAre you ready?
Peace
Have you Read Akosua's Books?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here?
Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
April 2, 2018
Get Centered. Get Clear
The truth of the matter is, when we are afraid, we act in fear. When we are angry, we react to the things that anger us. When we are lazy, we simply don't try. When we are self-sabotaging, self-defeating or self-defiant, we blame other people for our lack of progress. We conveniently forget our habitual reactive behaviors that leave things unsaid, tasks incomplete, dreams unfulfilled, goals unmet and people hanging on.
Until Today
Random conversation with a long time friend last night. In chatting the talk moved to our ex husbands, they were both best friends as well. Many a double date happened when we were courting!
She told me that the new house my ex just built is a mansion, so modern and spacious and went on to explain its merits.
After she said it I immediately responded that I am happy for him, that it was funny though because he expressed to me that he never wanted to live in that area.
When the conversation ended I realised that I was feeling bummy!
I realised that I had to explore these feelings because,truth be told, I truly believed that I had moved on and was all past these feelings. But clearly there was something bubbling underneath that rose after that chat.
I decided to sit in the feelings, to not dismiss them as I am okay and make some other bull shit excuse about how I was feeling at the time.
As I sat in the feelings I realised the feelings were a call to action, action o overcome the feelings of fear and not enoughness that I carry around with me since then. The ones that I mask but reared its head last night.
The feeling that I am unable to ever be financially stable again.
The feeling that I can recover from anything.
It's all good to appear as if I have it together on the outside, from the outside - the most important thing I have learnt is what is happening on the inside. Because eventually what is happening on the inside will find its way on the outside. This is what has been happening to me. I have been stuck in certain areas and it has manifested itself in some of my actions and responses.
Have I forgiven myself, Have I forgiven others?
Have I felt all the feelings and know this too shall pass?
My cousin said to me "aim to make peace with the situation and do better, get centered and get clear about your intentions"
It was just what I needed to hear at that time
Get centered
Get clear
Get unstuck
So I have resolved that this is a wake up call to do something different, to take action, to focus and to believe!
There is always something good coming out of every situation, we see it when we are willing to see it.
Peace
Check out Akosua's critically acclaimed books
What Did I Learn Today?
Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here?
Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
Random conversation with a long time friend last night. In chatting the talk moved to our ex husbands, they were both best friends as well. Many a double date happened when we were courting!
She told me that the new house my ex just built is a mansion, so modern and spacious and went on to explain its merits.
After she said it I immediately responded that I am happy for him, that it was funny though because he expressed to me that he never wanted to live in that area.
When the conversation ended I realised that I was feeling bummy!
I realised that I had to explore these feelings because,truth be told, I truly believed that I had moved on and was all past these feelings. But clearly there was something bubbling underneath that rose after that chat.
I decided to sit in the feelings, to not dismiss them as I am okay and make some other bull shit excuse about how I was feeling at the time.
As I sat in the feelings I realised the feelings were a call to action, action o overcome the feelings of fear and not enoughness that I carry around with me since then. The ones that I mask but reared its head last night.
The feeling that I am unable to ever be financially stable again.
The feeling that I can recover from anything.
It's all good to appear as if I have it together on the outside, from the outside - the most important thing I have learnt is what is happening on the inside. Because eventually what is happening on the inside will find its way on the outside. This is what has been happening to me. I have been stuck in certain areas and it has manifested itself in some of my actions and responses.
Have I forgiven myself, Have I forgiven others?
Have I felt all the feelings and know this too shall pass?
My cousin said to me "aim to make peace with the situation and do better, get centered and get clear about your intentions"
It was just what I needed to hear at that time
Get centered
Get clear
Get unstuck
So I have resolved that this is a wake up call to do something different, to take action, to focus and to believe!
There is always something good coming out of every situation, we see it when we are willing to see it.
Peace
Check out Akosua's critically acclaimed books
What Did I Learn Today?
Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here?
Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
March 31, 2018
Forgiveness is Big
In order to truly forgive, each of us must process through the full range of lessons, feelings and emotions associated with the traumatic events in our lives. Blind forgiveness is the easy way out and is usually the route most people prefer. Blind forgiveness is denial and avoidance. It helps people brush things under the rug without ever getting to the root cause of the problem. Unfortunately, this leads to a pattern of recreation in the future because it was never properly addressed. You cannot change a problem with the same state of consciousness that created the problem. Sabrina Reber
For a very long time I believed that forgiveness was about letting the other person off the hook. I never wanted to forgive anyone, I would simply put it out of my mind. As far as I was concerned, the person did not exist and what happened never happened.
That, my dear friends, does not work. Ignoring and pretending is a sure fire way of bringing the lesson back over and over again.
Sabrina Reber in her book "How To Raise Your Vibration" talks about blind forgiveness, she says
"blind forgiveness is a way for people to avoid truly getting in touch with their feelings. When we avoid our feelings we hold onto them, stuffing them in our energy fields giving them great power. These stuffed feelings become reactive emotions fueling the fires of emotional imbalance, depression, disease and illness in the body. True forgiveness is an energetic experience that occurs when we dissolve and release stuffed traumatic events that are stored in our energy fields"
Forgiveness is big! It is the very thing that releases us from the bonds we hold t the past and propels us forward. Forgiveness of self first, then of others. Many times we give away our power, especially when we refuse to do the work, We hide behind escapsim and religion. We go to church and believe that just being there will exempt us from doing the work. Newsflash is does not, The free will we are given allows us to make choices. If we choose to not do the work and go down that other route our lives will reflect it back to us, the lessons will continue to come until we feel, deal then heal.
According to Sabrina Reber,by allowing our emotions to surface, we can understand and integrate them helping us to dissolve our judgments about ourselves and each other. We can then move into a place of clarity and understanding, choosing to release our pain, while we retrieve the wisdom from the event that will help our soul grow. Once the lesson is learned, forgiveness is an essential step on the path to healing.
Peace
Have you read Akosua's Work?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo(Madam) - Why Are You Here?
Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
Check out Akosua's Ted Talk Here
Ted Talk - There is Power in Your Story
For a very long time I believed that forgiveness was about letting the other person off the hook. I never wanted to forgive anyone, I would simply put it out of my mind. As far as I was concerned, the person did not exist and what happened never happened.
That, my dear friends, does not work. Ignoring and pretending is a sure fire way of bringing the lesson back over and over again.
Sabrina Reber in her book "How To Raise Your Vibration" talks about blind forgiveness, she says
"blind forgiveness is a way for people to avoid truly getting in touch with their feelings. When we avoid our feelings we hold onto them, stuffing them in our energy fields giving them great power. These stuffed feelings become reactive emotions fueling the fires of emotional imbalance, depression, disease and illness in the body. True forgiveness is an energetic experience that occurs when we dissolve and release stuffed traumatic events that are stored in our energy fields"
Forgiveness is big! It is the very thing that releases us from the bonds we hold t the past and propels us forward. Forgiveness of self first, then of others. Many times we give away our power, especially when we refuse to do the work, We hide behind escapsim and religion. We go to church and believe that just being there will exempt us from doing the work. Newsflash is does not, The free will we are given allows us to make choices. If we choose to not do the work and go down that other route our lives will reflect it back to us, the lessons will continue to come until we feel, deal then heal.
According to Sabrina Reber,by allowing our emotions to surface, we can understand and integrate them helping us to dissolve our judgments about ourselves and each other. We can then move into a place of clarity and understanding, choosing to release our pain, while we retrieve the wisdom from the event that will help our soul grow. Once the lesson is learned, forgiveness is an essential step on the path to healing.
Peace
Have you read Akosua's Work?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo(Madam) - Why Are You Here?
Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
Check out Akosua's Ted Talk Here
Ted Talk - There is Power in Your Story
March 30, 2018
6 Things I am no longer spending time on
there are some habits, people, practices, and choices that I simply don’t have any
time for anymore. And I don’t have time for them because they create cycles of energy that stress me out. And most importantly, they’re not pushing me to heal, to grow, or to get better. So done. Done with dirty playing fields. Done with letting images, messages, and molds tell us what to do
. Maxie McCoy
Have you ever had one of those moments when you just get it? When the light bulb switches on and you say "Oh I get it!!" (sometimes loudly and in libraries and bank halls)
This hit me during this week. There are just some things that I must, absolutely must, spending time on:
1. Convincing others - that my way is the right way, that they ought to be doing "so and so" and to mind their own business - done with that. I don't know it all, I don't know their full story only what they have told me and want me to know and let me mind my own business so when others are not I will not even know or care.
2. People Pleasing - OMG! Can I just stop this, immediately? Yes I can. It's a definite no win situation. Accept that some people will just not like me, deal with it, they are not part of my tribe.
3. Saying Yes when I want to say No - overcrowding my schedule. This saying yes when I want to say no is also directly related to people pleasing! No is sometimes self care, it is sometimes self honoring and it is many times essential.
4. Looking for External Validation - just going to do my utmost best and leave the rest. The mantra is "Be cool with you."
5. Not Believing in Myself - Believe in yourself or who's gonna? The doubt will be there, the worry may step in, the fear too but hey.....believe. progress over perfection every single time.
6. Being Around Friends who don't believe in you or treat you like shite - Need I say more?
Have You Read Akosua's Books
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
Have you ever had one of those moments when you just get it? When the light bulb switches on and you say "Oh I get it!!" (sometimes loudly and in libraries and bank halls)
This hit me during this week. There are just some things that I must, absolutely must, spending time on:
1. Convincing others - that my way is the right way, that they ought to be doing "so and so" and to mind their own business - done with that. I don't know it all, I don't know their full story only what they have told me and want me to know and let me mind my own business so when others are not I will not even know or care.
2. People Pleasing - OMG! Can I just stop this, immediately? Yes I can. It's a definite no win situation. Accept that some people will just not like me, deal with it, they are not part of my tribe.
3. Saying Yes when I want to say No - overcrowding my schedule. This saying yes when I want to say no is also directly related to people pleasing! No is sometimes self care, it is sometimes self honoring and it is many times essential.
4. Looking for External Validation - just going to do my utmost best and leave the rest. The mantra is "Be cool with you."
5. Not Believing in Myself - Believe in yourself or who's gonna? The doubt will be there, the worry may step in, the fear too but hey.....believe. progress over perfection every single time.
6. Being Around Friends who don't believe in you or treat you like shite - Need I say more?
Have You Read Akosua's Books
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
March 29, 2018
Detachment vs Complacency
To be detached from the outcome of a result means that you have learnt to trust . The Law of Detachment
What is the difference between detachment and complacency.
Detachment involves a high level of trust, a type of knowing that whatever happens it's all good!
It means you have done the work, you have done all that is required. And you know that!
You also know that even if the outcome is not to your liking it is still all good!
Complacency is a form of fear! Fear that it will not work, or turn out as it ought to be
That you are not in control, or out of control!
When you know the difference, it is a guide!
Peace
Have you read Akosua' Books?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo(Madam) Why Are You Here?
March 28, 2018
Ask......
Truth time? I (still) think that it's intimidating to ASK. Like you and so many other people, I at least momentarily worry about being a bother or asking for a favor that I can’t return (after all, these authors have nothing to “get” in return from a noob author like myself).
But I’d like to convince you, somehow, to start asking for help, in the name of things that matter to you. You might hear a “no.” You will totally survive. And with time, and enough asking, some pretty amazing things might happen. Kate Courageous
Confessions on the Journey. Asking for help has been a challenge for me. Asking for anything, period.I somehow had this perception that asking for help meant that I didn't have my shit together, that I was weak and disorganised. Strong women help not ask for help! Oh how much on left field I was! I have learnt that receiving is part of the equation, in order to be a good giver one has to be a good receiver.I have learnt that we are on this planet together for a reason, we have to live and work and vibe together to move us forward. There are those who are your tribe and then there are those who are not. The one's who are not have a purpose as well. Those may be the ones who reflect back to us what in our lives require healing and attention or perhaos to cement to us who our real tribe is.Asking is part of giving and receiving.What makes a good receiver? No expectations! Love.Patience.Release of how it is supposed to look- supposed meaning how it looked before, how you believe it should and what the society says- keep an open mind.Ask and you shall receive!
Peace
Have you read Akosua's Books
Whst Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self LoveNyabo(Madam) Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
But I’d like to convince you, somehow, to start asking for help, in the name of things that matter to you. You might hear a “no.” You will totally survive. And with time, and enough asking, some pretty amazing things might happen. Kate Courageous
Confessions on the Journey. Asking for help has been a challenge for me. Asking for anything, period.I somehow had this perception that asking for help meant that I didn't have my shit together, that I was weak and disorganised. Strong women help not ask for help! Oh how much on left field I was! I have learnt that receiving is part of the equation, in order to be a good giver one has to be a good receiver.I have learnt that we are on this planet together for a reason, we have to live and work and vibe together to move us forward. There are those who are your tribe and then there are those who are not. The one's who are not have a purpose as well. Those may be the ones who reflect back to us what in our lives require healing and attention or perhaos to cement to us who our real tribe is.Asking is part of giving and receiving.What makes a good receiver? No expectations! Love.Patience.Release of how it is supposed to look- supposed meaning how it looked before, how you believe it should and what the society says- keep an open mind.Ask and you shall receive!
Peace
Have you read Akosua's Books
Whst Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self LoveNyabo(Madam) Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
