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A Simple Yet Profound Question

I’ve been reflecting recently on my experience of God over forty-six years as a follower of Jesus. I can hardly believe it’s been that long! We sometimes talk about this as “living the Christian life.”

 

One of my mentors often asked us the question “What is the Christian life?” It sounds so basic. Wouldn’t even a beginner know the answer? But there are really so many answers that might be given. Here are just a few:

 

Prayer or spiritual practices
Church involvement
Building community
Working in ministry, whether paid or volunteer
Working for justice
Giving generously
Sharing our faith with those who do not yet know Jesus

 

You probably can think of some other good answers.

 

Would you like to hear how my mentor answered the question? This is what he said:

 

“The Christian life is an ongoing relationship of intimacy with Jesus Christ.

So, when we talk about the Christian life, we don’t talk about what it is but who it is.”

 

There is a beautiful simplicity in that perspective!

 

The Ongoing Invitation of Jesus 

At the heart of the Christian life is not my initiative or my practices or my activities or my involvements. Jesus and my communion with him is the heart of living the Christian life.

 

One of the implications of this is that I am never on my own trying to live a Christian or Christ-like life for Jesus. Instead, I am learning to live my life and do my work in conversation with him, in interactive relationship. Rather than envisioning myself inviting Jesus into my life, it helps me to think instead of Jesus always inviting me into his life.

 

And so, I am never alone in this life of faith. The One I trust is faithfully present to me. The One I seek to follow is actually leading me in my moment-to-moment and day-to-day life.

 

I recognize that there have been seasons when the Christian life has felt burdensome or overwhelming. In the end, that was primarily because my vision of this life consisted mostly of a growing list of tasks and commitments that never seemed to end.

 

It has helped when I think of the various facets of living a life of growing faith as many spokes in a single wheel. The hub of that wheel is the presence of Jesus with me. The Spirit of God enables me to be awake and alive to Christ who brings everything together.

 

So, again, the Christian life has Christ at its center rather than my practices or commitments or involvements. All those are simply responses to Jesus, who is always with me in the power of his Spirit.

 

For Reflection:

Where am I living for Jesus instead of with Jesus today?
What would it look like to center my day around his invitation instead of my obligations?
How might I listen more deeply for the living voice of my Good Shepherd this week?

UL #346: Leadership in a Stressed-Out World w/ Nicole Massie Martin

 

If you’ve been longing for a more humane, hope-filled way to lead—this episode is for you. Dr. Nicole Massie Martin brings years of pastoral and executive wisdom to a deep conversation about what it means to lead from the soul, not the ego.

Alan and Nicole explore why so many leaders today feel spiritually empty, and how rediscovering the cross of Christ as a leadership model can bring healing—not just to individuals, but to teams, organizations, and communities.

🎯 Takeaways from this episode:

The cost of leading without soul—and how to recover it

Why redemptive leadership is possible, even in today’s world

What cruciform leadership looks like in practice

How to embrace stewardship over scale

One practical step you can take today to lead with greater integrity

Whether you're leading in ministry, business, education, or at home, this episode offers hope that leadership can be redemptive, relational, and rooted in Jesus.

 

👤 About Dr. Nicole Massie Martin:
Dr. Nicole Massie Martin is the Chief Operating Officer at Christianity Today, the founder of Soulfire International Ministries, and an executive director at American Bible Society. She is a nationally recognized speaker and the author of Made to Lead and Nailing It: Seven Practices for Surrendered Leadership. Nicole holds degrees from Vanderbilt University, Princeton Theological Seminary, and Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary. She is passionate about equipping leaders to bring both soul and strategy to their influence.

🌐 Connect with Nicole:

Website: https://nicolemassiemartin.com

Instagram: @nicolemassiemartin

Twitter/X: @RevDrNicole

Book: Nailing It available now wherever books are sold.

 

 

 

Feeling Stuck? Ask Yourself These 8 Powerful Questions

Blog by Gem Fadling

In our book What Does Your Soul Love? we ask eight questions that can keep you moving along the path of transformation.

 

Today, I would like to share with you not only a reminder of the eight questions, but instances in which it might be good to ask them.

 

I’ve often said that a good, powerful, open-ended question is the same as praying. That’s because God is present and listening.

 

We can simply become aware that our question can be held in and with God.

 

Holding a question in your heart keeps you wonderfully dependent on God’s power to bring about the change you long for.

 

I know waiting is difficult. I’m a part of the same “give it to me now” culture. But the waiting is when formation occurs.

 

In Romans 8:22-23, Paul writes: 

We know that the whole creation has been groaning as in the pains of childbirth right up to the present time. Not only so, but we ourselves, who have the firstfruits of the Spirit, groan inwardly as we wait eagerly for our adoption to sonship, the redemption of our bodies.

 

Paul acknowledges the pain of waiting for an ultimate good. A woman carrying a child seemingly does nothing but wait—all while an invisible miracle happens inside her.

 

It is the same for us as we hold our truest desires within. God is at work. We may not see or understand all that is occurring, but we can trust that God will bring forth the fruit in time.

 

Our job is to not give up, to keep watching, and to not let go of hope.

 

This week I encourage you to step into at least one of the questions below. May you find yourself in one of these ideas, and may God be with you as you ask, hold, and wait with God in the question. The answers will come over time.

 

Would you like to enjoy God meeting you in the deepest desires of your heart? This is why we might prayerfully ask, “What do i really want?” [DESIRE]

 

Would you like to enjoy increasing integration and wholeness with God? This is why we might prayerfully ask, “What is getting in my way?” [RESISTANCE]

 

Would you like to walk in the light of God’s love, grace, and mercy? This is why we might prayerfully ask, “Where am I hiding?” [VULNERABILITY]

 

Would you like to live in the reality of God and God’s kingdom? This is why we might prayerfully ask, “What is most real to me?” [TRUTH]

 

Would you like to experience the presence of Christ with you whenever and wherever you hurt? This is why we might prayerfully ask, “Where do i hurt?” [PAIN]

 

Would you like to experience God’s love actually displacing your fears? This is why we might prayerfully ask, “What am i afraid of?” [FEAR]

 

Would you like to experience growing freedom and peace in your life? This is why we might prayerfully ask, “What are you clinging to?” [CONTROL]

 

Would you like to be strengthened by the joy of God rising up from within you? This is why we might prayerfully ask, “What does my soul love?” [JOY]

 

For Reflection: 

Notice which “Would you like to…?” stands out to you right now.
Meet God in that desire.
Ask the corresponding question.
Hold it in your heart. Journal. Pray.
Wait and watch for the answers over time.
Don’t give up.

 

P.S. If you want to dig in further to these themes, check out WHAT DOES YOUR SOUL LOVE?

UL #345: Deconstruction vs. Disorientation - What's the Difference?

 

Life doesn’t always go according to plan. The map you were following suddenly doesn’t make sense. What once felt solid begins to crack. But what if this unraveling isn’t a detour... what if it’s part of the sacred path?

In this episode of the Unhurried Living Podcast, Gem and Alan Fadling explore a powerful biblical framework for spiritual transformation—orientation, disorientation, and new orientation—a pattern identified by Old Testament scholar Walter Brueggemann and lived out in the Psalms, in Christian history, and in our lives today.

Whether you're deconstructing your faith, walking through midlife questions, or just feeling lost in a long winter of the soul, this conversation will meet you there—with honesty, hope, and a deeper invitation into God’s presence.

🎧 We talk about:

What the Psalms teach us about disorientation

How deconstruction and spiritual formation overlap (but aren’t the same)

Why lament and complaint are actually forms of faithful prayer

How to move forward when nothing makes sense

No matter where you find yourself—building, unraveling, or starting fresh—this one’s for you.

 

The Peace of Releasing What Was Never Yours

Blog by Alan Fadling

One of the many gifts Dallas Willard gave us is the simple yet transformative insight that we do best when we leave outcomes in God’s hands. In his book Renovation of the Heart, Dallas writes:

 

“What we learn most in his yoke, beyond acting with him, is to abandon outcomes to God, accepting that we do not have in ourselves—in our own ‘heart, soul, mind, and strength’—the wherewithal to make this come out right, whatever ‘this’ is.” (p. 209)

 

We are responsible for our efforts but not for the results. A farmer plants and waters, but the mystery of growth is in God’s hands. Likewise, our role is to be faithful, not to control. This perspective frees us from burnout and allows joy to emerge in the process.

 

The Role of Trust in Relational Depth

Our desire for control often extends beyond circumstances to people. But most of us resist being controlled, and relationships suffer under the weight of manipulation.

 

True relational depth grows in the soil of trust. When we learn to trust others—and God—we create space for authenticity and flourishing. Trust allows us to stop grasping for control and to start truly listening. Vulnerability becomes the birthplace of deeper connection.

 

One of the ways God cultivates trust in us is through waiting. Waiting is rarely easy, but it teaches lessons we could learn no other way. In his book The Jesus Way, Eugene Peterson writes:

 

“We stop, whether by choice or through circumstance, so that we can be alert and attentive and receptive to what God is doing in and for us, in and for others, on the way. We wait for our souls to catch up with our bodies. Waiting for the Lord is a large part of what we do on the way because the largest part of what takes place on the way is what God is doing, what God is saying.” (p. 97)

 

Waiting on God is not inactivity. It is an active stance of trust, acknowledging what God alone can do. It shifts our focus from frustration to faith.

 

Surrender as a Practice of Faith

Surrender is not a single decision but a daily, sometimes hourly, practice. It is the repeated choice to entrust our worries, our plans, and even our dreams to God. This is not passive resignation but active faith in a loving God who works all things for our good in his time.

 

Humility is one expression of surrender. Our culture often equates humility with weakness, but the ancient wisdom of the Desert Fathers tells a different story. Abba Nesteros once said:

 

“Humility, therefore, is the teacher of all the virtues. It is the surest foundation for a heavenly building. It is the personal and splendid gift of the Savior. It achieves all the miracles which Christ worked and does so without risk of vanity. It is a disciple of the gentle Lord by virtue not of astounding miracles but by the power of its patience and lowliness.” (Conference 15, chapter 7)

 

Jesus describes himself as “gentle and humble in heart” (Matt. 11:29). Humility is not self-degradation but being rooted in reality. It is the soil in which a truly good life grows.

 

Surrender may feel counterintuitive in a world that prizes independence, but it is a courageous act of faith. It’s acknowledging that we don’t have all the answers—and we don’t have to. When we release control, we make space for divine strength to work through our limitations. Surrender is not a sign of failure but a step toward freedom.

 

The Invitation to Trust

Letting go of control is not about passivity but about opening up—to God, to others, and to the life we were meant to live. We don’t have to carry the weight of self-sufficiency. Instead, we are invited to walk in step with the God who is able, loving, and faithful.

 

Good news: You’re not in charge.

 

May you feel the lightness of releasing what was never yours to hold and the deep peace of trusting the One who holds all things together.

 

For Reflection:

Where in your life do you find it hardest to release control and trust God with the outcome? How might surrendering in that area bring greater peace?
How has waiting on God shaped your faith? What have you learned in seasons of waiting that you couldn’t have learned otherwise?
Humility, trust, and surrender often feel countercultural. How might embracing these postures change the way you lead, love, and live?

 

UL #344: 7 Ways to Release Stress and Reclaim Your Life with Tracie Braylock

 

In this episode, Tracie Braylock joins Gem Fadling to explore how we can release the stress we were never meant to carry. Stress isn’t just a nuisance—it can quietly erode our peace, health, and capacity to enjoy life. Tracie brings a holistic approach to well-being, weaving together mind, body, spirit, and biblical wisdom to help us relax more intentionally and live more freely.

We discuss:

Why understanding that you are fearfully and wonderfully made is a foundation for healing

How to identify and address the root causes of stress

What the “relaxation response” is and how to activate it

The 9 Rs of Radical Relaxation and how they apply to power, mind, body, spirit, and relationships

Why rest is not laziness, but an essential practice

How to realign your spirit and deepen your connection with God

 

This is a gentle but powerful conversation filled with wisdom and grace. If you’ve been feeling the weight of stress in your life, may this episode be a breath of fresh air and an invitation to slow down and reclaim your peace.

✨ Listen in and let go of what was never yours to carry. ✨

🔗 Learn more about Tracie Braylock
📖 Check out her book Radical Relaxation

About Tracie:
Tracie Braylock is a registered nurse, integrative health practitioner, and wellness educator who helps women and organizations prioritize well-being through holistic care practices. As the author of Radical Relaxation, she combines science, soul, and scripture to guide others toward lasting peace, healing, and wholeness.

How Social Media Challenges Your Soul—and Gentle Ways to Thrive

Blog by Gem Fadling

Social media is a complicated gift, isn’t it? On one hand, it has enabled me to connect with some amazing women. I treasure the friendships I’ve formed, and that’s a big reason I’ve stayed.

 

But there’s another side too—one that brings up some deeper inner work and shows I still need to look at what’s going on inside me. Even if I were disconnected from it all, I would still have to address the discontent, jealousy, and pride that emerge when I scroll, because they will simply pop up another way.

 

It’s a lot to process, and yet I stay. I stay because social media has become such a regular part of life and because I do want to encourage people toward an unhurried life. Instagram is still one good way to do that.

 

But the game still eats away at me. Especially on Instagram, I see images of immaculate homes, inspiring vacations, flawless faces, toned bodies, and stylish clothing. Peppered among these posts are videos for ways to shop, organize, and fluff, plus ads for every kind of diet—many of which contradict each other but all claiming to be the secret to health.

 

And there’s nothing wrong with those things. I also like to organize, clean, wear makeup, collect recipes, and stay healthy. What I am addressing here is this question: What is the engine under the hood that drives me? The things I listed above—shopping, eating, and so forth—are all externals.

 

It is important that I also focus on my internal journey.

 

I will keep wearing makeup. I will keep wearing cute clothes. I will continue to organize and beautify my home.

 

AND…even more important than all that is asking myself these questions: 

How am I noticing and collecting healthy thoughts and feelings?
How am I clothing myself with humility and gentleness?
How am I feeding goodness to my mind, heart, and body?

 

These aren’t questions intended to add pressure. They are gentle invitations to check in with myself and explore what’s helping me thrive and what’s holding me back.

 

This practice also reminds me that the externals don’t sustain my soul. No matter how beautiful or organized or put together my life might look on the outside, it’s what is happening on the inside that ultimately shapes my peace, my joy, and my sense of God’s presence.

 

Being driven by externals doesn’t work, as it leads me down the path of discontent, jealousy, and pride. And I certainly do not want to be compelled by those dynamics.

 

I know I don’t have to sermonize on this trio of words. Just reading them, it’s obvious that they are not helpful or productive ways forward. So instead of discontent, jealousy, and pride, let’s try:

 

Contentment

Gratitude

Humility

 

As I notice the unhealthy responses showing up when I peruse my Instagram feed, I can practice welcoming a healthier way. I can instead allow the following passages to bubble up within myself:

 

But godliness with contentment is great gain. For we brought nothing into the world, and we can take nothing out of it. (1 Tim. 6:6-7)

 

And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him. (Col. 3:17)

 

Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. (Phil. 2:3-4)

 

This is what I truly desire, and I will continue to aim my thoughts, heart, and body toward this goodness. Here are three practical ideas as you engage social media:

 

Practice a Sacred Pause Before Scrolling

Before opening your social media apps, pause for a moment to check in with yourself and ask: What am I seeking right now? Connection? Encouragement? Inspiration? Take a deep breath, offer a short prayer, and enter your online space with intention. This sacred pause might help you approach social media as a tool rather than allowing it to become a mean boss.

 

Pivot to Gratitude Post-Scroll

After spending time on social media, take a few minutes to reflect on something specific you are grateful for in your own life. Whether it’s a conversation, a moment of beauty, or a simple joy, let this practice re-center your heart on the abundance you already have. Gratitude gently shifts your focus away from comparison and toward contentment.

 

Curate Your Feed for Soulful Living

Take time to evaluate who and what you follow. Are these accounts nurturing your inner peace, fostering gratitude, and aligning with your values? If not, consider unfollowing or muting them. Replace them with voices that inspire humility, contentment, and gratitude. Intentionally curating your feed turns it into a space of encouragement rather than envy or competition. 

 

For Reflection: 

How might you describe what comes up in you when you spend time on social media? What do those feelings invite you to notice?
In what ways could you cultivate gratitude and contentment this week, particularly in areas where comparison has crept in?
What would it look like today to let go of external pressures and practice humility and simplicity?

 

UL #343: Slowing Down for Deep Healing with Nicholas and Sheila Rowe

 

Leadership is sacred work—but it can also leave wounds. What happens when unaddressed pain begins to shape the way we lead? And how can healing restore not only our souls but also the communities we serve?

In this episode, Alan Fadling is joined by Nicolas Rowe and Sheila Wise-Rowe, authors of Healing Leadership Trauma: Finding Emotional Health and Helping Others Flourish. Together, they offer a wise, grace-filled vision of leadership rooted in wholeness rather than woundedness.

This conversation is an invitation—to slow down, to pay attention to your inner life, and to believe that healing is not only possible but essential to healthy, sustainable leadership.

 

🎧 Topics we explore:

What leadership trauma actually is—and why it’s often missed

Why expectations can crush leaders, and how to be free of them

How unhurried rhythms and reflection can lead to deep healing

The surprising strength of vulnerability in leadership

How community, not isolation, fosters restoration

Practical steps to begin a healing journey today

Whether you’re feeling weary, burned out, or just ready to lead from a deeper well, this episode is for you.

 

🎙️ GUEST BIOS

Nicolas Rowe is a professor of leadership, a licensed therapist, and a leadership coach. With a deep understanding of both organizational systems and individual healing, he helps leaders navigate the emotional challenges that come with responsibility and influence.

Sheila Wise-Rowe is a trauma counselor, spiritual director, and author of Healing Racial Trauma. She brings decades of experience helping individuals and communities face pain with courage and move toward healing with hope.

Together, Nicolas and Sheila are passionate about helping leaders move from merely surviving to truly flourishing.

Trying to Be in Control Wears Us Out

Blog by Alan Fadling

One of the surprising bits of good news in the gospel is that by acknowledging Jesus is Lord and thus releasing our self-centered autonomy, we find freedom. Letting go of control doesn’t mean losing but instead gaining a life that is rich with trust, peace, and joy. It’s wonderfully freeing!

 

What if surrender isn’t a sign of weakness but a doorway to abundance? In a culture that glorifies busyness and self-reliance, we often feel weighed down by responsibilities we were never meant to carry. Let’s explore how releasing the illusion of control can open us to the gift of trust.

 

It’s been my experience that trying to control things I can’t control is burdensome, while trusting in God’s shepherding care is a light and easier way to live. Let’s look at this big idea from three perspectives.

 

1. The Burden of Control vs. the Gift of Trust

In our fast-paced culture, we equate control with security. But attempting to control everything can actually leave us feeling insecure, anxious, and overburdened. A posture of truth, by contrast, invites us to live with open hands. Instead of carrying the weight of every outcome, we can rest in the assurance that the God of the universe is at work in our lives and our circumstances. This shift allows us to focus on being present and faithful in the moment.

 

Listen to the beautiful simplicity of this message from the book of Proverbs:

 

Trust God from the bottom of your heart;

don’t try to figure out everything on your own.

Listen for God’s voice in everything you do, everywhere you go;

he’s the one who will keep you on track. (Proverbs 3:5-6 Message)

 

Think about your life in this present moment or in the week that lies ahead of you. Ask yourself: What would it look like to loosen my grip and trust God from the bottom of my heart? To listen for God's voice instead of striving to figure out everything all on my own? I’m not saying this is easy, but living this way does relieve us of burdens God didn’t intend for us to carry. That’s the good news of trust—it lightens our load and opens the way for inner peace.

 

2. The Unexpected Freedom of Submission

I wrote about paradoxical freedom in my book A Non-Anxious Life. Submission gets a bad rap because it’s often confused with passivity or weakness. True submission is about aligning with a purpose greater than ourselves. It’s recognizing that we are part of something bigger, which liberates us from the pressure to make life all about self.

 

If you hired a personal trainer, would you be at your best if you resisted their every recommendation? Would that be the definition of freedom for you? Of course not. Holy submission to the wiser guidance of a coach would allow you to flourish without striving.

 

Eugene Peterson had this to say in his book As Kingfishers Catch Fire:

 

“Our participation in the land and language ‘of the living’ must always be responsive. It is not, to use one of our more dreadful neologisms, proactive. We commonly use words like believing, receiving, obeying, and hoping to characterize the responsive, submissive nature of this participation. But we don’t commonly consider the patient, human not-doing in which such participation necessarily begins. We are impatient to get on with it. But there is a kind of initial willed passivity in which all truly Christian creative living begins, a silence and a waiting, attentiveness and adoration, a letting go and simply being here.”*

 

I’ve often said that while the Christian life is active, it isn’t full of activity for God as much as it is activity with God. This is true even in submission to God’s guidance and counsel. Peterson’s frustration with the idea of being proactive is not about a lack of initiative. It’s about initiative that isn’t first a response to God’s leadership in our lives.

 

But the Christian life is not frantic, driven activity for God. It is gracious, peaceful, love-compelled life and work with God. We are stewards rather than owners. We are servants rather than bosses. We are invited to obedience, surrender, and submission. These do not diminish us. They free us to live into all the goodness God is inviting us into.

 

3. The Myth of Self-Sufficiency

There is a sort of “holy” independence from unhelpful urgings that would lead us into enslavement. But self-sufficiency, in the end, is a mirage. The more we chase it, the thirstier we become. We become like a branch separated from the vine.

 

But when we admit our need for others and for God, we step into a richer experience of life. Collaboration and community flourish when we release the exhausting need to be “enough” all on our own.

 

One of the reasons that our sense of responsibility becomes overwhelming is that we’re trying to carry something we weren’t meant to. Rather than giving us a yoke to carry on our own, I believe Jesus invites us to join him in the yoke he is carrying.

 

Think about these scriptural ideas: 

Jesus comes to serve, not to be served (even though he’s completely worthy of being served) (Matthew 20:28).
 Jesus doesn’t think of us first as servants but as his friends (John 15:15).
 Yet, Paul and the other apostles think of themselves as servants, even slaves. (Romans 1:1).

 

How do these things go together?

 

We are servant-friends with Jesus. We don’t think more highly of ourselves than of Jesus. We are servants like Jesus is. We are friends with the One who prefers to make others the focus of his attention.

 

It is good news when we let go of the mirage of self-sufficiency.

 

A Life of Trust, Freedom, and Grace

Jesus’s invitation is not to carry the crushing weight of control, self-sufficiency, or striving. It is to step into a life marked by trust, submission, and deep reliance on God’s love and wisdom. When we release what we were never meant to carry, we find ourselves receiving what we were always meant to have—peace, joy, and a sense of belonging in God’s care. This is not a loss; it is an incredible gain. What if surrender is not the end of something good but the beginning of something better? What if letting go is the way we finally become free?

 

For Reflection:

Where in your life are you holding on to control in a way that is actually making you more anxious rather than more secure?
How might submission to God’s guidance lead you into greater freedom rather than constricting you?
In what ways have you experienced the exhaustion of self-sufficiency, and how might leaning into community and dependence on God bring you rest?

 

*Eugene Peterson, As Kingfishers Catch Fire (Waterbrook, 2017), p. 14.

UL #342: Unlocking the Power of Your Adult Self with Michelle Chalfant

 

What if your self-doubt, overreactions, or stuck-ness aren’t the real you? What if freedom is simply a matter of coming home to yourself?

Welcome to the Unhurried Living Podcast with Gem Fadling—where we help you rest deeper, live fuller, and lead better.

In this episode, Gem is joined by Michelle Chalfant, therapist, coach, and creator of The Adult Chair model, a framework that blends psychology and spirituality to help you understand your inner world and live from your truest self.

Together, they unpack:

The three "chairs" that represent emotional development

Why your ego may still be using outdated maps from childhood

How to recognize and work with your inner critic and emotional triggers

Why boundaries are deeply connected to your self-worth

What it looks like to live confidently and securely from The Adult Chair

If you've ever felt trapped by old patterns, longed for emotional peace, or struggled to change despite your best efforts, this conversation will encourage you—and equip you with tools to grow.

🎧 Don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more episodes that guide you toward a more unhurried, wholehearted life.

Resources Mentioned:

Michelle Chalfant’s book: The Adult Chair

The Adult Chair Podcast

Learn more at michellechalfant.com

Guest Bio:
Michelle Chalfant is a therapist, holistic life coach, author, and speaker who has spent over 25 years helping people break free from the patterns that hold them back. She is the creator of The Adult Chair, a transformative model of self-discovery that integrates developmental psychology, neuroscience, and spiritual growth. Michelle is also the host of The Adult Chair Podcast, with over 10 million downloads, where she shares tools and insights to help listeners live more authentic, empowered lives. Through her courses, community, and coaching certification program, she equips others to step into emotional health and freedom.