Zaid Ismail's Blog, page 16

Kill the label. Kill the stigma.

⚠ Trigger Warning ⚠ The moment we attach a label to a life experience, we focus on the label and discard the merits of the experience. We make people invisible when we deny the reality of their experience by suggesting that there is something clinically wrong with them, despite causality of their emotional upheaval being... Continue Reading →

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Bitter sweet nostalgia

Nostalgia is a beautiful thing, if we connected with the joy in those moments. Otherwise, it is torturous, as we remind ourselves of what we’ve lost, while losing the present moment along with those memories. Mindfulness of the blessing of the present moment is the only way to live a fulfilled life without courting regret. […]

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The courage to parent properly

The courage that is needed, is the courage to seek sincere, informed advisors to help us to understand why we may be struggling to connect with our children. We don’t know what we don’t know. If we try to figure life out by ourselves, we’ll only ever learn the hard way, from our own mistakes. […]

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Judge as you wish to be judged

We speak from a position of privilege when we judge the failures of others within the context of what is possible for us. Even something as simple as the resolve we have, or the choices we made to rise above a challenge, comes from a place of assuming that our emotional resilience is the same […]

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The arrogance spawned by fear

Fear causes us to fixate on our intentions, while defending the bad behaviour that such fear spawns. The fear is most often associated with what we think is under threat, or that others won’t understand. So we begin preempting what they intend towards us, or what threats they present to what we want for ourselves. […]

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The demon of self-loathing

We cannot give what we don’t have. This is a simple truth that cannot be denied. When we realise what this means for the behaviour that we display towards others, we’ll realise what it says about how we feel about ourselves. When we take ourselves for granted, we feel entitled to what others do for […]

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Own your misery

Miserable are the ones who compete with their companions, and then go searching for companionship among those that will ruin them. Self-pity and self-loathing are the marks of ingratitude that turn your greatest supporters into your greatest distractions. All because you think that they see the inadequacy and shame with which you view yourself. That’s […]

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To know…

When you take out the murder weapon and gently and lovingly caress its edges, knowing that it disembowled the most dedicated soul that breathed joy into you, after they left you for the bitterness that sullied their miserable soul. When you can still pick up that blade and treat it with tenderness, and stare emptily […]

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Woe is me…or is it?

The need to be pacified about the struggles of our life is an indication of how much or how little we believe in ourselves to rise above it. When we lose sight of our contribution towards our current state, we surrender to destiny or fate, and wait to be saved or celebrated for how strong […]

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Wow! Look at me now…

Of all the things that test our resolve, the acquisition of knowledge is the most important. It’s easy to get lost in the praise and social elevation that accompanies achievements such as professional qualifications, religious standing, or even business success. And because each of it demands a lot of personal sacrifice and discipline, the feeling […]

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