Page Turner's Blog, page 57

What Nobody Ever Told Me About Recovery

They told me recovery would be hard. Harder than anything I’d ever been through. Than anything I could imagine.

But that it’d be doable, provided I took it one tiny piece at a time. That was the biggest key — not trying to contend with everything before me at the same time.

It was so easy to get overwhelmed otherwise.  » Read more

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“Maybe I’m Foolish, But You’re Worth Getting Hurt”

Trust doesn’t come easily to me. At all.

I’m not the kind of person who finds it natural to assume that nothing bad is ever going to happen to me. That I won’t lose everything I love. Suddenly. Without reason.

Some people have a mode where this is their norm. Where this is what they expect of life and other people.  » Read more

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I Woke Up & the World Was Burning

I woke up, and the world was burning. Everywhere. Everything.

And there was no way to put out all the flames. Nor a belief that I really ought to. Because some fires are therapeutic, like a fever burns out an invading virus.

And some infernos can be a long time coming.  » Read more

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I Love Friendships Where No Matter How Much Time Has Passed, You Can Just Pick Up Where You Left Off

I’ve mentioned it a few times in the past, but I’m not the friend that you call in an emergency.

Once upon a time, long ago and far away, I was tethered to my phone. I would answer it any hour of the night. I was worried about missing a single text or notification.  » Read more

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I’m Waiting for Despair to Transform Into Something Else

My father passed away six weeks ago.

The first time I typed out that sentence, I accidentally wrote, “My father passed away six years ago.” And if that isn’t telling, I don’t know what it is.

Anyway, while dealing with my own grief and of course everything else all other Americans are up against this unsettled spring (pandemic,  » Read more

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Though Not Talked About Very Much at All, Sibling Abuse Is VERY Common & VERY Damaging

“You know,” she says, “I relate to a lot of the work you’ve written on childhood abuse.”

“I’d say ‘thank you,'” I reply, “but part of me wants to say ‘I’m sorry.’ Because it’s often not a good thing, that those particular writings resonate.”

“Well, no,” she says.  » Read more

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What’s an Askhole? How Can You Avoid Being One?

I ran into a rather cute term a while back: An askhole. What’s an askhole? Well, essentially, it’s what you call a person who asks for your opinion or advice on issues — and then turns around and does the opposite of what you advised.

This is frankly a pretty handy term for me because I’ve run into this a lot.  » Read more

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There Are So Many Transitions That the Transitions Have Transitions

I’m a recovering people pleaser. There’s no getting around it. As I’ve been working on those issues for nearly a decade and have made an incredible amount of progress, some people might go so far as to call me a recovered people pleaser.

But I won’t go that far. Not yet. And probably not ever.  » Read more

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Are You Part of the Worried Well When It Comes to Relationships?

When there’s not a pandemic raging outside, a lot people who are using healthcare services are a group of folks known as the “worried well.”

The worried well are basically as they sound. They primarily are visiting the doctor because they’re concerned about their health. They don’t actually need medical treatment and they mostly are there to be reassured that whatever it is that they’re experiencing can and will resolve on its own.  » Read more

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Talk May Be Cheap, But I Like the Cheap Stuff

“Talk is cheap.”

“Actions speak louder than words.”

Yeah, yeah, yeah. I know what they say. I know what everyone says.

But me, I like that cheap stuff. I like being told I’m beautiful, interesting, funny. I love when a lover digs my mind and body — and most important,  » Read more

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