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Life lessons #1

For a long time, I’ve been thinking of how to present these teeny tiny but very valuable lessons I’ve learnt. And today this idea flashed into my mind of doing it as a separate category of posts. It was a simple thought but it brought forth clarity and a plan of action.

Today, I want to share this thought

“For every next new environment we enter, we have to clean our slate of our previous achievements and shortcomings
&
start afresh,
as we are a complete beginner inthere”

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I realised it when I reached the end of my college years.

I transitioned from school to pre-med to medical college.

In school, I was just an average student. So, whatever methods I was following gave me average results.

Later in pre-med, I joined before my tenth results were out. So, I was still an average kid and I knew that I had to change my methods to succeed. (After a month into pre-med, my tenth results came out and I turned out to be a scholar.)

Lastly, in medical college, I had two major achievements in my hat. My tenth and my pre-med entrance results. Even before I got accustomed to the college environment, I thought the same methodology that brought me success would work. But it did not happen so.

First, I should’ve washed off my triumphs and started with a clean slate. Everyone there is having a fresh start and the journey ahead would determine their methods and achievements rather than their previous ones achieved till then. I should’ve assessed the situation and made the plan.

Second, I should’ve been flexible with my plan and made changes according to the changing scenarios. The COVID pandemic should’ve changed my plans. The generational gap between my sister’s time and mine and how I could have modified her advice into my circumstances. Basically, sitting down and reflecting on where we are, what are the results of my plan and where we wanna go.

Third, being open to new methods, trying them, willing to fail a few times. Initially, when I started writing with my pen name, Clementine Julep, I didn’t have any goals because I thought I wouldn’t stand here for long. But once I became serious, I started exploring a lot of information but I wasn’t open to them. Now, in a positive light, slowly with time, my attitude started changing and I am receptive to different methods. This change also started reflecting in all areas of my life. I owe a lot to this blogging community 🩵

Thanks so much! Love

Oprah’s advice on manifestation

Oprah’s advice on manifestation

The Richest Man in Babylon book summary

I read the major takeaways myself and uploaded it on YouTube. You can check it here!

Thanks so much! Love

Babylon’s way to wealth

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You must listen to this

I have been listening to Marisa Peer’s audio affirmations on ‘I am enough’ and ‘I am lovable’ for a few weeks now.

They are so good. I could logically understand why I am enough and lovable especially having my new born niece by my side to teach me that.

Here is the link. Go, download and listen to it everyday. I feel so good about myself and you should do too.

Thanks so much! Bliss

Being married

I watched a YouTube video (click here) from the channel “Be Something Wonderful” describing the deep understanding of assumption in context to manifesting a specific person with a testimony.

Disclaimer – The following content is the beginning of an experiment and may not correspond to the exact or the right methodology of the experiment.

Personally, I am ready to get married now. And my family are on board too. So, with that assumption that I am married now, implies I shouldn’t be looking for grooms in my mind. I shouldn’t be thinking if I will be dashing this person here or the person I am talking to is the one and so on.

I am married implies that I already have my hubby with me. Since I am married, I should behave in a certain way with everyone else around me. I should maintain my distance, discourage any taunts on crush, I shouldn’t be thinking of anyone else in a mushy way…

In our culture we do not wear rings or anything for that matter to indicate that we are married. But if that person belongs to our culture but lives in a western country then they may follow it for the sake of convenience. Maybe I should imagine wearing rings

As for the person, I think I have a clear idea of how he should be. He is from the same religion as I am and practices it in a way that I can do my business and medical practice freely. He is kind, caring and gentle. He is highly educated. His work base is world wide. His family and friends are very caring, understanding and supportive. They get along well with my family and friends. He is growth oriented. He keeps increasing his income in the right ways. He is generous. He freely spends money on his family. He is wise with his money. He loves travelling across the world. He believes in empowerment of women. He loves to have a family of his own. He takes care of his health. He gives me the space that I want. Of course, we both love each other a lot !

Thanks so much! Love and bliss

Prompting my sister’s blog

My sister is a practicing obstetrician and gynaecologist in India. As of now, she is using this platform to describe her first and personal maternity experience from conception…. Delivery….and beyond, and many things in between.

She had a positive birth experience and if it is something you are looking for then check her blog.

“Musings Of Mamma” is the blog Click here!!!

Below is a glimpse of her first post.

Hello dearies! I am a brand new mamma in town. Pregnancy and childbirth were things that I had seen through the perspective of a doctor. Comforting pregnant mommas for their pregnancy woes and labour pains were part of my profession and I had wondered with awe and amusement as to how it would feel like […]

Welcome to my world

She is an unconscious competent. She has been first almost all times. Just giving a little picture you know.

The funny part is she has scheduled her posts so that it will be published at a certain time. And I have never even done it once. My posts are straight from the oven.

Thank you! Love and bliss [image error]

More update on friendship

In the interview of Simon Sinek with High performance podcast, I came to know he had quite a few friends. Like ‘true friends’.

I was surprised to know that if your friend lifts your call at 1 or 3 in the morning. and You don’t even hesitate or think twice about calling, then, that is true friendship.

Also, he mentioned that a friend does ask the hard questions. Like what is going wrong in your life even when you seem doing fine externally. Even if it means creating friction in your friendship. My stand on this point is not strong though.

Thanks so much! Love and bliss [image error]

Admiring your self

I used to feel guilty that I was not putting my 100 % into my studies. That aspect made me resent myself.

When I realised there was some difficulty for me in studying, all the memories where I put in as much effort as I can, resurfaced in my mind. I felt appreciation and admiration for myself.

All those times I was being the girl, I wanted me to be. I was a good daughter giving my best. Now, I love myself

How I guessed I have a learning disability is… Since childhood I had no idea how I’ve learned to read and write.

Whenever I tried to read, my mind wanders off somewhere. The thing is, in later classes I knew how to read, speak and write, though initially with spelling mistakes. I wasn’t doing great but I was doing fine enough. My best guess would be that I was learning from the classes and interactions in the school rather than reading texts.

So, it was not quite obvious that I had this disability. But my sister recently mentioned that in my primary school I used to write my tests and one side of the book I wrote the answer and the other side I used to leave it blank. I do not remember this incident though. My parents didn’t take it seriously because I never read at home and getting a pass mark was itself a great feat. My mom mentions many times that she has no idea how I passed the grades. To get into school, I even passed an interview I don’t know how!

I needed special attention that I’d got from tuitions especially for maths and english. And when I go to tuitions, my grades jumped from failure to outstanding performance within a short time of attending it.

I didn’t like going to tuitions and get support. Because I wanted to achieve it independently. But I loved the effortlessness it was bringing in my life.

I became one of the scholars for the first time in my 10th grade. In premed school you get special attention so it was okay. Though there were hours I’ve spent staring at one page. It was hard. But I knew somehow that I’ll make it and I did get into one of the best medical schools.

In medical school, almost all of my classmates depended on self study rather than clinicals or classes. It was not easy for me. And all of the unconscious adapting actions like special attention like tuition, classes, practical experience were not there to aid me. My performance started going down and the problem peaked in my final year.

And this devastating situation made me get to this point to know what was going wrong and grateful now that I could make sense of what was happening.

Everything is for the best. Thanks so much! Love to all

10 Signs You Are Blinded by Love from aisles of life blog by Sheri K

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10 Signs You Are Blinded by Love, Why, Disadvantages, and How to Stop

A very wise and really helpful post.