Akosua Dardaine Edwards's Blog, page 121
March 15, 2018
Change your Mind
If what you are thinking, saying or doing in response to any person or experience is not bringing you peace, CHANGE YOUR MIND! If your mind is flooded with memories and thoughts of a pain-filled past or a not-so-promising future, CHANGE YOUR MIND! You can do it, just like that! When you change your mind, the things you've been thinking about, worrying about, crying over, running from, will look completely different. It may not be that anything in the actual picture changes, however, your changed mind will alter the way you see it.
Iyanla
It always happens, always! I have been having a particular thought all week.
I am a firm believer in what manifests itself in my reality is only a reflection of what is in my consciousness. Outer reflects inner.
I truly believe that because we have free will,we can make our choices and there are consequences for each and every choice. So much so that we can change our minds when things are not working in our best interests. When we change our minds, we change our lives, when we make another choice there is another consequence.
And so, I have been asking the Universe,what is in my consciousness? How can I change it? Because these choices I am making aren't working for me financially. What can I do now to change this conscious and unconscious behavior that relfects in my reality of skating financially and racking up debts. I'm tired of it!
It came to me this morning in my readings and I interpreted it to be
Conformist ways change nothing! After I am informed, why do I confirm?
Be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind!
If you are serious about creating a change in your mind, here are a few tips.
Do not insist that people be who you want them to be.
Do not insist that you are someone you are not.
Do not insist that you can do things you cannot do.
Do not insist that you know things that you don't.
Do not insist that you will do things that you won't do.
Do not insist that everyone is wrong about you.
Do not insist that you are right.
Keep an open mind.
Do a new thing.
Give thanks
Be willing
Do the work
Whenever you are insistent about something, you create an attachment.
Breaking that attachment creates disruption in the mind.
Change your mind, if it starts in your mind, change your mind to abundance, believe in that!
Change your mind to faith, believe in that!
Change your choices to honor you, for example, you don't have to spend that money on things you do not need, you don't have to prove to the world that you are "doing well" - you ARE doing well, there is nothing to prove. The having of material things and fancy clothes nails and toes is not the only way to show that you are doing well!
You don't have to believe that a non traditional job is hard and that it does not pay well and people don't pay for speakers and authors. And this country is stingy like that. And I have to fight for it all.
All of that is in your mind.
Wanting things to be different is not enough, be willing to do the work, the work starts inside!
Peace
It always happens, always! I have been having a particular thought all week.
I am a firm believer in what manifests itself in my reality is only a reflection of what is in my consciousness. Outer reflects inner.
I truly believe that because we have free will,we can make our choices and there are consequences for each and every choice. So much so that we can change our minds when things are not working in our best interests. When we change our minds, we change our lives, when we make another choice there is another consequence.
And so, I have been asking the Universe,what is in my consciousness? How can I change it? Because these choices I am making aren't working for me financially. What can I do now to change this conscious and unconscious behavior that relfects in my reality of skating financially and racking up debts. I'm tired of it!
It came to me this morning in my readings and I interpreted it to be
Conformist ways change nothing! After I am informed, why do I confirm?
Be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind!
If you are serious about creating a change in your mind, here are a few tips.
Do not insist that people be who you want them to be.
Do not insist that you are someone you are not.
Do not insist that you can do things you cannot do.
Do not insist that you know things that you don't.
Do not insist that you will do things that you won't do.
Do not insist that everyone is wrong about you.
Do not insist that you are right.
Keep an open mind.
Do a new thing.
Give thanks
Be willing
Do the work
Whenever you are insistent about something, you create an attachment.
Breaking that attachment creates disruption in the mind.
Change your mind, if it starts in your mind, change your mind to abundance, believe in that!
Change your mind to faith, believe in that!
Change your choices to honor you, for example, you don't have to spend that money on things you do not need, you don't have to prove to the world that you are "doing well" - you ARE doing well, there is nothing to prove. The having of material things and fancy clothes nails and toes is not the only way to show that you are doing well!
You don't have to believe that a non traditional job is hard and that it does not pay well and people don't pay for speakers and authors. And this country is stingy like that. And I have to fight for it all.
All of that is in your mind.
Wanting things to be different is not enough, be willing to do the work, the work starts inside!
Peace
March 14, 2018
My Purpose is Simple
Where would you have me go?
What would you have me do?
What would you have me say?
And to whom?
–A Course in Miracles
I was speaking with a dear friend, she was pretty excited about sharing what she was doing at the moment. The talk we were having shifted to purpose, she said now, she is clear about what her purpose is and was able to articulate it clearly and directly. She then asked me what was my purpose.
I told her my purpose is how God/Universe decides to use me everyday until I am no longer here.
She asked me if I am sure about that and of I can have more than one purpose.
I arrived at this decision of what my purpose is through surrender, not surrender meaning giving up, surrender meaning totally trusting the Universe to guide me.
I wanted to be an accountant, there was nothing else in my mind that I wanted to be. I did all the qualifications and graduated as an accountant. I wanted to be a Chief Financial Officer and worked hard to become one. I was fired and it rocked my world, I was so lost. Then I decided I wanted to go back to school and get my PhD. I started doing that and my money ran out just at the time I started working with women throughout the world, I wrote a book about that experience and here I am now doing none of that but feeling so purposeful about what I am doing despite all the challenges. I remember listening to Marianne Willamson and she said that she asked "God what would you have me do and what would you have me say?: That resonated with me so much. It literally woke me up.
I have a message to deliver here on this planet and once I get out of my way and trust that the message will be delivered and the rest of the details will be taken of.
It sounds simple, it is and it is not. It is simple when I listen, it is not simple when I don't listen.
Your purpose is yours, No one can determine what it is for you.
You know when you are living your purpose, you know it. It's without question. You are at a peace that passes all understanding.
When you listen to your intuition and be your best highest self your purpose is being served. That is the start.
And my friends, that is simple
Peace
March 13, 2018
Transitions are Part of the Journey
Without exception, when the moment of THIS NEEDS TO CHANGE, NOW
, has arrived, all of us have felt side-swiped by that moment. It’s not convenient. It’s a moment that acts as both our albatross and our lighthouse, in equal measure.
Kate Courageous
The time to change, the time for change, the time for a shift happens for me when I am going through discomfort. When things in my life seem t be ging haywire. I don't usually know how this change will manifest itself in reality and I have stopped wondering because usually when it manifests it blows my mind, because it is a gazillion times better than what I thought it would be.
Sometimes it is hard, as humans we like comfort, we love certainty, we want assurance that all is well. In a transition period those are not guranteed...at all.
But it doesn't always have to be hard, when we let go, it becomes easier. Letting go does not mean giving up or settling, it means trusting the process, doing the wrk and trusting your intuition.
I say this to remind myself. There are so many transitions happening with me at the moment. I will be honest, I want it to stop. I want comfort and certainty. I want peace. I want results.
We cannot move to the next level with comfort and certainty. Risk is required.
Risk and uncertainty are the qualities that bring out faith and trust. Two other essential qualities that are required on the Journey.
The discomfort is part of the Journey. Accept that and it will help
Discomfort meaning doing new things that may scare you. Discomfort meaning feeling inconvenienced. Discomfort may mean vulnerability.
Do a new thing.
Do a new thing.
Do a new thing.
Peace
The time to change, the time for change, the time for a shift happens for me when I am going through discomfort. When things in my life seem t be ging haywire. I don't usually know how this change will manifest itself in reality and I have stopped wondering because usually when it manifests it blows my mind, because it is a gazillion times better than what I thought it would be.
Sometimes it is hard, as humans we like comfort, we love certainty, we want assurance that all is well. In a transition period those are not guranteed...at all.
But it doesn't always have to be hard, when we let go, it becomes easier. Letting go does not mean giving up or settling, it means trusting the process, doing the wrk and trusting your intuition.
I say this to remind myself. There are so many transitions happening with me at the moment. I will be honest, I want it to stop. I want comfort and certainty. I want peace. I want results.
We cannot move to the next level with comfort and certainty. Risk is required.
Risk and uncertainty are the qualities that bring out faith and trust. Two other essential qualities that are required on the Journey.
The discomfort is part of the Journey. Accept that and it will help
Discomfort meaning doing new things that may scare you. Discomfort meaning feeling inconvenienced. Discomfort may mean vulnerability.
Do a new thing.
Do a new thing.
Do a new thing.
Peace
March 12, 2018
Going Back to the Community
We live in such an intentional universe. Everything that shows up is right on time and just what you need, and that includes the uncomfortable shit.
Stacy Herera
Yesterday the International Women's Day celebrations continued in the Mt. Dor Community, a small community in the East of Trinidad and Tobago. One woman who wanted to make a contributuion to the IWD Celebrations, decided to bring the women of the community together, I was humbled to be invited, I was happy that someone wanted to have an event in the community to celebrate women.
As I drove up the hill, I asked a man on the road for the directions to the community center, the man gave me the directions and he said to me "ask if you can park in the school it will be safer" Hmm I thought this will be interesting.
I did not park in the school. I parked on the road, walked down the hill to the center as I l walked in women were cooking in the kitchen and the food was smelling soooo good!
I walked in the hall and waited for the event to begin.
I wanted to show them that I was here with them, not separated by any fear. Maybe this was stupid, time alone would tell.
During the event I came outside to check on the car, one young man said to me, I see you are checking on the car, don't you worry you are safe, we got you!
Guess it wasn't that stupid after all.
The woman who gave her story on the night was just a testament to the strength and resilience in each and every one of us. Living to take care of her children, honoring her purpose despite the naysayers
Getting over physical and mental abuse.
I pray for a day when our stories do not include this!
As the celebration ended another brother escorted me to my car and wished me safe travels.
Going out to communities is what I love to do. I was reminded of that yesterday and it was right on time, as with everything in the Universe.
Peace
Yesterday the International Women's Day celebrations continued in the Mt. Dor Community, a small community in the East of Trinidad and Tobago. One woman who wanted to make a contributuion to the IWD Celebrations, decided to bring the women of the community together, I was humbled to be invited, I was happy that someone wanted to have an event in the community to celebrate women.
As I drove up the hill, I asked a man on the road for the directions to the community center, the man gave me the directions and he said to me "ask if you can park in the school it will be safer" Hmm I thought this will be interesting.
I did not park in the school. I parked on the road, walked down the hill to the center as I l walked in women were cooking in the kitchen and the food was smelling soooo good!
I walked in the hall and waited for the event to begin.
I wanted to show them that I was here with them, not separated by any fear. Maybe this was stupid, time alone would tell.
During the event I came outside to check on the car, one young man said to me, I see you are checking on the car, don't you worry you are safe, we got you!
Guess it wasn't that stupid after all.
The woman who gave her story on the night was just a testament to the strength and resilience in each and every one of us. Living to take care of her children, honoring her purpose despite the naysayers
Getting over physical and mental abuse.
I pray for a day when our stories do not include this!
As the celebration ended another brother escorted me to my car and wished me safe travels.
Going out to communities is what I love to do. I was reminded of that yesterday and it was right on time, as with everything in the Universe.
Peace
March 10, 2018
Friends on the Journey
You have an abundance of friends on this journey, but every one of you feels somewhat alone . . . a common thread connects you to each other in your own ways . . . the connection increases with belief. Guru Singh
Today I am going to see the movie Black Panther, I am taking some young ladies from the St Jude's Home for Girls. Some of my friends assisted me in making this happen and I really want to thank them for supporting me and these ventures that I dream up!
The ability to show someone a different approach cannot be discounted, this is not to say that one way is the best way. The point I am making is that differences can be honoured and dealt with in a mature an sensible way. Also, seeing a different way of being also exposes us to new cultures, new aproaches, inspiration and sometimes answers to questions.
I know I cannot solve all the issues that the young ladies from the St Jude's Home for Girls are faced with, I accept that. My intention really is to provide them with a view of a difference. A different approach to solving conflict, a different view of life as they know it, in the most non judgemental way.
I pray that this can light a spark in them to live their best lives.
I shall let y'all know how the movie was!
Peace
March 9, 2018
Happy International Women's Day
Happy International Day lovlies!
I am so happy that there is a day to celebrate our fabulousness
Annual Nudge and Gentle Reminder for IWD's
To me and my fellow sisters:1. You are a prayer in the most holy mouth. The space between clasped hands. A landscape so picturesque at any angle, you are a reminder that magic exists.2. Oh, they will stop and stare, you most divine creature with unapologetic skin and fearless features. LEARN to take a compliment. Settle into being the center of things.3. When you fall in love, let it be with a person who asks nothing of you. Your existence should be enough. If they do not kiss you urgently and often, find someone who understands that lips in the presence of love should ignite passion.4. Keep a few great friends. When they tell you harsh truths, learn to listen for the love. Growth is necessary and annoying at times but look and you will always find the silver lining.5. Buy the perfect shade of red lipstick. It, like the perfect black dress are weapons. Use them at will.6. Stop hiding your tampons. You are a woman. You bleed. Grown people know this. If he is afraid of menstruation, he is not prepared to be inside of you.7. Do not apologize for existing. For being yourself. Apologize when you are not.8. If you work hard, ask for a raise. Find your backbone and attach it to your standards. You deserve the money that correlates to how hard you work.9. Feed yourself kind words, chocolate, quality people, random first dates, solitude, orgasms, coconut and corn meal bake & coconut bake (the bake is for me) and books, You will need really, really good books. Live for the story.10. If all else fails repeat after me:
I am enough
I am enough
I most certainly am enough.
(not enoughness will mash you up)PeaceHappy IWD 2018
Thank you for the inspirational words Natalie Patterson
March 7, 2018
Always Live within the Question
The question! The question! Always live
within the question!" It is when you think you have
all the answers that expansion ends, growth stops, and
your arrogance begins. Neale Donald Walsh
I was told that, in certain scenarios, I ask a lot of questions, and uncomfortable ones as well. Trust me, that is really never my intention, I ask questions for clarity - I believe in the Four Agreements made popular Don Miguel Ruiz.One of the Agreements, is do not assume, find the courage to ask the questions.And for me, finding courage to ask questions was huge as the irony is, my friends who know me from a very long time gave me the name "I did not ask" We would be chatting away and they would ask me about something and my response would be "I did not ask". It became a huge inside joke. Now, the sentiment is that I ask too many questions!I like asking questions, I learn more and I have more information and I am clear. Decision making improves all round.
I have noticed though, that people get very testy when I ask certain questions, some even get annoyed enough to preface our conversations with "please ask no questions, or please do not ask me to many hard questions" I have learnt to deal with these requests more graciously with time.
This week, a friend of mine made a request for a favour. I asked a few questions and she said this to me "I do not have all the answers, you do ask a lot of questions, but what I realise when I calm down is in answering them or thinking about them, I get more clarity or I find the answer somewhere" I smiled like I ate a hot homemade coconut bake straight out of the oven!because I found the courage to ask,I am getting more compassionate in my approach and my intention was realised.Lessons and More Lessons
Peace
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your arrogance begins. Neale Donald Walsh
I was told that, in certain scenarios, I ask a lot of questions, and uncomfortable ones as well. Trust me, that is really never my intention, I ask questions for clarity - I believe in the Four Agreements made popular Don Miguel Ruiz.One of the Agreements, is do not assume, find the courage to ask the questions.And for me, finding courage to ask questions was huge as the irony is, my friends who know me from a very long time gave me the name "I did not ask" We would be chatting away and they would ask me about something and my response would be "I did not ask". It became a huge inside joke. Now, the sentiment is that I ask too many questions!I like asking questions, I learn more and I have more information and I am clear. Decision making improves all round.
I have noticed though, that people get very testy when I ask certain questions, some even get annoyed enough to preface our conversations with "please ask no questions, or please do not ask me to many hard questions" I have learnt to deal with these requests more graciously with time.
This week, a friend of mine made a request for a favour. I asked a few questions and she said this to me "I do not have all the answers, you do ask a lot of questions, but what I realise when I calm down is in answering them or thinking about them, I get more clarity or I find the answer somewhere" I smiled like I ate a hot homemade coconut bake straight out of the oven!because I found the courage to ask,I am getting more compassionate in my approach and my intention was realised.Lessons and More Lessons
Peace
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March 6, 2018
Dream Big
The universe is always packing for the adventure of your dreams -- that’s the law of dreaming -- you cannot dream anything that cannot be achieved . . . everything you dream is available to you. When you doubt that you’ll be included in, or allowed to experience your next destination -- you have no joy to enjoy it with.
Guru Singh
Dream big!
I was looking at an awards show speech last night given by Tiffany Haddish an actress and comedienne, who, right now to me, in not only the funniest but also the most inspirational character I have encountered for a long time! She brings the humour and the humility with her whenever I experience her
Tiffany had a hard life by all normal standards but she used it as a push forward, with a smile on her face
She said to dream big, imagine it and see itHow many of us dream at all?It seems as if we leave sreaming when we become adults and that is when we ought to tap into it the mostI looked at Tiffany's speech and thought to myself- reactivate those dreams girlfriendIt will involve work and it will involve some no's and perhaps some tears but can you imagine how much it will be worth it when they come true?And of course, include some rest in there because rest is part of the work!Peace
Dream big!
I was looking at an awards show speech last night given by Tiffany Haddish an actress and comedienne, who, right now to me, in not only the funniest but also the most inspirational character I have encountered for a long time! She brings the humour and the humility with her whenever I experience her
Tiffany had a hard life by all normal standards but she used it as a push forward, with a smile on her face
She said to dream big, imagine it and see itHow many of us dream at all?It seems as if we leave sreaming when we become adults and that is when we ought to tap into it the mostI looked at Tiffany's speech and thought to myself- reactivate those dreams girlfriendIt will involve work and it will involve some no's and perhaps some tears but can you imagine how much it will be worth it when they come true?And of course, include some rest in there because rest is part of the work!Peace
March 5, 2018
Life is a Game of Boomerangs
before you think, do, or say anything -- imagine what it
would be like to receive what you are sending
. Florence Schovel Shinn
I posted a comment on Instagram today, and there were some comments about, particularly that it it was judgemental and condesending. I thought about that for a moment and then I said to myself
"Self, you know what?, that was so not your intention so leave that alone"
I received some comments about it and started to answer it, granted I got a tad bit frustrated as well because I honestly was not intending to hurt harm be judgemental or all of the above. In the end I deduced that people interpret things based on their experiences and beliefs, if they do not have the opportunity to ask questions then they run with that interpretation. I am now okay with that. I am okay with it knowing what my intentions are. There is no way that we can please everyone- can I just repeat that for my own eyes?There is no way that we can please everyone!
And there is no way that I can respond to everyone's comments and questions nor should I!Accepting my intentions and owning the responsibility for what I put out is the most that I can doDetachment from the outcome also helps!
So the next time people interpret what you say and what you do and comes back with fire or a totally out of timing negative response, ask yourself
What were my intentions?Do I take responsibility and own what I believe?Am I taking this response personally?
The answers to that will pull you forward!Peace
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I posted a comment on Instagram today, and there were some comments about, particularly that it it was judgemental and condesending. I thought about that for a moment and then I said to myself
"Self, you know what?, that was so not your intention so leave that alone"
I received some comments about it and started to answer it, granted I got a tad bit frustrated as well because I honestly was not intending to hurt harm be judgemental or all of the above. In the end I deduced that people interpret things based on their experiences and beliefs, if they do not have the opportunity to ask questions then they run with that interpretation. I am now okay with that. I am okay with it knowing what my intentions are. There is no way that we can please everyone- can I just repeat that for my own eyes?There is no way that we can please everyone!
And there is no way that I can respond to everyone's comments and questions nor should I!Accepting my intentions and owning the responsibility for what I put out is the most that I can doDetachment from the outcome also helps!
So the next time people interpret what you say and what you do and comes back with fire or a totally out of timing negative response, ask yourself
What were my intentions?Do I take responsibility and own what I believe?Am I taking this response personally?
The answers to that will pull you forward!Peace
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March 3, 2018
The Law of Healing
Guilt asks for punishment, and its request is granted . ACIM
Where fear exists in your life it can manifest itself as a blockage in relevant parts of your physical body. This fear may come from this life-time or past/parallel lifetimes. This blockage is restricting the flow of energy from performing at its maximum efficiency. When the circulation of your life force energy is restricted you feel imbalanced, out of sorts, ill, sick, sore, painful, incapable, non-functioning, near death. These blockages cause ill at ease feelings, dis-ease, disease, and possibly death.Fear unresolved manifests as illness. Your thoughts create your reality. If you think you are sick, you become sick and remain sick. Your healing comes from love manifested as light. Your unconditional love of yourself prevents illness, alternatively, kick-starts your healing process by replacing fear with love. Your healing light, or the healing light brought from someone else, is stronger in its vibrational frequency than the illness, the blockage, caused from fear, which has a low vibrational frequency. This higher vibrational frequency obliterates the lower vibrational frequency.Identify your fears, face them head on, but have “only love” as your weapon to defeat these fears. Stand in your integrity; say “What would Love do now?” Act and facing fears – do it – and watch these fears dissolve in the light of truth and love.Pain is required for your healing, growth and evolvement. Pain is part of the process of healing. It identifies the blockage. It is intensified when the blockage is dissolved or removed and the absence of that pain tells you that you are healed. Come only from love, create the light of higher vibrational frequency, face your fears while standing in your integrity and see these fears dissolve, feel pain free and have an attitude of gratitude. Now count your blessings in appreciation, gratitude and in unconditional self love for your new found health. Believe you are healed. Believing is Seeing!PeaceGet the Journal "Daily Lessons on the Journey" Here:http://www.lulu.com/shop/akosua-darda...
