Moazzam Shaikh's Blog, page 49
March 4, 2018
LEARN SOMETHING NEW
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It can be studying the piano, writing, golfing, taking a history course, philosophy course, language course, whatever it is, open yourself to the new. It will make you feel young and excited.
You will meet people living different lives and that will feel young and exciting.
You will challenge yourself and have to overcome inner blocks and that is young and exciting.
It will make you a more interesting person when you meet other people.
It will open doors to new interests that are offshoot...
March 3, 2018
AVOID THE PHONE
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I meant speaking on the phone when it interrupts what you need to be doing for yourself. Don’t let others pull you from your work or responsibilities. Don’t spend all your time checking your phone and not focusing on being here, now.
So many people reach out to distract themselves from their own chaos. You don’t need to engage in that. Of course be there for loved ones, but manage your time so that you have time to work, read, walk, see the world around you.
If you care for yourself in th...
March 2, 2018
IF THERE IS AN AREA OF YOUR LIFE NOT GIVING YOU SELF-RESPECT, STUDY IT
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You may rationalize whatever area is not giving you self-respect, and tell yourself it doesn’t matter or it is necessary, or there is no choice. But it will still gnaw at you and make you sharp with others and yourself.
Don’t do this to yourself. Clean up the area were you know you are being shady – flirting where you shouldn’t be, short changing someone in some way, not being totally honest, not facing your finances, or your health.
Write down what is bothering you and study it. You will...
February 28, 2018
READ LITERATURE THAT INSPIRES YOU
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Choose books that lift your spirit, either in their themes or language or in how they inspire you. That speak to those parts of you that are your highest values. If you do so, you will be making yourself younger, in renewed vision, in new thoughts, in being re-righted in areas that might be getting you down.
These new ideas or inspirational lives or guiding thoughts will feed you and replenish your energy and give you hope in areas you do not expect it from. So don’t only read thrillers (...
February 23, 2018
LOOK AS ATTRACTIVE AS YOU CAN
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Dress expressively. Wear a scarf to enhance a dress that you think is drab. Only wear clothes that suit you. Give away clothes that don’t atter you. Wash your hair. Keep it well cut. Wear shoes that are attractive. Wear lipstick if you like make up. Why? Because you will feel more like yourself, your best self, and people will respond to you as if you have charm.
Show charm in your plumage. A soft sweater. Something that enhances your best qualities. Not overtly sexual but something that...
February 21, 2018
DON’T EAT A LOT
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Eating sparsely will keep you not only slender, but also keep you alert. Food is a drug too and can be a way not to feel.
We stuff something in our mouth rather than feel hunger or a craving for what we really are craving. Better conversation? More free time? More sovereignty over our life? Touch? Whatever is beneath the desire to eat too much, if allowed to come to consciousness, is something we can feel and heal and change so our lives are more full of ease.
We all have to eat, but keep...
February 20, 2018
GIVE OF YOURSELF, BUT NOT TOO MUCH
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It is good to be connected to life and to respond to others and to share. But it is also good to take care of yourself. So do what you can for others, make connections, be there, but also make sure that you are taking care of yourself economically and health-wise.
Have quiet time. Make sure you have time for what you need to do for yourself. Do not give yourself away so much that you become unhealthy or broke!
On the other hand, if you can make friends and loved ones happy and have the op...
February 19, 2018
TAKE A BATH AND SOAK
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There is something about being in water. It is purifying. Soothing. You will be being good to your body. You will be spending quiet time.
You can read a good book or meditate, or just soak and let your mind roam free. It will make you feel renewed, rested, and nurtured.
There is power in knowing that you can nurture yourself without spending money or having to go out to get something. It will heal your joints, and just be a private, special immersion in warmth and quiet for yourself.
...February 11, 2018
KEEP AN OPEN MIND TO THE NEW
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Having concept is enthusiasm, pleasure, vibrancy. This most likely can only be achieved through being open to the new, to adventures and to learning new things. A new place or vista that you let a friend introduce you to. A new piece of music.
Following up on meeting a potential new friend, someone who reached out to you. Letting someone introduce you to a new show. Spending the day in a museum if you never do. Going to the sea on a whim.
Following a whim if you never do. Saying yes to wh...
February 5, 2018
FREE TIME DOES NOT ALWAYS HAVE TO BE FILLED
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Ever consider booking some time alone for yourself?
Most of us live such demanding lives that it may require putting it on your calendar. And don’t make plans for that time. Instead, try a walk without your phone or, god forbid, an afternoon! Or try taking a walk without a destination and taking random photos with your phone.
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Or try curling up with a book. Or just see what you gravitate to and that will tell you what your highest value is that you are not making enough time for. Open...
