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The Best $5 You’ll Spend this Summer

It’s here, people!A Light In the Darkness is available for purchase on Smashwords. I’m breaking my rule about hard sells, well kind of, but the reality is you’re going to spend at least $5 on coffee, junk food, a magazine … something. Why not spend it in a cause to help heal victims of abuse?

Every single cent goes to charity. Not one dime is being paid to the authors. Everyone involved in this process donated their time and effort. Please, please help and buy the book. You don’t even have to...

On Being An Abuser or How I Became the Thing I Hated

There are many reasons why abused children grow up to become abusers. I can only speak to the reasons why I grew up to become the thing I hated as a child. This is not scientifically based and if you prefer that, there are multitudes of studies available for you. I’ve read many of them and found them very intriguing. I think they explain how I developed a narcissistic, grasping, amoral personality, but they don’t explain the leap from abused to abuser.

One thing I read among these studies was...

On Aspiring to do Small Things

“If you set out to do great things, the likelihood is that you will fail. However, if you stay true to yourself, at some point in time, you are bound to do a great thing.”

My favorite chef during my childhood

For the vast majority of my life I have felt inferior to all the people who aspire to do world changing things. While my childhood friends were talking of being doctors and scientists, I was wondering what the Frugal Gourmet would be cooking that Saturday on PBS. As I grew into adulthood,...

Please Help …

Alright, my bloggy friends, each and every single one of you is a writer in some way, why not put that to use helping heal childhood abuse? I submitted for the first anthology and I’ll submit for this one. I mean, you’re going to knock out between 5-10K words on your blog anyway, right? I don’t do hard sells, so I’m going to stop, but there is nothing like the feeling that you are doing what you love in a cause that will help heal some of what is wrong in this world.

Call for Submissions

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Theft as a Cure for Writer’s Block?

Alright, my lovelies, you know the drill by now. Writer’s block, 1000+ words due and owing for the day and no juices flowing. Not even the ones in my cunt. So, Gillian is stealing to get the requisite moisture flowing … not my cunt … sheesh … you’d think all I do is masturbate. Oh, wait. All I do is masturbate *giggle* … anyway, more useless facts:

21. Have you felt that life is like being on a roller coaster?

No, roller coasters make me want to puke. Life doesn’t make me want to puke. Life is...

Emotional Infidelity or Thought Crime?

After my post On Cheating and Fidelity, I was asked by Lily of The Black Leather Belt in the comments to expound on my thoughts regarding emotional infidelity. She posited the idea that the entire concept of emotional betrayal is “a wholesale effort to redefine the borders of infidelity to include both thoughts and feelings.”

I agree that is what is being done. I don’t agree that emotional infidelity is about thoughts and feelings. Betrayal of any kind is about actions. Emotional infidelity is...

On Being a Bit Player on a Larger Stage

“At no point have I ever been able successfully to keep a diary … on those few occasions when I have dutifully tried to record a day’s events, boredom has so overcome me that the results are mysterious at best.” – Joan Didion, Slouching Towards Bethlehem

This is what it feels like to write BDP. My story exposed leaving me stripped bare.

Lately, I have been spending a lot of time trying to determine exactly what it is I’m trying to accomplish here at BDP. I even went out of my way to “disappear”...

Asian Escorts and Interesting Facts About Sex

Well shiver my timbers, I received quite the interesting email from an Asian Escort Service. No Asian hotties showed up on my door step ready to do the horizontal tango though (and I do have a major thing for Asian men). But, my vaginal disappointment aside, this graphic was pretty interesting so I’m sharing it out.

Just Because It’s Honest, Doesn’t Make it Okay

Recently, I’ve posted a lot about honesty and about how important it is especially within a relationship. However, an off-blog exchange I had this weekend with a dear reader reminded me that just because something is honest doesn’t immediately make it okay. In other words, honesty doesn’t absolve you from the need to have tact or respect. Below, are some of my more infamous exchanges that I’ve had with various men I’ve dated over the years.

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Him: You don’t do it for me physically, bu...

Spontanteous Acts of Compassion

I had to share this. By the end of this video, I was crying so hard Floyd thought he needed to comfort me with Pittie-ful licks and nuzzles … what would life look like if this were the norm?

Matt has Spastic Cerebral Palsy, but opted to run in Field Day at Colonial Hills Elementary School despite being given the option to sit it out and despite the incredible challenge of his disability. What transpires is a boy who is filled with determination and a school of children who spontaneously come t...