Moazzam Shaikh's Blog, page 46

THE 3AM VERSION

Fear will show you the way. Walk steadily towards it, otherwise you will always be running. Open every door. At least then you have a choice. Closed doors lead nowhere. One tiny victory is better than no victory at all. It is quite possible things will turn out far better than you could imagine. I love the 3am version of people. Vulnerable. Honest. Real.

Have a nice day!

Thoughts of the Day

Be a nice person but don’t waste time to prove it. The only things that separate two people are excuses. Deep conversations with the right people are priceless. Half of a person’s beauty comes from the tongue. Not all truths need to be voiced.

Have a nice day!

WATCH YOUR SELF-TALK

It is often the self-talk that goes through our heads that determines how we behave in different situations. Let’s say you had an experience in your early career where you were heavily, criticized by your boss in his office. Now every time you are summoned to your boss’s office, your brain re-plays the earlier experience. Your self-talk takes you back to the earlier incident and you deal with it in the same way. Only by training yourself to change the old self-talk can you break out of this c...

AVOIDING CONTROVERSY

The sure-fire way to kill a new friendship dead is to take opposite sides on a controversial topic. If the conversation turns to a controversial issue, don’t take a stand until you hear the other person’s point of view. In reply, put both sides of the case and you’ll sound fair and wise. Later on, when they know you better, you can share your own point of view.

It is one of the facts of life that the more confident you are in social situations, the more successful you will be in making new fr...

KEEPING A CONVERSATION GOING

The best conversation openers are those which open up a flow of information. They should not be too open that people don’t know how to reply: eg “How’s things?”; not too difficult for an easy reply: eg “What are you hoping to gain from this course, then?”. If someone is willing to keep a conversation going with you, you’ll get some free information from them that you should pick up on. For example,

You: “I see from your name tag that you work for a charity. Are you based here?”

Them: “No, I’m...

CONVERSATIONAL OPENERS

If you want to strike up a conversation with someone you don’t know, perhaps at a social function, the best starting point is to talk about their number one subject, them. Your first question should not be too open that they don’t know where to start, nor too closed that you don’t get much free information in their reply. A good format to use is the statement- plus-question format, as in “You look new here. Can I help you?”

LEADERS, NOT JUST MANAGERS

The difference between leaders and managers is a difference in emphasis. While managers work with resources, leaders work with people. Resources are computable, but people need to be understood. Resources do what they’re told, people respond to you as an individual and your ability to inspire and motivate.

Be Specific, not Generalized

Sweeping statements are another category of communication that we often use but which are factually incorrect, as in “You’re always late”. Instead, think before you speak and use honest and accurate communication, as in “That’s the second time you’ve been late this month”.

If Cellphones Disappeared (Video Experiment)

If Cellphones Disappeared

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PROS

Every person would save at least $50 a month on an average, on this planet. We would start looking at each other face to face once again. We would not have regular neck pain. We would start following actual people around. We would watch more our family grow up. We would get more sleep at night. We would be safe from much unsolicited stuff. We would prefer reading actual paper books and newspaper. We would see people’s real faces with wrinkles and scar...