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A Bit of Fluff – Grin and Bear It

Hey, look at me! I’m STILL on vacation. “No way,” you might say. I’ve got news for you: Way. Since it’s playtime for me, I want everyone to have a bit of fun. So this week I’m sharing a pic that’s not only so very true, it just might make you smile. Hope your month […]

The Surest Way Not to Teach Kids Respect

I’m still on holiday this week, but in my absence I wanted to leave you with something nutritious to chew on. Since I’m too busy whooping it up on vacation to moderate comments, they’re not available for this post. However, you can leave comments over on PsychologyToday.com: Shaming Children Is Emotionally Abusive Next week I’ll […]

The Spider Chronicles

Day 1. Walking to work this morning, I tried to catch a glimpse of a helicopter thrumming overhead. I spotted it way up there and followed it for a moment with my eyes. As I did so, my mouth was open. I noticed this because at that moment, I walked through a spider web. Fortunately, […]

“Negative” Feelings and the Law of Attraction

Occasionally someone tells me with dread that they don’t want to feel depressed because the Law of Attraction will bring more bad things to them if they let themselves go down that path. Now myself, I do believe in the attractive power of intention. There’s nothing magical about it; when we think about things a […]

Facing a Scary Diagnosis

“You have cancer.” Nobody wants to hear those words, but this year over 1.5 million people in the U.S. will become members of a club none of us wants to join. Being diagnosed with cancer, Parkinson’s, ALS, or any other dreaded condition can knock you to your knees. The emotional impact can’t be overstated. Kenya […]

Getting Out From Under Parental Alienation Syndrome

Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) is when one parent poisons a minor child’s attitude toward the other parent, usually during or after the dissolution of the parents’ relationship. What PAS amounts to is children being used as pawns in a war between their parents. The biggest loser in this scenario is the child, according to Kathy […]

Replacing “Don’ts” With “Do’s” for Self-Esteem

After last week’s post on name-calling and how it ruins your self-esteem (and possibly other people’s as well), a reader called Multnoma left the following comment:  Ok. I get that I am holding myself back by calling names. Even if only in my head. Or under my breath. But it’s only another item on the […]

Negative Self-Talk: Both Cause and Effect of Injured Self-Esteem

We can be so mean to ourselves. “Who do you think you are?” “Well, THAT was dumb.” “Just shut up right now; you’re making a fool of yourself.” And on and on. Why do we do this to ourselves? It’s learned behavior. No one comes out of the womb thinking, “Geez, I’m such a pathetic […]

It’s Not a Pity Party If You Criticize Yourself

Self-pity has a bad rap. When people confess to me in therapy, “I had a pity party last week,” they’re usually embarrassed about it. They look as if they’re admitting they made a mean face at a baby or threw a plastic cup on the freeway shoulder. Their faces say, “I know I shouldn’t do […]

Just Freaking ASK

I’ve written before about how it never hurts to ask for what you want, but… Since Elizabeth Gilbert is a far better writer than I am, I thought I’d share with you a short article of hers that inspired me this week. It was a timely read for me, because just the other day someone […]