Zaid Ismail's Blog, page 11

Is it worth the effort?

Much of life is wasted exhausting yourself in claiming your rights from others. Whether you have a right to be treated a certain way or not is not going to influence the one who chooses to ignore your rights. They believe they have good reason to deny you such rights, in the same way that […]

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Afraid to hope

If fear is what shapes your view of what lies ahead, you’re focused on everything that could go wrong because of what went wrong before. That may seem like a natural response to protect ourselves from being hurt or betrayed again, but it also means that we’re focusing on everything that appears as a risk. […]

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The death of critical thinkers

Critical thinking is lost when we strive to belong at all costs. When our need for inclusion overwhelms our objectivity, we give up what we stand for in favour of what the group stands for. If that group is driven by a collective victim mindset, we’ll buy into it while finding strength in being around […]

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Knowing your place

Understanding where you fit into the strategy of the lives of your significant others will save you a lot of disappointment and even pain. More than this, understanding where you reside in the totem pole of their priorities is essential if you hope to maintain your sanity. If you are not aware of these two […]

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Getting it wrong

Life has never been simple, and only threatens to become more complicated with each day that passes. Sometimes I flirt with the idea that perhaps I was destined to struggle with so much so that I can learn the lessons that need to be learnt to share them with others. But my gut says that […]

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You are responsible for your abusive ways

This is true about abusive men and women. Not just men. “Stop complaining and just take it like a man!” “Why can’t you just be a man?” “He’s so useless. I wish my husband was like yours!” “it’s not as bad as you’re making it out to be” “You deserved it.” “If it was another […]

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What I wish I knew…

What advice would you give to your teenage self? Response to writing prompt from WordPress

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Faithfully hopeful

Abandoning hope in something good means that we are investing hope in the relief of not trying any longer. It means that we hope for ease after having struggled through the anguish and pain of trying to achieve something important, but failed. Sometimes we hope that abandoning hope might give others reason to care or […]

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What bores you?

Writing Prompt prompted by WordPress Petty social banter about people’s lives. Discussions about status and status symbols, and influencers and social trends. We’ve lost the art of being interesting, and mastered the art of how to make boring look appealing! We’re so desperate for familiarity because of our isolated lifestyles, that we feel a need […]

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Let’s exchange needs

Men complain about lack of intimacy and women complain about emotional unavailability. Sometimes, the roles are reversed, but generally, these are the two most common issues that couples face in a relationship. Problem is, neither is the problem that needs to be solved. We’re naturally more emotionally available in spaces where we feel seen or […]

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