Roxanne Roberts's Blog, page 19
May 12, 2012
Set a goal...take a chance
At the moment I have been a little frustrated with "divine timing"; code word for having to be patient and wait while all things are in place and all that is left is for the moment to arrive. Angelic and divine timing is not quite as quick sometimes as my human expectations *laugh*
Sometimes it feels as though I am halted, slowed down to a crawl or just no going anywhere at all. Usually these moments are when I am being the instruction to "just be" and let things unfold and live in the flow of the now. Which is easier said than done with a super efficient, super organised and slightly obsessive compulsive personality like mine *smile*
I take these times and moments to reflect and reset (where necessary) my goals. It is during these times I am reminded of how my conscious journey on this path began, and it all began with a goal, a dream, a vision. I imagined and saw myself writing stories, I even had a couple of "false" starts or practise runs really. All of a sudden though, after picturing this goal and then taking a chance by sending my work to a publisher (scary moment) I now have three published children's stories, I get to write these blog posts to amazing people, I get to appear in public with faery wings on (OK, I would have done this anyway *smile*) and still get to teach teenagers math skills! Life's good!
So there are a few moments here and there where things look a little tougher than I would have chosen; imagine though, if I had never taken the chance after setting the goal? If i had not had enough belief (barely at times, but that was enough) in my stories, my team and me? Then, none of these amazing things I get to spend my time doing, would be happening at all.
Set a goal for what you feel, what you can "see" and what you desire...then take a chance (it really isn't much of a risk) and believe in you!
I believe in you, and I have enough belief for both of us, so GO FOR IT!
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxoxo[image error]
Sometimes it feels as though I am halted, slowed down to a crawl or just no going anywhere at all. Usually these moments are when I am being the instruction to "just be" and let things unfold and live in the flow of the now. Which is easier said than done with a super efficient, super organised and slightly obsessive compulsive personality like mine *smile*
I take these times and moments to reflect and reset (where necessary) my goals. It is during these times I am reminded of how my conscious journey on this path began, and it all began with a goal, a dream, a vision. I imagined and saw myself writing stories, I even had a couple of "false" starts or practise runs really. All of a sudden though, after picturing this goal and then taking a chance by sending my work to a publisher (scary moment) I now have three published children's stories, I get to write these blog posts to amazing people, I get to appear in public with faery wings on (OK, I would have done this anyway *smile*) and still get to teach teenagers math skills! Life's good!
So there are a few moments here and there where things look a little tougher than I would have chosen; imagine though, if I had never taken the chance after setting the goal? If i had not had enough belief (barely at times, but that was enough) in my stories, my team and me? Then, none of these amazing things I get to spend my time doing, would be happening at all.
Set a goal for what you feel, what you can "see" and what you desire...then take a chance (it really isn't much of a risk) and believe in you!
I believe in you, and I have enough belief for both of us, so GO FOR IT!
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxoxo[image error]
Smudging
There are sometimes people that come into and out of our lives that are not necessarily what we would choose. There are also situations that pop up from time to time that are also, not what we would necessarily choose.
A wise and beautiful friend of mine taught me the art of "smudging".
Smudging is kind of like rubbing your hand over the writing on a chalk board. It is still there, but the impact is lessened a great deal, the details are no longer distinct, and if you "smudge" long enough, the whole thing ceases to exist at all in your space.
So how does this work with people and places?
Well, when you find yourself in one of these situations, then imagine the smudging effect described above. Think loving and forgiving thoughts as you gently wipe away the impact. Remind yourself that you are not making a judgement about the people and situations involved; you are lovingly and with forgiveness, removing the impact that it/they had on you.
Over time, you will notice that people you "smudge" no longer seem to seek your company, you part ways in a natural and calm way with no conflict or anxiety. Their influence is removed, their impact made loving and you can move on again knowing that you dealt with love rather than antagonism and conflict.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxo[image error]
A wise and beautiful friend of mine taught me the art of "smudging".
Smudging is kind of like rubbing your hand over the writing on a chalk board. It is still there, but the impact is lessened a great deal, the details are no longer distinct, and if you "smudge" long enough, the whole thing ceases to exist at all in your space.
So how does this work with people and places?
Well, when you find yourself in one of these situations, then imagine the smudging effect described above. Think loving and forgiving thoughts as you gently wipe away the impact. Remind yourself that you are not making a judgement about the people and situations involved; you are lovingly and with forgiveness, removing the impact that it/they had on you.
Over time, you will notice that people you "smudge" no longer seem to seek your company, you part ways in a natural and calm way with no conflict or anxiety. Their influence is removed, their impact made loving and you can move on again knowing that you dealt with love rather than antagonism and conflict.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxo[image error]
May 9, 2012
Moving through
So often in our lives we are moving. To here, from there, around there, moving on, moving in...well, I am sure you get the picture *laugh*
I think one of our body's ways of dealing with "stuff" is to actually get us moving. you know those days when you haven't time to sit down and take five minutes out for yourself. I know I had a day like that just recently, where each time I turned around there was something I "had" to do, or someone who wanted me to go somewhere and do something or just to walk with them. Not a moment was I able to stop and just be, not even my lunch break.
As it turns out, and I don't believe it was coincidence, this was also a day where I was to be confronted by a whole heap of "stuff" I don't usually choose to associate with. As I opened my mouth to say something VERY human in response, I got the impulse to just move. I couldn't walk away, so I stepped sideways and actually felt better. "Interesting" I thought to myself. When the situation was over, I went for a walk to the other end of the school because I felt I wanted to "get" something. When I got to the place I was going, I couldn't remember why I went, but I did feel better. "curiouser and curiouser." I then began to take note of all the situations and moments that seemed to be filling this particular day and I realised that each time I found myself in a situation I was not really enjoying, had the potential to anger me or that may possibly have created a moment I would have not chosen ordinarily for myself...my body moved. Sometimes imperceptibly to others like a slight shift in my stance of body position. Sometimes really obviously like being "sent" on a walk with no actual purpose.
Our bodies are incredibly intuitive and in this day, I was being shown a great way of moving on from something that was occurring; quite literally as it turns out *smile*
Physically moving is good for us in so many ways, I'm not really a sporting type, so I don't actually have the specific knowledge to pass on to you about that. What I do know, is that physically moving my body helped me pass through these less than desirable moments without being affected.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxoxo[image error]
I think one of our body's ways of dealing with "stuff" is to actually get us moving. you know those days when you haven't time to sit down and take five minutes out for yourself. I know I had a day like that just recently, where each time I turned around there was something I "had" to do, or someone who wanted me to go somewhere and do something or just to walk with them. Not a moment was I able to stop and just be, not even my lunch break.
As it turns out, and I don't believe it was coincidence, this was also a day where I was to be confronted by a whole heap of "stuff" I don't usually choose to associate with. As I opened my mouth to say something VERY human in response, I got the impulse to just move. I couldn't walk away, so I stepped sideways and actually felt better. "Interesting" I thought to myself. When the situation was over, I went for a walk to the other end of the school because I felt I wanted to "get" something. When I got to the place I was going, I couldn't remember why I went, but I did feel better. "curiouser and curiouser." I then began to take note of all the situations and moments that seemed to be filling this particular day and I realised that each time I found myself in a situation I was not really enjoying, had the potential to anger me or that may possibly have created a moment I would have not chosen ordinarily for myself...my body moved. Sometimes imperceptibly to others like a slight shift in my stance of body position. Sometimes really obviously like being "sent" on a walk with no actual purpose.
Our bodies are incredibly intuitive and in this day, I was being shown a great way of moving on from something that was occurring; quite literally as it turns out *smile*
Physically moving is good for us in so many ways, I'm not really a sporting type, so I don't actually have the specific knowledge to pass on to you about that. What I do know, is that physically moving my body helped me pass through these less than desirable moments without being affected.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxoxo[image error]
May 8, 2012
Influences
Often I wonder whether the way I might be feeling influences the day that I have, or whether it is the events of the day that influence my feelings in the moment. It is a bit of a chicken and an egg argument really.
The answer of course, is both!
There is only one of these things that I have any ability to control though, and that is the way I perceive and feel about each situation as it occurs.
I have many tricks to get me "out of a bad mood" or to lighten the moment for myself so that I can influence events around me a little more.
I can often be heard humming or singing (especially songs like "Every thing's all right" from Jesus Christ Super Star musical) on days that events don't seem to be going my way. By doing this, I am consciously influencing my mood and therefore the feeling of the day. I can't stay angry, frustrated or sad when I am singing, so I sing!
I also have what I term a "protective barrier." When moments seem particularly difficult to get through, I ask to be taken away from the moment. I get a bit "fluffy" I suppose would be a good way to describe it. I tune out to the world an events around me as much as possible, going into a semi-trance like state where I can move around, perform my daily duties and do the things I have set myself to do, yet not be actually engaged in anything or with anyone I come into contact with. This prevents the events that are transpiring, that I have no control over, to have the least amount of impact on me.
I also have been known to make jokes, find the hysterically funny moment about something, view events as entertainment (a movie...not happening to me), search for what is good, or just say the words "I am grateful for the gifts I am given" over and over again like a chant inside my head.
All of these things have one thing in common; they are acts that help me to choose NOT to be engaged in or a part of the events that, should I let them, make me feel bad, angry, sad or any other negative emotion.
Events that happen to me, with me and around me are totally out of my ability to influence most times. Instead of railing against the injustice, trying to force others into change, or making the choice to participate in these actions and events, I choose to find a way to divert myself, remove myself and my feelings from the situation, and focus on choosing to be happy, grateful, forgiving, caring, compassionate and all of the things I choose to be rather than responding to those events and allowing them to affect me.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxoxo[image error]
The answer of course, is both!
There is only one of these things that I have any ability to control though, and that is the way I perceive and feel about each situation as it occurs.
I have many tricks to get me "out of a bad mood" or to lighten the moment for myself so that I can influence events around me a little more.
I can often be heard humming or singing (especially songs like "Every thing's all right" from Jesus Christ Super Star musical) on days that events don't seem to be going my way. By doing this, I am consciously influencing my mood and therefore the feeling of the day. I can't stay angry, frustrated or sad when I am singing, so I sing!
I also have what I term a "protective barrier." When moments seem particularly difficult to get through, I ask to be taken away from the moment. I get a bit "fluffy" I suppose would be a good way to describe it. I tune out to the world an events around me as much as possible, going into a semi-trance like state where I can move around, perform my daily duties and do the things I have set myself to do, yet not be actually engaged in anything or with anyone I come into contact with. This prevents the events that are transpiring, that I have no control over, to have the least amount of impact on me.
I also have been known to make jokes, find the hysterically funny moment about something, view events as entertainment (a movie...not happening to me), search for what is good, or just say the words "I am grateful for the gifts I am given" over and over again like a chant inside my head.
All of these things have one thing in common; they are acts that help me to choose NOT to be engaged in or a part of the events that, should I let them, make me feel bad, angry, sad or any other negative emotion.
Events that happen to me, with me and around me are totally out of my ability to influence most times. Instead of railing against the injustice, trying to force others into change, or making the choice to participate in these actions and events, I choose to find a way to divert myself, remove myself and my feelings from the situation, and focus on choosing to be happy, grateful, forgiving, caring, compassionate and all of the things I choose to be rather than responding to those events and allowing them to affect me.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxoxo[image error]
May 7, 2012
You cannot make a mistake
One of the most freeing parts of this journey and my current understandings is the concept that there is no such thing as a missed opportunity or a mistake. Any time I start to think I have "done something wrong" I play the "If it wasn't for..." game.
Let me play a round for you now and maybe you'll see what I mean.
If it wasn't for being treated like a number in the system by the massive institution I was working for, I wouldn't have taken a "mental health day" (sick day *smile*) to think, get my head together and regroup.
If it wasn't for taking the sick day, I wouldn't have taken a bus ride to the beach and seen the sign stating there was a mass recruiting drive at a major casino in my area.
If it wasn't for getting off the bus to take a closer look, taking a job interview right then and there and getting a job working in food service at the casino, I wouldn't have met the people I did.
If it wasn't for meeting those people, I wouldn't have met my partner.
If it wasn't for meeting my partner and realising I was no better off in hospitality than I was before, I wouldn't have fallen pregnant with my youngest son and gone back to teaching.
If I hadn't had my youngest son, gone back to teaching I would not have moved out west to a remote community to teach.
If it wasn't for my boss there being aggressive and a bully, I wouldn't have moved to my current location and along the way written a series of stories for children to teach them the same information I attempt to convey through these blog posts!
Cool game huh?
Some of the moments briefly touched upon in the game above, were REALLY painful and difficult in the moments they were happening. However, "If it wasn't for" each and every one of these moments happening in the exact order they did, I wouldn't be writing these posts and you wouldn't be reading them.
I made no mistakes, I walked the path I chose and I made a change in direction when the way I was going no longer served me. I gained opportunities even though I was unaware at times, the direction I was being asked to travel, nor the opportunities that would present themselves along the way.
Walk forward knowing that there are no mistakes and no lost opportunities.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxo[image error]
Let me play a round for you now and maybe you'll see what I mean.
If it wasn't for being treated like a number in the system by the massive institution I was working for, I wouldn't have taken a "mental health day" (sick day *smile*) to think, get my head together and regroup.
If it wasn't for taking the sick day, I wouldn't have taken a bus ride to the beach and seen the sign stating there was a mass recruiting drive at a major casino in my area.
If it wasn't for getting off the bus to take a closer look, taking a job interview right then and there and getting a job working in food service at the casino, I wouldn't have met the people I did.
If it wasn't for meeting those people, I wouldn't have met my partner.
If it wasn't for meeting my partner and realising I was no better off in hospitality than I was before, I wouldn't have fallen pregnant with my youngest son and gone back to teaching.
If I hadn't had my youngest son, gone back to teaching I would not have moved out west to a remote community to teach.
If it wasn't for my boss there being aggressive and a bully, I wouldn't have moved to my current location and along the way written a series of stories for children to teach them the same information I attempt to convey through these blog posts!
Cool game huh?
Some of the moments briefly touched upon in the game above, were REALLY painful and difficult in the moments they were happening. However, "If it wasn't for" each and every one of these moments happening in the exact order they did, I wouldn't be writing these posts and you wouldn't be reading them.
I made no mistakes, I walked the path I chose and I made a change in direction when the way I was going no longer served me. I gained opportunities even though I was unaware at times, the direction I was being asked to travel, nor the opportunities that would present themselves along the way.
Walk forward knowing that there are no mistakes and no lost opportunities.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxo[image error]
May 6, 2012
Following the rules
It seems to me to be a bit of a "human" thing to be making up rules all the time about everything. What this really does, is tightens the little box we put around ourselves. It limits our ability to think creatively and to be imaginative. It can be very harmful to ourselves to start placing rules around our own spirituality and the way we feel about our divine team and the divine as a whole.
So many things surrounding our belief in spirit and divine seems to have rules????? Rules of ritual, rules of behaviour, rules of understanding, rules related to almost every facet of our belief. In reality, there are no rules when in comes to our very own, personal and individualised belief in the divine.
If you want to pray, then pray. If you feel like lighting a white sage smudge stick and throwing red apples into the fire for blessings, then do it. If you want to light a candle and send your thoughts to the universe, then by all means, do that to. Read cards, don't read cards, go to church, don't go to church, call the divine God, Goddess, angels, faeries, mother earth, Buddha, Allah...whatever you like...because in the end, it is all the same. The way and 'shape' in which we view these things is really a construct of our current understanding and there is absolutely no wrong answer with this.
Where we harm ourselves and place judgements on others is when we feel what we believe is better than, more true than or purer than what someone else holds in their heart.
Part of being true to yourself is following the path of your own belief with pure love and faith that what you believe, feel and experience is real and worthwhile. What anyone else thinks is completely irrelevant. This is your journey, your faith...be you because you are right.
With love and lightxoxoxoxoxoxo[image error]
So many things surrounding our belief in spirit and divine seems to have rules????? Rules of ritual, rules of behaviour, rules of understanding, rules related to almost every facet of our belief. In reality, there are no rules when in comes to our very own, personal and individualised belief in the divine.
If you want to pray, then pray. If you feel like lighting a white sage smudge stick and throwing red apples into the fire for blessings, then do it. If you want to light a candle and send your thoughts to the universe, then by all means, do that to. Read cards, don't read cards, go to church, don't go to church, call the divine God, Goddess, angels, faeries, mother earth, Buddha, Allah...whatever you like...because in the end, it is all the same. The way and 'shape' in which we view these things is really a construct of our current understanding and there is absolutely no wrong answer with this.
Where we harm ourselves and place judgements on others is when we feel what we believe is better than, more true than or purer than what someone else holds in their heart.
Part of being true to yourself is following the path of your own belief with pure love and faith that what you believe, feel and experience is real and worthwhile. What anyone else thinks is completely irrelevant. This is your journey, your faith...be you because you are right.
With love and lightxoxoxoxoxoxo[image error]
May 3, 2012
Being true to yourself
I have heard the term, "be true to yourself" quite a large number of times over the course of my journey. People have said it to me, I have read it and I have heard it whispered in the depth of my mind...but...what does this actually mean and how is it helpful on the days where we are struggling at times, to find even one reason to "bother" about it all?
The power of this statement is missed sometimes I think, because of how simply it is stated.
Being true to yourself can mean so many things and also means the absence of so many things as well. It is quite a complex concept so bare with me as I try to muddle my way through it *smile*
Before you can even think about being true to yourself, you have to know who that is. The first step in being true to yourself then is taking some time to get to know who that person is, to listen to the whispers of your heart, to set boundaries of ways you choose to and choose not to behave and be, to know every part of you inside and out without judgement (bam...there's the tough bit *laugh*) and love and accept who you are and choose to be. (There are earlier posts that go into this in a bit more detail if you want to scroll back and have a look for them for more information)
Basically, to be true to yourself you have to know the difference between the whisperings of your heart and divine self, and the whisperings of your brain and ego...the conditioned human self. At the very least, make a beginning on this understanding.
One thing I want to point out really strongly though, is that being true to yourself does NOT mean you are selfish! For some reason, this concept gets all mixed up with the idea of sacrifice of self being equal to "goodness". Occasionally it is helpful to define something, by saying what it is not. Being true to yourself and following your heart does not mean that you are a selfish person. In fact, quite often, listening to the calling of my heart leads me to completing acts of service to and for others, this does not make me anything other than true to the being I chose to be. It just is.
Being true to yourself is acting, being and thinking in a way that does NOT contradict the person you make a choice to be, it's not selfish, it's respectful.
Being true to yourself means that you spend your time and choose your actions according to your heart not what others expectations of you may or may not be. Being true to yourself means consciously knowing who you are and never acting to contradict that (even when you perceive that to do so will benefit others). Being true to yourself means that you live a life that brings you joy and therefore helps your loving and divine self shine on the world. When you smile, you change the world around you, when you laugh, you bring others along for the ride and make a difference to them too.
Being true to yourself means NEVER lying to yourself about what you need, want, think, desire, will and won't accept, or anything else for that matter. If you wouldn't do "it" to others, then you won't do it to yourself either. It means living in love and from your heart...simple huh? *smile*
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxox
P.S. This concept was inspired by an earth angel asking me to write to this topic. If you want to ask me my thoughts on a topic (remembering this is only my opinion and not set in concrete *laugh*) feel free to leave a comment, or pop on over to the Angel Wings and Faery Dust Face Book page and leave a message/comment there. xo[image error]
The power of this statement is missed sometimes I think, because of how simply it is stated.
Being true to yourself can mean so many things and also means the absence of so many things as well. It is quite a complex concept so bare with me as I try to muddle my way through it *smile*
Before you can even think about being true to yourself, you have to know who that is. The first step in being true to yourself then is taking some time to get to know who that person is, to listen to the whispers of your heart, to set boundaries of ways you choose to and choose not to behave and be, to know every part of you inside and out without judgement (bam...there's the tough bit *laugh*) and love and accept who you are and choose to be. (There are earlier posts that go into this in a bit more detail if you want to scroll back and have a look for them for more information)
Basically, to be true to yourself you have to know the difference between the whisperings of your heart and divine self, and the whisperings of your brain and ego...the conditioned human self. At the very least, make a beginning on this understanding.
One thing I want to point out really strongly though, is that being true to yourself does NOT mean you are selfish! For some reason, this concept gets all mixed up with the idea of sacrifice of self being equal to "goodness". Occasionally it is helpful to define something, by saying what it is not. Being true to yourself and following your heart does not mean that you are a selfish person. In fact, quite often, listening to the calling of my heart leads me to completing acts of service to and for others, this does not make me anything other than true to the being I chose to be. It just is.
Being true to yourself is acting, being and thinking in a way that does NOT contradict the person you make a choice to be, it's not selfish, it's respectful.
Being true to yourself means that you spend your time and choose your actions according to your heart not what others expectations of you may or may not be. Being true to yourself means consciously knowing who you are and never acting to contradict that (even when you perceive that to do so will benefit others). Being true to yourself means that you live a life that brings you joy and therefore helps your loving and divine self shine on the world. When you smile, you change the world around you, when you laugh, you bring others along for the ride and make a difference to them too.
Being true to yourself means NEVER lying to yourself about what you need, want, think, desire, will and won't accept, or anything else for that matter. If you wouldn't do "it" to others, then you won't do it to yourself either. It means living in love and from your heart...simple huh? *smile*
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxox
P.S. This concept was inspired by an earth angel asking me to write to this topic. If you want to ask me my thoughts on a topic (remembering this is only my opinion and not set in concrete *laugh*) feel free to leave a comment, or pop on over to the Angel Wings and Faery Dust Face Book page and leave a message/comment there. xo[image error]
May 2, 2012
Matters of love and heart
There is so much "weird" stuff going on at the moment in my world. There are people who have been beautiful and amazing and gorgeous suddenly being awful to others and all sorts of "craziness" happening that I am sometimes looking around me and wondering "what is going ON?"
I settled back tonight to reflect on another day of "humanness" and really crazy "stuff" and thought to myself, "What actually matters?" I spent my reflection time thinking about all the love in my heart, all of the wonderful things I think and feel and am grateful for and all the amazing and beautiful little snippets that have wedged themselves between the weirdness, and I sighed in pure contentment.
What matters is the moments that were filled with love and heart today. While small little bits and pieces that went in and around the other "stuff", when I reflected upon my day, it was those snippets that actually mattered the most. When my department was recognised as special and valuable by the boss, when one of my precious students smiled, the moment where I shared some heart and understandings with one of my "naughty" students and they "got it", the moment where I just felt like singing and did it, the moment where I made someone laugh, or the moment where another reached out to comfort me. Really, really special.
This bought me back to remembering that only love is real, only things that are derived and fed by love have an impact and exist for longer than the moment in which they happened.
What really matters? Matters of love and the heart!
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxox[image error]
I settled back tonight to reflect on another day of "humanness" and really crazy "stuff" and thought to myself, "What actually matters?" I spent my reflection time thinking about all the love in my heart, all of the wonderful things I think and feel and am grateful for and all the amazing and beautiful little snippets that have wedged themselves between the weirdness, and I sighed in pure contentment.
What matters is the moments that were filled with love and heart today. While small little bits and pieces that went in and around the other "stuff", when I reflected upon my day, it was those snippets that actually mattered the most. When my department was recognised as special and valuable by the boss, when one of my precious students smiled, the moment where I shared some heart and understandings with one of my "naughty" students and they "got it", the moment where I just felt like singing and did it, the moment where I made someone laugh, or the moment where another reached out to comfort me. Really, really special.
This bought me back to remembering that only love is real, only things that are derived and fed by love have an impact and exist for longer than the moment in which they happened.
What really matters? Matters of love and the heart!
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxox[image error]
May 1, 2012
When judgement takes over
We all make judgements, snap decisions, instinct, moments in time where we condemn another for an action that we don't condone. This is a part of being human, and difficulties only arise from this when we do not take the next moment to ask ourselves about this judgement, it's validity and where it may have come from in order to better understand ourselves.
In the moment where we let judgement run unchecked, and we forget to stop and look at the thought, action or situation through love rather than judgement is the moment when I feel we are the furthest from our divine selves.
I try to operate, make every decision and every action with pure intent to have love and forgiveness at it's core. However, I'm not always successful...I'm human.
I just wanted to take a moment today to point out the consequences of the moment where judgement takes over... in this moment, you give away the opportunity to love unconditionally, you give away a connection to another and the gift of compassion, empathy and sharing. When judgement takes over, you give away the gift of knowing another by walking in their shoes; a gift to you and the others involved.
To take it the next step, the repercussions of the moment where judgement takes over may be very far reaching. The moment when you make a snap decision to say something cutting, to use a tone of voice that is rude, to do anything which may harm another, not only means you give away the gifts you may have had for yourself; you also take something, a moment, from someone else.
We each walk our own path, we all have "battles" within our lives and things no other knows. Since you do not know this information about another, offer all you come into contact with the same unconditional love our divine team gives us. Offer love and understanding rather than judgement and condemnation.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxo[image error]
In the moment where we let judgement run unchecked, and we forget to stop and look at the thought, action or situation through love rather than judgement is the moment when I feel we are the furthest from our divine selves.
I try to operate, make every decision and every action with pure intent to have love and forgiveness at it's core. However, I'm not always successful...I'm human.
I just wanted to take a moment today to point out the consequences of the moment where judgement takes over... in this moment, you give away the opportunity to love unconditionally, you give away a connection to another and the gift of compassion, empathy and sharing. When judgement takes over, you give away the gift of knowing another by walking in their shoes; a gift to you and the others involved.
To take it the next step, the repercussions of the moment where judgement takes over may be very far reaching. The moment when you make a snap decision to say something cutting, to use a tone of voice that is rude, to do anything which may harm another, not only means you give away the gifts you may have had for yourself; you also take something, a moment, from someone else.
We each walk our own path, we all have "battles" within our lives and things no other knows. Since you do not know this information about another, offer all you come into contact with the same unconditional love our divine team gives us. Offer love and understanding rather than judgement and condemnation.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxo[image error]
April 30, 2012
Go with your heart
Sometimes it is difficult, especially when it is someone you love, trust and value, to go against the advice you may be given on a particular situation and follow the impulses and lead of your heart.
I asked for the opinion of someone else today, someone I love very much who's opinion means a lot to me. I trust this person to be making decisions and offering advice with pure intent; no hidden agenda and with only what they feel is best for me. However, when I heard their advice instantly, my heart said, "No, this is not your way." There was nothing negative or wrong with the advice I was given, not one spark of it was in defiance of what I would do in other similar situations, however, this time, my heart spoke very strongly that this was not the way I was to go.
So what did I do? I followed the advice of my heart, in doing so, I remembered a very valuable lesson.
I remembered there is something to be wary of when you base your decisions on the advice of others, and there is also the same wariness when you place someone on a pedestal as "mentor, leader, guru" or any of these things.
The MOST important thing to remember is that this is YOUR journey, and while it is not only understandable but human to want the advice of others and to seek support from friends and loved ones, the bottom line is that no one can possibly know your heart and you as well as you do!
the most gratifying part of this understanding is that I cannot make excuses when I listen to my heart (especially since when I do this, there is seldom need for excuses anyway). There is no one else to blame because I have made all of the decisions and choices. That's great, because when I can no longer blame others for the outcome, then I can move forward with the next step rather than getting stuck. I can be totally free to pursue my own way!
No one knows me as I know myself, no one is as in tune with me as I am
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxo[image error]
I asked for the opinion of someone else today, someone I love very much who's opinion means a lot to me. I trust this person to be making decisions and offering advice with pure intent; no hidden agenda and with only what they feel is best for me. However, when I heard their advice instantly, my heart said, "No, this is not your way." There was nothing negative or wrong with the advice I was given, not one spark of it was in defiance of what I would do in other similar situations, however, this time, my heart spoke very strongly that this was not the way I was to go.
So what did I do? I followed the advice of my heart, in doing so, I remembered a very valuable lesson.
I remembered there is something to be wary of when you base your decisions on the advice of others, and there is also the same wariness when you place someone on a pedestal as "mentor, leader, guru" or any of these things.
The MOST important thing to remember is that this is YOUR journey, and while it is not only understandable but human to want the advice of others and to seek support from friends and loved ones, the bottom line is that no one can possibly know your heart and you as well as you do!
the most gratifying part of this understanding is that I cannot make excuses when I listen to my heart (especially since when I do this, there is seldom need for excuses anyway). There is no one else to blame because I have made all of the decisions and choices. That's great, because when I can no longer blame others for the outcome, then I can move forward with the next step rather than getting stuck. I can be totally free to pursue my own way!
No one knows me as I know myself, no one is as in tune with me as I am
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxo[image error]
