Annie Edmonds's Blog, page 15
July 30, 2014
I am Submissive, Sexy Sunday # 25
I am Submissive, Sexy Sunday # 25.
Filed under: Adult, adult toys, BDSM, Erotic, Fantasy, Kinky, Let's talk about Sex, Life, Lube, Sex, Sex education, Sexlife, Sexy Sunday Tagged: Adult, communicate, Dom/s, kink, life, love, relationships, Sexy, submissive
July 29, 2014
July 27, 2014
I am Submissive, Sexy Sunday # 25
I am Submissive..
So I’ve been thinking about this post for awhile now. And I’ve come to the conclusion that my readers are ready for this. So here goes.
I posted a picture on my page just yesterday to see what would happen. The caption was Vanilla couples could learn a lot from the BDSM community. And let me tell you a lot of people responded to that post. So this is how I knew it was alright to take my blog up a notch or two.
Vanilla couples could learn a lot from the BDSM community…
I’m not saying being in a vanilla relationship is wrong or that a vanilla sex can’t work. There are lots of people who live vanilla lives. And there sex has been vanilla for years. And for a lot of people this is the norm. It works for their relationship. Or does it?
What I am saying is a Dom/sub relationships have a set behavior with customs, and rules. We don’t take each other for granted. You have two people giving themselves to the other. Both love honor and cherish. But here’s the difference. In a D/s relationship the trust, honesty and communication are a must.
If it’s not there then the relationship won’t work, period end of report. Being true to yourself as well as having your partner being open and honest with you can be, no is truly liberating.
My husband and I have no secrets between us. We have the same bank accounts. The same last name. We know each other inside and out. He takes me as I am and I him. He knows when I’m having a bad day sometimes before I do. We talk about our feelings and needs. And when he’s not his usual happy self I know to sit down with him and talk about what’s going through his head.
When you do this on a daily basis your relationship grows stronger. It can’t help but not grow. And you become one.
We all see so many couples that say they have it all. They’re full of shit. The reason being is they”re not talking about having the actual relationship. They’re talking about material things. The house, the boat, the expensive cars, and the designer duds.
I could live without all those things as long as I have the connection and relationship that I have with my life partner. He truly is the one that knows me best. He gets me better than anyone else. And material things aren’t going to give you that warm and tingly feeling.
Do we argue? You’re damn right we argue. Every couple has arguments. We are individuals. And each of us has our own thought patterns. The difference is he respects my opinions. And I respect his.
When we have a disagreement about something stupid we make sure not to cut deep. I’ve seen this with other couples. It’s mean and hurtful. And sometimes you can’t come back from an argument like that. It’s hard to forget when you are being disrespected. When names are being called you can feel demoralized. I’ve had that kind of relationship. And I was bound and determined to never repeat it.
In a Dominant and submissive or D/s relationship there doesn’t have to be physical contact for couples to connect. Of course there is physical contact but it’s not necessary. There’s a meeting of the minds so to speak. They’re more open and on a daily basis. And the connection can be or is beautiful.
Where as a vanilla relationship communication doesn’t come easy. They don’t work on their relationships. It is what it is. But if you ask any happily married couple that’s been together for a long time. Meaning been in a committed long term relationship of ten years or longer.
They will tell you that it’s a lot of work. And that it takes communication along with an understanding that the other is more important then you are. It’s the only way to have what they have.
In all relationships it’s give and take. But it’s hardly ever fifty/fifty. Most times I would say it’s seventy thirty. And that seventy is usually on the one that takes care of the kids along with their job, and household chores.
Or in my case; I’m the stay at home disabled housewife. My other half takes on more than he has too. But he does it because he loves me. And he doesn’t want to see me struggle. He doesn’t want to see me in any more pain then I have to be in. And he never complains about it either.
Lets face it life gets in the way of our relationships. That’s the same in D/s relationships. But the difference is the connection is never broken. If the sub’s having a bad day the Dom will make sure she opens up and talks about what it is that’s bothering her. We are not left alone with our thoughts for any length of time. And that’s a good thing. No stewing over something that’s really not that big of a deal. Or if it is a big deal, we work on it together. Are in doing that your relationship becomes stronger. Are you doing this in your relationship?
Now most of you are thinking what the hell Annie? Why would I want to be in a relationship where I’m a submissive or a Dominant? If you’ve listened to anything I’ve just said it’s really not about being submissive to your almighty Dom. It’s about working together. Most times women can’t get their man/partner’s to talk about anything. But in a D/s’s world talking is a main ingredient for both.
And I bet you thought BDSM was all about kinky Sex. Well if that’s what you thought you would be wrong. BDSM is a way of life. And more then likely you already know couples that live the lifestyle. But they aren’t open to letting you in on their kinky secret.
Most people don’t realize that the BDSM couple is your neighbor or co-worker. They’re everyday people living their lives just like the rest. But in a D/s relationship the thought of Sexy Sunday starts as soon as they open their eyes on a Sunday morning.
The one thing that’s absolutely different in the BDSM relationship is the sex. This is the couple that’s sexually adventurous and they aren’t afraid to try new things. Most times it’s the Dom or the head of household that might bring something new and exciting into the relationship. This is how it happens in my humble abode. And for the sub that’s me, its the anticipation of knowing that the sex is always going to be passionate and hot.
I never have to worry about my husband/Dom. He makes sure I am satisfied before he is. There is no five minute quickie where he dumps his load rolls over and it’s done. That’s just not what happens in most kinky bedrooms, kitchens, bathrooms, dining rooms or garages. Sure there are times when I’m just not in the mood. The difference is I’m not pushed or made to feel bad about it. My Dom is loving, he cares about my well being. And that’s because we talk about everything.
So there you have it. The jig is up, I am submissive. We are not freaks out at a club every night. We are people just like you. Our way of thinking works for us. And we are mostly happy in our relationships. As with every couple not one is more perfect then the next. But as you all know I’ve been with my husband or Dom for thirty years.
We did the vanilla. And when it got boring it was my Dom who spiced up our sex lives. We’ve always had the connection and the communication. But now we have so much more. I only wish we did it sooner. Cause it just keeps getting better. I hope you all have a #SexySunday. And don’t forget the lube..
http://www.goodvibes.com/kbid=214397
http://www.fetlife.com, for more information on the BDSM lifestyle.
Pingback;http://www.marsocialauthorbusinessenhancementeroticromance. wordpress.com
Filed under: Adult, BDSM, Erotic, Kinky, Let's talk about Sex, Living life, Love, Lube, Relationship, Sex, Sex education, Sexlife, Sexy Stuff, Sexy Sunday, Uncategorized Tagged: Adult, BDSM, Blogging, communication, couples, D/s, desire, dominant, erotic, excitement, Fun, Honesty, life, love, lube, marriage, One, Partner, Pleasure, respect, Sexy, submissive, Trust, Vanilla
July 26, 2014
Vanilla Couples Could Learn A Lot From the BDSM Community…
Vanilla couples could learn a lot from the BDSM community..
What do you think?
Do you know what BDSM is?
Do you think it’s all kinky sex?
Do you want to know?
Filed under: Adult, BDSM, Erotic, Fantasy, Kink, Kinky, Let's talk about Sex, Living life, Relationship, Sex, Sex education, Sexlife, Sexy Stuff Tagged: Adult, BDSM, beauty, community, couples, desire, erotic, kink, learn, life, love, safewords, Sex, sex education, Sexy, Vanilla
July 23, 2014
A Simple Philosophy…
Ahahaha..Any Questions?
Filed under: Adult, Erotic, Kink, Kinky, Let's talk about Sex, Living life, Love, Relationship, Sex, Sexlife, Sexy Stuff Tagged: Adult, desire, Goodvibes, hot, itch, kink, lube, Orgasm, Philosophy, Pleasure, relationships, scratch, Sexy
July 20, 2014
Communication Equals Sex, Sexy Sunday # 24
As I’ve expressed in most of my Sexy Sunday post Communication is a must for all relationships. If you can’t communicate then how will you know what your partner is feeling. Or if he or she is content in your relationship?
Life isn’t always a bed of roses. If you really want a relationship that’s going to last a lifetime you have to know what the other is thinking. And they have to know what you’re thinking. There are no mind readers in the real world.
In the real world in order for two people to live under the same roof someone has to talk about what’s going on. A text or e-mail is going to do it.
I posted a wonderfully informative post from An Emerging Dom late last night. And what he is saying only strengthens my theory about communication.
Lovers want to please their partners he says. And in order for that to happen you have to talk about sex. You have to talk about life. Otherwise feelings get hurt. When true partners engage in conversation they get to know each other. That shouldn’t stop just because you’ve moved in together, or signed a marriage license.
I’ve seen to many marriages fall apart because there was no communication. Sure they might say they loved one another. But if they didn’t bother to mention it while they were together then how is the relationship supposed to flourish.
Relationships can only grow when two people are in sync. In other words if you aren’t in sync with each other then you can’t have a harmonious relationship. And if you aren’t in sync your sex life will be either non existent. Or just plain dull and boring.
Communication is how you get to know the other person inside and out. Do you know your spouses favorite color or favorite foods? How about their favorite sexual position? If you don’t know these three things then it’s about time you find out. Do you have any idea what turns your spouse on? Or can you turn them on with a touch, or by giving them a simple look?
When you decided to take your relationship to the next level you must have thought about what your life was going to be like down the road. Having thoughts about your relationship is one thing. But talking those thoughts out with the one person you profess to love is the only way to make those thoughts a reality.
Today while your out and about take your spouse in your arms. Look them in the eyes. And start a conversation where the other has to actually tell what they are thinking.
If all goes well you should wind up talking about sex. And it’s in these kinds of intimate conversations that you will find things about your spouse that will surprise you.
Watch each other. Try your best to keep eye contact. Pick a sexy subject like fantasies to talk about. Watch her blush.
In my thirty year relationship with my Sir he can still make me blush. And he says it’s a turn on. He watches my every move and I can’t help but giggle. Even after all these years I still get nervous when we talk about sex.
I’ve written an erotic romance. Talked about my private life in my blog post. But when I talk face to face with the one man that knows me the best I can’t help those feelings that come to the surface. I can tell by the smirk on his face that he loves teasing me. And I enjoy these conversations. I enjoy the laughter. These are the things that bring us closer then I ever thought possible.
I love that he knows me so well. And that I can turn him on by simply blushing. If you can still catch your woman or man off guard with a simple question about sex then your relationship has a good chance of making it.
Just keep talking. Keep those lines of communication open. And it’s Ok to send a sexy text messages to your spouse. Just don’t let that be the only way you communicate. If you can’t look each other in the eyes every day and tell them how much you love them then you have work to do.
Now go have a Sexy Sunday. Make it count. Life is short but love is grande. And sex can be amazing when you’re with the one person who knows you best.
Oh and Don’t forget the lube…
http://www.goodvibes.com/kbid=214397
Filed under: Adult, blogging, Erotic, Fantasy, Goodvibes, Let's talk about Sex, Living life, Lube, Relationship, Romance, Sex, Sex education, Sexlife, Sexy Stuff, Sexy Sunday Tagged: Adult, communication, couples, Goodvibes, Laughter, life, love, lube, marriage, Orgasm, Pleasure, romance, Sex, Sexy, Sexy Sunday, talk
Open Wide
When was the last time you gave your man’s member some attention..
Originally posted on Sex, Love and Desire:
Last week I posted on pleasuring a woman with oral sex and this week I thought that I would turn to the oral sex for men. I’ve already written on giving head several times, but as with all sex, if you keep trying different things, it just gets better and more interesting, so I’ll tell you about a few new techniques I have found out over the last few months.
After Tom had given me a particularly good orgasm one day, I decided to return the favour by giving him a blow job. As I’ve said previously, sometimes just having oral sex is better than penetrative sex as it means that you concentrate fully on the other person for the session. Tom and I were lying in bed after showering one evening and I wanted to treat him. I kissed him deeply before moving down his body, kissing his chest…
View original 727 more words
Filed under: Uncategorized
July 19, 2014
A Review for Second Chances : Sammy’s Story
A Review for Second Chances : Sammy’s Story.
Filed under: Adult, BDSM, Books, Authors, and writing stories, poetry. Guest authors and such, Erotic, Kink, Relationship, Second Chance Series, Sex Tagged: Adult, Authors, BDSM, book trailer, desire, Dom/s, dominant, erotic, erotic romance, excitement, hot, kink, Laughter, life, OMG!, Pleasure, SSC, submissive
:: submissive emotions
It’s what all relationships should be doing. But it absolutely necessary with a Dom/s relationship.
Originally posted on AN EMERGING DOM:
Don’t misunderstand me, I’m a man – and at the end of the day, I can only talk from my experience and speculations about emotions. But it’s worth discussing, even if it is incomplete.
A woman’s emotions can seem like they are all over the place at times. Especially, if we are not communicating, or something is amiss. Add in a D/s angle, and things can become tricky.
Lovers want to please their partner, but in most relationships it seems that sex is something that isn’t really discussed – it is something that is experienced and accepted…I hope that makes sense.
In a D/s relationship, sex is talked bout upfront, during, and afterwards. In fact – everything erotic is talked bout. It’s not something we “just do”. Hopes, dreams, longings, desires, goals are discussed. Directions are given. There is lead and follow.
In this level of active communication about something…
View original 309 more words
Filed under: Uncategorized
July 18, 2014
Reviews, Goodvibes Sexy Toys and Things…
Goodvibes Pleasurette mini aqua vibrato
I am now a Goodvibes affiliate. And that means Goodvibes will be sending me monthly toys. I have no idea what they will be sending me. I filled out a questionnaire. And told my secret Goodvibes Santa, whose name is Andy what it was I was willing to review.
So it’s like getting a kinky present sent to me by the naughty Santa each month.
My job is to use these adult toys, vibrators, lotions and everything in between and write an honest review.
How fun is this going to be? Yea you guessed it. Lots of fun for me and my other half.
I figure someone’s got to do it. And it might as well be me and my Sir.
Now for the review system. Bare with me while I figure this out. I really wanted boobs or nipples. But I can’t find a way to post those pesky little emoticons on my blog. So for now the rating system will have to be hearts. It was either hearts or smiley’s. And I don’t think smiley’s on a Sexy blog review makes the cut.
So for now it’s one heart for; What the hell were they thinking while making this product? It’s awful.
And five for; OMG! I can’t get enough of this amazing product. .
My first review is for a mini vibrator sent to me by Goodvibes.com/kbid=214397. It’s called a Pleasurette. And I have to admit that this was on my favorites list as well as the list I sent to Andy.
When the package arrived I couldn’t open it fast enough. I wanted to see what it was Goodvibes.com and Andy had sent me. I saw that it was the aqua colored Pleasurette that I wanted. That put me over the edge with joy.
So now let me tell you a little about this perfect mini vibe they call Pleasurette.
The pleasurette is only $20.00. And Pleasurette is a perfect name for a mini vibe that packs such a powerful punch.
I’m impressed with the Pleasurette. It’s nice and smooth and comes in three vibrant colors, fuchsia, aqua and purple. It’s also waterproof. Although I haven’t tried it in the bathtub yet, I did have it in the shower and it’s still working.
It’s three and half inches long. So it can go in your purse or his pocket. The Goodvibes.com Pleasurette takes only one triple AAA battery. And that’s a major plus. It means No watch batteries to hunt for.
With three speeds I was curious if this mini vibe could do the trick and get me off. So I clicked the top with one hand and the buzzing was nice, but not strong enough for me. I clicked again and the second setting was a stronger. For someone that’s not used to vibrators this second click should do the trick. But for me who’s used to the strong vibes of my magic wand it wasn’t strong enough.
What surprised me was the third and final click. Ahh yea that’s where this Pleasurette gets it’s name. This made me smile. Sure it took a little longer to get me off. But I was content with myself and not going anywhere anyway.
I decided to rip open one of the packets of Please cream lube and get this party started. I’ve never used a cream lube before.
Surprisingly it wasn’t sticky. The consistency stayed slippery. I Spread it on my glass dildo. Then some on my pussy. As the mini vibe Pleasurette buzzed I twisted the dildo in and out. Sure enough it didn’t take long for Blast off. “Oh Ahh, Yes!”
I think this is one vibrator that all women should have in their toy chest. Weather you’re a beginner or a you know your way around a vibrator’s. And especially if you’re a woman that hasn’t bought a vibrator since a fuckaware party back in the nineties. This is the one to start with while you restock that toy chest.
I am in love with my new mini Pleasurette vibrator. I wouldn’t change a thing. I also love that I can throw it in my purse for when the mood strikes. Have an orgasm any time of the day is a great stress reliever,lol.
The manufacturer says good things come in small packages. And I have to agree.
The Pleasurette gets my first five heart review. .
As for the Please cream lube;
It’s made in the U.S..
It’s all natural, no glycerin or animal products. Which means it’s pussy friendly.
Please is perfect for silicone toys.
Long lasting with no sticky mess.
Smooth, silky, slick with no scent.
And no irritation that I can see or feel.
And the packaging is made from recycled materials.
What else can I say? This lube was truly amazing.
Please cream lubricant gets five hearts. .
Goodvibes.com sent me two other packets of the Please Lube. I will let you all know how the gel, and liquid are in the next review. But if the Please cream lube is any indication I have a feeling I’m going to love them too.
Stay tuned for more reviews of http://www.Goodvibes.com/kbid=214397 products.
Filed under: Adult, adult toys, Erotic, Goodvibes, Living life, Lube, Pussy, Sex, Sex education, Sex Toy Review, Sexlife, Sexy Stuff Tagged: Adult, Ahh, bullets, Creamy, dildo, dildos, excitement, from BDSM to message, glass, Goodvibes, kinky, life, lube, masturbation, mini vibe, OMG!, Orgasm, Please, Pleasure, pussy, Reviews, Sex, toys, vibrators
