Zaid Ismail's Blog, page 12
February 10, 2023
With whom are you competing?
Who are you really competing with in life? The only person you should be competing with is the one you were yesterday! The most common limiting belief that I encounter in others is the belief that they’re not as good as others. The way I encounter this within myself is when I question whether I’m […]
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February 7, 2023
Gratitude is not appreciation
Gratitude speaks more to our soul than any gift or trinket, or whispers of endearment. Gratitude is impossible without respect,and respect is impossible without honesty,and honesty is impossible without sincerity,and sincerity is impossible without self-respect,and self-respect is impossible without conviction,and conviction is impossible without self-worth… And so it continues until we realise that expecting gratitude […]
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February 5, 2023
Losing out on life
How does death change your perspective? Death doesn’t change it. Death defines it. In the absence of finality, we take things for granted. The moment there is no risk of loss or of an ending, we have no need for urgency or gravity in the present moment. If there is always going to be more, […]
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Who’s responsible for your joy?
Do you enjoy being held responsible for how someone else feels about themselves? When they feel good and attribute that to us, we feel good. But does it feel good when they blame us for their self-loathing, or their misery? People who willingly accept responsibility for how you feel about yourself prevent you from owning […]
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February 2, 2023
Expect to expect more
There’s a fallacy out there that it’s possible to live without expectation. Yeah, it’s a fallacy, cos it’s impossible. When you try to live without expectation, you’re defending yourself against being hurt. When you defend yourself preemptively, it means that you believe that you’re weak enough not to be able to deal with disappointment. More […]
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January 29, 2023
The right to demand your rights…
The more we emphasise our rights, the less time we spend understanding our responsibilities. The rights that others have over us is the responsibilities that we have towards them, and vice versa. The moment we focus on only one side of that equation, we become oppressors. If we focus on our rights but neglect our […]
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January 26, 2023
Telling yourself sweet little lies?
You lie to yourself most when you tell someone, “You make me feel…” No one can make you feel anything without your permission. You give your permission when you’re more focused on what you need from them to feel whole, rather than what you value about yourself. The moment you hand over the custody of […]
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January 23, 2023
Conveniently judgemental
Judgement is only ever supposed to be the first step in correcting what’s wrong. Sadly, it’s most often the only step that we take when faced with unbecoming behaviour from others. Worse still, judgement is easy to dish out about issues and incidents that are none of our business because having an opinion on something […]
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January 22, 2023
Are you abused, or an abuser?
While abuse is never to be taken lightly, if we’re not careful, we can easily become a tool of the abuser. A betrayal of trust, especially if repeated often, changes the lenses through which we view the behaviour of others. If we’re not careful, the bitterness of such betrayal wears down our tolerance or patience […]
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January 20, 2023
Are you betraying yourself?
Betrayal stings. It doesn’t always take the form of an explicit breach of trust. Most often, I believe, betrayal is felt when we put in the effort to make significant others aware of what is important to us, only to watch them repeatedly take it for granted, or treat it with disregard. Betrayal is what […]
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