Roxanne Roberts's Blog, page 16
June 15, 2012
Are you ready?
There is a palpable feel of change in the air and on the wind today. Sometimes I feel as though the whole world is walking backwards, sometimes it feels as though it is me. While I do not give up hope during these moments where nothing seems to be moving, it can be a difficult. Tonight, as I sit down to type out my daily message, I just feel that the change is happening. People ARE transitioning from the old energy, shedding their preconceptions and moving forward...*sigh*
Tonight I wanted to talk about power; our power to influence, our power to make choices, our power to weather the storm, our power to make a difference, our power to be who we want to be, in the manner we choose it to be.
Really, it is embracing the thought and the knowledge that we, I, me, you are a powerful divine being who has the energy and purpose to be brilliant that makes all the difference in and to the world.
We can CHOOSE, and in so doing, we can be great, do great things and have a great life. So simple, take back your power to choose, embrace the power that is you, and live from a place of love and light.
Sometimes, we don't know how strong and powerful we are until we are tested.
With love and light
xoxoxoxox
Tonight I wanted to talk about power; our power to influence, our power to make choices, our power to weather the storm, our power to make a difference, our power to be who we want to be, in the manner we choose it to be.
Really, it is embracing the thought and the knowledge that we, I, me, you are a powerful divine being who has the energy and purpose to be brilliant that makes all the difference in and to the world.
We can CHOOSE, and in so doing, we can be great, do great things and have a great life. So simple, take back your power to choose, embrace the power that is you, and live from a place of love and light.
Sometimes, we don't know how strong and powerful we are until we are tested.
With love and light
xoxoxoxox
June 14, 2012
Let it go...
You know we signed a contract before coming here and deciding on this life right? I know that we have talked about this before. (Sometimes I think there should have been a cooling off period for the contract I agreed to...but hey...I made the deal *smile) When we arrive, we have free will, we have the gift and ability to choose contrary to our contract/agreement, and we have the ability and gift to choose whatever path we decide on once we get here. I have to admit, that sometimes, once I had really embraced this concept, that I wondered what I was possibly thinking when I made some of the choices I did in the past. *shakes her head ruefully*
There has come moments for me, when the choice in front of me is to either
a) continue to make the same choices and deal with the same response, and then "kick myself", recriminate or otherwise punish myself for these choices...OR...
b) to make new choices, take a new direction, and more importantly, to let go of the decisions I have made in the past.
When stated as simply and as clearly as this the choice seems obvious (If in doubt, pick b) yet, in "reality", which means in perception, it doesn't always seems as clear cut as this does it?
Lately, the message I have been getting a lot is to "Let go;" to release attachments to all things, people, places, situations, emotive responses...everything. Let it all go and to just enter the flow of the universe, feel the loving embrace of my divine team, and "Let it go."
I have spent a bit of time on this, letting go that is, and trying all sorts of strategies to assist me, and I know I'm not there yet, I know I am not able to totally put aside all concerns about earning enough money to feed my children, or about how someone I care about has reacted or responded to me that hurt my feelings, or the guilt I may inflict upon myself for a choice I made....
I had a thought today about why this may possibly one of the more difficult stages of the journey I have chosen. Letting go of all of those things means a change; it means releasing those little stressors and moments that I may have used to tell a funny story, it means changing the little part of me that still behaves at times like a victim etc and even though these "changes" are really good and will allow me to move forward....they are still change. As a human, at times, it seems as though I "fight" to let go, and at the same time, "fight" to hold on to my perception of me.
*sigh*
Thank God I have an amazing team of divine beings to support me while I make these changes, to understand when I don't quite reach my goal and to encourage me to move ahead even though I may feel as though I just walked backwards for a kilometre or so.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxo
There has come moments for me, when the choice in front of me is to either
a) continue to make the same choices and deal with the same response, and then "kick myself", recriminate or otherwise punish myself for these choices...OR...
b) to make new choices, take a new direction, and more importantly, to let go of the decisions I have made in the past.
When stated as simply and as clearly as this the choice seems obvious (If in doubt, pick b) yet, in "reality", which means in perception, it doesn't always seems as clear cut as this does it?
Lately, the message I have been getting a lot is to "Let go;" to release attachments to all things, people, places, situations, emotive responses...everything. Let it all go and to just enter the flow of the universe, feel the loving embrace of my divine team, and "Let it go."
I have spent a bit of time on this, letting go that is, and trying all sorts of strategies to assist me, and I know I'm not there yet, I know I am not able to totally put aside all concerns about earning enough money to feed my children, or about how someone I care about has reacted or responded to me that hurt my feelings, or the guilt I may inflict upon myself for a choice I made....
I had a thought today about why this may possibly one of the more difficult stages of the journey I have chosen. Letting go of all of those things means a change; it means releasing those little stressors and moments that I may have used to tell a funny story, it means changing the little part of me that still behaves at times like a victim etc and even though these "changes" are really good and will allow me to move forward....they are still change. As a human, at times, it seems as though I "fight" to let go, and at the same time, "fight" to hold on to my perception of me.
*sigh*
Thank God I have an amazing team of divine beings to support me while I make these changes, to understand when I don't quite reach my goal and to encourage me to move ahead even though I may feel as though I just walked backwards for a kilometre or so.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxo
June 12, 2012
A gentle reminder...
I'm just going to take a moment to remind everyone (me included) of a really basic concept that makes all other things make sense, offers us comfort in those moments that are a little scary or sad, and in general sums everything up nicely for me...
We are loved, protected and provided for in all ways; for every problem, there is a solution, for every moment of darkness a light is waiting, for every sadness or grief, there is comfort and healing and for every tomorrow a plan.
All it takes, all we are ever asked to do, is to have trust in ourselves and our divine team and to live a life committed to the principle of love and kindness.
With love and light
xoxoxoxox
We are loved, protected and provided for in all ways; for every problem, there is a solution, for every moment of darkness a light is waiting, for every sadness or grief, there is comfort and healing and for every tomorrow a plan.
All it takes, all we are ever asked to do, is to have trust in ourselves and our divine team and to live a life committed to the principle of love and kindness.
With love and light
xoxoxoxox
June 11, 2012
How do you know?
The question I have contemplated, been asked and thought about often over the last few years is, how do you know when you are on the path of your true life's purpose?
It is all at once simple and a little complex I guess. So, here's what I have come up with.
Sometimes it is easier to define something, by describing what it is not. You know that you are NOT on your path when everything seems difficult; when nothing seems to go right and you can't seem to catch a break. this is a really good indicator that what you are currently doing, doesn't really align with your chosen path (you made the choice before you got here remember, and signed a contract with Archangel Michael *smile* no cooling off period either). Remember that the universe will align everything when you are on your path, your team will smooth the way and give you little nudges here and there to make sure you take the best fork in the road and as a result...life is so good!
You know you are on your path when you LOVE what you do. I am not talking about feeling good going to work, or having a nice time...I'm talking LOVE what you do! An easy "test" for this...ask yourself the question, would you continue to do what you are doing now, if you weren't ever going to be paid for it? If the answer is "yes" it's a pretty good indicator that you are following your path.
If neither of these things resonate for you, try sitting down with some paper and pens, and write out the things you would do if time and money were no object; if there were no barriers to you just launching into what you wanted to do...what would that be? DON"T, whatever you do, THINK about your answer *laugh*, feel your answer, intuit your answer and write down the very first thought that pops into your mind.
Think about your dreams, both night time dreams and day dreams, let your mind float and let your heart speak, and if you haven't found it already, this is how you will find your purpose.
Then...walk your path unafraid for you cannot fail!
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxox
It is all at once simple and a little complex I guess. So, here's what I have come up with.
Sometimes it is easier to define something, by describing what it is not. You know that you are NOT on your path when everything seems difficult; when nothing seems to go right and you can't seem to catch a break. this is a really good indicator that what you are currently doing, doesn't really align with your chosen path (you made the choice before you got here remember, and signed a contract with Archangel Michael *smile* no cooling off period either). Remember that the universe will align everything when you are on your path, your team will smooth the way and give you little nudges here and there to make sure you take the best fork in the road and as a result...life is so good!
You know you are on your path when you LOVE what you do. I am not talking about feeling good going to work, or having a nice time...I'm talking LOVE what you do! An easy "test" for this...ask yourself the question, would you continue to do what you are doing now, if you weren't ever going to be paid for it? If the answer is "yes" it's a pretty good indicator that you are following your path.
If neither of these things resonate for you, try sitting down with some paper and pens, and write out the things you would do if time and money were no object; if there were no barriers to you just launching into what you wanted to do...what would that be? DON"T, whatever you do, THINK about your answer *laugh*, feel your answer, intuit your answer and write down the very first thought that pops into your mind.
Think about your dreams, both night time dreams and day dreams, let your mind float and let your heart speak, and if you haven't found it already, this is how you will find your purpose.
Then...walk your path unafraid for you cannot fail!
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxox
June 10, 2012
Let your inner child out to play...
I have spent the most magic day! I painted with my littlest son while we laughed, sung songs, raced around the yard chasing Nylarks (gremlins from the power ranger), using our special white healing light sword to turn them into pure love beings, pillow fights, cooking, gardening ("no baby, that one is a veggie, not a weed", "yeah but it's a yucky one Mumma" *sigh), discussing the realities and wonders of the world....his version is AWESOME... and all sorts of shenanigans. We had so much fun, it was great to be a kid again and not the responsible adult! We even made mud pies...I stopped short of actually eating one *grin*
I have just now gotten off the phone to my big boy after an hour and a half of laughter as well. No discussion about how his assessment is going, how work is or any of those things, just side splitting and hysterical one liners from both sides.
I feel rejuvenated and energised! I feel like 10 years just disappeared from my face and that I could do and imagine anything!
What a blessing it is to be able to step "back", or maybe sideways for a moment and become the child within. That much laughter is totally therapeutic and beneficial in so many ways.
It is really important, and so totally healing, for each of us to take a moment or two to have fun and even be silly. So maybe chasing Nylarks is not for you, perhaps finger painting makes you feel a bit queasy, but there has to be something you loved doing as a child that would make you laugh and sing and run with complete abandon. There is something divinely beautiful in this kind of surrender.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxoxox
I have just now gotten off the phone to my big boy after an hour and a half of laughter as well. No discussion about how his assessment is going, how work is or any of those things, just side splitting and hysterical one liners from both sides.
I feel rejuvenated and energised! I feel like 10 years just disappeared from my face and that I could do and imagine anything!
What a blessing it is to be able to step "back", or maybe sideways for a moment and become the child within. That much laughter is totally therapeutic and beneficial in so many ways.
It is really important, and so totally healing, for each of us to take a moment or two to have fun and even be silly. So maybe chasing Nylarks is not for you, perhaps finger painting makes you feel a bit queasy, but there has to be something you loved doing as a child that would make you laugh and sing and run with complete abandon. There is something divinely beautiful in this kind of surrender.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxoxox
June 9, 2012
It's all about the little things...
You know, I have heard of the saying, "Don't sweat the small stuff" (I think there is even a book about this too??) and while I agree with the sentiment that worrying, stressing or feeling anxious about the "small stuff" is totally destructive and distracting, I do want to point out, that it is the small stuff, moment by moment, minute by minute, that all adds up like drops of water forming a puddle.
The way I get through those difficult moments, whether it is an awkward five minute conversation I wish I wasn't involved in, or a few years where nothing seems to be going anywhere or doing anything, is to focus on each little bit and get through that. Add up all those small things, and all of a sudden you are miles down the road just by putting one foot in front of the other...
Have I used enough clichés yet *smile*
So, "Don't sweat the small stuff" focus on it instead and pour loving energy into the small stuff, because that's how BIG stuff happens...a moment at a time.
During that awkward conversation, smile, focus on getting your breathing right (deep down to the bottom of your lungs...try picturing this as you breathe) and before you know it, the conversation is finished. When those more prolonged moments come along, I have "gotten through" them by focusing on a minute at a time on some days. Make a list of things to do, do one thing off the list, do the next thing, and the next, and the next...don't think about the other things on the list and how soon you may have to do them, just pour all your energy into the one thing you can do in that moment, love the moment, embrace the second where you feel light and happy, and then the next moment comes along and love that one too. As each moment is loved and passed, the next one seems to come even more quickly and pass even more quickly...love and enjoyment have the ability to change the passage of time you know...then all of a sudden ALL of the moments seem light and love-filled..woohooooo!
Focus your energy on being courteous, kind, loving, non-judgemental, the best you, happy, compassionate, empathetic, all of those things and watch your journey accelerate faster than you EVER thought possible. After all, this is our communal life purpose; kindness, love and joy. Feel it, be it, spread it around...and it all happens through the small stuff.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
The way I get through those difficult moments, whether it is an awkward five minute conversation I wish I wasn't involved in, or a few years where nothing seems to be going anywhere or doing anything, is to focus on each little bit and get through that. Add up all those small things, and all of a sudden you are miles down the road just by putting one foot in front of the other...
Have I used enough clichés yet *smile*
So, "Don't sweat the small stuff" focus on it instead and pour loving energy into the small stuff, because that's how BIG stuff happens...a moment at a time.
During that awkward conversation, smile, focus on getting your breathing right (deep down to the bottom of your lungs...try picturing this as you breathe) and before you know it, the conversation is finished. When those more prolonged moments come along, I have "gotten through" them by focusing on a minute at a time on some days. Make a list of things to do, do one thing off the list, do the next thing, and the next, and the next...don't think about the other things on the list and how soon you may have to do them, just pour all your energy into the one thing you can do in that moment, love the moment, embrace the second where you feel light and happy, and then the next moment comes along and love that one too. As each moment is loved and passed, the next one seems to come even more quickly and pass even more quickly...love and enjoyment have the ability to change the passage of time you know...then all of a sudden ALL of the moments seem light and love-filled..woohooooo!
Focus your energy on being courteous, kind, loving, non-judgemental, the best you, happy, compassionate, empathetic, all of those things and watch your journey accelerate faster than you EVER thought possible. After all, this is our communal life purpose; kindness, love and joy. Feel it, be it, spread it around...and it all happens through the small stuff.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
June 8, 2012
A great list...
After yesterday's post, I decided to go looking for all those little bits of paper and notes where I had written all of those pieces of information. I am amazed I can tell you *smile* Some really, really, really good words, and I just know they did not come from me. So, I thought I would share some of these finds, it seems to me they would make a really great list of things to remember...
View the world with star dust in your eyesLove and trust yourself and your intuitive abilityAll the troubles of the world come down to a question of faithIn living your most amazing dream, you contribute MASSIVE amounts of energy to the worldKindred spirits, lightworkers, band together...we make a differenceAccept compliments as the beautiful gifts they areRelease the need for servitude and embrace loving and genuine serviceHappiness does not have to be earnedOffence from others is merely a transaction that had to happen...you may find this leads you to a place you wish to be.No matter how bad things get, people still get hungryIt's not my place to judgeBeing a healer for the world begins with a focus on healing yourselfLive with love, and pure divine intentions and there are no mistakes.There were/are so MANY more...phew...these are just some of my favourites. I think I just typed in the list that describes the way I see my world and do my best to live by *smile*
With love and lightxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
View the world with star dust in your eyesLove and trust yourself and your intuitive abilityAll the troubles of the world come down to a question of faithIn living your most amazing dream, you contribute MASSIVE amounts of energy to the worldKindred spirits, lightworkers, band together...we make a differenceAccept compliments as the beautiful gifts they areRelease the need for servitude and embrace loving and genuine serviceHappiness does not have to be earnedOffence from others is merely a transaction that had to happen...you may find this leads you to a place you wish to be.No matter how bad things get, people still get hungryIt's not my place to judgeBeing a healer for the world begins with a focus on healing yourselfLive with love, and pure divine intentions and there are no mistakes.There were/are so MANY more...phew...these are just some of my favourites. I think I just typed in the list that describes the way I see my world and do my best to live by *smile*
With love and lightxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
June 7, 2012
A precious and beautiful moment
I think I have described before how I write these posts. I sit down at the computer with no for thought or planning and I automatic write. So, as the words come into my head, I type them. In this way, it is not just my story that is coming through, but also the messages which in some small way, may benefit all of those who read them.
No doubt, you have come across messages and stories here where you might have though, "Oh, well, not so partial to that one" or something like that, and this is actually perfect. What that means is, that the particular story or message was not for you! Cool..
Automatic writing was the very first way I came to know and understand the path I am on, and the divine beings who guide me through. I would sit down with pen and paper and just start writing with absolutely no thought to grammar, punctuation, spelling or any of those "proper" things, and then I would either read parts of it later that may jump out at me as I scan, or, burn it all without reading and thus rid myself and my energy of whatever toxins poured out on the page.
During the day, as I go about the "ordinary" things I do, I often get little messages that I know are destined to end up here on this blog. As I hear them, I write them down in a little book I keep handy. However, there are these precious little messages written in my diary, on bits of paper on the fridge, on the note pad by the phone, on my planning and all sorts of places. Wherever I am, I just write it down, forget about it and move on.
Usually when I need to hear or see this message, I will "find" one of these sentences written down somewhere, perhaps even something I use a great deal like my diary, but have never "seen" before, don't remember writing, and cannot recall what the intent or thought was behind it at the time, or even what I was doing.
I found one such message today...it read: "the miracle of life is that whether it is good, bad or a bit of both, the very miracle of drawing breath each moment, is a wonder to behold."
*I'll pause here for you to go..."WOW!" * smile..that's what I did.
This message is written in my last year's diary for October 25th. I had no reason to be looking in my old diary, and definitely no thought behind the action to pick it up, and go to the 25th October, yet I did, and this was the very special and amazing gift given to me by my divine team, written in my own hand *smile* "WOW!"
Other than the clear and obvious message to celebrate and cherish all of our experiences, this "find" also served to remind me that there is no such thing as coincidence, there is an amazing synchronisity at work in the universe, and all we have to do is listen with our hearts and intuition.... "WOW"
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxo
No doubt, you have come across messages and stories here where you might have though, "Oh, well, not so partial to that one" or something like that, and this is actually perfect. What that means is, that the particular story or message was not for you! Cool..
Automatic writing was the very first way I came to know and understand the path I am on, and the divine beings who guide me through. I would sit down with pen and paper and just start writing with absolutely no thought to grammar, punctuation, spelling or any of those "proper" things, and then I would either read parts of it later that may jump out at me as I scan, or, burn it all without reading and thus rid myself and my energy of whatever toxins poured out on the page.
During the day, as I go about the "ordinary" things I do, I often get little messages that I know are destined to end up here on this blog. As I hear them, I write them down in a little book I keep handy. However, there are these precious little messages written in my diary, on bits of paper on the fridge, on the note pad by the phone, on my planning and all sorts of places. Wherever I am, I just write it down, forget about it and move on.
Usually when I need to hear or see this message, I will "find" one of these sentences written down somewhere, perhaps even something I use a great deal like my diary, but have never "seen" before, don't remember writing, and cannot recall what the intent or thought was behind it at the time, or even what I was doing.
I found one such message today...it read: "the miracle of life is that whether it is good, bad or a bit of both, the very miracle of drawing breath each moment, is a wonder to behold."
*I'll pause here for you to go..."WOW!" * smile..that's what I did.
This message is written in my last year's diary for October 25th. I had no reason to be looking in my old diary, and definitely no thought behind the action to pick it up, and go to the 25th October, yet I did, and this was the very special and amazing gift given to me by my divine team, written in my own hand *smile* "WOW!"
Other than the clear and obvious message to celebrate and cherish all of our experiences, this "find" also served to remind me that there is no such thing as coincidence, there is an amazing synchronisity at work in the universe, and all we have to do is listen with our hearts and intuition.... "WOW"
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxo
June 6, 2012
What is your motivation...
If I had to come up with only one reason why people (me included *smile*) have not yet reached the goals and dreams they aspire to, it would be that they do not have sufficient motivation.
If you are wondering then, why you seem to be "doing all the right things" and working steadily, step by step towards your goal, and yet...nothing seems to be happening, it might be a really valuable exercise to stop and check your motivation.
Many things motivate us...the majority of people either move towards an experience they feel is pleasurable, or they move away from something that is painful. While this is really true, it is a bit of an over simplification of most of our situations.
For example, keeping on in a job that is not good for you, makes you miserable, doesn't inspire you all for the pay cheque could seem to be simply avoiding the 'painful' situation of not having any money. In reality though, it could be fear of breaking all ties, discomfort at having to find alternative employment, a lack of faith in yourself and your divine team, fear of taking a risk and all those other things that may or may not go along with this situation. So...not so simple!
However, one thing I know is that with the right motivation, ANYTHING is actually possible.
We've all heard the stories of people lifting cars off another person to save their life, the man who cuts off his own leg that is trapped under a landslide in order to crawl to safety, the person trapped underground for three weeks who survives. What do they all have in common? Sufficient motivation to take action!
A key step in creating success is knowing (and keeping clear in your mind) what your motivation is for working towards a particular goal. It is when the motivation becomes cloudy or hazy, and our focus slips, that we start to see road blocks.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxoxo
If you are wondering then, why you seem to be "doing all the right things" and working steadily, step by step towards your goal, and yet...nothing seems to be happening, it might be a really valuable exercise to stop and check your motivation.
Many things motivate us...the majority of people either move towards an experience they feel is pleasurable, or they move away from something that is painful. While this is really true, it is a bit of an over simplification of most of our situations.
For example, keeping on in a job that is not good for you, makes you miserable, doesn't inspire you all for the pay cheque could seem to be simply avoiding the 'painful' situation of not having any money. In reality though, it could be fear of breaking all ties, discomfort at having to find alternative employment, a lack of faith in yourself and your divine team, fear of taking a risk and all those other things that may or may not go along with this situation. So...not so simple!
However, one thing I know is that with the right motivation, ANYTHING is actually possible.
We've all heard the stories of people lifting cars off another person to save their life, the man who cuts off his own leg that is trapped under a landslide in order to crawl to safety, the person trapped underground for three weeks who survives. What do they all have in common? Sufficient motivation to take action!
A key step in creating success is knowing (and keeping clear in your mind) what your motivation is for working towards a particular goal. It is when the motivation becomes cloudy or hazy, and our focus slips, that we start to see road blocks.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxoxo
June 4, 2012
How do you understand you?
The mistake I have sometimes made in understanding myself is to look at who I am and what I am through the eyes of others. I have at times, erred in judgement and allowed what other people think of me, to become how I think of me...what a trap!
The way others perceive you has absolutely NO basis in reality, well not yours anyway. The basis for the way they look at you and understand you is perception which is coloured by their own baggage and experiences.
I remember when I was a child, I would sing REALLY loudly in church; I sang loud for the joy of singing, I sang loud because I LOVED the music, I sang loud because I didn't know how loud my loud was *smile* My best friend when I was 12 years old asked me, "Why do you sing like a horse?" I was really hurt to start with, I didn't even know what that really meant, only that the way she said it, gave me to understand this was a really bad thing and that perhaps I was embarrassing myself in some way I didn't understand. So, I stopped singing in church, I came to the understanding that I was a terrible singer. I still am a little embarrassed and EXTREMELY nervous at singing where anyone can really hear me, even though I have been told since (as well as feeling it myself) that I have quite a pleasant singing voice. So still, 24 years later, that one person's perception of me, motivated by only God knows what, has formed some of the basis for which I understand who I am and I have to work a bit harder to overcome the fear compulsions that are the result.
This is just one little example of how letting others decide who you are and what you can and can't do, what you look like, what your preferences are in all things, what you are good at or not good at, can be detrimental to you. Not only was my "friend" incorrect, she was judging me. Not only did I allow her to do that, I believed her too *sad smile*
The number one thing I keep in my mind when someone shares with me their perceptions of me...if the statement is a negative one, it does not come from a place of love and therefore has NO connection to the divine or me. (I also use this "rule" with my self-talk too).
Remember the way other people see you is their perception...this has nothing to do with YOUR reality and can be completely ignored!
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxoxox
The way others perceive you has absolutely NO basis in reality, well not yours anyway. The basis for the way they look at you and understand you is perception which is coloured by their own baggage and experiences.
I remember when I was a child, I would sing REALLY loudly in church; I sang loud for the joy of singing, I sang loud because I LOVED the music, I sang loud because I didn't know how loud my loud was *smile* My best friend when I was 12 years old asked me, "Why do you sing like a horse?" I was really hurt to start with, I didn't even know what that really meant, only that the way she said it, gave me to understand this was a really bad thing and that perhaps I was embarrassing myself in some way I didn't understand. So, I stopped singing in church, I came to the understanding that I was a terrible singer. I still am a little embarrassed and EXTREMELY nervous at singing where anyone can really hear me, even though I have been told since (as well as feeling it myself) that I have quite a pleasant singing voice. So still, 24 years later, that one person's perception of me, motivated by only God knows what, has formed some of the basis for which I understand who I am and I have to work a bit harder to overcome the fear compulsions that are the result.
This is just one little example of how letting others decide who you are and what you can and can't do, what you look like, what your preferences are in all things, what you are good at or not good at, can be detrimental to you. Not only was my "friend" incorrect, she was judging me. Not only did I allow her to do that, I believed her too *sad smile*
The number one thing I keep in my mind when someone shares with me their perceptions of me...if the statement is a negative one, it does not come from a place of love and therefore has NO connection to the divine or me. (I also use this "rule" with my self-talk too).
Remember the way other people see you is their perception...this has nothing to do with YOUR reality and can be completely ignored!
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxoxox
