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July 13, 2014
Predictable Sex is Sexy Sunday # 23
Love Me Much & Fuck Me Hard..
Most couples can’t keep their hands off of each other when they’re first dating. And if you’re lucky sex doesn’t have to become predictable after you’ve been in that relationship for a long period of time.
If for some reason you’ve lost the sizzle and now your sex life is barely a drizzle then it’s time to make shit happen. Wake up and say What the fuck because there’s no excuse if both of you are healthy for dull sex. If you want an amazing sex life then it’s up to you and your spouse to make it happen. What happens behind closed doors is no one’s business but your own. If it feels good do it.
I know this because in my home we make sure our sex life is a priority. Sure we have had times when I just couldn’t because of health reasons. But once those health issues were remedied so was our sex life. We have always found a way to make up for lost time, and then some.
I will never understand it when I hear couples complaining about their non existing sex lives. If there’s no sex or you’re only getting it twice a year then it’s time to start communicating. And no one wants the kind of sex that’s over in fifteen minutes or less. But when it does happen that’s when you both need to kick it into overdrive. The only reason for not having a great sex life is for health reasons. Other than that I just don’t get it.
So how do we keep from losing that sizzle? We talk to each other. We get creative. Preferably both of you are looking for new ways to keep the sex from getting hum drum boring. There’s only so many times you can do the missionary position before it’s just downright dull and uneventful. If that’s the case then what’s the sense? There’s no reason for her to run to the bedroom with you following close behind. Or for her to grab you by the hand for a quickie while the kids are out playing. But make sex fun, dirty, exciting, with some laughter thrown in and see what happens.
No one wants predictable bad sex. The good thing is that you can fix bad sex. It’s not that difficult to put yourself and your partner in the mood when the sex is fucking fantastic. And the best thing about being with someone for a long period of time is that you can be yourself. You trust that he or she isn’t going to hurt you. So open up, be playful, and let your inhibitions go.
Talking about having kinky sex will most times start your engines and to do the trick to get you both in the mood. Ask your spouse if they’re willing to try some new sexy stuff. Nine times out of ten they will ask what you have in mind. So be ready to give them an example.
If you still have no idea how to make your sexlife exciting, get on the computer. Sit down together. Punch in how to make sex new and exciting. Remember Orgasms begin in our brains. The power of suggestion is an amazing tool. And tools are what we all need to have great sex.
Experimenting is a great way to find what it is that you like, and what it is that you don’t. Guys I’ve said it before so listen up; Get her a blindfold. This is the best way for her to let her inhibitions go. Make sure you tell her what it is that you’re going to do to her. And remember take it slow. Get some oils and rub them all over her body. Make it all about her and she will reciprocate. Show her what it is that you like. Never make her feel bad for not knowing how to do something.
When was the last time you both watched a porno? Well they’ve changed. They even make them from the women’s point of view. Try NinaHartley.com. Make sure you pay extra attention to your woman. She is not a porn star whose getting paid for that cum shot. She’s your spouse whose willing to watch porn with you. So behave yourself.
And once the sex has commenced it’s time to stop watching the TV. If you don’t she will feel like you’re more into the porn star then her. It’s a girl thing and it’s important to know. Sex is about keeping your woman happy. Foreplay is important! If you can keep her happy in the bedroom, living room, kitchen or garage. She will keep you happy for the rest of your life. Lets face it guys if you can get your woman in the mood for sex and often, then life will be easier for the both of you.
Soon she will be the one that’s trying to surprise you with something kinky. And no matter what it is that she wants to try. do it. If she is willing to try new and exciting things with you, then you had better be prepared when the box arrives from Goodvibes.com/kbid=214397. Or when she brings home a bag of goodies from the adult toy store.
Lets say it’s Wednesday morning and it’s summer so the kids are out of school. Either she’s home with them or she’s at work. Either way now is the time to send her a sexy text message. Tell her how beautiful she is and give her a taste of what you plan on doing to her when you get home. Try; Meet me in the shower at five thirty. Or when I get home I want you all to myself. Can you make that happen?
Keeping your sex life new and exciting is one of the most important things you can do in any relationship. But it takes two. Sure you can have sex by yourself and you should, and often. But having sex or making love to the one person that loves you no matter what is the best feeling in the world.
If you work together your sex life can and will be amazing. Take it from someone who’s been married for thirty years. It’s not that hard to keep the Sizzle in your sex life.
Have a Sexy Sunday. And don’t forget the lube.
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July 11, 2014
Come Here..
I love finding love letters with a hint of kink. This one fits the bill perfectly..
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July 6, 2014
How to have a better Orgasm Part 3: Masturbation technique
Ladies Listen up! This post is for you, how to have a better Orgasm..Enjoy!
Originally posted on Kan Love:
Masturbation is the foundation of sex. It is how we learn about our sexual bodies, our first experience of physical pleasure, and it helps define our sexuality. At is simplest, masturbation is how we practice our orgasm so that when we have a partner, we know what we want and how we want it.
Sharing your orgasm with a partner can be deeply satisfying, and having someone assist you in enhancing your orgasm is the best scenario for partner sex.
So how do you do that?
Masturbate.
Use your hands
Get out your favorite lube, or some quality almond oil, and begin with a genital massage to connect yourself to your sexuality and your sex organ. Bring your fingers to your clitoris and use whatever movements feel good to you. Long strokes, short strokes, circles, slow motions, fast motions and different pressures. There is no wrong way.
Masturbation is a learned process…
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Eleven Rules For Dating is Sexy Sunday #22
Dating and getting naked is so much fun..
I’ve gotten quite a few e-mails from both men and women who are reading my #SexySunday blog post each week. They want to know what I think about dating. There are so many lonely people out there that have broken up with their spouse or have gotten a divorce. So what are they supposed to do on a #SexySunday? How are they supposed to have a #SexySunday when there’s no one to share it with?
There’s nothing like a romantic walk or dance in the rain..
We are all in this sexy world together and starting over is no joke.
So of course I did some research and this is what I found. It’s not as easy as it used to be when trying to find that special someone to go out with. We used to go out with friends to a bar, play some pool, and if you got lucky a great guy or gal walked into your life. Things were easier when I was dating.
Sure we all have friends that are now single and or divorced. And they’re looking for that special someone for some companionship. Someone to go out with on a Friday or Saturday night. Or someone to talk to after a long stressful work week. It’s not fun being alone.
One thing is for sure and that’s most singles have kids. So make sure that the person you’re thinking about dating loves children. Most people who were in a long term relationship find it hard to make that first step into dating again. But that doesn’t mean you can’t hook up with someone for some sexy time.
Or you can try one of those online dating services. There’s a dating sites out there for everyone. Young, old, gay, straight, christian or not, vanilla and Kinky too. No matter what you’re into there is a dating site for you. Punch in dating in 2014 and you will see what I saw. And that’s the top ten or fifteen dating sites. Most are free, but there are a few that charge you a monthly fee.
After reading through them I found that the free sites make you do the same thing as the subscription sites.
They make you fill out a questionnaire. The questionnaire is then sent to some kind of “Specialist.” And they do their best to put couples with similar interest and personalities together. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t. It’s a crap shoot just like anything else nothing is fool proof. And by fool I say be careful. I know two couples that are happily married after finding each other on a dating sites.
There’s eHarmony.com, Matchdot.com, cupid.com Plentyoffish.com, Christiandating.com, kinkydating.com, bdsmdating.com. Seniordating.com. Blackpeoplemeet.com, howaboutwe.com, ourtime.com, and the list goes on and on.
You have nothing to lose by going to one of these sites. They set up a calender of social events. Everything from Dinner and dancing, to opera, Golf outings, and even open air theater.
Why be lonely when you could go out for a couple hours with one of your single friends. I’m sure that laughter is abound at these social events that the sites set up. If a social network is not your thing try taking a walk on the beach. You just never know who you will meet collecting shells. Plus there’s always a beach bar near by for a few cocktails. Get to know the person you are attracted too.
You can always walk into a sports bar or any bar on a Saturday afternoon. Order a beer and open your kindle or iPad to pass the time while you watch a baseball game. It can be a turn on for a man to see a woman whose into at least one sport. I’m pretty shore most women know the rules of baseball. And even if you’re not paying attention and are asked what’s the score it’s posted on the screen.
If you think about it a man or woman asking you a simple question about the score is a pick up line. It’s a way to start a conversation. And having a conversation with someone that seems interested just might get you too your #SexySunday.
Did you know that it’s perfectly alright for a woman these days to have or want a one night stand. Ladies or gents look for a person who has a sense of humor. And everyone wants someone with the ability to listen to anything you might have to say.
And for cripes sake make sure the person trying to pick you up is wearing a decent outfit. At this stage of the game you want to make sure he or she can dress themselves. And ladies make sure he or she shows you some respect.
When you do meet that special someone make sure you talk to them about sex. You want to have an open and honest relationship and your sex life is the best place to start. Most relationships that have broken up complain that the sex was awful. So make sure you get the kind of sex you’ve always wanted. And if you don’t know what that is just yet. Well it’s time to find out, don’t you think.
Here are some rules for dating in the year 2014 but remember rules were meant to be broken and changed. Before you start dating you should have a list of your own rules written down or in your head. Have a check list of the things you want in your new relationship. Don’t settle! This is your new life. And You’re single now, so live the life you’ve always wanted to live.
1) Remember to bring your own condoms. This way if the mood hits you are prepared.
2)If you’re a woman always let someone know where you’re going. If you’re not sure about a situation don’t go. Always use your intuition. It’s there for a reason. Take your own car. This way you can always leave if you don’t feel comfortable.
3) If you are feeling uncomfortable about having sex let the person you’re with know. Like I said there’s nothing wrong with honesty. It’s a sure bet that if your date hasn’t been out much they are nervous too. And laughter is a great ice-breaker, So laugh a lot. If the person you’re with can’t take a joke dump them.
4) If you like this guy/girl and you both feel the situation is right go to a hotel, it’s neutral ground. There’s nothing wrong with having a little fun. And an Orgasm might be just what you need. And a hotel is probably the best place to let loose and make some noise. Everyone whose in that hotel is going to bed. So don’t feel uncomfortable.
When I was first dating my hubby I had him pick me up from the airport after a trip to Florida. We went straight to a hotel and we couldn’t get enough of each other. We heard people laughing in the hallway. And we didn’t skip a beat.
Two hours later these same people were passing by again and that’s when my then boyfriend and I heard them say, “Holy shit They’re still going at it.” Of course by we laughed. They had no idea we had taken a breather and were now on round two. I love thinking about that night. OMG! were we horny.
5)This one is for the ladies. Now a days you have to watch your drinks like a hawk when going to a bar. There are people out there that will drop a roofie into your drink and you won’t know a thing till you wake up in a strange place naked.
Do not take any open bottle or drink of any kind from anyone but the bar tender. I would bring my own sippy cup with lid and straw. If they have a problem with making your drink in that sippy cup ask to speak to the manager. All bars should be using cups with lids by now. The establishment is liable if you get roofied.
6) When you’re out on a date with a new person it’s normal to feel nervous. In fact if those butterfly’s are a good sign that things are going good. Just take a deep breath and have a good time. You’ve probably forgotten what it feels like to start a new relationship.
7) Sex. It’s your sex life. No one can tell you how to act or what’s right or wrong when it comes to your sex life. Just do what comes natural. Let your inhibitions go. What better way to see if you’re both compatible. What’s the worse that could happen, you both start laughing. Or you find out early in the relationship that he or she is not the one. NEXT!
8) Maybe you’ve always wanted to try something new and kinky. How about a shopping spree to an adult toy store. What better way to get to know someone. This way you get to see exactly what your date is made of. Or if you’re even compatible.
Let me just say if he/she offers to purchase you a magic wand and a bottle of lube, hold onto that one. More than likely they know how to treat a woman in bed. If the person you’re dating doesn’t know much about sex but wants to learn that’s also a good sign. You can both experiment together.
Go on the internet together, For woman Punch in cunnilingus and make the guy or gal watch a video. Practice makes perfect. If he or she shy’s away from vibrators or feels threatened by them it’s time for them to GO.
For guys show your new woman or man what it is that you like. There are also video’s on every subject you can think of. We are all entitled to a happy and healthy exciting sex life.
9) Just be yourself. Never settle, and never change for anyone. We all deserve to be loved. And to be treated with respect. The first sign of abuse walk away. Mental abuse is just as bad as physical abuse. Watch how someone spends their money too. It’s one thing to be good with their finances. It’s another to be cheap. If they are making you pay for everything,Run! Respect is a two way street. So are separate bank accounts is a must.
10) If you can’t stop smiling when you hear his or her name, this could be the one. If he/she is responding to your text messages right away that’s a good sign.
11) WARNING SIGNS: Make sure their NOT still married. Just because their not wearing a ring doesn’t mean their not married.
If you can’t get a hold of this person at certain times of the day, ask questions. If there’s excuses when you ask to see their apartment or home their either married or living at home with their mother. Either way dump them.
Anyone who stays with someone who’s married deserves what they get. And if you suspect he or she is married, Leave something like a bra or money clip in their car. If you don’t get it back his or her spouse has it. Can we all say CHEATER!. If they will cheat on their spouse they will cheat on you too. They may say that their spouse is the worst. But there are always two sides to every story. And you don’t need that kind of drama in your life.
When the right one comes along and he or she will and you’ll know it. It could be while your out filling up the car with gas. Or collecting shells on the beach. Even while you’re out walking the dog. You will know when cupid pulls back his bow and hits you both. There’s no mistaking real love. It’s magic. You will be able to dance in the rain and not feel silly. Or walk hand and hand and not be able to get the smiles off your faces.
And when that special someone puts their arms around you and plants that perfect kiss on your lips, Well there’s no better feeling in the world.
Well there is but that’s what Sexy Sunday’s, Magic Monday’s, Tease me Tuesday’s, Whip it out Wednesday’s, Titillating Thursday’s, Fuck me Friday’s, and Suck me silly Saturday’s are for, Lol..
I hope you all have an amazing Sexy Sunday.
And don’t forget the lube..
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July 1, 2014
Blame Nature..not me
We really should be more open today about sex. The more sex education the better is what I think..
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I have been asked countless times why I decided to write about sex among the various topics that has been contemplated by the human brain and I say,’why not?’…after much thought,I keep reaching the conclusion that sex remains one of the most important topics to be discussed and I feel that it is not even talked about as much as it should ,rather humans prefer to perform the action yet shy away from even uttering a single word about it,no wonder the word ‘sex’ has more slang or code names for it than most words in the English vocabulary.
in this part of the world where i was born,the mere mention of sex or any of the genitals might earn you a thunderous slap from an elderly one if you are not lucky or if you are with your peers,then you are instantly branded as loose and promiscuous. Ironically,this has…
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June 29, 2014
Sometimes It’s Not Sexy At All, Sexy Sunday #21
Experiencing life at a rate of Several WTF’s per hour..
I usually have my Sexy Sunday post written no later than Friday. But Life has a way of kicking our ass’s when we least expect it. And not every Sexy Sunday is actually sexy. I have been under major stress lately. And for a woman who lives with chronic pain stress can make my pain levels go through the roof.
So I know you’re asking what the hell does this have to do with Sexy Sunday? Ok I’m getting to that. What I’m trying to say is sometimes just being with the one you love is all you need for a Sexy Sunday. Yea I know where’s the cunnilingus and the orgasms this week Annie?
Well when your mom is about to have her first round of radiation on the 4th anniversary of your dad’s passing Sex is the last thing on your mind. Ok not the last thing but it’s not top priority.
Sure I had sex this week and I absolutely had multiple orgasms. But as the week got closer to the start date for mom’s radiation my mind just shut down to everything sexy.
Yes life has a way of putting a damper on our sex lives. And when these things happen it’s more about just being together than the sex.
Four weeks ago my mom fell and fractured four ribs. We had no idea that day would change our lives forever. I do believe my dad pushed her. But that’s just me. While they were doing the x-rays in the emergency room they found a spot on the lower lobe of her lung. Cancer, Yes it is The C-word that none of us could say until all the test came back two weeks later.
Now this came as a total shock to all of us because my mom had a liver transplant fifteen years ago. The drugs that were supposed to protect her life are the same drugs that have fed the Cancer. Yes anti-rejection drugs give Cancer a free pass to invade the body and go where ever the hell it feels like. Anti-rejection drugs of any kind don’t let your body fight off the bad stuff. So instead of Mom having stage one it traveled to her spine and is now stage four.
Now I know this isn’t the Sexy Sunday post that you’re all used to. I apologize for that. There is absolutely nothing sexy about Cancer. Nor does it make you want to think about or feel sexy in any way. But today as I started to write this Sexy Sunday post my Mom is getting ready for her first radiation treatment tomorrow. The Chemo is coming in the next few weeks but not till she is off the anti-rejection drugs completely. I do thank the angels that Mom had the where with all to start taking herself off of these horrible drugs five years ago. Or this Cancer would have taken over her body a lot sooner. She is down to 2 mg per day. Once she’s off that’s when the real fun begins, Chemo.
I just want you all to hold your loved ones today. Yes go ahead give them a hug. Steal a kiss. Tell them that you love them. And make some plans for the future. Don’t just sit around saying I wish we could do this or that. Start doing them. Make shit happen now. And if your sex life is in the toilet its time to flush those old ways of thinking and start getting what you both want out of life. And that includes your Sex life.
Tell your spouse how beautiful they look today and everyday from here on out. Believe me even with puffy eyes and mood swings that go every which way these days my hubby has been amazing.
I really do feel bad about not writing what I usually write. Next week I will do my best to bring you something a lot more hot and sexy. This week I just had to let you all know what’s going on..and if that makes you get a little closer to your loved ones and or spouse then what I’ve written this week will be worth it.
Hey I have an idea, how about today you all start reading my erotic romance, Lol.. That aut to make up for my sexy Sunday post..There’s a lot of hot kinky sex in that book of mine with added suspense and drama,lol..
All kidding aside, I really do hope you all have a Sexy Sunday..
Oh and don’t forget the lube..
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June 26, 2014
June 22, 2014
Express Yourself is Sexy Sunday # 20
I made it to Sexy Sunday #20. And this week I want to say EXPRESS YOURSELF! If you’re not having mind blowing sex with your partner by now then you have no one to blame but yourself.
Think about it. If you’re having better sex alone then with your partner, It’s Time To Start COMMUNICATING!
Tell your partner what it is that you want, and how you’re both going to get there. That should get your partners attention.
Even If you have to Stop in the middle of that boring stuff you’re now calling sex and say; Hey! what the fuck are we doing? This is NOT the kind of sex I’ve been reading about in Cosmo or on Sex w/Annie’s blog then that’s Ok.
At least you’re talking. But make sure that he or she knows that it’s up to both of you to get your sex life back on the OMG Express.
Don’t just think about it, tell your partner that you want afternoon delights. Say; I want to tingle when you touch me. I want to get wet because you’re talking dirty to me. I want it all. The foreplay, the kink, the laughter, and that afterglow of just having the best sex of my life every time we climax.
And if you still have no idea what Amazing sex is or means then your mind as well as your sex life needs a re-boot. It’s time to start over, make it happen, bring some kind excitement to your humdrum sort of non-existent sexlife.
Start with the kiss. Guys look into her eyes, touch her cheek, sweep her hair off her shoulder then slowly kiss her neck. Oh yes kiss her neck. You do realize by now that the neck drives a woman crazy Right?
Now without loosing eye contact slowly press her up against a wall and spread her legs with your knee. Put her arms above her head. This is where it gets interesting. Tell her in that oh so Sexy voice that all you men have not to move her arms.
Tell her if she does move them that you’re going to put her over your knee and spank her ass while you finger her pussy. She wants you to be the strong dominant man/partner. And if by chance she does put her arms down, watch her face. Watch how she waits for you to take her over your knee. And do it!
Women want that dominant man or woman they’ve been reading about in romance books. They want you to take control, and to have your way with them. Remember to take it slow and don’t lose eye contact. Watch how excited she gets, Now Put your hand down her pants. This is how the real sexcapades start. Ask her if this is what she wants and wait for her answer. If she truly wants your sex life to get better she is going to go along with this scene. And it will open up a whole new world for both of you.
If that’s not going to work for you then why not Ask her to read a few paragraphs from one of those hot sizzling books. She has them in her kindle, and tell her to read them out loud.
We interrupt this Blog post to shameless plug my book, Lol.. Try Second Chances Sammy’s story, On page seven there’s a great sex scene. Or chapter five when Sammy and Jake are on the patio. Shameless plug over.
Watch her squirm as she tries to read a sexy scene to you. She should blush as she tries to get the words out. Don’t take your eyes off of her. Then get up and kiss her. Or re-enact part of that scene she just read to you. Watch her submissive side suddenly appear. Watch as her inhibitions start to disappear.
Women want to feel it all, mind & body. They want to feel special, spoiled, desired, and loved. Tell her how much she turns you on. Tell her what you want to do to her. This starts a chain reaction from the brain to her beautiful flower that’s been waiting to re-bloom. I say re-bloom because you know when you both first met you couldn’t keep your hands off of each other. Well This is how it starts. (some women are naturally wet. That doesn’t mean you can forgo the foreplay) Remember the foreplay is all part of the game.
Think of her pussy as the flower that needs love attention and moisture to flourish. Now get down there and make love to her pussy. And don’t stop till she is moaning and groaning for more. Her pussy will bloom and re-bloom if you give it the kind of attention that it and she needs.
Meaning that if you leave her flower alone she’s never going to want it. But if you give that flower lots of attention then that flower will reward you with sex beyond your wildest dreams. Use it or lose it. GET IT!
Tell her that tonight’s the night you make her cum like she’s never cum before. That it’s all about her. Watch her light up when she realizes that you’re serious. give her an hour to get ready.
And guys, using her magic wand or any vibrator is Ok too. Most women need that extra stimulation for the BIG One. So don’t think there’s something wrong with you if she needs that vibrator. What ever works to get her there will benefit both of you.
With each week of my Sexy Sunday post I have done my best to make all of you see that sex is important in every relationship. That it’s supposed to make you feel on top of the world. Yes you’re both supposed to feel content after the last OMG Yes Leaves your mouth. And Not thinking about putting the clothes in the dryer, or whose going to pick up the kids.
What I’m trying to say is if the SEX is fantastic then your marriage/partnership will flourish. If the passion and intimacy fade then the marriage/partnership will fade too. And If for some reason one of you can’t have actual sex. Then there are ways to keep the love alive. You can still kiss your partner.
We all need to be touched. And ladies you can’t expect to be the only one that needs touch. Men need to be touched too. So learn how to give him the best oral sex you can give. Ask him what he wants and what feels good. Watch a video if you have too. Ninahartley.com has really great advice. Just listen to the way your man moans & groans so that you know he’s enjoying it.
We all need to Change things up a bit as the years go by. You can’t keep doing the same thing over and over again and not expect it to get boring.
Life is short. Show the person that you love just how good the sex can and should be. Sit down and talk about it. Open up, If you can’t look your partner in the eyes and say I want to try this or that then Send them an e-mail. Or write them a note. Have them read my blog and wait to see what they have to say afterward.
But don’t wait one more minute, Start tonight. Get into your bed naked and hold each other. Then see what happens when you start to kiss and touch one another. Look into each others eyes and make a promise that you will both let go and make your sex life amazing once again.
I hope you have a very Sexy Sunday. And don’t forget the Lube..
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June 17, 2014
The Girls Guide To Using Male Sex Toys..
The Girl’s Guide To Using Male Sex Toys
January 23, 2014
By:
Rachel Khona
Our sex expert looks at the ways you and your girlfriend can play in a whole new way.
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When it comes to sex toys, your first thought might be, that’s just for women.
Male sex toys are often seen as a threat to masculinity, or something only gay men use, but from a woman’s perspective, there’s so much more to it than that. From Japanese Tenga silicone masturbators to vibrating cock rings, there are a plethora of fun, male-oriented sex toys that couples can use together. I spoke to five women who have experimented with male sex toys about how and why they enjoying using them with their partners.
Why She Likes It
Lewis and Clark weren’t the only explorers; any woman who is into male sex toys wants to discover your body in all new ways. Just because she’s not physically getting off right then doesn’t mean she can’t enjoy getting you off – as they say, sometimes it’s better to give than to receive. “I enjoy giving pleasure. Using a male sex toy on him gives me the opportunity to potentially increase that,” says Potter, 26. “When I’m using a toy in my hands rather than giving a blow job, I’m able to focus more on exactly what he’s feeling.” Says Dr. Carol Queen, Good Vibrations’ resident sexologist, “Sure, most of us have hands, but they don’t vibrate, and sex toys allow for the kinds of sensation that a guy can’t create on his own or get from a partner. This opens the door to thinking about sex as more than just intercourse, but as a true form of erotic play.” Turning a man to putty in their hands can be a major turn-on for many women, and if she can be the first to push a bunch of all-new sexual buttons, even better. “Most men have never had an orgasm like the one they’ll get from getting their prostate massaged. If I can be in control of that, I’m all for it!” says Abigail, 33.
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Getting Started
“My husband and I wanted to spice up our 15 year marriage,” says Jenne, 49. “I was no stranger to female toys, so we started off using them on him. As male toys became more accessible, we began to incorporate them more.” According to Pamela Doan of renowned NYC sex toy store Babeland, men’s toys sales have nearly doubled since 2010. Still feeling a little antsy about getting started? Try shopping together with your lady. The people working at sex stores are skilled at guiding couples who are new to sex toys. It’s also a great form of mental foreplay. “I got started using male sex toys by simply going to a sex shop with a boyfriend. Going together to browse through sex toys can be fun – and hot!” says Lilith, 20.
Fact vs. Reality
Think using male sex toys is just for gay dudes? Think again. “Sexual pleasure is about where your nerves are,” says sex educator Dr. Charlie Glickman. “After all, it’s not like gay men are born with special nerve endings.” The ladies agree. “The prostate is an amazingly sensitive part of the male anatomy, and wanting to experience the most pleasure from your body is a natural desire,” says Potter. “Using sex toys doesn’t make a man gay. If you’re a hetero man, and you’re with a woman, having sex with her, and she’s using the toy on you or with you, how does that make you gay?” says Abigail, 33. Besides, why should you leave all the fun to the girls? Dr. Kat, clinical sexologist, points out that, “Male sex toys in particular are useful in helping a man take ownership over sex toy use, so that it isn’t all about just female pleasure.” And as an added bonus, they can even improve your health and performance. “Prostate toys can actually promote prostate health,” Dr. Kat continues. “And penis rings can help with mild forms of erectile dysfunction.”
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How to Choose Your Poison
These days, sex stores offer more variety than Baskin Robbins. Before you get overwhelmed with the deluge of choices, narrow it down. “If you’re looking for sensation that is focused on the penis, cock rings and masturbation sleeves are the place to start,” suggests Elena, 21. “I’m an especially big fan of the Super-Soft C-Ring, an extra-stretchy cock ring.” If it’s prostate play you prefer, Jenne recommends the EuphoSyn prostrate massager by Aneros. “I get to control the depth, speed, and length of play time. Taking the control away from him allows him to simply enjoy the experience!” For a twist on the traditional HJ, try a male masturbator like one from Tenga. “It’s a sensation that’s different from a handjob,” says Lilith.
Increase Foreplay and Intimacy
According to psychologist and author of From the Living Room to the Bedroom, Dr. Bill Bercaw, “Using male sex toys can expand a couple’s menu of pleasurable activities, especially in a committed relationship where both partners feel secure and trusting. Since novelty and experimentation are key elements of healthy sexuality, these toys can provide a fun way to keep things interesting.” So not only can you spice things up, sex toys can help you emotionally and physically bond. “I thought adding some sex toys would not only keep things fresh, it would help us grow closer. I saw it as something to enhance our relationship, and I wasn’t proven wrong,” says Potter. Adds Elena, “Sex toys also help to increase time and care spent on foreplay – an aspect of sexuality that sometimes gets sacrificed in long-term relationships.”
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