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November 23, 2022
Let’s talk about LOSS – Holiday Season
Let’s talk about LOSS – Holiday Season
It is true and to say first and foremost, loss is a bitch of thing to experience. It has a way of steam rolling you right out of your day. Definitely holiday season does not help as the holidays are often centered round sharing happy times with family and loved ones. What is going to exaggerate or increase a feeling of loss? Absolutely correct and right, the feeling of loss is exaggerated by they are just not here anymore. This can be a very tough pill to swallow, even tougher when nobody else seems to get what it you are feeling.
I have experienced loss in what has felt like the most tremendous form of grief I could ever imagine and so my understand of loss for others is along the lines of how I have experienced such deep and devastating feelings that, I began to understand how hard it is to get my mind and self around it, that it has to be extremely difficult for everyone. The loss in my own life has been the death of my children; yes you did read that correctly. In 2011 my first born son Darra died of what is known as “Sudden death”. He was 15 years of age at the time and he did not wake up one morning for school. He passed away in his sleep and that was the beginning of my own serious and intense life of grief and experiences of loss. Yes, I did say children above. Darra was my first born son and we now closing in on the end of his birthday month, November and then we commence the beginning of the holiday season and the December. Darra’s anniversary is in December as he passed away 12/12/2011. Quite a while ago now isn’t it?
During that time in December 2011 I kind of fell out of love with Christmas and the holidays and had no more care for new years or any of the festivities and then each and every year since it has been a tough month to go through, what with his anniversary and the remembering of the whole ordeal of 2011. So, I know exactly what the holiday season is like when we are in a journey of grief and experiencing loss. Boy oh boy did I wish never to become so deep in it or have to learn my way through it or around it, I promise you that. Nonetheless I am here writing this blog post today some 11 years later. I could go into all the details about how it has been or what it was like, safe to say you could read all about my experiences in my memoir, TWO sons TOO many.
Yes TWO sons, to lose one child is too much for any parent to have to go through in one lifetime and for me to lose TWO sons has been for sure 1 son TOO many, hence the title TWO sons TOO many.
During my new life as a man who didn’t know what this loss feeling was and what grief was all about I had the beautiful experience of becoming father again, Patrick was born in 2013 in February and it was the weirdest feeling ever. To be so happy to have a new son and a second chance at this game of life all the while grieving and pining for Darra, it was probably the closest I will ever understand to what it might mean to experience “bitter sweet” feelings. I got to spend a year and a little more with Patrick and he died in 2014 in a drowning accident. My little angel sent to cheer me up and deliver to me new hope, a lifeline thrown to me in a sea where I was drowning in grief for Darra. My two babies gone.
So what of the holidays and how do we survive these times where all family and loved ones get to spend time together? How do we turn a feeling of loss into something can become bearable for us?
We can look back at the nicer memories as a starting point. We can recall the nicer times we did actually spend with our loved ones and though they are not with us today, we do possess the ability to turn a sad day into a nice day. I didn’t say “a great day” on purpose because it can be hard in times f loss to achieve a great day. What we definitely can do is have a nice day, this I am certain of because I now in my life have many nice days.
How though?
It really all does begin with how we can begin to understand that when we are overwhelmed by our emotions that they still remain as emotions. Yes our mind can wander off into dark places and we just want to keep on crying, be it on the inside and privately or completely out in the open. We possess the ability to take charge over our own journey in grief and loss. We can decide, “Today WILL be a nice day”, we have the power to decide this. Did you know that?
We can recall the nice times we spent wit our loved ones and we can see a smile and remember the times where we were so totally happy/in love/over the moon with the person we have lost in our lives.
We CAN do this and it is not something I just decided to write because it sounds nice or anything like that. I have lived it and now today as a father who has lost his two sons, I write this to encourage any person who is experiencing loss or might be drowning in grief. It is POSSIBLE, it just is hard to imagine, so why not begin to give it a go. Forget about imagining it anymore and simply DO IT.
Yes it will be the holidays and yes the world does not make much sense a lot of the time though there are some things we can take charge of. My feelings of loss are feelings and they will come and go. Am I going to sit around and lose out on enjoying my daughter’s life because I am too caught up in the misery of loss? No!
Are any of us going to allow what we feel to completely take over our lives because we are unsure or we are confused and the world does not make sense any more because we have experienced loss? No!
Are any of us going to hold back and not allow our pain to pass through us? No! These my friends are the holidays and holiday season that I have been referring to and it is in the title too, HOLIDAY. Take a break from what feels like it has been breaking you and give yourself the holiday. Look back on the fond memories and smile. Yes indeed I can recall when I felt so guilty to smile and to laugh; some will call it survivors’ guilt because my loved one is the one that is gone and not me. I remember how exactly it felt and it is not a nice place, I understand that. Our time here on this planet is to live, so let us live on in the memory of or in the idea of making our loved ones proud or even in the idea that our loved one would never wish us not to enjoy our holiday time. Most all of whom have gone before us wish for us to have the most amazing life and time here in our life time, right? So let us do it for them for now as a starting point. Let us brave face the world and seek out the magic and beauty that exists. Done are the days of keeping the blinds pulled across or the blankets over our heads. Let’s live and let’s show our beautiful loved ones that we mean business t0 enjoy our time in this world.
I live my life to make Darra & Patrick happy. I even speak out loud to them all day every day. A simple decision of turning left or right and I can be heard saying “what do you think guys?”. Yup it works for me and has done for a number of years now, so give it a try. Find what works for you and stick to it, give yourself every chance and opening to find that contentment again. Forget about happy for now. Focus on being content in the grief journey you are on and enjoy as many of the small simple things in life to help build up steady by steady the nice feelings. Watch how they will grow too and what a daily nice feeling can add up to and the see saw continues. Slowly but surely the nice will out weigh the bad and we can find a way through the holiday season while experiencing loos and feeling grief.
Happy Thanks giving as they saw this time of year; it is a simple way in which we can see how something can work in our favour even though nothing of grief or feelings of loss can feel nice. I am thankful that Darra & Patrick came into my life and thought me so much. I am grateful and thankful for all that I have experience because of their very existence. Yes, much of what I have experience since their passing has been painful, it is because they have existed that I learned love as a father and that I then felt pain and hurt as a grieving father. For these intense and very real feelings I am thankful to them every day. Darra & Patrick I give thanks to you for helping daddy see things deeper in his life and helping me to grow on my journey of loss. I am thankful and I am learning every day how to know what it is to appreciate our fond memories and I look forward to the holiday season now and yes I might cry a little from time to time I remain ever thankful for your life and for your passing as I got so much from you both.
I also mention happy thanks giving to you all for the reason of I have another book where I discuss how it is that I came to navigate through my thoughts and feelings and I have offered this book “Layman’s Handbook in life” by me Aidan Mc Nally, I offer this at a special discount for “Black Friday” so that all out there who have a difficult time overcoming or learning on their own journey can find some simple tools to help and assist in making it easier.
Layman’s Handbook in life is a book where I wished I had to turn to during my darker hours and felt compelled to write it. You can grab a copy for only 99 cents on Black Friday on Amazon. My gift to show my thanks and to help all who may need it right now.. It is because I know this journey of overcoming trauma that I was able to first hand write about it.
And of course it is title Layman’s because I am a layman who has been in and around the block once or twice in my lifetime and I wish for others to gain insight through my own learning.
You can follow me on social media sites
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Please do like, comment and share this post where ever you find it as it helps me do 3 things.
1. Spread awareness of my writing.
2. Reach those who need to hear these words today.
3. And gain more insights myself by your feedback.
Thank you.
It is true and to say first and foremost, loss is a bitch of thing to experience. It has a way of steam rolling you right out of your day. Definitely holiday season does not help as the holidays are often centered round sharing happy times with family and loved ones. What is going to exaggerate or increase a feeling of loss? Absolutely correct and right, the feeling of loss is exaggerated by they are just not here anymore. This can be a very tough pill to swallow, even tougher when nobody else seems to get what it you are feeling.
I have experienced loss in what has felt like the most tremendous form of grief I could ever imagine and so my understand of loss for others is along the lines of how I have experienced such deep and devastating feelings that, I began to understand how hard it is to get my mind and self around it, that it has to be extremely difficult for everyone. The loss in my own life has been the death of my children; yes you did read that correctly. In 2011 my first born son Darra died of what is known as “Sudden death”. He was 15 years of age at the time and he did not wake up one morning for school. He passed away in his sleep and that was the beginning of my own serious and intense life of grief and experiences of loss. Yes, I did say children above. Darra was my first born son and we now closing in on the end of his birthday month, November and then we commence the beginning of the holiday season and the December. Darra’s anniversary is in December as he passed away 12/12/2011. Quite a while ago now isn’t it?
During that time in December 2011 I kind of fell out of love with Christmas and the holidays and had no more care for new years or any of the festivities and then each and every year since it has been a tough month to go through, what with his anniversary and the remembering of the whole ordeal of 2011. So, I know exactly what the holiday season is like when we are in a journey of grief and experiencing loss. Boy oh boy did I wish never to become so deep in it or have to learn my way through it or around it, I promise you that. Nonetheless I am here writing this blog post today some 11 years later. I could go into all the details about how it has been or what it was like, safe to say you could read all about my experiences in my memoir, TWO sons TOO many.
Yes TWO sons, to lose one child is too much for any parent to have to go through in one lifetime and for me to lose TWO sons has been for sure 1 son TOO many, hence the title TWO sons TOO many.
During my new life as a man who didn’t know what this loss feeling was and what grief was all about I had the beautiful experience of becoming father again, Patrick was born in 2013 in February and it was the weirdest feeling ever. To be so happy to have a new son and a second chance at this game of life all the while grieving and pining for Darra, it was probably the closest I will ever understand to what it might mean to experience “bitter sweet” feelings. I got to spend a year and a little more with Patrick and he died in 2014 in a drowning accident. My little angel sent to cheer me up and deliver to me new hope, a lifeline thrown to me in a sea where I was drowning in grief for Darra. My two babies gone.
So what of the holidays and how do we survive these times where all family and loved ones get to spend time together? How do we turn a feeling of loss into something can become bearable for us?
We can look back at the nicer memories as a starting point. We can recall the nicer times we did actually spend with our loved ones and though they are not with us today, we do possess the ability to turn a sad day into a nice day. I didn’t say “a great day” on purpose because it can be hard in times f loss to achieve a great day. What we definitely can do is have a nice day, this I am certain of because I now in my life have many nice days.
How though?
It really all does begin with how we can begin to understand that when we are overwhelmed by our emotions that they still remain as emotions. Yes our mind can wander off into dark places and we just want to keep on crying, be it on the inside and privately or completely out in the open. We possess the ability to take charge over our own journey in grief and loss. We can decide, “Today WILL be a nice day”, we have the power to decide this. Did you know that?
We can recall the nice times we spent wit our loved ones and we can see a smile and remember the times where we were so totally happy/in love/over the moon with the person we have lost in our lives.
We CAN do this and it is not something I just decided to write because it sounds nice or anything like that. I have lived it and now today as a father who has lost his two sons, I write this to encourage any person who is experiencing loss or might be drowning in grief. It is POSSIBLE, it just is hard to imagine, so why not begin to give it a go. Forget about imagining it anymore and simply DO IT.
Yes it will be the holidays and yes the world does not make much sense a lot of the time though there are some things we can take charge of. My feelings of loss are feelings and they will come and go. Am I going to sit around and lose out on enjoying my daughter’s life because I am too caught up in the misery of loss? No!
Are any of us going to allow what we feel to completely take over our lives because we are unsure or we are confused and the world does not make sense any more because we have experienced loss? No!
Are any of us going to hold back and not allow our pain to pass through us? No! These my friends are the holidays and holiday season that I have been referring to and it is in the title too, HOLIDAY. Take a break from what feels like it has been breaking you and give yourself the holiday. Look back on the fond memories and smile. Yes indeed I can recall when I felt so guilty to smile and to laugh; some will call it survivors’ guilt because my loved one is the one that is gone and not me. I remember how exactly it felt and it is not a nice place, I understand that. Our time here on this planet is to live, so let us live on in the memory of or in the idea of making our loved ones proud or even in the idea that our loved one would never wish us not to enjoy our holiday time. Most all of whom have gone before us wish for us to have the most amazing life and time here in our life time, right? So let us do it for them for now as a starting point. Let us brave face the world and seek out the magic and beauty that exists. Done are the days of keeping the blinds pulled across or the blankets over our heads. Let’s live and let’s show our beautiful loved ones that we mean business t0 enjoy our time in this world.
I live my life to make Darra & Patrick happy. I even speak out loud to them all day every day. A simple decision of turning left or right and I can be heard saying “what do you think guys?”. Yup it works for me and has done for a number of years now, so give it a try. Find what works for you and stick to it, give yourself every chance and opening to find that contentment again. Forget about happy for now. Focus on being content in the grief journey you are on and enjoy as many of the small simple things in life to help build up steady by steady the nice feelings. Watch how they will grow too and what a daily nice feeling can add up to and the see saw continues. Slowly but surely the nice will out weigh the bad and we can find a way through the holiday season while experiencing loos and feeling grief.
Happy Thanks giving as they saw this time of year; it is a simple way in which we can see how something can work in our favour even though nothing of grief or feelings of loss can feel nice. I am thankful that Darra & Patrick came into my life and thought me so much. I am grateful and thankful for all that I have experience because of their very existence. Yes, much of what I have experience since their passing has been painful, it is because they have existed that I learned love as a father and that I then felt pain and hurt as a grieving father. For these intense and very real feelings I am thankful to them every day. Darra & Patrick I give thanks to you for helping daddy see things deeper in his life and helping me to grow on my journey of loss. I am thankful and I am learning every day how to know what it is to appreciate our fond memories and I look forward to the holiday season now and yes I might cry a little from time to time I remain ever thankful for your life and for your passing as I got so much from you both.
I also mention happy thanks giving to you all for the reason of I have another book where I discuss how it is that I came to navigate through my thoughts and feelings and I have offered this book “Layman’s Handbook in life” by me Aidan Mc Nally, I offer this at a special discount for “Black Friday” so that all out there who have a difficult time overcoming or learning on their own journey can find some simple tools to help and assist in making it easier.
Layman’s Handbook in life is a book where I wished I had to turn to during my darker hours and felt compelled to write it. You can grab a copy for only 99 cents on Black Friday on Amazon. My gift to show my thanks and to help all who may need it right now.. It is because I know this journey of overcoming trauma that I was able to first hand write about it.
And of course it is title Layman’s because I am a layman who has been in and around the block once or twice in my lifetime and I wish for others to gain insight through my own learning.
You can follow me on social media sites
Facebook & Twitter @TWOsonsTOOmany
IG @2sons2many
Please do like, comment and share this post where ever you find it as it helps me do 3 things.
1. Spread awareness of my writing.
2. Reach those who need to hear these words today.
3. And gain more insights myself by your feedback.
Thank you.
October 24, 2022
TORN – like a piece of paper?
TORN – like a piece of paper?
I am torn, what does this mean?
To tear a piece of paper means we get two pieces of paper and so it is, in a physical sense, a bonus. We once had one and now we have two, right?
Yes in terms of needing to allow two people write something down at the same time, it has become beneficial to tear something into two. A piece of a rag/cloth perhaps, we can again benefit to now have two pieces. Mind you, if we are tearing a piece of paper and that happens to be a piece of paper money, well that is not very beneficial at all. Yes we may now have two pieces though we have rendered the entire piece “useless” by tearing it. The tearing has made it lose its value.
We may have heard ourselves say some things like these before, “I am torn between two minds about….” Another can be about our emotions and say “I m torn between my feelings for and my feelings against….” This brings me back to the tearing of the paper money. Can we render ourselves less valuable by being in a position of where we are torn?
Does this mean we are more valuable when we remain whole? Or are we more valuable when we spread ourselves thin and are torn between our job and our family and our children’s lives and our partner’s lives and our friendship circles? Those just there can be the basics of life for many and as I have now just written them, they seem to be quite a lot. Remaining whole does definitely jump out at me as being the better state to be in to be able to cope and cater to all that may be going on. Therefore it is perhaps a more simple way to look at things that we are faced with daily. I am spread thin today can be a simpler use of words to consider as opposed to “I am torn”.
When something is torn it can lead to a condition of being damaged. Am I damaged because I am between two minds about something, so to speak?
Interesting ideas pop in to my mind when reading this question out loud to myself. I can find myself torn between two minds about many things. Examples of this are definitely between my love for something and my need for something else. Which becomes more important? I remember my own father always harping on about “I do not care about what you want and am more concerned and focussed about what you need”.
So my needs over my wants really were my lesson from him. I did hear this again and again some years later. Focus on what you need and then the pathway to all that you want will appear.
The ability to make a decision when we find ourselves torn is not always clear and easy. Definitely not as easy as me writing a blog post about it and I understand it can take some of us some time to make decisions. A simpler attitude can help a concept to consider.
Am I being true to myself?
Does this serve me? (Me and my family)
Do I wish to be comfortable or uncomfortable?
True to myself is an important position to take and the most advised of course. Serving me and my family is equally as important and now for the comfort. Do I wish to remain comfortable and torn or do I wish to bring about some discomfort and become content or remain torn and comfortable, hmmm!
I have found that when we are torn and are asking ourselves questions that it is a valuable lesson to understand how we can train ourselves to be answer orientated over questioning. Present answers to ourselves daily rather than remain torn or indecisive. Solutions and answers are a path to contentment and a happier place to be. Though an initial feeling of discomfort will arise, there is a much bigger picture to consider always and the uncomfortable route often leads to the most “happy place”. Perhaps the real question can become.
Am I aware that there are billions of people in the world who could not care if I am comfortable, content or happy?
Am I aware that my own comfort totally relies on my own self and not from others?
Am I aware that the longer I remain torn between two items I am denying myself peace?
So by answering these questions above would mean that if I am more “aware” of things about my own better place, I can make decisions a little easier. Perhaps the real question is why am I torn and what is it that allows me to continue to wish to allow myself to remain stuck?
I leave the thought process up to you now and you can see where you land with being torn and what it is you need to do about it.
Have a great week. Follow he blog below and for all else of my content around the world wide interweb
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I am torn, what does this mean?
To tear a piece of paper means we get two pieces of paper and so it is, in a physical sense, a bonus. We once had one and now we have two, right?
Yes in terms of needing to allow two people write something down at the same time, it has become beneficial to tear something into two. A piece of a rag/cloth perhaps, we can again benefit to now have two pieces. Mind you, if we are tearing a piece of paper and that happens to be a piece of paper money, well that is not very beneficial at all. Yes we may now have two pieces though we have rendered the entire piece “useless” by tearing it. The tearing has made it lose its value.
We may have heard ourselves say some things like these before, “I am torn between two minds about….” Another can be about our emotions and say “I m torn between my feelings for and my feelings against….” This brings me back to the tearing of the paper money. Can we render ourselves less valuable by being in a position of where we are torn?
Does this mean we are more valuable when we remain whole? Or are we more valuable when we spread ourselves thin and are torn between our job and our family and our children’s lives and our partner’s lives and our friendship circles? Those just there can be the basics of life for many and as I have now just written them, they seem to be quite a lot. Remaining whole does definitely jump out at me as being the better state to be in to be able to cope and cater to all that may be going on. Therefore it is perhaps a more simple way to look at things that we are faced with daily. I am spread thin today can be a simpler use of words to consider as opposed to “I am torn”.
When something is torn it can lead to a condition of being damaged. Am I damaged because I am between two minds about something, so to speak?
Interesting ideas pop in to my mind when reading this question out loud to myself. I can find myself torn between two minds about many things. Examples of this are definitely between my love for something and my need for something else. Which becomes more important? I remember my own father always harping on about “I do not care about what you want and am more concerned and focussed about what you need”.
So my needs over my wants really were my lesson from him. I did hear this again and again some years later. Focus on what you need and then the pathway to all that you want will appear.
The ability to make a decision when we find ourselves torn is not always clear and easy. Definitely not as easy as me writing a blog post about it and I understand it can take some of us some time to make decisions. A simpler attitude can help a concept to consider.
Am I being true to myself?
Does this serve me? (Me and my family)
Do I wish to be comfortable or uncomfortable?
True to myself is an important position to take and the most advised of course. Serving me and my family is equally as important and now for the comfort. Do I wish to remain comfortable and torn or do I wish to bring about some discomfort and become content or remain torn and comfortable, hmmm!
I have found that when we are torn and are asking ourselves questions that it is a valuable lesson to understand how we can train ourselves to be answer orientated over questioning. Present answers to ourselves daily rather than remain torn or indecisive. Solutions and answers are a path to contentment and a happier place to be. Though an initial feeling of discomfort will arise, there is a much bigger picture to consider always and the uncomfortable route often leads to the most “happy place”. Perhaps the real question can become.
Am I aware that there are billions of people in the world who could not care if I am comfortable, content or happy?
Am I aware that my own comfort totally relies on my own self and not from others?
Am I aware that the longer I remain torn between two items I am denying myself peace?
So by answering these questions above would mean that if I am more “aware” of things about my own better place, I can make decisions a little easier. Perhaps the real question is why am I torn and what is it that allows me to continue to wish to allow myself to remain stuck?
I leave the thought process up to you now and you can see where you land with being torn and what it is you need to do about it.
Have a great week. Follow he blog below and for all else of my content around the world wide interweb
@TWOsonsTOOmany @2sons2many
October 5, 2022
Often times we forget - People in our lives
Gratitude is a great word to begin with here today. Pause for a moment and consider what it may mean to you.
It was put to me quite recently that I did not possess "not even an ounce" of gratitude. I considered the point being made and it is definitely "au contraire" .
I found myself faced with some sad news that same day and my entire thoughts became filled with gratitude. My emotions, now writing this are filled with gratitude. Often times we forget the people that have come into our lives, for whatever reason, we move on and we grow and we do indeed evolve along our own journey. Yes we have all met many people along our journey. I have even noticed a post on social media recently asking people if they can remember an influential person from their childhood days, a school teacher or someone that inspired their entire life.
It is worth giving some thought to for sure.
I wish to use this post today to make public a deep sense of gratitude that I possess for a man who by his own good nature afforded me a wonderful opportunity in life.
Rev. Fr. Roch Bennett O.F.M cap.
Fr. Roch passed away on Monday evening/night at the ripe age of 97. Now that I think of it, he seemed 97 when I met him first, all those years ago.
Maybe it was just me but when a Capuchin brother who wears a brown robe and has a grey beard and is as big a man as Fr. Roch, in his spirit and presence, well they just seem older, maybe because he oozed wisdom. Yeah that could be it alright, his wisdom made him seem older.
I have a ton of fond memories to share with you about the great and mighty Fr. Roch, for all those who knew him well, they can attest to how sometimes you just didn't want to hear or know he was on his way.
It is not that Fr. Roch was with me for any great length of time in my life or any great deep conversations we may have had. Some of the laughs we had shared over the years or even some of the sermons he would dive in to when we were just having a casual coffee. It was his vision and again his wisdom. For Fr, Roch to have existed meant a man in the world had an idea and gave it his all and created something which then in turn gave me a great opportunity in my life. I am sure there are tens of thousands of people that are saddened by the news of his passing and many of whom can recall a story or two that will bring a smile to their face even a laugh, a deep chuckle type laugh that Roch himself would have. Like everyone in the world, there are sure to be good and bad stories and when the good outweigh the bad a million to one, then these are my point of focus.
Because Fr. Roch existed in the world I was given an opportunity to begin my life all over again.
Many hands can be raised to testify of similar. I was a wayward type teenager and I had a ton of trouble on my plate. Officials of all kinds knew who I was and the common answer from most was, send him to jail. Though when in court and pleading for my own release it was only because Fr. Roch had established an adolescent treatment center that I was given a chance. I did not know of or had ever heard of the man prior to me being 17 and in a whole bunch of trouble.
Yes indeed, I put in the work on myself and I have lived my life as a sober living person ever since those days, yes it is true. The scenario that came about though that day, I was in court and given a suspended sentence to be in residential treatment in the county of Cork Ireland. When the courts had heard that all the alcohol treatment facilities were for much older adults and that prison was not the place for me, a counselor who had done some work placement in this "new adolescent treatment center in cork" spoke up on my behalf and the judge gave me that chance.
Yes to the judge that day I am grateful, yes to all who spoke on my behalf that day in court I am grateful. Though the gratitude that exists in my life is recalled by the passing of Fr. Roch this week.
Fr. Roch saw that there was no bad in anybody and that every person deserved a chance. His work on keeping kids off the streets of Cork and getting troubled youth jobs and placement on courses and pushing people to better themselves in their own lives is what stood out to me the more and more I got to know the man. It is because he saw that an idea about helping and doing good in his community just like he had taken his vows to do so was what he stood by.
He sure did love his religion too and a few sweets here and there. A scone and some butter, yeah he had a bit of sweet tooth alright. The man helped so many in his lifetime it would be too many to begin getting in to and I can humbly say, I AM EVER GRATEFUL to Fr. Roch for his vision, his putting together teams of excellent staff members and his continued begging to keep us going.
He used to joke about his main profession was that he was a professional beggar as he had taken a vow of poverty when he entered into the brother hood and so that made him by trade a professional beggar.
His begging kept us alive and well in the treatment center and we ate like kings during our time there. We received a small weekly allowance and we had everything at our disposal. Sports centers, summer holidays, schooling, one to one counselling, horse back riding on weekends, sweets and goodies when he would visit (even when he came to give out and call us ungrateful ha-ha) he still brought the sweets/candy.
Top to bottom, managerial staff, a day center, a phase one, two & three residential facilities, a home for youth other than the drug and alcohol rehab, staff living facilities, boy oh boy his begging amassed a massive amount of resources to continue to push on and help people. WOW.
The world has lost one of the greats this week in Fr. Roch's passing. A fond lover of the Kilkenny cats and all the hurling championships. Roch loved sport and part of our routine involved a daily run every morning before breakfast. Heavens knows how I hated getting up to go running every morning, lol. Fr.Roch is a legend and always will be.
I write this post to give a tiny glimmer into how much of an amazing man Roch was. One doesn't meet these kinds of people often and there are often times we will forget those who have helped us in such a subliminal way.
I repeat,
Because Fr. Roch existed in this world I got a second opportunity at life. I have lived, loved and lost and I remain EVER GRATEFUL to the mighty Fr. Roch.
Rest now Father and don't run a muck in heaven, in the words of your father "let them all go to hell" lololololol
It was put to me quite recently that I did not possess "not even an ounce" of gratitude. I considered the point being made and it is definitely "au contraire" .
I found myself faced with some sad news that same day and my entire thoughts became filled with gratitude. My emotions, now writing this are filled with gratitude. Often times we forget the people that have come into our lives, for whatever reason, we move on and we grow and we do indeed evolve along our own journey. Yes we have all met many people along our journey. I have even noticed a post on social media recently asking people if they can remember an influential person from their childhood days, a school teacher or someone that inspired their entire life.
It is worth giving some thought to for sure.
I wish to use this post today to make public a deep sense of gratitude that I possess for a man who by his own good nature afforded me a wonderful opportunity in life.
Rev. Fr. Roch Bennett O.F.M cap.
Fr. Roch passed away on Monday evening/night at the ripe age of 97. Now that I think of it, he seemed 97 when I met him first, all those years ago.
Maybe it was just me but when a Capuchin brother who wears a brown robe and has a grey beard and is as big a man as Fr. Roch, in his spirit and presence, well they just seem older, maybe because he oozed wisdom. Yeah that could be it alright, his wisdom made him seem older.
I have a ton of fond memories to share with you about the great and mighty Fr. Roch, for all those who knew him well, they can attest to how sometimes you just didn't want to hear or know he was on his way.
It is not that Fr. Roch was with me for any great length of time in my life or any great deep conversations we may have had. Some of the laughs we had shared over the years or even some of the sermons he would dive in to when we were just having a casual coffee. It was his vision and again his wisdom. For Fr, Roch to have existed meant a man in the world had an idea and gave it his all and created something which then in turn gave me a great opportunity in my life. I am sure there are tens of thousands of people that are saddened by the news of his passing and many of whom can recall a story or two that will bring a smile to their face even a laugh, a deep chuckle type laugh that Roch himself would have. Like everyone in the world, there are sure to be good and bad stories and when the good outweigh the bad a million to one, then these are my point of focus.
Because Fr. Roch existed in the world I was given an opportunity to begin my life all over again.
Many hands can be raised to testify of similar. I was a wayward type teenager and I had a ton of trouble on my plate. Officials of all kinds knew who I was and the common answer from most was, send him to jail. Though when in court and pleading for my own release it was only because Fr. Roch had established an adolescent treatment center that I was given a chance. I did not know of or had ever heard of the man prior to me being 17 and in a whole bunch of trouble.
Yes indeed, I put in the work on myself and I have lived my life as a sober living person ever since those days, yes it is true. The scenario that came about though that day, I was in court and given a suspended sentence to be in residential treatment in the county of Cork Ireland. When the courts had heard that all the alcohol treatment facilities were for much older adults and that prison was not the place for me, a counselor who had done some work placement in this "new adolescent treatment center in cork" spoke up on my behalf and the judge gave me that chance.
Yes to the judge that day I am grateful, yes to all who spoke on my behalf that day in court I am grateful. Though the gratitude that exists in my life is recalled by the passing of Fr. Roch this week.
Fr. Roch saw that there was no bad in anybody and that every person deserved a chance. His work on keeping kids off the streets of Cork and getting troubled youth jobs and placement on courses and pushing people to better themselves in their own lives is what stood out to me the more and more I got to know the man. It is because he saw that an idea about helping and doing good in his community just like he had taken his vows to do so was what he stood by.
He sure did love his religion too and a few sweets here and there. A scone and some butter, yeah he had a bit of sweet tooth alright. The man helped so many in his lifetime it would be too many to begin getting in to and I can humbly say, I AM EVER GRATEFUL to Fr. Roch for his vision, his putting together teams of excellent staff members and his continued begging to keep us going.
He used to joke about his main profession was that he was a professional beggar as he had taken a vow of poverty when he entered into the brother hood and so that made him by trade a professional beggar.
His begging kept us alive and well in the treatment center and we ate like kings during our time there. We received a small weekly allowance and we had everything at our disposal. Sports centers, summer holidays, schooling, one to one counselling, horse back riding on weekends, sweets and goodies when he would visit (even when he came to give out and call us ungrateful ha-ha) he still brought the sweets/candy.
Top to bottom, managerial staff, a day center, a phase one, two & three residential facilities, a home for youth other than the drug and alcohol rehab, staff living facilities, boy oh boy his begging amassed a massive amount of resources to continue to push on and help people. WOW.
The world has lost one of the greats this week in Fr. Roch's passing. A fond lover of the Kilkenny cats and all the hurling championships. Roch loved sport and part of our routine involved a daily run every morning before breakfast. Heavens knows how I hated getting up to go running every morning, lol. Fr.Roch is a legend and always will be.
I write this post to give a tiny glimmer into how much of an amazing man Roch was. One doesn't meet these kinds of people often and there are often times we will forget those who have helped us in such a subliminal way.
I repeat,
Because Fr. Roch existed in this world I got a second opportunity at life. I have lived, loved and lost and I remain EVER GRATEFUL to the mighty Fr. Roch.
Rest now Father and don't run a muck in heaven, in the words of your father "let them all go to hell" lololololol
September 30, 2022
Autumn, Spring, Summer --- Winter tho?????
Layman's Handbook: A journey to self.The seasons of the year, our calendar year. What about the seasons of our lives? Does my grey/gray hair qualify me for my autumn time?
I prefer my youth as many of us can attest to although the seasons of our lives are not merely moving from youth to elderly and we do not only enjoy our spring and summer in our younger days. The real, as I have experienced it, is that we are ever evolving and changing and moving between our happier peaceful times and through some turbulence from time to time.
When changes are occurring in our week to week, many of us may feel that we are in winter and the storms are beating us up. Though through these moments of turbulence we appear out the other side in our spring time. Like my use of the word turbulence, turbulence we can experience on an airplane ride. Quite often as we are jetting off on holidays and to enjoy our summer, or some other countries summer perhaps? Point being the turbulence is usually a few scary bumps en-route to a much nicer destination and we emerge into a sprinkling of our very own spring or summer.
I am certain of very little about our seasons and I say this very much on purpose. My on purpose is to zone in on, focus upon the little that I am certain of.
We are always going through something. We humans have some weird ass journey going on all of the time and that many of us will experience peace and happy times. We shall also experience times when we shed a tear or three and then of course have many days where we lay around confused.
Though just like the seasons of the year our lives can experience many stages and they may repeat a few times, the good ones and the more severe ones. The ever changing nature of our lives is what I am certain of owing to my own experience. The experiences in life that we gain as we change from spring to winter and back again are quite valuable to us and we perhaps ought to be taking a clearer mental note to ourselves as we travel along the journey of life.
People, they will let us down. It happens and is a natural occurrence. Do not fret, every individual has their own seasons changing too and they might not clash or coincide with your own. No human lets you down on super purpose, they maybe have their own "stuff" going on and had little time to concentrate on taking care of your needs too. Humans are of good nature for the most part.
Timing can be off and we "fail" miss the target so to speak with projects, assignments and the likes. Again that does not represent our worst storm ever in the thick of our winter. Our timing was a little off, that is all. So we like to be prepared and ready for everything and it sucks to miss. Do you wrap up in hat and scarf and carry an umbrella during the summer? Of course not and so, we get a soaking in the summer rain. It happens!
Our thoughts and expectations can be misleading us at times. It happens and we can be preparing for the winter months ahead and be stressed out about the colder months to come. Naturally we like to be prepared. Is preparing to the point of stressing worth it though?
How about we lower our expectations and allow life to happen as it will. Do you ever consider that it is possible to be in summer all of the time? That there is a possibility that our attitude can bring us to a happy place even when the storms are battering us. We can let go of expectations of "how it will be" of "how another will be" and we can find enjoyment and happiness in the place of "I am me".
A lot of the above comes down to our feelings, how and what we do with them. In recent times I have felt deflated somewhat and a little lost. Lost in my direction and experiencing some deeper feelings. Be they sad, bad, mad or glad. They are merely feelings and will pass on just like our seasons. Just like how we do not run to our wardrobe and discard all of our t-shirts and shorts and sandals because the winter is fast approaching. No, we keep 'em because we know the sun will shine again. Our feelings and our thoughts can change through the gears on a daily basis (our seasons).
The vast experiences of my own life do bring me to some small tiny parts that I am certain of.
I am certain that whatever season you are experiencing right now in your life will CHANGE for the better for you. I am certain that ups and downs will occur. What we do about these times and how we approach and how we think about things are all within our control. Again I am certain of these.
SAY THESE OUT LOUD
I have the power to change my mind.
I have the power to change how I think about this.
I have total control over how I choose to be, right now.
The flowers of our springtime can bloom and blossom at any time in our lives when we decide we want them to. Life will throw a whole bunch of situations and scenarios at us and quite often when we least expect it and so, what was all the stress and preparation about? God knows my own life has had all the pieces thrown high in the air a few times and I would have been seen running around in circles making attempts to catch them all as they came down. Now I simply practice aligning myself.
Aligning my own feelings with my thoughts. I see the beauty in enjoying a very hot chocolate beverage during a super cold winter's evening. I too love to feel the sun on my face and by the same token have always loved the itchy face feeling of almost frost bite in winter.
Aligning how I think and how I feel has led me to see the beauty in some of the small things and not stress the storms and the cold. Reminding myself that this journey of my life is ever changing from season to season helps me regain focus. Focus on how it is me that matters most and first in my journey. When we forget this and offer too much to others, we may find that we veer off our own rails a little. The alignment I mention comes about for me through simple breath work. The simple process of focusing on how I breathe.
Take two minutes per day to allow a pause and for you to breathe in the beauty of life and exhale the nasty and all that is poisonous. Two minutes per day all for yourself. That makes up to close to 1 hour per month for you to allow yourself to simply "BE". Twelve hours for an entire year that you are willing to give yourself a chance, an opportunity to be you and pause.
Try it, give it a go and see what new beauty you will find in winter this year.
Not convinced?
I can only suggest to you to give it a go. I am certain that it works if that helps convince you. The real proof is in the pudding, meaning you gotta give it a go to see how it works.
If this will help persuade you maybe?
I am certain I have walked through the fiery hurricanes in hell, I am certain I have been soaked to my core in the torrential rains, I am certain I have seen the full force of nature both in her beauty and her most horrendous, I am certain I have experienced paradise and love, I am certain I have enjoyed the beauty and peace of an autumn sunset where all stood calm and silent.
And for these reasons I encourage you to bring about peace in your life. So give it a go and enjoy the little trick I have learned.
Should you wish to enjoy more and more of the same once you get a taste, then seek out "Layman's Handbook in life" by Aidan Mc Nally
Follow , like & share @twosonstoomany
Now let's BRING ON THIS WINTER!
I prefer my youth as many of us can attest to although the seasons of our lives are not merely moving from youth to elderly and we do not only enjoy our spring and summer in our younger days. The real, as I have experienced it, is that we are ever evolving and changing and moving between our happier peaceful times and through some turbulence from time to time.
When changes are occurring in our week to week, many of us may feel that we are in winter and the storms are beating us up. Though through these moments of turbulence we appear out the other side in our spring time. Like my use of the word turbulence, turbulence we can experience on an airplane ride. Quite often as we are jetting off on holidays and to enjoy our summer, or some other countries summer perhaps? Point being the turbulence is usually a few scary bumps en-route to a much nicer destination and we emerge into a sprinkling of our very own spring or summer.
I am certain of very little about our seasons and I say this very much on purpose. My on purpose is to zone in on, focus upon the little that I am certain of.
We are always going through something. We humans have some weird ass journey going on all of the time and that many of us will experience peace and happy times. We shall also experience times when we shed a tear or three and then of course have many days where we lay around confused.
Though just like the seasons of the year our lives can experience many stages and they may repeat a few times, the good ones and the more severe ones. The ever changing nature of our lives is what I am certain of owing to my own experience. The experiences in life that we gain as we change from spring to winter and back again are quite valuable to us and we perhaps ought to be taking a clearer mental note to ourselves as we travel along the journey of life.
People, they will let us down. It happens and is a natural occurrence. Do not fret, every individual has their own seasons changing too and they might not clash or coincide with your own. No human lets you down on super purpose, they maybe have their own "stuff" going on and had little time to concentrate on taking care of your needs too. Humans are of good nature for the most part.
Timing can be off and we "fail" miss the target so to speak with projects, assignments and the likes. Again that does not represent our worst storm ever in the thick of our winter. Our timing was a little off, that is all. So we like to be prepared and ready for everything and it sucks to miss. Do you wrap up in hat and scarf and carry an umbrella during the summer? Of course not and so, we get a soaking in the summer rain. It happens!
Our thoughts and expectations can be misleading us at times. It happens and we can be preparing for the winter months ahead and be stressed out about the colder months to come. Naturally we like to be prepared. Is preparing to the point of stressing worth it though?
How about we lower our expectations and allow life to happen as it will. Do you ever consider that it is possible to be in summer all of the time? That there is a possibility that our attitude can bring us to a happy place even when the storms are battering us. We can let go of expectations of "how it will be" of "how another will be" and we can find enjoyment and happiness in the place of "I am me".
A lot of the above comes down to our feelings, how and what we do with them. In recent times I have felt deflated somewhat and a little lost. Lost in my direction and experiencing some deeper feelings. Be they sad, bad, mad or glad. They are merely feelings and will pass on just like our seasons. Just like how we do not run to our wardrobe and discard all of our t-shirts and shorts and sandals because the winter is fast approaching. No, we keep 'em because we know the sun will shine again. Our feelings and our thoughts can change through the gears on a daily basis (our seasons).
The vast experiences of my own life do bring me to some small tiny parts that I am certain of.
I am certain that whatever season you are experiencing right now in your life will CHANGE for the better for you. I am certain that ups and downs will occur. What we do about these times and how we approach and how we think about things are all within our control. Again I am certain of these.
SAY THESE OUT LOUD
I have the power to change my mind.
I have the power to change how I think about this.
I have total control over how I choose to be, right now.
The flowers of our springtime can bloom and blossom at any time in our lives when we decide we want them to. Life will throw a whole bunch of situations and scenarios at us and quite often when we least expect it and so, what was all the stress and preparation about? God knows my own life has had all the pieces thrown high in the air a few times and I would have been seen running around in circles making attempts to catch them all as they came down. Now I simply practice aligning myself.
Aligning my own feelings with my thoughts. I see the beauty in enjoying a very hot chocolate beverage during a super cold winter's evening. I too love to feel the sun on my face and by the same token have always loved the itchy face feeling of almost frost bite in winter.
Aligning how I think and how I feel has led me to see the beauty in some of the small things and not stress the storms and the cold. Reminding myself that this journey of my life is ever changing from season to season helps me regain focus. Focus on how it is me that matters most and first in my journey. When we forget this and offer too much to others, we may find that we veer off our own rails a little. The alignment I mention comes about for me through simple breath work. The simple process of focusing on how I breathe.
Take two minutes per day to allow a pause and for you to breathe in the beauty of life and exhale the nasty and all that is poisonous. Two minutes per day all for yourself. That makes up to close to 1 hour per month for you to allow yourself to simply "BE". Twelve hours for an entire year that you are willing to give yourself a chance, an opportunity to be you and pause.
Try it, give it a go and see what new beauty you will find in winter this year.
Not convinced?
I can only suggest to you to give it a go. I am certain that it works if that helps convince you. The real proof is in the pudding, meaning you gotta give it a go to see how it works.
If this will help persuade you maybe?
I am certain I have walked through the fiery hurricanes in hell, I am certain I have been soaked to my core in the torrential rains, I am certain I have seen the full force of nature both in her beauty and her most horrendous, I am certain I have experienced paradise and love, I am certain I have enjoyed the beauty and peace of an autumn sunset where all stood calm and silent.
And for these reasons I encourage you to bring about peace in your life. So give it a go and enjoy the little trick I have learned.
Should you wish to enjoy more and more of the same once you get a taste, then seek out "Layman's Handbook in life" by Aidan Mc Nally
Follow , like & share @twosonstoomany
Now let's BRING ON THIS WINTER!
July 16, 2022
Paradigm, Narrative, Influence....hmmmm
What part do we play in this big "Game of LIFE"?
Yes, you are correct. I am writing this blog piece right now and think of how we are all affected or effected or infected, you can decide which one you are, as I can only speak for myself.
Currently I am infected with some disease of contagious nature or other. Covid 47 it must be known as by now, right?
Jokes aside though. I am writing this and you are reading this piece. Same blog post, just two different angles of what is going on with it.
Why so?
I am also affected by how I do and what I say and to be more effective, I write.
The challenge for me is whether or not I can make the same point and as simply by writing it out, as simply as I could speak it out. Already you have become bored as I have said nothing and there are too many words, like "enough already".
Without the hand gestures and the facial expressions, lacking for tone of voice my point becomes more difficult to explain. So I need to become more effective in my writing, right?
For me as I am writing right now, I have said so much and to anyone who wishes to comment "I got it" or "Oh yeah, I see already". Go for it, comment now.
For all for all of the rest of us, perhaps we keep going a little more. Again being aware that means, me writing and you reading.
They say to have a good blog post, make it interesting, entice the reader to keep going, make it so that the reader cannot wait to get to the next piece. What do ya reckon? Ya wanna get deeper and take a real look?
The paradigm, the narrative, the influence the internet has over us and the bloggers and the social media posts and the daily schiznit that is happening all around of us each and every day.
The question I pose to you is...........
ask yourself, What part do I play in this?
Psychological marketing and subliminal messages have been bombarding us for years. Yes, influencing our decisions on what we purchase and how we live. We have become immune to noticing and believe for the most part that we come up with all of our own ideas, all by ourselves, We have just become deaf to the signs, blind to the constant marketing that goes on.
I do not wish to harp on about how we consume everything on a constant basis though. I wish to draw your attention to SELF. Yes you and me, ourselves, OUR SELF'S.
What are the subliminal type messages you are telling yourself?
How are you contributing to the narrative that is playing out in your own life?
How are you influencing your own decisions?
Yes, I am aware that many can become offended by the idea that they might be kind of a follower or a "slave" to the trends of today. Do not worry, millions of people own i phones too. (Not a jab at i phone users at all)
The point being that we contribute to our own misery and to our own happiness. It is not because our government has decided to enforce some laws or over turn some laws. It is not because the marketers are winning and we feel empty inside so we must impulse shop the hell out of the internet on "prime day".
Nope and nope again. We have such incredible systems and computer type hard drives inside of our very own minds that, what we say to ourselves and by how we replay things to ourselves, we set the tone.
How is this so?
I believe a chapter inside of my book, Layman's Handbook in life, has clearly pointed out some simple ways in which we do these things and some simple remedies to become your own programmer so as to program yourself the exact way you want to be.
(See what I did there? I introduced one of my books. Marketing,, right?)
Of course, I want you to enjoy this book of mine and benefit your life by finding out some "simple tools to change how we live".
So here is a thought I would ask you to consider.
How do we wake up without our alarm clock when it is the day we are heading on vacation? How come we need an alarm clock at all to wake up?
People sure do have some fancy alarm clocks too. Maybe a little less nowadays that we have cell phones. Setting of alarms still continues nonetheless.
So how does this happen?
How come when we fall asleep while whispering to a new born baby, as we wish for them to sleep and it is only six o clock in the evening. How is it that we fall asleep too and never just doze right off and forget that the newborn baby is right beside of us? Without extra pillows or cushions or without any precautions taken, yet we do not roll over and crush our baby? We wake right up and almost jump up, though ever so silent cause we know straight out of sleep mode not to wake the baby. Fully alert before we even wake.
Odd isn't it?
Strange perhaps?
Many books have been written on the subjects of how to manifest things into our own lives. Layman's Handbook does touch on the manifestation a little, though not heavily focused in that direction. When I was writing Layman's Handbook in life, I used to make some jokes with my dear friend, they went something like this.
He says "I was thinking about how people go nuts with road rage"
My reply, "There is a chapter for that" in the "there is an app for that tone". Basically any discussion that came for quite some time, I always replied "There is a chapter for that".
Back to the narrative and paradigm and influence though.
NEWSFLASH
Whatever you subscribe to is how you will see it.
How about like this instead. Whatever you believe in is how it is going to be.
Or,
What I tell myself is how my day will go.
SELF TALK is the single most important influence, narrative and paradigm setting element of our own lives.
Self talk in a negative tone can be compounded by all that society has to bring up each and everyday.
How so?
Here is a simple word "back". That is all a simple word.
We hear things like "back in the day" "feedback" "setback" "playback" "back up plan" for the soldiers reading, we gonna "getback on the getback".
The list really does go on and on.
"I want my figure back" "I want my life back" "If they don't fit I can always bring them back" "Will I get my money back?".
You can probably think of a few dozen more easily yourself.
"Payback is a bitch" "I'll get my own back..".
So what do these do? A few simple uses of the word "back".
They are programming us to think back, yes "think back". Programming ourselves to be in a place that is not in the present. Programming ourselves to hear back, back, back, back, back.....
Just like how we program ourselves to wake up early to head for the airport on time when it is our time to go on holiday, no alarm clock needed. Exactly the same way we have programmed ourselves to "Take care of the baby". We precondition ourselves by telling ourselves.
NEWSFLASH
We tell ourselves things all of the time.
Here is it how it can be used in a way in which we become satisfied, happy and content.
We begin a simple practice of understanding what it is that we are telling ourselves and we begin to change our lives into exactly how we want them to be. We can make a simple task for this week.
In all of our self talk this week we are going to remove three words from our vocabulary.
BUT ---- TRY ---- PROBLEM.
So, that means no more responding or speaking with those three words.
When you make a conscious decision to remove simple words from your vocabulary, you will see amazing transformations in your own life.
I am aware many of you who read this will not make the alterations and so you will not notice any changes.
Those of you who do and do so with intent and purpose will see.
Changing the narrative and the paradigm as you understand it is the most simple exercise you can do.
Become your number one influence.
Perhaps you do not believe me..
There ya go a simple mind hack and life changing strategy for ya in a weekend read of a blog. You must have been looking for a tool right now to be even here.
I end with a wink wink and a thumbs up to you.
Thank you.
Leave your comments below. I can wait, I will check back and see, I am confident of the massive power our words have over us and the huge differences that can occur in our lives once you begin.
Yes, you are correct. I am writing this blog piece right now and think of how we are all affected or effected or infected, you can decide which one you are, as I can only speak for myself.
Currently I am infected with some disease of contagious nature or other. Covid 47 it must be known as by now, right?
Jokes aside though. I am writing this and you are reading this piece. Same blog post, just two different angles of what is going on with it.
Why so?
I am also affected by how I do and what I say and to be more effective, I write.
The challenge for me is whether or not I can make the same point and as simply by writing it out, as simply as I could speak it out. Already you have become bored as I have said nothing and there are too many words, like "enough already".
Without the hand gestures and the facial expressions, lacking for tone of voice my point becomes more difficult to explain. So I need to become more effective in my writing, right?
For me as I am writing right now, I have said so much and to anyone who wishes to comment "I got it" or "Oh yeah, I see already". Go for it, comment now.
For all for all of the rest of us, perhaps we keep going a little more. Again being aware that means, me writing and you reading.
They say to have a good blog post, make it interesting, entice the reader to keep going, make it so that the reader cannot wait to get to the next piece. What do ya reckon? Ya wanna get deeper and take a real look?
The paradigm, the narrative, the influence the internet has over us and the bloggers and the social media posts and the daily schiznit that is happening all around of us each and every day.
The question I pose to you is...........
ask yourself, What part do I play in this?
Psychological marketing and subliminal messages have been bombarding us for years. Yes, influencing our decisions on what we purchase and how we live. We have become immune to noticing and believe for the most part that we come up with all of our own ideas, all by ourselves, We have just become deaf to the signs, blind to the constant marketing that goes on.
I do not wish to harp on about how we consume everything on a constant basis though. I wish to draw your attention to SELF. Yes you and me, ourselves, OUR SELF'S.
What are the subliminal type messages you are telling yourself?
How are you contributing to the narrative that is playing out in your own life?
How are you influencing your own decisions?
Yes, I am aware that many can become offended by the idea that they might be kind of a follower or a "slave" to the trends of today. Do not worry, millions of people own i phones too. (Not a jab at i phone users at all)
The point being that we contribute to our own misery and to our own happiness. It is not because our government has decided to enforce some laws or over turn some laws. It is not because the marketers are winning and we feel empty inside so we must impulse shop the hell out of the internet on "prime day".
Nope and nope again. We have such incredible systems and computer type hard drives inside of our very own minds that, what we say to ourselves and by how we replay things to ourselves, we set the tone.
How is this so?
I believe a chapter inside of my book, Layman's Handbook in life, has clearly pointed out some simple ways in which we do these things and some simple remedies to become your own programmer so as to program yourself the exact way you want to be.
(See what I did there? I introduced one of my books. Marketing,, right?)
Of course, I want you to enjoy this book of mine and benefit your life by finding out some "simple tools to change how we live".
So here is a thought I would ask you to consider.
How do we wake up without our alarm clock when it is the day we are heading on vacation? How come we need an alarm clock at all to wake up?
People sure do have some fancy alarm clocks too. Maybe a little less nowadays that we have cell phones. Setting of alarms still continues nonetheless.
So how does this happen?
How come when we fall asleep while whispering to a new born baby, as we wish for them to sleep and it is only six o clock in the evening. How is it that we fall asleep too and never just doze right off and forget that the newborn baby is right beside of us? Without extra pillows or cushions or without any precautions taken, yet we do not roll over and crush our baby? We wake right up and almost jump up, though ever so silent cause we know straight out of sleep mode not to wake the baby. Fully alert before we even wake.
Odd isn't it?
Strange perhaps?
Many books have been written on the subjects of how to manifest things into our own lives. Layman's Handbook does touch on the manifestation a little, though not heavily focused in that direction. When I was writing Layman's Handbook in life, I used to make some jokes with my dear friend, they went something like this.
He says "I was thinking about how people go nuts with road rage"
My reply, "There is a chapter for that" in the "there is an app for that tone". Basically any discussion that came for quite some time, I always replied "There is a chapter for that".
Back to the narrative and paradigm and influence though.
NEWSFLASH
Whatever you subscribe to is how you will see it.
How about like this instead. Whatever you believe in is how it is going to be.
Or,
What I tell myself is how my day will go.
SELF TALK is the single most important influence, narrative and paradigm setting element of our own lives.
Self talk in a negative tone can be compounded by all that society has to bring up each and everyday.
How so?
Here is a simple word "back". That is all a simple word.
We hear things like "back in the day" "feedback" "setback" "playback" "back up plan" for the soldiers reading, we gonna "getback on the getback".
The list really does go on and on.
"I want my figure back" "I want my life back" "If they don't fit I can always bring them back" "Will I get my money back?".
You can probably think of a few dozen more easily yourself.
"Payback is a bitch" "I'll get my own back..".
So what do these do? A few simple uses of the word "back".
They are programming us to think back, yes "think back". Programming ourselves to be in a place that is not in the present. Programming ourselves to hear back, back, back, back, back.....
Just like how we program ourselves to wake up early to head for the airport on time when it is our time to go on holiday, no alarm clock needed. Exactly the same way we have programmed ourselves to "Take care of the baby". We precondition ourselves by telling ourselves.
NEWSFLASH
We tell ourselves things all of the time.
Here is it how it can be used in a way in which we become satisfied, happy and content.
We begin a simple practice of understanding what it is that we are telling ourselves and we begin to change our lives into exactly how we want them to be. We can make a simple task for this week.
In all of our self talk this week we are going to remove three words from our vocabulary.
BUT ---- TRY ---- PROBLEM.
So, that means no more responding or speaking with those three words.
When you make a conscious decision to remove simple words from your vocabulary, you will see amazing transformations in your own life.
I am aware many of you who read this will not make the alterations and so you will not notice any changes.
Those of you who do and do so with intent and purpose will see.
Changing the narrative and the paradigm as you understand it is the most simple exercise you can do.
Become your number one influence.
Perhaps you do not believe me..
There ya go a simple mind hack and life changing strategy for ya in a weekend read of a blog. You must have been looking for a tool right now to be even here.
I end with a wink wink and a thumbs up to you.
Thank you.
Leave your comments below. I can wait, I will check back and see, I am confident of the massive power our words have over us and the huge differences that can occur in our lives once you begin.
May 24, 2022
The POWER.......
Of love!
Of choice!
Of suggestion!
Of the mind!
Of a word!
Yes indeed the list goes on & on.
The real power and I write this for you today.
The POWER WITHIN!
It is not from outside that we gain strength nor is it from friends & family, though these are quite nice to have around.
It is within you.
Yup, you!
Why mention this today?
Over the years I have received feedback from readers. Some of you have read my books and others my blog posts, some of you have been readers of my random facebook posts or tweets even. For all of this support to my writing career, I am deeply thankful to you all.
Over the years and the feedback, ah yes, that is where we were.
I have noticed that there have been many replies to some of my internet posts that read something like these below,
~ Thank you for your post
~ I needed to hear that today
~ So much sense, thank you
~ You do not know how much this means for me today
~ Just what I needed to hear today
These are the reasons that I say I write this post for you today. We may not know each other "yet" or we may know each other very well. I write what pops into my head on this blog, as it is titled "random thoughts". And I write it for me just as much I do for you.
Ya see, there are days that happen when I need a reminder too, I may need a little time to reflect. You know those kind of pep talks that we give to ourselves, yes those. I am reminded and reminding myself today that the power of strength in our lives comes from the inside. The power within.
How about if I write it out a little differently ~ The power within YOU!
Does it hit home, make more sense now?
I know "you got this" I am also quite confident that "all will be fine". Easy little tidbits to write and say, much harder to absorb and fully believe, right?
The power within you is miraculous.
The power within you is unstoppable.
The power within you is unmatched.
The power within you is strength.
Stronger than you may believe right now.
I hope you see fit to repeat those 4 sentences above, a few times or more lol.
How can I be so sure though?
I have lived through some wonderul times in my life and I have undergone drastic changes in my life too. I have lived through some of the unimaginable, both good and horrid experiences. What these experiences have given to me has been a road map to finding my own power from within. My own strength, if you like. For this reason I can be confident that you too have the same capabilites as me. You have the strength you need to overcome and adapt to whatever it is that you are facing today.
It is not me you have to trust, as in, trust my words. It is trust in the belief that inside of you there is enough strength and power to carry you through. Have faith, have confidence & believe in the power within you.
Please do remind yourself, just like I do.
The power within me and all of my strength comes from me.
For all of my books and the reasons behind how I can post this blog post with certainty, check me out on amazon
Aidan Mc Nally
Website ~ amcnallyauthor.com
Have a wondeful rest of your week.
Of choice!
Of suggestion!
Of the mind!
Of a word!
Yes indeed the list goes on & on.
The real power and I write this for you today.
The POWER WITHIN!
It is not from outside that we gain strength nor is it from friends & family, though these are quite nice to have around.
It is within you.
Yup, you!
Why mention this today?
Over the years I have received feedback from readers. Some of you have read my books and others my blog posts, some of you have been readers of my random facebook posts or tweets even. For all of this support to my writing career, I am deeply thankful to you all.
Over the years and the feedback, ah yes, that is where we were.
I have noticed that there have been many replies to some of my internet posts that read something like these below,
~ Thank you for your post
~ I needed to hear that today
~ So much sense, thank you
~ You do not know how much this means for me today
~ Just what I needed to hear today
These are the reasons that I say I write this post for you today. We may not know each other "yet" or we may know each other very well. I write what pops into my head on this blog, as it is titled "random thoughts". And I write it for me just as much I do for you.
Ya see, there are days that happen when I need a reminder too, I may need a little time to reflect. You know those kind of pep talks that we give to ourselves, yes those. I am reminded and reminding myself today that the power of strength in our lives comes from the inside. The power within.
How about if I write it out a little differently ~ The power within YOU!
Does it hit home, make more sense now?
I know "you got this" I am also quite confident that "all will be fine". Easy little tidbits to write and say, much harder to absorb and fully believe, right?
The power within you is miraculous.
The power within you is unstoppable.
The power within you is unmatched.
The power within you is strength.
Stronger than you may believe right now.
I hope you see fit to repeat those 4 sentences above, a few times or more lol.
How can I be so sure though?
I have lived through some wonderul times in my life and I have undergone drastic changes in my life too. I have lived through some of the unimaginable, both good and horrid experiences. What these experiences have given to me has been a road map to finding my own power from within. My own strength, if you like. For this reason I can be confident that you too have the same capabilites as me. You have the strength you need to overcome and adapt to whatever it is that you are facing today.
It is not me you have to trust, as in, trust my words. It is trust in the belief that inside of you there is enough strength and power to carry you through. Have faith, have confidence & believe in the power within you.
Please do remind yourself, just like I do.
The power within me and all of my strength comes from me.
For all of my books and the reasons behind how I can post this blog post with certainty, check me out on amazon
Aidan Mc Nally
Website ~ amcnallyauthor.com
Have a wondeful rest of your week.
March 30, 2022
Do you close your eyes when?.....
A thought for the day, my day or your day. It is okay you can own it all to yourself, if ya wanna.
Do you close your eyes? When.... Drum roll please, wait for it, wait for it.
Nope not during sex, ya filthy minded fecker.
Do you close your eyes when you use shampoo?
Ya see, it got me thinking about how we develope over the years and how we have many behaviors. There are two main types of behaviors, 1. is called instinctive behavior & the second is called learned behavior.
Instinctive behavior, what? It is the things we do on instinct. To keep it basic, we have instincts as we are part of, let's call it the animal kingdom for want of a better term to understand. We, like animals have instincts that kick in based upon a whole bunch of chemical actions and reactions inside of our brains and our body. The very common one, well common enough that one may have heard of it before, "fight or flight" when we sense danger there are different chemicals that begin to rush around our mind and our body. These help us to make the decision of, should we "do a legger" ~ make a run for it.
OR
Do we stand our ground and fight. Based upon the chemical levels activated is where our instinct of should we run or should we stand our ground comes from. I am using a basic example and though things can get pretty deep when dive deeper into psychology and the chemistry of the body, the basic idea is of our instinctive nature. A baby cries for food, this is instinct, instinct to survive. The baby needs food. The baby will get up and walk eventually which is a combination of instinct of survival to climb to two feet and walk and run, although it is also a learned behavior activity. Why so? The baby is watching everybody else walking around and so the baby has learned that in order to get to the fridge and back and enjoy some food that it instinctively craves, best get up and walk.
There are a whole bunch of ways in which to shed a light on what is instinctive behavior and what is learned behavior.
So, do you close your eyes when your wash your hair with shampoo?
Is this instinctively or is it learned? Once upon a time your parent (mom or dad) said, close your eyes so the soap doesn't sting your eyes.
This could have been the way you learned how to always close your eyes when shampooing your hair. This would be an example of something that was learned.
Again, it is possible to criss cross with instinctive, because our eyelids react very quickly to protect our eyes. Many times without ever thinking. A reflex response to survive and protect. When we were growing in the womb, the body was protecting our eyes all of the time naturally without any great amount or thought on our own part. We do have a simple protective reflex response of instinct to protect our own bodies in the continued act of survival. A very simple, basic core value of being human is that we instictively will survive. That is in our nature.
So did we learn to protect our eyes from the shampoo or do we do it instinctively?
Answer below with a comment.
The intetesting part of the thought for today is that when I look at this concept and take a position of aligning it to leaned behaviour, I think also of how we can learn a lot from this.
Here is the light bulb moment.
When we tilt our head backwards so that all the water is running towards the back of our head and our forehead is the highest point on our body while washing our hair, the shampoo will not go into our eyes and we can keep our eyes open, if we choose to do so.
Try it the next time you wash your hair, tilt your head back and let the shampoo and water all flow towards your back.
So why mention it right?
I wish to highlight that whether instinct or protective reflex reactions or learned behavior, there are some simple techniques that can be applied to bring about a change. Tilt our head back, no need to close our eyes. For me as I think about it, that is a simple adjustment to bring about a change from what we have become habitual in doing.
Do you think in your own life that you may have a few learned behaviors that hinder you or have brought about difficult situations for you in your life? Based upon how we learned to react to others. How we "learned" to survive?
Instinctively we will gasp for breath in any life threatening situation, we will instinctively survive without ever having to think about it. When we think about it, we begin to kick in a whole bunch of learned behaviors on how we think we should be in order to survive. Survive of course can be as simple as "make it through the day".
No matter the environment where we grew up or what the home life was like, there are ways to break habits of learned behavior. There are simple adjustments that can be made to bring about happier more enjoying moments into our lives. All we have to do is be willing to make some slight adjustments.
When you think that you cannot break habits of learned behaviors, go take a shower and tilt your head back while you are doing the shampooing. For me it has been important to realise that when I allow my mind and my body to go on to auto pilot and do less thinking, the peace and enjoyment begins to flow.
Hey, maybe peace and enjoyment of life is not your gig, perhaps your own "normal" requires complicated and chaos. I really do not know. These are things for you to research and decide upon.
I want to present to you the avenue of possibility. When we simplify our approach and do less of the over active thinking, we can begin to see that learned behavior is something that can be turned on it's head. We can begin to learn new, more simple ways. We can change.
Layman's Handbook in life by Aidan Mc Nally
Full of, "Simple tools to change how we live"
Grab a copy from amazon, available on paperback or kindle e reader.
Have a great April & keep the soap out yo eyes.
Do you close your eyes? When.... Drum roll please, wait for it, wait for it.
Nope not during sex, ya filthy minded fecker.
Do you close your eyes when you use shampoo?
Ya see, it got me thinking about how we develope over the years and how we have many behaviors. There are two main types of behaviors, 1. is called instinctive behavior & the second is called learned behavior.
Instinctive behavior, what? It is the things we do on instinct. To keep it basic, we have instincts as we are part of, let's call it the animal kingdom for want of a better term to understand. We, like animals have instincts that kick in based upon a whole bunch of chemical actions and reactions inside of our brains and our body. The very common one, well common enough that one may have heard of it before, "fight or flight" when we sense danger there are different chemicals that begin to rush around our mind and our body. These help us to make the decision of, should we "do a legger" ~ make a run for it.
OR
Do we stand our ground and fight. Based upon the chemical levels activated is where our instinct of should we run or should we stand our ground comes from. I am using a basic example and though things can get pretty deep when dive deeper into psychology and the chemistry of the body, the basic idea is of our instinctive nature. A baby cries for food, this is instinct, instinct to survive. The baby needs food. The baby will get up and walk eventually which is a combination of instinct of survival to climb to two feet and walk and run, although it is also a learned behavior activity. Why so? The baby is watching everybody else walking around and so the baby has learned that in order to get to the fridge and back and enjoy some food that it instinctively craves, best get up and walk.
There are a whole bunch of ways in which to shed a light on what is instinctive behavior and what is learned behavior.
So, do you close your eyes when your wash your hair with shampoo?
Is this instinctively or is it learned? Once upon a time your parent (mom or dad) said, close your eyes so the soap doesn't sting your eyes.
This could have been the way you learned how to always close your eyes when shampooing your hair. This would be an example of something that was learned.
Again, it is possible to criss cross with instinctive, because our eyelids react very quickly to protect our eyes. Many times without ever thinking. A reflex response to survive and protect. When we were growing in the womb, the body was protecting our eyes all of the time naturally without any great amount or thought on our own part. We do have a simple protective reflex response of instinct to protect our own bodies in the continued act of survival. A very simple, basic core value of being human is that we instictively will survive. That is in our nature.
So did we learn to protect our eyes from the shampoo or do we do it instinctively?
Answer below with a comment.
The intetesting part of the thought for today is that when I look at this concept and take a position of aligning it to leaned behaviour, I think also of how we can learn a lot from this.
Here is the light bulb moment.
When we tilt our head backwards so that all the water is running towards the back of our head and our forehead is the highest point on our body while washing our hair, the shampoo will not go into our eyes and we can keep our eyes open, if we choose to do so.
Try it the next time you wash your hair, tilt your head back and let the shampoo and water all flow towards your back.
So why mention it right?
I wish to highlight that whether instinct or protective reflex reactions or learned behavior, there are some simple techniques that can be applied to bring about a change. Tilt our head back, no need to close our eyes. For me as I think about it, that is a simple adjustment to bring about a change from what we have become habitual in doing.
Do you think in your own life that you may have a few learned behaviors that hinder you or have brought about difficult situations for you in your life? Based upon how we learned to react to others. How we "learned" to survive?
Instinctively we will gasp for breath in any life threatening situation, we will instinctively survive without ever having to think about it. When we think about it, we begin to kick in a whole bunch of learned behaviors on how we think we should be in order to survive. Survive of course can be as simple as "make it through the day".
No matter the environment where we grew up or what the home life was like, there are ways to break habits of learned behavior. There are simple adjustments that can be made to bring about happier more enjoying moments into our lives. All we have to do is be willing to make some slight adjustments.
When you think that you cannot break habits of learned behaviors, go take a shower and tilt your head back while you are doing the shampooing. For me it has been important to realise that when I allow my mind and my body to go on to auto pilot and do less thinking, the peace and enjoyment begins to flow.
Hey, maybe peace and enjoyment of life is not your gig, perhaps your own "normal" requires complicated and chaos. I really do not know. These are things for you to research and decide upon.
I want to present to you the avenue of possibility. When we simplify our approach and do less of the over active thinking, we can begin to see that learned behavior is something that can be turned on it's head. We can begin to learn new, more simple ways. We can change.
Layman's Handbook in life by Aidan Mc Nally
Full of, "Simple tools to change how we live"
Grab a copy from amazon, available on paperback or kindle e reader.
Have a great April & keep the soap out yo eyes.
March 6, 2022
Expertise ~ what is yours?
Being an expert in something, anything. What does that mean to you? What can you provide by being an expert?
We all have talents of a very vast range of "things". There are athletes, musicians and actors alike who provide us with entertainment. There are scientists who have been center stage over the past two years by working tirelessly to bring us covid vacinations.
Makes me pause for a moment, some scientific experts have never had so much work on their plate as of the last two years. The entire world definitely became dependent on their expertise.
So what is yours?
Where and when do you see your expertise kicking in and giving the good folks of the world your expert advice and opinions?
Present day we have experts in war in our daily news feeds. Of course military Generals etc have lived an entire life devouted to focusing and dedicating their minds to being experts in war and war manoeuvres. Sad but true that such expertise is highly necessary.
In 2019 I wrote a book where I delivered to you my own expertise. The book is titled, Layman's Handbook in life and subtitled, A journey to SELF.
All that I have learned in my short 40 something years has been quite complicated as I looked back. My expertise in life, rebuilding, resilience, change, overcoming, triumph and understanding. My own emotional understanding and the most important, a pathway to a peaceful mind.
Why did I share these insights and why did I break the topics down into simple terms, Layman's terms?
In my life learning I have found that we as humans are very complicated even on our own surface level. I also found that many who find themselves in situations where they are crying out for "HELP" are less likely to wish for a book full of psychology or psychiatric terminology. I shared a book containing "simple tools to change how we live".
My own expertise has not been a career of writing. My expertise has been in living. Living to achieve each and every day. I have not learned or taken notes in a university class, as a matter of fact I could be labelled as a "high school drop out". I mention this to give you an idea of the real position of where I have gained my own perspective.
Life coaching is definitely an active industry in our world today, alongside mental health focus and the pursuit of emotional well-being.
I have learned in my lifetime that these are the key factors in our own success. Quietening our own mind long enough for us to hear our own heart beat. Long enough to allow our universe in and allow our own expertise rise to the fore. We all have talents and to balance this we all have learned negative drawbacks. When we invest in ourselves we are feeding our talents and our expertise. Your expertise could be found in manual craftsmanship, culinary, understanding and empathy, investing and financials, perspective and insight. They are so many areas of life where you are super valuable. I simply suggest you give yourself your own best chance.
My own expertise is born out of living and doing. Going through it and getting through"it".
I am a person who understands what it is to feel like when we want to give up, give in so to speak. I am a person who understands the simplistic approach and how to find it.
I titled the book "Layman's Handbook" as I do not have any official title with letters or doctorates. I am not a university educated graduate and am merely a "layman". Understanding that life is much more beautiful when we get super basic about our approach.
I suggest you invest in yourself and read my book Layman's Handbook in life. I suggest you seek out the simple tools in life and quit complicating things more than needs be. We are complicated by design, when we slow our life down for small moments we can begin to see our own expertise, we can then begin to harness that power and share with the world and basically improve our fellow humans lives.
You have your talents, you have your beauty, you have your strength.
Let's begin to tap in to them. Let's get you going in 2022.
Ignite a fire in yourself with any of my books or contact me for one on one conditioning of our lives. I am ready and willing if you are.
My expertise shared brings greater value to my life by having more achievers out there in the world. Well-being has never been so important. This is true value in life.
Enjoy March, improve April 👍😉👍
We all have talents of a very vast range of "things". There are athletes, musicians and actors alike who provide us with entertainment. There are scientists who have been center stage over the past two years by working tirelessly to bring us covid vacinations.
Makes me pause for a moment, some scientific experts have never had so much work on their plate as of the last two years. The entire world definitely became dependent on their expertise.
So what is yours?
Where and when do you see your expertise kicking in and giving the good folks of the world your expert advice and opinions?
Present day we have experts in war in our daily news feeds. Of course military Generals etc have lived an entire life devouted to focusing and dedicating their minds to being experts in war and war manoeuvres. Sad but true that such expertise is highly necessary.
In 2019 I wrote a book where I delivered to you my own expertise. The book is titled, Layman's Handbook in life and subtitled, A journey to SELF.
All that I have learned in my short 40 something years has been quite complicated as I looked back. My expertise in life, rebuilding, resilience, change, overcoming, triumph and understanding. My own emotional understanding and the most important, a pathway to a peaceful mind.
Why did I share these insights and why did I break the topics down into simple terms, Layman's terms?
In my life learning I have found that we as humans are very complicated even on our own surface level. I also found that many who find themselves in situations where they are crying out for "HELP" are less likely to wish for a book full of psychology or psychiatric terminology. I shared a book containing "simple tools to change how we live".
My own expertise has not been a career of writing. My expertise has been in living. Living to achieve each and every day. I have not learned or taken notes in a university class, as a matter of fact I could be labelled as a "high school drop out". I mention this to give you an idea of the real position of where I have gained my own perspective.
Life coaching is definitely an active industry in our world today, alongside mental health focus and the pursuit of emotional well-being.
I have learned in my lifetime that these are the key factors in our own success. Quietening our own mind long enough for us to hear our own heart beat. Long enough to allow our universe in and allow our own expertise rise to the fore. We all have talents and to balance this we all have learned negative drawbacks. When we invest in ourselves we are feeding our talents and our expertise. Your expertise could be found in manual craftsmanship, culinary, understanding and empathy, investing and financials, perspective and insight. They are so many areas of life where you are super valuable. I simply suggest you give yourself your own best chance.
My own expertise is born out of living and doing. Going through it and getting through"it".
I am a person who understands what it is to feel like when we want to give up, give in so to speak. I am a person who understands the simplistic approach and how to find it.
I titled the book "Layman's Handbook" as I do not have any official title with letters or doctorates. I am not a university educated graduate and am merely a "layman". Understanding that life is much more beautiful when we get super basic about our approach.
I suggest you invest in yourself and read my book Layman's Handbook in life. I suggest you seek out the simple tools in life and quit complicating things more than needs be. We are complicated by design, when we slow our life down for small moments we can begin to see our own expertise, we can then begin to harness that power and share with the world and basically improve our fellow humans lives.
You have your talents, you have your beauty, you have your strength.
Let's begin to tap in to them. Let's get you going in 2022.
Ignite a fire in yourself with any of my books or contact me for one on one conditioning of our lives. I am ready and willing if you are.
My expertise shared brings greater value to my life by having more achievers out there in the world. Well-being has never been so important. This is true value in life.
Enjoy March, improve April 👍😉👍
March 2, 2022
Russia ~ Ukraine, conspiracy theorists join in
#Russia, who is not talking about this country these days, right?
1st, I feel it is important to express my deepest sympathies and encouragement to all of the people of the Ukraine. The civilians in the streets fighting for their freedom to continue a free democratic nation, to the bravest miltary the world has seen since the young men who stormed the beaches of Normandy. To the president and all his political cabinet and to all those who found themselves in refugee status this past week.
A pause for all of the Ukraine citizens, to mark our respect for them all, individually and collectively.
Let's discuss some world happenings over the past few years. You can Google or research what I mention in this post below.
2014 / 2015 / 2016
Rusians war with Ukraine over the southeast of their country. Nobody took notice.
Russians take practice of miltary exercises to a new level in Syria. Nobody took much notice.
All the while the EU was starting to panic over the "brexit" situation. A true sideshow.
How and ever the EU presidency said no to british troops taking part in assisting US troops in Iraq. The british went in anyways. Was not their best move how and ever the result became a vote and referendum to remove themselves from the EUROPEAN UNION via brexit.
My view of brexit has always been that when war occurs they, the British will not have to ask permission from any body such as the EU to engage.
Politically, the United Kingdom went through leaders like they wete yruly and literally going out of fashion. Seriously though that lady May sure did seem lile Montgomery Burns twin sister.
Bottom line they got out of the union and have been set free to engage in any war as they see fit from point of brexit forward.
The Rusians engaged in heavy internet tactics to help former president Trum to become elected as United states president. Another sideshow.
I received a direct message from twitter after the elections were over that my ywitter account had been identified as having been contacted by a Russian known account involved in spamming for the US election campaigns.
2014/2015/2016/2017/2018
President Obama made a new friendship oact with Cuba, do you all remember the time when this occured? Yup Obama went there and shook hands and all the other good press op stuff. A new fri3ndship with the US had been created. Fid you also know that at the same week when Obama was making friends with Cuba, Russia decided to donate fighter planes to Nicaragua. Strange move right? The fighter planes were 2 in total, the reason they qete donated was to assist Nicaragua in monitoring drug trafficking throughout their entire country.
Wait a miniute though, All those narcotics are heading for the United States. Why on earth would Russia care about this?
One only needs 1 plane to train pilots and engineers. Although 2 planes would be more than sufficient to train envineers and lear what infrastructure might be need to support sich planes on any given day that Russia might need such support.
When Putin was losing Cuba, immediately planes, war planes are sent to Nicaragua... Yup close enough for refuelling. Look it up, you do not have take my word for it.
Yes these things wete taking place while sideshows began to run like, "Make America Great".
Russia in Syria, the British in Syria, the US in Syria. Everyone trying to be oh so helpful to the Syrian people through their own justifications.
Of course we must not forget that while the might Putin had been hard at work planning, the Chinese were also hard at work building man made islands off of their own coast.
You may remember there were continuing riots in Hong Kong against the communist government. A lityls sife show of their own while they continued building these off shore isalnds. The international community got confused because these waters were 800 miles off the Chinese shore. China claimed it to be their own waters and continued building. US navy ships patrolled up and down watching in observation wondering what on earth are the Chinese up to? These man made islands, yup you guessed it, long enough and wide enough to allow for miltary planes to land and refuel. Would save them, the Chinese a 1,600 mile trip for plane refuelling, should they ever need to. Why on earth would they need that?
So Trump got in and the best way to keep focus off of China Island building and Russian friendships with Nicaragua was simple. Lets create another sideshow, along came Polly. Yes, North Korea and Trump. No need to focus on what is Putin doing? What are the Chinese doing? What are the Nicaraguans doing?
Never mind what might have been going on with Iran ~ Israel ~ China on money fronts.
Now we jump forward and we see center stage failed brexit talks and discussions. Delayed brexit etc etc.
Ahh yes the financial markets. What great growth was seen through Trump's time. Then in December of 2021 we see big stakes of sell offs in many ot the big companies. Blocks or chunks of sales. Russian money pulled out ahead or time.
Growth of bitcoin ~ untraceable funds to a point, another big sell off prior to Putins invasion of Ukraine. I believe we can call it an "illegal" invasion. Though war crime is not the same as street crime cause we have been seeing the crime happen and nobody is ready to apprenhend the criminal.
I do believe at this time it is fair to say that Putin is deserving of a Bin Laden type apprehension.
Anyway let's get back to knowing that the UK succeeded in brexit.
Russia know Trump will never win again.
China has their Islands built.
Cuba russian connections weakening.
Nicaragua have Russian fighter planes to work with.....
Key the perfect time for the next sideshow.
"Hey China, what could be potentially a lethal disease that would throw the west into disarray?"
"Yeah feck it, release that covid stuff", "Trump is done and we don't need him any more, let's rank up the messing".
Putin wants the soviet union back, this time no iron curtain, a world power. Oil and gas rich, lets make more money they say.
The US and the UN are not totally afraid of Putin. The US military alongwide the UK military and the UN troops coule bring Putin to a halt within about 60 seconds. Yes that simple. Fighter jets and accurate missiles would take out Putins war effort in 60 seconds or less. They are just not aure what the result could be. The Chinese to take ownership of US over money debts. Launch retaliation attacks? Nicaragua to be a refuelling station for Russian and Chinese alike as they fly in and around the Americas with trained engineers on hand.
All this time you thought investing in Amazon and bitcoin and google were all genius moves.
Only a short time ago during covid, oil was being given away and as cheap as it had ever been. Oh look a war effort and it is back at the highest ever.
A funny thing to note is these attacks always come when a democratic president is in office in the Whitehouse. An attacking offensive move comes when the Republicans are in the office. Funny or strange really.
No more Trump and no more covid then what.
Let's tease war on thw whole world. Push oil prices higher and get more money in our bank afyer selling out our tech stocks and start heavily buying up oil.
The signs are always there, they present themselves. All you have to do is follow them if you want to make money. Do you really want to make money though? While venezuelans are starving and rioting for their survival. Russians live a controlled life. Chinese live a controlled life. And Ukranians must suffer futile deaths and loss of freedom....
I feel confident that the military of the United States has considered all angles and are ready when the time is right. The UK too, a well oiled war machine.
Putin could be taken out and screw any martyr shit.
Put an end to human loss of life.
We broght the entire world to a stand still over lockdowns and no freedom of movement of pwople during covid. Why?
To "Stay at home, saves lives"
So what are we the humans of the world doing now to save Ukrainian lives?
Joe Biden can give a wonderful speech and yell how taxes will be done better for everybody. Well how about this. Each and every nation of the world are failing the Ukrainian people right now when they need assitance the most.
Screw your taxes and your systems as you are a collective of true failures.
Take the power play and remove Putin. Blow up their "convoy" of invasion troops and send them home. The russians that is of course. Restore peace and restore life to 1 million refugees
Take control of Chinese islands in international waters.
Rebuild Ukraine, and SAVE LIVES... Or you politically stand for nothing. Your sysyem is for nothing.
Putin is merely highlighting how an entire world can be afraid and nervous about 1 man...
Come on get a grip..
Your opinion is appreciated in the comments.
1st, I feel it is important to express my deepest sympathies and encouragement to all of the people of the Ukraine. The civilians in the streets fighting for their freedom to continue a free democratic nation, to the bravest miltary the world has seen since the young men who stormed the beaches of Normandy. To the president and all his political cabinet and to all those who found themselves in refugee status this past week.
A pause for all of the Ukraine citizens, to mark our respect for them all, individually and collectively.
Let's discuss some world happenings over the past few years. You can Google or research what I mention in this post below.
2014 / 2015 / 2016
Rusians war with Ukraine over the southeast of their country. Nobody took notice.
Russians take practice of miltary exercises to a new level in Syria. Nobody took much notice.
All the while the EU was starting to panic over the "brexit" situation. A true sideshow.
How and ever the EU presidency said no to british troops taking part in assisting US troops in Iraq. The british went in anyways. Was not their best move how and ever the result became a vote and referendum to remove themselves from the EUROPEAN UNION via brexit.
My view of brexit has always been that when war occurs they, the British will not have to ask permission from any body such as the EU to engage.
Politically, the United Kingdom went through leaders like they wete yruly and literally going out of fashion. Seriously though that lady May sure did seem lile Montgomery Burns twin sister.
Bottom line they got out of the union and have been set free to engage in any war as they see fit from point of brexit forward.
The Rusians engaged in heavy internet tactics to help former president Trum to become elected as United states president. Another sideshow.
I received a direct message from twitter after the elections were over that my ywitter account had been identified as having been contacted by a Russian known account involved in spamming for the US election campaigns.
2014/2015/2016/2017/2018
President Obama made a new friendship oact with Cuba, do you all remember the time when this occured? Yup Obama went there and shook hands and all the other good press op stuff. A new fri3ndship with the US had been created. Fid you also know that at the same week when Obama was making friends with Cuba, Russia decided to donate fighter planes to Nicaragua. Strange move right? The fighter planes were 2 in total, the reason they qete donated was to assist Nicaragua in monitoring drug trafficking throughout their entire country.
Wait a miniute though, All those narcotics are heading for the United States. Why on earth would Russia care about this?
One only needs 1 plane to train pilots and engineers. Although 2 planes would be more than sufficient to train envineers and lear what infrastructure might be need to support sich planes on any given day that Russia might need such support.
When Putin was losing Cuba, immediately planes, war planes are sent to Nicaragua... Yup close enough for refuelling. Look it up, you do not have take my word for it.
Yes these things wete taking place while sideshows began to run like, "Make America Great".
Russia in Syria, the British in Syria, the US in Syria. Everyone trying to be oh so helpful to the Syrian people through their own justifications.
Of course we must not forget that while the might Putin had been hard at work planning, the Chinese were also hard at work building man made islands off of their own coast.
You may remember there were continuing riots in Hong Kong against the communist government. A lityls sife show of their own while they continued building these off shore isalnds. The international community got confused because these waters were 800 miles off the Chinese shore. China claimed it to be their own waters and continued building. US navy ships patrolled up and down watching in observation wondering what on earth are the Chinese up to? These man made islands, yup you guessed it, long enough and wide enough to allow for miltary planes to land and refuel. Would save them, the Chinese a 1,600 mile trip for plane refuelling, should they ever need to. Why on earth would they need that?
So Trump got in and the best way to keep focus off of China Island building and Russian friendships with Nicaragua was simple. Lets create another sideshow, along came Polly. Yes, North Korea and Trump. No need to focus on what is Putin doing? What are the Chinese doing? What are the Nicaraguans doing?
Never mind what might have been going on with Iran ~ Israel ~ China on money fronts.
Now we jump forward and we see center stage failed brexit talks and discussions. Delayed brexit etc etc.
Ahh yes the financial markets. What great growth was seen through Trump's time. Then in December of 2021 we see big stakes of sell offs in many ot the big companies. Blocks or chunks of sales. Russian money pulled out ahead or time.
Growth of bitcoin ~ untraceable funds to a point, another big sell off prior to Putins invasion of Ukraine. I believe we can call it an "illegal" invasion. Though war crime is not the same as street crime cause we have been seeing the crime happen and nobody is ready to apprenhend the criminal.
I do believe at this time it is fair to say that Putin is deserving of a Bin Laden type apprehension.
Anyway let's get back to knowing that the UK succeeded in brexit.
Russia know Trump will never win again.
China has their Islands built.
Cuba russian connections weakening.
Nicaragua have Russian fighter planes to work with.....
Key the perfect time for the next sideshow.
"Hey China, what could be potentially a lethal disease that would throw the west into disarray?"
"Yeah feck it, release that covid stuff", "Trump is done and we don't need him any more, let's rank up the messing".
Putin wants the soviet union back, this time no iron curtain, a world power. Oil and gas rich, lets make more money they say.
The US and the UN are not totally afraid of Putin. The US military alongwide the UK military and the UN troops coule bring Putin to a halt within about 60 seconds. Yes that simple. Fighter jets and accurate missiles would take out Putins war effort in 60 seconds or less. They are just not aure what the result could be. The Chinese to take ownership of US over money debts. Launch retaliation attacks? Nicaragua to be a refuelling station for Russian and Chinese alike as they fly in and around the Americas with trained engineers on hand.
All this time you thought investing in Amazon and bitcoin and google were all genius moves.
Only a short time ago during covid, oil was being given away and as cheap as it had ever been. Oh look a war effort and it is back at the highest ever.
A funny thing to note is these attacks always come when a democratic president is in office in the Whitehouse. An attacking offensive move comes when the Republicans are in the office. Funny or strange really.
No more Trump and no more covid then what.
Let's tease war on thw whole world. Push oil prices higher and get more money in our bank afyer selling out our tech stocks and start heavily buying up oil.
The signs are always there, they present themselves. All you have to do is follow them if you want to make money. Do you really want to make money though? While venezuelans are starving and rioting for their survival. Russians live a controlled life. Chinese live a controlled life. And Ukranians must suffer futile deaths and loss of freedom....
I feel confident that the military of the United States has considered all angles and are ready when the time is right. The UK too, a well oiled war machine.
Putin could be taken out and screw any martyr shit.
Put an end to human loss of life.
We broght the entire world to a stand still over lockdowns and no freedom of movement of pwople during covid. Why?
To "Stay at home, saves lives"
So what are we the humans of the world doing now to save Ukrainian lives?
Joe Biden can give a wonderful speech and yell how taxes will be done better for everybody. Well how about this. Each and every nation of the world are failing the Ukrainian people right now when they need assitance the most.
Screw your taxes and your systems as you are a collective of true failures.
Take the power play and remove Putin. Blow up their "convoy" of invasion troops and send them home. The russians that is of course. Restore peace and restore life to 1 million refugees
Take control of Chinese islands in international waters.
Rebuild Ukraine, and SAVE LIVES... Or you politically stand for nothing. Your sysyem is for nothing.
Putin is merely highlighting how an entire world can be afraid and nervous about 1 man...
Come on get a grip..
Your opinion is appreciated in the comments.
February 27, 2022
The 27th comes and goes ~ every year now
February 27th 2022, yup it has come around again.
A simple day, a relaxing Sunday. So what is the big deal, right?
My son Patrick has his birthday on this date and that is a very significant date for me.
Patrick turns 9 today, imagine my little boy 9 years of age, I suppose not really fair to him to say little boy as Patrick was born big and kept on growing. He was always ahead of the growth curve at the doctor's appointments when he was a baby. On track with normal growth just well above the average in terms of size.
Feels good to be a parent when your baby boy is a bruiser of a young man😊
Patrick died in a drowning incident when he was only 1 year and 4 months old. So, yup! That has been a few years ago now. 7 years and a bit. 7 years celebrating his birthday without him. 7 years thinking of him and how he might look now. 7 years of wondering how and why he had to die.
Grieving the loss of a child ia not always logical nor is it "by the book" if there were a book of standard on this topic.
Something to note on the life of being a bereaved parent, when we lose our parents we can be known as orphaned, when we lose a wife or husband we become a widow or widower. When we lose a child we gain no title, we gain perhaps a status of misfit or just someone who becomes out of place in many so called "normal" places in life. Birthdays for instance, many parents look forward to them and enjoy them to the full. A bereaved parent like myself also looks forward to the date on the calendar in a very weird anxious yet scary kind of way. We wish to enjoy it to the full also, though we never know if it might be one of those breakdown days. Grieving and grief can do that to a person and I have found that the grief process has brought me to a great elevation of enjoying my emotional self. So, I embrace the good days and the bad. I embrace with gratitude for the learning Patrick's life has brought to me, knowing what real love as a father is.
You may find my life story on my first book where I discuss much more about my life and the loss of my two sons. Patrick was not my first son and I had lost my first son Darra a year and half or so before Patrick was born.
I know about this grief stuff and the loss a parent can feel when a child has died.
In another of my books I have shared many of the tools and tips of how I have overcome and have become very grateful to life and to my sons.
TWO sons TOO many, is the title of my life story.
Memoir.
Layman's Handbook in life, is my self help / selflove tool kit that I love as it has been how I have survived my grief and how I have rebuilt my life time and time again.
Both of these are available on paperback & ebook.
I promote these as my monument to my sons. And on days like this one today while I am deep in thought for my lost loved ones. I share with you.
Have a wonderful March.
A simple day, a relaxing Sunday. So what is the big deal, right?
My son Patrick has his birthday on this date and that is a very significant date for me.
Patrick turns 9 today, imagine my little boy 9 years of age, I suppose not really fair to him to say little boy as Patrick was born big and kept on growing. He was always ahead of the growth curve at the doctor's appointments when he was a baby. On track with normal growth just well above the average in terms of size.
Feels good to be a parent when your baby boy is a bruiser of a young man😊
Patrick died in a drowning incident when he was only 1 year and 4 months old. So, yup! That has been a few years ago now. 7 years and a bit. 7 years celebrating his birthday without him. 7 years thinking of him and how he might look now. 7 years of wondering how and why he had to die.
Grieving the loss of a child ia not always logical nor is it "by the book" if there were a book of standard on this topic.
Something to note on the life of being a bereaved parent, when we lose our parents we can be known as orphaned, when we lose a wife or husband we become a widow or widower. When we lose a child we gain no title, we gain perhaps a status of misfit or just someone who becomes out of place in many so called "normal" places in life. Birthdays for instance, many parents look forward to them and enjoy them to the full. A bereaved parent like myself also looks forward to the date on the calendar in a very weird anxious yet scary kind of way. We wish to enjoy it to the full also, though we never know if it might be one of those breakdown days. Grieving and grief can do that to a person and I have found that the grief process has brought me to a great elevation of enjoying my emotional self. So, I embrace the good days and the bad. I embrace with gratitude for the learning Patrick's life has brought to me, knowing what real love as a father is.
You may find my life story on my first book where I discuss much more about my life and the loss of my two sons. Patrick was not my first son and I had lost my first son Darra a year and half or so before Patrick was born.
I know about this grief stuff and the loss a parent can feel when a child has died.
In another of my books I have shared many of the tools and tips of how I have overcome and have become very grateful to life and to my sons.
TWO sons TOO many, is the title of my life story.
Memoir.
Layman's Handbook in life, is my self help / selflove tool kit that I love as it has been how I have survived my grief and how I have rebuilt my life time and time again.
Both of these are available on paperback & ebook.
I promote these as my monument to my sons. And on days like this one today while I am deep in thought for my lost loved ones. I share with you.
Have a wonderful March.
Random thoughts by Aidan.
Some may be of my grief, some just things I notice. See what you think as inspiring your thoughts makes my day 😊🇮🇪
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