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Who defines your behaviour?

Understanding can only result from sincere interest in what someone is going through. When we try to advise without first seeking to understand, we’re judging, rather than supporting. We’re dictating, rather than uplifting. Doing for others what you would have done unto you is never more true than in that moment when you find someone […]

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Your misery is your downfall

We rarely share with the world the conversation that we have with ourselves in our head. Our internal conversations are only shared when we’ve exhausted all avenues in trying to understand why someone important to us could have had reason to treat us so badly. The harsh tones and unwarranted criticism that we try to […]

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Who cares?

How often do you indulge in self-care because you truly value yourself, versus doing it because you have no reason to believe that anyone else cares enough to do it for you? Just because we believe we’re worth it, doesn’t mean that we treat ourselves kindly out of gratitude for who we are. Self-care that […]

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Pitying yourself because of your self-pity

When we realise the impact that our self-pity has on those around us, we’ll discover that we’re part of the cycle that leads to us feeling sorry for ourselves. Focusing on what we don’t have distracts us from all the opportunities that are possible with what we do have. Similarly, focusing on who we are […]

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When gratitude becomes a transaction

When we lack gratitude for who we are but wish to feel grateful, we surround ourselves with things and people who don’t expect more from us than we expect from ourselves. To do this, we must push away those who believe that we’re capable of more. Focusing on proving your gratitude, to yourself and to […]

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Are you really passionate?

They say that there is no limit to what a man can do if he doesn’t care who gets the credit for it. Right there is the reason why most of us don’t achieve our dreams. We chase validation more than we pursue excellence. When we don’t get that validation, we give up our dreams […]

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A hard heart beats its owner

We become defined by what we have when we lack substance in who we are. We offer material comfort and chase material gains when connecting with the human, both in ourselves and in others, seems like a stretch too far. What we think of ourselves is what we surround ourselves with. The one who loves […]

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Ingratitude, the illegitimate child of self-loathing

When you judge yourself harshly, you lose sight of the good that you’re achieving. That you judge yourself at all is an indulgence in breaking yourself down, rather than lifting yourself up. That’s why those who judge themselves most, are also most dependent on others treating them well before they feel significant, even if their […]

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Your perspective may be your undoing

Internal conflict is the greatest contributor to misery. And misery or stress is felt most deeply when we’re at odds with ourselves, which affects our health because of that internal conflict. It is stress that always precedes any physical ailment that forms as a chronic illness within our body. And expectations are at the core […]

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Own your prejudice

While I can’t take credit for the poster, the message in the poster is 100% on point. If you find this offensive, I offer life coaching at very reasonable rates aimed at helping you to own your prejudices. We need to support women instead of accommodating wayward men. The same applies for boys who think […]

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