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Exposing Predditors (Podcast)

Episode 44: Exposing Predditors (Podcast).

**Trigger Warnings** This podcast discusses sexual assault and rape.

Exposing perverts like Violentacrez (aka Michael Brutsch) and other Reddit users to post to such subreddits like CreepShots, RapingWomen, and Jailbait.

Name and shame, that’s the only way to effectively deal with predators and rapists until the laws catch up and protect citizens. It’s up to us and our communities.

Exposing Predditors (Podcast)

Download: 44_PolyamoryBlog.mp3

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-_Q

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Sweet Samhain: A New Beginning.

Today is Samhain, better known in this country as Halloween. It is the Celtic New Year, and with it today I embark on a new beginning. A few weeks will mark one year from meeting the monster who has stolen this last year from me, and a few short months after that will mark a year from the assaults. The road of recovery after rape is a long, difficult one, navigating through the arduous terrain of PTSD and the total loss of sexuality and trust, but every day I’m better.

Today, I’m asking for your support.

Write. Podcast. Create. This is all I do, and it’s out here for free. Rest assured, I couldn’t cease doing those things even if I wanted to stop. If my work has touched, helped, or entertained you, or made you feel less alone, please consider donating or consider buying one of my books. for support. This is a one-time payment. Any amount is greatly appreciated. You can find this link anytime in the right sidebar. Truly, no amount is too small to show your appreciation or just to express solidarity.

You can also choose to make a monthly $10 donation here, and you can stop this recurring payment at any time.

I have recently posted a lot about rape and the horrors of this world, and I know it must be very triggering for many followers, and sometimes it’s triggering for me to read and write these very important things, but in a strange way it keeps me fighting at times when I fear I might descend back into the darkness of despair.

As I move forward with my posting and podcasting, I truly don’t know what direction these things will take. I am currently unable to write about love and sex, about romance, as I have lost faith in the integrity of so many people, but I would like to be able to talk about something other than rape. I’m hoping to tour next year to speak with sex-positive and polyamorous groups about safer sex as well as deepening intimacy and communication skills, but I’m not yet confident I will be able to do that. I am working so hard just to feel safe again. Still, as part of this new beginning, I would like to begin writing about more positive, hopeful things, but I hope that my readers will forgive me if those blogs still lean toward these dark topics while I continue to heal. I will do my best to bring the light into the dark corners, as I’ve always done, and to focus more on the light itself. I’ve already recorded the “poly” podcasts through the end of November, but I hope to move to happier topics shortly thereafter.

Unless one has experienced the level of betrayal that rape by a loved one brings, I don’t suppose it’s something I have the talent to truly convey in words, although I have certainly tried. But I can tell you this: it changes you at a very profound and deep level, permanently. I’m as peaceful as can be expected in my lovely Northern CA lakeside hideaway, and I plan to stay here, recover, and put most of my professional efforts toward writing a novel that is a year overdue. I can still only function about half the time, but I’m no longer going to chide myself for not healing fast enough. It takes as long as it takes.

Thank you for reading, and please keep commenting. It also helps me feel less alone. xo

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Steampunk Spotlight: eSteampunk with O. M. Grey

eSteampunk, the online magazine that published my short story “Dead Mule Crossing” last week, features me in an interview this week. Special thanks to eFiction and to Mandy Brown for all her help and consideration. Here is an excerpt:

O.M. Grey is a Steampunk writer,a Podcaster, and an avid blogger. Her short story, “Dead Mule Crossing,” appears in the October issue of eSteampunk, and we had the wonderful opportunity to interview her:

What was your first published piece?

“Of Aether and Aeon” was my first short story published in Steampunk Adventures. My first piece to appear in an anthology was ”Dead Mule Crossing,” Pill Hill Press’s When The West Was Wicked. It’s always a thrill to have my work accepted to appear in a publication, whether online or in print.

Which authors do you admire and why?

My favorite authors are Kurt Vonnegut and Margaret Atwood.

Vonnegut is pure genius. His wit. His voice. His plots and characters. I’ve read virtually everything he’s written, and he continues to be an inspiration to me as a writer.

Atwood is someone introduced to me just a few years ago, and I absolutely adore her for her political voice as well as her literary voice. She writes inspired prose that’s almost poetry to my eyes. I study her construction on sentences and how she reveals plot over and over, hoping some of her brilliance will one day find its way through my pen.

What are you currently reading, and what is on your to-read list?

I’m currently reading When Things Fall Apart by Pema Chodron. Most of my reading over the past 8 months have been books such as this as well as books to help me understand with and cope with a significant loss and devastating trauma I survived near the start of 2012.

I hope to be reading more fiction again soon as my ability to focus and be productive returns. I have a long backlist of things to read, including works from my colleagues, like the sequel to Phoenix Rising, Tee Morris and Pip Ballentine’s The Janus Affair, and Lia Habel’s zombie romance, Dearly Departed.

Please read the rest of the interview at eSteampunk.

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Ending Rape Illiteracy & 50 Actual Rape Facts

The following excerpt is taken from an excellent article in The Huffington Post.

Please go there to read the article in its entirety.

50 Facts About Rape

Low estimate of the number of women , according to the Department of Justice, raped every year: 300,000
High estimate of the number of women raped, according to the CDC: 1.3 million
Percentage of rapes not reported: 54 percent
A woman’s chance of being raped in the U.S.: 1 in 5
Chances that a raped woman conceives compared to one engaging in consensual sex: at least two times as likely
Number of women in the US impregnated against their will each year in the U.S. as a result of rape: 32,000
Number of states in which rapists can sue for custody and visitation: 31
Chances that a woman’s body “shuts that whole thing down“: 0 in 3.2 billion
Rank of U.S. in the world for rape: 13th
A woman’s chance of being raped in college: 1 in 4 or 5
Chances that a Native American woman in the U.S. will be raped: 1 in 3
Percentage of women in Alaska who have suffered sexual assault: 37 percent
Number of rape kits untested by the Houston police force: 6,000-7,000 (Texas ranked second in nation for “forcible rape”)
Number of adult men accused of repeatedly gang raping 11-year-old girl in Texas: 14
Quote in the New York Times regarding the rape: “They said she dressed older than her age.”
Age of woman raped in Central Park in September, 2012: 73
Number of rape kits left untested in Detroit, listed by Forbes as one of two the most dangerous places for woman to live in the US: 11,303
U.S. state in which, in September 2012, mentally disabled rape victim was required to provide evidence of her “kicking, biting, scratching” in objection to her rape: Connecticut
State seeking to reduce childcare welfare benefits to women cannot provide proof of their pregnancy-causing rapes: Pennsylvannia
Percentage of sexual assault and rape victims under the age of 12: 15 percent
Percentage of men who have been raped: 3 percent
Percentage of rapists who are never incarcerated: 97 perent
Percentage of rapes that college students think are false claims: 50 percent
Percentage of rapes that studies find are false claims: 2-8 percent
Number of rapes reported in the military last year: 16,500
Pentagon’s estimated percentage of military assuaults not reported: 80-90 percent
Percentage of military rape victims who were gang raped/raped more than once: 14%/20%
Percentage of military rape victims that are men: 8-37 percent
Percentage of military victims who get an “involuntarily” dischargecompared to percentage of charged and accused who are discharged with honor: 90 percent involuntary to 80 percent with honor
Chances an incarcerated person is raped in the U.S.: 1 in 10
Increase in chance that LGTB prisoner is raped: 15x greater chance
Number of men raped that could be counted as legally raped before the FBI changed its definition in December of 2011: 0
Number of rapes noted in commonly used World War II statistics: 0
Number of rapes of WWII concentration camp inmates: Untallied millions
Number of rapes of German women by Russian soldiers at the end of WWII: between 1m and 2m
Number of women raped in 1990s Bosnian conflict: 60,000+
Number of women raped per hour in Congo during war: 48
Country where 12 year old was forced to participate in the rape of his mother: U.S.
Country where women are imprisoned for being raped: Afghanistan
Age of Moroccan rape victim who committed suicide after being forced to marry her rapist: 16
Worldwide number of “child brides” under the age of 18 forced to marryevery day: 25,000
Ages of girls forced to marry a 59-year-old at the Tony Alamo Christian Ministry in Arkansas: 8, 14, 15
Estimated number of people, primarily children, sexually abused by priests in the U.S. versus the number of senior Catholic officials found guilty of sexual abuse related crimes in the U.S.: 10,667 to 1
Chances that a woman in the U.S. is raped versus gets breast cancer: 2 to 1
Chances that a victim is “Emergency Raped” by a stranger versus percentage of victims who consider their rapes emergencies: 7 percent versus 100 percent
Percentage of victims of rape who report the use of a weapon: 11 percent
Prison sentences for four men found guilty of participating in gang rapes of two teenage girls in France over two years: one year, six months, suspended sentence
State where in 2012 a doctor is facing the loss of her medical license for providing an abortion to a pregnant10-year old incest rape victim: Kansas
Country where doctors (but not the rapist) were excommunicated for performing a life-saving abortion to nine-year-old incest rape victim: Brazil
Country where major party’s vice-presidential candidate wants to criminalize all abortionsincluding rape-related ones, because rape is just “another method of conception“: U.S.

Read the rest of the article at The Huffington Post.

Another excellent article in The Nation: Ending Rape Illiteracy. Yes. This. Now.

Excerpt:

To too many people, “rape” and “rape victim” are not accurate descriptors but political shorthand—the product of an overblown, politically correct interpretation of sex. As Tennessee Senator Douglas Henry said in 2008, “Rape, ladies and gentlemen, is not today what rape was. Rape, when I was learning these things, was the violation of a chaste woman, against her will, by some party not her spouse.”

If you’re married, you’ve contractually agreed to be available for sex whether or not you want to. If you’re a woman of color, you must be a liar. If you don’t have as much money as your attacker, you’re just looking for a payday. If you’re in college, you shouldn’t want to ruin your poor young rapist’s life. If you’re a sex worker, it wasn’t rape it was just “theft of services.” If you said yes at first but changed your mind, tough luck. If you’ve had sex before, you must say yes to everyone. If you were drinking you should have known better. If you were wearing a short skirt what did you expect?

The definition of who is a rape victim has been whittled down by racism, misogyny, classism and the pervasive wink-wink-nudge-nudge belief that all women really want to be forced anyway. The assumption is that women are, by default, desirous of sex unless they explicitly state otherwise. And women don’t just have to prove that we said no, but that we screamed it.

Recently the Connecticut State Supreme Court overturned a sexual assault conviction for a man who attacked a woman with severe cerebral palsy. The woman cannot communicate verbally, and according to the court’s documents, has the “intellectual functional equivalent of a 3-year-old.” Still, because of how the state defines rape in cases of physical incapacitation, the court decided that the victim was capable of “biting, kicking, scratching, screeching, groaning or gesturing,” and therefore could have communicated a lack of consent and didn’t. Basically, she didn’t fight back hard enough in order for what happened to her to be considered rape.

This is not just a problem of rhetoric or legalese. The lack of an accepted cultural definition of rape leaves room for mischaracterizations that turn back the clock on progress already made.

Read the rest of the article at The Nation.

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A Fan Letter from a Rapist

This is a brilliant piece of satire by John Scalzi, reblogged from his blog Whatever.

-_Q

WARNING: this post is going to be oh-so-very-triggery for victims of rape and sexual assault. I am not kidding.

Dear certain conservative politicians:

Hi! I’m a rapist. I’m one of those men who likes to force myself on women without their consent or desire and then batter them sexually. The details of how I do this are not particularly important at the moment — although I love when you try to make distinctions about “forcible rape” or “legitimate rape” because that gives me all sorts of wiggle room — but I will tell you one of the details about why I do it: I like to control women and, also and independently, I like to remind them how little control they have. There’s just something about making the point to a woman that her consent and her control of her own body is not relevant against the need for a man to possess that body and control it that just plain gets me off. A guy’s got needs, you know? And my need is for control. Sweet, sweet control.

So I want to take time out of my schedule to thank you for supporting my right to control a woman’s life, not just when I’m raping her, but for all the rest of her life as well.

Ah, I see by your surprised face that you at the very least claim to have no idea what I’m talking about. Well, here’s the thing. Every time you say “I oppose a woman’s right to abortion, even in cases of rape,” what you’re also saying is “I believe that a man who rapes a woman has more of a right to control a woman’s body and life than that woman does.”

Oh, look. That surprised face again. All right, then. On the chance that you’re not giving me that surprised face just for the sake of public appearances, let me explain it to you, because it’s important for me that you know just how much I appreciate everything you’re doing for me.

So, let’s say I’ve raped a woman, as I do, because it’s my thing. I’ve had my fun, reminding that woman where she stands on the whole “being able to control things about her life” thing. But wait! There’s more. Since I didn’t use a condom (maybe I’m confident I can get other people to believe it was consensual, you see, or maybe I just like it that way), one thing has led to another and I’ve gotten this woman pregnant.

READ THE REST HERE…

Also, this gem was in one of the over 600 comments. I just had to include it. Perhaps a letter like this written to my former community about how their activity enables rapists would be effective? I’m sure the rapists in my former communities who don’t look or act like rapists up until the raping starts, as well as every other community, are very, very grateful indeed for the policy to look the other way, embrace the rapist based on charm alone, and shame the victim. Very grateful. Indeed.

Hi! I’m a rapist. But I don’t even know that I am. I have no clue that what I do is rape. What I do doesn’t seem to be forcible. Nobody is kicking, nobody is screaming. In fact, they tend not to say much at all. Certainly not the word “yes,” but I always forget to notice that part. They lay there, and let me do my thing.

I’ve been told I’m entitled to any woman I want, so long as she isn’t doing everything in her power to fight me off. I learned this from your invention of “legitimate rape.” I have no understanding that she might not be able to fight me, too weak from drinking too much, or too scared to try. Maybe she’s seen how much stronger I am, how I could break in her half if she fights back. Maybe it’s happened before, and she’s learned to shut down her psyche when it happens. Whatever the reason, it just doesn’t feel “forcible” without the fight back. So I can feel good about what I’m doing. I sleep easy beside her as she tries not to wake me when she tries to leave.

Thank you for the culture that keeps her silent, keeps her from bothering me about it afterward. Thank you for punishing her whether she speaks up or stays silent, by calling her a slut, by saying I was okay to do what I did.

I always wanted to be a dad. When I find out one of my victims is pregnant, I’d be very upset to find out they’re planning to take that golden opportunity away from me by aborting. Thank you for setting up a system where I can rest easy knowing that, like the sex, she’s been bullied into motherhood as well. Maybe I can even bully her into marriage. Let’s keep this thing rolling. But it’s not forcible marriage unless I drag her kicking and screaming down the aisle. She’ll look at her growing belly that she can’t do anything about and know I’m as good as she’ll get now that she’s been damaged. After all, you’ve shamed her for thinking of being a single mom. You’ve shamed her for everything she’s done since the minute I wormed my way into her life.

The two of us, we make a great team. I couldn’t have done it without you.

Sincerely,

Yet Another Rapist

-_Q

Feel free to comment below as well as on Whatever.

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Positively Sex-Positive (Podcast)

Episode 43: Positively Sex-Positive (Podcast).

**Trigger Warnings** This podcast discusses sexual assault and rape.

Sex-Positive is a trendy term meaning, again, different things to different people, but it mostly means that sex isn’t something to be ashamed of or feel guilty about. It’s about enjoying sex. Seeing it as the beautiful, natural expression of love and desire that it is.

Unfortunately, much like the “free love” movement in the 60s, this budding sex-positive culture is being taken over by the predators who use trendy terms and conscious-sounding phrases to prey, exploit, and discard others. Usually women. The term is being used to excuse predatory behavior and perversions, like bestiality, incest, and sexual assault.

Be truly sex-positive and openly discuss how to keep yourself and your loved ones safe. Discuss how to deal with predators in your community and how to deal with sexual assault. That’s sex-positive.

Positively Sex-Positive (Podcast)

Download: 43_PolyamoryBlog.mp3

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Steampunk Spotlight: eSteampunk & “Too Fond”

Today’s spotlight shines on two horror steampunk short stories in two separate publications.

First, eFiction introduces it’s premiere Steampunk eZine, eSteampunk, full of fabulous art, articles, poetry, and stories, including my “Dead Mule Crossing,” which debuted in Pill Hill Press’s When The West Was Wicked.

Other stories in this issue include, “The Collector: A Steampunk Fable” by Meg Kingston, “The Airships of 1776″ by David Wright, “Preacher’s Story” by Jim Herbert, and “Drinking Down Death” by Jeff Young.

Second in the spotlight, the haunting gaslight romance “Too Fond,” by the lovely Leanna Renee Hieber. Read it for free on Tor.com.

I read this beautifully written Gothic Romance while enjoying a Starbucks Mocha at Disneyland’s California Park on my 12th anniversary trip. I loved it so much that I simply had to include it in today’s spotlight, typing this post out on my iPhone while waiting in lines for rides. So, please, forgive any typos or bizarre auto-corrects.

Enjoy these tragic horror stories in honor of Halloween.

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Short Fiction & Poetry (Podcast) – Hannah & Gabriel

“Hannah & Gabriel” is a Steampunk retelling of the fairy tale classic “Hansel & Gretel.” debuted in Caught in the Cogs: An Eclectic Collection and will be in an upcoming issue of The Scroll magazine.

“New York Rain,” and “Oh, That’s Right” are the poems read this week. “New York Rain” debuted in the BarNoneGroup and still remains part of their Hall of Fame. It also won the Leander Library award for best poem 2012 and  appeared in Caught in the Cogs: An Eclectic Collection. 

Short Fiction Podcast: “Hannah & Gabriel”

Download: SS_Poetry3.mp3

Most of these stories and poetry are taken from Caught in the Cogs: An Eclectic Collection. Buy your copy via Amazon or Barnes & Noble in paperback, or if you prefer eReaders, on the Kindle and Nook, and via Smashwords in various other eBook formats. Also available Author-Signed through the publisher.

-_Q

Avalon Revisited & Short Fiction Podcast

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Poly vs. Amory (Podcast)

Episode 42: Poly vs. Amory (Podcast).

**Trigger Warnings** This podcast discusses sexual assault and rape.

Welcome back, once again, to the Polyamory Podcast. It has been several months since I recorded a podcast, but I’m very happy to be back.

This installment talks about the word “polyamory” and how it is being used and misused, how some polyamorous communities perpetuate abuse and assaults by turning a blind-eye, and about the importance of investing in one relationship at a time.

Poly vs. Amory (Podcast)

Download: 42_PolyamoryBlog.mp3

Original Blog Post

-_Q

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Exposing Predditors

Sometimes when the effects of the PTSD hit again, I read websites and articles and blog posts by rape survivors or information on recovering from PTSD and RTS or on revictimization or on surviving an abusive relationship or by survivors of Narcissists or Sociopaths, just to feel like I’m not alone. Just to gain some further understanding or just as a reminder that what I’m experiencing is normal and will pass.

This past weekend, as I did that, I came across this:

Unmasking Reddit’s Violentacrez, the Biggest Troll on the Web

Michael Brutsch: Internet Troll behind Reddit’s Creepshot forum unmasked…

That’s the way it needs to be.

Outed and publicly humiliated for exploiting others and damaging lives. Just like rapists should be outed and humiliated because the justice system is failing to keep rapists off the street at a rate of 97% of rapists walking free. More on that next week on a post about “False Accusations.”

Before I continue, I want to address this “innocent until proven guilty” and “freedom of speech” defense. This is not a court of law. This is the internet. This is society. This is culture. No one is imprisoning this man for pedophilia without a trial. Furthermore, “innocent until proven guilty” is not a constitutional right. It is not in the constitution whatsoever.

This is what the 5th Amendment says: “No person shall be…deprived of life, liberty, or property, without due process of law.”

He’s not being put to death. He’s not being incarcerated. He’s not having his house taken by the government. Due process of law includes a trial. And if he goes to trial, he will be “Innocent until proven guilty,” a very cliched way of saying presumption of innocence IN A CRIMINAL TRIAL. IN A COURT OF LAW.

So, the presumption of innocence is written into US criminal law, and it comes into play ONLY in the case of an arrest and a criminal trial.

As for “freedom of speech,” this is what the constitution says:

“Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances.”

No law has been made. His freedom of speech has not been impinged. He was exercising his first amendment rights, just like the reporter who outed him was. Just like the brave and wonderful “Samantha” on Tumblr is.

Just like I am, so I’ll continue…

I wholeheartedly agree with Jezebel’s article: .

Excerpt:

A 25-year-old female Redditor has finally come up with a way to beat Reddit’s r/CreepShots posters at their own game: compile their personal information and report them to their bosses and local authorities. So far, it’s working.

One afternoon in late September, Coweta County Sheriff Investigator Jason Fetner asked Christopher Bailey, a 35-year-old substitute teacher at East Coweta High, to meet with him regarding a school theft. But when Bailey arrived, Fetner told him the real reason for their meeting: he knew that Bailey had been posting photos of his students — “Hot senior girl in one of my classes,” read one charming caption — on the subreddit r/CreepShots, some of which had been viewed thousands of times.

Most of Bailey’s CreepShots contributions were relatively “innocent” (for example, you couldn’t see the senior girl’s underwear) and therefore legal, but the content Fetner subsequently found on Bailey’s cellphone — including multiple texts and nude photos that he sent to girls as young as 16 — were not, and police are now pursuing charges. But how did Fetner know that the substitute teacher with a clean record was a secret sexual predator? Thanks to a tip from a group of anonymous Redditors who are sick of seeing the CreepShots community gleefully post teen upskirt photo after teen upskirt photo while telling the “internet morality police” to “fuck off” and stop ruining their fun.

Fetner told us that the tipster’s anonymity made it extremely difficult for him to convince a judge to sign a search warrant for Bailey — it took “several hours of arguing” before he conceded — but that he sees no real alternative for the time being. “In my personal opinion, not all speech deserves to be protected,” he said. “But until the laws in this country catch up to technology, we’re going to continue to see these types of problems. There’s nothing wrong with people looking out for this sort of thing and taking legal efforts to do something about it.”

Good for “Samantha” – I’m behind you 100%.

100% genuinely happy to out rapists and other sexual predators. 100% genuinely happy all the fucking time to do that.

Reddit administrators don’t agree. They’re furious with Gawker and blocks all links to the site after reporter Adrian Chen threatened to out Violentacrez. Hmmmm. Ironic, no? The huge outcry of what Adrian Chen did, as well as what “Samantha” is doing over at Predditors, is the EXACT SAME THING they’re trying to defend, posting and reposting information obtained from public sources, like Reddit, Tumblr, OKCupid, and Facebook.

A Reddit user named POTATO_IN_MY_ANUS (his mother must be so proud) wrote “The real reason why Violentacrez deleted his account: Adrian Chen, Gawker Media, Creepshots, PM’s and real-life doxxing.” Doxxing, for those of you who don’t know (and it’s a new term for me, too) is explained here in this Tumblr post by downlo and reblogged by my dear friend jmaheia.

And for those of you who scream about Mr. Brutsch’s (now posting under mbrutsch) “freedom of speech” and “right to privacy,” read this:

I literally got nauseous reading this. My stomach turned.

Also read the article at the top of this post where he brags about oral sex with his step-daughter.

In 2010, Violentacrez hosted a legendary “Ask Me Anything” thread”—the same Q & A feature Barack Obama took part in last month. He was asked what was the creepiest thing he’d done “IRL” and delighted readers with a tale ripped out of Penthouse letters. “That’d be a tough call,” Violentacrez wrote, “Perhaps oral sex with my 19-year-old stepdaughter.” It was completely consensual, he claimed in the post, and went on to brag about how awesome it had been in graphic detail.

This happened over ten years ago, Violentacrez claimed. When his then-wife, the girl’s mother, found out, she “got mad, then got over it,” Violentacrez wrote. He says they were married for ten more years.

“It was completely consensual.”

Says he.

He also defends himself and says he is not a pedophile, the man who not only started and/or moderated CreepShots, but also the following subreddits, several of which are now banned because of this Brutsch scandal. Good.

rapebait
chokeabitch
niggerjailbait
jewmerica
misogyny
incest
picsofdeadjailbait (yes. pictures of dead teenage girls)

He posted a “a graphic image of a partially clothed woman being brutally beaten by a large man, in “beatingwomen,” a subreddit dedicated to glorifying violence against women.” The posts in this subreddit repeatedly refer to women as whores and bitches. Some of the videos are clearly not consensual BDSM sex, but rather severe assaults and brutality.

For all this, he not only refuses to apologize, which sounds much like a predator I know, but also said, “I would stand by exactly what I’ve done.”

Another man, screen name ocbaud, outed by Tumblr’s now-sometimes -password-protected (and I can’t blame her) Predditors blog, was not only posting and commenting on such sites as CreepShots, but he posted naked pictures of his fiancé without her knowledge on a cuckold forum, asking other predator trolls to comment on what they’d do to her.

Yep. Nice guys.

Ocbaud also stands by his posts, saying that he’s been branded a sexual predator in a conversation with Whister’s Booger (these people just ooze class, don’t they?), who says the “busybody bitch needs to have her dumb ass sued.” Like Violentacrez suggested, it might be creepy, but there is a big difference between being creepy and being a sexual predator. Um. Not that big a difference, douchebag.

The term sexual predator is used pejoratively to describe a person seen as obtaining or trying to obtain sexual contact with another person in a metaphorically “predatory” manner…The term “sexual predator” is often considered distinct from “sex offender“. Many U.S. states also see these differences legally. A sexual offender is a person who has committed a sexual offense. A sexual predator is often used to refer to a person who habitually seeks out sexual situations that are deemed exploitative. (Wikipedia)

Reread Dr. Phil’s page on Sexual Predator Warning Signs as well as my blog post on Emotional and Sexual Predators.

Although many argue that with Brutsch and these other perverts are doing online is not illegal and therefore should be left alone, please let me draw your attention to the teacher Christopher Bailey, mentioned above, who posted a picture of one of his students on CreepShots. A legal picture, no panties showing, taken surreptitiously. Creepy, yes. Illegal, no. However, when confronted by the authorities about his activity, more things were uncovered, like texting naked pictures to 16-yr-old girls.

Um. Illegal. You sick fuck.

Jezebel behind predditors, who argued that:

CreepShots is a gateway drug to more dangerous hobbies. Fetishizing non-consent “indicates [that CreepShots posters] don’t view women as people, and most will not be satisfied with just that level of violation,” she said. “I want to make sure that the people around these men know what they’re doing so they can reap social, professional, or legal consequences, and possibly save women from future sexual assault. These men are dangerous.” (Source)

Such misogynistic online, albeit anonymous and “legal” activity, just as other forms of sexual abuse**, OFTEN points to better-hidden illegal activity.

Please let me remind you, dear readers, once again, that there is a far, far, far chasm between what is morally reprehensible and dangerous and damaging and abusive to what is illegal. And just as big a chasm between what is illegal and what can be proven beyond a reasonable doubt in a court of law, especially in cases of rape and sexual assault.

Please let us all also remember, that it is due to creepy, perverted bullies like these disgusting men that led to the suicide of Amanda Todd, a very high profile suicide, but she is only one of hundreds upon hundreds who take their lives because of bullying or abuse or rape.

Although CreepShots is banned, as was it’s replacement CreepyShots, a new thread called Creepshots2 is now up. Although I hope it’s taken down soon, too. But even if they do, these perverts have started creepshots.com, as ArchangelleCuntpunch pointed out.

So, yes, people, this is all protected by “freedom of speech” by law, but supposedly outing rapists isn’t. I’m starting to think that’s a misogynistic, peer-pressured, rape-culture rumor. More research and reporting to follow.

You all know quite well that I agree with The Nation article on How to Out a Rapist.

Thanks to a widespread culture of victim-blaming and rape apologism, attackers usually have it pretty cushy. Victims are still not likely to report the assault and when they do they’re very likely to be blamed for it—an awful reality that re-traumatizes the victim and paves the way for future rapes.

So making the world more uncomfortable for rapists—letting them know that there will be consequences that include public shaming—is something I’m entirely at ease with. Especially considering how often women are silenced around issues of sexual assault. Sometimes that silence is enforced through a culture that makes women afraid to come forward, but sometimes that silencing is explicit…

Preventing victims from naming their attackers—or in this case, even acknowledging the assault—sends the message that rapists’ reputations are more important than a victim’s right to speak up. Savannah Dietrich refused to be silenced. Supporting victims’ voices should be a no-brainer—whether they’re on Twitter, in a courtroom or scrawled across a bathroom wall.

Your day is coming, rapists, and I’ll be the first in line when that day comes. Not only that, I’ll tirelessly work to see that day come sooner rather than later. Watch me.

I’ll never be silent again.

As Weagleweagelde, aka Christopher Bailey, so elegantly put it in this thread, “what goes around comes around dick.” I’d post more of this disgusting man’s misogynistic comments, but I’m rather so very appalled that I’ll wrap this up for now. You can read them for yourselves in the above screenshot. Not surprisingly, the coward deleted his account.

Just like Violentacrez.

Good riddance.

Peace.

-_Q

**Sexual abuse includes using sexually disparaging terms like “carpet muncher” and “fish taco,” by the way. Misogyny like this in any form points to a very probable rapist, at worst, and sexual predator, at best.

-_Q

Okay. There’s more, added the day after I wrote the above post upon finding more information:

Other horrific Reddit threads. I honestly never knew such evil existed.

rapingwomen, where the top post reads “Oh, hell no. Change my behavior so women will feel safer? LOLOL I want them to fear getting raped at any and every second.” by drunkendonuts, who like the coward he is has deleted his profile, too. There are videos glorifying rape on this thread, as well as some videos that might be rape, not just “consensual non-consent play.” How can this be possible?
beatingtrannies
SexyAbortions
BeatingCripples
painal – supposedly “consensual non-consent,” where there is video after video after video of women being painfully anally penetrated. Supposedly consensual, but I really wonder.

All of which, including the filth that Brutsch moderated and propagated, is expressly against Reddit’s Terms & Conditions.

“You agree not to use any obscene, indecent, or offensive language or to provide to or post on or through the Website any graphics, text, photographs, images, video, audio or other material that is defamatory, abusive, bullying, harassing, racist, hateful, or violent. You agree to refrain from ethnic slurs, religious intolerance, homophobia, and personal attacks when using the Website.”

AND

“You further agree not to use any sexually suggestive language or to provide to or post on or through the Website any graphics, text, photographs, images, video, audio or other material that is sexually suggestive or appeals to a prurient interest.”

AND

“You are responsible for ensuring that any graphics, text, photographs, images, video, audio or other material you provide to or post on the Website, including without limitation in bulletin boards, forums, personal ads, chats or elsewhere, does not violate the copyright, trademark, trade secret or any other personal or proprietary rights of any third party or is provided or posted with the permission of the owner(s) of such rights.” (SOURCE)

Let’s take them down. Not only the posts, but the posting perverts as well.

Spread it around. Let people know what’s happening on here. Sign the petition.

Do something. Anything.

“The only thing necessary for evil to flourish is for good men to do nothing.” ~Edmund Burke

As horrific as all this is…as much as a lose a little more faith in humanity with each new rape story, each new predator getting away with devastating people under the umbrella of “free speech,” as much as I cry when I think of how my former community & friends betrayed me and embraced my rapist…every once in a while, something miraculous happens: I come across good people doing good things. Speaking out.

Which one are you? Rape apologist? Part of a community that protects and defends rapists and other predators?

Or are you an honorable and brave person with integrity and a sense of personal responsibility?

Stand up and be counted.

Join me, and never be silent about abuse again.

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