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Because sometimes turning it off and on again just isn’t enough.

Yes, I got to live out every author’s fantasty and smash the hell out of a stack of printers. With a baseball bat. Incredibly satisfying.

If you ever have the opportunity, I highly recommend it.

The carnage:

*Shoutout to video genius and all-around funny guy Ben Eytalis for the “turning it off/on” line. All him, but too funny to pass up.

Lucky me! I got to live out my fantasty of being the host of a national TV talk show for a day. #Bucketlist

Me.  On TV.

As most of you know, I’ve been the dating, love and relationships expert on the nationally-syndicated Daytime Show for about 10 years now, and it’s been a total blast. Everybody at the show is amazing, you’ll never meet a cooler, smarter, nicer bunch of people.

 

Guest Host-Palooza

Our fabulous Daytime co-host Jerry Pennacoli was out for several weeks after surgery, and Daytime brought in some pretty interesting co-hosts to keep the fabulous Cyndi Edwards company during his absence.

Lucky, lucky me, our terrific producer Alyssa asked me if I’d co-host the show (um, YEAH!!!!) and my lifelong dream of being Oprah Winfrey or the gorgeous, super smart, just-as-nice-in-person-as-she-is-on-TV Cyndi Edwards for a day was fulfilled.

What did that printer ever do to me?  Plenty.

Because the producers and crew are the greatest, they put together pretty much the most fun show ever.  We hypnotized a doctor. (Bye, bye arachnophobia) We had a little fashion show.  We made some shrimp lettuce wraps (note to self– do not eat messy food on TV.) We hung out with Spidey-Bolt.  And we smashed the hell out of a tower of printers and fax machines a la Office Space.  With baseball bats.  And safety glasses.

I highly recommend it if you ever have the opportunity, afterwards I felt like I’d spent the day at a spa.  I’ll admit it, I was into it. Totally into it.

My guest hosting TV intro is below if you’d like to take a peek. And I’ve posted some more pics of the day below the video.

A HUGE thanks to everybody at Daytime for making the experience so amazing. And thanks to everybody for watching

You guys are the best.

XO,

 

Should you stay friends with your ex on social media? Only if you’re a psychopath.

Are you a human hoarder? Should you stay social media friends with your ex? This is a question I get a TON from readers — not just from daters wondering what dating etiquette says about unfriending someone you’ve slept with, but often because you’re in a new relationship and you find yourself really uncomfortable about the fact that your new boyfriend or girlfriend is still getting regular social media updates (and vacation photos, and selfies) from the person they’ve supposedly moved on from.

Now, it certainly SEEMS like the grown-up thing to do. To stay friendly. After all, you did like/date/love this person (or at least make out with them) at one point. Shouldn’t you keep them around?

The answer is no.

A recent study found that if you do tend to collect your exes on social media, you’re likely to be a psychopath. Or have psychopathic/narcissistic tendencies. Why? People who stay friends or continue to follow their exes tend to exhibit the “dark triad” of personality traits. And while staying friendly with all your exes might seem like you’re just a well-adjusted guy or girl, you’re most likely doing it for some personal gain — keeping them on the string to feed your ego (narcissistic supply) or for future sexual access.

Last week on Daytime, I talked about why staying friendly with an ex on your social media is actually hurting you (it takes wayyyyy longer to get over a break-up), it makes you prone to cyber-stalking behavior, and often screws things up with your new relationship. And we’ll talk about what to do if you just can’t seem to let go.

Check out the clip below. Or you can go ahead, and just keep following your ex.

xo,

5 Hacks To Optimize Your Online Dating Profile

Originally Published on Review Weekly

What Your Date’s Favorite Ice Cream Reveals About His Personality

Can your favorite ice cream help you find true love?

 

A 20-year study by Dr. Alan Hirsch, of the Smell & Taste Treatment and Research Foundation revealed that certain personality types favor one ice cream flavor over another.  Which means one of the most unexpected places to find out if your date is your perfect match might just be the ice cream parlor.

Can Mint Chocolate Chip ever find happiness with Rocky Road? Is your plain vanilla boyfriend doomed to bore you to tears?  Read on darlings, I’ve got the scoop.

 

Vanilla : If vanilla ice cream is your favorite, you’ve got a colorful personality, but you’re also fairly dependent and needy.  You’re probably a risk-taker, and an idealist, (which sometimes translates into tough-on-yourself-and-your-relationships perfectionism, so be careful there.)  You’re most likely a very private person, but your relationships with others tend to be very close.

Vanilla’s Best Match?  Rocky road or another vanilla

Double chocolate chunk: You’re a charmer — not only lively and flirtatious, but you looooooove being the center of attention. You are very into your appearance, and why shouldn’t you be?  You put a lot of effort into looking good, especially when it comes to your clothes.  Sure, you’re a little self-absorbed, and sometimes you tend to be a bit, uh, let’s say dramatic. You get bored easily, and like to try new things.  (And often, new people.)

Double Chocolate’s Best Match?  Butter pecan or chocolate chip

Strawberries and cream: The phrase “strawberries and cream” is often used to describe things that are easy, the good life.  But whoever first popularized that turn of phrase probably didn’t actually spend time with real-life strawberries and cream lovers.  Is that your favorite? You’re likely an introvert, you’re kind of a marshmallow when it comes to high-stress situations, which means you handle stress poorly and can become overwhelmed, irritable, and extra cranky. Like the kind of cranky where you need to just sit on the couch binge-watching Netflix with just a spoon and a half-gallon of pink ice cream to soothe your nerves.

Strawberries and Cream‘s Best Match? Chocolate chip

Banana cream pie: If you love banana cream pie (uh, who doesn’t?) you’re well-adjusted, easygoing, and empathetic. You basically make the perfect spouse and parent, which makes it hard to like you — except, you know, you’re so nice and all that so everybody does anyway.

Banana Cream Pie Best Match? Vanilla, strawberries and cream, double chocolate chunk, chocolate chip, butter pecan or another banana cream pie.  Basically, pretty much everybody.

Chocolate chip: If you love chocolate chip ice cream best, you’re ambitious, highly competitive, and a real go-getter. You’re also quite the visionary. Chocolate chip lovers are generally very charming and enjoy being catered to. Because, you know, they’re visionaries.

Chocolate Chip’s Best Match:  Butter pecan or double chocolate chunk

Butter pecan: If you love butter pecan ice cream, you’re likely a principled rule-follower.   Butter pecan preference indicates a high level of intelligence, morality, and conscientiousness.  You’re a perfectionist, and while you’re highly competitive, you’re also very quick to criticize yourself.

Butter Pecan’s Best Match: Mint chocolate chip

Strawberry: Strawberry ice cream lovers are perfectly happy being followers, and enjoy working behind the scenes rather than being up front. Love strawberry ice cream? You probably also love being part of a team.

Strawberry’s Best Match: Rocky road, vanilla, mint chocolate chip or other strawberries

Coffee: Much like a double espresso, you’re lively, dramatic, and squeeze as much gusto into your life as you possibly can.  Because you’re caffeinated!  You’re seductive and flirtatious, and you might be inclined to fly off to Vegas to get hitched to someone you just had the most amazing sex of your life with.  Why wait?  Why do anything halfway? You throw yourself headfirst into everything and prefer to live in the moment rather than think about the future. Which means you might consider partnering up with someone who’s got a good 401K and an eye on retirement.  Otherwise, you’ll end up eating cat food in your golden years.

Coffee’s Best Match: Strawberry

Mint chocolate chip:  Love mint chocolate chip?  You probably believe the research behind this article is complete crap science.  After all, you’re a cynic.  (Of course, if somebody calls you that you’ll vehemently disagree — because you’re also argumentative and contrary.) The good news, you’re highly ambitious.  You’re also quite frugal, and cautious about planning for your future.

Mint Chocolate Chip’s Best Match: Other mint chocolate chips.  

Rocky road: If you’re a rocky road lover, you’re highly charming and engaging in social situations, but completely driven at work. Sure, you’ll lose your temper over life’s inconveniences (traffic, slow elevators, a long line at the ice cream parlor — or frankly, anywhere, because why are these people so freaking slow? )

Rocky Road’s Best Match: Other rocky roads

Did you find this as fascinating and dead-on-accurate as I did? Then you’ll probably enjoy the posts about what your favorite pizza topping says about your personality, and what your favorite cupcake says about you.

Wondering about me?  My favorite flavor is banana cream pie.  And my sweetie’s favorite is vanilla.

xo,

Dating After Divorce

Advice for Dating: Dating After Divorce by Lisa Daily

This week on the Daytime Show I’m talking about how to get back on the horse, following your divorce.  After all, if you’ve been married 5-10-20 years, the idea of dating again after your divorce can seem daunting.  Scary. Terrifying.  Which is why this week on the show I’m telling you everything you need to know to get back into the dating pool after a long hiatus.

Insecurity really reigns supreme for daters following divorce.  (Although maybe it shouldn’t — right now divorced women have a dating advantage.)  You’re probably a little wounded, you’re worried because your body might not be what it was twenty years ago, you have no idea where to start, or what to do in order to meet someone nice and/or have sex again before you die. (For more on that, check out 7 Unexpected Places to Meet Great Men)

Dating following divorce can be challenging, although less so if you have a bit of a roadmap.  How to Date Like a Grown-Up covers a lot of the questions I get from readers who dating again for the first time in a long time. (ie — where (and how) to meet better men, things you might be doing to make yourself a magnet for losers, how to break it to your kids, and how to face getting naked in front of someone for the first time (this is why some genius invented the dimmer switch.)

The most important thing to remember is that you’re not alone.  It might feel that way, but you have a whole lot of company.

You just need to get out there and meet them. I’m always happy to give you some pointers along the way.

 

xo,

 

 

 

Politics and Dating

DO YOUR POLITICS AFFECT YOUR DATING? Yes— and your choice of presidential candidates might actually be killing your chances of getting dates, With everyone talking about the upcoming election and no end in sight, I’ve got some interesting new studies to share on politics and your love life.

 

Online Dating Poses That Get Attention

Selfie? Check. Happy shot? Check. Left side of my face? Check. Cleavage? Sorry, buster.

 

Why do some dating profile pics get more attention than others?

A new study of more than 6000 singles by Dating Found discovered that certain poses are more likely to attract the opposite sex to your dating profile.  So, this week on the Daytime Show I’ll be telling you which poses are most likely to get you noticed.  A while back, I did a segment on the most flattering cameras for your online dating photos, you can check it out here.

For guys:

1. If you’re a guy, your best bet is to show a little pride.  Manly poses with where you’ve climbed something, or have just purchased yourself a brand new BMW, or built a whole block’s worth of shelters for the homeless with just a hammer and the sweat on your brow.  Girls dig that.

2. Your next best bet is the fun shot of you, cliff diving with your friends, or eating one of those Fred Flintstone turkey legs with a group of pals at a music festival, or snorkeling in some exotic locale.  You know, one of those shots that makes obvious that you have an awesome life.

3. The left side of your face.  Do I need to explain? No, no I don’t.

4. The happy shot is one of my personal favorites, but apparently, I’m the only one — because this shot is least favored by people who might like to date you.  Still, you’ll need to include at least one, because we like to make sure you have most of your teeth.

For ladies:

1) The happy shot, which is least popular for guys, is most popular for women.  So pick photos where you’re having fun.

2) The cleavage shot is second most popular.  Yes, shocker, who knew?  Men like breasts. Another mystery of the universe solved.

3) Next on the hit list is the fun shot, you having the time of your life doing something interesting or goofy.

4) Pictures that feature the left side of your face.  Because that’s the cutest one, obv.

xo,

What Your Date’s Favorite Cupcake Flavor Says About Him

What does your date’s favorite cupcake flavor have to do with his personality?

Quite a lot, if you ask Dr. Alan Hirsch, founder of the Smell & Taste Institute, who has been studying scents and personality for two decades. I love this guy’s research –mostly because it’s fun, and anecdotally, I’ve found it to be unbelievably accurate.  Like this study about what your favorite pizza toppings indicate about your personality and this other one about how men are attracted to the scents of cinnamon and vanilla.

This week on the Daytime Show I’m talking about what your date’s favorite cupcake flavor says about his/her personality traits. Fun fact:  both Cyndi Edwards and I are fans of carrot cake, which makes us  nurturing, sweet (so true about Cyndi!), highly empathetic, and caring towards the people we love.  Jerry Pennacoli, is a big fan of the red velvet cupcake, which would indicate that he’s elegant (hello, pocket squares!),  creative, aesthetically discerning, and loves the fine details.  My sweetie is a vanilla cupcake fan, which means he’s expressive, colorful, an idealist who’s intuitive and sweet. All of the above.  Check out the clip below to see what your favorite flavor says about you.

xo,

 

5 Weird Ways Science Can Improve Your Love Life

Love. Relationships. Science.

Science isn’t just for splitting atoms or figuring out how to start a colony on Mars, you can also use it to make your relationships happier, stronger, and last longer. This week on Daytime, I’m talking about some new scientific data empirically proven to make your love life better.

xo,