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It's Ok To Not Know Everything

“I don’t know, I don’t have to know, and that cloud looks like a stack of pancakes. I might be hungry…”

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In my twenties, I learned that I could have opinions on everything and that I was right.

In my thirties, I learned that not only was I right, but other people needed to be “right” too.

In my forties, I learned that all that wisdom I thought I had gleaned hadn’t been tested by time and experience; I learned idealism is not wisdom and most often, not reality; very hard lessons and worl...

My Thrive Substack Writing/Video Schedule

Of course, that’s not me. My husband would never let me wear that shirt–A.I. Generated with Imagen via Canva.com

Now that life has settled into a new routine, I will try my best to stick to a writing schedule for posting here on Thrive.

On Wednesdays, I am going to write articles about LGBTQ+ issues related to ex-gay conversion therapy and how to escape, carefully confront, and seek to change hearts/minds regarding this type of abuse. I am passionate about helping people find their way out of that...

Someone Tried To Assassinate Trump & Eli The Dramahuahua Is Oblivous

When you wake up with Eli plastered against your side with all four paws up… it was a good night’s sleep.

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G*d, I hate politics. Hate it.

A fellow American took up arms to try and kill a former President. No matter what political persuasion I have come from throughout my life, that sentence sends chills down my spine. I believe the assassination attempt of Trump is a dark stain on our country for us all.

We are already sliding toward the apocalypse; this only threw gasoline on an alre...

When I Hate the Haters, Am I Becoming What I Hate? Possibly

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Did you know that becoming what we hate is actually a thing? Here is a smart person with Better Future talking about it:

We now understand why we hate, but how does hating result in the inevitable transfiguration of the self into that of which we despise? It is simple; The trajectory of our lives is guided by where our focus is. If we become focused on a certain goal, we start to move towards that goal. We do not even need to be aware that this is happening, it simply does; It’s almo...

A Look At Trump's Playbook, Project 2025, And Its Connections To Systemic Religious Stigma Against LGBTQ+ People

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In high school, I was part of our Youth in Government club and loved it. When I became a right-wing ex-gay activist, I loved it. Now that I am grown up, not in a cult, and sane (mostly), I hate politics! Yet when Project 2025 was brought to my attention, I remembered something that I don’t see anyone else mentioning: an unholy alliance, I believe, is of grave concern concerning LGBTQ+ lives.

First, what is Project 2025? I'm glad you asked. The Project 2025 Presidential Transition Pro...

Can I Find Healing Through Writing?

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“After reading your book, I have to give you a big hug,” ML said as she wrapped me up in a big, sisterly hug. We were at a party where several people had already read WHY. I don’t know what I was expecting, but it wasn’t that others would open up intimately about their lives in response to reading about mine.

It makes sense. It’s just not something I was expecting.

After the hug, ML shared about how she and her husband met (very sweet). Their story is a romantic comedy I would watch e...

Exodus No Longer Exists, But The Destructive Legacy Remains

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Wow. I can't believe how the past month has taken over every facet of my life! Mostly good things like the book launch of WHY, traveling to Hollywood, doing interviews, GREAT conversations with people who have read the book already, making new friends, and networking with like (and open) minded folks. Life-moments galore. Check out my socials @rrscobey for photo updates and whatnot if interested to see more :)

This morning, I was shocked to remember that we are a day away (6/19/13) f...

The Pope Provides A Perfect Example of Conversion Therapy's Systemic Roots

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Oh, Pope, I had so much hope! Not really; I never pass up a chance at alliteration ending with an exclamation point. :)

As I am sure most folks have seen, the Pope has apologized for offending the LGBTQ+ community by using a vulgar gay slur.

Here is where the Catholic church’s systemic homophobia has its mask of “blessing” pulled off, from the AP:

— May 20, 2024: Francis reportedly says “there is already an air of faggotness” in seminaries, in closed-door comments to Italian bishops in...

WHY Book Endorsements–John Smid, Former Very Influential Ex-gay Leader–Jennifer Foster, CoFounder of One Orlando Alliance

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John and I go way back… I mean way way way back. Now we are both free of the cult of ex-gay ideology. Thank you and love you John! You can order your copy of WHY today.

Here is John’s full review (not all would fit on the graphic:

Why does someone self abuse? Why does someone enter a toxic religion? Why does someone end up in serial harmful relationships? Why does someone determine to close a huge organization? Why do people remain in unhealthy closeted homosexuality? Why? In WHY , Ran...

The Gurus Magazine #30voices30days Campaign

For those who received an email along these lines earlier this morning, I had a few of the details incorrect, so I decided to take the post down and rewrite it with the correct information.

You may remember that Gurus Magazine did the first book review of my memoir, WHY. They have invited me to their invitation-only Pride Month kickoff party, which will feature the #30voices30days campaign to benefit GLAAD. Click here for details about the good work they want to accomplish through the campaign.

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