Roxanne Roberts's Blog, page 21
April 17, 2012
Letting go of all things negative
OK, so I read a quote today that said, "Letting go of negative people doesn't mean you hate them. It just means that you love yourself." Not only do I whole heartedly agree with this statement, I am going to take it further than that. It is not only negative people, but negative experiences as well.
Negativity is a force, a force that can influence the way we think feel and the way we see every experience around us. However, while negative (or seemingly) things may happen, and negative people may choose to come into our lives and our spaces and attempt to influence us....we have a choice as to whether we allow ourselves to be impacted beyond that first moment.
One of my beautiful, yet sometimes recalcitrant students was sitting in the office as I walked passed today. I stopped and looked at him a moment, he hung his head. I asked, "Please, please don't tell me you are here for doing the wrong thing?" He replied, "Nah, nah Miss, it's all the other idiots, they made me." I stopped him by lowering my own gaze to look at my feet. When he stopped talking, I very quietly said, "The only persons behaviour, that you have ANY control over, is your own. You had a choice. Next time hey?" I looked into his face for a moment longer and then moved away. This moment stuck with me for a couple of reasons. Firstly, because I knew that moment was going to make a difference to this precious being and I rejoiced that I had found the right words at the right moment in order to be able to teach him this simple truth. How amazing are our divine team!!!!!????? Yooohooo for the opportunity for us both in that moment. The second reason this moment stuck with me is because, like most messages I am asked to deliver, it also had meaning for me.
There are moments in time when I get a little caught up in recounting experiences that happen to me. I call it "venting" and tell my closest friends those moments, sometimes more than once. I remembered in this moment, with this student, that I was making a choice to empower negative experiences by dwelling on them. I inadvertently gave power to negative people and gave them permission to influence me by thinking about them and THEIR choice of action hours and sometimes even days after the event had occurred!
I choose now to breathe out all negativity, to release it from my circle of influence and leave it with the people or situations that created it. The actions of others are outside of anything I could control. However, my response and whether I give my permission for negativity to have an affect on me is certainly well within my jurisdiction...and I choose NO!
With love and light (and the choice to just let it go)
xoxoxoxoxoxoxo[image error]
Negativity is a force, a force that can influence the way we think feel and the way we see every experience around us. However, while negative (or seemingly) things may happen, and negative people may choose to come into our lives and our spaces and attempt to influence us....we have a choice as to whether we allow ourselves to be impacted beyond that first moment.
One of my beautiful, yet sometimes recalcitrant students was sitting in the office as I walked passed today. I stopped and looked at him a moment, he hung his head. I asked, "Please, please don't tell me you are here for doing the wrong thing?" He replied, "Nah, nah Miss, it's all the other idiots, they made me." I stopped him by lowering my own gaze to look at my feet. When he stopped talking, I very quietly said, "The only persons behaviour, that you have ANY control over, is your own. You had a choice. Next time hey?" I looked into his face for a moment longer and then moved away. This moment stuck with me for a couple of reasons. Firstly, because I knew that moment was going to make a difference to this precious being and I rejoiced that I had found the right words at the right moment in order to be able to teach him this simple truth. How amazing are our divine team!!!!!????? Yooohooo for the opportunity for us both in that moment. The second reason this moment stuck with me is because, like most messages I am asked to deliver, it also had meaning for me.
There are moments in time when I get a little caught up in recounting experiences that happen to me. I call it "venting" and tell my closest friends those moments, sometimes more than once. I remembered in this moment, with this student, that I was making a choice to empower negative experiences by dwelling on them. I inadvertently gave power to negative people and gave them permission to influence me by thinking about them and THEIR choice of action hours and sometimes even days after the event had occurred!
I choose now to breathe out all negativity, to release it from my circle of influence and leave it with the people or situations that created it. The actions of others are outside of anything I could control. However, my response and whether I give my permission for negativity to have an affect on me is certainly well within my jurisdiction...and I choose NO!
With love and light (and the choice to just let it go)
xoxoxoxoxoxoxo[image error]
April 16, 2012
Making comparisons
There are two really BIG things that annoy me when I am teaching. The main one, is when people (and unfortunately not always the students) make comparisons related to progress. While I know this is a part of the process, it can be (if done badly) be also a massive part of the problems.
This same thing is true when we start to compare ourselves, our progress, our journey and our success with that of others! Aside from this being an "unfair test", which in Science terms means that all the variables are not controlled or the same for each test group; it is also an exercise in futility. You CANNOT accurately compare yourself, your thoughts, your successes, your looks or anything else about the MANY parts of you with the MANY parts of someone else.
When I am demonstrating an art technique, occasionally my students will say something like, "Mine looks like crap compared to yours Miss, I'll never be as good as that." My first response is to say, "You're right, you won't be, because you just said it and will make it so." The second thing following quickly after the first is to say, "I have been drawing and making for as long as I can remember, I have studies for three years to gain an arts degree and have been teaching art for another 12 years as well as my own private practise. How on EARTH could you, with your ten years of mostly unguided practise, have the same level of skill as I do? That would make you the teacher and me the student." Not very gentle I know, but the gentle approach on this one makes the students think you are just saying their work is good because you're paid to; so, on this one, it's a boots and all lesson *smile* Teenagers are smart, they very quickly get the point which is, "It is impossible to compare our level of skill in any way that might be called remotely accurate."
The same is true of all facets of our lives. No one is completely honest, rarely will people share all of the miserable moments they have experienced. More often than not, people share their highlights. So it should be too! I would much rather focus my time and energy on the positives, and I would much rather hear the positives from others as well.
What I am trying to remind everyone of is the FACT that we are all influenced in different ways by different things every minute of every day since birth. ALL of these influences add together to make up who we are and what choices we make, therefore, there is no way we can compare these things...ever.
The only person with the right to make judgements about you, is YOU (and even then, why?????) The only person you can compare yourself with is YOU. Look at where you are now, and look back ten years and see the amazing distance you have travelled. Remember this when you next go to compare yourself with someone else...what they have achieved (or not achieved) has NOTHING to do with your own journey. You simply cannot compare.
You are you, a precious gift to the world, and the ONLY one of your kind. If for no other reason, this reason alone makes you special, treasured and successful. So, just concentrate on being you...it is enough
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxox[image error]
This same thing is true when we start to compare ourselves, our progress, our journey and our success with that of others! Aside from this being an "unfair test", which in Science terms means that all the variables are not controlled or the same for each test group; it is also an exercise in futility. You CANNOT accurately compare yourself, your thoughts, your successes, your looks or anything else about the MANY parts of you with the MANY parts of someone else.
When I am demonstrating an art technique, occasionally my students will say something like, "Mine looks like crap compared to yours Miss, I'll never be as good as that." My first response is to say, "You're right, you won't be, because you just said it and will make it so." The second thing following quickly after the first is to say, "I have been drawing and making for as long as I can remember, I have studies for three years to gain an arts degree and have been teaching art for another 12 years as well as my own private practise. How on EARTH could you, with your ten years of mostly unguided practise, have the same level of skill as I do? That would make you the teacher and me the student." Not very gentle I know, but the gentle approach on this one makes the students think you are just saying their work is good because you're paid to; so, on this one, it's a boots and all lesson *smile* Teenagers are smart, they very quickly get the point which is, "It is impossible to compare our level of skill in any way that might be called remotely accurate."
The same is true of all facets of our lives. No one is completely honest, rarely will people share all of the miserable moments they have experienced. More often than not, people share their highlights. So it should be too! I would much rather focus my time and energy on the positives, and I would much rather hear the positives from others as well.
What I am trying to remind everyone of is the FACT that we are all influenced in different ways by different things every minute of every day since birth. ALL of these influences add together to make up who we are and what choices we make, therefore, there is no way we can compare these things...ever.
The only person with the right to make judgements about you, is YOU (and even then, why?????) The only person you can compare yourself with is YOU. Look at where you are now, and look back ten years and see the amazing distance you have travelled. Remember this when you next go to compare yourself with someone else...what they have achieved (or not achieved) has NOTHING to do with your own journey. You simply cannot compare.
You are you, a precious gift to the world, and the ONLY one of your kind. If for no other reason, this reason alone makes you special, treasured and successful. So, just concentrate on being you...it is enough
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxox[image error]
April 15, 2012
Love (again)
This is not a topic I normally speak about in this context because it is so open to misinterpretation. A couple of times I have talked about love between people, and I wanted to share today some of the things I instinctively feel and have learnt and intuited along the way. It's only a 36 year old journey so far, so I am sure you will forgive me if my perception reflects this *smile*
I think that a lot of the mistakes I have made in terms of love in relation to a partner, is that I have often mistaken a duel purpose and a connection on a spiritual level for romantic love. I have also at times, thought of love as something I NEED as opposed to something I already have.
Am I making any sense yet?
Love is something we are born with, something that we possess in abundance, something we radiate from the minute we are conceived and share in utero with our mothers. Love is a part of us always! It is so much a part of our make up, it is as integral a part of us as our DNA.
As humans we feel we NEED to have "love" that we are lost and alone without a single other person to be "in love" with. This is our error I think.
I have been lonely, I have been afraid to "love" and rejected by those I love. However, I have learnt (and I am only speaking for myself here, this is such a personal topic I am sure there are many of you who will disagree) that when we embrace the love we have within us, when we are able to release the love energy from our very cells and wrap ourselves in it; then we really know love, and it doesn't matter if there is a significant other to share this with.
The brilliant part about this is, that in the ability to embrace and love ourselves, to touch the divine love that is naturally within us we have a greater capacity for love, compassion, joy and happiness. In so doing, in loving and accepting who we are, we actually reach out to others far better, we invite love into our lives in that romantic way, and we no longer "Need" love and to be loved.
Being and feeling less (for want of a better word) "needy" it is then that we find a soul mate.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxoxo[image error]
I think that a lot of the mistakes I have made in terms of love in relation to a partner, is that I have often mistaken a duel purpose and a connection on a spiritual level for romantic love. I have also at times, thought of love as something I NEED as opposed to something I already have.
Am I making any sense yet?
Love is something we are born with, something that we possess in abundance, something we radiate from the minute we are conceived and share in utero with our mothers. Love is a part of us always! It is so much a part of our make up, it is as integral a part of us as our DNA.
As humans we feel we NEED to have "love" that we are lost and alone without a single other person to be "in love" with. This is our error I think.
I have been lonely, I have been afraid to "love" and rejected by those I love. However, I have learnt (and I am only speaking for myself here, this is such a personal topic I am sure there are many of you who will disagree) that when we embrace the love we have within us, when we are able to release the love energy from our very cells and wrap ourselves in it; then we really know love, and it doesn't matter if there is a significant other to share this with.
The brilliant part about this is, that in the ability to embrace and love ourselves, to touch the divine love that is naturally within us we have a greater capacity for love, compassion, joy and happiness. In so doing, in loving and accepting who we are, we actually reach out to others far better, we invite love into our lives in that romantic way, and we no longer "Need" love and to be loved.
Being and feeling less (for want of a better word) "needy" it is then that we find a soul mate.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxoxo[image error]
April 12, 2012
Moving forward fearlessly
So, maybe after reading yesterday's post, you stopped and, in your own way, took stock of who you are and where you're going. You placed your feet firmly on the path to a future you imagine with love and joy being paramount.
Now what? *laugh*
I remembered today the first moment I knew and came to understand that the power to change my life was within me and had been all along. Sheer frustration was the result. After pushing that aside, I looked at my shiny, new self in the mirror and asked, "Now what?"
I had spent so much time just letting things happen, viewing the world through negativity and despondence that I wasn't all that sure how to be different. All I knew, is that I wanted to leave that life behind me and walk with confidence down a new road; one that I chose and one that helped me to develop towards the more divine me.
As I looked at my reflection, into my own eyes and saw the difference shedding my past and looking towards a new future had made already in such a short time. With this realisation, I knew I could move forward without fear. I knew that while I might make mistakes, I might feel despondent and alone at times, that once I had made the conscious choice to change the way I viewed the world and the way I had reacted rather than responded; well I felt far more confident.
The first thing I did was to write myself a mission statement. A small paragraph that described the person I wanted to be, and then, I moved through the world as though it was me already.
Then, I started to make a habit of stopping and listening more and spending less time in the "business of being busy".
I forgave myself and others when I or they made mistakes.
By practising these things over and over and over, I was well on the way.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxo[image error]
Now what? *laugh*
I remembered today the first moment I knew and came to understand that the power to change my life was within me and had been all along. Sheer frustration was the result. After pushing that aside, I looked at my shiny, new self in the mirror and asked, "Now what?"
I had spent so much time just letting things happen, viewing the world through negativity and despondence that I wasn't all that sure how to be different. All I knew, is that I wanted to leave that life behind me and walk with confidence down a new road; one that I chose and one that helped me to develop towards the more divine me.
As I looked at my reflection, into my own eyes and saw the difference shedding my past and looking towards a new future had made already in such a short time. With this realisation, I knew I could move forward without fear. I knew that while I might make mistakes, I might feel despondent and alone at times, that once I had made the conscious choice to change the way I viewed the world and the way I had reacted rather than responded; well I felt far more confident.
The first thing I did was to write myself a mission statement. A small paragraph that described the person I wanted to be, and then, I moved through the world as though it was me already.
Then, I started to make a habit of stopping and listening more and spending less time in the "business of being busy".
I forgave myself and others when I or they made mistakes.
By practising these things over and over and over, I was well on the way.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxo[image error]
April 11, 2012
Who are you?
There have been plenty of moments when I haven't really known where to go, what to do, the direction I'm heading or what I want from life other than Hollywood fantasies. The only thing I knew for certain in these moments is that I felt helpless, hard done by, afraid, and saddened and totally and utterly alone.
These moments...really hard!
So what do I do if I seem to be being overtaken by one of these moments? Well, there are a lot of things that have helped me to pass these moments by and to learn to head them off at the pass rather than having to walk this path for very long. The main thing, the thing that has had the ability to pull these moments up short and to halt the progress has been to ask myself the question, "Who are you?" and REALLY listen for the answer.
A life review, looking at ALL of the aspects that make up me and truly getting to know myself and accept that self has been one of the main things that have helped me to not feel and perceive the world in such a negative way.
So the practical part...how can you start a life review?
Each person is different, so I am just going to make some suggestions that have made this process easier for me and hopefully, they will work really well for you too.
Firstly I find a really quiet place where I am unlikely to be interrupted for at least half an hour; preferably for me, near running water. With me I take note paper and pen.
Closing my eyes or in some other way tuning out to the world, I ask myself the question, "Who were you?" and I start to let my mind just filter through my past, in no particular order and with no preferences or control over what will come next. If anything pops up that feels negative or fearful, I write them down on the paper. Slowly my mind will act to recall every infinitesimal moment where I felt embarrassed, afraid, humiliated, angry and all of those things. As each one pops up, it is relegated to the paper. When my brain has run out of things that make me squirm and feel uncomfortable, I take the paper I have written on and burn it with the words, "I release these moments and consign them to the wind."
This is amazingly healing and a nice little ceremony/ritual to help release those things that make you feel less than positive about you.
After releasing the past, I then ask myself the question, "Who am I in this moment?" Once again, I let my mind roam free only this time, I ask to focus on the beautiful things, the moments that have left me breathless in wonder, awe and laughter. If my brain tries to trick me, and tries to bring up anything that is not positive, I open my eyes, and then start again.
In this manner, I am retraining my brain to see the things that matter; I am basing my current reality on the things that make me laugh, give me joy and love and bring out the best in me...the divine in me.
Finally, I ask myself the question, "Who am I going to be?" Again my mind is allowed to range free...there are NO LIMITS in this exercise, my brain is NOT allowed to interrupt with thoughts such as, "Is that even possible?" "Yeah...and exactly HOW are you going to do that?" and other things like this. If it tries, I stop and start again. As each creative impulse and fantastic vision of the future emerges, I write it down. This paper is not burned, rather I keep them in a book that I look at when I feel the need for inspiration...that is where my posts all come from *smile*
I'm sure you have seen through all the little tricks I use here to lift me from feeling alone and sad and lost! I ask myself to let go of negativity, the past and all things that no longer serve my purpose. I focus my intention on things I am grateful for and the beauty around me. I give myself permission to be free and to imagine an amazing reality.
With practise, this gets easier and easier. I burn very little these days, and have notebook upon notebook of fabulously beautiful thoughts.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxo
These moments...really hard!
So what do I do if I seem to be being overtaken by one of these moments? Well, there are a lot of things that have helped me to pass these moments by and to learn to head them off at the pass rather than having to walk this path for very long. The main thing, the thing that has had the ability to pull these moments up short and to halt the progress has been to ask myself the question, "Who are you?" and REALLY listen for the answer.
A life review, looking at ALL of the aspects that make up me and truly getting to know myself and accept that self has been one of the main things that have helped me to not feel and perceive the world in such a negative way.
So the practical part...how can you start a life review?
Each person is different, so I am just going to make some suggestions that have made this process easier for me and hopefully, they will work really well for you too.
Firstly I find a really quiet place where I am unlikely to be interrupted for at least half an hour; preferably for me, near running water. With me I take note paper and pen.
Closing my eyes or in some other way tuning out to the world, I ask myself the question, "Who were you?" and I start to let my mind just filter through my past, in no particular order and with no preferences or control over what will come next. If anything pops up that feels negative or fearful, I write them down on the paper. Slowly my mind will act to recall every infinitesimal moment where I felt embarrassed, afraid, humiliated, angry and all of those things. As each one pops up, it is relegated to the paper. When my brain has run out of things that make me squirm and feel uncomfortable, I take the paper I have written on and burn it with the words, "I release these moments and consign them to the wind."
This is amazingly healing and a nice little ceremony/ritual to help release those things that make you feel less than positive about you.
After releasing the past, I then ask myself the question, "Who am I in this moment?" Once again, I let my mind roam free only this time, I ask to focus on the beautiful things, the moments that have left me breathless in wonder, awe and laughter. If my brain tries to trick me, and tries to bring up anything that is not positive, I open my eyes, and then start again.
In this manner, I am retraining my brain to see the things that matter; I am basing my current reality on the things that make me laugh, give me joy and love and bring out the best in me...the divine in me.
Finally, I ask myself the question, "Who am I going to be?" Again my mind is allowed to range free...there are NO LIMITS in this exercise, my brain is NOT allowed to interrupt with thoughts such as, "Is that even possible?" "Yeah...and exactly HOW are you going to do that?" and other things like this. If it tries, I stop and start again. As each creative impulse and fantastic vision of the future emerges, I write it down. This paper is not burned, rather I keep them in a book that I look at when I feel the need for inspiration...that is where my posts all come from *smile*
I'm sure you have seen through all the little tricks I use here to lift me from feeling alone and sad and lost! I ask myself to let go of negativity, the past and all things that no longer serve my purpose. I focus my intention on things I am grateful for and the beauty around me. I give myself permission to be free and to imagine an amazing reality.
With practise, this gets easier and easier. I burn very little these days, and have notebook upon notebook of fabulously beautiful thoughts.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxo
April 10, 2012
The power in surrendering
The most powerful gift of understanding that I have received along my chosen path is the power of surrendering the need for control over everything (or even anything). I have learnt this lesson over and over again through various methods, and each time the lesson is presented, I have found it easier and easier.
The first time I came to this understanding was when I was 18. I was at the beach and am not a confident swimmer. There was a fair amount of large powerful waves on this day, but I decided I was going swimming anyway. I dove into the waves and mistimed my dive every time so that as the wave crashed down, it hit my heals and sent me spinning end over end rather than diving safely under. Repeatedly this happened and I was getting tired. I dove again with the same result only this time, I could not seem to get my feet under me and surface. I started to panic, I couldn't breathe, was already tired and was trying to fight the awesome power of the tide. All of a sudden, I stopped fighting, I couldn't tell you exactly why (although I can make a good guess *smile* thanks team), but an amazing sense of calm enveloped me. Thoughts filtered through my head and I completely, and without fear, surrendered to the power of the waves and the universe. I thought to myself, "I will surface if I stop fighting. Eventually the waves will wash me closer to shore and I will be able to stand up." Seconds later, I felt sand under my feet and I stood and walked out of the water. Other than the lesson about knowing my limitations in the surf *grin* the power of complete surrender has stayed with me and helped me pass through some really tough times.
Other instances have been far more traumatic in the learning, however, more powerful for that too. There have been times when I have unwittingly put myself in danger by not listening to that instinct that tells you NOT to walk down the dark pathway alone, or NOT to take the exit etc. In one of these times, I was not lucky, and as I ran for my life, thinking I was going to die at the hands of some stranger, I completely surrendered to the moment. This was a time when the thought of praying was not a regular part of my life, when I rejected any form of institutionalised religion. In that moment, terrified and alone, I did not pray; I surrendered everything about the situation. I hid and surrendered once again to the thought that I was about to die, and thought, "Running will not help me, I must be calm and centred, there is nothing I can do to change this situation, I accept what is about to happen." The person pursuing me ran passed me and I was safe.
You will notice from the last two examples that I did not "giving up" I hope? There is a BIG difference between surrendering to the power of the divine and releasing the need to control a situation, and the act of "giving in". Both times, I did not want to die, both times I was helped to live and to be safe by releasing the very human need to control what was happening and in surrendering to the thought that I had done what I could and that was enough.
There are more examples I could give you, however, these are the two most powerful. It was in the act of surrendering the need to control that I found my true power.
Now, rather than worry, stress and fight against, I consciously choose to surrender the need to be in control. I choose to allow the divine, the universe and my team to guide me and to offer solutions and situations that will be of benefit to me and to the situation I am facing. This is the true power we all possess. In surrender, we grow powerful, we can stay calm, we can see clearly and we can choose our direction without fear filled with the knowledge that we are guided and protected.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxoxo
The first time I came to this understanding was when I was 18. I was at the beach and am not a confident swimmer. There was a fair amount of large powerful waves on this day, but I decided I was going swimming anyway. I dove into the waves and mistimed my dive every time so that as the wave crashed down, it hit my heals and sent me spinning end over end rather than diving safely under. Repeatedly this happened and I was getting tired. I dove again with the same result only this time, I could not seem to get my feet under me and surface. I started to panic, I couldn't breathe, was already tired and was trying to fight the awesome power of the tide. All of a sudden, I stopped fighting, I couldn't tell you exactly why (although I can make a good guess *smile* thanks team), but an amazing sense of calm enveloped me. Thoughts filtered through my head and I completely, and without fear, surrendered to the power of the waves and the universe. I thought to myself, "I will surface if I stop fighting. Eventually the waves will wash me closer to shore and I will be able to stand up." Seconds later, I felt sand under my feet and I stood and walked out of the water. Other than the lesson about knowing my limitations in the surf *grin* the power of complete surrender has stayed with me and helped me pass through some really tough times.
Other instances have been far more traumatic in the learning, however, more powerful for that too. There have been times when I have unwittingly put myself in danger by not listening to that instinct that tells you NOT to walk down the dark pathway alone, or NOT to take the exit etc. In one of these times, I was not lucky, and as I ran for my life, thinking I was going to die at the hands of some stranger, I completely surrendered to the moment. This was a time when the thought of praying was not a regular part of my life, when I rejected any form of institutionalised religion. In that moment, terrified and alone, I did not pray; I surrendered everything about the situation. I hid and surrendered once again to the thought that I was about to die, and thought, "Running will not help me, I must be calm and centred, there is nothing I can do to change this situation, I accept what is about to happen." The person pursuing me ran passed me and I was safe.
You will notice from the last two examples that I did not "giving up" I hope? There is a BIG difference between surrendering to the power of the divine and releasing the need to control a situation, and the act of "giving in". Both times, I did not want to die, both times I was helped to live and to be safe by releasing the very human need to control what was happening and in surrendering to the thought that I had done what I could and that was enough.
There are more examples I could give you, however, these are the two most powerful. It was in the act of surrendering the need to control that I found my true power.
Now, rather than worry, stress and fight against, I consciously choose to surrender the need to be in control. I choose to allow the divine, the universe and my team to guide me and to offer solutions and situations that will be of benefit to me and to the situation I am facing. This is the true power we all possess. In surrender, we grow powerful, we can stay calm, we can see clearly and we can choose our direction without fear filled with the knowledge that we are guided and protected.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxoxo
April 9, 2012
Choosing
Often on my journey I have used (and sometimes still do) tools to help me to move further on and maintain balance. Tools such as crystals, herbal teas, incense, candles and other things like this.
Rarely have I used guide books and the like to choose those things I needed at the time. I thought perhaps it was laziness or some form of deficit on my part that I just cannot make myself remember what the "meaning" or "proper use" of each of these things are. In actuality, not being bound by someone else's opinion about the "proper" use of different things, has actually left me free to use my instinct.
For each person there is an individualised set of rituals, items, prayers...whatever...that will work to help in making you feel better, move on, find balance or just be. Each path is unique to each person and there is definitely no right or wrong way to deal with anything spiritual. Most of the time now, I don't even use these things any more, in this part of my journey, I don't need "things" to help me, just the power of choice and thought combined with my team and following my instincts.
Whatever you need, whatever you feel in your heart and in your gut, you will never go wrong, never pick the wrong crystal, oil, incense, candle, book etc. when you let instinct guide you.
Feel free to look up the uses, or suggested purpose for these things if you wish, however, I suggest strongly that if you chose it, that is exactly the right tool for the job, especially if you let your heart and body decide rather than your brain, so if the "official description" does not match what you felt when you chose it, this doesn't matter, go with your choice anyway....undoubtedly you are right!
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxo
Rarely have I used guide books and the like to choose those things I needed at the time. I thought perhaps it was laziness or some form of deficit on my part that I just cannot make myself remember what the "meaning" or "proper use" of each of these things are. In actuality, not being bound by someone else's opinion about the "proper" use of different things, has actually left me free to use my instinct.
For each person there is an individualised set of rituals, items, prayers...whatever...that will work to help in making you feel better, move on, find balance or just be. Each path is unique to each person and there is definitely no right or wrong way to deal with anything spiritual. Most of the time now, I don't even use these things any more, in this part of my journey, I don't need "things" to help me, just the power of choice and thought combined with my team and following my instincts.
Whatever you need, whatever you feel in your heart and in your gut, you will never go wrong, never pick the wrong crystal, oil, incense, candle, book etc. when you let instinct guide you.
Feel free to look up the uses, or suggested purpose for these things if you wish, however, I suggest strongly that if you chose it, that is exactly the right tool for the job, especially if you let your heart and body decide rather than your brain, so if the "official description" does not match what you felt when you chose it, this doesn't matter, go with your choice anyway....undoubtedly you are right!
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxo
April 7, 2012
Lay ALL your cards on the table
There comes a moment, sometimes many moments, where you have to stop and take a bit of a life review. A moment where noting seems to make sense, a moment when your entire existence seems out of balance with everything in the world around you. A moment when you are afraid, uncertain, yet dare to have a dream in your heart, a yearning for what you "wish" could be.
When that moment comes, lay all your cards on the table, hold nothing back from yourself; look at what you have, what you desire and what the world around you can give...then reach out, move passed the fear and the worry and make that spark become a reality.
How?
Hold NOTHING back. Devote your focus, your energy and your time into the pure joy of the path you would choose for yourself and your loved ones. The people around you benefit just as much (maybe even more at times) from you being you, from you taking that moment of fer and transforming it into a magnificent reality. Hunt down your dreams, tell all to your divine team, even if (especially if) you think your dream is "impossible" and that "reality" is you cannot always get what you want *blows a raspberry to that notion*
You actually can achieve all that you imagine, you just have to remember you don't have to "earn" it....just IMAGINE it.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
When that moment comes, lay all your cards on the table, hold nothing back from yourself; look at what you have, what you desire and what the world around you can give...then reach out, move passed the fear and the worry and make that spark become a reality.
How?
Hold NOTHING back. Devote your focus, your energy and your time into the pure joy of the path you would choose for yourself and your loved ones. The people around you benefit just as much (maybe even more at times) from you being you, from you taking that moment of fer and transforming it into a magnificent reality. Hunt down your dreams, tell all to your divine team, even if (especially if) you think your dream is "impossible" and that "reality" is you cannot always get what you want *blows a raspberry to that notion*
You actually can achieve all that you imagine, you just have to remember you don't have to "earn" it....just IMAGINE it.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
Sensitivities
One thing I have noticed lately is that my body is FAR more sensitive to things and to situations. Where previously, I might have had a slight headache from eating too many foods with preservatives, now, I get a head splitting migraine. Where before I may have felt a little edgy or uncomfortable in a place where there was a lot of negative energy, now I actually feel physically sick and really need to get out of the place.
This increase in my body's sensitivities and reactions has definitely coincided with my practise at listening to and being in tune with these sensitivities.
Our bodies are finely tuned mechanisms that have developed and evolved to know precisely what we need and when. our bodies are also perfectly in tune with our environment and therefore know what we need to avoid (a bit like the fight or flight instinctive responses we have developed to help in basic survival).
Today, i received a VERY clear message from my body.
Usually, I live in a small country town, I avoid places and situations where there is bound to be built up negativity and stress energy when I can, I grow and prepare a lot of my own food and arrange my home environment to reflect the resonance and energy I find the most harmonious.
At the moment though, I am visiting my son in a major city, surrounded constantly by the energy of others, eating foods I wouldn't normally eat, sitting in traffic, shopping in HUGE shopping malls and the like. I have been here for nearly a week now...phew...I guess the impact has been building. Today I escaped the house and the children to have a little quality shopping time by myself. I thought I was going to nourish my self a little, do the things I wanted to do with no one else to be concerned about. Off I went and started to aimlessly wander amongst the shops and the tens of thousands of other people who had the same idea. I ignored the pushing, shoving and elevated stress of the other shoppers for quite some time. After about an hour (and quite frankly I am amazed I lasted this long) I started to feel pain in my tummy...a pain I have learnt to interpret as a fear and anxiety pain. I stopped for a minute in my wanderings and ducked into an alternate therapies shop for a few deep breaths, some harmonious and peaceful music and the smell of incense. Immediately I felt better. I reentered the fray only to be struck a few minutes later with nausea and light headedness. Stubbornly I decided to ignore this and go in search of a nice cup of coffee and something to eat...I was NOT giving up my "alone time" and asked my team to shield me. Shielded and refreshed , i once again moved back into the throng. Only a couple of minutes later, the same symptoms, only more severe visited me again. I heard Raphael in my ear whispering that I needed to go.
At this point, I just asked for the energy and strength to get to the car without loosing my nice coffee and cake all over the floor *blush* and this was granted. I slipped behind the wheel, deep breathing and focusing all my energy on a really strong shield, and drove away. The further away from the shops I got, the better I felt. Once I was home and was greeted with hugs from my light worker boys, all the pain, nausea and light headedness disappeared like they had never existed.
Note to self, my "alone time" needs to come at the beginning of the trip next time *laugh*
Our bodies are super sensitive and act to help protect us always. The more aware of this we become and the better we get (through practise) at recognising and listening to what our bodies are telling us, the better off we are. this is also a really good indicator that we are developing spiritually as well.
Embrace your body's sensitivities, and begin a journey to a more healthful existence on every level.
With love and light
xoxoxooxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
This increase in my body's sensitivities and reactions has definitely coincided with my practise at listening to and being in tune with these sensitivities.
Our bodies are finely tuned mechanisms that have developed and evolved to know precisely what we need and when. our bodies are also perfectly in tune with our environment and therefore know what we need to avoid (a bit like the fight or flight instinctive responses we have developed to help in basic survival).
Today, i received a VERY clear message from my body.
Usually, I live in a small country town, I avoid places and situations where there is bound to be built up negativity and stress energy when I can, I grow and prepare a lot of my own food and arrange my home environment to reflect the resonance and energy I find the most harmonious.
At the moment though, I am visiting my son in a major city, surrounded constantly by the energy of others, eating foods I wouldn't normally eat, sitting in traffic, shopping in HUGE shopping malls and the like. I have been here for nearly a week now...phew...I guess the impact has been building. Today I escaped the house and the children to have a little quality shopping time by myself. I thought I was going to nourish my self a little, do the things I wanted to do with no one else to be concerned about. Off I went and started to aimlessly wander amongst the shops and the tens of thousands of other people who had the same idea. I ignored the pushing, shoving and elevated stress of the other shoppers for quite some time. After about an hour (and quite frankly I am amazed I lasted this long) I started to feel pain in my tummy...a pain I have learnt to interpret as a fear and anxiety pain. I stopped for a minute in my wanderings and ducked into an alternate therapies shop for a few deep breaths, some harmonious and peaceful music and the smell of incense. Immediately I felt better. I reentered the fray only to be struck a few minutes later with nausea and light headedness. Stubbornly I decided to ignore this and go in search of a nice cup of coffee and something to eat...I was NOT giving up my "alone time" and asked my team to shield me. Shielded and refreshed , i once again moved back into the throng. Only a couple of minutes later, the same symptoms, only more severe visited me again. I heard Raphael in my ear whispering that I needed to go.
At this point, I just asked for the energy and strength to get to the car without loosing my nice coffee and cake all over the floor *blush* and this was granted. I slipped behind the wheel, deep breathing and focusing all my energy on a really strong shield, and drove away. The further away from the shops I got, the better I felt. Once I was home and was greeted with hugs from my light worker boys, all the pain, nausea and light headedness disappeared like they had never existed.
Note to self, my "alone time" needs to come at the beginning of the trip next time *laugh*
Our bodies are super sensitive and act to help protect us always. The more aware of this we become and the better we get (through practise) at recognising and listening to what our bodies are telling us, the better off we are. this is also a really good indicator that we are developing spiritually as well.
Embrace your body's sensitivities, and begin a journey to a more healthful existence on every level.
With love and light
xoxoxooxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
April 6, 2012
A suggested "How to"
I have written so many posts *laugh* it seems I never run out of things to say, YAY! I have forgotten and re learnt and remembered these things over and over as I write them. I see a title of a post and go, "Oh, what's that about?" and read it again as new even though I am the one who wrote it...or am I?
Most of the time, i get the direction from my divine team to sit down and start typing. I do this, type automatically what has come into my head. I then do a quick spell check, change the text to purple, then hit the "publish" link! Voila, post written.
One of the things I do myself when using this post as the tool I believe it can be, is to scroll through the names of the posts (down the right hand side of the page) and when a name jumps out at me, I click on it and read it again!
Through this message it is almost like I am reaching through time to tell myself what I need to know on a particular day or at a particular time.
So, a suggested "how to" of reading these posts is to do just as I do, read through the names and click on the ones that feel right to you. I also post a snippet of each post on my face book page as well, so it is really easy to have a glimpse at the snippet, and if it appeals to you and seems to resonate with your soul, click on the link and have a read, if not...give it a miss, dip in and take what you need, discard what you don't.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxoxo
Most of the time, i get the direction from my divine team to sit down and start typing. I do this, type automatically what has come into my head. I then do a quick spell check, change the text to purple, then hit the "publish" link! Voila, post written.
One of the things I do myself when using this post as the tool I believe it can be, is to scroll through the names of the posts (down the right hand side of the page) and when a name jumps out at me, I click on it and read it again!
Through this message it is almost like I am reaching through time to tell myself what I need to know on a particular day or at a particular time.
So, a suggested "how to" of reading these posts is to do just as I do, read through the names and click on the ones that feel right to you. I also post a snippet of each post on my face book page as well, so it is really easy to have a glimpse at the snippet, and if it appeals to you and seems to resonate with your soul, click on the link and have a read, if not...give it a miss, dip in and take what you need, discard what you don't.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxoxo
