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a special edition parenting manifesto from kelly rae roberts

[image error]Meet my good friend Kelly Rae Roberts.

Kelly Rae is an artist, writer, believer in magic, and a mother to a beautiful boy named True. Her husband John also happens to be one of my favorite people. I asked Kelly Rae if she would create a special edition of the Wholehearted Parenting Manifesto from Daring Greatly and she did! 

 

The 18X24 poster is $20 and the proceeds go to our charity: water campaign. It looks beautiful framed!

For the holidays, orders received on or before 12/16 at midnight will ship out on 12/17. Orders received after 12/16 will ship on January 2, 2013.  

This is my favorite picture of me and Kelly Rae. I think it says it all. 

Read more about Kelly Rae here and don't forget to check out her amazing art! 

the gift of daring!

We've heard so many wonderful stories about folks giving Daring Greatly and Daring Greatly t-shirts for the holidays that we thought we'd help out with two fun gift cards (they're 2-sided, full color).  

For every t-shirt ordered between today and 12/15 (our last day to take orders for the holidays), we'll send you both of these gift cards and a beautiful reusable cloth bag that says "Show Up + Be Seen." The bags hold the t-shirts and a book.

You can order the books through any of these sellers. 

As always - $10 from every t-shirt purchase goes to our charity:water campaign. We're getting so close to our $15,000 goal! 

Shirts, bags, and cards will be shipped 12/12-12/15. 

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Happy Holidays and Happy Daring! 

I'm putting your name on a wand box.

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One of the highlights from our family trip to London was visiting the Warner Bros. studio where they filmed Harry Potter. I'm not sure who was more excited - me, Steve, Ellen, or Charlie? It was amazing to stand in the dining hall of Hogwarts and to knock on the door at "4 Privot Drive." 

The last room you walk through before you exit the studio is the wand room - it looks just like Ollivanders Wand Shop. There are over 4000 wand boxes, each with the name of someone who worked on the film series. It's such a lovely way to say "thank you" to everyone from the actors and the costume designers, to the special effects wizards.

As I was driving back home from carpool this morning I kept thinking, I wish I had a wand room so I could properly thank everyone I want to thank. Daring Greatly launched on 9/12, and it's been a total whirlwind. I couldn't have done it without the love, support, and encouragement of so many people - including all of you who read this blog. 

I'm grateful for my family, friends, and support team who talked me off the ledge when I couldn't do it all and I felt like giving up.

I'm thankful for the friends who covered my carpool shifts, walked my kids home from school, and sent me texts to remind me about "free dress days" and "early dismissal."

I'm thankful for my students who did their dissertation consults over the phone, for the folks who hosted all of the events and the people who showed up, the interviewers, bloggers, writers, and journalists who shared the daring message, and, of course, the folks at Gotham Publishers.

There's a special place in my heart for Steve, Ellen, and Charlie who cheered me on every step of the way - even when they were ready for things to get back to "normal." They didn't give up and they didn't let me. 

I'm also overwhelmed by your generosity! For my birthday I asked for donations to charity: water so we could build a tap in Rwanda that would bring water to a village and you donated close to $7000! Thank you! 

I have a few fun things coming up in the next two weeks including fun holiday gift cards for those of you who want to gift Daring Greatly, and a suprise artist who did her own version of the Wholehearted Parenting Manifesto. 

In the meantime, if you're a fan of Krista Tippett's wonderful radio show, On Being, we had a soulful conversation. The podcast and unedited interview is now available here.  At one point she playfully asked, "Is this an interview or a therapy session?" I've been thinking about that question. I think all good conversations are a little bit of both. 

Also - thanks to Fast Company - I just found out today that Daring Greatly is on their list of the top business books of 2012. Such an honor. 

Thanks to all of you. If I had a wand room, I'd put your name on a box. 

daring great read-along #8 (final podcast)

Marianne Williamson writes, "There is no single effort more radical in its potential for saving the world than a transformation of the way we raise our children." I couldn't agree more. 

Your questions this week focused mostly on shame resilience, setting boundaries, and the entitlement problem. These are issues I think about everyday so I loved knowing that they're on your mind too. 

Here are a few links that might be helpful:

I just recorded an interview with Koren Motekaitis on her show, "How She Really Does It!" We talked a lot about parenting - she's a great interviewer. 

Here's my blog post, "They don't need us to be sorry - just present." 

Here's a link to the parenting books that Steve and I love. 

This is the Wholehearted Parenting Manifesto free download. Stay tuned next week when I unveil the new artist version! 

If you're reading via email, click here for the podcast. 

Thank y'all again for being such great travelling companions. 

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Thank you again for the great questions!

Here are some links that you might find helpful to go along with the podcast:

Blog post on leadership for the Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation Blog "Inpatient Optimists."

An interview on Good Work with Michael Bungay Stanier

An interview about shame and work on Real Recognition Radio. 

The boundary ring! 

Here is the iTunes link if you want to subscribe to the podcast. We realize that the last two have not posted on iTunes. According to SquareSpace (my provider), it's an issue on the Apple side. We're working on it. I apologize for the hassle - it's making me crazy too. 

If you're reading via email, click here to listen to the podcast.

celebrating my birthday with charity:water

 

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Sunday is my birthday! I'll be 47 which is really strange because my in my head, my parents are perpetually 40.

I'm celebrating the big day "charity: water" style. For my birthday, I'm asking my friends and family to donate to our Daring Greatly charity: water campaign. So, if you'd like to help us raise $15,000 to fund a tap for 230 people in Rwanda, we'd love your contribution! 

Thank you for being a part of our wholehearted community. I'm so grateful. 

daring greatly read-along # 6 (and giveaway)

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First, I want to thank the men and women who serve our country. I'm grateful for your courage. To your children and your parents and your partners - I recognize your sacrifice and my family keeps you in our prayers. Thank you.

On pages 152-157 of Daring Greatly, I share what veterans have taught me about courage and vulnerability. Their lessons helped me realize how much I can do and why my politics and my beliefs about war shouldn't stop me from reaching out with compassion and connection. 

I also talk about the critically important work being done by Team Red, White and Blue (TRWB) to help vets build and reestablish connection in their communities.

If we truly want a more compassionate world, we must dare greatly and take actions that communicate to veterans or military families that they are not alone. Actions that communicate, "Your struggle is my struggle. Your trauma is my trauma. Your healing is my healing." 

Below is the audio for Chapter 5. I had so much fun reading your comments from the giveaway last week that I think we should do it again! This time I'm giving away three Daring Greatly t-shirts! Just leave a comment telling us one thing from your "joy list." I'll pick three winners at the end of the week. I always post winners at the bottom of the giveaway.

The e-mail address to send questions for the chapters 6&7 is daringgreatlyquestions(at)gmail(dot)com. 

Here is the iTunes link if you want to subscribe to the podcast. It normally takes a couple of hours for the podcast to upload to iTunes so it might be this evening. If you're reading via email, click here to listen to the podcast. 

I'll leave with this great postcard created by Allison de Ford at Felt Design Group. Calm is really helpful when you're walking into the arena. Not always possible, but helpful. 

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daring greatly read-along # 5

 

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I know this has been a very difficult time for our friends and family on the east coast. Please know that you're in our hearts and prayers. My web platform and the audio program I use were both affected by Sandy, so if there have been problems other than the delay - I'm sorry. I know we received several emails about the site being wonky last week.  

Also - here's a link to the American Red Cross if you'd like to donate to the relief efforts. They are doing an amazing job! 

Today is election day in the US which makes it the perfect day for the chapter on taking off the armor. It's also a great opportunity for a giveaway!

My friend and colleague Sonia Levine introduced me to this journal from Paper Source and I fell in love with it! Given my research on foreboding joy, I especially love this line: "I know I'll be happier as a blind fool than as a clairvoyant apocalyptic."

The journal has wonderful prompts and quotes. It's a great place to make your "joy and values list" (you'll hear about these in podcast #6 on Chapter 5).

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To win one of the three copies, leave a comment telling us how you know when you're in vulnerability. What's your red flag?

The e-mail address to send questions for the chapters 6&7 is daringgreatlyquestions(at)gmail(dot)com. The podcast for Chapter 5 will post tomorrow. It's already recorded but I can't add two podcasts to one post. 

Here is the iTunes link if you want to subscribe to the podcast. It normally takes a couple of hours for the podcast to upload to iTunes so it might be this evening. If you're reading via email, click here to listen to the podcast.

There's some question about the origin of this quote, but it doesn't change its power and importance (especially this week):

"Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle." -- Ian MacLaren

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Hi everyone! We were flooded with questions this week - thank you.  I was able to get it down to twelve major themes but the podcast is still a little longer than average (34 minutes). 

I thought it might be helpful to share an excerpt from The Gifts of Imperfection. This is a story about reaching out and finding empathy after a shame storm. It speaks to the challenge of finding someone who has earned the right to hear our story. 

Here are a few additional links: 

The 2012 TED talk on shame. 

Kristen Neff's online Self-Compassion assessment 

I was just introduced to "a show with zefrank" when my friend, Elan, sent me this link to his video on shame. Very powerful. 

Put Failure in its Place - a recent Harvard Business Review blog post about shame at work by Whitney Johnson (author of Dare, Dream, Do). 

A list of mental Health professionals trained in shame resilience work

Shame & Guilt - the best academic review of the shame and guilt literature

Shame in the Therapy Hour - an edited text of case examples and theories for mental health professionals.

The next podcast is on the vulnerability armory (Chapter 4).  The e-mail address to send questions is daringgreatlyquestions(at)gmail(dot)com. 

Here is the iTunes link if you want to subscribe to the podcast. It normally takes a couple of hours for the podcast to upload to iTunes so it might be early Monday morning.

If you're reading via email, click here to listen to the podcast. 

I'm happy to answer questions from the comments! Have a great week. 

daring greatly read-along #3

Hi everyone! Welcome to the 3rd Daring Greatly podcast. Sorry for the delay. If you were in the audience in Chicago or Minneapolis last week you'll know that I totally lost my voice. It's back (although I still sound a little Suzanne Pleshette-y at times). 

I loved your questions this week - thank you. And, just a little warning - brace yourself for a really long football analogy. I'm not sure what came over me, but it's a surprisingly easy way to talk about the "illusion of vulnerability" (and for better or worse, I'm a sports person).

Here's a link to Stuart Brown's wonderful book on play. 

Here's a link to my post on the holiday crazies: Must the show really go on?

I'll be back on Wednesday evening with the audio for Chapter 3 (Shame). The e-mail address to send questions is daringgreatlyquestions(at)gmail(dot)com. 

Here is the iTunes link if you want to subscribe to the podcast. It normally takes a couple of hours for the podcast to upload to iTunes so it might be this evening.

I'm happy to answer questions from the comments! Have a great week.