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How Rulers can use Sacred Money Archetypes® to make more money

I recently had the opportunity to interview an incredible group of Ruler entrepreneurs and alumni in my Sacred Money Archetypes® course. In this fascinating roundtable, we talked about the strengths and challenges these entrepreneurs experience as Rulers and how they have learned to use their Money Archetype in their business. 

Here's a summary of our discussion and please read the individual member's case studies and course reviews to find out more.

Our Ruler Roundtable Guests

 

How did it feel when you found out you were a Ruler? 

Anne Bruce
(Click here to read Anne's full review)

When I heard about the Ruler and watched the videos about it, it just hit home so hard. I was like, "Oh, yeah. That's what I am and that's what I'm all about.

 

Tara-Nicholle Kirke
(Click here to read Tara's full review)

Well, it was like my whole entire life made sense. Stories my mom told about me as a kid made sense. I had just done preschool tours with my four year... Well, then she was two and all the other parents were asking about curriculum and I was asking how many kids there were in the school and doing the math on what the school's annual revenues likely were and was like, "Wow, y'all are great business women." It just is who I am.

 

Charlotte Pardy
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So for me, it was a complete surprise that I was a Ruler. I thought being in such a caring profession and everything else, I would naturally come out as a Nurturer. I really did think that that was the way that I was heading, but I think obviously, Nurturers are mother-type figures and what do mothers do? They rule their little empires, don't they? And I think really, for me, that's what came through, as well as having that nurturing half of me. There's still the half that counts the pennies, make sure there's food in the cupboard, keeps building on ideas, keeps helping people growing and keeps bringing those ideas coming through. So it was a surprise, but when I did look and read through it did make perfect sense for that matriarch figure for me. So that's been something that I've connected with quite a lot and it's been really a revelation for me because it's allowed me to empower myself and it also balances out a little bit of that nurture tendency to overgive because I think that there's a sense in all mothers, at some point, that you get a little frustrated with your kids and you're like, "I'm sick of tying your shoelaces for you. You need to tie them for yourself", kind of thing. So I think that's where that balance and that tension between the two can fit quite well together.

 

Kerin Monaco
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My reaction to being a Ruler, I think the reaction was just like, "Oh, this is why everything is so hard because I'm skiving so out of alignment with who I am on an energetic level. So it was eye opening, it was heart opening and it was transformational. My life is so different now. My business is designed completely different and it was a result of that learning about the Ruler, the Alchemist and the Connector as well.

 

Rifa Thorpe-Tracey
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My reaction to the archetypes was I was in denial about being a Ruler at first and did the test a few times and thought, "Okay, I've identified as an Accumulator. Definitely. I was like, "Yes, that sounds like me. I loved to stash away my coins and think about where I'm going to make more money and found it really hard to spend money on myself. Sometimes I felt really guilty about that. And then my second, the Accumulator and Nurturer were about the same and then the next one after that is Celebrity. So it felt a bit like they're all fighting around each other, the wanting to be more of a Ruler and a Nurture. And I think of thinking about real life, people like Beyonce was probably a Ruler and building your empire and being that person and not always being liked as well. That was all part of money bootcamp as well. That understanding that you have to be your true self, I think, was really important, I think.

 

Sandra Hoffman
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It made so much sense. Ruler and Romantic are quite close. So sometimes I thought I'm rather a Romantic because I like luxury a lot and I like to... I always think I earned this, so I deserve it. I deserve it. That's it. I deserve it, so that's what I think a lot, but then when I read the Ruler one, it was so clear. That's totally me. I'm always thinking, "Okay, I could can make this as a business, maybe, or this as a business, maybe." And if other people tell me their ideas, I say, "Okay, so we're going to do this and you can make a business out of this." So it's like all the time, I'm thinking a lot how to make money out of everything.

 

Jess Keating
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I love that I'm last here in this, because I am pretty much on the other end of the spectrum where I think the lowest scores for me were Connector and Nurturer, and then it's Ruler, Maverick and Accumulator. Honestly, the thing that hit me first, it was like, "Yep, that's me." And I think you have, Denise, somewhere... You mentioned, "I wanted an Oprah-type business being a Ruler." And I remember being like, "Oh, scene", and there was so many interesting little parts to that because I didn't realize... Maybe with just Rulers in particular, but maybe it's everybody, the thing about my Ruler was I didn't realize that I had been partially holding that back a little bit. It was a part of me that it needed permission that I didn't realize needed permission just to be like, this is who I am.

And the second part of that was when we did the sacred money archetypes quiz, people are sharing their answers and all of these lovely women that I know were like, "Oh, I'm a Connector, I'm a Nurturer, and I'm a whatever." And I was just like, "Am I a jerk?" And I remember you, Denise, saying, "I'm a Ruler", and actually, I distinctly remember this. I'm paraphrasing here, but you were like, "I love the people I work with in Money Bootcamp. I love all those people, but I'm not going to hold your hand. That's just not me." I think your Connector was not your top either and I remember just being like, "Oh, it's okay. I'm allowed to be this way and it's not even a fault. It's just something that is just who I am and I can outsource this, this and this in my business and it doesn't need to be this character defect."

Like Sarah was saying, there's nothing wrong with me. It's just when we lean into what makes us us, what lights us up and what lights me up is that idea of that word empire. It's just like, "Ah, shit. Yes." And the other stuff, once I got over that initial hit of shame, of, "I don't really have..." It was two or something, but that Connector and Nurture vibe is just not there, but it doesn't mean I'm not caring. It doesn't mean I don't care about what I do or the people I work with, but really allowing myself to embody that fully and in particular, see models like you, Denise, who it is who you are and you don't make apologies for it. You're just like, "Oh, so then I do this, I outsource this or I try to angle my marketing towards these types of people", for example.

Those insights, they were so incredibly helpful because like I said, you don't realize that there's this tiny part of you or maybe a big part that is seeking that permission and then once you get that from you see it reflected in somebody else, or you get this on the quiz or whatever, you're like, "Oh, I didn't realize how much of myself I was holding back." And once you do that, that's where the power comes from. Once you can enable yourself to be fully whole without apology, that is, of course, when things start to happen, but I was not surprised at all and I have to mention, when I was talking to my husband about this and we were watching Hamilton at the time and there were two lines in Hamilton, there was one where it's like, "Why do you write you're running out of time?"

So my husband was like, "That's you?" And I was like, "Oh, yes." And then it was, "You will never be satisfied." He's like, "That is also you", and I was like, "Yeah, I get that." And I think that's the Ruler and Accumulator together. But again, seeing that as not everything is something to be healed. Yes, there's overworking. Yes, there's overdoing and overgiving and hustler and all that stuff, but not everything in me was because of a trauma or a problem. Seeing that is just a strength that not everybody else has and some people would love to lean into, seeing that and being like, "Yes, I have some of that Hamilton energy right there. That's okay." And allowing that to happen was just really, really huge for me.

 

How do your top three Archetypes work together?

Tara-Nicholle Kirke

So as I mentioned, during the pandemic, childcare was in hot mess here and I'm a single mom. The solution I came up with was to join the country club down the street because their kids' club was open. So now I have this amazing workday ritual, she's back in school, but I drive her to school. I pack up her stuff for school and I pack up my stuff for country club and I drive her to school and I go get in the hot tub and steam room and then I work. And I'm actually, funny enough, oddly, organically creating almost like an influencer relationship with the club, because I'm constantly posting stuff there and shooting videos there and that sort of thing, but I find myself working in very luxurious settings all the time.

I tend to my state a lot more than I think an average Ruler might. I spend two hours in the morning doing my own daily ritual practice before she even gets up. I don't do meetings till 10 o'clock because I need to get there, get myself to that place of really intense flow, but I do that almost in service of my radical fruitfulness. I still do way more stuff, way more actual output, but I tell you, I can no longer do it in that productivity fetish way. For me, it's really matured in large part, thanks to the archetype work. I've literally am creating a program for companies called Radically Fruitful. So leave productivity, this thing where I can't with spreadsheets, I have one accumulator, one accumulator point in my body.

In fact, what you're saying is hilarious to me because the thing about Romantics and accumulators getting married, because I actually surround myself with accumulators, because I feel like I don't know what would happen if there is no accumulator in this household. And my kiddo, I think probably has mostly the same architects as me. Maybe she's got some high alchemist somewhere in there too, but between us, we just go around the world manifesting stuff, thinking it, people handing it to us. I sat down the other day in the lobby at a hotel nearby and the hotel manager came and just set two glasses of champagne down on the table. He didn't say anything. That's how we roll. So we do flow energy and just flow beautiful things and need beautiful things. I need everything that is in on or around my body to be beautiful. But some of that, again, it's in service of, or it's I think of it. I tell myself the story that it's this virtuous cycle with my radical fruitfulness and just radical ability to answer my callings, which I think are very secret.

 

Rifa Thorpe-Tracey

I think I'm probably still in that shiny object syndrome mentality that I really still find it difficult to say no to people when they say there's some interesting project, there's maybe no money in it, but it's going to take up loads of time. I was doing a radio show every two hours every week. Absolutely loved doing it and it was lots of good learnings, but hardly anyone was probably listening to it, but it was so much fun for me to do and I will beat myself up over thinking I'm spending lots of time doing fun projects when I could be doing more on my business and making more money and doing more launches. I think there's sometimes the part of me that... I can't remember which one it is now. I think it's celebrities. Wanting to have pleasure and allowing yourself to have pleasure is the thing that I fluctuate with.

Well, the accumulator doesn't want you to have fun and it wants you to just be thinking about your business all the time, but actually, you can have some fun. I try and do time audits every so often and cut out things that aren't fun, but it's taken me a while to say no to things or doing that thing of what you were saying about being good at things, not over-planning as well. So if there's something, I just need to show up and do the thing and go and not do all the stress thinking about it or the over-planning or creating the most beautiful slides possible for something that doesn't require it and basically passing all of that on to my clients now and realizing that a lot of people who are attracted to the work that I do are perfectionist or are stopping themselves because they're not feeling worthy when they have so much to give and they're already at the top of their game and they're just working out how to leave a legacy rather than building any other business or another thing that they think they need to do.

But one big thing I think is one of the status symbols of success is to have a fancy house and I manifested so that Alchemist is there somewhere in my...I thought I'd be an Alchemist and a Connector because I do events and all this stuff, but I'd already manifested this house that I have in Brighton out thin air because people think I was flaky when I was even buying property, that I was able to do it myself and I was a real control freak about it and it's a house that's similar to the house that I grew up in and it's like now I realize that's not even that important to me. What's more important is clearing debts and being mortgage free in the UK is amazing. It's unheard of to be able to do this. So anyway, it's okay to change your goals. It's like, "Oh, we can have different goals." Anyway, It's just learning about yourself. It's even difficult sometimes to admit things to yourself.

Kerin Monaco

I was surprised that the Alchemist was second because I felt so aligned with that, the problem solving, the ideas, never being... That I could just sell sessions and be an idea person, that just resonated. I struggle with my Connector. I'm an introvert, mostly because I think the world has made me feel like my extroverted side is too much. So the introvert, I would prefer to have minimal contact. I don't necessarily want to be out there connecting people or having constant interaction with others. So at times, I think my connector, I need to focus on the connector a little bit more and nurture that side of me because I know it's in there. I know that the world has shut it. I've been guided to shut it down. I think that the Alchemist and the Ruler complement one another quite beautifully, but that Connector, it's like I would rather that not hear that message. I would rather not that be there sometimes.

 

How does your Ruler sabotage you in business?

Tara-Nicholle Kirke

Business was all I'd thought about. I used to be a lawyer a long time ago. I have an old set of kids and I call them the old kids and a little one and I remember an incident when my now 29-year-old was probably five or six and he was just standing in front of me and stammering like little kids do, "Mom, mom, mom, mom", and I was an hourly billing attorney at the time and I remember in my mind thinking, "This is costing me $75, $100." Business was all I thought about and I had this real pride that I used to tell people, "You can drop me anywhere in the planet and I will have a profitable business. Give me 90 days. I don't need to speak the language. It's good." But my businesses, I was never really giving them the chance to mature and I was never really giving myself the chance to mature into my businesses because I would burn through people. I would burn through myself. I was frustrated easily when something wasn't super successful, so I'd just make a new thing and then the Maverick in me really wanted to make a new thing. I wanted to reinvent every wheel. So there were some real self-hindering patterns that I was able to spot pretty quickly.

 

Anne Bruce

Asking for help is still so hard because I can do it all, but I've also learned delegating and outsourcing and just also canceling things that I really don't have to do there really isn't a need to do it all, so that's been a huge one for me. And I've also been feeling guilty about being the show pony and not doing all the work and not being there all the time to help all the others and in a way, controlling everything. So that's been hard for me to just sit back and relax and let things be, really, because in my business, I've built a really successful model where I can just not be there and I know that the things will work, but it's been hard. It's been really hard.

 

Jess Keating

Yeah. I was going through the course earlier today and one of the things that came up was that you want a Ruler for that gentle butt-kicking and I was like, "Yep, that's okay." And I can recognize a lot of my sabotages around being a Ruler. I don't actually think that the traits of the Rulerness were the sabotage. It was my own sense of shame over them, if that makes sense. It was the feeling of like, "Oh, I need to be more connectory, I need to be more nurturing or whatever", and not truly allowing myself to lean into my strengths there. The minute I hired out somebody to do the nitty gritty tech stuff, that was just a huge, huge level-up for me, just being able to do that. I think you also say we tend to do things the hard way or find the harder way to do things.

And there's a line that you mentioned in it as well that was, "Just because you can do something doesn't mean you should", and that, for me, I have a real love of learning. I love to know, "Oh, how does this work? How does this work?" And I really had to say to myself, "Okay, you know if you spent a few hours, you could figure this out." I could figure out how to set this up tech-wise, or I could figure out how to dig into this person's personality and figure how to sell them or whatever. But I had to ask myself, "Do I want to get good at this task?" And if it wasn't something that actually appealed to me, I had to give myself permission to just either outsource it or nine times out of 10, you could just not do that thing and your business is going to be fine.

And in terms of business models, it's funny, as I was going over them, all of the teacher model options for the Ruler are things that I had inadvertently done over the course of my couple careers. I've had a few careers now. So I've been the speaker, I've been the author, I've been the coach, but it's only in the context of, "I want to run a big group empire and dip in coaching call-wise rather than one-to-one. And one of the things that beforehand I struggled with that was definitely a sabotage was I was listening to... As I got into more of a coaching or mentoring perspective with soil work and neuroscience, I knew what I wanted. My Ruler was like, "I envision this to be a massive global group community ecosystem where everybody's bringing their energy", and I could picture this thing to a T, but all of the advice out there was like, "Oh, well, you can't do a group until you've outsold your one-to-one." That's pretty common advice that we hear.

And I remember there was a few weeks there where I was on the fence about it and I just... It's the same feeling of going to corporate. I could not stomach it and it's like, it's not that I don't love my people that I work with, it's not that I don't think I could be good at it, because I had done one-to-one before as one offs and it was great, but it was that path of impact and I was like, "No, I'm really driven to do this as a group. I'm driven to do this program as a group." So that was my moment of revelation where I had been sabotaging myself, spinning those wheels, wasting time just like, "Oh, should I listen to so and so who loves one-to-one and therefore she's telling me it's a great thing to do? Or do I do what I know is right for me?"

And the minute I did that, I launched that group program and talk about money up levels. I made close to a quarter of a million dollars my first time out at the gate, but I only think I could do that because I finally let myself lean into almost the satisfaction of how I felt it was okay for me to run my business rather than listening to others' really well-meaning advice. That advice could have been right for me, but maybe it was a Ruler thing that I just had a completely different vision or maybe it was a bit of a Maverick thing, too, but there was something about that that just didn't sit and I know that it was the shame reflecting from when I was a kid. "Oh, you're too big for your britches. Who are you to break the rules and how dare you be a success on this thing when you haven't done the time?"

And like Sarah said, "Why would I start at the bottom? And I know how that sound. I can hear myself saying that and I'm already thinking, "Man, people are going to watch this and be like, 'Wow!'" But it's not meant to be an arrogance. It's just I know where I'm called and I know what I'm compelled to do and allowing that to happen and letting that unfold, there's always hiccups and everything, but letting that unfold without feeling like I need to feel shame for it. And I realized in SMA, like you mentioned, we find a way to do things the hard way and I think you can see that in two perspectives. One is like we try to do everything ourselves. We try to do the tech, try to do the funnel, we try to do every little thing, but I also think the other way of doing it the hard way is really just to ignore your own tendencies.

Doing it the hard way for me would be like, "Well, I guess I better put up a sign outside my door and do one-to-one for the next three years." That would be the hard way for me and I think there's a lot of inner work we have to do to recognize, despite the fact that there's a learning curve and the natural hiccups of just growing a business, it doesn't need to be this long ass slog that people tell you it can. And it's not to say it's going to be an overnight discuss either, but why would you pause at that as a must-have? If you're good, you're good. And I think that Rulers, just from our conversation tonight, we seem to have this innate knowledge of what we're good at and it's not everything, but the things that do light us up, we just know.

And if we can lean into that. So I would say my biggest self-sabotages are not necessarily coming from the Ruler traits. It's not leaning into them without letting all the other conditioning, maybe the guilt and stuff over not being the other archetypes, looking outside the window and being like, "Oh, but I'm not a Connector. Boohoo." You posted in bootcamp once Denise and you were like, "Oh, that was Mara who sent that." It was a freaking light went and I was like, "I can do that? I could just have somebody be kind on my behalf and it's not a bad...?" That was ground break, honestly. It sounds so silly when I was thinking, "Oh my God, I don't have the bandwidth." Especially with a big group. I was like, "How does she do it?" And it's like, "Of course", and we love you all for it.

We love you all the more for it. Those little things of just allowing. Now I know enough. I'll say to my husband, "Oh, this is a Ruler thing", and I'm feeling guilt about this. I'm feeling like a bit of a jerk right now for wanting to bulldoze through this here because I don't want to wait. It's not a democracy. I want it and I want it now. And yes, we are in a world where patience is a virtue sometimes, but I also think as girls and women in particular, we're given that message enough. Like you said about your son, he will have enough models of successful, lovely men who are rich. It is also important for girls to get that too and I think Ruler women in particular maybe have a little bit more up against them to overcome. So that's my long worded spiel about Ruler sabotages. I don't think I've encountered a lot of sabotages from being a Ruler. It's not leaning into it and letting all the other stuff get in my way there.

 

Kerin Monaco

I think that that's why I struggle to hire anyone to support me in my business and why I've been a one-woman-show since day one, but things are quickly changing with that, opening up to that, but I also find that with my clients, my clients come to me because of the Ruler energy of, "No, we're going to get this done. We're going to launch this business. We're not going to mess around. We're not going to work towards perfection. We're going to get it done." And sometimes I come up against, "Ooh, if I say it too forcefully I'm too bossy or I'm too nudgey, are they going to stop liking me? Are they going to no longer work with me?" When the reality is that's what they need and that's why they're coming to me. So I've stepped into it. It was a mindset shift I had to have and definitely this house supported that for sure.

 

Sandra Hoffman

I've noticed that it's quite hard for me to focus on one product and it's so hard to launch because it's so hard for me to talk three weeks, four weeks about just one thing, because I thought, "Okay, you've seen the offer. You can book there and now just move on. Let's do the next thing." And that's so hard because I'm launching at the moment and it's two weeks time and I'm just like, "Okay, I want to stop now and do the next thing and do the next thing." And so that's quite hard for me. I think that's a sabotage. Doing things the hard way, I think I don't have this so much because of my Romantic side, so that's not very strong with me. So I like to do it the easy way. That's very strong, but the focusing and like you said, a patient is a strategy, not a virtue.

That's a good one for me because I'm impatient because I'm quick, I'm a quick decision maker, so I think, "Okay, so you've seen it. Why don't you just go ahead and we can move on? We don't have to talk about this anymore because I've shown you everything." That's probably one thing which is hard, but I'm trying to do it. I'm trying to focus on one and not to step aside and post something else and do this and then that. And when I started the business, somebody said before, I can do a lot. I can have a lot with a lot of technical stuff so I did everything and then I noticed, "Okay, that's not what I want to do and I am not a done for you girl, either." It doesn't work out for me at all. I'm sitting here and I don't want to do the work. If I can teach you, we can do live coaching. I can show you everything. I can teach you everything. That's fine. But sitting at home and doing the stuff for other people doesn't fulfill me anymore. So that's maybe something what I've learned, but what I didn't know in the beginning, but now I know so I'm trying not to sabotage me anymore.

 

How has joining Sacred Money Archetypes helped you?

Kerin Monaco

SMA is going to open up a lot of doors and understanding who you are energetically and how you can align to that within your business, within your relationships, within your home is going to change things. It's going to make everything feel so much easier and so much more fluid

 

Sandra Hoffman

For me, it opened up so many things. I don't know, I always felt like I'm strange. I'm different from everybody else, and so when I came into this group and when I read all the articles about Ruler, I thought, "Okay, okay, that's me and others are like me so it's okay to be like this." That was quite good. In overall, it doesn't depend on if you're a Ruler or not, but that was quite eye opening, I'd say. And it helps so much to reflect yourself and then also to choose the right business for you, as I said, and for you that didn't work out. So I'm doing coaching now. That's quite a thing, I think. And also, what you do, like the marketing part, so for me, it's hard to talk to others because I'm like, as I said, I'm quick.

So I tell you, "Okay, that's the offer. Take it or leave it and then we can move on." But I know other people, they need more information. They need like, "Okay, we going to love each other and whatever, doing this. It was a part where you said, "Okay, if you want to advertise or market to Nurturer then you have to do it like this and if you want to market to a Maverick, do it like this", and this helped me a lot because as a Ruler, as I said, a quick, easy decision making and everything, so I don't see the problems of others, maybe. And this helped me a lot to get to know the other archetypes as well, especially from the marketing point of view.

 

 

 

Why Rulers should join the Sacred Money Archetypes® Course

I’m sure you already have a lot of ideas about how to grow your business to profit from your Ruler strengths. 

You’ve probably got ideas for a new product, maybe even new businesses! 

I know you have BIG BIG dreams, and you’re impatient that they aren’t happening as fast as you’d like. 

Hear this with love: 

You have more inner work to do. 

You have to master “grace and flow,” even though you’ll resist it with every fiber of your workaholic personality. 

Surrender your worker bee credentials, and you’ll become Queen of your world.

As a fellow Ruler, I can help you unlock your intellect, work ethic, and leadership and avoid burnout.

So don’t miss this opportunity to get customized business mentoring from a multi-million dollar business owner.

Click here and let’s make your business and money goals happen faster.

xx Denise 

How Romantics can use Sacred Money Archetypes® to make more money

I recently had the opportunity to interview an incredible group of Romantic entrepreneurs and alumni in my Sacred Money Archetypes® course. In this fascinating roundtable, we talked about the strengths and challenges these entrepreneurs experience as Romantics and how they have learned to use their Money Archetype in their business. 

Here's a summary of our discussion and please read the individual member's case studies and course reviews to find out more.

Our Romantic Roundtable Guests

 

How did it feel when you found out you were a Romantic? 

Houda AzzaOui
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And I wasn't surprised at all. I'm a Cancer as well, so that kind of romantic has always been part of my life in my romantic relationships as well. And hearing your video and your video describing the archetype, oh my God, it was just so me, the easygoing, the abundance. I know at home, we used to say money comes and goes and there will always be more, so don't worry. And I still remember one thing that really spoke to my heart was secretly ignoring money problems and wishing they would solve themselves. That's something I was doing unconsciously and it was just so spot-on. Yeah, really all of it. It just made so much sense.

 

Jennie Winter
(Click here to read Jennie's full review)

No, it kind of felt like, oh, that explains like... I'm sure most people can relate to this. I've been called spoiled and those kind of things a lot when I was younger and that kind of thing. When I first read it, I was a little like oh no. I saw it kind of like in a negative light. But then as I started to look into it more, then I was like, oh, okay, that is me. And it helped me settle into that instead of trying to change that part of me and expand upon it versus trying to get rid of it.

 

Katie Muir
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So yeah, when I found out I was romantic, I think I would've been absolutely flawed if I wasn't romantic, so everything just made sense. And even now when I'm doing my marketing or I was trying to launch a product that I really did not want to do, did not like, but I kept having to go back going just try and appeal to the romantics because they won't want you to walk them through it all. They'll just go, "Yeah, this is great." Yeah. So for me, it was a no-brainer when I saw romantic. It definitely fitted more than everything else.

 

Stacey Taylor
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No, I was definitely not surprised to be a romantic. Give me velvet, give me satin, give me hand [inaudible], give me faux fur all day long. So that was actually one of my biggest challenges that I've been dealing with with putting my line of stuff together is I don't want to have my pieces printed on basic cotton canvas all stitched in white thread. I want on velvet with the right trim and the right stitching and everything. It's been a process to figure out how to do it one step at a time, but oh yeah, definitely romantic. Velvet, satin, bubble bath. Oh yeah.

 

Tenille Williams

Okay. So I wasn't surprised to get romantic at all because my first thought went to how I love to fantasize and I love to have luxury environments and be comfortable. One part that was a little bit surprising was probably how I viewed whatever romantic would be and one of my first thoughts is I'm not really a girly girl. I'm not into clothing, handbags, makeup, that kind of luxury. But I'm into staying in luxury places, having a nice home, having a nice meal out, indulging in the finer things of life and put my comfort up very high as a priority and then fantasizing about what's going to happen for me in the future, maybe to the point where it distracts from setting goals that are a bit more actionable and working on fluff tasks and feeling like yeah, I'm working and I'm going to get there one day, but they're fluff tasks. They're not really important tasks that are going to move the needle in the business. And I was maybe hoping that Maverick would be up there kind of higher because I feel that bit.

 

How do your top three Archetypes work together?

Camy Kennedy
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I would say I'm very motivated by money first. And I have to convince myself that I also care about people. My clients wouldn't say that, but that's like my own self-perception. My clients are like, "Oh my gosh, you're amazing." But I feel it in my external, in my client work. And this is certainly true for everyone. They see me and receive me a very different way than my husband receives me. So like I can be a jerk over here, especially because he's accumulator and my clients are like, "You're amazing and you're so like, oh, connected."

So when I was listening to the Connector, I'm thinking of it more so of divine connection. That's how it resonates with me and that's what enables me to slow down, stay grounded and even have that moment of self-reflection to go like one of my values is discipline. Like disimplicity, discipline and simplicity. How can I live into that value because that's not what I wake up wanting to do each day. So just remembering like how can I make things simple? And then exercise that discipline and get the help that I need in the areas that aren't easy for me, such as saving money.

One of the ways I just did a mindset shift with that is so my dog recently tore her ACL and it was potentially going to be a surgery for like $5,000 or $6,000. And in that very emotional moment, I realized that it's a luxury to have savings for my dog. And so that was like, oh, savings is luxurious. And now I've been able to shift into like I'm going to hire somebody and make savings a priority so that I can afford any emergency that could ever happen, and specifically my animals are really important to me because I don't have my own children yet.

 

Houda AzzaOui

I relate so, so much to what Stacy just said in terms of that's where I'm at in finding the fun again in my business and in trying to follow all those processes and stuff. It's just killed my vibe. And just now actually, as I started surrendering and even letting go of the outcome and of the money goal and just doing it for the process and enjoying, things started coming. Like just a few days, I was invited to the round table and then another invitation to webinar came in and I was like, "Oh my God, this is me. This is my life. Thanks. Come to me. Like it's happening again."

And yeah, SMA definitely changed my life and I'm changing my business model. In the first life of SMA last year when I joined was just at the time I was finishing my beta version of a course that I was just launching. While my romantic was having a course out there and then running on passive and the passive income thing, then I realized, well, two things. My romantic wasn't happy. The lifetime access model that my mentor was encouraging us. It was like a lifetime. What does that mean? I cannot commit for my lifetime. I love what I do. And it was weekly calls as well. And the weekly calls, even bimonthly. I made them bimonthly even for my beta because weekly was just too much for my romantic. And even that, bimonthly was too much.

But what I realized is that my other archetypes, nurture and connector weren't happy because people were not joining the call so much. They did the work, but I didn't get to be there with them. And then I started contracting for this company doing one-on-one for corporate. And then I realized, oh my God, one-on-one. I love one-on-one. I just have to show up in there and don't have to prepare for anything. No course to record, no funnels or whatsoever. I just need to show up for the one-on-one and then it's done.

So I'm swapping definitely to one-on-one and high ticket one-on-one, because it just feels so aligned. My romantic is happy because I don't have to prepare anything. I'm keeping myself very mindful of not over-promising to send things after the call. That's definitely thanks to SMA. I would always, like being a nurturer and connector, just over commits, being in the energy in the moment to doing things after and sending things and then just never bother and procrastinate for two weeks before doing it.

So now I'm keeping being mindful of that before I promise anything. And really, yeah, that's been really, I think, the main change in my business model and I'm just taking completely other turn, not excluding putting up the group coaching program at some point, but writing completely passive, like more easily than that. And for now, I just cannot deal with another launch. Like I love it, just putting content out there as I feel it and having people come in and yeah, no official launch with a deadline. To have a certain number of clients with the deadline, that's putting me off. No, I can't deal with that. Had a bad experience.

 

How does your Romantic sabotage you in business?

Patience Modevi
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I think it's showing the same way, as you were saying. I've also hired a VA, but I do... Like she has to chase me up a lot. And sometimes I'm just like I feel guilt. I think sometimes I feel guilt that I've not done what I'm supposed to do because then she can't do what she's supposed to do in that sense.

But I've got this... I don't know. I think I live in like Lala land a little bit. So sometimes I kind of go into my dream and when I go so far into the dream, I get so motivated that I do a lot of work. And then I get this phase where it's like I wouldn't say it's burnout. It's not burnout, but it's like more of a phase like hm, well, you know, I'm okay now, so... And I just leave it. And then I'm like, oops! The inspiration is back here.

So yes, I'm a bit of like an upside down person. But I've learned to accept a little bit more of that and to go with the flow. So I'm not giving too much into the guilt no more, but I'm being a little bit more authentic. So I will say on social media, well, this is what happened this week. So you will hear from me, hear me, whatever. Or I tell people like we need to reschedule much more in that sense without feeling like I have to because this is this. Yeah.

 

Camy Kennedy

I sabotage with onboarding a VA. I've had several VAs. I'm not organized enough to delegate. And I have one really good VA who allows me to be a hot mess and just send a voice memo in the moment and be like, "Hey, could you do this today?" But I'm scaling my business and I'm now creating a course. And I'm embracing I need an actual system. But part of me wants to hire the person to do the system for me. So that's kind of where I'm at.

And how am I overcoming it? I think the way I'm overcoming it is bit by bit. So right now, I'm building the course. I'm outsourcing some tech stuff. And then, I do think it's important for me to take responsibility for my students, especially in the beginning to understand are they getting their emails? Are they getting everything? And then how does that flow? And then just doing one thing at a time and realizing like it doesn't need all be done in a day, which is some of the sabotage. Like I want to jump ahead to $600,000 and I don't want to build the program.

Houda AzzaOui

Sabotage is for me, definitely procrastination. I mean, it's been a big, big problem and challenge and it's really just getting my butt to sit at my chair at my desk and start doing something. And I think one big one is that I burnt out in my corporate job. So I resigned in December 2017 and I was like, "Okay, let's start a business." And I had taken the life coaching training prior to that. That's where the resistance really started in me getting action. And I wonder as well if my romantic isn't that high because of the burnout and that kind of brought it up.

And just recently actually I realized how sad the burnout made me feel, that I let myself down, that I abandoned myself. And one thought that keeps happening in my head is that's the reason, like the only reason I'm doing always all the struggles of entrepreneurship is just so I can have the flexibility and do what I want to do and take my time having breakfast in the morning. I would take at least one hour just waking up and having breakfast and then [inaudible] and then, oh, I want to go for a walk and then come back and then, oh, I need to shower. And then it's lunchtime. And then okay, let's prepare lunch. And then, before I know it, then, oh, I need a little nap. I cannot possibly work. I'm so tired. I then take a nap or lie down for a bit and then it's 4:00 PM and I'm like, "Oh my God, it's four again, I didn't do anything."

So when I say I didn't do anything, it's not like ruler works for seven hours and they didn't do anything. It's like literally, I didn't [inaudible]. So that brought a lot of shame actually and it's really took me a lot of time to start talking about it and I secretly thought until a few months ago that I was the only one who was dealing with procrastination as an entrepreneur. I really felt that.

 

Jennie Winter

I'd say for me, the biggest thing is I just kind of that I don't want to be bothered. I'm afraid to get stuck in something. So it's like, oh, well, I get clients, but what if I get stuck with them? Or what if I have to spend too much time and then I get bored? Or even, I think, with like systems. It all seems really complicated and once something's complicated in my mind, then it's like, ugh, nevermind, it's not even a mess, it's too complicated.

And let's see. With teams, I haven't even thought of that a whole lot. With marketing. I really struggle with marketing a lot because it feels overwhelming because marketing feels like a long process to me and people say, "Oh, people have to see your thing this many times and they have to do this." Then it's like ugh, what if I can't keep up with that? And so if I get overwhelmed, then I think that is my biggest sabotaging thing is I don't want to be stuck in anything. I don't like to feel imprisoned by anything.

SMA really helped me with that like okay, well, then just create your business differently. You don't have to do a year-long container or anything like that. And that really helps. I think that's my biggest sabotage and also being willing to invest in things but not myself. I mean like myself, like courses and things like that, but not like teams and systems and things that would actually make the business grow and be more profitable. That feels overwhelming, so I don't invest in that, but doing emotional work or those are all beautification things for me, so it feels like to make my environment, my energy better, then I'm happy to invest in that versus seeing that having systems and teams would actually make my business more efficient and that kind of thing. So I think that's probably my two biggest sabotages that I can think of.

 

Stacey Taylor

You had asked about pricing. Before SMA and bootcamp, no, I was not charging anywhere near enough. I actually was showing a good friend of mine who is an interior designer also, showing her some of my art and she was telling me how much she loved it when I was just barely starting. And I asked her, "Well, how much do you think I should charge for this one? How much do you think I should charge for that?" And she's telling me certain prices and I'm getting all excited. Like, "Oh, you really think I could get that much for it?

And then after taking SMA and bootcamp, I started doing the math. I was like, "Oh no, no, no, no, no." And now anytime... I shouldn't say this, but so many times when she or someone else says, "Oh, I'm surprised how much that cost," I go in and I up the price. I'm like, "Oh no, you didn't." I spent so much time on that. You're not going to tell me it's not worth that.

And in terms of sabotages, always looking for... Okay, so wanting to simplify my business and make things easier and find people to help me reproduce some of my design so that not everything is one of a kind, because I can be a slow creator. I'm particular. I want what I want. So wanting to do some reproductions, but it's got to be good quality. I spent all this time working at like MGM Design Group and other interior design firms in town. And once you see those materials that you can't buy in a regular store, your romantic just goes crazy. It's like, you wouldn't believe the stuff that is out there that you can't just go get in a regular store. So I got a little spoiled with that. And so, when people would say, "Oh, you should do this print on demand side and do this and do that." I'm like, "Nope. Not good enough quality, not good enough quality." And I would get stuck.

And I kind of froze for a while because I wanted to put this whole line together. And I'm very ADHD too. Literally, diagnosed ADHD. And so, I see everything all at the same time. ADHD, it's now and not now. So I see this whole huge vision and I want to wave my magic wand and it's all in my head. It's all there. I can see it. Why is it not in reality?

So I've had to say okay, can I get one of the type of products done the way that I want? And then can I move on to the next one, rather than what everyone was telling me to do, which was do all of it like lower quality. I just... Not going to happen. So that's taken me a lot longer.

But I've also realized that that needing to be taken care of thing with the romantic, liking to be cared for. I have no interest in outsourcing to China or anything like that. It doesn't interest me. I want the local small business that I can go and see their quality and get to know the people. And if there's an issue, I can drive down the street and say, "Hey, can we work on this?" I'm not going to be stuck on the phone with customer service one of a bazillion people. I can walk in the door and say, "Hey, Jeff. Let's talk about this project." And that's something that's really important to me, that being taken care of.

 

Tenille Williams

Yeah. Big time sabotages. I think growing up, I never really wanted to work. I hoped that it'll just all work out and I'd be taken care of and do the least amount of work possible. And so, I will find myself dreaming about making big money and resisting the work to get there. Just resisting work. Procrastinating a lot and making just enough to be comfortable and then stopping working until it's running out and then panicking and starting working again and doing it at the last minute. That's probably the biggest way that I sabotage in my business and in life.

And when that's happening and things are getting urgent, I'm running out of money, I don't want to look at it. I don't want to deal with it and I just resist it and protest it and just want everything to just work out and just tell myself, "Everything always does work out. You always have enough," but never getting into that state of having more than enough and having a decent buffer and saving.

I'm trying to think what else. Definitely some flamboyant spending. And if I do make a lot of money one month, my husband will even say to me, "Oh, you're looking for ways to get rid of it? You're looking for ways to spend it straight away?" And returning to that point of just having enough and oh, shit, what am I going to do now? I have to make more money.

Around clients, system, team, marketing, launching. Definitely procrastination. Not wanting to deal with the hard parts. And connector is my lowest and I'm an introvert, so I resist calling clients back and anything to do with getting all together and talking with real life people.

And systems, I always have these lists of ideas for systems I want to put into place and then resist putting them into place and just wishing we could skip to the end, skip to the good part where it's paying off.

Team, probably some resistance there around the social aspect as well. I do have a virtual assistant, which has been a big help and I just palm off as much as I can to him.

And launching, it's a little bit like flying by the seat of my pants, rather than having it planned out ahead of time properly.

 

How has joining Sacred Money Archetypes helped you?

Katie Muir

I think I didn't know anything about SMA. I think it's when I joined bootcamp and I'd wanted to join bootcamp for a while. And I think I was just waiting for the Aussie deal where it was in Aussie dollars. And then we got everything else. We got the Advanced Manifesting course and we got SMA and that was the first time I'd really looked at it. And kind of knew straight away, having a look at them, I was like, just I know that I'm a romantic, but it was kind of, I suppose, it really, really helped me. I think it helped put everything into place. And I'm normally one where I'll take a bit of something from here and a bit of something from there, but it just encapsulated everything about me and that's where I felt like that's actually given me permission to be myself.

Because I think my whole career, I have just tried to fit into other people's boxes. I wanted to do interior design at university and everyone said, "No, no, no, you have to do a business degree. You have to go and do something where you're going to make a lot of money." So I did IT and then I actually changed to psychology, but I felt like I'd wasted so many years because I hadn't actually done what I wanted to do and what suited me. And then when I was looking at that, I was like, "I can do what I want to do. I can do what suits me in a way that it suits me." And it was that permission thing. I think I always... It's like I always need someone or something to give me permission to be myself and do what I want to do. And that was literally me summed up in one profile. I was like perfect. That's brilliant. 

 

 

Why Romantics should join the Sacred Money Archetypes® Course

This is your personal invitation to join my new business course.

I hope you’ve enjoyed soaking up the energy of the free Leverage Your Strengths workshop - did you watch it in the bath? 

You’ve probably got many ideas about creating more abundance and ease using your Romantic gifts.

As a fellow Romantic, I’d love to welcome you into our new course and community. 

I want to appeal to your inner little girl.

The part of you that probably wants EVERYTHING but may have been told that you’re just “not good with money.” 

I know thinking about money sometimes bursts your chill bubble, but I promise you it will not be boring, complicated, or scary. 

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I won’t bore you with every detail of what’s in the course - but know it’s packed with both practical and woo-woo ideas to help you leverage your unique strengths. 

So don’t miss this opportunity to work with me as your business mentor and feel inspired by the new possibilities of doing business in a way that embraces your Romantic. 

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How Nurturers can use Sacred Money Archetypes® to make more money

I recently had the opportunity to interview an incredible group of Nurturer entrepreneurs and alumni in my Sacred Money Archetypes® course. In this fascinating roundtable, we talked about the strengths and challenges these entrepreneurs experience as Nurturers and how they have learned to use their Money Archetype in their business. 

Here's a summary of our discussion and please read the individual member's case studies and course reviews to find out more.

Our Nurturer Roundtable Guests

 

How did it feel when you found out you were a Nurturer? 

 Anna De Acosta
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For me, it was obvious. So as someone who has struggled with co-dependency, it's kind of like the dark side of being a Nurturer, I think. And the thing that I learned right off the bat was that there's a positive side to being a Nurturer. And so often I focused on the negative side of that and being taken advantage of and looking at it as a weakness, but it was actually a strength. And that's what I learned through SMA.

Yewande Akindiji
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I do this because I'm a huge cheerleader, which correlates with my sacred money archetype. I wasn't too surprised I hadn't come about that before, but it was just a confirmation because even my name means the mother has come back, and it's usually a nurturing grandmother who died. They have this reincarnation belief in my culture that they name the girl child born in the family, either in the direct family or the extended family. Yeah. And my second money archetype is Nurturer, Connector and Romantic. I wasn't at all surprised, but it just explained a lot of me. It was a huge sense of relief for me when I did that sacred money archetype quiz.

 

Kate Arbuckle
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For me, it was blindingly obvious I was a Nurturer. I am a Nurturer. And I'm 50/50 Nurturer Maverick, which made perfect sense. And probably the most un-Maverick thing that happened for me was that I didn't try and fight the fact I was a Nurturer. I almost was like, "No, I'm more Nurturer. I'm definitely more Nurturer." It made me feel understood. And it helped me give myself permission to be me and not to fight it. And just to, I think every other time I've done any of the personality quizzes, et cetera, I've been like, "Stop telling me what to do," which was my Maverick. And this time it gave me permission to really enjoy the strengths of who I am and to accept who I am as I am, as opposed to try and fight it. It also gave me permission and remind a mantra that I work with quite often is, I am not responsible for everything in the world. And that's really helped me create stronger boundaries in all areas of my life, whether it be my business and my personal, I am not responsible for everything. I am not responsible for others decisions. And that's been a huge, powerful shift in creating strong boundaries.

Tracey Rampling Brown
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I definitely resonate with that too, Sarah. I was not surprised in the slightest when mine came back as a Nurturer. I'm also a cancer sun sign or a cancer star sign. And so it was just like, well, obviously, and of course... But what was really good about it though, was that looking at the traits of putting everybody else first to the detriment of yourself. And I was like, "Oh, this is why I keep repeating these patterns over and over and over again." And then looking at, okay, it's about boundaries and getting better at bringing in and enforcing boundaries and things like that really did help. Obviously it's still a work in progress because work is never done, but I was not disappointed.

In fact, I probably resonated with it most and almost ignored all of the other archetypes. And then when it was like, so what are your top three? And I'm like, oh, was I meant to look at the other ones? Because I just was like, "Oh, Nurturer. Yep. That's me obviously. Well, just don't worry about anything else." So it's been interesting for me also to explore how the other different archetypes also play into that and modify it as well.

 

How do your top three Archetypes work together?

Mia Hunter-Pappas
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I can definitely see the Nurturer connector in pretty much all of my business all the time, even the Ruler at times. I think I need more Ruler. I definitely need someone, I need the person that's going to make me charge. I would say looking back at my businesses, the most I've ever made is usually when there's someone else at the front desk or something like that, making me charge what I'm supposed to charge in the hairdresser world. Even when it was my own salon, I had those,.I can definitely see the connector energy as well, just because everyone does become my friends. Now I go to the majority of my clients' homes to do their hair. It's just easier. And because we do kind of have that friendly relationship, but that's what I like about it. And they trust me and that's kind of how the whole real estate thing came into play as well, is just wanting to help people on a much larger, grander scale.

But yes, my downfall is typically not charging enough, just wanting to help everyone to definitely spite myself, even when I try really not to. So I need that Ruler energy kind of comes into play, but only when it's kind of forced, so.

 

Tracey Rampling Brown

When I actually first discovered Denise, just at the very beginning of the pandemic, before I became a lucky B, after I read, Get Rich Lucky Bitch, I was a Nurturer, Maverick and Accumulator. But then last year when I joined Money Breakthrough, and did it again when we started SMA last year, Ruler had come up and overtaken Accumulator. So still Nurturer as number one, but it had sort of dropped down. Maverick had come up a little bit and Ruler had stepped up to the plate. So it was interesting to see how much that had changed in 12 months of just doing money boot camp type or not doing boot camp, but reading the book then doing the things on my own, and then coming into bootcamp and going from there. Yeah, so that's it.

 

Patience Modevi
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And also another thing as well is supporting other people. So that's really important for me in general. And I feel like by being the way I am, by showing myself more authentically, I've inspired other people to also come and show themself in that way and not be afraid. So today I look like this, tomorrow I might be with a hoodie. I go with the flow basically. And even though I go with the flow, I have to be honest with you, so having role model like you and some people that are in the bootcamp is help me to know that you don't have to be perfect every day, but you still need to show up and still do what you need to do. So sometimes yeah, it so scruffy but I still show up and accept myself in that way.

In term of the Celebrity is caused more problem I will say in my life, or challenges I will say in my personal life with my husband, because my husband is more of an Accumulator. So we kind of bump into the spending of the household and things like that. So for example, so way before I learn about you or your existence, I had a nanny and I also had someone to help me clean, to do some cleaning. The reason is when I had my third child, I was like, "No, it's too much for me. I can't do it." So I just hired someone. And from there it was a bit of a fight to get that person into the house. And then it was a fight to give them a key so that they were actually part of the... So it went like that, but I kind of took over more of my needs and went with it. So I think this is where they show up in my life really.

Sora Schilling
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So what I notice with my three Nurturer, Ruler and then Celebrity, is the way I entered life is that I amplified all of it. It was on a hundred notch. And so therefore I over gave as much as I could, right? And in order to do so, that meant that I was going to overdo how much work I did. So I was going to work a whole lot. Why? So that I could be the Celebrity. So that I could have reached that fame and that abundance and live that luxe life that I love. But I love the beauty and the luxurious, but then my Nurturer also is like, "Oh, but I'm here only to give all of me and my money. Why would I want anything?" And so there was this pull in all these directions and a lot of shame for wanting everything and nothing at all.

And so that helped me realize, okay, so I wasn't looking at my money. I was spending my money. I was working until all hours. I was totally depleted and I was looking for validation everywhere in order for me to feel successful. And so when I started to harmonize all of them, and the way I looked at them was, since knowing these archetypes and loving archetypal energies already, I started to think about, okay, what is the energy of the archetype that is desiring for me to match and play from a sovereign space? And so for nurture, it was what is the energy of my business? So what does my business actually want from me? And it's not to over-give. Because once I learned how not to over-give, my community members were still so used to it, they constantly were trying to take, take, take. So I had to reconcile that and learn how to be really loving, but also firm in my ways.

And then with the Ruler, learning okay, what is the essence of my joy? Because I kept on, I love what I do, but that meant I wasn't doing anything else. I think Denise, you say in one of the videos, you basically take your passions and turn into profit. And that's what I was doing all the time. And so nothing was sacred for me. And then the last piece with Celebrity was really honoring the energy of money. How do I relate in a sovereign way? Not just always wanting to have this imaginary amount so that I could spend lavishly, but how do I grow it in this conscious way in honor of the deep work and the people I could reciprocate the money to? So learning about my values. So yeah, that's what has happened with me.

 

 

How does your Nurturer sabotage you in business?

Yewande Akindiji

So my bottom archetypes are equally tied between Accumulator and Maverick. I knew that from the start. I'm so good at spending money, especially impulse spending. I had to reign in on that. And as I said, sub-story spending, giving away my money to people. I'm always donating something. And so how did SMA really help me? First, it was a huge relief. Like I said, I watched all the videos one night, I didn't sleep. And it was just gave me a renewed sense of alignment and direction that I knew what I was doing. And that alignment, I really needed it because I needed to block out all the noise on the internet street and all the rules of business and branding and all of that. And also gave me permission to be the kind of person I wanted to show up to be.

In my gift business, what I want to be is the background person like, that entrepreneur secret weapon to which she's going to use to transform her key business relationships. And I always thought that it was a visibility problem. It was a success saboteur issue. It's not. I just want to be in the background and let people shine. I want to be a magic maker for people. And I love that. I am really so comfortable with that. It has nothing to do with my self-esteem. And I've struggle to come to this place, so accepting that this is who I am. I'm a cheerleader and I want other people to shine. And when I help more people get what they want, I get what I want because my life is flooded with fulfillment.

And the other thing SMA really helped me was one of the first things that helped me shine light about boundaries, about actually saying no to people and having the grace to offend. Because I've always been that person, people thought, "Oh, Yewande, Mother Theresa." And having the grace to offend. Like at Christmas time last year, what I did, my sister-in-law, I was just recovering from COVID and I had a huge mental fatigue lasting months. It wasn't long COVID, but something similar. And then they were still saying, "Oh, Yewande, are we driving by for Christmas lunch?" And I was like, "I'm just recovering from COVID." And I was like, "Hell no." And they were like, "Yewande, are you serious? Well, I guess you must still be so tired." That was a reply to a text. And I was like, what the hell? And she went on and on about it, but I didn't even say anything. And I was so proud of myself. It's a big win for me because previously I was like, "Oh, okay, can I make something and post it to you?" I would post out frozen food to people. Yes, that was me. Yes, that was me. So boundaries, real boundaries.

Then systems, understanding about systems, knowing that I'm not the person that really uphold those systems. I need people in my life to be accountable to. I need that structure of a scaffolding support. Either in the people I hire or my coaches or mentors, I realized I needed that. The other thing was in terms of hiring people, as much as I always want this, "We're one happy family," I knew I needed to hire polar opposites of my personality, because I knew I was going to get any work done. I was kind of person to hired the [inaudible] one coach, checking on her. She was like, "You have 20 hours left. You paid for that. Yewande, what are we going to do?" And I'd be like, I was so overwhelmed. So those are things I learned from SMA and how SMA helped.

 

Anna De Acosta

For me, I've definitely felt alienated in the business world. As someone who has a full-time job, is raising five kids for a long time I was the sole breadwinner for our family. And that push to just quit everything and do your business full time, it's just not possible for me. And I've been told by people, "Oh, just quit and do your business." But you can't do that when you have kids to take care of. And I've definitely felt forced into, "You have to show up on Facebook live and Instagram live and here and there. And if you don't, you're not doing it right." And feeling like, okay, if that's not the way I do it and I'm not doing it right then I'm never going to succeed. But I've learned that if you show up in those ways inauthentically, you're not going to get anywhere. And if you keep spinning your wheels, trying to do all these things that aren't right for you and don't listen to what is right for you, you're not going to get very far, right?

And so my experience has been taking it really slow. And for me, my business is my passion. It's what I love in my life most I'd say. That's what I do that is just for me. And so it's the thing that energizes me, that brings me a sense of purpose in my life, more than any of my other roles. And I do it as an act of self-love. But I can't dedicate all my time to it, and that's okay. And I think sometimes slow and steady wins the race, right? You don't have to be first to everything. And when COVID happened, there was this big push from the self-help community to pivot and show up and help other people. And I mean, for me, it was enough to just show up and be there for my family. And that push to have to do everything and be everything for everyone, it's overwhelming, right?

And so I definitely have been resonating with everything that all of you have been saying. And I think, yeah, just to add a little bit more to that, when you have so many responsibilities and you're a Nurturer, you want to take care of everyone and you want to do everything right. And I think there's this negative tendency towards perfectionism. At least for me, there has been. And in that business world, you feel like you're not enough because you can't show up and give a hundred percent. You can't work 60 hours a week on your business. It's just not possible. But there is another way. And there is a way to do it that's more aligned with who you are, and that's sort of what SMA teaches you.

 

Kate Arbuckle

I'm resonating with everything that everybody said. I've absolutely experienced coaches trying to sort of railroad me into a different direction. And one of my first business coaches who taught me so much, and I am so grateful to her, and she is a Celebrity Ruler. And she said, "Go to every single networking group within a hundred mile radius." And I remember in one of the modules, you've said that, and to have permission for me when I did that, and I tried that and I followed that path, for me it would take me all day to recover because I was just spent from giving and giving and giving and giving. And very similar to going to big events with hundred of people. Yes, I enjoy them. And now I know that if I do anything like that, it is of service to me to have the next day off.

And I don't have to go straight back in. I don't have to tick and implement every single thing on someone else's timeline. I guess that's the biggest thing for me is I don't have to do all of these things on someone else's timeline. I can nurture my soul and nurture who I am, which then allows me to feel into the space and be comfortable with what I'm doing, to then get the better results. I've forgotten the question. And absolutely I've definitely also had coaches who said, "Oh, you need designer handbags and everything." It's just not me. I'm a hippie, and that's okay. And it's okay to be a wealthy hippie. So it's definitely wonderful being able to accept who I am and honor my soul as I go about my business, whilst helping incredible clients who resonate because we all have clients who resonate with who we are.

Michele Tracy Berger

My last two are the Romantic and Ruler. And in the last couple of months, I have really tried to engage that Romantic energy, which is in some ways, because I'm a professor and also a coach, just feels very alien. Everything has to be hard and you have to work hard. And really just trying to go into the ease and the beauty and just making it very joyful. So I've been trying to lean more into the Romantic and how easy can this be in terms of producing products and services for people. So that's been really helpful for me. I would say also SMA as a whole, what was striking to me is that it just ushers in a different way to think about business. It just ushers in a much more playful way. I think so also used the word authentic. I feel like it is a way to get at some of the issues of why people might be stuck.

So for me thinking about the Nurturer and the shadow side of the Nurturer, because there's a shadow side to each of the archetypes that you talk about. Understanding, if I continue on a certain path, I'm going to really manifest the martyr side of the Nurturer. And I've seen a lot of that in terms of folks who are Nurturers, who are in business. So it really allows a different way to think about how you want to be and looking at creative ways to call in that work. And I found the SMA cards where you think about the words that help to define the archetypes using that. I started to use some of that in my copying it in some of my sales page and really being intentional about the kinds of clients that I would want to attract. So SMA just has been so helpful for just really rethinking how one does business and how one can attract more of that client energy that we want to foresee in our world. I find it just so playful to so helpful and playful.

 

Patience Modevi

Well, to be honest with you, the Nurturer is kind of leading my life up until last couple of years, to be honest. But another thing that I found with the Romantic and also, so I'm very generous and I'm very generous with people I like, with people, my family, my friends. And I found that in the, I will say five years, yeah, last five years it's become a problem for me. So knowing that now I'm a little bit more assertive into how I'm giving and I'm giving on purpose. So into my business, I've incorporated a little bit more philanthropy. So I kind of give in that way. So instead of over-giving and being like, "Oh, we've had the coaching session, but I'm still going to keep on going and give you another one extra for free," and so on and so on because it never stops. I go like, "Okay, so we've come to the end and I'm going to maybe use some of the money that has been there to give to a charitable cause or something like that." And that's kind of been feeding, not only my way of feeling like, okay, I'm not guilty because I'm getting money from someone or from something. But at the same time I'm giving back in that way. This was one thing that came out a lot.

 

 

 What would you say to someone interested in joining Sacred Money Archetypes?

 Patience Modevi

I will say you need this. That's the first thing. And then second, I will say it really gives you an insight. I think Shay said it before. It gives you an insight into yourself already, you personally, and the people around you. And you start to realize that, oh my gosh, I can't move forward if I don't have this knowledge. And I think you give a lot of knowledge in terms of, this is why you feel like this, or this is why those kind of things happen. So for example, for me, where I'm a giver and over-giver, I was able to put a little bit more boundaries into my business and be like, oh, when I'm creating those courses, I don't have to over-give myself because the people do it by themself and I don't have to be there so much. And then my energy is not overrun and I feel happy to be with people, if that makes sense. So I will really encourage everyone, not only for the professional and the business, but even for the personal, people who want to come and try the SMA.

 

Why Nurturers should join the Sacred Money Archetypes® Course

 

 

I’d love to welcome you into my new business course, and I know you’ll get a lot out of it. 

I know you don’t like feeling rushed, Nurturer - but sometimes, you have to admit, you need a little incentive to put yourself first and invest in your dreams.

So I’m going to role model for you how to do that with integrity and ease. 

Firstly, thank you for being part of the free Leverage Your Strengths workshop. 

I’m so glad you were involved, and I’m sure you have some great ideas about how to tweak your business to grow from your Nurturer strengths.

I created this new course so you can get support and coaching to make money from your unique gifts. 

You don’t need to change who you are to be successful in business, and you don’t need to hustle and burn out. 

I know you care so deeply that sometimes you feel helpless and small. 

Your heart aches at all the problems you want to solve in the world.

But you’re afraid that asking for money for your talents will turn you into a greedy, soulless b*tch. 

That will never happen, but I can help you with the beautiful boundaries you need and help you develop courage.

Together we can find your path of least resistance to a business based on growth, caring, and abundance. 

Click here to join us in SMA and learn to prosper and serve more people

xx Denise

How Mavericks can use Sacred Money Archetypes® to make more money

I recently had the opportunity to interview an incredible group of Maverick entrepreneurs and alumni in my Sacred Money Archetypes® course. In this fascinating roundtable, we talked about the strengths and challenges these entrepreneurs experience as Mavericks and how they have learned to use their Money Archetype in their business. 

Here's a summary of our discussion and please read the individual member's case studies and course reviews to find out more.

Our Maverick Roundtable Guests

 

How did it feel when you found out you were a Maverick? 

Anna Pugacova
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It just made me feel so safe. It's safe to be who I am. And it just explained so many things in my life and in my business.

 

Aprille Reed
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Not a huge surprise. When I first did the quiz, Celebrity kind of creeped up in there and it was like, "Yeah, I can..." When I read the definition like, "Yeah. Okay, I can see myself being a Celebrity." And then just when I did the quiz, again, those top three kept coming up and it's like, "Oh, yeah. Yeah, Ruler, got it. Leading. Not really a follower. Maverick..." Oh my gosh, that opened up so many ahas, so much acceptance of myself. And we'll probably get into that later. I wasn't really surprised, I must say.

 

Beatrice Weber
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So when I took the test, my Maverick came out super, super high and I was not surprised, and it's always been validating for me. I guess< because I come from such a rigid background that I was like, "What's wrong with me?" And then taking this test and being like, "Okay, just how I am." And I took the test twice and my two next ones came out different, but Maverick always came out on top, like sky high. So my latest test that I took in 2019, my Maverick was 36, then it was Nurturer and Ruler. So those are the other two which just feel very, very resonant.

 

Gemma James
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When the results first came out, it wasn't necessarily a surprise. But it was more like the realization of, "Ah, okay. So it is actually a thing. It's not just that I'm a bit flaky, and really bad at business, and just rubbish at picking a niche, and things like that." It's actually allowed for me to do it this way. And since I have, I guess, honored that and stepped in that, that's where even more of my Romantic has come out because now I know it's allowed to be easy and I get to do it in my way.

 

Helen Pritchard
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Oh, so when I got Maverick, I was like, "Of course, I did." I was like, "I really wanted it." And when I got it, I was like, "Yes, I always get what I want. This is brilliant." I was so pleased to have it because all of my life... I got moved up here at school, so I went to school a year early. So, I was 10 when I went to high school. So I was already different to everyone else. And then I got the older boyfriend, I dropped out of school. But then I managed to just come back and get all my exams. I've always done things differently to everyone else. And over the years, I'd say it's probably caused me quite a lot of hardship in a way. I wasn't particularly popular at school, got bullied. And then I had a mental health breakdown and then I was in a hospital. So it was almost like I was always doing things that other people weren't doing, weren't conforming.

And I just think when I found entrepreneurship, I was like, "Oh, this is it. I can create things out of nothing. It's like magic." I was like, I couldn't believe it. I trained as a holistic therapist first, and the first time someone gave me £40 in cash and they said, "Thank you very much." I was like, "Wow, I've created that money. I had nothing." I felt like a complete magician. And I was hooked from then on in. But buying into Money Bootcamp was the scariest thing I've ever done. I did not have the funds in place. I put it on a credit card. I was shaking.

But as soon as I got in there, it kind of stopped my Maverick in its tracks because at the time I think I paid $1,500 to get in and there was 2,000 people in the group. And I remember sitting on my chair and doing the maths and thinking, "Oh, okay. Right. So I've done all these other things, but if I just sell one thing and I stop doing all the other things, and I just create a million different ways to sell the same thing, all roads lead to bootcamp." For me, it was like I've got a [inaudible], all roads lead to this training. And even my training is completely Maverick because everyone else in the LinkedIn world seems to talk about sending lots of DMs, getting obsessed with what time to post, focusing on engagement. And I'm completely the opposite. I'm like, "we don't send any DMs, we don't care what time you post." All that kind of stuff. So it's completely different.

And when I first launched into the world of the online world, very naively thinking everyone's going to love me, this is going to be great. Because just everyone seemed to hate me and it wasn't great. And I was like, "Oh." But I think a lot of people were triggered because I was teaching things that nobody else had really taught before because it was completely against everything. So definitely that's where Maverick showed up for me. But realizing that I can create magical opportunities to sell the same thing over, and over, and over, and over again has just been such a gift to me. But the roller coaster of the money that I think Maverick seemed to love, I love it. I love it. And I wish I had, like you say, more of the Accumulator and the Nurturer to study that ship a little bit.

But when I did seven figures in 2020, and I just remember sitting there going, "Where's my marching band? Where's my big hair? What happened?" I thought something would happen. I was just sad on my own in January in my office. But then I was like, "Well, I've done that now. I don't need to do that again. I can go to smaller launches. I don't need to spend so much on Facebook ads." And it's almost like I just see opportunities, I want to do it. I want to tick the box. And once I've done it though, I'm like, "I'm good with that. I want to do something else now. So, now I'm going back to selling the same thing, but in a different way to different people. So for me, Maverick was like, "I'm so pleased I've got it." I would never want to do the quiz again in case something else came up. I know when I was looking at investing, they did my investment risk and they were like, "You were the highest we've ever had in... You were 90 out of a 100."

And I'm just like, "Hey, I'm going to Vegas on Thursday and I just think that life's a game to play. It's like you all come in with the same amount of chips, you're going to leave with the same amount of chips. You might as well play it full out while you're here." And for me, entrepreneurship as a Maverick has been a gift from God because it allows me to play the game, have fun with it. The ups, the downs, the wins, the losses, the drama of it. So, it wasn't a huge revelation to me, but I was really pleased to come out as a Maverick for sure.

 

Kierra Jones
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Yeah. It's so interesting because I did my quiz twice and I believe it was a year or a year and a half apart. And so I honestly couldn't remember the first one, but right before I started the program and I did the quiz, I did not pay as much attention to it the first time. So it's one of those things of growth. But the second time around when I looked at the quiz results, seeing the idea of like, "You are rebellious and you are a rebel", I was all here for it. I have a little trophy right there, it's my most extra award. And it was literally a part of me embracing this extra-isms that I like to pour out in the world. And so I wasn't surprised. But what I really love, and I'm sure we'll get through it with the program, it's really all about understanding how to infuse that into your business, from your business model to how you want to show up.

Ad for me, I would take this a step further and say is that... And it's still doing, it made so much sense with the work that I do. So when I first started, sales was just... It's my corporate background, so it was like, "Yeah, teach sales." But I hated the fact that my clients would come in and it's like they want to talk about sales from a numbers perspective. And I was like, "Okay. Yeah. I mean, that's cool." And I'm all about women making money, but it was like, "There's something deeper you're wanting to say that you're not saying. There's something deeper you want to sell that you're not selling. And what if you just gave yourself permission to do it?"

And that was when I really started to realize I don't want to teach sales or be known for sales in the way that others in the industry have, but I really want to hone in on what I call your power message and powerhouse selling, which is just getting into this really intimate space with not only your clients, but also with yourself. How can you connect with your ideal client if you can't truly connect with yourself in the most aligned way?

So it actually gave me this opening into more of what do I really want to be known for and being a rebel in my industry, and doing things a little different, and speaking about it in a different way. And sometimes you're afraid because it's like, "What if they don't get it? What if it's too different?" But really just being okay with it and embracing it. And like my grandmother has called me miss Missy since I was three years old, and really that's what came up for me was me remembering I've always been this girl who beat to her own drum. And so I think really it wasn't a surprise, but it was more of this deeper permission of like, "Yeah, I've literally been this way forever. And now it's really up to me to embrace it and bring it into every part of my business."

 

Kim Galloway
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So I only took the quiz once because when it came up with Maverick and I was reading the description, it was this breath of fresh air. Somebody finally got me. Somebody finally understood my ability to go, "You know what? I don't have the money, but I think I'm going to go ahead and invest in this thing and I'm going to make it okay." And then I do. And so when I got the whole list of archetypes, there was not a single one that I was surprised at with where it fell. But it was this great level of permission and understanding that, yeah, I totally jump and then look later. Hope that the water's there, hope that the net shows up. And it always does seem to.

And it's interesting that everybody's calling themselves a rebel because my Maverick does not manifest that way. It's very specific in the money where I'm really good at saying, "I really need this thing. I really don't have the money, but this is my next step. I'm going to go do it and I'm going to figure the rest of it out." And that always seems to come together.

 

How do your top three Archetypes work together?

Shazia Imam
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Maverick, Ruler, Accumulator, oh my God. First of all, I am a powerhouse. I mean, that is a powerhouse combination. So my powerhouseness, I'm getting stuff done. If I walk into a room, you know. It's all good on paper. It's good in so many ways, but it's never enough. It's never enough. Never. And my Accumulator drives me bonkers. My Accumulator is never happy. I mean, how much more money do I need to have in the bank account? How much more does my retirement need to be set? How much more for it to be enough? But it's never enough.

And then my Maverick loves to do big wild things, like I bought my Tesla last year in cash. And then I had nothing left in my account, which my Maverick is fine with that. But my Accumulator was like, "we're going to die now. We will literally die." And that energy is so exhausting. It's so exhausting. And I want to just enjoy my stuff. I want to enjoy my success. So there's a part of me that's like, "I just want to enjoy in life, but my Accumulator will not let me." And my Maverick and Accumulator are always at odds. And then my Ruler's constantly like, "Well, you're not there yet so stop even talking because you have more stuff to do." So it's hot mess express. But on the outside, I look amazing.

 

Anna Pugacova

I'm a Maverick, Ruler and Alchemist. And I was born in very poor life settings. I was born and grew up in another country in orphanage, no family, everything so poor and dysfunctional. And what I struggled throughout my life is that I was shaming myself for who I am and that I want to go against that, and not follow everyone else's path. And I have received so much shame about that and around that. And I had to let go of that because I know when I discovered that I am Maverick, for me it was like, "This is me. This is who I always was. And I was born to do this. I was born to be wealthy. I was born to inspire people. I was born to lead and I'm not bossy."

And also being an Alchemist, I always have these amazing creative ideas. And I had to stop giving them away for free because I ended up building other people's businesses and I never got paid for that. So my solution to that is basically remind myself every single day that I am the person I always wanted to be, and stand in that power and shine as much as I can because that's when I attract so much money and so many opportunities.

 

Aprille Reed

Definitely. Especially when I have a big win, I feel like I have to relax and my business can take a dive as far as what I should continue to keep doing, because it's like, "Yeah, I had this huge win. Now, I'm going to binge on Netflix for a week." And so just even understanding that about myself and then there's that Ruler, that guilt, that Maverick, "You should be doing something." And just getting back on the horse. And then the Romantic is battling, "No, it's certainly okay just to relax and chill." So there is that, like the good angel, the bad angel, which none of them are good and bad. But it's just the Ruler and the Maverick against the Romantic that, "You should be doing something." And I just want to relax and chill.

So one of the things that I've done is create non-negotiables, like my evenings are free. My weekends are free and I may not stick to it a 100%. If I can get something out of the way in a couple of hours on one weekend, I may do that. But just having that standard for myself, like my evenings are free and my weekends are free for my family, for myself just to chill guilt-free, that's how I try to balance everything.

How does your Maverick sabotage you in business?

Beatrice Weber

One of the things for me was trusting myself that a lot of money could come in and it could come in easily. Again, because of my upbringing and messages I was taught around women being able to earn money, I didn't believe it. But if I look at large sums of money that have come in since 2018, since I joined bootcamp, it's been incredible. Last year when I totaled up how much money I had made, even though I was unemployed for half of the time because of COVID, it was double of what I had ever earned, so over $300,000. And this year as well, I'm looking at the money and I made this deal that just fell into my lap of... I'm not even a real estate broker, but somehow I'm making money by selling somebody's business. And there's like this $100,000 money waiting for me, which is amazing for me to be able to just relax into that because somehow I still have that fear like, "I'll never have enough money. I won't be able to make money." But the facts show otherwise, so I can definitely relate to that.

I think for me, one of my biggest sabotages is jumping from one thing to the next like, "Oh, that looks interesting. Oh my gosh, I could really figure that out." And then once I start actually working on it and getting into the nitty gritty and understanding it, I'm like, "Oh, whatever. This is boring. Let me do something else." So I would say that is my biggest sabotage. What I've done for that is to make sure that I have steady money coming in so that I know at least there's steady money coming in, I can pay all the bills. We're fine. But then with the things that I'm passionate about, I do a lot of that jumping around, totally relate to the shiny object syndrome. When I'm in, it doesn't feel like shiny object. It feels really important, right? That felt really, really good and really important. But next week it doesn't really feel that way. So, that's really, I would say, my main sabotage.

 

Shazia Imam

What's coming up as you all have been sharing too, the overcompensating and then also I would totally be burned at the stake in another lifetime for sure. One of the things I know that I really overcompensated for is, I'm a Brown girl in the U.S. And I grew up in a very white town. And growing up, I always wanted to make it. I wanted to have a seat at the table. I'm a Ruler too, so I'm ambitious. And I would say all the way probably until my mid-30s, that's what I wanted. I wanted to make it. I wanted to prove myself so that I could be seen as just as powerful as all the other white men that kind of get there so easily. And I had this shift within myself where I was like, "Actually, I've reached kind of the on paper success", but it wasn't fulfilling.

And what I really shifted into, and this is where I see my true Maverick coming forth is that, my shift is that I just live in delight. And for a woman to live in delight and a woman of color to live in pure delight is a revolution. And if that's what we can do like, "Damn, that's amazing. That's what I want. And I don't need a seat at the table anymore." And then I thought, I'm just going to create my own table. And I'm like, "Forget it. Why are we going to sit at a table? Let's go enjoy ourselves and go jump out of a plane or enjoy a nice spa." And now I actually do these VIP days with clients. But my point is that my Maverick being able to just enjoy truly, that's fulfilling. And if women could just do that, I mean that would really make me happy instead of have to slog away, and do this, or the patriarch, and all the other things. I'm like, "Let's just enjoy." I mean, that's just not even allowed, it seems, across many places.

 

Aprille Reed

My business, my life feels like I'm jumping out of an airplane. And as I'm falling, I'm like, "Oh, wait. Maybe I should have been paying attention when they were telling me how to pull the safety pull so I can land safely." It's just so many things are just jumping, "I'll figure it out." And I'm always chasing that shiny new object syndrome, the next thing. One of my big sabotages, and I was thinking about it and it's like, "Well, everything I have ever tried to monetize in my business, I have made money." But where my big sabotage come from is just I hit that ceiling very quickly because I'm always hopping to the next new idea. And I don't stick to something that is working very long, or there's always something to tweak. And for whatever reason, I could make money in a funnel. And it's like, "You know what? I don't like it that, let's tear it down, start over from scratch because I don't know, just something's not good enough about it."

And so that has come up in my business, in my life a lot, just it's always the next thing. I'm never really focused on one thing. I get bored very, very quickly. And my husband's an Accumulator and my business bestie's an Accumulator. And it's funny because I'm on a call with a Accumulator now. And a lot of times they do want to say, "Wait, let's pause. Let's research. Let's make sure this is where we want to go." And it's like, "What more research is there? No. We're going to make money, let's just go. What's taking you so long? Why aren't you hopping on to this?" And what they've taught me is to slow down and to listen more. And there's a lot of things that I can appreciate from an Accumulator that does not come natural to me, that it's like, "You know what? I need to really focus on my future and slow down and appreciate that part of them."

 

Kim Galloway

When my business was new, I definitely took on anything that related to, "Oh, you want to write a book? Cool, I'll ghost write for you." I'm a lousy book-length ghost writer. "Oh, you need blog posts? Sure, I'll do that too. Oh, you need copy." I was a bang up copywriter. And so I settled in on just doing the book coaching. But where I sabotage my business, where that Maverick comes in is that need to take the risk. And it's always around the finances. I look at some of the Accumulators in SMA and I'm going, "But your money, it's just sitting there. And you don't spend it, it just sits there?" So that Maverick really comes out with, "I have worked really hard to not spend every single penny that comes across my bank account and just get rid of it as quickly as possible."

I know that this will just cause Accumulators to just have heart attacks, I don't think that debt is bad. I am very comfortable with my credit cards. If I need something and I'm like, "Cool, how can I juggle this? How can I invest in my business? How can I invest in myself? How can I get training or join this program?" And the way that really sabotages those, I carry a lot of debt. I'm constantly living on that edge of the feast or famine. And those have been the things that I'm working on, but how do you work on it so you're more comfortable without losing that delicious live on the edge, take the risk, roll the dice, be excited? And it's really interesting, the fine line between the strength of the Maverick archetype and the sabotages of the Maverick archetype. But yeah, I'm the Maverick in a group of Mavericks, I have not burnt down my business in the last 10 years.

 

Kierra Jones

For me number one aha was like, "I just need to go into deeper alignment. There's actually not so much that's wrong, it's just that I need to realign it." That was one. An area that I sabotage myself in definitely was regarding funnels and webinars. For me, because I'm such an intimate person, I felt like funnels weren't intimate. I felt like they didn't create connection. I felt like everyone had the same webinar type of thing and everyone's doing it the same way. And I just didn't vibe with that. And I was like, "Oh my God, I am such a rebel that I want to say F you to the funnels. And I want my people to fill me in all that." But that totally was a sabotage because when you talk about creating simplicity... which I'll definitely talk about in a second, like changes I made to my business model... But in general, when I think about simplicity, I had to really do work around seeing the beauty in funnels and seeing what they could create. How I could leverage repurposing my content, creating more automation, making a balance?

There's some live stuff I can do, because I know that I will have amazing, amazing conversion rates. When people experience my energy, whether it's in person, or whether it's on a challenge, or masterclass... I don't like the word webinar. I like to say masterclass... but see even that, my energy around it. So it was really just some shifting and some reframing that I had to do on stuff. And not doing it the way that I thought I needed to do or format it like this, and your site has to be like that. And once I found my jam in my master classes like, "I don't want to talk at you. I want you to come on screen. I expect for you to talk."

I remember one of the first master classes that once I finally gave myself permission to do it in my way and just interacting with people, they were so... I had to tell people like, "I actually want you to talk. I'm not recording it, you can talk on it. I want to interact with you. I'm a human being." They were so shocked. And so just finding ways to bring me into it, but leveraging some of those automations and things like that, instead of trying to fight it. Because if I don't, well, then everything is live. And so now I'm getting to the place where I am exhausted. So trying to find the balance between the two was definitely something I had to realize.

The other thing that I will say is definitely team. Team, team, team. I don't know if anyone else has this. I haven't heard much about team. But for me, there's this... I'm also a control freak. So there was this like, "I have to do it myself. You're not me, I have to do it." But then also this like, "Who are you to tell me what to do, even though you're my team?" My content manager that I recently was working with for eight months, that journey was definitely a lot of growth for me because I had to learn, her giving ideas and suggestions, it's very empowering for her. But it also was difficult for me to be in a space of someone else trying to tell me what to do or me wanting to do my thing and trying to resist it. And it was like, "Why are you resisting? You literally are paying her to give you this stuff. Why are you resisting this?" So that is definitely something I am still working on, to be quite honest.

Someone talked about decluttering, I think it was Gemma. And I think we all seem to be talking about that. For me, I had to introduce to myself this concept of the power of the core. And so for me, I had 15 different offers before SMA and I had gotten rid of some of them before. But in essence, before 2019, I had 15 different offers and it was stressful. It's like I don't launching, but yet I was in a launch model. I always had to launch and do all these things. That was exhausting to me. And so for me 2019, as I stepped into 2020, my plan was like, "I want to create more focus. I want to really hone in on my core."

And so I talk about the core four and really just claiming your core, what's the core message? What's the core client? What's the core thing that you do? Just honing in on what's your core offer. And so for me, for the 2020... Well, since 2020, 2021, so last two and a half years, I have literally focused on selling two things, and that is it, in my whole business. And being able to do that has been so amazing. And I just want to say this is such a beautiful conversation because it helps you think about the growth that you've done and like, "Whoa, this is what's happened."

And I wanted to just share this story. So in 2017, I had my first $20,000 month. And I could not figure out how to make them consistent at all. 2020, when I had my next $20,000... I had had another 20,000 a month, but it wasn't consistent. From 2020 and 2021, to be able to be in a space where before it was from a one-on-one program and then to look at my business, and it's from a group program, and I can bring in handfuls of women at one time, I literally worked part-time from May, all summer long. And I still was doing 20-25K cash months, not even sales months, but just working part-time. It was such an aha. And even now I'm still taking it in that I allowed myself to have this time. It is the next level to me.

And so I just wanted to point out how we're talking about decluttering your business model, focusing on your core, creating simplicity. I never valued simplicity as much. And one of the breakthroughs that I was talking about from yesterday when I was doing this recording for the podcast, I said something to myself around so much of my identity was in me being a smart girl. So much of my identity growing up was like I got good grades, especially being raised in a low income home, single mother, education was the way that we were taught to get out. And I was the first to go to college in my family, the first to work in corporate America. People thought I was crazy for leaving this big corporate job. There was so much identity I had in being the smart one, and knowing the answer, and all the things.

And so when you become an entrepreneur, I feel like for me, it was like, "Go, go, go." Making money harder is the answer. To make more money, you have to work harder, and all of these things. And just being in a space where I know that I allowed this for myself and now my next step is continuing to allow it for myself because I've seen some little sabotages try to come in, in the last two months or so. I had my two biggest years. And then going into this year, I'm like, "Okay, I want to top that." And as I've started 2022, it's like I've seen these little sabotages.

So one, I just want to thank Denise for bringing this circle together because I just have this aha that it's like, "Oh my God, I have to go back through SMA because..." And even if I didn't go through it, just being here in this time, it's kind of like, "Kierra, this was why you created this program." So I know that Gemma was talking about a membership. I have a high ticket membership. It used to be low ticket. I couldn't deal with that shit, $97 a month wasn't working for me. I'm too extra and give too much for it, so I realized very quickly I couldn't do it. So then I was like, "Oh, I'm just going to make a high ticket one." And everyone was like, "There's no high ticket membership. That doesn't exist. It has to cost this much." And I was like, "Well, this is how much I'm giving them. This is how much I'm paying." And it took me a minute to really be okay with that in 2020, but I know that I've grown in it.

I've increased that program in a beautiful way and I'm excited for where it's going next. And I saw myself having a little sabotage January where I was like, "Wow, look at what I did this year. I was in like 60K of debt. I paid off 40K of it. I'm like, "Last 20K." I had all my taxes done in January. I had investing team. I felt like financially, I'm like, "I'm on my shit right now." And so there was this little moment of like, "Oh, gosh. Wow, look at all this stuff that I did." And so I think sometimes as a Maverick, it is like, "You did all of this and you worked less this year than you did three years before, but you may double and triple the amount of money." Like, "Really?" And it's like, "Yeah, and we're going to take that to the next level. That's the next future sabotage that I'm working through.

And I am so grateful to just this circle to just remind me of that whole idea of simplicity, it is powerful. As a Maverick growing up, being little, it's like doing all the things I thought was really cool, and that was my identity. And now it's like, "No, I like that my day is simpler, and I can lay on the couch, and I can play a video game and still sign a client in the middle of me playing a video game, and all the things." So lots of different ahas for sure on sabotages and things like that. But really, really grateful for this space.

 

How has joining Sacred Money Archetypes helped you?

Aprille Reed

SMA has been so eye opening. So I would say, "Do it because if you are having guilt, or if you're struggling, or if people are judge-y on something that just comes natural to you, and maybe you feel like, 'I have to follow the norm and I have to fit into this box', I feel like SMA, what it did for me was it gave me the permission..." And I think a lot of times... And I hate that, especially with women, we need that permission to just be okay with who we are and to be different from society. And so, yes. Okay, if you need the permission, I'll give you the permission to invest in SMA. And then you're going to get the permission that it's okay when you have that tingling feeling like, "This doesn't feel authentic to me. This doesn't feel quite right. Maybe I'm just not cut out..." No, you are definitely cut out.

You just need to know what your strengths and what your weaknesses are. And when you know that, you're going to be able to make grounded, and sound, and very smart decisions in your life, not just as an entrepreneur. And I know there are people on here that are not trying to go toward that, but just in your life in general. So yes, definitely invest in SMA just to understand yourself better and show up in this world as your most authentic you.

 

Why Mavericks should join the Sacred Money Archetypes® Course

Let me try some reverse psychology on you – don’t join this course. 

In fact, you’re forbidden! Ha ha. 

No, seriously, I know you sometimes resist the herd, even when it goes against your own self-interest.

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Nobody has more freedom than a wealthy maverick. 

Break the rules AND be a role model for others who want to break free too. 

Rebel against generic, cookie-cutter business advice… make money your way. 

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So now’s the time to finally embrace your creativity and bravery to fulfill your potential.

Join my new business course, and let’s leverage your Maverick money-making ability and change the world. 

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Click here to join - with your intelligence and charisma, you’re going to rock this.

xx Denise

 

How Connectors can use Sacred Money Archetypes® to make more money

I recently had the opportunity to interview an incredible group of Connector entrepreneurs and alumni in my Sacred Money Archetypes® course. In this fascinating roundtable, we talked about the strengths and challenges these entrepreneurs experience as Connectors and how they have learned to use their Money Archetype in their business. 

Here's a summary of our discussion and please read the individual member's case studies and course reviews to find out more.

Our Connector Roundtable Guests

 

How did it feel when you found out you were a Connector? 

Carrie Ekins
(Click here to read Carrie's full review)

I was not surprised that I was a Connector, but I didn't resonate until I properly read through everything. I'm quite an introvert, I'm one of those outgoing introverts. The idea of making connections is a bit like, "Oh God." But once you get me in my flow, I'm that kind of Connector which is very much about sharing information. It's about teaching, it's about giving you the best of what I have to offer. Yeah, but I think to begin with I was like, "Really? Connector? I'm terrible at networking." I always stand on the side of the room and I take the room in. And then when I've read the room, I jump in. So, definitely with the Alchemist and the nurturer, I see how it all works together so I never really think of myself as being top of the triangle, Connector.

 

Deirdre Amies
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Well, I'll just be completely open and honest and say I was pissed off when I discovered I was a Connector, because I wanted to be a Maverick or a Ruler or something like that. One of the cool ones, but really it's me to a tee. There's a couple of things that are probably very subtle with me, but I'm a Connector through and through. And like Carrie, I'm the same; I don't enjoy networking so I was like, "How can that be me?" I hold back and I read the room and then I go for the connections that feel right. And it also shows up in everything I've ever done, basically. Every conversation I've ever had in corporate, I was counseling people and connecting them with a solution; a way to make them feel better. So yeah, that is totally me. Dammit.

 

Jodie Howard
(Click here to read Jodie's full review)

I definitely was surprised. It was a surprise to even a space of denial that I just didn't see it. It was like I couldn't see the forest from the trees. I felt honestly, as I dug deeper and learned more about it but it was a surprise. I wanted to be a Ruler or I wanted to be the other archetypes that I felt seemed to be more money savvy or could call in and bring in money in the ways that I don't, typically. And so it definitely was a surprise and a little bit of a, "I don't really know if I want that one to be mine." And so I really do like my Romantic, that's my second one. So, I kind of like to play into that more, because it felt fun and light and airy. And I, for a while, was just really wanting to learn more about that. And it wasn't until I acknowledged more of my connectedness and Connector ability, though, that things actually did start to flow through in that way also. So, it was definitely a surprise.

 

Monica Lee Rich
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So, I'm not surprised I was a Connector, I was surprised at the negative parts of the Connector. In fact, you know what you girls? I kept these cards and I've just found them. I was so proud of myself that I had actually kept them. But I had a lot of, actually, shame around the fact that the things with the Romantic and the Connector, that they depend on someone for financial dependence. And certainly that's the way I was raised and that lack of complete financial dependence, and actually I would say it even tripped me up a lot. I kept taking the task because I was like, "Surely that can't be." Because I'm working so hard at being these other things, but this is why it's actually fun to have the full-blown version where you can actually read and see what your attributes are.

And interestingly, as we move forward in the conversation, as I reread these because I haven't visited this in a while; I was surprised at what I have worked past in being some of the traits of, "I deserve this." Because I don't feel that anymore. I'm not going at this with the same amount of shame. But that was my initial reaction was, "I don't want that to be me."

 

Orit Ojos
(Click here to read Orit's full review)

Yeah, I guess I was not surprised that I'm a Connector because I really am all about relationships and all about that thing of sharing information. There's like five seconds between the moment I learned something in the moment I'm teaching it. I've taught so many very different things in my life and I just love sharing information and fitting people with what they need; the solution they need and I'm always counseling everybody. And then when I kept going into the Connector thing and saw the thing about the money, well yeah, it kind of describes me. So, I'm never really dependent on anyone but never really, totally independent. Somehow just making it happen, I'm not sure exactly how. So yeah, but also I'm a shy extrovert. I'm not so good with a lot of people, but very good one-on-one and some moments I just become the center, which is kind of weird. Just someday I'll go and just make everyone laugh, everybody's talking to me. And then the next day I'm reading a book, not even looking up.

 

How do your top three Archetypes work together?

Rachael Ferrera
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For me, it's Connector, Alchemist and then Ruler a little bit below. Oh yeah, I definitely see all of these and I've been fascinated by how they work together and pull on each other. So, definitely with that Connector, Alchemist with both of them being so high, the tendency to just not care about money, "I don't need to think about that." I mean, absolutely. This is something that I've gotten much better at. Definitely work in progress but gotten much better at because of Money Bootcamp and SMA. All of these things like going, "Okay. Yes, let's look at this and let's create some systems around it." But that natural tendency all through my twenties, for sure. It was very much money was not a thought in my mind, really, managing it at all. And just that belief that it will always be there is great and I think I especially in my late twenties, early thirties; I saw that double edged sword thing play out because then it's when some kind of emergency would happen, it was like I didn't have as much access to my magic, almost. It felt like.

It's like, "Whoa." All of a sudden everything's a bit of a mess, if that makes sense. And so really going, "Oh, okay. Maybe let me pay a little bit more... Or a lot, actually a lot more attention." But something that also was interesting when I started, not in Money Bootcamp, before Money Bootcamp. When I started looking at money through some other programs and things; I all of a sudden realized that I wasn't looking at my money. I wasn't caring about it and I became aware of that, and then I almost became ashamed of that. And then it was almost like I totally leaned away from my Alchemist, the part of me that could just create money because it was like, "No, that's not real. That's juvenile. That's too magical." Like, "No, you need to understand where it's coming from." And then I actually think I started leaning more into the Ruler part of me that's like, "I need to be empowered. I need to work for this."

Which there is a very natural part of me that can just do the thing, but it's not actually the highest part of me. I think it's good that it's in the mix and it helps but what I noticed was a pendulum swing to then where it's like, "No, I just need to work on this. I just need to build my empire." And then I wasn't connecting with people because it's like, "No, I need to focus. I need to work." And I started to see things aren't flowing. And so when I really dove into this work, I started to understand it's like, "No." Because yes, it's good to pay attention to the money. It's good to build your empire, whatever, but my superpower is in the connection so I have to have that.

And when I connect, what I've realized is connecting to other people and really building really genuine relationships for the sake of building genuine relationships; is what creates. It's like the channel to the Alchemist. It's the channel to money just coming in, opportunities just coming in that then turn into money. So, that's how I see that trifecta playing out for me and it's been so powerful to just have this understanding so I can go, "When things aren't as in flow, what is it that I need to lean into? Am I cutting off my Connector? Am I cutting off my Alchemist? Or do I actually need to bring in a little bit more of that Ruler for a phase?" So yeah, this has been just mind blowing.

 

Houda AzzaOui
(Click here to read Houda's full review)

I relate so, so much to what Stacy just said in terms of that's where I'm at in finding the fun again in my business and in trying to follow all those processes and stuff, it just killed my vibe. And just now actually, as I started surrendering and even letting go of the outcome and of the money goal and just doing it for the process and enjoying, things started coming. Just a few days, I was invited to the round table and then another invitation to webinar came in. I was like, "Oh my God, this is me. This is my life, things come to me. It's happening again." And yeah, SMA definitely changed my life and I'm changing my business model. So, in the first life of SMA last year when I joined, was just at the time I was finishing my beta version of a course that I was just launching.

While my Romantic was happy having a course out there and then running on passive and the passive income thing, then I realized... Well, two things; my Romantic wasn't happy. The lifetime access model that my mentor was encouraging us was like a lifetime. What does that mean? I cannot commit for my lifetime. I love what I do. And it was weekly calls as well. And the weekly calls even bimonthly, I made them bimonthly, even for my beta because weekly was just does too much for my Romantic. And even that bimonthly was too much. But what I realized is that my other archetypes, Nurturer and Connector, weren't happy because people were not joining the calls so much. They did the work, but I didn't get to be there with them.

And then I started contracting for this company doing one-on-one for corporate. And then I realized, "Oh my God, one-on-one. I love one-on-one." I just have to show up in there and don't have to prepare for anything. No course to record, no funnels or whatsoever. I just need to show up for the one-on-one and then it's done. So, I'm swapping, definitely, to one-on-one and [inaudible] to get one-on-one because it just feels so aligned. My Romantic is happy because I don't have to prepare anything. I'm keeping myself very mindful of not over promising to send things after the call, that definitely thanks to SMA. I would always be in a Nurturer and Connector who just over commits, being in the energy, in the moments to doing things after and sending things and then just never bother and procrastinate for two weeks before doing it.

So, now I'm keeping being mindful of that before I promise anything. And yeah that's been really, I think, the main change my business model and just taking completely other turn. Not excluding putting up a group coaching program at some point but run it completely passive, more easily than that. And for now, I just cannot deal with another launch. I love it, it's just putting content out there as I feel it and having people come in and yeah, no official launch with the deadline to have a certain number of clients with the deadline. That's putting me off now, I can't deal with that. Had a bad experience.

 

 

How does your Connector sabotage you in business?

Carrie Ekins

I find that I end up in a perfect storm of Connector, Alchemist, Nurturer. When you're so good for helping, so good for teaching, so good for trying to give everyone what they need. And then you end up with really sloppy time boundaries because you just need to give it more and give it more, and then you don't want to be paid. And you're just like... One of my friends is... Oh, I think, actually, Denise might see her tomorrow. Kate Arbuckle, she is a massive Accumulator, Maverick. And she's like, "Carrie, stop burning down the barn and giving it all away for free. You've already created something awesome. Turn it into a passive income and then move on with your life. Stop making a new thing before you finish the first thing." And I'm like, "But I like it. I want to do it. I want to help everyone."

 

Rachael Ferrera

Because as a Connector, there's that thing where everybody becomes your friend. So, he would in the beginning kind of look at me like, "Why are you charging our friends to work with you? What are you doing?" And I know that the reason I do that is because there's actually a tendency to not want to charge my friends so I really had to have a moment of being like, "But the thing is, everyone becomes my friend." I have tons of clients that are friends and friends that are clients that it's this very reciprocal relationship and it just does this. And so it came to, "If I don't charge my friends, I won't have a business because I'll just be doing this work for free for everyone."

And when I explained that to him through the lens of the archetypes, he got it and he wasn't uncomfortable with that anymore. So, it's released some tension in our relationship because these are his friends too. People who are close to him, if they want to work with me, then I charge them. Sometimes I offer them a little deal or whatever, but we're still going to have business happening. So, I think it's just created more ease for us.

 

Jodie Howard

I was going to say for me it shows up that I hear often people say, "You give away so much free content." I'm constantly just putting out great, amazing content. And I will have accumulated friends or other people saying, "What are you doing here?" And I'm like, "Oh, I'm just sharing. I'm just talking. I'm just posting." I'm just doing what feels comfortable and what feels natural, what feels good and I'm connecting. I'm connecting information, ideas, people, concepts. I'm doing all of that. And there are times, though, that I'm becoming much more aware of it and I'm choosing to say, "Okay, that is my gift and I am here to receive more value, more income from this." And so that's part of been what my growth and shift has been of allowing myself to learn when I can share content without just overloading the content.

And actually they're creating a masterclass out of it and charging people to come and do that. And that has been this uh-huh that I've been stepping into more and more and just... Yeah, because otherwise I'm like, "Well, sure! Everybody want to hear it? I'm here to give you... Sure!" And then later I'm like, "But I really would like some actual income from this too." So, that's been part of my process.

 

Monica Lee Rich

So, this is an interesting question in the Smart Creative Women, when I had that podcast, I actually got burnt out doing it and had to pull the plug on it because I was posting and giving and had not figured out how to monetize it. I didn't know how to monetize it. I did e-courses, I did coaching and I was doing three podcasts a week. And so it was just like, "I wish I would've gone in with a plan of how to make money." But I had positioned it as, "Let's gather everybody together and be friends and it's a coffee table roundabout." But nobody was paying me. And how it shows up now as an artist... And so this is several years later and it's a good question to ask myself now because I've taken myself out of that role, but I still have all the followers and I have very expensive art for $5,000 down to, "Oh, well what can they afford?"

And I just recently did something that was very off brand for me. And I did these small watercolors and charged $25 for them. And some of my other art friends were like, "Well of course you sold out." And I knew this was not in the right price point but I felt like, "Oh, I they've been following me for so long. They're on my newsletter, let me just do something they can afford." So I feel like I'm assigning people what I think they can afford versus being aspirational. And even at $200, $300, $400; save up and have my art on your wall. So, that's how it's affecting me now and it's really actually... I'm wrestling with it.

 

Orit Ojos

Yeah. How is it showing up in my business? I'm just counseling everybody because it's so useful. I'm just teaching everybody about eyesight improvement, solving everybody's problem in basically all walks of life, all camps, all everything everybody needs. But none of these people are paying me, I'm not sure why. I mean, there are some people who are paying me but I spend a lot of time solving everybody's problems. But actually, you know what? It's something that I love to do, it's something that I really love about my life; that I can spend hours and hours talking to whoever about whatever. And it's really interesting for me. The guy who's doing his PhD about ancient coins and nobody wants to talk to him and I'm like, "Oh wow, this is so interesting. Ancient coins."

I helped a friend of mine write his thesis in mathematics. I don't know anything about it but he needed a writer and it was so interesting for me. I was like, "Oh, fractiles. That's awesome." And for a very short while I knew quite a bit about fractiles, it's all gone now but... And I just do all these things. And I'm kind of thankful and grateful to myself for taking the time to do these things. Although, financially it's not very good decisions because it's a lot of time, usually, just volunteering to do these things. And yeah, I guess it would be nice to have some money but as the personality thing says; it all, somehow, magically works out.

 

How has joining Sacred Money Archetypes helped you?

Deirdre Amies

I think how it's helped me is to just embrace all of me. All the different parts of me because up until discovering SMA, I was thinking more along the lines of, "Okay, I'm a Libra." But I don't really resonate with all of the Libra because it's so one dimensional. But understanding my Connector traits and then the other underlying ones, it's the whole package. And that has really helped me to just grow as a person, to improve my relationship with my family. As soon as I started talking about this stuff, my kids, they started talking about it too and I'm pretty sure my oldest is a Maverick because he refuses to take the test. So yeah, just understanding more about myself. I've definitely become a better person, a better coach, better with money. I love the [inaudible] money visualization. It's expanded so, so much from my first impression of it. Yeah, just connecting with possibilities.

 

Jodie Howard

For me, it really started first even within my household and learning my archetype and then learning my husband's, who's an Accumulator, first and foremost. And me and my Romantic and Connector self; it was so enlightening in our relationship and it explained so much. And it assisted with so much for both of us to understand this and see where we were coming from after, it's been now 30 years of marriage. And we did this, what? A few years ago. So, it was really helpful. That, I think, was the very first step. And then now being able to see it in my business, like I said, when I made the awareness that as a channel and as a guide, I am really leaning into my Connector abilities and it always felt so easy and almost too easy. Similar to what Monica had said, that I thought it was almost too easy for this to be the thing that I could actually now create a business around.

So, having that awareness was also really enlightening and leaning into that and allowing the ease of my Connector abilities to actually lead the way for income, and money, and allowing more and more to come in.

 

 

Why Connectors should join the Sacred Money Archetypes® Course

Let me tell you what I’ve created in my SMA course, and if it floats your boat, I’ll let you know how to get access.

I know you don’t like feeling rushed, Connector - but sometimes, you must admit, you need a little incentive to get you out of your analysis paralysis hidey-hole. 

So I’m going to role model how to do that with integrity and ease. 

Firstly, thank you for being part of the free Leverage Your Strengths workshop. 

I’m sure you’ve made some fantastic connections and have many ideas about tweeting your business to grow from your Connector strengths.

Now I would love to welcome you into our new community.

I created this course so you can get personalized business training and unlock your unique gifts. 

You don’t need to change who you are to be successful in business, and you don’t need to hustle and burn out. 

Together we can find your path of least resistance to a business based on connection, abundance, and joy. 

I know you sometimes judge other entrepreneurs because they care “more about money than people.”

And maybe that’s why you justify keeping your business small. 

I see you! 

Keeping your head in the sand is not only hurting you, but it’s stopping you from helping SO many people with your gifts. 

Let me help you serve and prosper (you don’t have to choose).

Click here to join us in SMA and connect with me and our incredible community.

xx Denise 

How Celebrities can use Sacred Money Archetypes® to make more money

I recently had the opportunity to interview an incredible group of Celebrity entrepreneurs and alumni in my Sacred Money Archetypes® course. In this fascinating roundtable, we talked about the strengths and challenges these entrepreneurs experience as Celebrities and how they have learned to use their Money Archetype in their business. 

Here's a summary of our discussion and please read the individual member's case studies and course reviews to find out more.

Our Celebrity Roundtable Guests

 

 

How did it feel when you found out you were a Celebrity? 

Heather Lambert
(Click here to read Heather's full review)

I was very surprised by my celebrity. I was like, "This is wrong." And I think I took it again to make sure. And sometimes your archetypes can shift and change over time. Mine has always been a very, very strong celebrity first, no doubt whatsoever. And even romantic and ruler, very strong top three. But it really surprised me at first, because I was always told growing up that I was shy. I was shy, I didn't make friends easily. I was just a shy girl. My mom tells stories all the time about hiding behind her leg. And they had to pay me a dollar to do a cartwheel at cheerleading tryouts when I was seven, because I wouldn't do anything until they paid me a dollar. And so that was the story and my identity growing up forever. I was shy.

And then I found teaching and I became a teacher and I was alive when I was teaching. I felt the energy and that flow and I would get excited when I was teaching and whether it was in the classroom. And then as I started my business, I started teaching my team and at conferences and workshops full of people and I loved it, that energy. So when I really started thinking about that celebrity and really learning about it through the course, I went, "Oh yeah, that is me." I do like to be the center of attention. I do like to be in the spotlight. I love to share with people the information that I know to help them and make them happy and excited. I love to share. In fact, just recently I realized, "I think that's why I read so much," because I like to gather all the information, so that I could share it with people and look like I'm important.

So it was a huge shock and surprise to me at first. And I didn't really believe it until I really started digging into my experiences and my life and my history, and I went, "Oh, yeah, that is me." And through the course, and I had done money bootcamp first, so I had unlocked some of those money blocks, I really started doing a lot of upgrading. I upgraded my clothes. I started giving myself permission to buy from places other than discount shops and to get real stuff. I felt like I could finally buy real things. My parents and my grandparents are all about passing things down. "We don't need this anymore, so you should have it." Or "You have a need for something and I have a thing and it will be functional for you, so you should use it." No, I don't want to use it. I want to buy a new one. That's pretty and matches my house. I don't care for it."

In fact, I've been sort of the joke of the family, almost like, "Oh, don't try to give it to Heather. She doesn't want it." Because I don't. I don't want it. I want to buy my own. I want to pick it out. I want it to be perfect in the things that I want. And I don't just want somebody's hand-me-down thing. So I feel like I'm me now. I feel like I can be myself and I have permission to be myself.

 

Janet Bernstein
(Click here to read Janet's full review)

So when I found out I was celebrity, first of all, I just assumed I did something wrong on the quiz, that maybe I had answered the questions wrong, because when I read the descriptions of especially the other two archetypes, my nurturer and ruler, I was like, "Oh, that's me. Those are me." I was building an online business, but I was also very centered around people. I had a women's organization and retreats. And so everything was very much building things for other people, like down to building websites and being behind the camera and photographing them. And my hair was always in a ponytail and I was like, "I'm not a celebrity. That's not really who I am. I'm the one behind the scenes, cheering for everybody." So I was kind of confused when I first saw the different archetypes.

But actually when I started watching the videos and I started going through what I wanted for my life and my business, the celebrity was there. She was just hiding. And she was just not showing up. She was kind of saying, "Oh, well, if you're plus size, nobody wants you to be on camera all the time." Or, "Oh, if you have wild and curly hair, you've got to tame it to show up," or, "You have to have your hair done," or, "You have to have makeup done." It was funny, Denise was talking about doing her hair and makeup before showing up. I used to have that view that, "Oh, well, if I'm going to be this person on social media, I have to do all those things." And I realize that over time, it's the personality that really is the celebrity thing. It's not all the other stuff. They all add up. But the ruler really was what I wanted when I first heard of SMA and I signed up and wanted to take the quiz, I was like, "Oh, I'm a ruler. I know I'm a ruler." I was so excited.

And then when I saw the ruler was in the top three, I was like, "I'm just going to tell everybody I'm a ruler," because I really liked that one the best. But actually what's funny is over the last couple of years, I did change my business around to where the focus was a little bit more on me. And I think it was Rebecca that said showing the vacations and the lifestyle, that actually was my personality very much. So now I was like, "Oh, well, now I don't have to hold back and I can show we did the upgraded swim out suite," or whatever we did. And I could actually kind of own that because it really was part of my true personality.

And what's funny is I started wanting to show up more.I wanted to shine more. I wanted to buy clothes other than black. I actually owned almost all black and gray clothes for a long time. And now everything is color. Even my nails are colored all the time. So I think just finding out the results were a little shocking at first. But I think that anybody that's even considering SMA has got to know that your archetype could be hiding. It could be hiding because of different reasons. And I was able to uncover some of the reasons why trauma and environment and relationships and different things that caused me to suppress that celebrity thing. But once I embraced her, then I really did start attracting everything that I was supposed to be doing. And I really had all sorts of light bulbs that went off. It was like, "Oh, my gosh, this is why it was so hard before," because I wasn't really being me. I wasn't shining.

 

Kerri Layton
(Click here to read Kerri's full review)

The celebrity one was no great surprise to me. And I was like, "Oh, finally. I get to own it." And just say, "Yeah," like Janet said, "I really like beautiful things." It's important for me to have beautiful things. And I actually am a celebrity. I work in the performing arts industry. I work in show business. I'm on stage. That's my job. And there was always the society, societal shames, and putting people in boxes and things like that. And it was the first time I actually came across that when it validated my experience on planet earth as a performer, as somebody who lives in the limelight to say, "Actually people need this. This is your job." So that was really nice for me.

 

Rebecca Lima
(Click here to read Rebecca's full review)

Finding out that I was a celebrity, I had a 30 second shock and then I just fell into my own body. I'm like, "Oh, everything makes sense now." As a seven year old, I remember I had some really rich cousins and I went to their house and their maid made a comment that I was really stuck up. But the thing is I was super broke. I was a child. How could I be stuck up? So the celebrity has always been part of me even when I didn't have money. And a lot of times growing up, I was called stuck up and who wants to have the really nice things and I should just settle. So it was like my whole life flash before my eyes and things started to really make sense. And instead of being ashamed and guilty about feeling the way that I felt and liking the things that I liked, even when it was out of my budget, I started really embracing it in the simplicity and things.

And even the way that I do marketing, the language that I use around marketing has changed. And it's so interesting, because now I use celebrity words and I start attracting more people who are like that. And the funny thing was a small change. I never felt really comfortable sharing income besides my clients. But I'm a business coach. I need to share some type of ROI in order for me to get clients. So I stepped into my celebrity self and I started sharing my lifestyle. It doesn't matter how much I make, but here are all the amazing things I get to do by doing what I do. And that has changed everything about it, because now I share my vacations. I share... Like last year, we went for a month-long vacation as a family, which was such a dream. We went to 30 places in 30 days. This year, we're doing a two-week vacation. I arrived yesterday from vacation. I'm going on vacation again tomorrow. So I share that. I share my lifestyle.

And unashamed, again, owning my words, saying, "This is amazing that I get to do this. Don't you want to do this too?" And when people tell me that I'm stuck up, I'm like, "No, I'm just a celebrity. Get used to it." And even my parents. Last night, I treated my dad to a five-star meal, which felt so good to be in that place of "Dad, here we go. Let's just do this. This is so nice." And to get to be a role model owning your wants, because I think that especially as women, we are told to just keep it down, keep it low, the humbleness. And especially as an immigrant, I had the second best mindset that I was always second best. There were always other people shining. And stepping to my celebrity self, "No, I get to be my own best. And this is awesome and a role model for other people." So that's really special.

 

 

How do your top three Archetypes work together?

Shay Jordan-Hrobsky
(Click here to read Shay's full review)

For me, it's more so in my personal life, as well, than in my business, especially the celebrity and the romantic. My husband is also an accumulator and, oh, my lanta, the struggles that we have had. Because I'm like, "We'll be fine. Everything is fine. We're good." And he's like, "No, we're not. The world is burning down. We need everything in the bank." I'm like, "We are okay." It is just that night and day difference. I can't imagine romantics going, "Oh, hot damn. No, thank you." Nor would I want to." But also, I do think that he helps a little bit with balancing me out, because I do have that double whammy of the celebrity and romantic and mine isn't canceled out. Mine is the amplified, the imposter syndrome, the putting things off, all of that.

So having him be that middle ground of, "Okay, honey, we've been on three trips in six months, let's take a break." And I'm like, "Okay, maybe you're right. But can we start planning our next trip? So at least I have that little hit of like, "Yeah, let's do something," because I am not a good sit still sort of person.

 

Heather Lambert

My other two, romantic and ruler, sometimes they contradict, but sometimes they really complement. So I love how to buy really nice clothes and really nice makeup, but I also want them to be simple and easy and efficient. And that's the ruler of me too. I want everything to be very efficient and easy. But it's got to be right and good and pretty and fun and all of the things. It's got to be what I want. So the course was eye opening for me. And it really helped me find myself. And I feel so much better being me now.

 

Kerri Layton

And so that bit came as no surprise. And then the maverick bit was great. I was like, "Oh," that unlocked so much for me. I'm such a rebel. I've been such a rebel my entire life. And that's never been great... that actually isn't great. I think in some areas it can hold you back. So the negative aspects of the Maverick and then the romantic, again, when I heard that, I think that has been... continues to be probably the most challenging aspect. But it's also fed into my new business model in that I've realized that my romantic is coming out to play. I'm not a ruler, I'm a good leader. But when the intricacies of running the agency and the academy and actually managing other people, I hate it. I just don't have the capacity for it at all. I'm definitely up for the other stuff. So yeah, that's it really. But it has been different. And I think my three change, I definitely had celebrity and maverick or celebrity and romantic, but I think the maverick was quite close to another one. I can't remember, but that changed as I went along.

 

Rebecca Lima

So my accumulator, my celebrity wanted to, I was already offering white glove, because again, we are tastemakers. We are trailblazers ahead of the curve a little bit with all the things. But my accumulator, because I don't spend money that way, I bought into the life that "If you haven't paid this price, then you can't charge those prices." And I realized, with SMA, that's not it at all. My clients are not me. Actually, my clients have the opposite problems that I do. The things that come easy for me, don't come easy for my clients. So they're opposite people that I am. So my accumulator was definitely the way of not letting charge what my celebrity self wanted to charge for the service that I was providing. And of course my maverick like, "Oh, everybody's doing it this way. Why are you going to do it this way too? "So I had this three personalities fighting with me and in the end, the celebrity won and a little bit of the maverick too. Oh. But I do it this way and I'm special because of this. So it was a lot of fun.

 

Janet Bernstein

So I actually had a huge aha moment when I really started looking at who I was attracting to my business. And I know I did a lot of done-for-you type services, but I really wanted to get away from the constant "Help me, help me, help. I'm stuck. Can you just fix it?" to "I'm ready to learn. What can you tell me to do?" And so I actually, after so many months of procrastinating and watching lots of videos and trying to figure out, make sure I was doing all the right things. I launched an online course and I was able to put all of my stuff in there, record the videos, I did the outfit changes, which is a total celebrity thing. And once I was done, it was like this huge weight had been lifted. And it was very easy. The first couple of messages I got where someone was like, "Oh, I was just looking at your course information. And gosh, it looks like it's self-paced and I just do..." And I'm like, "Yeah."

And it was much less of "Don't worry. I'm there every step of the way," which was that nurturer thing that I used to always do. And also the ruler thing, which was I would take money for anybody. I would say, "I will help anybody, who's ready to do this. And now I'm very specific. It's like "If you're meant for more, but something's holding you back, there might be a lack of confidence or you're scared to go on camera, but you're not sure why, this is for you." And it's completely at your own pace. You do this in your time and it's very empowering and I'm putting it back on them. So I feel like I'm not enabling anybody to text me all hours of the night, "Help me, help me. What do I do?" instead of here's my course and walk you right through it.

And so it really felt I channeled my inner Denise. That's what I say all the time, as I put together my own boot camp basically, and that's completely tailored around my business and my expertise and that made life a lot easier. I still struggle with the nurturer part. When people reach out, there's a part of me, that's always like, "Oh, here's my cell phone." And I'm like, Nope. Nope. I'm not doing that. I'm not doing that. I got to stay in my power."

 

How does your Celebrity sabotage you in business?

Shay Jordan-Hrobsky

I actually went back to see what my connector was. And that's my lowest, it's 15 out of everything that I have. When you said batching, I actually took some notes on that, because it is the same. So on top of having my celebrity and my romantic being my number one, I'm also a projector in human design. And so I have these pockets of energy where I'm like, "Okay, yes, I can do it all." And then I'm like, "No, I can't. Nor do I want to. Nor do I want to be around all the people to do it all." And I find that is one of my sabotages is when I do have those big pockets of energy, I'm not utilizing them wisely.

And then when I also am either feeling imposter syndrome-y or I'm feeling inadequate, then I'm like, "Oh, let me go to Amazon. Let me just buy some stuff I don't need." And I find that I do that to make myself feel, quote, unquote, something, even though I should be doing my client work or working on the stuff that I know I need to be working on, because that's how I end up self-sabotaging. Yeah. Yes. Shopping is what makes me feel better too.

 

Patience Modevi
(Click here to read Patience's full review)

In terms of the celebrity, it's caused more problems, I will say, in my life, or challenges, I will say, in my personal life with my husband. Because my husband is more of an accumulator. So we bump into the spending of the household and things like that. So for example, way before I learned about you or your existence, I had a nanny and I also had someone to help me clean to do something. The reason is when I had my third child, I was like, "No, it's too much for me. I can't do it." So I just hired someone. And from there, it was a bit of a fight to get that person into the house. And then it was a fight to give them a key so that they were actually part of the [inaudible]. So it went like that, but I took over more of my needs and went with it. So I think this is where they show up in my life really.

 

Janet Bernstein

It wasn't until I really got to SMA and money bootcamp that I started connecting these old stories. And I realized that the reason why I didn't shine was I had that fear of outshining, that it was basically an upper-limit problem. But basically I was afraid to say, "I know the answer," or that I was better or whatever it was. I was afraid to audition for the role. I was afraid to do whatever it was, because everyone was like, "Oh, this is Janet, she does everything," or, "She knows everything," or whatever the thing was. And so I became shy even though I'm not a shy person really at all.

And so it's very interesting when I learned I was celebrity status and I was laughing and I was like, "Oh, I do remember as a kid, I used to host talent shows in my backyard and charge admission." And I mean ran the little businesses out of my garage. And I'm like, "It does make sense." But I just wonder somewhere along the line, if I had not been asked to stop raising my hand, maybe how soon I could have realized I was a celebrity. So I find that very interesting now. Especially as a mom, I know lots of moms are starting to recognize the differences in their kiddos. I know as a mom of five, we pick up on the different things between the different kids. So I find it fascinating now.

 

What would you say to someone who wants to join Sacred Money Archetypes?

Shay Jordan-Hrobsky

If you are looking for a way to understand yourself, your business, how you operate with others, communicate, connect, this would be the place for you to be. It has helped me really understand my husband. It has helped me understand my clients, especially now. I'm just really excited to use this moving forward into the new changes that I'm making in my business. So I would say, "Don't wait. Jump in hands first or feet first, whatever way that goes first, just jump in."

 

Why Celebrities should join the Sacred Money Archetypes® Course

This is your VIP Invite to join my new business course…

Thanks for being such a star in the Leverage Your Strengths workshop. 

I’m sure you’ve already got many ideas about upgrading your business to profit from your Celebrity gifts.

I would love to welcome you into our new course and community - I’m rolling out the red carpet! 

Underneath your glitz and glamour is a giant heart.

Not everyone in your world appreciates the sparkle you bring into their lives. 

But you know what? 

Of all the Money Archetypes, everyone secretly wants to be you because you role model self-care and pleasure. 

And when I help you harness those gifts, your leadership will help many people raise their standards for themselves.

Joining us in the new Sacred Money Archetypes® course will be an incredible purchase that will pay off for years to come.

Click here to join and create new abundance, freedom and success.

It’s your time to shine!

xx Denise 

How Alchemists can use Sacred Money Archetypes® to make more money

I recently had the opportunity to interview an incredible group of Alchemist entrepreneurs and alumni in my Sacred Money Archetypes® course. In this fascinating roundtable, we talked about the strengths and challenges these entrepreneurs experience as Alchemists and how they have learned to use their Money Archetype in their business. 

Here's a summary of our discussion and please read the individual member's case studies and course reviews to find out more.

Our Alchemist Roundtable Guests

 

 

 
How did it feel when you found out you were an Alchemist? 

Adele Bates
(Click here to read Adele's full review)

So I remember very clearly watching that first video. You know once you've signed up and then it's like, "Hi, you're an alchemist and this is you." And I cried. God, yeah, I cried because I think it was the first time... I knew that about me. I know that that's who I am, but it was the first time that I'd heard it accepted in a business sense. So maybe like Mattia was saying, I think up to that point, I had run my business from my accumulator side. so that first video, when it was... Essentially you gave me this permission slip of going, "You can be Adele and you can be a business person." And then when you started talking about saving the world, that was it. It was so touching, and I remember taking it to my partner and saying to her, "Just watch this, it's me." But I think it was just so special to hear that, not in a spiritual setting, not in a creative art setting or anything like that, but in a business setting, and I think that's been the strongest thing for me through doing SMA as an alchemist.

 

Catherine Lucktaylor
(Click here to read Catherine's full review)

I really connected with the alchemist. I remember once Sydney saying not really having to prepare and just turning up and it just happens and that really happens to me. I just turn up and things just happen and I just know what to say and it just all comes out of me. So that was really validating.

 

Janet Tse
(Click here to read Janet's full review)

I really resonated with everybody who said it's a permission slip not to finish everything. Oh, I've got so many ideas and it's like I haven't got it together. It took me years to get to where I am now, just weaving these three things together, and it was just overcoming the shame of, "Oh my gosh, what is she doing? She used to do this, but now where are you heading to life?" But then when I saw this alchemist thing, I was like, "Oh right, I'm here to change the world." And it's not in a sense of through anger or anything, but it's really owning my space and being at peace with saying, "Hey, this is what I do, and I'm unapologetic feeling this way."

And I think the biggest aha tied to that was there were different layers. So the first layer for me was, "Okay, as a Chinese Australian, how do I teach people to show up culturally? But then I had to realize that other than healing my own wounds, it was also generational wounds from my dad who grew up in Hong Kong, and there were cultural differences that he had to overcome as a Chinese person. And the money wounds that came from that. The second class of their own country, their own city. And now coming back to Hong Kong, it's like coming full circle and claiming that we are all human and money making and doing business without borders, and this is something that had happened years ago for our ancestors doing business without borders all over the world, and this is something that I hope to convey in my work.

 

Mattia Mauree
(Click here to read Mattia's full review)

I remember one of the things that I read in the materials initially in SMA was... I have this written down here. You find it easy to empower others to believe in themselves, and kind of like what other people are saying, I had just never really heard that, but in a business context, or saying that that was one of my primary strengths, which it definitely is. And that it wasn't just about, I don't know, convincing people to give me money. It was about empowering them to do more as well, which is a lot of what I do. I also have a podcast called The Longer Road, for people with multiple marginalized identities. And a lot of people with multiple marginalized identities are poor because of structural inequities and all these things that they've had to work through. And one of the things that I'm trying to help people with is even if you have these things, even if you're disabled, there are still usually things you can do, especially in this online world.

So even though I don't see myself as a business coach, that's not the main thing at all, it's part of that message of what I'm doing to try to help people. So that was really, really meaningful for me, I think, and probably my first big aha. And then my second big aha was just because I can do something doesn't mean I should, especially for money. Just because I look at something and go, "Oh yeah, I could probably figure that out." In music, for example, I should not be producing all of my own work. Even though I technically know how to do audio production, it's not my area of genius, it takes me forever. And it's probably still not as good as somebody who that's their only job. So many areas where I just went, "Oh, okay. Here's where my magic is," and I'm allowed to just outsource the rest of it and not try to do everything myself.

 

Stacy Hoch
(Click here to read Stacy's full review)

This is how terrible the business person I am. When Adele said that she had not applied that alchemist thing to her business, I literally have not until this very moment because I just realized that I actually rely on my Connector/Nurturer for my business and my biggest aha... Because in my personal life I can manifest anything like that. Except then I see contrast with clients who are super rich and then I'm like, "What the fuck? Why didn't I decide to manifest that? Where did that come from? I didn't know that was possible." So my biggest aha actually was people will always say to me, "Dude, why don't you charge money for... Your YouTube channel is ridiculous. Stop doing what you're doing. You're giving away all of this information." I'd be like, "What do you mean? I thought this is what I did."

And I have a following and I could theoretically be in possession to make millions of dollars, and life coaches look at me and they're like, "Oh, that's no excuse that you have four kids and that you're doing all of this by yourself." And I'm like, "Oh my God." I see the cognitive dissonance of I could be that person, but also I just am like... I don't know. It was weird for me to go, "Wait, people will literally pay me for when I'm giving them away for free while I'm struggling most of the time to make sure I can sustain a life for my family." So hearing that people will pay for ideas was intriguing to me because I guess I didn't... Now I'm at a place where people want to talk to me and I'm like, "Yo, I get paid to talk to people." I get paid to go to that connector place that before I would just give that away to everybody.

So to hear that actually the truth is that's why people have hired me along, is for my ideas. And I'm like you, Denise, I just show up. I'm unprepared. I'm like, "Oh my God, I hope I don't forget what I would even want to say." And most of the time I do. And people pay me just to do that, just to show up to their experience and give them new ideas about it. And that was like, "What?" And that's why every coach that I've ever worked with since has been like, "What is your problem? You are the worst. What aren't you getting?" I hate asking for money, too, because I'm the nurture connector. So I'm like, "Oh, I just want to give everything away for free, and I'll save the alchemist part for my own personal life to find random shit on the side of the road that I want constantly." But I have not actually until this very moment even considered applying the alchemist frequency to my business, which is a very weird thought and it feels very fun to think about.

 

Stephanie Cavoli

Wow. So I so resonate with what you just said, and the idea of permission to be who you are, because I feel like in this business world, and I realize as a massage therapist, we have permission to be a little alchemy-ish. It's sort of accepted. But even for me, those people in my world, they didn't own the businesses and they didn't do well. They could be amazing massage therapists, but their businesses were not thriving or growing and so many were closing their practices. And that was really just disheartening for me. So hearing that, "Wait a minute, I'm a little weird and that's okay?"

And it was also super... I think the most important aha was that it just validated everything that I knew about myself to be true and that it was okay, and also it's okay if I'm not good at follow through. It's okay if the things that are my challenges, for them to be my challenges, because in the business world, from that masculine standpoint that we come to know that it's not acceptable. So to be able to accept myself and go, "Wait, I can look at those gifts and I can thrive? It's okay if these are my strong things and these aren't my strong things?" So yeah, for me having the permission, like you said, and the validation was a total game changer. It changed everything about how I looked at myself and my business.

 
How do your top three Archetypes work together?

Rachael Ferrera
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For me it's connector alchemist, and then ruler a little bit below. Oh yeah, I definitely see all of these and I've been fascinated by how they work together and pull on each other. So definitely with that connector alchemist, with both of them being so high, the tendency to just not care about money, I don't need to think about that. I mean, absolutely, this is something that I've gotten much better at. Definitely work in progress, but gotten much better at because of Money Bootcamp and SMA all of these things, going, "Okay, yes, let's look at this and let's create some systems around it." But that natural tendency all through my 20s for sure, it was very much money was not a thought in my mind, really, managing it at all. And just that belief that it will always be there is great.

And I think especially in my late 20s, early 30s, I saw that double edged sword thing play out because then it's when some kind of emergency would happen, and it was like I didn't have as much access to my magic almost it felt like. It's like, "Whoa, all of a sudden everything's a bit of a mess," if that makes sense. So really going, "Oh, okay. Maybe let me pay a little bit more..." Or a lot. Actually a lot more attention. But something that also was interesting at when I started not in Money Bootcamp, before Money Bootcamp, when I started looking at money through some other programs and things, I all of a sudden realized that I wasn't looking at my money, that I wasn't caring about it. And I became aware of that. And then I almost became ashamed of that.

And then it was almost like I totally leaned away from my alchemist, the part of me that could just create money, because it was like, "No, that's not real. That's juvenile. That's too magical. No, you need to understand where it's coming from." And then I actually think I started leaning more into the ruler part of me that's like, "I need to be empowered. I need to work for this," which there is a very natural part of me that can just do the thing, but it's not actually the highest part of me. I think it's good that it's in the mix and it helps. But what I noticed was a pendulum swing to then where it's like, "No, I just need to work on this. I just need to build my empire." And then I wasn't connecting with people because it's like, "No, I need to focus, I need to work."

And I started to see things aren't flowing. So when I really dove into this work, I started to understand it's like, "No," because yes, it's good to pay attention to the money. It's good to build your empire or whatever, but my superpower is in the connection, so I have to have that. And when I connect, what I've realized is connecting to other people and really building really genuine relationships for the sake of building genuine relationships is what creates. It's the channel to the alchemist. It's the channel to money just coming in, opportunities just coming in, that then turn into money. So that's like how I see that trifecta playing out for me. And it's been so powerful to just have this understanding so I can go when things aren't as in flow, what is it that I need to lean into? Am I cutting off my connector? Am I cutting off my alchemist? Or do I actually need to bring in a little bit more of that ruler for a phase? So yeah, this has been just mind blowing.

Catherine Lucktaylor

So I'm an alchemist, connector, and celebrity, and they're all pretty close together. I can't remember the exact figures, but there was only a few points between each of them. So they were very close together. And I think for me, it's really helped me understand and create a business model that works for me. And I think one of the things that was, I think you said at one time, Denise, was about being an alchemist and not promising you're going to follow up with something. And that was like, "Wow, I can do that?" And I really have to help myself back and not say, "Oh yes, and I'll send you this thing or I'll send you that thing." No, I'm not going to do that, because I'll just forget and just won't do it and don't want to do it. So that was a revelation. I absolutely love that.

And I think the way they work together for me is just incredible. I've got the alchemist, which is the ideas and I create things, and then I can put on the show and then I can show up for the private view and be the celebrity, and the connector will bring and attract all those people to it. So that has been amazing for me. And it's really made me see how I can bring it all together and just allowing myself to just do what I want to do and say no to the things I don't want to do. And I think what I do still struggle a little bit with, I keep thinking I want... Because I have this idea of something that could be a membership that people could sign up and could...

I started a Patreon page and I got one person to sign up and I haven't done anything with it. This is two years ago, and I've got someone paying me every month. And I feel really bad. I haven't done anything else with it. And I keep getting this one account, someone in America signed up, and then it's like, "Okay, well I did do that," and I never followed through with it. It was a great idea, and I spent ages... And I had all these different options and then it was like, "Yeah, I'm bored of that. I don't want to do it anymore." But I keep thinking, "Oh, it'd be such a good thing to do and I've got all these ideas." But I just know I'm not going to follow through with this. So I've realized that I work better doing projects. I will do this for this amount of time, and I don't know if it'll continue in the future. I don't know if I'll do it again.

At the moment I've created a retreat. In September I'm doing this three day retreat and it's working with art and creativity and grief rituals and it's this is beautiful place, but I don't know if I'll want to do it after I've done... I might do it again in the future, but I just don't want to have that pressure of knowing that I've got to do it again next year, because I might not want to. I'll probably be onto the next thing. So it is challenging, but I think my three seem to work really well together, and now I'm knowing and I'm seeing how they can work well together and I just love it and I really relate to them and I really love the magic of being an alchemist. So I think for me that is the big one, because I just... Because what I do, I do raku, so I'm working with all the elements and I take things out of the kiln and they're red hot, and there's fire and there's smoke and it's really exciting.

I do demonstrations. I have my open studios and people come and they watch me create these amazing things. And for me it's easy. I mean, I've been doing it for 30 odd years, but I can create and people are like, "Oh, how do you get that color with raku, and how do you do that?" It's just, "Oh, I just do it. Yeah, I'm a magician. I just do it." And I love it. But I just know that I can't work under pressure. I need to just be able to create. Yesterday, the day before, I had a really bad day because I was having to work to a deadline, so it didn't work. So this pot I was making for a gallery, they wanted it and they wanted this certain type. And because I had that pressure and I really didn't feel like being there, but I had to because that was the only day I had, it just didn't work. And I've just got to remember that it doesn't work for me.

I hate working. I hate doing commissions, because it's that external pressure of somebody wanting something a certain way, it just makes me tighten up, and I can't be in that creative flow. It's crazy. I just can't do it. Always goes wrong and I end up having to make loads of different versions and I'm working for pittance because I'm having to make different ones until I get it right. And it's just like, "No, I'm just going to make something. If you like it, you can buy it." So that's giving myself permission to just do that and to just know that I'm going to create something and people are going to like it and respond to it. I mean, I do consider what people want and I do have that back and forth and that conversation with my customers, but I also know that, "Yes, but I'm the magician, I'm the alchemist. I'm bringing something into being, and no one could ever know or suggest what I could create, and it is just going to come out and then I will find the people who want it." I think that is the thing for me.

 
How does your Alchemist sabotage you in business?

Janet Tse

I really resonated with what Mattia and Stephanie just said. The love hate relationship and also the imposter syndrome. So I think the connecting piece with me was trying to show up as the authentic me, without trying to be somebody else when I'm doing image consulting for really wealthy people, and then feel a little bit of jealousy and envy, and then feel shit for... Why should I feel that way? Because I'm a therapist, I should be doing my own work. And it's like, "Get that out of my mind. I'm here to serve." And I was like, "Wait a minute, but they're so wealthy. Maybe I should charge for them. And maybe I should charge a little bit more."

And then I feel guilty for wanting more money. And it's that duality of feeling like I'm always never enough to just be myself and always putting a lid on how I should be doing things and why I should be doing things, instead of just being me and claiming that, "No, I don't adult right, I don't finish things," and be okay with just being a kid sometimes and needing help sometimes. So that's one of my biggest challenges as well.

 

Catherine Lucktaylor

Thing that comes to mind when you talk about sabotages was just thinking that... Not really valuing my ideas and my talents, because I've always been really good at making things and creating things, and I think for a long time, I just didn't charge enough for what I was making, and just having so many ideas I never really followed through on things. I'd never could finish anything because I start making something and then I'm onto the next thing. So there was no continuity and I think that's something I've learned how to create collections and have something from start to finish and not just put it aside for the next thing.

I still do that a bit. I still do that a bit because I just get really excited. And also realizing that, yes, I have loads of ideas, but I don't have to do them all and I don't have time to do them all. And I think I used to get really just stuck on making a decision on moving forward because I didn't know what to go with, what I wanted to carry forward, so I never really did anything. So I think for a long time when I was younger, that really held me back. And just just not valuing myself and my talents. I think that's the main thing.

 

Mattia Mauree

I think one of mine was the love hate relationship with money part of it and feeling judgemental about money. Again, coming out of an artist background, there's obviously a lot of stereotypes in the artist world that it's good to be poor, it's noble to be poor. And also that charging for your work, especially to other artists, is not cool. So I think a lot of... And a lot of what was great about SMA for me was really going, "Oh, okay, this isn't just because of my background. This is actually a part of who I am," and noticing that, accepting that, and then figuring out how to get around it has been really useful. For example, sometimes people would owe me money and I would maybe follow up once, maybe not, and then just let it go. And I was not necessarily invoicing people the way that I should or really following up.

So there have been a lot of potential chunks of money I've just let go, or even actually that something somebody just said about workshops and stuff, I actually taught a free workshop recently a bunch of people came to it and somebody was like, "Oh, have you thought about packaging this up and selling it as a course?" And I was like, "Nope. That had not occurred to me, I guess." Cool that people would like it. So anyway. Both having a lot of ideas and not necessarily knowing how to apply them, but then that love hate thing with money sometimes, really learning how to ask for and receive money and then have it once I have it and not just immediately give it away.

 

Rachael Ferrera

I think that one of the ways that I wasn't allowing my alchemists to work for me before was... So magical thinking is amazing. It's just a problem when that's all that there is. So what I noticed is that sometimes it would be like, "Oh, the money will come and I don't have to do anything. And honestly, honestly, the reason I believe that is because sometimes that would happen. Sometimes that was legit true. If I would just focus on what made me happy and what felt fun and joyful, then money would just come. But I think that creating those channels and those tributaries, what it does is give me more empowerment in the process so that it's not like I'm only trusting the universe. It's how am I co-creating with the universe? How am I collaborating with the universe?

So what I have noticed is that now I'm always like, "Okay, well what am I selling now?" This is something I've been leaning into more and more and more over the last couple of years, especially over the last year. Always having something that I'm selling now. Actually, more recently, even more actively. In the last year it was like there is always something someone can buy. Now in the last several months it's been like, no, I'm actively putting a bit of energy behind something at all times. Because what I've recognized is that when I do that with intention and focus, I don't have to overwork, but it's just putting a bit of intention and a bit of energy behind it, sometimes money comes in through that channel. Sometimes money comes in through that channel. But a lot of times, either money doesn't actually totally come in through that channel. But then it comes in through some other place in a massive way. Or it's both.

It's almost like having that energy, that specific intention creates the opening for a full belief in my system and the universe to be like, "We know what we're doing. We know where we're going." Again, it increases the magnetic energy. So that magical thinking, it's almost like it has backing behind it. It has meat behind it. It's got some truth behind it. So then I'm like, "Okay, here's what I'm putting out." And it's so funny because sometimes I'll put... Last week, literally, I put energy into just a small... A little offer, a mini course, and people signed up for the mini course, but then these other massive things came in. Some of them money, some of them value. Thousands of dollars worth of value for free. Or a new business idea that I actually just then sold right away without trying at all. But I really believe that it's because I had clear intention of, "This is a very specific way that money can come to me," and then money's like, "Oh, okay. Yes, and..." So I've seen that and I'm actively in the process of leaning into that more and more and more.

 

Stacy Hoch

I resonate with everybody. I think that I come a little bit from a different angle in that... My sabotage is actually that I don't treat my business like it's anything, because I don't want to depend on it. So I'm like, "Fuck you, you work for me," basically. And it does, weirdly. My business, energetically, and that's why sometimes I have to just listen and it's like, "No, now's not the time to scale, Stacy." You have this particular life and these circumstances. And then I'm like... But I see this contrast. It's like, "What are you talking about? Is this self denial?" And I show up to it when I can't not. I do not show up consistently. I show up to it when my body is saying, "Okay, now is the time."

And I honor my business in that way, but really I've created it in such a way that... I never intended to be an entrepreneur. I just didn't want to leave my kids. So I homeschool my kids. I go to sleep with my kids. I'm running a business. I'm the breadwinner of a family. And I did it that way because of one reason only, and it was to not have to leave my kids. So the fact that I'm even in business is insane to me because, and the fact that it's sustained me for this long, which is obviously the alchemist. People would be like, "Well how the hell did you do that?" I don't know, I literally put up a sign. And then I have clients come to me and they're like, "If I'm going to be in business, I need a lawyer, I need this, I need that." And I'm like, "What are you talking about? I still don't have any of those things."

What, so my sabotages are... I don't button things up because I'm a mess, and that's just who I am. So I have a whole bunch of things that I do actually finish, I just don't share. And that's annoying because I don't market. I will send newsletters and be like, "Hey guys, love you, basically giving you some tap in vibrationally," and then I'm like, "And by the way, maybe you would maybe think about wanting to buy this thing that I'm not even going to tell you any fucking thing about, I'm just going to say it exists." So my biggest sabotage is my fear of yes. And that sense of wanting more and then feeling so grateful for what I have and being like... I'm in the best position I've ever been in my life. I have a family that loves me, I have a fucking roof over my head, I feel great in my body, and how dare I want more when I'm working with people that have so much and they want what I have?

 

Stephanie Cavoli

So I'm also a nurturer and a connector, and I work with people who need a lot and won't because they don't get a lot of attention from the people who should be giving it to them. So one of my biggest struggles is absolutely giving my time for free, giving literally my hands for free. That was a huge struggle. And then interestingly enough I'm realizing that, especially in the beginning, imposter syndrome would leak in, and then what would happen is I would have this great advice for somebody, but I'd be afraid to tell them it was my idea. So I'd be like, "Oh, Denise, I had this other client and she did this, and all of these amazing things happened." And then they would leave and they'd come back and be like, "That was such great advice."

It was my advice. My client didn't do it. I just made that up because I got so nervous about sharing. I have all these ideas, but do you really want to hear them? So that was a huge problem. And I think shiny object syndrome happens a lot. I would start 10 million projects and then I'd put half of my effort into it, panic, and then see something else and be like, "This is the answer. This is what I've got to do." And then that would happen all over again. So I have, I don't know, 15 half written eBooks that are amazing. I have classes, full on classes that are just sitting in my computer that people would love, but nobody sees them. So I think those are probably my biggest sabotages.

 
How has joining Sacred Money Archetypes helped you?

Catherine Lucktaylor

I really got a lot out of SMA. I think it really helped me to understand myself and how I wanted to ruin my business, and similar to what Beatrice said, is giving myself permission to run my business in my own way and to understand what my business model is and how it works. So I really recommend it. I think it's fantastic. It works really well with Money Bootcamp, and it just gives you more of an insight into your own personality and creating a business that works for your life. I think that's the main thing.

And it's also helped me to be aware of what to say no to and what to say yes to. So when I get opportunities, I think about my archetypes and that helps me to think, "Well, is that a good fit for what I want or where I want my business to be going in the future?" Like for instance, I don't want to do a membership, even though it looks like on paper it would be an ideal thing for me. Actually. I know that I'm not going to follow through because I'm an alchemist. So yeah, I really think it's been useful.

 

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How Accumulators can use Sacred Money Archetypes® to make more money

 
Our Accumulator Roundtable Guests

 

 
How did it feel when you found out you were an Accumulator? 

Jenny Bracelin

Personally, what I realized, because I know my family are quite good at math. They think if you need calculators or paper, then you're just, "What are you doing?" So, I'm the dunce of my family. So, it was really interesting finding out I was an Accumulator, and realizing, actually, I'm quite good at numbers and quite frugal with it. And I laugh so much because people kind of... "I'm Jenny." And it's like, "What do you do?" "I explain money." And so in the end, I called my business I Explain Money. So when I discovered I was an Accumulator, it made me laugh because I do have an accountant the same, because I don't want to do that bit. I like cash flow forecasts and making money. That's my favorite bit. And so, it really confirmed that numbers, and the detail, and the caution, was part of my personality.

 

Katie Chappell

When I found out Accumulator was in my top three, so many things from my life made sense, because there were things like... There was a time that I was fired from my job and I had no money. But I felt like, "Well, I can survive on nothing, so that's fine. I don't need a job." And then when I was a nanny in Germany for a long time, and I didn't open a bank account. I just kept my money in my sock drawer because I was like, "I can see my money here, and I don't need to trust any..." You had to pay 10 Euros a month to have a bank account. That was the thing, and I was like, "I'm not paying to have a bank account. That is ridiculous."

But now, in my business, I find that it's really helpful because it helps me... I find it really easy to invest in my business, because I feel like, "Oh, well, that's going to come back to me tenfold." Whereas, I still struggle a little bit on the personal front, to buy things that are just for myself, that feel frivolous, or extra that I don't need. Whereas in my business, I'm like, "Well, it's a business expense, so it's totally fine." So it means, when a business is concerned, everything's bougie, and extra, and the best of everything. And then at home, I'm like, "Oh, we don't need that. Just get the no-frills version." Or, "Let's cut back on this." So, yeah. It's funny. I feel like it's evolving as I go. So, yeah. Business expenses are okay.

 

Lata Hamilton

Finding out that I was an Accumulator was not a surprise to me at all. I've always been a great saver. When I was a kid, apparently my siblings used to trade me the big, shiny 50 cent coins for the little, dirty $2 coins. And I was like, 'Yeah, yeah." So, I always had more money than them. So, being an Accumulator was not a big surprise. I like to save. I like to invest for the future, and make those kind of prudent investments. And return on investment is a really big thing for me.

 

Lennis Perez

Oh, my goodness. I think, for me, the first realization, just with the archetypes, is that not everybody thinks like me, like an Accumulator. That was a big smack in the face.

And another part was just giving me context on why I struggle so much in my previous marital relationship. To be married to someone that was... His sense of safety did not come from seeing money in the bank. My sense of safety comes from seeing money, and having that cushion in the bank. So for me, he was a big risk taker, and seeing us living paycheck to paycheck just caused me so much emotional baggage.

And having clarity that, "Wait a minute. As an Accumulator, this is what makes me feel safe." And it's beyond frugality. It's like truly, my safety comes from seeing the money, saving money, putting it away. Taking care of it, so that it can take care of me later on. So for me, that was just a tremendous awareness that came from understanding that I am an Accumulator.

 

Susan Welch

Surprised. Actually, I thought I was more Celebrity. I love to show off, and I like to buy expensive things, you know what I mean? And the more I realize I'm an Accumulator that I see, yes, I'm kind of very stingy on hiring people. You know what I mean? I mean, because I'm also realizing I can do the best job of everyone else. So when I'm hiring someone, I always think that's such a waste of money.

But I want to grow my business. I have to adapt to that. So this is the Aha moment, when I learned I'm the same way. And I said, "Yes, there's some certain people I do need to hire to help." So the first thing I did is to hire a CPA. I don't really love to dig around all the receipts, and take care of my own accounting. So, yeah. But that is my Aha moment, and also such a surprise to me.

 

Talk about how your top three Archetypes work together

Lennis Perez 

Oh, my goodness. Knowing my other top archetypes was such a blessing for me. Number one, I think, as we're hearing with the Rulers, is the constantly working, constantly doing. And for me, that was also a numbing mechanism, because I didn't want to go through the process of healing the little traumas that I was carrying in my life. I was just constantly doing, and that's what I saw as a role model from my mom. So, recognizing that Ruler and saying, "I can lean into your strengths, but you don't have to Ruler over me," kind of mentality was really important.

And then the other one, which is Nurturer, I love the idea. And I am a natural Nurturer. I love taking care of my family, taking care of the people that I love. Very overgiving, to the point of stretching myself too much. So, bringing that back a little bit, and actually using the Nurturer towards me, shifting that energy for myself. That was a huge shift. Because as Accumulators, it's like, "Well, I accumulate things and I complete things. And then I have to work really, really hard." And then the Nurturer is like, "It's only for the external. It's only for people outside." So for me, it was just bringing it in, and using the Nurturer for myself, was a giant gift.

And in terms of how it impacted my business, I was able to let go of trying to do a one-on-one coaching system, because of the perfectionism from the Accumulator and the Ruler, I just wanted to move into my client's house and make them do some work. And that was just such a nightmare. So, I completely shifted my model to be similar to what Danny was saying, that I'm the consultant here. This is all the knowledge that I've accumulated. This is what you need to do, and these are the exercises. But I'm not doing it for you. So that was a big shift for my business.

And now the way I work is, I work as a group, and I see it much more enriching for the women to collaborate with each other. And for me, to keep that Ruler in the back, of not wanting to keep pushing them to work harder, which I'm trying to do the opposite.

So recognizing it was just a giant aha for me, just to bring the other two archetypes and play with them. Lean more into, I need my Nurturer right now, a little bit more than my Ruler. Or I need my Ruler right now when I'm launching my business, versus my Accumulator or Nurturer. So, just playing with them has been fantastic.

 

Lata Hamilton

Probably with a bit of the Ruler too. That real, real, I guess, feeling like it's never enough, and really feeling, especially with... Obviously, as an Accumulator, I do save so much money that other people would just be gobsmacked. Before I moved to buy business full time, I had two years worth of living expenses in cash savings. But then, I still feel like that's not enough.

So, I really feel those kinds of Ruler sabotages start to come in, and really feel like it's not enough. And that's why, probably, it was a surprise to see that I was a Maverick, because that risk, I'm very risk averse. So seeing that riskiness start to pop up, it is like, "I will take risks as long as they're measured, and I'm certain of the return on investment on them."

 

 

How does your Accumulator sabotage you in business?

Katie Chappell

Yeah, so I think one of the main shifts was getting my Accumulator out of the wallets of my clients. And to stop assuming that everyone wants the rock bottom price, and the best deal, and a sale. As soon as I could let that go, and it was kind of a Maverick thing. I was like, "You know what? Let's try. Let's charge a day rate that's 10 times." What I was told at university and college was I was allowed to charge 10 Xs. See what happens. Worst case scenario, one person hires me. But then I've made 10 times the amount. And you know what? I did that, and more people hired me, and I was more in demand, and it was like this snowball effect.

And then my Accumulator, obviously, was really happy because it was like, "Oh, my goodness. Now we need to read about profit first, and put the money into the right pots, and get it all lined up and beautiful on this spreadsheet." See, I think my Maverick really helped with that. And my Ruler was really helpful with keeping going, and researching all the boring stuff like SEO, and how to get clients, and writing the boring SEO blog posts. Yeah.

But I think the main one that was getting out of the client's pocket, and just setting a price. Picking a price. And like you said, Denise, "Just pick a price. It's not carved into stone." And I've been at a price now that it's felt good for a year. But before that I was like, "Let's double that. Let's double that. Let's double that again." And it was just the incremental price increases were really interesting, but now I feel really happy at this price. And it feels like clients... Oh, I do get a lot of, "No. That's too expensive." But I'm totally used to it now. And then when people say, "Yes. It's a really good fit." And we work really well together, and they're hiring me because I'm an expert. And I've got that consultant vibe of like, it's a VIP one-on-one done fee sort of thing.

So, yeah. It feels really good. I think it's really helped me to be really happy in my business, and feel valued, and well rewarded financially for what I do, which is the dream, really.

 

Lata Hamilton

But then, the flip side of that is that I don't like to spend money unnecessarily. So giving myself opportunities to treat myself, to buy things at full price, to invest in things that might save me time in my business, invest in help for my business, and not have to necessarily do everything myself. So while I do see personal development and business courses as being a great investment for myself and for my future, I often go into them thinking, "Oh, I'm learning it so that I can do it." And not necessarily thinking about how I could maybe be doing some learning, or doing some development, thinking how I could actually bring other people into my business to help me. So, a real reluctance to upgrade on technology, or support, or any of those sorts of things, and actually just spend that money.

I probably haven't invested in my business, and put the time into my business early on. It's probably taken me a lot of years to really even commit to my business and really be consistent with it, because I was more going for the sure thing, that career, that would actually get me that income. So, probably just business growth, but also speed of success would really heavily be impacted.

And probably also, a bit of a lack of empathy with clients and other people in my life, because I can't get my head around... I can't get my head around how other people don't have savings. I literally can't fathom it. So when people are like, "Oh, I can't afford the course, but I want to join it," my course, "At the end of the year."

I'm like, "How do you not have that amount of money sitting there?" Because it's absolutely unfathomable to me.

And by the same token, I often don't offer payment plans because I've always got the cash there and I want to get an upfront saving, so I'll always pay upfront. So probably, a little bit of a lack of empathy, where maybe I don't think about how other people, what their purchasing style is, or their decisions. And so, I might be sort of, I guess, resisting easy income, or alternative paths for income, because I am kind of stuck in the way that I think and the security that I have, and assume that everybody would have that as well.

 

Steph West

I think for me, it was... You think that by being an Accumulator, you're going to be rich. You think that by saving, and not spending money, and being so mindful around money, that you're going to be rich. I am not rich. And so, I think it just created this awareness that there are people out there spending so much money, and they're still rich. They're not running out of money. So to me, it was the concept of there being different options. I think it was really fascinating for me, because I think you only know what you know. And so, before I was exposed to this world, I only knew about saving money, but that has not gotten me rich. And even by letting go of feeling like I have to hoard money, that's what's allowed me to be more financially stable. So, I think that's what it was for me.

I don't want to speak for everybody, but I think we do feel very stressed out by living the Accumulator lifestyle. I think it's stressful to always be paying attention to what you're spending and how you're spending, and it's stressful. And so, I think if somebody comes along and is like, Hey, let me help you not be this way anymore."

You're like, "Oh, please."

So, yeah. Those are my thoughts on it. I think you see that other people are doing things differently, and they are more successful than you are financially. But also, it's just a way to help things. There's a way to live, and there's a way to run your business that's not so damned stressful.

Susan Welch

So, the thing is I need to use a lot of software to run my business, a lot of analyze sites, but I also can do it without the software. And the software charge is quite expensive, like a $100 per month, something. So, my Accumulator side is saying, "No. Just do it by yourself. Spend more time, and then you can analyze better." But actually, that's start of wasting time. If I just pay a hundred bucks for using the software, you know what I mean? So now, I learned from this program and I say, "Oh, yeah. Don't be cheapo. Just do it. Use the software. Help save more time and be more efficiency." So, that's the thing. Yeah.

 

Shazia Imam

Many Indian families, we know this in our community, it's all about the Accumulator life. It's all about, do this first. Live very frugally. Do the thing. And then, years down the road, you can enjoy. So I grew up with that mentality. But I have this ability to do bold and risky things, and get all this money. But with that belief in the background, when I was 23 years old, I bought my first home. And nobody in my community, or circle of friends, was doing that. Because everybody, we had just graduated, we were just starting out. But I knew that the market was going to take off. And I decided if I can just save $10,000, I will get a house. So, I did it. And a year later, the market went crazy, and I sold the home and made a profit of $165,000, which was unbelievable. I'm 24 years old. I've made all this money.

And you know what happened? I totally sabotaged myself by... I put the money away and I said, "I'll save it for another time." But I ended up then moving into a home that I hated. It was this dark two bedroom condo. I thought I would be there for a year or so. It was so depressing to live there. It was such a dark time in my life. And I felt like I couldn't access the money that I had made. I felt like I couldn't have that money. And what's really interesting is that money sort of bled out through different ways. It just kind of went away. And I never got to enjoy that like, "Oh, I made this money. Let me reinvest it in something." Because my Maverick probably could have made a million dollars from it, or done something.

But I have this pattern of, the money comes in and then I'm like, "Oh no, no, no. That's not how life works. It's got to be slow and steady wins the race." And so, I do this expansion, contraction thing a lot. And so I've spent years. I mean, now I'm 42, so I'm talking about almost 20 years ago. I've really tried to move out of that, to hold the energy of my ability to bring in big chunks of money, and not-

And my archetypes are Maverick, Ruler, and Accumulator. And I've noticed I cycle between the three. They're all very, very close together. Very strong. But my Maverick is, it is me, through and through. And my Accumulator sometimes likes to be like, "You can't do that." But my Maverick is bold, and loves to do stuff, and take big risks. So, I'm really excited about our conversation today.

 

Jenny Bracelin

For me, it was all about time because I'm also a Ruler/Maverick. But I realized that the Ruler drove me so hard, and added with that, the Accumulator, I insisted on doing research and was very thorough. And so, whilst friends might be like, "Oh, let's just put a course together at the weekend and promote it." I just found that really difficult. I wanted to do it properly, and finish it, and research it, and think about it. And so, I've just kind of streamlined everything so that I'm really focusing on one target market. One, I've got two kind of main services that I sell. And then, I've stopped working weekends and evenings, and just having much more of a life, because I realized that Ruler will drive you unless you take the foot off the pedal, really. So for me, it was such a huge relief, not to have to work all the time.

 

What would you say to someone who wants to join Sacred Money Archetypes? 

Lata Hamilton

Who's thinking of doing SMA, I would definitely recommend it. Being an Accumulator myself, it is definitely an investment that has return on investment, in terms of being able to understand more about you, what drives you, what motivates you, what some of your gifts are, what some of your challenges are, where you might be holding yourself back, sabotaging yourself. But then also, where you can maybe step it up a little bit and go with the flow, and actually flow with your personality, and with your money archetype, rather than against it. And using that as a jumping off board, to actually go for your success and the abundance that you want for your life, and for your career. And I would also say that, for anybody who is thinking of... who works with people, which probably is all of us, it's also fantastic because you can really start to understand other people. Build empathy for how other people think, how other people feel. What their archetypes might be, and what might be driving them. And potentially open up new channels of success and abundance for yourself, as well.

 

Why Accumulators should join the Sacred Money Archetypes® Course

I’m sure you’ve studied every part of the free Leverage Your Strengths training and already have a lot of ideas about how to tweak your business to profit from your Accumulator gifts.

And now you want all the details about my new course to decide if it is worthwhile.

Maybe you’re finding it hard to decide whether or not to join - especially because you got so much value from the free workshop, and you find it hard to invest in yourself (or spend any money!) 

As an Accumulator, I know how vital Return on Investment and getting a good deal is to you - everyone wishes they were as organized as you. 

Honestly, I know you probably thought you got the “boring” archetype, but you have many unique gifts. 

But listen up: being super frugal around your personal development isn’t going to give you the freedom you want.  

Spending money to join my new course isn’t going to make you homeless on the street. 

It’s a smart, safe and worthwhile investment.

You know you have the intelligence, work ethic, and attention to detail to get a return on this investment. 

Whether you choose the affordable payment plan or pay in full for the best price, you’ll get over $3,000 worth of training and coaching for a fraction of the cost. 

Plus, there is a 100% money back guarantee if, for any reason, you’re not happy with your investment. 

So don’t miss this opportunity to get customized business coaching from a multi-million dollar business owner.

So click here for all the course details and secure the best deal.

xx Denise

SMA Review - Camy Kennedy-Mexicanos

SACRED MONEY ARCHETYPES® REVIEW
Camy Kennedy-Mexicanos

Life Coach for People Pleasers | USA
Archetype: Romantic

My name's Camy. I am an intuitive life coach for perfectionists and also people pleasers. I am in Fayetteville, North Carolina, and my top three are Romantic, Connector and Ruler. One of the things I love about you, Denise, is you've given me permission to be lazy and make things really easy and make lots of money. 

"You've given me permission to be lazy and make things really easy. SMA is the secret that I didn't know that I needed."

 

What are some of the sabotages you experience because of your Archetypes?

I was just going to say, I sabotage with onboarding a VA. I've had several VAs. I'm not organized enough to delegate, and I have one really good VA who allows me to be a hot mess and just send a voice memo in the moment and be like, "Hey, could you do this today?" But I'm scaling my business and I'm now creating a course, and I'm embracing it. I need an actual system, but part of me wants to hire the person to do the system for me. So, that's kind of where I'm at. How am I overcoming it? I think the way I'm overcoming it is bit by bit.

Right now, I'm building the course, I'm outsourcing some tech stuff, and then I do think it's important for me to take responsibility for my students, especially in the beginning, to understand, are they getting their emails? Are they getting everything? And then how does that flow? And then just doing one thing at a time and realizing it doesn't need to all be done in a day, which is some of the sabotage. Like, "I want to jump ahead to $600,000 and I don't want to build the program."

 

How do your top 3 Archetypes work together or against each other?

I would say I'm very motivated by money first, and I have to convince myself that I also care about people. My clients wouldn't say that, but that's my own self-perception, right? My clients are like, "Oh my gosh, you're amazing." But I feel it in my external, in my client work, and this is certainly true for everyone, they see me and receive me in a very different way than my husband receives me. So, I can be a jerk over here, especially because he's a cumulator, and my clients are like, "You're amazing and you're so connected." So, when I was listening to the connector, I'm thinking of it more as a divine connection. That's how it resonates with me. That's what enables me to slow down, stay grounded, and even have that moment of self-reflection to go, one of my values is discipline, simplicity, discipline and simplicity. How can I live up to that value? Because it's not what I wake up wanting to do each day.

So, just remembering, how can I make things simple? And then exercise that discipline and get the help that I need in the areas that aren't easy for me, such as saving money. One of the ways I just did a mindset shift with that is my dog recently tore her ACL, and it was potentially going to be a surgery for like five or $6,000. In that very emotional moment, I realized that it's a luxury to have savings for my dog. So, that was like, "Oh, savings is luxurious," and now I've been able to shift into, "I'm going to hire somebody and make savings a priority so that I can afford any emergency that could ever happen," and specifically my animals are really important to me because I don't have my own children yet.

 

What would you say to someone who is looking to join Sacred Money Archetypes®?

I just wanted to revisit the question you asked Shay earlier about what I would say to somebody joining, because that's on my mind. I knew I was seeking out Money Bootcamp, but I wasn't necessarily seeking out SMA. I didn't know it existed. So, I can't say I was looking for anything, but I will say that it's the secret that I didn't know that I needed. 

"For me, it gave me ease in marketing and an opportunity to have a client centered experience when you're marketing, instead of just thinking everyone is like you. I'm realizing, because I'm the romantic and I'm always like, "Ease, ease," people are offended by ease sometimes. They're like, "Well, I'm glad that's your experience. I like working hard."

 

What have you changed in your business since discovering your Archetypes?

Then in terms of changing things in my business, what I realized I changed a lot was thinking I needed to do a group program with four Zoom calls with people showing up on the call with me coaching them.

What I changed to was permission to do a course similar to yours with a different price point, but offering one call a month, and realizing that that's okay, and realizing that's actually in the highest service to my clients, and me existing in this luxurious role and allowing myself to take breaks and do whatever I want also gives them permission to have that in their life. Before SMA, I would have put myself in that camp of being wrong because I'm not an accumulator and I didn't save my money, And now I realize that my life experience is valuable and it does offer value to other people just the way that I go about my life.

 

SMA Review - Catherine Lucktaylor

SACRED MONEY ARCHETYPES® REVIEW
Catherine Lucktaylor

Ceramics Artist, UK
Archetype: Alchemist

I’m Catherine, I live in Cornwall, UK, and I'm an Alchemist, Connector and Celebrity. I'm a ceramic artist. I also create installations. 

“I really got a lot out of SMA. I think it really helped me to understand myself and how I wanted to run my business. It gave me permission to run my business in my own way.” 

 

 

 

 How do your top 3 Archetypes work together or against each other?

So I'm an Alchemist, Connector and Celebrity and they're all pretty close together. I can't remember the exact figures, but there was only a few points between each of them. So they were very close together. And I think for me, it's really helped me understand and create a business model that works for me. And I think one of the things I think you said at one time, Denise, was about being an Alchemist and not promising you're going to follow up with something. And that was like, "Wow, I can do that?" And I really have to hold myself back and not say, "Oh yes and I'll send you this thing, or I'll send you that thing." No, I'm not going to do that because I'll just forget and just won't do it and don't want to do it. So that was a revelation. I absolutely love that.

"I think the way they work together for me, it's just incredible. I've got the Alchemist, which is the ideas and I create things and then I can put on the show and then I can show up for the private view and be the Celebrity, and the Connector will bring and attract all those people to it. And so that has been amazing for me. And it's really made me see how I can bring it all together and just allowing myself to just do what I want to do and say no to the things I don't want to do."

I think what I do still struggle a little bit with, I keep thinking I want, because I have this idea of like something that could be a membership that people could sign up for so I started a Patreon page, right? And I got one person sign up and I haven't done anything with it. This is like two years ago. And I've got someone paying me every month and I feel really bad, and I haven't done anything else with it. And I keep getting this one account, someone in America signed up. And then it's like, "Okay, well I did do that and I never followed through with it." It was a great idea and I spent ages creating it all and I had all these different options. And then it was like, "Yeah, I'm bored of that. I don't want to do that anymore."

But I keep thinking, "Oh, it'd be such a good thing to do." And I've got all these ideas, but I just know I'm not going to follow through with it, so I've realized that I work better doing projects. I will do this, for this amount of time, and I don't know if it'll continue in the future. I don't know if I'll do it again. It's like at the moment I've created a retreat. In September I'm doing this three-day retreat and it's working with art and creativity and grief rituals. And it's this beautiful place, but I don't know if I'll want to do it after I've done the first... I might do it again in the future, but I just don't want to have that pressure of knowing that I've got to do it again next year, because I might not want to. I'll probably be onto the next thing.

It is challenging, but I think my three seem to work really well together. And now I'm knowing and I'm seeing how they can work well together and I just love it and I really relate to them and I really love the magic of being an Alchemist. So I think for me, that is the big one because of what I do, I do Raku, so I'm working with all the elements and I take things out of the kiln when they're red hot and there's fire and there's smoke and it's really exciting.

And I do demonstrations, I have my open studios and people come and they watch me create these amazing things. And for me, it's kind of easy. I mean, I've been doing it for like 30-odd years, but I can create and people are like, "Oh, how do you get that color with Raku? And how do you do that?" It's just, "Oh, I just do it." Yeah. Magician. I just do it. And I love it, but I just know that I can't work under pressure. I need to just be able to create. It's like yesterday, I had a really bad day because I was having to work to a deadline, so it didn't work.

So this pot I was making for a gallery, they wanted it and they wanted this certain type. And because I had that pressure and I really didn't feel like being there, but I had to because that was the only day I had, it just didn't work. And I've just got to remember that it doesn't work for me. I hate working. I hate doing commissions because it's that external pressure of somebody wanting something a certain way. It just makes me tighten up and I can't be in that creative flow. It's just like, it's crazy. I just can't do it. Always goes wrong and I end up having to make loads of different versions and I'm working for a pittance because I'm having to make different ones until I get it right. And it's just like, "No, I'm just going to make something. If you like it, you can buy it."

So that's giving myself permission to just do that and to just know that I'm going to create something and people are going to like it and respond to it and not, not really... I mean, I do consider what people want and I do have that back and forth and that conversation with my customers. But I also know that, "Yes, but I'm the magician, I'm the Alchemist. I'm bringing something into being and no one could ever know or suggest what I could create and it is just going to come out and then I will find the people who want it." I think that is the thing for me. And that's what's really helped me.

 

What are some of the sabotages you experience because of your Archetypes?

First thing that comes to mind when you talk about sabotages was just thinking that I didn’t really value my ideas and my talents, because I've always been really good at making things and creating things. And I think for a long time, I just didn't charge enough for what I was making. And just having so many ideas, that I never really followed through on things. I never could finish anything because I start making something and then I'm kind of onto the next thing. So there was no kind of continuity and I think that's something I've learned how to create collections and have something from start to finish and not just put it aside for the next thing. I still do that a bit. I still do that a bit because I just get really excited. And also realizing that yes, I have loads of ideas, but I don't have to do them all and I don't have time to do them all.

And I think I used to get really just stuck on making a decision on moving forward because I didn't know what to go with, what idea I wanted to carry forward. So I never really did anything. So I think for a long time when I was younger, that really held me back and I think just not valuing myself and my talents. I think that's the main thing. And realizing there's always going to be more ideas and they're valuable and I do inspire people and that's okay. And I used to hate being the center of attention, but I still kind of find it a bit difficult, but I think knowing that I've got that Celebrity has allowed me to step into that and be in the limelight and it be okay. And like, yes, I can come and I can perform. And then I can just go away and be on my own for ages. And that's absolutely fine.

"And there are those two sides of me and just allowing myself to be in the limelight. I think I used to just hide away or give myself a really hard time. Like I'd overanalyze things I'd said or what I'd done and get really negative and give myself a really hard time instead of focusing on, "Well, people got really a lot out of that." Whether it was... Whether I thought it was any good, if people are kind of giving me really positive feedback, just accepting that and that's okay and I don't have to overanalyze and think, "Oh, I should have done it this way. I should have done it that way."




What is your favorite aspect of Sacred Money Archetypes®?

I really got a lot out of SMA. I think it really helped me to understand myself and how I wanted to run my business. And giving myself permission to run my business in my own way. And to understand what my business model is and how it works. So I really recommend it. I think it's fantastic. It works really well with Money Bootcamp and it gives you more of an insight into your own personality and creating a business that works for your life. I think that's the main thing.

And it's also helped me to be aware of what to say no to and what to say yes to. So when I get opportunities, I think about my archetypes and that helps me to think, "Well, is that a good fit for what I want or where I want my business to be going in the future?" Like for instance, I don't want to do a membership, even though it looks like on paper it would be an ideal thing for me. Actually, I know that I'm not going to follow through because I'm an Alchemist. So yeah. I really, really think it's been useful.