Aidan Mc Nally's Blog: Random thoughts by Aidan. , page 4
August 9, 2021
Identify. What does this mean to you?
I have heard this word used in many different ways.
IDENTIFY.
One such, identify being used to express how someone can relate to another person. Relate to them or more rather relate with them in a manner of how they felt before or how they can relate indentically in how they felt in a particular situation. One may say, "I can identify with you" or "I can identify with that".
In this context the word identify is used to bring about an understanding between two people or more of a direct expression of how one can relate with what the other is saying. They recognise the feelings that are being expressed
IDENTIFY
Some other examples or different context in how the word can be used,
Can you identify the criminal from some mug shots? A question the police may ask you following a crime. Can you see a photo and recognise a person. Again like how a person can recognise something.
In the "gender neutral" debate, a person may make clear how they wish to be recognised and make a statent of how they "identify as gender neutral".
Another may be from the LGBT community on how someone wishes to be recognised by their sexual orientation, a person might say something like this as opposed to being classified as gay or straight "I identify as bisexual" as an example of this.
There are many contexts where the word identify can be used. All of which are about recognising something or someone. Something about a person Another question that may occur when being questioned by police about how to identify a person could be "any identifying marks" these being scars or tatoos. Again a call upon us to recognise. Whether it be recognition by way of hearing something that resonates with us or by way of identifying somebody from a photo.
Or of course by recognising someone by their gender or sexual orientation.
To identify is clearly to recognise.
I have found that a clear path in our journey can be helped massively by being clear and having a clear understanding of how we recognise ourselves. How do we identify all that is happening within ourselves?
Many people that I have come across wish to go places and do great things. Take their lives to new heights.
I have found that when we use the word identify in relation to ourselves that it is no longer about any resonating factor. It then becomes solely about recognising inside of ourselves what are our strengths and our own weakness.
If we are to say that you, yes you reading this right now. If we are to say that you can recognise your own strength then indeed, you can achieve the new heights that you seek.
Once we are clear on how we identify our own stumbling blocks, once we can identify our own strong points. It is then that we can succeed.
Success is not always about money and career. Sometimes success is about helping ourselves become more of the real us and then in turn our confidence can grow.
We can achieve beyond our dreams by taking our time in the process of allowing ourselves to identify all of how we operate and function.
It may not be the easiest or the most simple thing to do, However, when we can identify who we are and how we "tick" we can then play to our stengths and then our life of success and new heights begins.
Try to identify for yourself what are your inner most secrets and why have you kept them inside for so long?
When we identify inside of ourselves the issues that have prevented us from living out our dreams. A place of beginning begins to develop. Journeys into ourselves are often joyous awakenings and very well worth the effort.
I can share with yoy some things that you may identify with easily.
There have been times that I have had so much emotional pain inside of me that I cry myself to sleep.
There have been many times that the pains in my head would not allow me to sleep.
There have been many times that I have achieved so much and then I turned away from success.
These may resonate with you and you may identify with me.
The real work begins with turning the tables on yourself and begin to identify what it is that;
Makes you cry yourself to sleep?
Hurts your mind so much to not be bale to sleep?
That prevents you from succeeding?
There are many tools to help you with your journey inside of my book Layman's Handbook in life, by Aidan Mc Nally.
The subtitle on the cover "A journey to SELF"
Succeed
Elevate
Live
Free.
S ~ E ~ L ~ F
When we identify what has been holding us back, well, let me just say that you are in for one hell of great ride to your next level. Enjoy!
IDENTIFY.
One such, identify being used to express how someone can relate to another person. Relate to them or more rather relate with them in a manner of how they felt before or how they can relate indentically in how they felt in a particular situation. One may say, "I can identify with you" or "I can identify with that".
In this context the word identify is used to bring about an understanding between two people or more of a direct expression of how one can relate with what the other is saying. They recognise the feelings that are being expressed
IDENTIFY
Some other examples or different context in how the word can be used,
Can you identify the criminal from some mug shots? A question the police may ask you following a crime. Can you see a photo and recognise a person. Again like how a person can recognise something.
In the "gender neutral" debate, a person may make clear how they wish to be recognised and make a statent of how they "identify as gender neutral".
Another may be from the LGBT community on how someone wishes to be recognised by their sexual orientation, a person might say something like this as opposed to being classified as gay or straight "I identify as bisexual" as an example of this.
There are many contexts where the word identify can be used. All of which are about recognising something or someone. Something about a person Another question that may occur when being questioned by police about how to identify a person could be "any identifying marks" these being scars or tatoos. Again a call upon us to recognise. Whether it be recognition by way of hearing something that resonates with us or by way of identifying somebody from a photo.
Or of course by recognising someone by their gender or sexual orientation.
To identify is clearly to recognise.
I have found that a clear path in our journey can be helped massively by being clear and having a clear understanding of how we recognise ourselves. How do we identify all that is happening within ourselves?
Many people that I have come across wish to go places and do great things. Take their lives to new heights.
I have found that when we use the word identify in relation to ourselves that it is no longer about any resonating factor. It then becomes solely about recognising inside of ourselves what are our strengths and our own weakness.
If we are to say that you, yes you reading this right now. If we are to say that you can recognise your own strength then indeed, you can achieve the new heights that you seek.
Once we are clear on how we identify our own stumbling blocks, once we can identify our own strong points. It is then that we can succeed.
Success is not always about money and career. Sometimes success is about helping ourselves become more of the real us and then in turn our confidence can grow.
We can achieve beyond our dreams by taking our time in the process of allowing ourselves to identify all of how we operate and function.
It may not be the easiest or the most simple thing to do, However, when we can identify who we are and how we "tick" we can then play to our stengths and then our life of success and new heights begins.
Try to identify for yourself what are your inner most secrets and why have you kept them inside for so long?
When we identify inside of ourselves the issues that have prevented us from living out our dreams. A place of beginning begins to develop. Journeys into ourselves are often joyous awakenings and very well worth the effort.
I can share with yoy some things that you may identify with easily.
There have been times that I have had so much emotional pain inside of me that I cry myself to sleep.
There have been many times that the pains in my head would not allow me to sleep.
There have been many times that I have achieved so much and then I turned away from success.
These may resonate with you and you may identify with me.
The real work begins with turning the tables on yourself and begin to identify what it is that;
Makes you cry yourself to sleep?
Hurts your mind so much to not be bale to sleep?
That prevents you from succeeding?
There are many tools to help you with your journey inside of my book Layman's Handbook in life, by Aidan Mc Nally.
The subtitle on the cover "A journey to SELF"
Succeed
Elevate
Live
Free.
S ~ E ~ L ~ F
When we identify what has been holding us back, well, let me just say that you are in for one hell of great ride to your next level. Enjoy!
July 8, 2021
Layman's Handbook in life ~ There's a chapter for that.
My finest writing project to date. Yup, I said it. As an Irish man I have a full understanding of all of our Irish sayings. The one that comes to mind ~ "self praise is no praise".
I can only convey to you the sentiments that have been expressed directly to myself by others.
Although I do believe in the importance of self in every aspect of our lives. I also encourage you to take a more simple look at self and to get serious when it comes to praising self.
Layman's Handbook is a book that is clearly subtitled "A journey to self", self then being used to spell out Succeed, Elevate, Live, Free.
Should you find yourself in a position of wishing to SUCCEED, then this is the book for you.
Perhaps you have lost sight of how to lift yourself up in life, then allow Layman's Handbook guide you on a path to ELEVATE your life to your next level.
There are times in all of our lives that we may be plodding along at a mundain pace, we may have fogotten what it is to actually be alive and living. Layman's Handbook has a chapter for that too, encouraging you to LIVE to your fullest potential.
We humans have some very sneaky methods built in to ourselves to help keep ourselves down. We imprison ourselves in our thoughts and our feelings. Layman's Handbook is your guide to freeing up your mind. Bringing you on a journey to really reach higher and go further to bring about a feeling of FREE like an eagle high above the clouds.
Yup, Layman's Handbook in life has the tools, "simple tools to change how we live".
You can find Layman's Handbook on amazon in all the different countries and it is available for kindle download or paperback order.
My finest work to date and has been recognised with a book excellence award too. How chuffed was I to receive the winner notification and the fancy sticker for the front cover of Winner, book excellence award winner.
Though this did not come as any shock to me, why? Because all the tools and formulas for success are right within the covers of Layman's Handbook.
I am that confident that I can only urge you to find out for yourself.
Get your copy today
I can only convey to you the sentiments that have been expressed directly to myself by others.
Although I do believe in the importance of self in every aspect of our lives. I also encourage you to take a more simple look at self and to get serious when it comes to praising self.
Layman's Handbook is a book that is clearly subtitled "A journey to self", self then being used to spell out Succeed, Elevate, Live, Free.
Should you find yourself in a position of wishing to SUCCEED, then this is the book for you.
Perhaps you have lost sight of how to lift yourself up in life, then allow Layman's Handbook guide you on a path to ELEVATE your life to your next level.
There are times in all of our lives that we may be plodding along at a mundain pace, we may have fogotten what it is to actually be alive and living. Layman's Handbook has a chapter for that too, encouraging you to LIVE to your fullest potential.
We humans have some very sneaky methods built in to ourselves to help keep ourselves down. We imprison ourselves in our thoughts and our feelings. Layman's Handbook is your guide to freeing up your mind. Bringing you on a journey to really reach higher and go further to bring about a feeling of FREE like an eagle high above the clouds.
Yup, Layman's Handbook in life has the tools, "simple tools to change how we live".
You can find Layman's Handbook on amazon in all the different countries and it is available for kindle download or paperback order.
My finest work to date and has been recognised with a book excellence award too. How chuffed was I to receive the winner notification and the fancy sticker for the front cover of Winner, book excellence award winner.
Though this did not come as any shock to me, why? Because all the tools and formulas for success are right within the covers of Layman's Handbook.
I am that confident that I can only urge you to find out for yourself.
Get your copy today
July 6, 2021
Is today any different? ~ Grief
Here we are in the beginning of July. Summer for everyone finally. Although the past year or more has been, oh so different, July has come again.
For those of us who know the journey of life with grief and as I usually mention, this can be a journey in life, with grief, in grief or surrounded by it, drowning in it, suffering in silence in grief and all and any other variables that you may find yourself experiencing. The unusual side of grief is that there is no "one size fits all".
What I find many times is that my own anger can creep up on me from out of nowhere, from one moment to the next any day can be "so called normal" to a then very unhappy day. For many years now I have been brought to the point of tears by seeing the smallest act of compassion, a tv advert can be overwhelmingly touching to the heart. Though allow me to divert a little to a different kind of day. A day where it is not sorrow or tears. A day where I may find myself quite angry.
Anger.
There are times when we as humans are not processing our emotions in a healthy way and sometimes we may not even be dealing with anything at all. In a life that has much grief in it like mine, sometimes we can find ourselves numb. Numb to our emotions and then quite often the outcome is that we become angry. When we do not process our feelings we can cover them up or hold on to them with such strength that we begin to feel tired all of the time. When we reach boiling point which can often be the time when we have simply run out of energy to stuff our horrible feelings any longer and BOOM! A ton of anger can be released. Although this may not be the most healthiest of options for us, there are times in grief that we may have had no other option.
Days like today though.
My feelings are in check and my emotional health is quite well. So where is the anger coming from if it is not from stuffed emotions?
Just another day in the life kind of day where the feeling of anger is it's own natural feeling. Not the covered over emotional mess of numb days. A day where I mark the anniversary of the passing of my second son Patrick.
Yup, it happens once a year each and every year ever since.
My anger of course is that I wish I never had the experience of losing you Patrick.
My anger is that I do not want this day in my life.
My anger is that of not having to dig as deep as I can inside of myself to face this day and find the energy to cope.
My anger is that I have no words to fully explain how I feel about not having you here with me.
7 years ago Patrick drowned in a swimming pool and he was 1 year and 4 months old.
Today Patrick you would be 8 years and 4 months old.
My dreams of how you would look today, would you play soccer in the summer breeze, would you speak English and Spanish fluently?
Yes these kinds of questions have no answers and the reault can be an angry moment or three.
I try to build myself up for this day each year and I always remain as open as possible to the idea or how I will only know this day and how it will be by this moment now as I sit here writing on the day of Patrick's anniversary.
I welcome the anger and all of it's energy.
7 years on and does it get any easier?
Is today any different?
Today I could lose my absolute mind and go bananas
More than likely I will take things easy and slowly and enjoy every breath.
I will remember you as I do everyday and find comfort in my memories of your beauty.
For those of you who also find these days tough, I am right there with you. You are not alone.
@TWOsonsTOOmany
For those of us who know the journey of life with grief and as I usually mention, this can be a journey in life, with grief, in grief or surrounded by it, drowning in it, suffering in silence in grief and all and any other variables that you may find yourself experiencing. The unusual side of grief is that there is no "one size fits all".
What I find many times is that my own anger can creep up on me from out of nowhere, from one moment to the next any day can be "so called normal" to a then very unhappy day. For many years now I have been brought to the point of tears by seeing the smallest act of compassion, a tv advert can be overwhelmingly touching to the heart. Though allow me to divert a little to a different kind of day. A day where it is not sorrow or tears. A day where I may find myself quite angry.
Anger.
There are times when we as humans are not processing our emotions in a healthy way and sometimes we may not even be dealing with anything at all. In a life that has much grief in it like mine, sometimes we can find ourselves numb. Numb to our emotions and then quite often the outcome is that we become angry. When we do not process our feelings we can cover them up or hold on to them with such strength that we begin to feel tired all of the time. When we reach boiling point which can often be the time when we have simply run out of energy to stuff our horrible feelings any longer and BOOM! A ton of anger can be released. Although this may not be the most healthiest of options for us, there are times in grief that we may have had no other option.
Days like today though.
My feelings are in check and my emotional health is quite well. So where is the anger coming from if it is not from stuffed emotions?
Just another day in the life kind of day where the feeling of anger is it's own natural feeling. Not the covered over emotional mess of numb days. A day where I mark the anniversary of the passing of my second son Patrick.
Yup, it happens once a year each and every year ever since.
My anger of course is that I wish I never had the experience of losing you Patrick.
My anger is that I do not want this day in my life.
My anger is that of not having to dig as deep as I can inside of myself to face this day and find the energy to cope.
My anger is that I have no words to fully explain how I feel about not having you here with me.
7 years ago Patrick drowned in a swimming pool and he was 1 year and 4 months old.
Today Patrick you would be 8 years and 4 months old.
My dreams of how you would look today, would you play soccer in the summer breeze, would you speak English and Spanish fluently?
Yes these kinds of questions have no answers and the reault can be an angry moment or three.
I try to build myself up for this day each year and I always remain as open as possible to the idea or how I will only know this day and how it will be by this moment now as I sit here writing on the day of Patrick's anniversary.
I welcome the anger and all of it's energy.
7 years on and does it get any easier?
Is today any different?
Today I could lose my absolute mind and go bananas
More than likely I will take things easy and slowly and enjoy every breath.
I will remember you as I do everyday and find comfort in my memories of your beauty.
For those of you who also find these days tough, I am right there with you. You are not alone.
@TWOsonsTOOmany
June 15, 2021
Vaccines, summer, time off, work ~ Headspin!
What an amazing summertime we are having, right?
Inundated with corona numbers and new variants. Questions can run through our mind like,
Is the vaccine safe?
Will I be protected forever?
What if I get side effects?
What if I am being used as a lab rat, a test dummy?
Will I still catch covid and be sick?
Can I go on holidays?
What if everyone does NOT get the vaccine, will it keep spreading?
What if everyone does get the vaccine and the population starts to die off?
I have no answer here in this post for all of those questions. I wish I could wave a magic wand and provide you the comfort you need on the issue of vaccines. I did get 2 shots or vaccine myself. I can confirm this. Why did I get it? The bottom, bottom line is simple. There is more than just me in my life and for other people I thought it the best thing to do for all of my immediate family.
I do believe I can make the ultimate sacrifice of self in order to make sure a clear path is available to me for international travel so that I can continue my own family relationships.
To answer the questions you might have are, yes, beyond me. I did and still do believe, if the conspiracy theories are to be proven true, then I tip my hat to the powers that be. The "they" in the greater scheme of things are much much smarter than me and so therefore I cannot sweat the issue. Hats off to the uber intelligent that could possibly concoct such a great drama.
So I got the vaccine. I definitely was not going to try and bend my head around understanding every little detail of the "play moves". I made a decision to run with it and let the chips fall where they may.
Summertime and the living is easy, right?
I know though....
Do I go back to work?
Is my productivity at home better?
Will I start splashing out on expensive coffees and lunches again? Or stick with homemade banna bread?
Will my covid anxieties keep me from my morning commute?
Again to keep things real and honest with you, I have no clue to the precise answers.
I have chosen a little path of returning to some work after quite some time. I figured that I will test the waters and see how things go. I cannot sit at home and ignore the world and life that is happening out there. For this reason I chose to dive right in and see where it takes me.
I know it is summertime and the best of the weather and things like that are here for a while, "make hay while the sun shines" they say, right?
Let's worry about all the other things, some other time.
Working from home has to have become more like loads of time off. There being no commute and the opportunities to go from work life to home life so easily has had to have helped a few of you out there.
I did hear of a study many years ago that reported on the importance of the morning commute. The concept being that a break from home life while en route to work is indeed a very healthy thing for a mind. We enjoy the commute, believe it or not. There is a preparing that happens inside of us as we travel to work. Helps to set us up right for the day, "they say".
I wonder is that the same "they" that master minded the pandemic?
Or
Are there many variants of "they" when it comes to referring to THEY?
Another bottom, bottom line perhaps.
We have one life to live. You have heard it a million times over. Have you ever took heed though? Like really give it some thought?
We can stay in a head spin and a bit of a tail spin too if we wish to allow it to be so. We actually have power within ourselves to rise up beyond pandemics and beyond anxieties. The latter being a huge key to further success.
The head spin and all the questions can stay far behind in my wake.
Covid has thought us many lessons of this concept. For those of us who have experienced a loved ones death during covid. We did not get the opportunity to have the same usual rituals to mourn our loved ones.
We have seen how fickle life really is.
We have been given a huge pause button on life and all of the many complications.
We have the power to breathe in deeply and allow our anxiety to subside. The power we possess is something we may never have known before this pandemic. Those of you reading this post right now have survived a pandemic. Thus far, at least. This has brought about achievement in itself.
You have achieved so much through this past year and a half.
All of you deserve a nice gentle hug & / or to enjoy a marmalade on toast breakfast once in a while as you dash out the door to catch a train.
When we find our head in a spin with a downpour of thoughts. A frenzy of anxieties and a day that is just simply..... Hard.
Take some time as best you can to practice a little bit of relaxation.
My simple method is to focus on our breathing and allow a little glimmer of hope in your day. By bringing about this slow down on the inside of ourselves, we can take power back from all that surrounds us.
We can begin our day again at any given time. We can use some simple breathe in and bretahe out exercises.
When we focus on how our breath fills our lungs, we begin to calm down and many of our distractions are left behind us. Yes! It all sounds so simple. Is it though?
I have overcome extreme trauma and major anxiety as a result.
What did I use to help me through?
I practiced many forms of meditation that helped me to find which method worked best for me. Simple breathing can make a huge difference nowadays.
Your own willingness to try is going to be a great beginning for you. When you are willing to give things a go, it is then that you too will find what works best for you.
You have a great power over your own life.
You have great power over your own anxiety.
You have great power over your own happiness.
All you need to do is make a decision, take a choice in how you want to be.
Relaxing a little bit can help stop a racing mind. Meditation can bring you to a great place of clarity and joy.
Try it....
Have a great week
Inundated with corona numbers and new variants. Questions can run through our mind like,
Is the vaccine safe?
Will I be protected forever?
What if I get side effects?
What if I am being used as a lab rat, a test dummy?
Will I still catch covid and be sick?
Can I go on holidays?
What if everyone does NOT get the vaccine, will it keep spreading?
What if everyone does get the vaccine and the population starts to die off?
I have no answer here in this post for all of those questions. I wish I could wave a magic wand and provide you the comfort you need on the issue of vaccines. I did get 2 shots or vaccine myself. I can confirm this. Why did I get it? The bottom, bottom line is simple. There is more than just me in my life and for other people I thought it the best thing to do for all of my immediate family.
I do believe I can make the ultimate sacrifice of self in order to make sure a clear path is available to me for international travel so that I can continue my own family relationships.
To answer the questions you might have are, yes, beyond me. I did and still do believe, if the conspiracy theories are to be proven true, then I tip my hat to the powers that be. The "they" in the greater scheme of things are much much smarter than me and so therefore I cannot sweat the issue. Hats off to the uber intelligent that could possibly concoct such a great drama.
So I got the vaccine. I definitely was not going to try and bend my head around understanding every little detail of the "play moves". I made a decision to run with it and let the chips fall where they may.
Summertime and the living is easy, right?
I know though....
Do I go back to work?
Is my productivity at home better?
Will I start splashing out on expensive coffees and lunches again? Or stick with homemade banna bread?
Will my covid anxieties keep me from my morning commute?
Again to keep things real and honest with you, I have no clue to the precise answers.
I have chosen a little path of returning to some work after quite some time. I figured that I will test the waters and see how things go. I cannot sit at home and ignore the world and life that is happening out there. For this reason I chose to dive right in and see where it takes me.
I know it is summertime and the best of the weather and things like that are here for a while, "make hay while the sun shines" they say, right?
Let's worry about all the other things, some other time.
Working from home has to have become more like loads of time off. There being no commute and the opportunities to go from work life to home life so easily has had to have helped a few of you out there.
I did hear of a study many years ago that reported on the importance of the morning commute. The concept being that a break from home life while en route to work is indeed a very healthy thing for a mind. We enjoy the commute, believe it or not. There is a preparing that happens inside of us as we travel to work. Helps to set us up right for the day, "they say".
I wonder is that the same "they" that master minded the pandemic?
Or
Are there many variants of "they" when it comes to referring to THEY?
Another bottom, bottom line perhaps.
We have one life to live. You have heard it a million times over. Have you ever took heed though? Like really give it some thought?
We can stay in a head spin and a bit of a tail spin too if we wish to allow it to be so. We actually have power within ourselves to rise up beyond pandemics and beyond anxieties. The latter being a huge key to further success.
The head spin and all the questions can stay far behind in my wake.
Covid has thought us many lessons of this concept. For those of us who have experienced a loved ones death during covid. We did not get the opportunity to have the same usual rituals to mourn our loved ones.
We have seen how fickle life really is.
We have been given a huge pause button on life and all of the many complications.
We have the power to breathe in deeply and allow our anxiety to subside. The power we possess is something we may never have known before this pandemic. Those of you reading this post right now have survived a pandemic. Thus far, at least. This has brought about achievement in itself.
You have achieved so much through this past year and a half.
All of you deserve a nice gentle hug & / or to enjoy a marmalade on toast breakfast once in a while as you dash out the door to catch a train.
When we find our head in a spin with a downpour of thoughts. A frenzy of anxieties and a day that is just simply..... Hard.
Take some time as best you can to practice a little bit of relaxation.
My simple method is to focus on our breathing and allow a little glimmer of hope in your day. By bringing about this slow down on the inside of ourselves, we can take power back from all that surrounds us.
We can begin our day again at any given time. We can use some simple breathe in and bretahe out exercises.
When we focus on how our breath fills our lungs, we begin to calm down and many of our distractions are left behind us. Yes! It all sounds so simple. Is it though?
I have overcome extreme trauma and major anxiety as a result.
What did I use to help me through?
I practiced many forms of meditation that helped me to find which method worked best for me. Simple breathing can make a huge difference nowadays.
Your own willingness to try is going to be a great beginning for you. When you are willing to give things a go, it is then that you too will find what works best for you.
You have a great power over your own life.
You have great power over your own anxiety.
You have great power over your own happiness.
All you need to do is make a decision, take a choice in how you want to be.
Relaxing a little bit can help stop a racing mind. Meditation can bring you to a great place of clarity and joy.
Try it....
Have a great week
June 3, 2021
17 & Life, memoir ~ Crossroads?
I am always writing posts and tweeting about TWO sons TOO many, fair enough as it has been my debut book ~ Memoir, that has been a huge life story.
It is only fair that I share a little insight into memoir number 2.
17 & Life, memoir. Subtitled "A major crossroads or just a simple intersection?".
It does not really matter at what age in life that you come upon a crossroads, what time in your own life you must make a decision. The question really becomes, do all of our decisions make an impact or have a huge impact on how the rest of our life will go?
I was 17 when such a decision making time occurred for me. You may have been younger or much older.
I guess and to be honest, in writing 17 & Life I wanted to ask questions. I wanted you to ask yourself questions too. 17 being a year that I found a weird one, a life changing one though too. Weird because it seemed like after the sweet sixteen year is over, there is no more childhood left for us and all the while we are not quite considered adult yet. We must be 18 to vote and drive for example, while at only 17 we are not yet permitted anything, though, we must act as if we are adult. We must make our own grown up choices and still cannot have full legal responsibility for nothing. I found it is definitely a year of twilight zone stuff. Just stuck there not being an adult yet and not being a kid anymore either.
Our decisions and choices are not always as simple as an intersection. When we stop at a red light at an intersection we have about 1 and a half minutes to decide are we going straight, turning left or right? Chances are we needed to know this before approaching the intersection so that we could get in our proper lane. If we turn left what might await us down that way? Same goes for straight ahead and if we turn right. Can we ever know what may alter the course of our lives?
17 & Life takes a look at some or these things for a teenager, as that was the year for me that some major choices and changes needed to be made. I do understand that the actual age is not as important as finding ourselves in life faced with dilemmas.
When I was 17 I had been building up to my crossroads for a few years. Paving the way, one might argue.
If you are a parent of a teenager reading this right now, I do suggest giving this memoir a read and make a decision yourself whether your own teenager may be ready for some of what were my own realities during my teenage years. Sex, drugs & alcohol among many other innocent moments. A coming of age type memoir that really was as it happened for me and how I had been preparing / prepared for adult decisions when I met my major crossroads.
17 & Life, by Aidan Mc Nally. Memoir.
You can find it on amazon in paperback and kindle format.
When you do give this book a shot, please do leave a review. A one liner or a little more are all totally fine. It is the review that counts, not whether you gave it loads of stars or little stars.
It has been classed as 5 star reading thus far and I would love for a few more of you to check it out.
Have a great weekend and thanks for keeping up to date with me.
Don't forget now.
17 & Life by Aidan Mc Nally, memoir.
It is only fair that I share a little insight into memoir number 2.
17 & Life, memoir. Subtitled "A major crossroads or just a simple intersection?".
It does not really matter at what age in life that you come upon a crossroads, what time in your own life you must make a decision. The question really becomes, do all of our decisions make an impact or have a huge impact on how the rest of our life will go?
I was 17 when such a decision making time occurred for me. You may have been younger or much older.
I guess and to be honest, in writing 17 & Life I wanted to ask questions. I wanted you to ask yourself questions too. 17 being a year that I found a weird one, a life changing one though too. Weird because it seemed like after the sweet sixteen year is over, there is no more childhood left for us and all the while we are not quite considered adult yet. We must be 18 to vote and drive for example, while at only 17 we are not yet permitted anything, though, we must act as if we are adult. We must make our own grown up choices and still cannot have full legal responsibility for nothing. I found it is definitely a year of twilight zone stuff. Just stuck there not being an adult yet and not being a kid anymore either.
Our decisions and choices are not always as simple as an intersection. When we stop at a red light at an intersection we have about 1 and a half minutes to decide are we going straight, turning left or right? Chances are we needed to know this before approaching the intersection so that we could get in our proper lane. If we turn left what might await us down that way? Same goes for straight ahead and if we turn right. Can we ever know what may alter the course of our lives?
17 & Life takes a look at some or these things for a teenager, as that was the year for me that some major choices and changes needed to be made. I do understand that the actual age is not as important as finding ourselves in life faced with dilemmas.
When I was 17 I had been building up to my crossroads for a few years. Paving the way, one might argue.
If you are a parent of a teenager reading this right now, I do suggest giving this memoir a read and make a decision yourself whether your own teenager may be ready for some of what were my own realities during my teenage years. Sex, drugs & alcohol among many other innocent moments. A coming of age type memoir that really was as it happened for me and how I had been preparing / prepared for adult decisions when I met my major crossroads.
17 & Life, by Aidan Mc Nally. Memoir.
You can find it on amazon in paperback and kindle format.
When you do give this book a shot, please do leave a review. A one liner or a little more are all totally fine. It is the review that counts, not whether you gave it loads of stars or little stars.
It has been classed as 5 star reading thus far and I would love for a few more of you to check it out.
Have a great weekend and thanks for keeping up to date with me.
Don't forget now.
17 & Life by Aidan Mc Nally, memoir.
June 1, 2021
Book birthday ~ 5 years in.
1/6/16
To many others that reads june 1st 2016. The day that TWO sons TOO many, my debut memoir was released into the world.
Wow, what a 5 years it has been.
I can proudly boast that my books have received 5 star reviews, something I never even imagined to happen when I first set out writing.
Definitely super grateful to all of you out there that have taken the time to, purchase ~ read & review my work in books.
From my debut memoir TWO sons TOO many to now 5 books written.
5 years on ~ 5 books written ~ 5 star reviews
TWO sons TOO many had to be written. I needed it and I was encouraged that there are many other people just like me that need it too.
I cannot change my life and the events that have occurred. What I can do is change how I look at them, I can change how I allow these influence my life today.
I encourage you to seek out the memoir TWO sons TOO many and have a read.
It is one of those books that will hold on to you all the way through. Many have told me that they felt like they had been at the movies after they finished and they wanted more. There have also been those who told me that they had some very big "CRY" moments through the memoir. They did however tell me they were super cool with that though as they laughed quite hard in many other places too.
My debut memoir has served as a motivational tool for some readers over the past 5 years and it is this that I continue to write for. I aspire to inspire you with my life story. When I got my first review ever and a little feedback. This is when the journey of writing and the virtuous cycle really began. I received a thank you for sharing my story, all the while I was also feeling very thankful to the person telling me thanks. A virtuous cycle in life is a beautiful place to find oneself.
Grab a copy of TWO sons TOO many today for yourself and find that appreciation for life.
Today is the day.
June 1st 2016.
A little hint of why.
June 1st is written in Ireland and UK as 1/6/16. I know states side it would be written 6/1/16.
1/6 was more significant for me though. My son Darra was born on the 16th so I wanted to use that date specifically. That way the date would have 2 sixteens in it. 1/6/16.
And that is why today is TWO sons TOO many book birthday on 1/6
Find TWO sons TOO many on amazon in paperback and ebook for kindle, ready to download right now.
Thanks for reading all of my work over the years. Thank you for all of your support to my writing.
Follow on social media @TWOsonsTOOmany insta @2sons2many
Share this post wherever you find it.
Thank you.
To many others that reads june 1st 2016. The day that TWO sons TOO many, my debut memoir was released into the world.
Wow, what a 5 years it has been.
I can proudly boast that my books have received 5 star reviews, something I never even imagined to happen when I first set out writing.
Definitely super grateful to all of you out there that have taken the time to, purchase ~ read & review my work in books.
From my debut memoir TWO sons TOO many to now 5 books written.
5 years on ~ 5 books written ~ 5 star reviews
TWO sons TOO many had to be written. I needed it and I was encouraged that there are many other people just like me that need it too.
I cannot change my life and the events that have occurred. What I can do is change how I look at them, I can change how I allow these influence my life today.
I encourage you to seek out the memoir TWO sons TOO many and have a read.
It is one of those books that will hold on to you all the way through. Many have told me that they felt like they had been at the movies after they finished and they wanted more. There have also been those who told me that they had some very big "CRY" moments through the memoir. They did however tell me they were super cool with that though as they laughed quite hard in many other places too.
My debut memoir has served as a motivational tool for some readers over the past 5 years and it is this that I continue to write for. I aspire to inspire you with my life story. When I got my first review ever and a little feedback. This is when the journey of writing and the virtuous cycle really began. I received a thank you for sharing my story, all the while I was also feeling very thankful to the person telling me thanks. A virtuous cycle in life is a beautiful place to find oneself.
Grab a copy of TWO sons TOO many today for yourself and find that appreciation for life.
Today is the day.
June 1st 2016.
A little hint of why.
June 1st is written in Ireland and UK as 1/6/16. I know states side it would be written 6/1/16.
1/6 was more significant for me though. My son Darra was born on the 16th so I wanted to use that date specifically. That way the date would have 2 sixteens in it. 1/6/16.
And that is why today is TWO sons TOO many book birthday on 1/6
Find TWO sons TOO many on amazon in paperback and ebook for kindle, ready to download right now.
Thanks for reading all of my work over the years. Thank you for all of your support to my writing.
Follow on social media @TWOsonsTOOmany insta @2sons2many
Share this post wherever you find it.
Thank you.
May 30, 2021
June is coming ~ beach days?
Here it is finally, some summer.
In Ireland we have experienced a soft type winter and nothing but crappy days since. Now finally as May is coming to an end, we have received our first taste of summer weather. Yippppeeee!
I am fully aware that the corona virus lockdown has taken it's toll on many people. Here in Ireland we have endured 14 months plus of lockdown nonsense, though the end is not totally here yet, there have been some lifting of restrictions in the month of May and there are to be more in June and July.
The "new normal" will take a while to fully establish itself. As with the nice weather this weekend, we are seeing many people very happy. It is almost like the opportunity for people to let out that big gasp, "we made it". Being able to party and drink beers on a sunny beach for all who have been eagerly awaiting an opening to get mixing with a few friends.
I am the first to admit of how nice it is to see people letting their guard down a little and see happy smiley faces. A great combo, people on the beaches, music in the air and laughter and crowd noise.
Is it a little too early?
Will there be a new variant this week called the beach variant"?
Who knows, right?
Lets just hope that nice warm beach weather can continue for the whole of the island of Ireland. No body will need to worry about going to Spain for the summer holiday. A ton of coastline to be explored on our very own island.
Staycation or not. Ireland in the sun is one of the most beautiful places I have ever been.
If you would like some beach reading this summer, come on over to www.amcnallyauthor.com
There is plenty to browse and links to all 4 of my books.
Great beach reading. By the way be careful of TWO sons TOO many. This was my first ever book, my memoir. I say be careful because you may get sucked all the way in and end up not realising the time. This little book of mine has been known to cause sun burn. Imagine, my book gripped someone that much that they only stopped because the light was fading and they then knew they had been on the beach for 10 straight hours.
Stay safe,
Stay corona free.
Enjoy your beach time as responsibly as you can.
And of course, enjoy my books😊
In Ireland we have experienced a soft type winter and nothing but crappy days since. Now finally as May is coming to an end, we have received our first taste of summer weather. Yippppeeee!
I am fully aware that the corona virus lockdown has taken it's toll on many people. Here in Ireland we have endured 14 months plus of lockdown nonsense, though the end is not totally here yet, there have been some lifting of restrictions in the month of May and there are to be more in June and July.
The "new normal" will take a while to fully establish itself. As with the nice weather this weekend, we are seeing many people very happy. It is almost like the opportunity for people to let out that big gasp, "we made it". Being able to party and drink beers on a sunny beach for all who have been eagerly awaiting an opening to get mixing with a few friends.
I am the first to admit of how nice it is to see people letting their guard down a little and see happy smiley faces. A great combo, people on the beaches, music in the air and laughter and crowd noise.
Is it a little too early?
Will there be a new variant this week called the beach variant"?
Who knows, right?
Lets just hope that nice warm beach weather can continue for the whole of the island of Ireland. No body will need to worry about going to Spain for the summer holiday. A ton of coastline to be explored on our very own island.
Staycation or not. Ireland in the sun is one of the most beautiful places I have ever been.
If you would like some beach reading this summer, come on over to www.amcnallyauthor.com
There is plenty to browse and links to all 4 of my books.
Great beach reading. By the way be careful of TWO sons TOO many. This was my first ever book, my memoir. I say be careful because you may get sucked all the way in and end up not realising the time. This little book of mine has been known to cause sun burn. Imagine, my book gripped someone that much that they only stopped because the light was fading and they then knew they had been on the beach for 10 straight hours.
Stay safe,
Stay corona free.
Enjoy your beach time as responsibly as you can.
And of course, enjoy my books😊
April 17, 2021
Corona Virus saga ~ Health Care & YOU
Holy Mary mother of God!
If I had of used part 1, part 2 type thing to write and talk about corona virus, we might be at part 439 by now.
Though the virus talk has changed from way back in Febraury 2020 to now April 2021. A quick recap, we went from how the virus might be spreading to what materials it can live on like, 3 minutes on cold steel to 20 hours on plastic not in direct sunlight and things like, UV rays can kill it and it is airborne. All the way to now in this year of how the virus talk is more about vaccine and the dangers of or the percentage chance one particular age group may have Vs another.
The same virus talk though has slightly changed to be more about the reopening of business and the vaccinations and remedies.
Funny thing about it, nobody has a clue of it's spread features and everyone has been pumped with a serious dose of fear for more than 12 months.
. "Corona Virus ~ don't do this, don't do that or you will DIE"
What an absolute crock of horseshit tbh. How any government or country's official organisations believe that dishing out scare tactics and putting fear into people by broadcasting daily death figures for 13 full months, how this is supposed to benefit or help imporve people's health in anyway?
I became "unhealthy" or perhaps we could say "ill" in my own life prior to corona virus or any or this nonsense. I have attributed my illness/condition to be directly associated with or as a result of my own personal traumas experienced. For these reasons I have had time to reflect on my own lifestyle choices and things like diet and exercise. I admit right here that I am a smoker and this nicotine addiction has been my best friend and comfort in times of stress and strain and so my own psychological addiction to cigarettes sometimes feels like a much greater reason to continue than quit.
I could make a big long list of all the drugs I have used and abused though the simplest is to tell you, I did em and I quit em. Let's call it giving up drug addiction.
Alcohol has been quite a similar path in my life, basically choose not to anymore. I could be labeled a "non drinker" for want of a better term.
I mention those things as a way of shedding some light on the path of addictions and quiting stuff like these and how I have found that smoking is definitely a diffetent animal indeed. Though perhaps the most damaging of them all. Who is to say that if I didnt give up using drugs that I would have died much younger or not? I have been told my illness/condition is a direct result of using drugs and consuming alcohol in my younger years. I think that is crock of shit too by the way, I believe and it is fair to say "have a firm belief" that it is a direct result of trauma.
The point being that I have spent a number of years developing myself to be as emotionally healthy as I could be. It has been important to me in my life to reset my own life. It has been flaunted around the place that the corona virus is fake and is nothing more than the "great big reset" of our time. I as one person of the world who has had the pleasure of adapting to a "great big reset" of my own find it hard to understand or believe that the corona virus, covid-19 has anything to do with a reset of any kind. My own experience in the pains and level of difficulty involved in bringing about a reset in oneself are far greater than anything that we have seen from corona virus.
Our ability to reset ourselves is amazing really. In my own journey to myself I have found along the way connections between things like "Mental health", "Emotional well being" & "Physical health". Which bringd about more "conspiracy" type thinking in the area of corona virus. Not quite in the way you may think though.
The connections being that through lockdown and the removing of social gatherings coupled with an onslaught of daily numbers that tell you how many people have died. The world has rapidly become a sad place, a mundain place, a morbid place, a depressed place, a stir crazy place, an anxious place, an overwhelming place, a paranoid place, a suspicious place.
Yes all or this has been brought about by what you have been fed since the corona virus first came about in the end of 2019 and beginning of 2020.
The world has been a crazy place and a place of all that I mentioned above for many years before. The chances are very probable that you just never bought into any of the sadness or the madness before and covid-19 has brought about this weird reactionary opinionated thinking for many. Basically feeding you with enough nonsense and negativity to bring your entire system down physically, emotionally & mentally.
The trifecta, which are 3 key components of being ill, unhealthy or sick.
I have found some great remedies to reset myself after my own addictions, I was able to find some great remedies to reset myself after enormous trauma. I have found great remedies to nurture and nourish my own feelings and emotional well-being. I have found great remedies to calm my mind and allow myself to catch my breath, this then resulting in clearer thoughts and a much happier content all around set of feelings.
Why share this with you today?
I would like of course to offer to you my book where I made sevral notes of tricks and remedies to help myself heal and find more peace n my life. This book has received an award of excellence for 2021 in the category of "Mind ~ Body ~ Spirit". My award was a very welcome boost to my writing and an overall satisfaction of mine in how I have told myself "well done".
Imagine my book won a global award. My writing has been given a number 1 slot and has been chosen above other entries from around the world. WOW!
Anyway, I offer the title to you; Layman's Handbook, in life by Aidan Mc Nally.
Layman's Handbook is focusing on finding remedies to our dilemmas. Learning some basic steps to meditation and bringing you on a "jourmey to self".
Our media outlets have failed us in providing you with any encouragement or positigity in the saga that has been and still is covid-19. Our governments have provided you with very little tools to overcome and bring about good positive mental health during the pandemic.
These two ingredients are vital to your own physical health.
It is almost as if that the powers that be want you to be sick, unwell or unhealthy.
I know there are ways and I know there are tricks as I have performed these on myself and I am living proof that a reset in our lives is possible, I am living proof that no matter how the odds are stacked against us and whatever it is that seems impossible, there is a way through and it is possible. Do not blindly take my word for it. Give layman's Handbook a go and see for yourself.
My writing life has become it's own journey of how I aspire to inspire.
My own life has befome a healthier happier existence. I have managed this through simple tools. A sub title of Layman's Handbook, "Simple tools to change how we live"
Get healthy by thinking healthy, feel well by hearing well, by speaking well, by eating well, by thinking well.
The connection between feeling well, thinking well and being physically well is jaw-droppingly HUGE!
And NOW for the call to action portion of today's post.
I want to give you this book. I am going to give away 1 book for every 10 shares of this post up to a maximum of ten books.
All you have to do to WIN 2021 award wiining Layman's Handbook is share this blog post. Winners will be chosen at random after each batch of 10 shares of this post.
Happy reading and happy weekend to you all.
Layman's Handbook can be found in ebook and paperback on amazon along with my other great books by author Aidan Mc Nally.
@TWOsonsTOOmany
If I had of used part 1, part 2 type thing to write and talk about corona virus, we might be at part 439 by now.
Though the virus talk has changed from way back in Febraury 2020 to now April 2021. A quick recap, we went from how the virus might be spreading to what materials it can live on like, 3 minutes on cold steel to 20 hours on plastic not in direct sunlight and things like, UV rays can kill it and it is airborne. All the way to now in this year of how the virus talk is more about vaccine and the dangers of or the percentage chance one particular age group may have Vs another.
The same virus talk though has slightly changed to be more about the reopening of business and the vaccinations and remedies.
Funny thing about it, nobody has a clue of it's spread features and everyone has been pumped with a serious dose of fear for more than 12 months.
. "Corona Virus ~ don't do this, don't do that or you will DIE"
What an absolute crock of horseshit tbh. How any government or country's official organisations believe that dishing out scare tactics and putting fear into people by broadcasting daily death figures for 13 full months, how this is supposed to benefit or help imporve people's health in anyway?
I became "unhealthy" or perhaps we could say "ill" in my own life prior to corona virus or any or this nonsense. I have attributed my illness/condition to be directly associated with or as a result of my own personal traumas experienced. For these reasons I have had time to reflect on my own lifestyle choices and things like diet and exercise. I admit right here that I am a smoker and this nicotine addiction has been my best friend and comfort in times of stress and strain and so my own psychological addiction to cigarettes sometimes feels like a much greater reason to continue than quit.
I could make a big long list of all the drugs I have used and abused though the simplest is to tell you, I did em and I quit em. Let's call it giving up drug addiction.
Alcohol has been quite a similar path in my life, basically choose not to anymore. I could be labeled a "non drinker" for want of a better term.
I mention those things as a way of shedding some light on the path of addictions and quiting stuff like these and how I have found that smoking is definitely a diffetent animal indeed. Though perhaps the most damaging of them all. Who is to say that if I didnt give up using drugs that I would have died much younger or not? I have been told my illness/condition is a direct result of using drugs and consuming alcohol in my younger years. I think that is crock of shit too by the way, I believe and it is fair to say "have a firm belief" that it is a direct result of trauma.
The point being that I have spent a number of years developing myself to be as emotionally healthy as I could be. It has been important to me in my life to reset my own life. It has been flaunted around the place that the corona virus is fake and is nothing more than the "great big reset" of our time. I as one person of the world who has had the pleasure of adapting to a "great big reset" of my own find it hard to understand or believe that the corona virus, covid-19 has anything to do with a reset of any kind. My own experience in the pains and level of difficulty involved in bringing about a reset in oneself are far greater than anything that we have seen from corona virus.
Our ability to reset ourselves is amazing really. In my own journey to myself I have found along the way connections between things like "Mental health", "Emotional well being" & "Physical health". Which bringd about more "conspiracy" type thinking in the area of corona virus. Not quite in the way you may think though.
The connections being that through lockdown and the removing of social gatherings coupled with an onslaught of daily numbers that tell you how many people have died. The world has rapidly become a sad place, a mundain place, a morbid place, a depressed place, a stir crazy place, an anxious place, an overwhelming place, a paranoid place, a suspicious place.
Yes all or this has been brought about by what you have been fed since the corona virus first came about in the end of 2019 and beginning of 2020.
The world has been a crazy place and a place of all that I mentioned above for many years before. The chances are very probable that you just never bought into any of the sadness or the madness before and covid-19 has brought about this weird reactionary opinionated thinking for many. Basically feeding you with enough nonsense and negativity to bring your entire system down physically, emotionally & mentally.
The trifecta, which are 3 key components of being ill, unhealthy or sick.
I have found some great remedies to reset myself after my own addictions, I was able to find some great remedies to reset myself after enormous trauma. I have found great remedies to nurture and nourish my own feelings and emotional well-being. I have found great remedies to calm my mind and allow myself to catch my breath, this then resulting in clearer thoughts and a much happier content all around set of feelings.
Why share this with you today?
I would like of course to offer to you my book where I made sevral notes of tricks and remedies to help myself heal and find more peace n my life. This book has received an award of excellence for 2021 in the category of "Mind ~ Body ~ Spirit". My award was a very welcome boost to my writing and an overall satisfaction of mine in how I have told myself "well done".
Imagine my book won a global award. My writing has been given a number 1 slot and has been chosen above other entries from around the world. WOW!
Anyway, I offer the title to you; Layman's Handbook, in life by Aidan Mc Nally.
Layman's Handbook is focusing on finding remedies to our dilemmas. Learning some basic steps to meditation and bringing you on a "jourmey to self".
Our media outlets have failed us in providing you with any encouragement or positigity in the saga that has been and still is covid-19. Our governments have provided you with very little tools to overcome and bring about good positive mental health during the pandemic.
These two ingredients are vital to your own physical health.
It is almost as if that the powers that be want you to be sick, unwell or unhealthy.
I know there are ways and I know there are tricks as I have performed these on myself and I am living proof that a reset in our lives is possible, I am living proof that no matter how the odds are stacked against us and whatever it is that seems impossible, there is a way through and it is possible. Do not blindly take my word for it. Give layman's Handbook a go and see for yourself.
My writing life has become it's own journey of how I aspire to inspire.
My own life has befome a healthier happier existence. I have managed this through simple tools. A sub title of Layman's Handbook, "Simple tools to change how we live"
Get healthy by thinking healthy, feel well by hearing well, by speaking well, by eating well, by thinking well.
The connection between feeling well, thinking well and being physically well is jaw-droppingly HUGE!
And NOW for the call to action portion of today's post.
I want to give you this book. I am going to give away 1 book for every 10 shares of this post up to a maximum of ten books.
All you have to do to WIN 2021 award wiining Layman's Handbook is share this blog post. Winners will be chosen at random after each batch of 10 shares of this post.
Happy reading and happy weekend to you all.
Layman's Handbook can be found in ebook and paperback on amazon along with my other great books by author Aidan Mc Nally.
@TWOsonsTOOmany
April 11, 2021
The nitty gritty ~ GRIEF & all
Big word for 5 letters isn't it?
A suggestion of what does this word actually mean. I have looked for examples and explanations of what exactly does GRIEF mean? I can say that it is a question that I have asked for a number of years now and to be brutally honest with you, I have yet to receive a clear answer.
Grief is totally different for every person, grief and grieving is as individual as the person themselves that is experiencing the grief. There is no "one size fits all". We find ourselves in an emotional meteor shower, a time warp along with a mind warp and some very strange things happen within us and around us.
Living in grief, living through grief and living with grief can be very difficult for any person. Those of you reading right now because you saw this post title and are searching for anything to cling on to as your grief journey is absolutely killing you right now. I can testify right now to you that life is possible while in, with or going through grief. I can hear you screaming at me, HOW?
For you and me it can seem like nothing is possible, nothing is going to bring them back and the pain that that thought brings with it feels unbearable. I know, I know.
Perhaps this could be the simple play on words,
GRIEF
GOING to RELIVE IT EVERY FUCKING day!
Only a possible meaning and yes the expletive is totally there on purpose. This is just what grief and grieving sounds like sometimes, or feels like and there is no word too strong to use to explain any of it.
Ah yes, you may question the position I come from to begin to be in a position to make any sense of it at all. Rightfully so.
I understand that when you are grieving and hurting that it would be nice to find somebody who knows what it is like. Someone who might have two or three words to just help take away the pain. Not only emotional pains, mental torture inside of our minds and why is it that when we are having a better day and involved in anything different, a nice day for example, that as if in the blink of an eye our mind can return to a thought of how they are not here. What can follow this kind of thought can be all kinds of mixed emotions. Sadness is probably the understatement of my post today. Throw in a little dash of confused along with helpless and of course the gaping hole in our heart. Yup this sums up a simple moment in grief alright.
Where do I come from and what is my position?
I became an expert in this grief stuff without ever attending any college. I graduated through the ranks because of sitting by gravesides of my children. My two sons. My 1st born son who was lowered to his grave by myself and my brothers when he was only 15 years old back in 2011. Imagine, it is going to be 10 years ago this year.
With a melted mind and a heavy heart I was very lost in life from that day forward.
In 2014 I was graveside again and my second born son was lowered down. He was 1 year and 4 months old when he passed. Another hard shocker that it will be 7 years this year.
It has been through the years of struggle and tough loss feelings that today in 2021 I can write this post. Those two experiences of sudden deaths to my two healthy children, those experiences are where my expertise on the topic has grown from.
Like I had said, no college course for me on the subject of grief, life and life lessons perhaps. An inquiring mind of a man, a father who could not settle for "they are gone" and "get over it".
Where did all the sensitivity come from?
Why did it become hard to be around families and children?
Why did dark lonely nights become so disturbing?
Understanding to a point and really, like, only knowing these types of questions have been helpful turning points. Do "normal" people sit there having a laugh with their friends and then all of a sudden feel like they have to go home?
Strange is what it is.
The expert piece is something that has be born out or determination and a huge dose of stubbornness. I am a person who will not lie down, I do not give up.
I began writing and this was a huge soothing process. I took the feelings out of myself and put them into books. I will always say that I understand it is a different journey for every person and books and writing may not be your thing. Try a painting, plant a tree, build a chair, make a cushion or build a shed. Whatever it is that can help you translate your feelings into a project of any kind. Something you can do for yourself. A project where you know the reason behind it, a project to offer to your loved one as a way of helping to cope with a ton of confusion inside of yourself. For me it became writing. For you it can be writing too and if you need to you could burn each and every little note that you write.
The projects I am speaking of are something for you to do entirely for yourself and by yourself. A token of your love for your loved one who has passed.
You may say right now that these things are not for you and, what do I know?
I know nothing.
The journey for me has been all about how much I do not know. How much I will never understand.
What I can offer you is a great read of my life story. I wrote this in 2015 ~ 2016. The title,
TWO sons TOO many ~ memoir
A very exciting life story with some very real life heart breaking moments. The kind of book that will make ya laugh out loud and also have you in tears. I guess my own emotions just poured into it when I was writing it. I was trying to believe it had all happened and really taken place. This memoir launched me into writing more.
My 4th book is a different kind of book. I wrote this book in 2019 and as I was continuing with my questioning and looking for answers. I noted down many of the simple things that have helped me, not only through a journey of grief. My journey through life on a whole and not only in rebuilding myself and living with grief. Much more of what I have learned in how to cope with many situations in life.
Layman's Handbook, in life ~ selfhelp was released in October 2019.
The subtitles are these, "Simple tools to change how we live".
A journey to SELF.
Is this a manual for dealing with grief? Not exactly, though it sure has a peppering of that in there. There are 27 chapters to browse through and find which one may help you the most.
Again it is not from any academic teachings or classes I have ever took. I simply wanted to share how I have found great benefits through things like meditation, for example. Though I can proudly boast how Layman's Handbook has won an award of excellence and is the 2021 winner in the category of Body, Mind & Spirit.
Not too bad for a man who was shattered to a million pieces in 2011, rebuilt and got pulverised in 2014 again. Yes indeed I have continued on my journey to self and I have shared these simple tools with you in Layman's Handbook.
This is what I meant when I said it is possible to continue to live in grief. It is still possible to live with grief. It is still possible to live while going through grief.
As an author now, I appreciate every little piece of support I can get for my journey as a writer. You can buy my books on amazon, just search for Aidan Mc Nally. They are available in paperback and ebook.
I ask of you to share posts like these whenever you see them as you actually never know who might see you sharing it and they may find comfort in knowing that someone else like me also has had some very tough days with life and grief.
I would also like to ask you the favour of retweeting and following along with my journey as ya never know what my blog posts might say next. If it comes into my head, I will probably make a posts about it. I don't ever wish for anyone to take my word for anything. I hope to encourage my readers to begin to think for themselves. The only way I could find answers to all of my questions was to begin to slow my mind down and start thinking for myself anway. I will always say, because of what I have learned:
For all of the questions we have ~ we also have a lot of answers.
Follow along on social media
@TWOsonsTOOmany
Check out my website
www.Amcnallyauthor.com
I thank you for reading and I look forward to your review of any of my books.
Oh yeah and don't forget to share this post. My work as an author depends on it (lol) and a random stranger out there could love you for it.
Now bring on this summer of 2021....
A suggestion of what does this word actually mean. I have looked for examples and explanations of what exactly does GRIEF mean? I can say that it is a question that I have asked for a number of years now and to be brutally honest with you, I have yet to receive a clear answer.
Grief is totally different for every person, grief and grieving is as individual as the person themselves that is experiencing the grief. There is no "one size fits all". We find ourselves in an emotional meteor shower, a time warp along with a mind warp and some very strange things happen within us and around us.
Living in grief, living through grief and living with grief can be very difficult for any person. Those of you reading right now because you saw this post title and are searching for anything to cling on to as your grief journey is absolutely killing you right now. I can testify right now to you that life is possible while in, with or going through grief. I can hear you screaming at me, HOW?
For you and me it can seem like nothing is possible, nothing is going to bring them back and the pain that that thought brings with it feels unbearable. I know, I know.
Perhaps this could be the simple play on words,
GRIEF
GOING to RELIVE IT EVERY FUCKING day!
Only a possible meaning and yes the expletive is totally there on purpose. This is just what grief and grieving sounds like sometimes, or feels like and there is no word too strong to use to explain any of it.
Ah yes, you may question the position I come from to begin to be in a position to make any sense of it at all. Rightfully so.
I understand that when you are grieving and hurting that it would be nice to find somebody who knows what it is like. Someone who might have two or three words to just help take away the pain. Not only emotional pains, mental torture inside of our minds and why is it that when we are having a better day and involved in anything different, a nice day for example, that as if in the blink of an eye our mind can return to a thought of how they are not here. What can follow this kind of thought can be all kinds of mixed emotions. Sadness is probably the understatement of my post today. Throw in a little dash of confused along with helpless and of course the gaping hole in our heart. Yup this sums up a simple moment in grief alright.
Where do I come from and what is my position?
I became an expert in this grief stuff without ever attending any college. I graduated through the ranks because of sitting by gravesides of my children. My two sons. My 1st born son who was lowered to his grave by myself and my brothers when he was only 15 years old back in 2011. Imagine, it is going to be 10 years ago this year.
With a melted mind and a heavy heart I was very lost in life from that day forward.
In 2014 I was graveside again and my second born son was lowered down. He was 1 year and 4 months old when he passed. Another hard shocker that it will be 7 years this year.
It has been through the years of struggle and tough loss feelings that today in 2021 I can write this post. Those two experiences of sudden deaths to my two healthy children, those experiences are where my expertise on the topic has grown from.
Like I had said, no college course for me on the subject of grief, life and life lessons perhaps. An inquiring mind of a man, a father who could not settle for "they are gone" and "get over it".
Where did all the sensitivity come from?
Why did it become hard to be around families and children?
Why did dark lonely nights become so disturbing?
Understanding to a point and really, like, only knowing these types of questions have been helpful turning points. Do "normal" people sit there having a laugh with their friends and then all of a sudden feel like they have to go home?
Strange is what it is.
The expert piece is something that has be born out or determination and a huge dose of stubbornness. I am a person who will not lie down, I do not give up.
I began writing and this was a huge soothing process. I took the feelings out of myself and put them into books. I will always say that I understand it is a different journey for every person and books and writing may not be your thing. Try a painting, plant a tree, build a chair, make a cushion or build a shed. Whatever it is that can help you translate your feelings into a project of any kind. Something you can do for yourself. A project where you know the reason behind it, a project to offer to your loved one as a way of helping to cope with a ton of confusion inside of yourself. For me it became writing. For you it can be writing too and if you need to you could burn each and every little note that you write.
The projects I am speaking of are something for you to do entirely for yourself and by yourself. A token of your love for your loved one who has passed.
You may say right now that these things are not for you and, what do I know?
I know nothing.
The journey for me has been all about how much I do not know. How much I will never understand.
What I can offer you is a great read of my life story. I wrote this in 2015 ~ 2016. The title,
TWO sons TOO many ~ memoir
A very exciting life story with some very real life heart breaking moments. The kind of book that will make ya laugh out loud and also have you in tears. I guess my own emotions just poured into it when I was writing it. I was trying to believe it had all happened and really taken place. This memoir launched me into writing more.
My 4th book is a different kind of book. I wrote this book in 2019 and as I was continuing with my questioning and looking for answers. I noted down many of the simple things that have helped me, not only through a journey of grief. My journey through life on a whole and not only in rebuilding myself and living with grief. Much more of what I have learned in how to cope with many situations in life.
Layman's Handbook, in life ~ selfhelp was released in October 2019.
The subtitles are these, "Simple tools to change how we live".
A journey to SELF.
Is this a manual for dealing with grief? Not exactly, though it sure has a peppering of that in there. There are 27 chapters to browse through and find which one may help you the most.
Again it is not from any academic teachings or classes I have ever took. I simply wanted to share how I have found great benefits through things like meditation, for example. Though I can proudly boast how Layman's Handbook has won an award of excellence and is the 2021 winner in the category of Body, Mind & Spirit.
Not too bad for a man who was shattered to a million pieces in 2011, rebuilt and got pulverised in 2014 again. Yes indeed I have continued on my journey to self and I have shared these simple tools with you in Layman's Handbook.
This is what I meant when I said it is possible to continue to live in grief. It is still possible to live with grief. It is still possible to live while going through grief.
As an author now, I appreciate every little piece of support I can get for my journey as a writer. You can buy my books on amazon, just search for Aidan Mc Nally. They are available in paperback and ebook.
I ask of you to share posts like these whenever you see them as you actually never know who might see you sharing it and they may find comfort in knowing that someone else like me also has had some very tough days with life and grief.
I would also like to ask you the favour of retweeting and following along with my journey as ya never know what my blog posts might say next. If it comes into my head, I will probably make a posts about it. I don't ever wish for anyone to take my word for anything. I hope to encourage my readers to begin to think for themselves. The only way I could find answers to all of my questions was to begin to slow my mind down and start thinking for myself anway. I will always say, because of what I have learned:
For all of the questions we have ~ we also have a lot of answers.
Follow along on social media
@TWOsonsTOOmany
Check out my website
www.Amcnallyauthor.com
I thank you for reading and I look forward to your review of any of my books.
Oh yeah and don't forget to share this post. My work as an author depends on it (lol) and a random stranger out there could love you for it.
Now bring on this summer of 2021....
April 10, 2021
Chapter 24 ~ THE WORDS WE USE DAILY.
Below I have provided you with a link to the entire chapter.
The chapter is from Layman's Handbook and is titled the same as above.
The subtitle contains these words "Simple tools to change how we live".
Chapter 24 is a snippet of this and a very important tool for us all to consider.
The power of our words and how to slowly bring about changes. The strength in ourselves to recognise the simple and do something about it.
Enjoy.
https://amcnallyauthor.com/2021/04/08...
The chapter is from Layman's Handbook and is titled the same as above.
The subtitle contains these words "Simple tools to change how we live".
Chapter 24 is a snippet of this and a very important tool for us all to consider.
The power of our words and how to slowly bring about changes. The strength in ourselves to recognise the simple and do something about it.
Enjoy.
https://amcnallyauthor.com/2021/04/08...
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