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Am I Certified Ho Now?

“The sexploring isn’t over by any means but it will be more intentional and meaningful now that I know the ropes.”

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A year and a half ago I wrote this:

Then, a month ago, I deleted Grindr and Scruff. I told Dan that I feel like my “ho phase” is over. I wanted to experience and enjoy sex in a way that I should have discovered as a young adult and enjoyed throughout my life. Religious stigma and cultish ex-gay ideology kept me from that, and I lived celibately for 24 years.

Today, this pa...

I'm Coming Out! As a Mugwump

I asked AI to create, ”A cute bejeweled rainbow-colored mugwump with a black background in thick oil painting style.” I like it :)

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A mugwump is someone that withdraws his/her/their support from a political group or organization : a regular member who bolts a party and adopts an independent position.

A mugwump is born!

I’ve just about had enough with Democrats. I gave up on Republicans a long time ago. Both parties are tone deaf and out of step with the public at large.

What tipped the ...

Three New Thrive Newsletters

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Guess what? Thrive with Randy Scobey has added three more newsletters to the mix! Don’t worry, I won’t be bombarding your inbox with too many emails. Just think of these newsletters as different sections of Thrive.

Based on the stats and feedback, it seems like you, the readers, enjoy reading about my personal life, political and cultural issues, and my sexplorations. You also send me lots of feedback when I answer your questions.

Of course general life observations and and posts (som...

Clout? I Am The Clout

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“People with clout are basic humans who yearn for love, struggle with life and take a daily shit like the rest of us.”

A couple of years ago I had a critic say to me (paraphrased),

You are only a clout chaser trying to make yourself relevant again.

I’ve heard similar sentiments a few times since helping to shut down Exodus, especially when I came out in 2015. While I’ve had some amazing, weird, scary, and even dangerous encounters with people who have “clout,” I don’t think I’ve ever c...

Thrive Podcast–Clarification On Yesterday's Video and Celebrating Autumn (Our Daughter)!

It’s the amount of negative posts, not the people. I agreed with most of the content but as an act of self-care I just had to get out of the tsunami of negativity. Also, today we celebrate our daughter’s 18th birthday by singing karaoke at a gay bar. Fun :)

Thrive Podcast w/ Randy Scobey for 4/5/2025

In today's podcast I share about finally getting off of Meta platforms. I still have clients I work for so I will see direct messages but I won’t be posting on my profiles or scrolling through the feeds any more. I also share why I do enjoy Blue Sky and the Substack ecosystem.

Just Say No To Ex-Gay Shenanigans

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I’ll start posting more regularly about current ex-gay leaders and their followers. I want to be clear that I don’t hold any ill will or personal vendettas against them. What I hate is what empowers this cultish movement. Ex-gay ideology sells hope and “freedom” but is really a religious gilded cage for already hurting people.

It might appear to be a source of relief, a “godly” perspective, and inspiring, but it’s still the church’s version of a closet.

Kentucky chooses conversion th...

How Did You Get Anne Heche To Write The Foreword To Your Memoir?

“I am glad to have known her in this realm for that brief amount of time. She is a good person and I honor her courage and contribution of joy into our world.”

Nancy

I met Nancy Heche back in my ex-gay days. We were in a lot of green rooms together at conferences promoting conversion therapy and the toxic theology behind it. I liked Nancy. She had some complaints from the attendees of being a little too involved with some of the struggling lesbians at these conferences in an unwanted counseling ki...

SCOTUS Is Poised To Put LGBTQ+ Youth In Danger

“These are teens, tweens, kids who in many cases have no recourse but to submit to their legal guardians pressuring them into these abusive conversion therapy situations… It is in the state’s interest to not participate in the abuse by licensing the abusers.”

Remember when Christian Nationalists had a mantra of you can’t use the Supreme Court to legislate morality? Well, now they are all for it.

From The Advocate (linkage theirs):

The U.S. Supreme Court has agreed to hear a challenge to Colorado’s ...

Growing Up Or Growing Into Who We Truly Are

“I know some people might think that being a know-it-all grown-up is what it means to be “grown up.” But I’ve learned that it’s okay to not know everything. It’s okay to be curious and to learn new things or even change your mind on serious matters. And it’s okay to embrace your uniqueness and to use your talents to make a difference in the world.”

Hi, Randy. Me again

I am just about finished with your book. It's such a beautiful piece of work. I just wanted to thank you again for your part in clo...