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July 22, 2025
Denise on the Kind of a Big Book Deal Podcast
In this episode of the Kind of a Big Book Deal Podcast , I shared the real story behind going from messy first draft to bestselling author – including how I self-published Lucky Bitch and eventually landed a traditional deal with Hay House.
I opened up about imposter syndrome, the lessons I learned from early success, and why writing a book is more about creating momentum than being perfect from the start.
What we covered:
How I turned a self-published ebook into a traditional book deal
The mindset wobbles that come up when you're writing your first book
Why a book should support your business, not be your business
How publishing fits into your marketing funnel
The importance of mentorship, support, and outsourcing
Letting go of perfection and just starting with your messy draft
If you’ve ever wondered, "Who am I to write a book?" this episode is here to remind you: you’re allowed.
July 16, 2025
How to get out of scarcity mindset
How to get out of scarcity mindset
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It’s totally normally if the economy, your partner, or the news are making you feel poor at the moment…
You may have even caught yourself thinking, “There’s never enough”
Or scrolling late at night and suddenly spiraling about bills, the economy, and the future?
You don’t have to have 100% positive rock-solid money mindset 24/7, and if you’ve slipped back into scarcity, this week’s episode of Chill & Prosper is your antidote to that.
I’m diving deep into:
How to reset when you’ve slipped into scarcity thinking
What to do when your partner has money blocks
How to lovingly protect your energy from doomsday friends
Why your mindset work is still working - even if you’re unsure
Practical ways to feel more abundant right now
It’s a powerful one, especially if you’ve been feeling tender, tight, or overwhelmed.
How to Get Out of Scarcity Mindset (Even When the World Feels Uncertain)
Scarcity mindset doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong.
It means you’re sensitive. You’re tuned in. You care.
But it also means you need tools to come back to your center - especially when the world feels chaotic.
So here is exactly what I do (and teach) when scarcity thinking creeps in.
Step 1: Notice the Drift
Scarcity mindset rarely shows up in big dramatic ways. It sneaks in.
You start refreshing the news a little too often.
You hear your partner say “we can’t afford that” one too many times.
You get annoyed by a squeaky chair or feel like everything’s suddenly broken or hard.
The good news? The moment you notice it, you can shift it.
Step 2: Check the Facts (Not the Feelings)
Before you panic, check your bank account.
Look at your income tracker.
Review what’s come in this month - not just money, but value (gifts, coffees, opportunities, help).
Scarcity often makes us forget everything good that’s already here.
Are you actually in trouble - or just temporarily triggered?
Step 3: Adjust Your Inputs
If you’re watching the news before bed and waking up anxious - stop.
Unsubscribe from scary podcasts
Avoid doom-scrolling
Follow creators and accounts that uplift you (even dog videos count!)
Watch one uplifting show after anything intense
You’re not ignoring the world. You’re protecting your nervous system so you can do your work in the world.
Step 4: Protect Your Bubble (Especially from Loved Ones)
If your partner, family, or friends talk about money with fear, it’s okay to:
Gently ask for different language (“That makes me feel scared.”)
Use funny mantras like “Lucky we’re rich!” as pattern interrupters
Limit time with people who drain you - especially during launches or creative seasons
Share your own money mindset work without needing to convince anyone
You don’t need everyone to get it. Just you.
Step 5: Rebuild Your Abundant Anchors
Scarcity mindset shrinks your world. It makes you forget what’s possible.
So start adding in daily reminders:
💛 Upgrade small things: your mug, underwear, chair
📱 Put affirmations on every screen
🎧 Listen to high-vibe music, meditations, or your own affirmations
🧘♀️ Join a community like Money Bootcamp to stay anchored
📅 Book regular check-ins with coaches, masterminds, or inspiring friends
You don’t have to do it all perfectly. You just need to come back - again and again.
July 14, 2025
Is your money language stuck in the past?
Have you ever caught yourself saying something about money… and realized it sounded just like your parents?
You're not alone.
Most of us didn’t consciously choose our money language.
We absorbed it growing up, watching how the adults in our lives handled money, listening to offhand comments, or learning silent rules like:
We don’t talk about money.
People like us don’t get rich.
You have to work hard for every dollar.
It’s rude to charge for something you love.
Rich people are greedy or fake.
These phrases become part of our inner script - and they often go unchecked for years.
Even if you’ve done loads of personal development, these old messages can still be running in the background, shaping how you price your offers, what you believe you can earn, and how comfortable you feel receiving more.
The good news?
You don’t have to keep speaking someone else’s money language.
You get to rewrite the script.
Here’s a gentle prompt for you this week:
What money phrases or beliefs did you hear growing up?
Do they still reflect the version of you you’re becoming?
And if not — what would you love to believe instead?
For example:
“Money is safe and supportive.”
“I can be generous and well-paid.”
“It’s safe to earn with ease.”
“My family history is not my financial destiny.”
This is something we explore more deeply inside Money Bootcamp - how to release inherited money language and replace it with something empowering and expansive. Click here to find out more.
But for now, just start by noticing.
Awareness is the first step to change.
And remember - you’re allowed to speak a new truth about money.
July 9, 2025
Quick comebacks for awkward money moments
Quick comebacks for awkward money moments
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Ever found yourself stuck in an awkward conversation about your prices, your business, or if you’re qualified enough?
You need this week’s episode of Chill & Prosper.
I’m answering a stack of listener questions - from how to handle people’s weird money comments, to the deeper reasons people like us struggle with their goals, to how I use affirmations to keep my momentum going.
In this episode:
✨ My favourite quick comeback when people get nosey about money
✨ How to lovingly opt out of coaching every friend or client
✨ Why we really find goal setting hard (spoiler: it’s not laziness)
✨ What to know about your money archetype needs
✨ And exactly how I use affirmations, music, and mindset tools daily
So many gold nuggets in here, and a reminder that your path is yours to define.
July 7, 2025
Denise on the She's So Money Podcast
On this episode of The She's So Money Podcast, I talk to host Anna Emily about:
How to avoid overwhelm in the online space
What to charge for your offers
Building a business with ADHD
How to create a business by being yourself
And so much more!
Watch Your Words: What’s Your Money Language Saying About You?
You’ve probably heard the phrase, “Your thoughts create your reality.”
But let’s take that a step further...
The language you use about money — the things you say out loud, in your head, or casually to others — plays a powerful role in shaping your income, your mindset, and what you allow yourself to receive.
I call it your Money Language.
And once you start paying attention, you’ll hear it everywhere.
Sneaky Money Language That Keeps You Stuck
Here are some common phrases that might sound familiar:
“I can’t afford that.”
“I’m so bad with money.”
“I don’t care about money.”
“Must be nice…”
“I could never charge that much.”
“I’m broke.”
Now, I get it. These phrases often come out without thinking. You might even say them as a joke or just because you’ve heard them your whole life.
But here’s the thing: your words carry energy.
And these kinds of phrases can reinforce feelings of lack, fear, and resistance — even if you're actively working to grow your business or improve your finances.
What If You Spoke to Money Differently?
Let’s flip the script.
Here’s what a more empowered money language might sound like:
“That’s not a priority for me right now.”
“I’m learning to be great with money.”
“I love being well-paid for my work.”
“Money flows to me when I’m aligned.”
“I’m open to receiving more.”
Can you feel the difference?
One set of phrases contracts your energy. The other expands it.
One keeps you playing small. The other invites possibility.
Your Money Language Is a Clue
Pay attention to the phrases you use around money — especially when you’re feeling triggered, pricing your offers, or making financial decisions.
Ask yourself:
What do I say out loud about money?
What are the quiet, automatic thoughts I have when I spend or earn?
Where did I learn those phrases — and are they still true for me?
What would I love to say about money if I felt totally safe?
There’s no shame if your current money language isn’t where you want it to be. We’ve all picked up limiting phrases and beliefs over the years.
The good news? You can change your money story — one word at a time.
Just start noticing.
Money is always listening.
Want to Go Deeper?
In Money Bootcamp, we have a whole module and call about this — how your Money Language shapes your reality, and how to shift it to support more abundance and ease.
Click here to find out more and see if my money mindset course and community is right for you.
July 2, 2025
Social media trolls, sick kids and finding community
Social media trolls, sick kids and finding community
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If you’ve ever been made to feel silly for your spirituality…
If your kids always get sick during a launch…
Or if you’re overwhelmed and wondering how to make your business easier…
You are going to love this week’s Chill & Prosper episode.
I’m answering your juiciest questions, including:
✨ What to do when trolls laugh at your content
✨ How to find real community when no one around you gets it
✨ Balancing parenting with business (and not losing your mind)
✨ Why you don’t need to be the expert to make a big impact
This episode is full of comfort, clarity, and real talk on how to navigate business and life.
June 25, 2025
How to balance business, parenting and self
How to balance business, parenting and self
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Ever feel like you're spinning all the plates - and dropping more than you’re catching?
Parenting, business, relationships, self - how can we manage it all?
In this week’s episode of Chill & Prosper, I’m sharing how I juggle (and sometimes fumble) the big four: self, relationships, parenting, and work. Because, spoiler alert, it’s far from perfect.
I’m also getting real about:
✨ Setting up your business for ease in chaotic times
✨ Investing in Broadway shows—and what I learned
✨ How I’m handling political overwhelm without losing focus
✨ My favourite money and mindset books for real-life entrepreneurs
This episode is full of practical strategies and permission slips for anyone navigating a messy, beautiful, big life.
June 18, 2025
How to set boundaries without feeling like a b*tch
How to set boundaries without feeling like a b*tch
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Setting boundaries doesn’t make you mean - it makes you magnetic.
If you’ve ever felt exhausted by your clients, drained by your inbox, or trapped in family drama… this week’s Chill & Prosper episode is for you.
I’m answering listener questions about what to do when you're the “fixer,” the over-giver, or the one everyone leans on, and how to reclaim your energy without burning bridges.
This is perfectly timed for those Nurturer and Connector archetypes who may struggle with setting boundaries or putting themselves first.
In this episode, I share:
✨ How to stop over-delivering in your business
✨ What to say when clients expect 24/7 access
✨ Scripts to gracefully end “free advice” and scope creep
✨ What to do when loved ones treat you like their personal ATM
✨ And how setting boundaries actually raises your self-worth (and your income)
xx Denise
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