Moazzam Shaikh's Blog, page 47

Power to Do, not Power to Impress

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In the past, a manager’s authority rested on his positional power. His status was enough to ensure his authority. Today, position carries less power. What matters is his or her ability to get things done.

Fairness not Favouritism

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One of the features of the modern workplace is the shift towards equalising opportunity. It is no longer about offering opportunities to those whose face fits but about treating everyone the same, even if they are different.

Describe, Don’t Judge

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Judging others with labels is a trick that our ego teaches us when we are young. It is the ego’s way of keeping people at a distance and so destroying good communication. Instead of judging someone, for example, “she’s stupid”, use honest and accurate communication devoid of judgment, as in “she makes mistakes about once or twice a week”.

3 Modes of Behaviour

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Aggressive Behaviour

Aggressive behaviour means…

getting your own way, no matter what winning at all costs being loud, abusive, controlling, manipulative, intimidating, violent, sarcastic using put-downs of others using any trick or game to show others are weaker than you.

While in many parts of our society the aggressive type is admired for their strength, the aggressive person is basically a coward at heart. Their behaviour towards others is likely to create a resentment-revenge cycle wh...

LAUGH WITH FRIENDS

Choose a place you like to go to. Then pick friends who like to laugh and ask them to come with you to this place. Being there and being with people who face life with wit and perspective in that wit will revitalize you and strengthen you. It will make you forget your woes. It will be cleansing and keep you in the mood for joy, first, and creativity (which is what wit is).

So one way to keep your “juice” flowing, is to be around people who make you laugh and whom you make laugh. It will f...

FACE YOUR WORRIES

They are usually much worse in your mind than in reality. Confronting the truth will lead to realistic solutions whereas ignoring them can lead to magical thinking.

Optimism is good, blindness is not. Often we don’t look at our problems because we don’t want to change. But often those changes can be the best thing that ever happened to us because we took care of ourselves and those changes can open us to new adventures and to being in the right place.

In addition, we often hide our worries...

KEEP ON GOING

Sometimes loneliness or no rewards for your efforts coming in will make you feel you are all wrong, which is the opposite of what you desire. Difficulties with people will have the same effect. Someone will say something to you that will feel unkind.

The only answer is to go back to your to-do list and live it. Throw yourself into your duties and something will come of that. It is all we can do and that is the desire with which we meet each other.

We all get thrown off our course, either t...

BE GENEROUS

It is a way of expressing gratitude for life and all the abundances we have received. It will make your time on this earth meaningful. It will make others happy. It will be a way of being in dialogue with life. It will make other people feel safer in the world. It will relieve pain, yours and theirs. It is a way of living, a way of ethics.

Most religions say to help one’s neighbor or the stranger or the widow, and to some extent, we are all those people so when we help another, we are help...

THINK POSITIVE

I know it can sometimes feel delusional but what else can we do? We have to keep trying as much as we can to accomplish our goals and it takes not giving up on our dreams and desires.

You know in your heart if you will accomplish your desires. You will if you put your best efforts toward it. Keep irons in the fire and keep giving your best. Something will come of it.

Don’t keep your mind focused on what is not happening, but keep it focused on what you are doing so that good things will ha...

DON’T FOCUS ON MONEY BUT DON’T IGNORE IT

We can’t live without it, sadly, but it should not be our reason for being. That said, we do have to deal with the reality of its demands. The way to do that is live by your beliefs.

Some people believe in living as if they have money when they don’t and this is the life that makes them feel best. Some feel much better saving as much as they can. It depends a lot on what you have seen and probably on how you were brought up.

Some people are drawn to luxury and some are not. But whichever w...