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The Fearless Pursuit Of What You Love

Let me start by saying this – you’re never going to be completely unafraid. 

It just doesn’t happen. If you’re doing something outside of your comfort zone, you’re going to have some fear there.  In fact, it’s probably a good thing that you have that fear there because it can keep you incredibly sharp if you know how to get those butterflies in your stomach to fly all in the same direction.

The presence of that fear gives you the ability to put forward courage. To me, courage has always been the ability to act in the face of fear.

Sometimes those decisions are seen by others. Most of the time, it’s just ourselves who in the darkness get to decide which way to go. Those, are truly the courageous choices that keep us moving forward in life.

I’ve done both.

I’ve cowered in the darkness pulling the covers over my head not wanting to make decisions.

I’ve stepped into moments with courage even though the world seemed to be falling apart around me.

These moments define me, one just as much as the next, and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

I’ve been on the fringe for a while now. I’ve been in an interesting place where there’s been this calling for innovation in what I’m doing and to start creating new things that haven’t truly existed in The Better Man Project before. It’s about evolution right now.

The only tough part for me in all of this is that I have a handful of awesome ideas of what to do, and to be honest I just go…”woof that looks like a ton of work.”

I think more than anything – brutal honesty here again – I’ve just been avoiding all of that work loving where I am right now because it’s comfortable. Yep. I said it. I’m comfortable. But then again, internally, I’m not comfortable at all.

I’m not comfortable with not letting this evolve. I know all of the ways I want it to grow and have come across some things lately that are really going to help me push forward…but damn it can be difficult at times to head back into the ring when you just spent years working your tail off to get to where you are now.

But I have to. I have to because it’s going to take everything I’m doing and go from 100 to 200 real quick.

This isn’t a blog post about being completely fearless.

It’s a piece about what it truly means to be attacking all of this stuff. Like any good General would know, there are times for offense, defense, and stalling (+many more tactics). I myself have been hatching plans for a long time while maintaining the current atmosphere of my work. In one way, I think that’s a tactic that’s very useful. But when that intuition starts to ride on you telling you it’s time to finally go on the offensive, you can’t really have much of a sense of indecision about it.

 

Let’s take surfing for example – something I’m learning a ton about every single day I’m in the water.

When a wave is coming, you have to commit. I mean really commit. Because if you don’t commit fully to the wave or you start hesitating once you catch it, you’re going to eat it like it’s no ones business.

And trust me, I’ve eaten it a ton over the past few weeks.

But that teaches you the power of commitment.

There’s also a major sense of trust. If you start looking down when you catch a wave, you’re screwed. Because, where your eyes go, your body goes. Look down…guess where you’re going? Pearl diving.

There are thousands of reasons in life to get scared and do a metaphorical “look down” at all of the things that could rip the rug out from under you. But more importantly, you have to learn how to keep your head up and look towards the horizon and trust that your feet are going to take you there.

If you do that, you ride that wave perfectly.

Surfing has taught me more things in the past three weeks than anything else. From that feeling of catching your first big wave to what it’s like to get absolutely pounded by a set and dive under the water 6 – 8 times learning how to not panic as water races over you.

It’s about staying calm. It’s about learning to trust. It’s about commitment to something that when you start, you’re absolutely terrible at.

My definition of someone who is fearless is not someone who is always locked in ready to go and knocking everything out of the park. No, it’s that person who tries and tries and continues going for it no matter what.

That person I want on my team.

Because that person knows failure and what it’s like to get back into the ring for another round. I will take that person over the other person who seems to get everything right all the time. Courage lives in the standing back up.

That’s what I’m trying to do right now. That’s what I’ve always done.

-Evan Sanders

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The Gates Of Your Dreams & The Dues You Must Pay

You’re never going to be ready.

That moment that you think is coming where you’re going to go “Ah okay now I’m ready to do this” well, it never comes. You’re never really ready. Especially with the big things. Love. Adventure. Goals. You just never really feel fully ready to do it. If you’re lucky, you might feel 75% ready.

And that’s even a stretch at its best.

I remember my dad telling me that success in life really comes down to just being a little bit more excited about things happening that afraid. It’s of course a sliding scale, but you have to also look at the fact that you’re always going to have fear there and you’re always going to have excitement as well. It’s wonderful that you have both things.

But which do you focus on? Because all of the energy you put into something going wrong, well, you’re probably going to get that.

As I’ve gone throughout my own journey, I’m starting to think that the greatest things you can enjoy in life are designed to be granted in a specific way.

Why?

Time and time I’ve seen this gate that doesn’t really exist in the physical sense but acts more of a mirage.

Each of us can pass through it, but the $ you have to put in is this thing called “risk.” And risk, well, that’s scary as shit sometimes to be brutally honest.

What happens with most? They get stuck outside the gate. Why? Because they are too afraid to go for it or they’ve been hurt before…simply put they are afraid to risk again because of what “might” happen. What “might happen” is absolutely deadly if you let it run off in your mind. You will concoct all sorts of scenarios – 99% of them never even likely to happen and then you’re going to be stuck in a world full of indecision and regret.

Ugh and regret is the worst thing in the world.

But you become something entirely different when you put in the coin of risk and decide to walk into the unknown. Those gates open up right in front of you and you get to walk into a bank of fog where you can hardly see in front of you. More fear? Oh you bet.

Will you fail? Yes of course you will. Absolutely. But that’s also part of the design. Because when you fail doing something you’ve never done, you grow. You grow because you gain experience and out of all of the things this world has to offer, actually having firsthand experience is pretty much one of the most valuable assets to have.

So you keep doing that over and over again and you keep growing.

But again, what happens with most?

They see the failure as a judgement on them and they stop putting in that coin of risk – therefore stuck outside that gate again.

But the people with the biggest smiles, the greatest stories to tell, the deepest love and the greatest life embrace failure and risk…and toss aside what might happen and focus on what amazing things could happen. And what do they find? That it’s usually 100x better when they arrive where they were meant to be.  They find that they could never have predicted how amazing it actually is. They start to see the value in all of the failures and take those lessons into their next endeavors. But most of all, they know the worth of standing at that gate of risk again…and putting in their dues.

So be brave. Dance in the unknown. You will change in amazing ways.

That’s the magic of life.

-Evan Sanders

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Taking On Giants

When I started this, I wasn’t sure what it was going to become.

I didn’t know that this project would take on a life of its own, morph me and shape me in the ways that it did, be as challenging as it has been at times and land me right here.

I could never have predicted that at the age of 27 I would be traveling the world – as free as could be – finding a passion at 27 and feeling myself become unlocked in ways that I could only really understand and never explain to anyone else.

At times, this has been very very hard on me.

I’ve always said that I’ve been blessed and cursed at the same time with feeling so deeply and experiencing so much. On one hand caring so much gives you so much happiness and life but when things happen they inevitably yank on your heart strings and you’re feeling it for a while.

But it’s not worth it to live scared of that.

Because honestly, if I’ve learned anything, that’s going to happen anyways. It’s all fluid. It’s all cyclical. Things are going to change and if you come to accept that you actually will stay out of the pain a lot longer because you’re not suffering over what should have happened. 

It just happened. And if you want to take it to another level, it happened the way it needed to happen and not the way you wanted it to. There’s value in that experience.

I’ve found that for me, there’s an interesting balancing act between getting what I want and truly getting what I need. Most of the time, I get what I need. But that’s never really been a bad thin when I look into it. It has been something that has served me time and time again. It has, like I said before, morphed me into the person I am today.

I often think back to who I was before all of this began and only really come up with one word – lost.

To be honest, I never really was this introspective and didn’t really think much about my actions or my place in the world. I was just there. Functioning. Chasing a dream (that hasn’t changed) but not really being able to see the big picture. Nothing much else mattered to me because I was so consumed by the things that were going on around me.

And yet now, I’m facing this giant.

This hurdle I know that I have to get over.

It’s a hurdle that is going to give life to the next stage of all of this. The hurdle of bringing pure consistency to the table every single day. Not consistency for the sake of production, but consistency for the sake of truly being able to give whatever gifts I have in me on a daily basis to which I know I am capable.

So for the next three months, I am going to hammer away at that every single day. There, my intention is out in the universe and I can’t take it back.

One step at a time.

One rep at a time.

One wave at a time.

One expression at a time.

-Evan Sanders

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And I Can Change The Story

There are some stories that I have kept close to my chest throughout the years.

Some that I really just knew that they would be better off not being out there or that they were somehow safer just with me. I guess I wasn’t ready to tell those stories or really come to do something about them. When I tell them and speak them into existence, they change.

They change because whenever I write something down my heart ends up going to work on it.

This experience of having moved away for the past three months has been an experience of a lifetime so far. I’ve learned more about myself than I thought I ever would, completely understand what it means to me to be fully on my own and I’ve faced some interesting challenges along the way.

But there’s been a conversation that’s been going on inside of me for about a year now. It’s October again, and it seems that every single October for the past couple of years has been the time that I’ve gone through some sort of significant transformation. A couple of years ago it was finally starting a journey that I had been trying to start my entire life. Last year it was actually watching that journey merge into reality.

However, something felt very off about everything that happened last year. The aftermath of everything that happened after my photo shoot (which don’t get me wrong was incredible) was pretty much one of the most brutal time periods I’ve ever gone through. November, December, January wrenched my soul and I limped through February and the months after. It was only until Spring that I really started picking myself up again.

That black cloud that hung over this time period made me feel like I had missed something.

That somehow whatever I had done wasn’t complete or ready to have the book completely closed.

I felt like I wanted redemption. 

Another try at it. Another go at this thing that had driven a lot of my life and built me from the ground up. It was the heart calling again. It was calling me to dive in just one last time.

Another part of me thinks I’m absolutely nuts for doing it. ‘Wait didn’t you do everything you had set out to do?’

On paper – yes.

But in my heart – no.

I don’t feel complete with it and that’s how I know I have to go into it again. Once more into the fray. One more fight.

This is one piece to the story that’s going on right now.

For years since competitive sports ended, I haven’t had an outlet for this deep sense of competitiveness that is buried inside of me. That chord had been unplugged for a long time but the moment I took up surfing, mustered up the guts to go out into the bigger waves and landed my first 5-7ft wave that chord simply jacked right back in.

Zap.

I had the bug again. Little did I know that the next few days would be some of the more challenging days of learning as I attempted to get into big wave after big wave only to be torn to bits time after time and really having to start working with some commitment to the wave fear.

If you slow up. If you lean back. If you don’t time it right…you’re going to wipeout.

What didn’t make it easier was unknowingly being overenthusiastic next to a local and him getting pretty upset about me being out there in the first place. That was fun. While he did have a few great points – after I dove into a handful of articles on the unwritten rules of surfing – he didn’t have to try to tear me down.

I know I’m not that good. But I am going for it. I am making efforts. And if anything, I’m failing valiantly.

But there’s something to be said about this process. A couple of weeks ago I was just trying to get up in the whitewater. Now I’m actually paddling for bigger waves that offer a great deal of punishment when you don’t quite get it right. Once I land it properly, I am off to the races.

It’s hard to be a beginner again. But the process is worth it. The hundreds of times you fail is worth that one time you really nail it. That feeling is a thrill of a lifetime. This process of taking on this completely new sport with absolutely no experience whatsoever at 27 is one of the hardest and yet most fun things I’ve done in a long long time. So much fun that it has changed my story in terms of how I want to write the remainder of this trip.

In fact, it paved part of a path that will probably extend all the way throughout my life.

I want to be that old guy still out there doing it. But it has also slowed me down. While the competitive side comes out, there’s also something about just being out in the water sitting on your board relaxing and having fun. There’s something about talking to the guys around you, rooting them on into waves and going for it when it’s your turn. I know I’m just starting, but I also know that it’s going to be something I want to get good at.

So I’ll just try to get better and better every day.

Things are changing once again for me this winter.

It seems like every 3 months there are great shifts. I’ve heard that people often change with the seasons. While these past few months have been fun, they have also been a learning process. More than anything though, they’ve been an opportunity for me to really understand what I want to do with myself.

I struggled with developing a vision for a long time because I couldn’t exactly see where the balance was in my personal life in regards to what I was doing for fun. To me, being in the water is self nourishing. It balances me out. Even if I eat it a ton I am still happy. There’s something to be said for that. There’s something to be said about having fun and enjoying the process even though you’re not having your best day.

Maybe this is the countless years of sports talking in me again. Or maybe this is just the enthusiasm coming out of me.

I believe I can.

So I will.

-Evan Sanders

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If Anything, It’s In The Pursuit

At times I haven’t really been sure of what I’m doing.

Maybe more than just times. Maybe a hell of a lot of the time.

But things seem to be forming lately that just make sense. Yesterday I mustered up the courage to paddle out into the lineup where all the locals go to surf the bigger waves. I went for it. I talked myself through it. I paddled like all hell to catch the first big one I saw and caught it and it was like everything became second nature.

The world seemed to just melt into the water around me and I disappeared into this intense feeling of joy.

Bliss.

It was in that moment I knew that I wanted to do this forever.

There have been many different routes I have taken throughout the years. Part of me feels like I’m 100 years old writing that last sentence. But truly, this past 5-6 years of building awareness and chasing after my dreams hasn’t been feeling like the shortest amount of time. It feels like a long time ago when I just began.

I can see myself writing at the desk in my college dorm room.

I remember the feeling around those days. Pain. Indescribable amounts of pain.

And since that time, there have been many more pains. But the majority of the time I’ve found myself venturing deep into the woods…off the beaten path…discovering what is meant for me and ignoring the paths other people are taking.

I watch and see what others are doing for ideas, but never try to compare myself to what they are doing and try to copy that.

I’m really only interested in doing my own thing.

To be honest the biggest thing I’m struggling with right now is ironing out my consistency. I’ve been blogging more. I’ve been video blogging like none other. I’ve been creating a lot more than I ever have. I guess I’m just falling into the groove of making it work.

I’m finding my balancing act.

I’m walking across that bridge and gearing up for what’s in the clearing of the woods.

But what I can tell you about my life right now is that I’m more at peace than I’ve ever been. Even during those days I’m getting absolutely rocked by waves, I’m having fun. I’m enjoying life. I’m smiling a lot.

-Evan Sanders

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Staying In The Pocket

Try try try try again and again until all of the attempts don’t matter anymore…and then keep going.

Stay in the pocket.

Stay in the pocket.

I’ve never written about this but it has become something I keep telling myself.

Imagine being a quarterback when there’s a blitz coming. The pressure is heavy. You are trusting your linemen to create that pocket for you and you stay in the because that’s the only room you have. You don’t have anywhere else to go but that pocket of space.

And that’s enough…if you stay in there. Because you try to run out of it you’re going to get knocked senseless.

Why do I keep telling myself this?

Because when things get rough or challenging, I’m telling myself to stay in there rather than try to disappear and run off. When I’m being challenged in the outside world, and that negative voice starts spouting off, I just keep telling myself to stay in there and keep going.

Don’t quit.

Keep it up.

Keep going.

Nothing has challenged me more lately than surfing these past few weeks. But as time has gone on, and I get more and more reps underneath my feet, I am slowly but surely getting better and better. I’m standing up more. I’m keeping better form. All I have to do is keep going. All I have to do is stay in that pocket and keep the right attitude.

There’s something about taking on a brand new thing that reveals your character. I truly believe this. Especially when you’re a bit older you’re going to deal with all sorts of crap that younger kids don’t deal with as much. Sure everyone gets discouraged, but think about how many stories you have built up over the years that you’re going to have to work through. It’s insane.

Things lately haven’t been the easiest. But I think that’s the point. My plans are changing. My dreams are changing. I’ve found something I truly love and I am diving in head first all the time.

I’m just happier.

Happier in the challenge, knowing that if I continue down the road I’m on I’m going to be more than fine.

Whatever happens next, you know that I’m going to be sticking to that pocket.

-Evan Sanders

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Stay In Your Magic

Momentum.

It’s amazing how easily you can be thrown off of your path sometimes. Maybe it’s not even being thrown off of the path, but you just find yourself stuck in a place for what seems like all too long and don’t know how to get out of it.

For a long time I always wondered what it really was that knocked me loose from that stuck position. A moment of insight? Was it a spark? Or was it me finally pushing myself with a verbal commitment that no matter what I’m going to make something happen?

At times it has been hard to tell. But as the years have gone on I have found myself from time to time stuck in a rut not knowing which way to go.

It’s not the worst thing in the world. But eventually I knew I had to get out of it.

The past few months traveling has been an experience that’s been incredibly eye opening for me. I love seeing new places. But most of all, I have never felt this much at peace.

That wasn’t always the case though. Throughout the first couple of months there was this really big unsettling feeling. I didn’t really understand what was so unsettling but it soon became apparent that I wasn’t doing what I knew I could be doing.

I was settling for less than I knew I was capable of.

That, was killing me inside.

There are a lot of reasons to fall out of your magic. But the one thing that keeps me going is realizing that I really don’t have that much time here. In a flash it will all go by and I can really feel something inside of me when I waste my time. I feel this sense of anxiety when I don’t put forward what I have been called to do. It’s not an insecure anxiety about not working all the time – I love to go out and play and have fun – but it’s rather an anxiety about not doing what I love doing. Not writing. Not taping videos. Not doing what I was meant here to do.

It’s an unsettling feeling that keeps me moving forward and evolving. I don’t want to get done with all of this realizing I didn’t do what I knew I should have done.

So I’ve kicked my body back into gear.

I’ve started writing again.

I’ve started creating again.

And I’ve really looked at my life and how I spend my time and readjusted to make more time for the things that matter and make less time for the things that don’t.

Big changes are happening and that’s where I feel at home.

Being here across the ocean from the place I grew up has brought some interesting things up in my mind. I’ve had to do a lot of work with letting some things go from the past that I was still holding onto. Sometimes I didn’t even know I was holding onto them still they just popped up. Woah. But it makes perfect sense to me. There were events that happened that were so significant I feel like they really put marks into me and are going to take some time to heal.

And that’s okay.

It’s okay to be confronted by something unexpectedly and realize that you have to spend some time with it. In the past I probably would have tried to run from it like all hell. But now, I think things have changed. I get more curious. I try to understand why. I also don’t treat myself like some impregnable force that’s immune to bad things happening.

That’s far from the reality.

I’ve been sitting in some uncertainty lately. The uncertainty has revolved around which moves I make next. Where to go? I see opportunities for what can happen and I just wonder at times if it’s right. That can be solved in a few different ways but I really do want to stay open to the right thing happening.

Trust.

Trust in the process and the answers coming to life.

Without trust, there’s nothing.

-Evan Sanders

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What The World Really Needs

“The world needs better men.”

Those were the exact words that started The Better Man Project about 6 years ago.

When I began, I was really only thinking about myself becoming a better man and the lessons I was learning along the way. It wasn’t out of selfishness, but rather an attempt to really become a better person because I didn’t like the way I was going. I didn’t like what I was doing. I didn’t like who I was becoming. But most of all, I knew that I was capable of much more than what I was up to at that time.

So a lost kid dove into his fears and started to learn about himself for the first time.

I’m writing this post today because somewhere along the line I lost that mission. Well, maybe not lost, but I disconnected from this process. Sometimes days to weeks would go by throughout the project (after that initial 30 days straight). Once in a while I would get “hot” with hundreds of posts in a row and then slow down. I never really understood why, but there were times where I just really didn’t want to write at all.

I didn’t feel compelled to put the pen to the paper or my fingers to the keys. If I’m being honest with myself, it was more out of laziness than it was out of not having anything to say.

I always have something to say. There’s always something being learned. I’m always experiencing things throughout the day that I really should be writing but I just didn’t.

And that’s on me. I didn’t do what I knew I should be doing. Maybe it was out of personal stubbornness? God only knows. But I know what I have to do now in order to carry on feeling comfortable with my decisions and this project.

A long time ago, I committed to writing until the day I die. I think that fundamental commitment will never change. But as time goes on I and I start seeing what the potential of all of this is, I really understand that I have to be siting down here every single day and speaking what’s in my heart.

Today, what was in my heart was a honest moment of renewed commitment.

I’ve had my ups and downs throughout the years and always been willing to take the next step with the things I am doing as well as dive farther and farther into myself. But deep down I always knew I was capable of more. Maybe it’s like an athlete after winning a championship who wants to get better for the next year and take on another championship? I clearly feel that competitive drive within my bones. Funny thing is I no longer compete against other people but rather against myself and what I’m capable of.

The world needs better men. 

Many are confused by the name The Better Man Project and wonder why I have about 60% female fans. When I speak about all of these things going on in my life, I don’t really think this is about Man but rather mankind. Male. Female. Doesn’t matter who you are I think you could get something from what I’m saying here.

What started out as something about myself as a man really turned into just about people in general. It’s about the emotions we all feel and we are all connected to rather than the situations that keep up separated. We can all connect around having the same feelings. We are all distanced when we try to look for similarities in things that have happened to us because we are all so different.

We need more people in this world who are willing to speak their heart, be vulnerable, be willing to take risks and step into the challenges that face human beings.

There will always be negativity. That’s never going away. But I think we could use a hell of a lot more people who aren’t willing to negotiate with negativity and stay true to a positive north.

We need more people who are willing to take a stand for what they believe in and get behind it 100%.

This is my effort.

Today is my recommitment to that idea. I’ve been doing it in many different ways throughout the years but really am getting back to the roots of all of this. This is what I believe in and this is who I am down at my core.

Time to grow again.

-Evan Sanders

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The Big Pause

You never know when it’s going to hit you.

It just shows up. It just knocks the wind out of you and puts you right where you need to be. I had some interesting feelings about the first two months of this journey, but as soon as I landed in Ericeira, Portugal and dove into the water the first day of being here on my own, I knew that what I had been looking for all that time had collided with me.

I realize that over the past few years, there wasn’t really something I did for fun.

My fitness journey was fun, but that was brutal on the mind and the body. Exploring was fun. Weekend trips were fun. But I never really had my “thing” ever since sports ended for me. Even baseball stopped being fun at the end when injuries kept lining up making me step farther and farther back from my dream.

The last few days of surfing have taught me something really important. Well, a few things actually. But most of all it’s taught me what it’s like to be a beginner at something again. I’ve started something completely new and foreign to me – absolutely love it to death – but have tons and tons of work to do to get good.

You fail and fail and fail and fail and fail until you land one good wave and instead of focusing on the failures you celebrate the progress.

Then you paddle your butt back out as fast as you can to eat it about 10 more times before you get another one right. Eventually, you start lining up 2 in a row. Then 3. Then 4.

Every time I celebrate.

I celebrate the small wins. I celebrate the fact that I know I suck right now, but damnit I’m getting closer to getting better every single time I give it my best.

Put in the work. Shovel enthusiasm on top of it. Enjoy falling down so you can get back up. Oh, and don’t take yourself so seriously.

I’ve been here 3 days and I feel like I’ve been here a year.

The coach that I work with finally has told me that I can go out on my own and practice. The guy that runs the shop is already talking to me about getting my own board. And when I think about it all, I realize that there are a couple of times every single day I can really go out (with my skill level right now) and practice away.

So I’m getting my own board.

I’m getting my own wetsuit.

And every day I’m heading out there to do that thing I already love to death.

There’s going to be a lot more falling, dipping the nose, slipping, and getting mouthfuls of water…but good heavens am I having fun even doing that.

When I look back to my time right before I left to do this, I wondered what all of it would bring for me. What I realize now is that my plan is completely changing. I can’t justify trapping myself in the middle of a city again when all I want to do is be in the water. I belong in the waves having a blast.

I am giving that to myself.

No personal judgements.

No critic.

No plan but the plan I want.

Just me doing my thing.

That’s enough for me.

-Evan Sanders

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LEARN TO LET GO | The Mindful Minute | Episode 20

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“Don’t be afraid to let go. Every new adventure begins with the ending of another.” – The Better Man Project

Why are we so scared to let go?

Because we don’t think we will find something better.

We believe somewhere deep down that what we had is “it” for us and that we won’t be able to find something that replaces what once was.

But the truth is, when you really look at it, every ending of a story is a bit chaotic but it always births something new.

If it’s someone you had to walk away from, at one point in your life there was someone before them who you had to heal from.

Then they came in, and healed the wounds you were carrying.

And it will happen again…

Until one day, someone will come into your life who refused to walk away from you.

And how great of a day that will be.

So until then, be gentle with yourself and know that the universe has a wonderful way of giving you exactly what you need to grow.

It also knows how to give you what you need vs. what you want.

Trust that.

– The Mindful Minute

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