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May 13, 2020
Thursday Thoughts ~ The power within
Another day of lock down and shut downs. How much more can people take?
Of course there are numerous reasons that we should be taking this as opportunity.
For all who have died from corona virus, can you think about them for a moment? Do you think they would want "just another day" in lock down?
Of course they would, complacent we may be becoming. To underestimate what exactly covid 19 is, is probably the time it will creep up on you. Perish the thought.
We as citizens of the world must continue our efforts to bring about global containment. For this we must stay the course and remain "aware", "vigilant".
Annoying as it may be and perhaps equally annoying are posts such as this where the focus is about making positives out of the negatives. Thinking of how we "can make the most" out of it all.
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There is no pressure on any of us for the first time in a long time. The only pressure being applied is the pressure we put on ourselves. Do we feel under pressure to actually bake a cake and share photos of same all over Instagram?
Do we find that painting the house is just not a chore we are up to and we feel under pressure because everyone else is doing it?
Do we feel pressure that we are not being constructive enough during all this time at home?
Any such pressures are being placed upon you by yourself.
They are not our normal pressures that we place ourselves under. We usually are rushing for school gate time or we are rushing to make a meeting for our job. We may even be used to working under deadline scenarios at work and we always place pressure on ourselves to get finished by a particular deadline.
One of the funny things to note, we find a way to use this seemingly never ending lock down situation to keep on applying pressure to ourselves even through the small things of nowadays, bake a cake or get fit.
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There are no requirement for you to have a perfectly toned body after all the lock downs are over.
There are no requirements that you become a master baker during the lock down time.
There are no requirements that you become a salon stylist from doing your own hair through lock down.
As a matter of fact there have never been any such requirements of us ever. And especially now during these trying times. The requirements I have found to be most valuable in my life have been, can I find contentment within myself?
Is it possible to feel "okay"?
Is it possible to understand how I feel?
Is it possible that when & what I feel it is "normal"?
There are many instances in all of our life's that we may question some of how we feel and definitely many times we will question what we think. During such times of questioning ourselves, we might have a tendancy to convince ourselves that there is "something wrong" or it is "not normal".
The beauty of these such thoughts are, they are totally normal. We may stay closed up and remain thinking that we are best to keep these items of ourselves in private and never let ourselves out. This again could be one of our "normal" everyday pressures the we usually keep ourselves under. Our routines have been cast aside by the covid 19 situation. We have lost our daily place in the world and are living a new different life right now during these times. Our normality is gone and along with that our pressures that we used to operate under. The pressures of our daily lives pre covid 19, they are gone.
We have found new ways to pressurize ourselves. Much of social media has brought or brings these new, out of routine pressures into our lives.
What can we do to assist ourselves during lock down?
We can begin to help ourselves to relax. We can begin to use the pause we have been offered in life to our advantage.
We do not need to have learned a new skill during lock down, we do not need to emerge from lock down on some new almighty path in life.
What we can do as an alternative to how we have lived our entire life so far is, begin to know contentment. We can begin to identify how normal our thoughts and feelings are. Once we bring this new concept of the "new normal" into our lives, we can embrace it and embrace ourselves for being a very special person in the whole entire world.
Why embrace it and ourselves?
By taking a position of loving ourselves and embracing the new changes that are occurring, we can begin to understand ourselves even a little bit better.
By accepting that our thoughts and feelings are "normal" we can break down barriers and stigmas that may have been once attached to any of us. The labels that have circulated and have began even to become so huge that there might be a nightly news piece about "mental health" or "emotional well being". These labels have been around for a long time. The lock down has perhaps brought such items into focus a little bit more.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
One of the best examples of going "stir crazy" or going "postal" or getting "cabin fever" has been the movie, The Shinning with Jack Nicholson. He is locked up in a hotel as a caretaker of the place for the out of season period. Too much lock down made Jack a dull boy.
The example though is a great way to reflect on how you have been handling the lock down yourself.
A great bench mark so to speak, safe to say if you are not talking to yourself as if you have company and talking to them out loud, while there is actually nobody there. Then you are probably still doing okay.
The cabin fever can get to us all.
Allow us to imagine now together that you are a person who spends a lot of time talking to yourself upstairs in your mind. That you tend to be doing a ton more of it now that the lock down is keeping you at home more. Let us imagine again for a moment that it is possible to slow down the mind and understand that it is totally normal what you do inside of your own head.
You are not someone who needs to be labelled, you are totally "normal" and fine.
The power within ourselves is perhaps much greater than you imagine. The power within ourselves can allow us to bring calm and contentment into our lives.
The beauty being that the entire world has been offered all of us a time to take advantage of this. A time to help us reflect on our memories and our feelings.
A time to begin a new hobby, the new hobby I suggest is meditation.
We have the power within ourselves to learn about ourselves if only just a little. We have been given a massive opportunity to begin such a journey during these lock down times.
Why would we even bother to do anything new?
The new is perhaps a way of looking at it. The way we can speak to ourselves and what we can do to help ourselves to become calm and content are quite simple. We will not be changing ourselves in any dramatic fashion. We will use our time to bring ourselves back to who we have always been. The perfect you that you were born as. The perfect you who entered into this world maybe even many moons ago.
Society has seduced us for a long long time into believing we should act and or behave in certain ways. This time now during the pandemic is an opportunity to get back to being you. Get back to being the simple content happy person you have always been.
The fact of being under lock down has absolutely nothing to do with who you are other than how you allow it to take hold of or affect you.
There is a power within ourselves that is something so mighty that a simple ten or twenty minute meditation session here and there can bring about a great change for the better. A great change to assist us in becoming the great people we have always been. We need not hold things in any more, we can learn during these times to FEEL.
We hold the power within ourselves to become who we have always been and cast away all and any of the pressures.
We are being given the most valuable opportunity the world has ever seen.
A major chance to regroup exactly who we are, how we are and a clear opportunity to develop ourselves through any of our torments that we never had time to get to.
How do I know this is for sure?
How do I know it is worth the risk?
I ask of you to begin, use this time to become a little closer to yourself. Use our time now to reflect on any "issues" of the past. Bring them into your world of today. Through meditation and breathing practices it is possible to free ourselves of them all. We can bring about a slow down in our entire being. We can begin as we have always been intended to be.
This is some of the power within ourselves that we can use this lock down to our advantage and begin to see how it is not merely about turning negatives in to positives. We can begin to unlock many parts of ourselves that may have just gotten buried somewhere due to how we became so used to our daily routines and pressures.
This is a time of opportunity for us all.
I have listed many simple tools in Layman's Handbook, in life.
The book's front cover has it written clearly across the front, "Simple tools to change how we live".
I can honestly say when I wrote this book I knew that I would need to plead and almost beg people to make the time, find the time to begin using such tools.
I definitely had no idea that the entire global community would be offered such a great set of time to be able to take advantage of and use such simple tools.
The book is subtitled "A journey to SELF"
Self standing for SUCCEED ELEVATE LIVE FREE.
Freeing ourselves from any past hurt, pains or trauma.
Live beyond what we have become used to. Live for who we have always been.
ELEVATE ourselves to our next level in our journey.
Succeed in all that we may attempt. Succeed in bringing the real you out to the world and allow us to say hello.
Layman's Handbook is available in EBOOK and you can download it from Amazon, should you wish to take "a journey to self"
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The benefits we can obtain through meditation are beyond what I can actually put in to words here. I suggest that you give it a go.
You will reap the benefits. (You can thank me later)
Meditation is a very simple practice of becoming alone with your thoughts and your feelings while maintaining a steady and conscious flow of breathing. There is not much more to it.
Find a nice piece of music and just begin breathing steady and see where you might bring yourself to in your own time and your own mind. Allow the feelings through.
This is the power within ourselves. The power to realign our entire being by simply pausing for a short time each day.
Amazing are the results.
Happy Thursday and when we come out of these lock downs, perhaps a big wide world of friendly people will be ready to greet you with open arms. No more stigma, no more labels no more prejudice.
Meditation holds a super key to unlocking yourself.
Stay safe, wash your hands
&
BREATHE.
@TWOsonsTOOmany
Of course there are numerous reasons that we should be taking this as opportunity.
For all who have died from corona virus, can you think about them for a moment? Do you think they would want "just another day" in lock down?
Of course they would, complacent we may be becoming. To underestimate what exactly covid 19 is, is probably the time it will creep up on you. Perish the thought.
We as citizens of the world must continue our efforts to bring about global containment. For this we must stay the course and remain "aware", "vigilant".
Annoying as it may be and perhaps equally annoying are posts such as this where the focus is about making positives out of the negatives. Thinking of how we "can make the most" out of it all.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
There is no pressure on any of us for the first time in a long time. The only pressure being applied is the pressure we put on ourselves. Do we feel under pressure to actually bake a cake and share photos of same all over Instagram?
Do we find that painting the house is just not a chore we are up to and we feel under pressure because everyone else is doing it?
Do we feel pressure that we are not being constructive enough during all this time at home?
Any such pressures are being placed upon you by yourself.
They are not our normal pressures that we place ourselves under. We usually are rushing for school gate time or we are rushing to make a meeting for our job. We may even be used to working under deadline scenarios at work and we always place pressure on ourselves to get finished by a particular deadline.
One of the funny things to note, we find a way to use this seemingly never ending lock down situation to keep on applying pressure to ourselves even through the small things of nowadays, bake a cake or get fit.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
There are no requirement for you to have a perfectly toned body after all the lock downs are over.
There are no requirements that you become a master baker during the lock down time.
There are no requirements that you become a salon stylist from doing your own hair through lock down.
As a matter of fact there have never been any such requirements of us ever. And especially now during these trying times. The requirements I have found to be most valuable in my life have been, can I find contentment within myself?
Is it possible to feel "okay"?
Is it possible to understand how I feel?
Is it possible that when & what I feel it is "normal"?
There are many instances in all of our life's that we may question some of how we feel and definitely many times we will question what we think. During such times of questioning ourselves, we might have a tendancy to convince ourselves that there is "something wrong" or it is "not normal".
The beauty of these such thoughts are, they are totally normal. We may stay closed up and remain thinking that we are best to keep these items of ourselves in private and never let ourselves out. This again could be one of our "normal" everyday pressures the we usually keep ourselves under. Our routines have been cast aside by the covid 19 situation. We have lost our daily place in the world and are living a new different life right now during these times. Our normality is gone and along with that our pressures that we used to operate under. The pressures of our daily lives pre covid 19, they are gone.
We have found new ways to pressurize ourselves. Much of social media has brought or brings these new, out of routine pressures into our lives.
What can we do to assist ourselves during lock down?
We can begin to help ourselves to relax. We can begin to use the pause we have been offered in life to our advantage.
We do not need to have learned a new skill during lock down, we do not need to emerge from lock down on some new almighty path in life.
What we can do as an alternative to how we have lived our entire life so far is, begin to know contentment. We can begin to identify how normal our thoughts and feelings are. Once we bring this new concept of the "new normal" into our lives, we can embrace it and embrace ourselves for being a very special person in the whole entire world.
Why embrace it and ourselves?
By taking a position of loving ourselves and embracing the new changes that are occurring, we can begin to understand ourselves even a little bit better.
By accepting that our thoughts and feelings are "normal" we can break down barriers and stigmas that may have been once attached to any of us. The labels that have circulated and have began even to become so huge that there might be a nightly news piece about "mental health" or "emotional well being". These labels have been around for a long time. The lock down has perhaps brought such items into focus a little bit more.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
One of the best examples of going "stir crazy" or going "postal" or getting "cabin fever" has been the movie, The Shinning with Jack Nicholson. He is locked up in a hotel as a caretaker of the place for the out of season period. Too much lock down made Jack a dull boy.
The example though is a great way to reflect on how you have been handling the lock down yourself.
A great bench mark so to speak, safe to say if you are not talking to yourself as if you have company and talking to them out loud, while there is actually nobody there. Then you are probably still doing okay.
The cabin fever can get to us all.
Allow us to imagine now together that you are a person who spends a lot of time talking to yourself upstairs in your mind. That you tend to be doing a ton more of it now that the lock down is keeping you at home more. Let us imagine again for a moment that it is possible to slow down the mind and understand that it is totally normal what you do inside of your own head.
You are not someone who needs to be labelled, you are totally "normal" and fine.
The power within ourselves is perhaps much greater than you imagine. The power within ourselves can allow us to bring calm and contentment into our lives.
The beauty being that the entire world has been offered all of us a time to take advantage of this. A time to help us reflect on our memories and our feelings.
A time to begin a new hobby, the new hobby I suggest is meditation.
We have the power within ourselves to learn about ourselves if only just a little. We have been given a massive opportunity to begin such a journey during these lock down times.
Why would we even bother to do anything new?
The new is perhaps a way of looking at it. The way we can speak to ourselves and what we can do to help ourselves to become calm and content are quite simple. We will not be changing ourselves in any dramatic fashion. We will use our time to bring ourselves back to who we have always been. The perfect you that you were born as. The perfect you who entered into this world maybe even many moons ago.
Society has seduced us for a long long time into believing we should act and or behave in certain ways. This time now during the pandemic is an opportunity to get back to being you. Get back to being the simple content happy person you have always been.
The fact of being under lock down has absolutely nothing to do with who you are other than how you allow it to take hold of or affect you.
There is a power within ourselves that is something so mighty that a simple ten or twenty minute meditation session here and there can bring about a great change for the better. A great change to assist us in becoming the great people we have always been. We need not hold things in any more, we can learn during these times to FEEL.
We hold the power within ourselves to become who we have always been and cast away all and any of the pressures.
We are being given the most valuable opportunity the world has ever seen.
A major chance to regroup exactly who we are, how we are and a clear opportunity to develop ourselves through any of our torments that we never had time to get to.
How do I know this is for sure?
How do I know it is worth the risk?
I ask of you to begin, use this time to become a little closer to yourself. Use our time now to reflect on any "issues" of the past. Bring them into your world of today. Through meditation and breathing practices it is possible to free ourselves of them all. We can bring about a slow down in our entire being. We can begin as we have always been intended to be.
This is some of the power within ourselves that we can use this lock down to our advantage and begin to see how it is not merely about turning negatives in to positives. We can begin to unlock many parts of ourselves that may have just gotten buried somewhere due to how we became so used to our daily routines and pressures.
This is a time of opportunity for us all.
I have listed many simple tools in Layman's Handbook, in life.
The book's front cover has it written clearly across the front, "Simple tools to change how we live".
I can honestly say when I wrote this book I knew that I would need to plead and almost beg people to make the time, find the time to begin using such tools.
I definitely had no idea that the entire global community would be offered such a great set of time to be able to take advantage of and use such simple tools.
The book is subtitled "A journey to SELF"
Self standing for SUCCEED ELEVATE LIVE FREE.
Freeing ourselves from any past hurt, pains or trauma.
Live beyond what we have become used to. Live for who we have always been.
ELEVATE ourselves to our next level in our journey.
Succeed in all that we may attempt. Succeed in bringing the real you out to the world and allow us to say hello.
Layman's Handbook is available in EBOOK and you can download it from Amazon, should you wish to take "a journey to self"
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
The benefits we can obtain through meditation are beyond what I can actually put in to words here. I suggest that you give it a go.
You will reap the benefits. (You can thank me later)
Meditation is a very simple practice of becoming alone with your thoughts and your feelings while maintaining a steady and conscious flow of breathing. There is not much more to it.
Find a nice piece of music and just begin breathing steady and see where you might bring yourself to in your own time and your own mind. Allow the feelings through.
This is the power within ourselves. The power to realign our entire being by simply pausing for a short time each day.
Amazing are the results.
Happy Thursday and when we come out of these lock downs, perhaps a big wide world of friendly people will be ready to greet you with open arms. No more stigma, no more labels no more prejudice.
Meditation holds a super key to unlocking yourself.
Stay safe, wash your hands
&
BREATHE.
@TWOsonsTOOmany
May 12, 2020
Wednesday Wisdom ~ How much are you worth?
Happy Wednesday to you.
Congratulations on making it to another hump day right slap bang in the middle of "lockdown". Did ya even notice that it is Wednesday again?
Time and how we use it. What do we use it for? Do we value our time?
Perhaps a better question, do we have a value on our time?
For many years to date, many of us have worked in some sort of situation where we received payment because of the hours we devoted to whatever the tasks may be that we call work.
How much are you worth?
This is a good question and some of you know immediately how much your pay packet or wages are worth. How much per hour that you receive. Sometimes it can be based on our profession. Like a firefighter will be a good union paying job while a dentist is a super high bracket per hour of work perhaps. A checkout clerk at the grocery store would have perhaps a lesser amount per hour in their wages.
Different levels in society, different value on their hours work. Different financial levels in life. These could determine, type of house, type of car type of schooling for the children and type of nutrition even.
For Wednesday wisdom. I wanted to share with you a concept.
You are worth as much as you wish to place upon yourself.
The job you do is something you do to pay bills. The amount of value on each of the hours of your work per day are a set figures for wages and nothing more.
You are worth your weight in gold.
You are worth a priceless figure.
I do not even know you, what I do know is that by being human, reading this. This places you in a very high price bracket.
Try it out.
Say the words to yourself today.
I am priceless.
I am worth so much more than I even thought myself.
My value is not about how much an hour or per quarter.
My value is how I feel, how I think, how I love and how I believe in myself and my fellow humans.
The wisdom is,
Never lose sight of this.
You can thank me later.
Enjoy your Wednesday.
Congratulations on making it to another hump day right slap bang in the middle of "lockdown". Did ya even notice that it is Wednesday again?
Time and how we use it. What do we use it for? Do we value our time?
Perhaps a better question, do we have a value on our time?
For many years to date, many of us have worked in some sort of situation where we received payment because of the hours we devoted to whatever the tasks may be that we call work.
How much are you worth?
This is a good question and some of you know immediately how much your pay packet or wages are worth. How much per hour that you receive. Sometimes it can be based on our profession. Like a firefighter will be a good union paying job while a dentist is a super high bracket per hour of work perhaps. A checkout clerk at the grocery store would have perhaps a lesser amount per hour in their wages.
Different levels in society, different value on their hours work. Different financial levels in life. These could determine, type of house, type of car type of schooling for the children and type of nutrition even.
For Wednesday wisdom. I wanted to share with you a concept.
You are worth as much as you wish to place upon yourself.
The job you do is something you do to pay bills. The amount of value on each of the hours of your work per day are a set figures for wages and nothing more.
You are worth your weight in gold.
You are worth a priceless figure.
I do not even know you, what I do know is that by being human, reading this. This places you in a very high price bracket.
Try it out.
Say the words to yourself today.
I am priceless.
I am worth so much more than I even thought myself.
My value is not about how much an hour or per quarter.
My value is how I feel, how I think, how I love and how I believe in myself and my fellow humans.
The wisdom is,
Never lose sight of this.
You can thank me later.
Enjoy your Wednesday.
May 11, 2020
Life after death. Some of us know Grief & some don't
May not be for everybody, but for some of us it has become everything.
Happy Tuesday folks.
A little post of what is going on in my head today.
I am always writing stuff and promoting my blog posts, which are my random thoughts on various things that can occur for me on any given day & of course I wrote and published my memoirs and selfhelp books, for these reasons, promotion goes on and on but this is different.
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I wrote my memoir TWO sons TOO many. Mostly because I was #Inspired to write having had to bury my two children.
Many people told me that "to lose one child is too much"
And I always thought yes, one is too much and to lose TWO sons is TOO many....
So why this post today ?
I write a lot of blog posts to express myself and how the dimension I have now been forced to live in as many (actually all of you) know. For every one person that has heard this piece of my story a thousand times. There are new people that are learning these things for the first time & so I post.
There are those who say they find my books "inspirational" & "gives them motivation" . I feel good for those reasons.
The real nuts and bolts though that may go beyond those who have never lost a child is that we know, we know what we have been left with as far as life or "A" life is concerned.
The part that brings me to post is that and if you are still reading we are getting there I promise.
The part is,
there is a box of let's say we call it "conformity".
To conform to society and society's standards and expectations. We all, in one shape or form or another have conformed all of our life to live within this "box" of "conformity" and that is totally fine.
For those of you who know baseball, imagine it as the box that the pitcher must get the ball in to for a strike. It is a box that exists but is not actually real. It is an invented box that society has placed around our lives and how people should act and behave and carry themselves through life.
There are those who have chosen to live outside of the box and such sayings as " think outside of the box" you are all familiar with.
So, I definitely do not mean to bore you with this at all, keep reading I am getting there I promise.
Anyway.
This box, a set of standards and rules that are not really written but do exist within society and we all live within them.
What happens when we lose our child ?
What happens when we lose our children ?
What happens when we sit by a grave side and watch our most beautiful treasure ever, get buried ?
What just happened ?
For me and my take on it, we have now moved outside of the box.
We now have entered into an arena that came with no rules, no guidelines, no historic texts to learn from.
We have now moved to a barren land where society has not yet formed. Is it the desert ?
Perhaps, many times it resembles such a vast empty place, for sure!
What can be done for us now ?
We are parents who have lost children, we are the un-labelled group of "misfits" that even some of our most dear and close friends do not have words for us, nor do they know what to say.
Think about it for a minute.
When a man loses his wife he becomes a "widower" I believe is his title.
When a woman loses her husband she becomes a "widow".
When a child loses their parents, they become an orphan.
When a parent loses their child.........
There is no fancy title. And that's that.
The tools we have to cope are zero, the job or the game of life has just become harder than any of us have ever imagined.
So WTF ? (What the Fuck)
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It is upon us to try to make sense of everything like a child learning everything for the first time, we do not know how to deal with life anymore. Every thing now becomes a first again. Quite possible that the last time we experienced "firsts" was when our child was doing things for the first time.
We feel anxious over the smallest thing, a routine piece of life.
We feel like there is no end to any hurt
We feel like we cannot be productive, we feel like we have lost everything. Every piece of life has left from us because to bury our children has been the equivalent of burying our very own soul.
So where is the motivation in all this ?
Where is the inspiration ?
I offer to you a concept for consideration and consideration only, if it fits for you then that would be awesome.
Remember the box of society and conform? Well you have been excused from any obligation to live to those standards set by society.
You have now entered an area society does not understand on a whole. However it is ourselves that continue, out of habit to hold ourselves accountable to the standards set by society.
We must go very easy on ourselves, cry when we need to and cry when we do not need to.
Take a day off when you can and breathe for yourself. Yes that's right, just breathe. No thinking, no feeling, just breathe.
When a passer by says "look at that lady talking to herself and just breathing over there" that is okay. We do not live by the box rules anymore.
Allow yourself to not continue to hold yourself to some high and mighty standard of what life is supposed to be like.
Say this, repeat it and remember it.
Life is no longer the same.
We read more, we go outside less, we gaze at the sky like we are thinking of ways of how we could just fly away to somewhere up there.
We still belong to society and have active roles within the box of the norm, but society does not understand us.
We must understand us, we must be ok with not being able to see a friend and their children today because we are jealous and envious of their happy life.
We cannot watch certain movies as all of our feelings can come rushing at us at once and can floor us.
We need to go easy on ourselves and though it is so hard to accept the loss of our child, a big part is accepting our new limitations of how we cannot perform exactly the same within the box of life where society operates.
If we place less emphasis on labels in our life, are we grieving properly ?
Screw it, there is not a right or wrong way..
Will we be able for the family get together ?
Screw it, do not go if you do not wish to.
Will I be able to smile at everyone at a work bbq ?
Screw it, don't smile at everybody.
Can I have my friend and her children over for coffee.
Screw it, ask her to leave her kids at home and come by herself.
Can I look at the pictures of my child as I cry for how I miss them?
Screw it, don't look at the pictures.
In these examples all that I am trying to say or explain is, there will be days when you can do all of the above and there will be days when you cannot. Both of which are okay.
I Have found to become more and more okay with the likes of these society type things by acknowledging that sometimes I just cannot.
I carry a pain not many understand so I cannot expect anything from anybody.
It is entirely up to ourselves, yes as if things were not lonely enough already.
Couples grieve differently as do each of us, like finger prints, no two people have the same prints. So it is a lonely buzz to say the least.
Allow yourself to be. Yes Just BE.
Do the basics if you cannot muster anything else.
Shower as regularly as possible. Eat when you can but be sure to eat and hydrate.
For me the most important.
Breathe!!
Take deep breaths and focus on them.
When something seems so intense, breathe maybe one two or three deep breaths and just listen to how your lungs work. Think of nothing else in front of you.
Fill your lungs with the air that is filled with the spirit of your child. Feel how your nose takes in the air.
That's about as simple and basic as our life can now be and these little things called breath help me to go outside and participate in society. When it becomes too much on any given day I do retreat and when that is not possible I run my check list.
Did I shower today?
Did I eat today ?
Did I allow myself to breathe ?
I am sorry for your loss, anyone who has managed to read down this far. If you liked the read, please give a comment, share the post for your friends to also know and of course the promotional side of the post.
My book page is @TWOsonsTOOmany
I would love if you can stop by and like and share any of my posts there.
My memoir, this book has been all about building my monument to my two little boys and I will continue on as this is my grieving.
Happy Tuesday & have a beautiful week.
I am a person who has lost his children and it has taken me to dig to great depths inside of myself to be able to share with you today. The length at which I will go to is beyond your comprehension.
I wish to offer any help I can to anyone who grieves.
The loss of a child is something that I will always struggle with and more so as a writer, I will struggle to put it into words.
I am aware there are so many people who struggle with grief and loss, that somebody like me has to make posts like this, so that anyone who does grieve their child can know they are not alone. Also so that anyone who is a friend or sibling of someone who has lost a child, so that you may know how hard it actually is for a parent to miss their child in such a way that makes hurt and emotional pain seem unbearable.
I do not post for your sympathies, absolutely not. I do not solely post to bring you to buy and read my books.
I make a post like this to help bring about a snippet of understanding to both people like me who have lost children to the grave and for people who have not suffered the loss of a child. So that you may take a single second to imagine how hard it can be.
If you are more aware, then perhaps there is a chance you might go a little easier on someone who has lost their child.
And of course for the same or by the same reason for all parents who are like me that have had to sit by a grave and watch their child be buried.
I wish for you to go easy on yourself too.
Go so easy on yourself that you can be accused of taking a holiday.
This covid 19 mess is no joke and the lock down can bring about many strange feelings and thoughts for people.
I know there are many of you out there who are having some feelings amplified by the lock down as you have been kinda forced in to feeling and thinking a little harder about your grief.
Stay strong,
Stay safe,
Wash your hands and be very nice to your emotions.
@TWOsonsTOOmany
Happy Tuesday folks.
A little post of what is going on in my head today.
I am always writing stuff and promoting my blog posts, which are my random thoughts on various things that can occur for me on any given day & of course I wrote and published my memoirs and selfhelp books, for these reasons, promotion goes on and on but this is different.
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I wrote my memoir TWO sons TOO many. Mostly because I was #Inspired to write having had to bury my two children.
Many people told me that "to lose one child is too much"
And I always thought yes, one is too much and to lose TWO sons is TOO many....
So why this post today ?
I write a lot of blog posts to express myself and how the dimension I have now been forced to live in as many (actually all of you) know. For every one person that has heard this piece of my story a thousand times. There are new people that are learning these things for the first time & so I post.
There are those who say they find my books "inspirational" & "gives them motivation" . I feel good for those reasons.
The real nuts and bolts though that may go beyond those who have never lost a child is that we know, we know what we have been left with as far as life or "A" life is concerned.
The part that brings me to post is that and if you are still reading we are getting there I promise.
The part is,
there is a box of let's say we call it "conformity".
To conform to society and society's standards and expectations. We all, in one shape or form or another have conformed all of our life to live within this "box" of "conformity" and that is totally fine.
For those of you who know baseball, imagine it as the box that the pitcher must get the ball in to for a strike. It is a box that exists but is not actually real. It is an invented box that society has placed around our lives and how people should act and behave and carry themselves through life.
There are those who have chosen to live outside of the box and such sayings as " think outside of the box" you are all familiar with.
So, I definitely do not mean to bore you with this at all, keep reading I am getting there I promise.
Anyway.
This box, a set of standards and rules that are not really written but do exist within society and we all live within them.
What happens when we lose our child ?
What happens when we lose our children ?
What happens when we sit by a grave side and watch our most beautiful treasure ever, get buried ?
What just happened ?
For me and my take on it, we have now moved outside of the box.
We now have entered into an arena that came with no rules, no guidelines, no historic texts to learn from.
We have now moved to a barren land where society has not yet formed. Is it the desert ?
Perhaps, many times it resembles such a vast empty place, for sure!
What can be done for us now ?
We are parents who have lost children, we are the un-labelled group of "misfits" that even some of our most dear and close friends do not have words for us, nor do they know what to say.
Think about it for a minute.
When a man loses his wife he becomes a "widower" I believe is his title.
When a woman loses her husband she becomes a "widow".
When a child loses their parents, they become an orphan.
When a parent loses their child.........
There is no fancy title. And that's that.
The tools we have to cope are zero, the job or the game of life has just become harder than any of us have ever imagined.
So WTF ? (What the Fuck)
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It is upon us to try to make sense of everything like a child learning everything for the first time, we do not know how to deal with life anymore. Every thing now becomes a first again. Quite possible that the last time we experienced "firsts" was when our child was doing things for the first time.
We feel anxious over the smallest thing, a routine piece of life.
We feel like there is no end to any hurt
We feel like we cannot be productive, we feel like we have lost everything. Every piece of life has left from us because to bury our children has been the equivalent of burying our very own soul.
So where is the motivation in all this ?
Where is the inspiration ?
I offer to you a concept for consideration and consideration only, if it fits for you then that would be awesome.
Remember the box of society and conform? Well you have been excused from any obligation to live to those standards set by society.
You have now entered an area society does not understand on a whole. However it is ourselves that continue, out of habit to hold ourselves accountable to the standards set by society.
We must go very easy on ourselves, cry when we need to and cry when we do not need to.
Take a day off when you can and breathe for yourself. Yes that's right, just breathe. No thinking, no feeling, just breathe.
When a passer by says "look at that lady talking to herself and just breathing over there" that is okay. We do not live by the box rules anymore.
Allow yourself to not continue to hold yourself to some high and mighty standard of what life is supposed to be like.
Say this, repeat it and remember it.
Life is no longer the same.
We read more, we go outside less, we gaze at the sky like we are thinking of ways of how we could just fly away to somewhere up there.
We still belong to society and have active roles within the box of the norm, but society does not understand us.
We must understand us, we must be ok with not being able to see a friend and their children today because we are jealous and envious of their happy life.
We cannot watch certain movies as all of our feelings can come rushing at us at once and can floor us.
We need to go easy on ourselves and though it is so hard to accept the loss of our child, a big part is accepting our new limitations of how we cannot perform exactly the same within the box of life where society operates.
If we place less emphasis on labels in our life, are we grieving properly ?
Screw it, there is not a right or wrong way..
Will we be able for the family get together ?
Screw it, do not go if you do not wish to.
Will I be able to smile at everyone at a work bbq ?
Screw it, don't smile at everybody.
Can I have my friend and her children over for coffee.
Screw it, ask her to leave her kids at home and come by herself.
Can I look at the pictures of my child as I cry for how I miss them?
Screw it, don't look at the pictures.
In these examples all that I am trying to say or explain is, there will be days when you can do all of the above and there will be days when you cannot. Both of which are okay.
I Have found to become more and more okay with the likes of these society type things by acknowledging that sometimes I just cannot.
I carry a pain not many understand so I cannot expect anything from anybody.
It is entirely up to ourselves, yes as if things were not lonely enough already.
Couples grieve differently as do each of us, like finger prints, no two people have the same prints. So it is a lonely buzz to say the least.
Allow yourself to be. Yes Just BE.
Do the basics if you cannot muster anything else.
Shower as regularly as possible. Eat when you can but be sure to eat and hydrate.
For me the most important.
Breathe!!
Take deep breaths and focus on them.
When something seems so intense, breathe maybe one two or three deep breaths and just listen to how your lungs work. Think of nothing else in front of you.
Fill your lungs with the air that is filled with the spirit of your child. Feel how your nose takes in the air.
That's about as simple and basic as our life can now be and these little things called breath help me to go outside and participate in society. When it becomes too much on any given day I do retreat and when that is not possible I run my check list.
Did I shower today?
Did I eat today ?
Did I allow myself to breathe ?
I am sorry for your loss, anyone who has managed to read down this far. If you liked the read, please give a comment, share the post for your friends to also know and of course the promotional side of the post.
My book page is @TWOsonsTOOmany
I would love if you can stop by and like and share any of my posts there.
My memoir, this book has been all about building my monument to my two little boys and I will continue on as this is my grieving.
Happy Tuesday & have a beautiful week.
I am a person who has lost his children and it has taken me to dig to great depths inside of myself to be able to share with you today. The length at which I will go to is beyond your comprehension.
I wish to offer any help I can to anyone who grieves.
The loss of a child is something that I will always struggle with and more so as a writer, I will struggle to put it into words.
I am aware there are so many people who struggle with grief and loss, that somebody like me has to make posts like this, so that anyone who does grieve their child can know they are not alone. Also so that anyone who is a friend or sibling of someone who has lost a child, so that you may know how hard it actually is for a parent to miss their child in such a way that makes hurt and emotional pain seem unbearable.
I do not post for your sympathies, absolutely not. I do not solely post to bring you to buy and read my books.
I make a post like this to help bring about a snippet of understanding to both people like me who have lost children to the grave and for people who have not suffered the loss of a child. So that you may take a single second to imagine how hard it can be.
If you are more aware, then perhaps there is a chance you might go a little easier on someone who has lost their child.
And of course for the same or by the same reason for all parents who are like me that have had to sit by a grave and watch their child be buried.
I wish for you to go easy on yourself too.
Go so easy on yourself that you can be accused of taking a holiday.
This covid 19 mess is no joke and the lock down can bring about many strange feelings and thoughts for people.
I know there are many of you out there who are having some feelings amplified by the lock down as you have been kinda forced in to feeling and thinking a little harder about your grief.
Stay strong,
Stay safe,
Wash your hands and be very nice to your emotions.
@TWOsonsTOOmany
May 10, 2020
Monday Motivation ~ Where do I begin?
Monday will always be Monday, of this we can be certain.
Will we always feel like starting a new week though?
For many during the pandemic and the lock down that has followed, the Monday factor may have become lost a little.
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The actually facts of the matter, it does not matter whether or not it is a Monday, a Wednesday or even a Saturday that can be the starting point to your week.
Some of us work jobs where we get Tuesday & Wednesday off and for this reason people in these types of jobs will often refer to Friday as "This is My Monday".
A phrase we have all become accustomed to as the beginning of our week is always a place we view as a beginning.
So Monday it is then.
How can we motivate ourselves into getting the right attitude for the week ahead.
The Monday blues for example, another something we have become very used to in the world we call ours.
Monday sure has a bunch of stuff going on for it for sure.
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I raise the issue as I have heard several times from many different walks of life,
"Where do I begin?"
For this there is no real secret.
It is often in times when we are using the question of "where" that there is an indication that we are unsure of a "place". In this case it is a starting point. Where do I begin?
The beginning is the answer & I am certain that there is no big let down over this declaration as we all know it anyway.
We may still feel that we cannot identify the beginning place and our question still remains
"Where?"
The beginning is the moment that you begin to take action towards whatever it is that you see as the necessary that needs to be done.
It does not have to be a Monday precisely. The moment that you find yourself saying that you "must" do something and you begin, then that is the beginning.
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During the pandemic, Monday may have lost it's impact and it's beginning of the week feel, as many of us are out of jobs or not in usual routine anymore. Our new "normal" has been forming over the past 10 to 12 weeks or so.
Though we may not have tackled any of the key issues that we swore to ourselves that we would, we can always begin them today.
What could they be?
*Too much time at home and the garden
needs taking care of?
*Perhaps a little bit of painting we could have
done inside of our homes?
*Maybe even a little work on ourselves?
We could have been putting so much stuff on the long finger that it has been niggling away slightly over the course of the lock down.
You have heard such things before as, "There is no time like the present".
You have also heard sayings such as, "A change is as good as a rest".
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In those two items or sayings above, there are our answers.
There is no time like now for beginning anything.
The fears or reasons we have pretended to ourselves for a long time now, have only served as to get in the way and prolong us beginning.
The NOW of today is a great place to Begin.
Making any kind of change to our routine, to our home or to ourselves can seem like some great big daunting issue. Though the age old saying has told us how "a change is as good as a rest". We could actually feel rested from beginning on something new?
Then what is holding us back?
We did not want to make ourselves tired or did not want to take on something new until we were certain that we could manage within all levels of ourselves and our lives. This has always made sense to us so we used an excuse of never beginning as we are comfortable to remain as we are.
Here are a few topics or issues we may have kept away from by telling ourselves some kinds of excuses.
Weight Loss.
Attitude.
Emotional well being.
Mental health issues.
Addiction.
Alcoholism.
Why do we make excuses to hide from these?
More than likely because we have fear of change.
The same "change" that can bring to our lives a great feeling of being rested. Making such changes can bring about new energy. Making changes can bring about new life and a new perspective.
Everybody and anybody experiences such kinds of things like, making excuses to ourselves.
Many people stay quite some time "stuck" in a place where they feel they cannot BEGIN.
The beauty lies in when we grow to a simple place of understanding that the
Here & Now
Are the greatest places to find ourselves.
What ever your issue is, you CAN accomplish it and all that you needed was a little reassuring that it is okay to not be sure and not knowing where to start.
You can also take comfort in knowing that everybody finds themselves in similar positions from time to time on many different issues.
All ya have to do is BEGIN and do so from the BEGINNING.
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Today I will BEGIN _____________________.
Fill in the blank with whatever your own issue is.
Repeat a few times to yourself and see how it feels.
That is all it is going to take.
For more simplifying or making steps simple to journey on a great path to self, check out
Layman's Handbook, in life.
A Journey to SELF.
Simple tools to change how we live.
Click the picture, it is a link to Amazon.
Here in this book you will find many aspects of how I have lived through and am still here today to share with you, the simple steps I have find that can sometimes escape us.
You will finding ways to simplify your life and ways & tools to find things like; Comfort, Happy, Peace, Relaxation, Worth, Energy to name just a few.
I have found great strength and uplifting moments in my own life by knowing 2 simple things.
Where & When to BEGIN.
Good luck this week and Happy Monday to you all.
@TWOsonsTOOmany.
Will we always feel like starting a new week though?
For many during the pandemic and the lock down that has followed, the Monday factor may have become lost a little.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
The actually facts of the matter, it does not matter whether or not it is a Monday, a Wednesday or even a Saturday that can be the starting point to your week.
Some of us work jobs where we get Tuesday & Wednesday off and for this reason people in these types of jobs will often refer to Friday as "This is My Monday".
A phrase we have all become accustomed to as the beginning of our week is always a place we view as a beginning.
So Monday it is then.
How can we motivate ourselves into getting the right attitude for the week ahead.
The Monday blues for example, another something we have become very used to in the world we call ours.
Monday sure has a bunch of stuff going on for it for sure.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
I raise the issue as I have heard several times from many different walks of life,
"Where do I begin?"
For this there is no real secret.
It is often in times when we are using the question of "where" that there is an indication that we are unsure of a "place". In this case it is a starting point. Where do I begin?
The beginning is the answer & I am certain that there is no big let down over this declaration as we all know it anyway.
We may still feel that we cannot identify the beginning place and our question still remains
"Where?"
The beginning is the moment that you begin to take action towards whatever it is that you see as the necessary that needs to be done.
It does not have to be a Monday precisely. The moment that you find yourself saying that you "must" do something and you begin, then that is the beginning.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
During the pandemic, Monday may have lost it's impact and it's beginning of the week feel, as many of us are out of jobs or not in usual routine anymore. Our new "normal" has been forming over the past 10 to 12 weeks or so.
Though we may not have tackled any of the key issues that we swore to ourselves that we would, we can always begin them today.
What could they be?
*Too much time at home and the garden
needs taking care of?
*Perhaps a little bit of painting we could have
done inside of our homes?
*Maybe even a little work on ourselves?
We could have been putting so much stuff on the long finger that it has been niggling away slightly over the course of the lock down.
You have heard such things before as, "There is no time like the present".
You have also heard sayings such as, "A change is as good as a rest".
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
In those two items or sayings above, there are our answers.
There is no time like now for beginning anything.
The fears or reasons we have pretended to ourselves for a long time now, have only served as to get in the way and prolong us beginning.
The NOW of today is a great place to Begin.
Making any kind of change to our routine, to our home or to ourselves can seem like some great big daunting issue. Though the age old saying has told us how "a change is as good as a rest". We could actually feel rested from beginning on something new?
Then what is holding us back?
We did not want to make ourselves tired or did not want to take on something new until we were certain that we could manage within all levels of ourselves and our lives. This has always made sense to us so we used an excuse of never beginning as we are comfortable to remain as we are.
Here are a few topics or issues we may have kept away from by telling ourselves some kinds of excuses.
Weight Loss.
Attitude.
Emotional well being.
Mental health issues.
Addiction.
Alcoholism.
Why do we make excuses to hide from these?
More than likely because we have fear of change.
The same "change" that can bring to our lives a great feeling of being rested. Making such changes can bring about new energy. Making changes can bring about new life and a new perspective.
Everybody and anybody experiences such kinds of things like, making excuses to ourselves.
Many people stay quite some time "stuck" in a place where they feel they cannot BEGIN.
The beauty lies in when we grow to a simple place of understanding that the
Here & Now
Are the greatest places to find ourselves.
What ever your issue is, you CAN accomplish it and all that you needed was a little reassuring that it is okay to not be sure and not knowing where to start.
You can also take comfort in knowing that everybody finds themselves in similar positions from time to time on many different issues.
All ya have to do is BEGIN and do so from the BEGINNING.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Today I will BEGIN _____________________.
Fill in the blank with whatever your own issue is.
Repeat a few times to yourself and see how it feels.
That is all it is going to take.
For more simplifying or making steps simple to journey on a great path to self, check out
Layman's Handbook, in life.
A Journey to SELF.
Simple tools to change how we live.
Click the picture, it is a link to Amazon.
Here in this book you will find many aspects of how I have lived through and am still here today to share with you, the simple steps I have find that can sometimes escape us.
You will finding ways to simplify your life and ways & tools to find things like; Comfort, Happy, Peace, Relaxation, Worth, Energy to name just a few.
I have found great strength and uplifting moments in my own life by knowing 2 simple things.
Where & When to BEGIN.
Good luck this week and Happy Monday to you all.
@TWOsonsTOOmany.
May 7, 2020
Friday Feeling ~ Motivation during pandemic
Staying motivated in our lives can be a difficult thing to do, even on the best of our days.
Motivation can come from a whole bunch of sources.
Often times we can be moved by something we see from our fellow human being and we can be moved so much that we find another level inside of ourselves.
We get MOTIVATED.
The current status during the #pandemic may perhaps leave some people a little stuck, with no actual motivation doing anything for us.
The motivational aspects that exist on the internet are all still there by way of motivational videos or posts around the web.
The effect may actually be that we are all highly charged with positives and there are less outlets to allow for these upbeat feelings and motivations to be used up, released so to speak.
We may find ourselves in a "Ready Steady STOP" situation.
This can add to a little restlessness , find it hard to sleep perhaps? Possibly even a scattered sleep pattern.
The best thing to know is that, many people are also in the same situation.
The world will return to become a place where you can use up all your motivations.
Do not despair.
The day will come again
Take the slower approach and stay healthy. Relax as much as you can.
Once upon a time, like only 3 months ago we used up positives and motivational content on an hour to hour basis. This helped us get through our day and we may have never even noticed.
We now have no outlet for all that we were used to consuming. Lock down has these effects on many people. Stay sane by knowing you are not the only one.
Keep in mind,
Ready, Steady STOP!
And that is totally okay too. Use the time this weekend to kick back and relax.
Learn some breathing techniques and chill.
Be good to yourself and have a great day.
You can also check out "Layman's Handbook" by Aidan Mc Nally
You will find some basic pointers and a very simple introduction to our breathing and relaxing ourselves.
@TWOsonsTOOmany
Motivation can come from a whole bunch of sources.
Often times we can be moved by something we see from our fellow human being and we can be moved so much that we find another level inside of ourselves.
We get MOTIVATED.
The current status during the #pandemic may perhaps leave some people a little stuck, with no actual motivation doing anything for us.
The motivational aspects that exist on the internet are all still there by way of motivational videos or posts around the web.
The effect may actually be that we are all highly charged with positives and there are less outlets to allow for these upbeat feelings and motivations to be used up, released so to speak.
We may find ourselves in a "Ready Steady STOP" situation.
This can add to a little restlessness , find it hard to sleep perhaps? Possibly even a scattered sleep pattern.
The best thing to know is that, many people are also in the same situation.
The world will return to become a place where you can use up all your motivations.
Do not despair.
The day will come again
Take the slower approach and stay healthy. Relax as much as you can.
Once upon a time, like only 3 months ago we used up positives and motivational content on an hour to hour basis. This helped us get through our day and we may have never even noticed.
We now have no outlet for all that we were used to consuming. Lock down has these effects on many people. Stay sane by knowing you are not the only one.
Keep in mind,
Ready, Steady STOP!
And that is totally okay too. Use the time this weekend to kick back and relax.
Learn some breathing techniques and chill.
Be good to yourself and have a great day.
You can also check out "Layman's Handbook" by Aidan Mc Nally
You will find some basic pointers and a very simple introduction to our breathing and relaxing ourselves.
@TWOsonsTOOmany
Thursday Thoughts ~ Is this cause for concern ~ Covid?
The virus pandemic has become the game changer of the world.
Doctors and all kinds of medical teams are searching for answers.
Perhaps the rush to the ventilators was a mistake, then again who really knew anything?
A serious virus, this is something that is for certain.
I have listened to news coverage from time to time, less and less as the weeks have gone on. It seemed like all the information I could find in the first couple of weeks never got any more detailed or better. Maybe because the virus was spreading from country to country, the information was merely the same just on time delay as each nation got hammered.
I was paying close attention in the first couple of weeks for the simple reason of how I could not believe what I was seeing or hearing.
Here is the thought or thoughts that have occurred and perhaps may be a "cause for concern".
There are many aspects that I am unsure about in bringing this concept about and I ask for your input if you should have any.
I will get to the the question raising within the post.
In the beginning it seemed clear that the ground zero of the virus was a live foods market in wuhan China. There is some controversy surrounding this as the doctor who was studying the virus and the effects of transfer to humans, seemed to go missing or something along those lines. She was called patient zero. She worked in a lab in wuhan China and her studies were directly about the mutations and the effect of spread to humans of the Covid 19 virus. It has some other name before it got widely known as covid~19. Something with a covid~sars~2 or something or other. Not really important the scientific correct title, not for this thought for the day at least.
The patient zero lady believed to have gone missing in China in the early days was apparently testing dna from snakes and bats and somehow was checking to see what would be the effects if transferred to a human and how it could be stopped. What would be the potential for the spread within the human population.
I never kept up with her story as she was said to be missing and then she was said to have been found and then nobody could find any proper information on where she is. Perhaps died from it and it was hidden from the news. Who really knows about the truth of how this deadly virus came about.?
There have been other reports I read and some that I saw from the Internet that all seemed to share a few factors that appear to be genuine. This sars covid 2 or whatever it is called seems to be something that is found in some form of bat dna. Something to do with bats actually carry a ton of different virus type things in their systems.
Makes one wonder that if we never mess around with bats, we have nothing to fear. The moon landing may very well have occurred in a basement in Hollywood somewhere and back around the same era the TV and movie land was laying things out very clear for us.
Vincent price being the famous name that was silver screen advice of the time to be sure and tell us in the nicest way "Don't mess with BATS". Dracula movies and the likes. Anybody who watched Dracula films had a pretty clear understanding that bats were to be left alone. Perhaps censorship of such films in China meant they were never shown over there. They messed with bats and the world is now in a serious situation because of it.
The cause for concern though, yes this is the real point of this post for your Thursday Thoughts today.
I have been told before somewhere along my travels and I have no real idea if it is true or not. What I am certain of is that there are many different kinds of bats and that some only eat fruit and others like insects and some like the odd rodent or two. These fellas are the Dracula type blood sucker lads.
I have been told that because they have a tenancy to try and sink their teeth into some meaty animals and they do like to have a bit of blood, I have been told that a bat could possibly in the dark of night take a little taste out of a horse or a cow in the middle of the night by landing on their backs and having a little feast.
The bat's are tiny so the feast would be probably be nothing bigger than the size of your little finger nail, perhaps.
My question is two fold really. And the thoughts that have raised my eyebrows are these,
1. Can a bat, take a bite from a cow and bring
corona virus into the beef industry and the meat
that we eat for human consumption?
2. Can bats that didn't carry the virus because they
live all the way over in another part of the world.
Can they pick up the virus due to how it has
spread around
the whole world and then become stronger
carriers inside of themselves?
These are genuine questions that pop up and deserve some sort of answer. I know we need vaccines and we need to stop people from going to their death too early in life. This I do understand. It does not say much for the future if we do not know if bats can catch it and nurture it and then we can catch it again and again because it is more widely spread in the animal kingdom. More so than it was before, as we have seen how humans have spread this thing across the entire world in a matter of a couple of weeks back in late January early February.
Can our beef industry become plagued with this?
Can anyone shed some light on this?
Please feel absolutely free to comment and of course share the post so that a scientist might bring about an answer.
It would be good to have an expert do some explaining of what and how the bats live with this thing.
Of course another strange part of the vaccine route is how come the bats have not been harvested to find the cure? They live with it no problem. What do they have that we the humans cannot harvest or develop?
There is an industry that gathers bat droppings to make coffee. Is there not something in the bat world to help develop an easy route to vaccine medicine?
Anyway, I really hope you can share these questions so that an expert or two could chime in and let us know.
Thought for the day, Thursday amid the pandemic.
Will we all become vegetarians, perhaps?
@TWOsonsTOOmany
Doctors and all kinds of medical teams are searching for answers.
Perhaps the rush to the ventilators was a mistake, then again who really knew anything?
A serious virus, this is something that is for certain.
I have listened to news coverage from time to time, less and less as the weeks have gone on. It seemed like all the information I could find in the first couple of weeks never got any more detailed or better. Maybe because the virus was spreading from country to country, the information was merely the same just on time delay as each nation got hammered.
I was paying close attention in the first couple of weeks for the simple reason of how I could not believe what I was seeing or hearing.
Here is the thought or thoughts that have occurred and perhaps may be a "cause for concern".
There are many aspects that I am unsure about in bringing this concept about and I ask for your input if you should have any.
I will get to the the question raising within the post.
In the beginning it seemed clear that the ground zero of the virus was a live foods market in wuhan China. There is some controversy surrounding this as the doctor who was studying the virus and the effects of transfer to humans, seemed to go missing or something along those lines. She was called patient zero. She worked in a lab in wuhan China and her studies were directly about the mutations and the effect of spread to humans of the Covid 19 virus. It has some other name before it got widely known as covid~19. Something with a covid~sars~2 or something or other. Not really important the scientific correct title, not for this thought for the day at least.
The patient zero lady believed to have gone missing in China in the early days was apparently testing dna from snakes and bats and somehow was checking to see what would be the effects if transferred to a human and how it could be stopped. What would be the potential for the spread within the human population.
I never kept up with her story as she was said to be missing and then she was said to have been found and then nobody could find any proper information on where she is. Perhaps died from it and it was hidden from the news. Who really knows about the truth of how this deadly virus came about.?
There have been other reports I read and some that I saw from the Internet that all seemed to share a few factors that appear to be genuine. This sars covid 2 or whatever it is called seems to be something that is found in some form of bat dna. Something to do with bats actually carry a ton of different virus type things in their systems.
Makes one wonder that if we never mess around with bats, we have nothing to fear. The moon landing may very well have occurred in a basement in Hollywood somewhere and back around the same era the TV and movie land was laying things out very clear for us.
Vincent price being the famous name that was silver screen advice of the time to be sure and tell us in the nicest way "Don't mess with BATS". Dracula movies and the likes. Anybody who watched Dracula films had a pretty clear understanding that bats were to be left alone. Perhaps censorship of such films in China meant they were never shown over there. They messed with bats and the world is now in a serious situation because of it.
The cause for concern though, yes this is the real point of this post for your Thursday Thoughts today.
I have been told before somewhere along my travels and I have no real idea if it is true or not. What I am certain of is that there are many different kinds of bats and that some only eat fruit and others like insects and some like the odd rodent or two. These fellas are the Dracula type blood sucker lads.
I have been told that because they have a tenancy to try and sink their teeth into some meaty animals and they do like to have a bit of blood, I have been told that a bat could possibly in the dark of night take a little taste out of a horse or a cow in the middle of the night by landing on their backs and having a little feast.
The bat's are tiny so the feast would be probably be nothing bigger than the size of your little finger nail, perhaps.
My question is two fold really. And the thoughts that have raised my eyebrows are these,
1. Can a bat, take a bite from a cow and bring
corona virus into the beef industry and the meat
that we eat for human consumption?
2. Can bats that didn't carry the virus because they
live all the way over in another part of the world.
Can they pick up the virus due to how it has
spread around
the whole world and then become stronger
carriers inside of themselves?
These are genuine questions that pop up and deserve some sort of answer. I know we need vaccines and we need to stop people from going to their death too early in life. This I do understand. It does not say much for the future if we do not know if bats can catch it and nurture it and then we can catch it again and again because it is more widely spread in the animal kingdom. More so than it was before, as we have seen how humans have spread this thing across the entire world in a matter of a couple of weeks back in late January early February.
Can our beef industry become plagued with this?
Can anyone shed some light on this?
Please feel absolutely free to comment and of course share the post so that a scientist might bring about an answer.
It would be good to have an expert do some explaining of what and how the bats live with this thing.
Of course another strange part of the vaccine route is how come the bats have not been harvested to find the cure? They live with it no problem. What do they have that we the humans cannot harvest or develop?
There is an industry that gathers bat droppings to make coffee. Is there not something in the bat world to help develop an easy route to vaccine medicine?
Anyway, I really hope you can share these questions so that an expert or two could chime in and let us know.
Thought for the day, Thursday amid the pandemic.
Will we all become vegetarians, perhaps?
@TWOsonsTOOmany
May 6, 2020
Country, borders, language. Do they make a difference?
No matter what country you live in or how desperate you wish to defend your borders. The language you speak is as much about you and your fellow countrymen as it is about the people who live among you that do not have the same language.
Sometimes we might forget that we all had to start out in life somewhere. Our parents or grand parents were people who made a choice in their lives to travel to a new culture and begin a new life. Their choice may have been out of poverty or for reasons of conflict beyond their control and the only option for them was emigration.
For them to leave and move to another country had to be a very difficult thing to do, as the travel options were much less back in history.
A mighty story of our time which does high light the risks and dangers of such emigration has to be the tragic tale of the Titanic.
So many travelers looking for a new life and basically died a frozen death in the north Atlantic ocean. Horrific is an understatement. There are a number of historic journeys of emigration around the world which also carry high risks to the people of their times.
The reasons? Who really knows?
Perhaps the ideas of high risk ~high reward were the same driving force that led so many to move around the world and make their new home in lands that were foreign to themselves.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
What about the resistance from the residents of their new land? An immigrant to any country wishes to work and make money and increase their own new opportunity and that of their children and grandchildren. This would have been the basis for their emigration and so why not receive all who wish for a new life with open arms?
Welcome such immigrants with a thousand welcomes as they are providing usually a cheaper work force?
There is absolutely nothing wrong with someone who wants to work. They are usually more willing to learn and create new wealth in their lives.
A funny or perhaps peculiar thing to note is how the natives of any such "new land" type of country may have become lazy or more arrogant and they will only work for higher wages. They will only work for higher positions and higher paying jobs. The void then exists for the immigrant to begin at what may seem a modest level in the new country but can often be much much better than the land they have just left behind.
Racism and the notion that all immigrants are "no good" or are "ignorant" is an awful tragedy.
The immigrant seeks to learn new ways in his lifetime.
The racist native of a a land is what?
Scared to be taken over?
Ruled one day by the immigrants or completely over run by the new cultures and new people in their lands?
Then how can the immigrant survive or do well in a land that the natives wish to keep them down and hate on them so much that they wish to keep opportunities out of their reach, saving only the basic poor labour jobs for the immigrant. "let's allow them in to do the hard labour jobs and nothing more", like all theories, sounds good in theory but terrible in practice.
How do we learn as a nation or a society if we do not allow the great aspire and accept all of our fellow humans as being good people? How do we learn anything about other cultures as we are not willing to mix with the new immigrants. If we are not willing to learn in the same ways that the new immigrant is open to learning, then the native person of their land is possibly to the true "ignorant".
Borders are a way in which we can slow the influx of immigrants to over load any particular country.
Country, what is nationality anymore? New people are moving around the entire world. As a good friend used to tell me, "live for the country you are in" so basically when there, live by their rules and laws. Makes sense really.
My own personal travels have seen me do legal immigration to two different countries other than my own native "Mother Land".
I have been received openly and without prejudices. Perhaps because I am Caucasian?
I have received some tidbits of resistance and have experienced such "snobbery" as natives who look down their nose at me, just because I am not the same as them. I have been the immigrant, which then in turn must mean, I have been the emigrant also.
In a conversation with a family member the topic arose.
Their take on things,
"you left and left the rest of us to deal with
things, so you have no dog in the fight"
A polite way to ask me / tell me to, shut up!
My retort,
"If you are not open to the ideas of the returning
emigrant then how has any land learned
anything of new ways? Those who have
remained do not see a new way. The only
answer is to complain as nothing new has
been learned"
You could say it didn't go over too well, as I was seen as arrogant while I was claiming my relative was being ignorant.
As an immigrant I have been involved in conversations of similar, one such with another immigrant from another country and a native of the land we both emigrated to,
"You didn't grow up here so you wouldn't
understand, (you have no dog in this fight)"
My answer, again almost a repeat,
"If you are not open to new ideas, then how
can anything be learned. You must open your
mind a little bit and be willing to receive new
ideas, even if they come from an old land"
I guess the point being, the emigrant and the immigrant can be one in the same person as I have found myself in this position. We do not know more or know less. We are people who thought it good to learn new things and new ways. We wished to prosper in our journey and gain much understanding in our lives. Though, we also have created a position of limbo for ourselves. A country where we once came from, we no longer are a part of and a country where we went to not fully becoming a part of there either. Immigration and immigrants have a tough time to adjust. The emigrant has a tough time to leave behind their nation and a tough time adapting to the new world. In both scenarios they become the ignorant.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
In both scenarios of immigration and emigration, there remains a gap of "the misfit".
In both scenarios the individual is happy to try, happy to learn and happy to adjust.
Those who have not ventured and who are the up holders of their own "language & borders", I suppose they will just never know.
This has been my own experience and so due to my own travels, I hold the position of experiencing both.
Does this then offer to me an appreciation of the position of the immigrant?
Am I the ignorant?
Once upon a time many of the world's population have been immigrant of some sort or another, not all, though many.
If we can learn from our immigrants then we stand a great chance to advance and do better.
Example,
When I lived in the United States I found myself using terms / making statements like this,
"In my country we would....."
"Back in the mother land they do....."
When returning to Ireland I found myself using terms / making statements like this,
"Back in the states they do this....."
"In the US we would....."
Funny how it works isn't it.
The wisdom I wish to share for this Wednesday
.
Be happy with the immigrant.
Be happy with the emigrant.
We can never know enough.
Stay safe & wash your hands.
Sometimes we might forget that we all had to start out in life somewhere. Our parents or grand parents were people who made a choice in their lives to travel to a new culture and begin a new life. Their choice may have been out of poverty or for reasons of conflict beyond their control and the only option for them was emigration.
For them to leave and move to another country had to be a very difficult thing to do, as the travel options were much less back in history.
A mighty story of our time which does high light the risks and dangers of such emigration has to be the tragic tale of the Titanic.
So many travelers looking for a new life and basically died a frozen death in the north Atlantic ocean. Horrific is an understatement. There are a number of historic journeys of emigration around the world which also carry high risks to the people of their times.
The reasons? Who really knows?
Perhaps the ideas of high risk ~high reward were the same driving force that led so many to move around the world and make their new home in lands that were foreign to themselves.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
What about the resistance from the residents of their new land? An immigrant to any country wishes to work and make money and increase their own new opportunity and that of their children and grandchildren. This would have been the basis for their emigration and so why not receive all who wish for a new life with open arms?
Welcome such immigrants with a thousand welcomes as they are providing usually a cheaper work force?
There is absolutely nothing wrong with someone who wants to work. They are usually more willing to learn and create new wealth in their lives.
A funny or perhaps peculiar thing to note is how the natives of any such "new land" type of country may have become lazy or more arrogant and they will only work for higher wages. They will only work for higher positions and higher paying jobs. The void then exists for the immigrant to begin at what may seem a modest level in the new country but can often be much much better than the land they have just left behind.
Racism and the notion that all immigrants are "no good" or are "ignorant" is an awful tragedy.
The immigrant seeks to learn new ways in his lifetime.
The racist native of a a land is what?
Scared to be taken over?
Ruled one day by the immigrants or completely over run by the new cultures and new people in their lands?
Then how can the immigrant survive or do well in a land that the natives wish to keep them down and hate on them so much that they wish to keep opportunities out of their reach, saving only the basic poor labour jobs for the immigrant. "let's allow them in to do the hard labour jobs and nothing more", like all theories, sounds good in theory but terrible in practice.
How do we learn as a nation or a society if we do not allow the great aspire and accept all of our fellow humans as being good people? How do we learn anything about other cultures as we are not willing to mix with the new immigrants. If we are not willing to learn in the same ways that the new immigrant is open to learning, then the native person of their land is possibly to the true "ignorant".
Borders are a way in which we can slow the influx of immigrants to over load any particular country.
Country, what is nationality anymore? New people are moving around the entire world. As a good friend used to tell me, "live for the country you are in" so basically when there, live by their rules and laws. Makes sense really.
My own personal travels have seen me do legal immigration to two different countries other than my own native "Mother Land".
I have been received openly and without prejudices. Perhaps because I am Caucasian?
I have received some tidbits of resistance and have experienced such "snobbery" as natives who look down their nose at me, just because I am not the same as them. I have been the immigrant, which then in turn must mean, I have been the emigrant also.
In a conversation with a family member the topic arose.
Their take on things,
"you left and left the rest of us to deal with
things, so you have no dog in the fight"
A polite way to ask me / tell me to, shut up!
My retort,
"If you are not open to the ideas of the returning
emigrant then how has any land learned
anything of new ways? Those who have
remained do not see a new way. The only
answer is to complain as nothing new has
been learned"
You could say it didn't go over too well, as I was seen as arrogant while I was claiming my relative was being ignorant.
As an immigrant I have been involved in conversations of similar, one such with another immigrant from another country and a native of the land we both emigrated to,
"You didn't grow up here so you wouldn't
understand, (you have no dog in this fight)"
My answer, again almost a repeat,
"If you are not open to new ideas, then how
can anything be learned. You must open your
mind a little bit and be willing to receive new
ideas, even if they come from an old land"
I guess the point being, the emigrant and the immigrant can be one in the same person as I have found myself in this position. We do not know more or know less. We are people who thought it good to learn new things and new ways. We wished to prosper in our journey and gain much understanding in our lives. Though, we also have created a position of limbo for ourselves. A country where we once came from, we no longer are a part of and a country where we went to not fully becoming a part of there either. Immigration and immigrants have a tough time to adjust. The emigrant has a tough time to leave behind their nation and a tough time adapting to the new world. In both scenarios they become the ignorant.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
In both scenarios of immigration and emigration, there remains a gap of "the misfit".
In both scenarios the individual is happy to try, happy to learn and happy to adjust.
Those who have not ventured and who are the up holders of their own "language & borders", I suppose they will just never know.
This has been my own experience and so due to my own travels, I hold the position of experiencing both.
Does this then offer to me an appreciation of the position of the immigrant?
Am I the ignorant?
Once upon a time many of the world's population have been immigrant of some sort or another, not all, though many.
If we can learn from our immigrants then we stand a great chance to advance and do better.
Example,
When I lived in the United States I found myself using terms / making statements like this,
"In my country we would....."
"Back in the mother land they do....."
When returning to Ireland I found myself using terms / making statements like this,
"Back in the states they do this....."
"In the US we would....."
Funny how it works isn't it.
The wisdom I wish to share for this Wednesday
.
Be happy with the immigrant.
Be happy with the emigrant.
We can never know enough.
Stay safe & wash your hands.
May 5, 2020
Tuesday Thoughts ~ virus changes
The material to write about is endless. Who would have ever thought such a pandemic would have ever occurred?
Even in the Whitehouse they cannot agree. Trump says made in a lab, the head of the task force "Anthony" says not possible.
They seem to be having trouble getting their story straight.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Another alarming factor is the advice about protective wear. In the beginning we (the people) were alerted that face masks were only necessary for the people who were infected, this was an effort to prevent infected people from spreading it further.
Now however it appears that face masks are becoming a compulsory part of reopening in many countries.
Another fault of who?
Definitely another situation where the story appears to be too complicated for the "experts" to get it right.
In Ireland our health advisory is that we are being advised not to wear gloves and to maintain and continue with washing hands as a more productive method.
Ah yes, it is possible people will be lulled in to a false sense of immunity by wearing gloves only. I would like to think, wear the gloves, dispose of them properly and wash your hands. Perhaps this would be a better piece of advice.
Oh by the way, just to clarify, I have no medical background, training or any schooling whatsoever.
I am just like you, a person who is thinking for themselves due to the severe lack of guidance, understanding or expert advice from any of the governments, and that goes for globally.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
* Wear your masks, this is a for sure, for sure!
* Wear gloves when in the shops or anywhere
public. Dispose of them immediately after use and
wash your hands.
* Stay at home just a little bit longer. Stick with the
idea of essential movement out in the public arena.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
How can any of us actually know what is going on. The medicines or "vaccines" appear to be a global effort from the drug companies. Yet no sign of a cheap and easy solution.
Can drug companies be expected to operate at a loss?
No, absolutely not.
Can drug companies use some of their life time year over year profits to make an exception this one time?
I would expect so.
Some "iresdev" thing or nother at $1000 a dose. This would seem a little excessive, wouldn't it?
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
What have we learned from the pandemic crisis?
I would like to say there are many areas of our societies that have shown great strength. The composure and how it has been dealt with publicly shows to me that when one sector or another receives a serious call of duty, they have responded. This would go for all of the front line workers. ALL of Them.
Just look at what can be achieved.
It has been amazing to see the response to the pandemic and to see how people can actually step up and over perform. For this, as a member of the general public, I express thanks.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
The beauty will be in the post lock down, post pandemic.
Can we keep this great effort going and allow such fine efforts to become the new normal.
The bar has been raised by this pandemic. Though many lives have been lost and much financial hurt and burdens are yet to come. The idea of how our society can operate so well is a new level of normal that may have slipped out of view for many.
This new normal is not all about the way in which we social distance or how we will attend a football game.
The new normal is about how we have all stopped and paused for a moment each day to feel for those who have been lost.
The new normal can be the over performance of so many industries who have all shown great resilience and enhanced performance. This can be our new normal. A society that works together.
These CHANGES are real.
The virus many have opened the eyes of many to their absolute full potential. These are welcome changes within all societies of the individual countries, so horribly disturbed by the pandemic.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Although much of the focus has turned to the elderly and the hursing homes of the world. The vulnerable communities of the world. It is also a very key time in the lives of the children. Perhaps we have hit the reset button on the entire medical systems. Now can we see a vocation type, aspirations of the youth to enter into areas of the medical profession as they are now witnessing how valuable they are?
Not for money only. For the admirable position of what it means to be a doctor or a nurse. What it means to be working in a drug research laboratory.
The children are experiencing a whole new normal also. The elderly are longing for or remembering a world that they once lived in. The youth are entering a new world of many "new normals", a world none of us have any clue of how it is going to be.
Let us focus on the youth in every thought as we go forward into the post pandemic world.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
"Change is as good as a rest"
Change is here, more change is coming and change can be embraced by us all. We, the entire world, have never learned anything without change. It is the enevitable of all being on our planet.
Our choices are quite simply.
* Embrace the change.
* Resist the change.
Where do you see yourself with the idea of change?
For all the people that have lost their lives to Covid-19 (the corona virus). We will remember you. We will spare a thought for you and your families. We all wish we could have known what to do and how to do it, to save your lives.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
To finish,
I saw a post on the Internet that read,
"The pandemic is not over, the easing of
restrictions only means, there is now more
space in the ICU units to deal with you"
A quote from a movie, (The Rock)
Nicolas Cage to Sean Connery,
"The minute you disrespect this stuff, it
will kill you"
Embrace the changes & continue to STAY SAFE.
Even in the Whitehouse they cannot agree. Trump says made in a lab, the head of the task force "Anthony" says not possible.
They seem to be having trouble getting their story straight.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Another alarming factor is the advice about protective wear. In the beginning we (the people) were alerted that face masks were only necessary for the people who were infected, this was an effort to prevent infected people from spreading it further.
Now however it appears that face masks are becoming a compulsory part of reopening in many countries.
Another fault of who?
Definitely another situation where the story appears to be too complicated for the "experts" to get it right.
In Ireland our health advisory is that we are being advised not to wear gloves and to maintain and continue with washing hands as a more productive method.
Ah yes, it is possible people will be lulled in to a false sense of immunity by wearing gloves only. I would like to think, wear the gloves, dispose of them properly and wash your hands. Perhaps this would be a better piece of advice.
Oh by the way, just to clarify, I have no medical background, training or any schooling whatsoever.
I am just like you, a person who is thinking for themselves due to the severe lack of guidance, understanding or expert advice from any of the governments, and that goes for globally.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
* Wear your masks, this is a for sure, for sure!
* Wear gloves when in the shops or anywhere
public. Dispose of them immediately after use and
wash your hands.
* Stay at home just a little bit longer. Stick with the
idea of essential movement out in the public arena.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
How can any of us actually know what is going on. The medicines or "vaccines" appear to be a global effort from the drug companies. Yet no sign of a cheap and easy solution.
Can drug companies be expected to operate at a loss?
No, absolutely not.
Can drug companies use some of their life time year over year profits to make an exception this one time?
I would expect so.
Some "iresdev" thing or nother at $1000 a dose. This would seem a little excessive, wouldn't it?
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
What have we learned from the pandemic crisis?
I would like to say there are many areas of our societies that have shown great strength. The composure and how it has been dealt with publicly shows to me that when one sector or another receives a serious call of duty, they have responded. This would go for all of the front line workers. ALL of Them.
Just look at what can be achieved.
It has been amazing to see the response to the pandemic and to see how people can actually step up and over perform. For this, as a member of the general public, I express thanks.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
The beauty will be in the post lock down, post pandemic.
Can we keep this great effort going and allow such fine efforts to become the new normal.
The bar has been raised by this pandemic. Though many lives have been lost and much financial hurt and burdens are yet to come. The idea of how our society can operate so well is a new level of normal that may have slipped out of view for many.
This new normal is not all about the way in which we social distance or how we will attend a football game.
The new normal is about how we have all stopped and paused for a moment each day to feel for those who have been lost.
The new normal can be the over performance of so many industries who have all shown great resilience and enhanced performance. This can be our new normal. A society that works together.
These CHANGES are real.
The virus many have opened the eyes of many to their absolute full potential. These are welcome changes within all societies of the individual countries, so horribly disturbed by the pandemic.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Although much of the focus has turned to the elderly and the hursing homes of the world. The vulnerable communities of the world. It is also a very key time in the lives of the children. Perhaps we have hit the reset button on the entire medical systems. Now can we see a vocation type, aspirations of the youth to enter into areas of the medical profession as they are now witnessing how valuable they are?
Not for money only. For the admirable position of what it means to be a doctor or a nurse. What it means to be working in a drug research laboratory.
The children are experiencing a whole new normal also. The elderly are longing for or remembering a world that they once lived in. The youth are entering a new world of many "new normals", a world none of us have any clue of how it is going to be.
Let us focus on the youth in every thought as we go forward into the post pandemic world.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
"Change is as good as a rest"
Change is here, more change is coming and change can be embraced by us all. We, the entire world, have never learned anything without change. It is the enevitable of all being on our planet.
Our choices are quite simply.
* Embrace the change.
* Resist the change.
Where do you see yourself with the idea of change?
For all the people that have lost their lives to Covid-19 (the corona virus). We will remember you. We will spare a thought for you and your families. We all wish we could have known what to do and how to do it, to save your lives.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
To finish,
I saw a post on the Internet that read,
"The pandemic is not over, the easing of
restrictions only means, there is now more
space in the ICU units to deal with you"
A quote from a movie, (The Rock)
Nicolas Cage to Sean Connery,
"The minute you disrespect this stuff, it
will kill you"
Embrace the changes & continue to STAY SAFE.
May 3, 2020
Liveable OR Lovable ? (chapter, Layman's Handbook)
Liveable or Loveable
When we were young, well some of us at least, lol. We had to do some chores for our parents. Wash dishes or vacuum a room or bring out some of the garbage. Chores they were called and we did them sometimes grudgingly and other times we were over enthusiastic, maybe even making a mess, this could have been a strategy in trying to keep our parents from asking us to do such a chore again ha~ha.
It has been good preparation though for doing things we do not like and sometimes learning that if we just do not complain we can actually enjoy them.
There are times in our careers or jobs, a boss may give us a task to do that we hate and we have a choice to either do it happily or do it sourly. I am not saying we are going to enjoy everything we have to do but there are always options for what we do and more so how we do them.
You will take note I have brought up the concept of choice again as that is what it really is. We can choose to enjoy everything we are asked to do or we can choose to hate it. We always have a choice.
From growing up and learning about chores I obtained a hard work type ethic that was very simple. Get stuck in and then it will be over soon and no big deal. Get on with it, no matter how I felt about something, when it is something I must do, the only way to be rid of the feeling of disgust or unhappy was to tackle the task at hand and get to the finish as efficiently and promptly as possible.
So what is with the live~able & the love~able? Well, some things we can approach with an attitude of "I could live with that" and others we approach with an attitude of "oh I love that".
So what makes the difference? How do we go from an attitude of I can tolerate something to a point of an attitude of I love that?
There are many times it is totally associated with how we feel about something. Our feelings become bright and happy and joyous in any particular chore or aspect of our life, from hanging out with certain friends to working our job on certain days or certain tasks that we might actually like. We love all the ones that we feel good about or in.
It is interesting to think back or take notice of what you do on a day to day basis that you feel good about and the stuff you feel just plain old sucks. When we begin to notice things that we always have said "makes us feel bad" we can then begin to dig in to "the why?".
There are many times it is our own outlook or attitude that actually sucks and not the person or the tasks we are involved with. Our own approach can make all the difference, we can tell ourselves that we will have fun doing something and then as if by magic it will be fun.
If every person were to go through life just doing things that were to a standard of "ah screw it, it will do, I can live with that" then yes indeed life would become very grey all around us.
Life is not grey though and quite the opposite, life is full of colour and vibrants, the word vibrant even, what does it bring to mind? If I say the word VIBRANT what is it that comes to mind?
Colours perhaps or an idea of life? For me it makes an image of a happy person in my mind. Somebody who is vibrant, the person who is high on life, they might not be the most colourful though.
Does it mean we must have an over powered passion for everything we come across in life? Not really, it would be nice to consider now that any tasks be it work or a chore at home, it is good to consider how if it is something we are doing then perhaps we should do it well as it will always carry our mark on it. Our own finger prints so to speak, the chore we hate performing will be something that is associated to us personally. Should we do it to a standard of acceptable and "we can live with it" or can we do it to a standard of "oh I love it".
For these reasons it is our choice to decide how we want to approach these tasks, it is our choice how those who view our work will either feel the livable nature in which we did it or the lovable nature.
No, we are not doing this for the other people in life to comment or to be satisfied with, we are doing these things so that we will be happy with them. Any job or chore or task of any kind is not about the actually thing we must do, it is about us and how we do em and how we feel. These are the powers that we possess, we can change a whole day into a great day just by how we approach something and with what attitude is it that we go about our work.
We can do a days work and feel horrible about it all and our only good pieces were lunch time and going home time. We perk up and feel good when we eat because satisfying our hunger is a nice feeling to have. When we are down in the dumps about our job or in our office, we can just become ecstatic when it comes to the end of a day because this is the time we leave and go to be where we are more comfortable. So what if I told you it was possible to be happy all of the time, either at home in your comfort area and at work. It is possible to enjoy the chores and the tasks at work.
Oh yes this is very possible.
How?
Having an understanding why it is we do a chore or why it is that we go to work, what are these things for? I cannot know your job description so I cannot speak to the specifics of it nor do I know which chores you love and which chores do you hate. What I do know though is that it has absolutely nothing to do with the job or the chores, it all has to do with what you choose to say to yourself. Your approach to any situation is about how you decide to approach it.
Doing a good job is secondary to the actually doing of the job. It is a good thing to tell yourself; you will do a good job and achieve this little item as the satisfaction attached can spark off some good feelings inside. Just to complete it can help us become happy. Completing something well, this brings a new type of satisfaction, similar to how we satisfied our hunger with our lunch but not exactly the same. It is in how we choose to be about the task, we possess the ability to like things and not like things.
We have been figuring these out since we were a toddler. So you might say right now, "hold on a minute I know what I like and don't like, that's simple" I say back, have you tried the things you do not like with a different attitude?
Here is a possible way to approach, I have never been mad about doing this every week how and ever I am going to begin to like doing it, even if it sucks.
How about, I like to enjoy my day and so anything that comes my way will all be part of me and my world so it will be a nice day, I like nice.
Imagine a few simple words to ourselves can change how we approach something and it can change how we feel about it and change the outcome of our own day. Just a few simple words to ourselves.
That's magic.
Please do not take my word for it, please I ask of you to try it. Begin each day on such a positive note that even when we walk right into anything we can achieve it, we can master it and we can enjoy it. These would be the differences between choosing to have a nice day and choosing not to. All within our own power
This leaves me to ask of you one more simple thing to consider. How do you see yourself?
Are you the master piece that you have been working on and are you the beautiful person you have always been? Then it is your duty to yourself to not allow negative thoughts to crowd your mind and dull your emotion. It is like as if you are worthy of so much more than you allow yourself. You deserve to be happy and making yourself happy depends on whether you think you are a person who is just liveable or are you lovable?
When you find that a day is getting away from you and you are losing your focus to where it is all turning nasty and your feelings are turning sour, it is then at that point in your day, sneak off privately for like two minutes and refocus your mind. Do the breathing exercises and start over. Begin again and regain the passion for life.
Allow the feelings to pass through and reground yourself in your day. There is nothing that can change your day or make your day "shit" other than the attitude you carry with you. If you find yourself having a worse type of day, focus and regroup your thoughts and your emotions all over again.
This is totally the difference between
"nah, I could live with it"
or
"yay, I love it"
All within our own powers of how and what we choose.
I like to choose to enjoy my day, do you?
When we were young, well some of us at least, lol. We had to do some chores for our parents. Wash dishes or vacuum a room or bring out some of the garbage. Chores they were called and we did them sometimes grudgingly and other times we were over enthusiastic, maybe even making a mess, this could have been a strategy in trying to keep our parents from asking us to do such a chore again ha~ha.
It has been good preparation though for doing things we do not like and sometimes learning that if we just do not complain we can actually enjoy them.
There are times in our careers or jobs, a boss may give us a task to do that we hate and we have a choice to either do it happily or do it sourly. I am not saying we are going to enjoy everything we have to do but there are always options for what we do and more so how we do them.
You will take note I have brought up the concept of choice again as that is what it really is. We can choose to enjoy everything we are asked to do or we can choose to hate it. We always have a choice.
From growing up and learning about chores I obtained a hard work type ethic that was very simple. Get stuck in and then it will be over soon and no big deal. Get on with it, no matter how I felt about something, when it is something I must do, the only way to be rid of the feeling of disgust or unhappy was to tackle the task at hand and get to the finish as efficiently and promptly as possible.
So what is with the live~able & the love~able? Well, some things we can approach with an attitude of "I could live with that" and others we approach with an attitude of "oh I love that".
So what makes the difference? How do we go from an attitude of I can tolerate something to a point of an attitude of I love that?
There are many times it is totally associated with how we feel about something. Our feelings become bright and happy and joyous in any particular chore or aspect of our life, from hanging out with certain friends to working our job on certain days or certain tasks that we might actually like. We love all the ones that we feel good about or in.
It is interesting to think back or take notice of what you do on a day to day basis that you feel good about and the stuff you feel just plain old sucks. When we begin to notice things that we always have said "makes us feel bad" we can then begin to dig in to "the why?".
There are many times it is our own outlook or attitude that actually sucks and not the person or the tasks we are involved with. Our own approach can make all the difference, we can tell ourselves that we will have fun doing something and then as if by magic it will be fun.
If every person were to go through life just doing things that were to a standard of "ah screw it, it will do, I can live with that" then yes indeed life would become very grey all around us.
Life is not grey though and quite the opposite, life is full of colour and vibrants, the word vibrant even, what does it bring to mind? If I say the word VIBRANT what is it that comes to mind?
Colours perhaps or an idea of life? For me it makes an image of a happy person in my mind. Somebody who is vibrant, the person who is high on life, they might not be the most colourful though.
Does it mean we must have an over powered passion for everything we come across in life? Not really, it would be nice to consider now that any tasks be it work or a chore at home, it is good to consider how if it is something we are doing then perhaps we should do it well as it will always carry our mark on it. Our own finger prints so to speak, the chore we hate performing will be something that is associated to us personally. Should we do it to a standard of acceptable and "we can live with it" or can we do it to a standard of "oh I love it".
For these reasons it is our choice to decide how we want to approach these tasks, it is our choice how those who view our work will either feel the livable nature in which we did it or the lovable nature.
No, we are not doing this for the other people in life to comment or to be satisfied with, we are doing these things so that we will be happy with them. Any job or chore or task of any kind is not about the actually thing we must do, it is about us and how we do em and how we feel. These are the powers that we possess, we can change a whole day into a great day just by how we approach something and with what attitude is it that we go about our work.
We can do a days work and feel horrible about it all and our only good pieces were lunch time and going home time. We perk up and feel good when we eat because satisfying our hunger is a nice feeling to have. When we are down in the dumps about our job or in our office, we can just become ecstatic when it comes to the end of a day because this is the time we leave and go to be where we are more comfortable. So what if I told you it was possible to be happy all of the time, either at home in your comfort area and at work. It is possible to enjoy the chores and the tasks at work.
Oh yes this is very possible.
How?
Having an understanding why it is we do a chore or why it is that we go to work, what are these things for? I cannot know your job description so I cannot speak to the specifics of it nor do I know which chores you love and which chores do you hate. What I do know though is that it has absolutely nothing to do with the job or the chores, it all has to do with what you choose to say to yourself. Your approach to any situation is about how you decide to approach it.
Doing a good job is secondary to the actually doing of the job. It is a good thing to tell yourself; you will do a good job and achieve this little item as the satisfaction attached can spark off some good feelings inside. Just to complete it can help us become happy. Completing something well, this brings a new type of satisfaction, similar to how we satisfied our hunger with our lunch but not exactly the same. It is in how we choose to be about the task, we possess the ability to like things and not like things.
We have been figuring these out since we were a toddler. So you might say right now, "hold on a minute I know what I like and don't like, that's simple" I say back, have you tried the things you do not like with a different attitude?
Here is a possible way to approach, I have never been mad about doing this every week how and ever I am going to begin to like doing it, even if it sucks.
How about, I like to enjoy my day and so anything that comes my way will all be part of me and my world so it will be a nice day, I like nice.
Imagine a few simple words to ourselves can change how we approach something and it can change how we feel about it and change the outcome of our own day. Just a few simple words to ourselves.
That's magic.
Please do not take my word for it, please I ask of you to try it. Begin each day on such a positive note that even when we walk right into anything we can achieve it, we can master it and we can enjoy it. These would be the differences between choosing to have a nice day and choosing not to. All within our own power
This leaves me to ask of you one more simple thing to consider. How do you see yourself?
Are you the master piece that you have been working on and are you the beautiful person you have always been? Then it is your duty to yourself to not allow negative thoughts to crowd your mind and dull your emotion. It is like as if you are worthy of so much more than you allow yourself. You deserve to be happy and making yourself happy depends on whether you think you are a person who is just liveable or are you lovable?
When you find that a day is getting away from you and you are losing your focus to where it is all turning nasty and your feelings are turning sour, it is then at that point in your day, sneak off privately for like two minutes and refocus your mind. Do the breathing exercises and start over. Begin again and regain the passion for life.
Allow the feelings to pass through and reground yourself in your day. There is nothing that can change your day or make your day "shit" other than the attitude you carry with you. If you find yourself having a worse type of day, focus and regroup your thoughts and your emotions all over again.
This is totally the difference between
"nah, I could live with it"
or
"yay, I love it"
All within our own powers of how and what we choose.
I like to choose to enjoy my day, do you?
May 1, 2020
Friday Feeling ~ Callous
There is no point to me pretending, this whole corona virus stuff. It is unavoidable to bring up a few thoughts here and there.
We began back in late January, early February with alerts and hearing about this deadly disease type thing that was wiping out Chinese people like there was no tomorrow.
Of course we did not need to do anything as who would think such a deadly virus would spread all over the world?
NOT me, that's for sure. Did you?
So how has this treated you? How do you feel about the whole thing of Covid~19?
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
I have used the word callous in the title of the post here today, I see that many could hide behind the use of the word complacent perhaps? Callous seemed to me a better word.
I know it is more to do with the offensive attitude or disregard for others. More simply perhaps the idea of how a tired old man may look down upon his calloused hands. Meaning of how they have hardened from years of hard work.
Callous, the hard skin that forms on the hands after loads upon loads of hard manual labour.
I must believe the callous nature in which the whole corona virus has been handled is something maybe all of you can understand too.
The callousness in this is not the hardened hands of an older labourer, nope this time we can see the word in the context of disregard for others, an insensitive nature. Just as the workers hands have hardened, so now have our attitudes,
Did I ever think that mass graves would be something that could become so easily acceptable in the now so called "civilized world"?
Did I ever think that my nightly news reel would repeat every evening on a "death count"?
Did I ever think I would see and hear people want to riot for their freedom. Not just "freedom of speech" ?
I have to say with all my anti callousness, my answer to the above questions is;
FUCK NO!
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
I know I have titled the post "Friday Feeling" & callous is not so much of a feeling as it is an overall attitude these days. Just as the labourers hands became calloused from all the years of hard work. We, the general public have become hardened also, hardened in our attitudes towards such horrific scenes as MASS GRAVES for corona virus victims. We have become hardened to the daily death rate reporting.
We have become hardened and have developed a "callous attitude" towards Covid-19.
* Callous, the hard pieces of skin on the hardened hands of a hard working person.
* Callous, an insensitive attitude & cruel disregards for others.
What feeling could one really use to describe what it actually is that we as a human race are feeling towards this corona virus?
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
The efforts to "flatten the curve" may very well be working, though slowly, by staying at home.
The campaign of #StayAtHomeSavesLives is strong and deserves strong consideration.
Can our callousness be so bad that we think the death rate we are hearing every day is fake?
Can our callousness be so bad that we have developed a cloak of complacency to hide behind?
"Oh it will never happen to me"
Who do you think these numbers of deaths represent?
Real people, that is who, real folks just like you and me. A great way to create the cloak of complacency is to say something like either one of these statements;
"It is only killing old people, I will be fine"
OR
"If I get it, I get it. What's it going to do, kill
me?"
YES, it has a high chance of killing you. That is what the entire world has been breaking their pockets trying to do, save you from doing, not getting dead!
NO, you will not be fine as all ages and races and genders have been "getting dead" from this virus.
So why so callous?
So why so complacent?
I do not write to drive any additional fears your way. I do not wish to bring about further anxiety in your life.
I merely wish to offer a snippet of thought your direction. I wish to bring about a situation where by reading something I have written you might, pause for a moment, give it a little thought and perhaps & I do say perhaps. Perhaps you will become a tiny little bit more empathetic towards the poor people who have died from this virus, I hope you will share a thought for all of those who are gasping for air because of the corona virus and most of all I hope you will bury the complacent attitude for a day or two more & remain at home .
Stay at home saves lives.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Becoming callous in our attitudes is very much a choice. Maybe the hard worker who's hands became calloused could have worn gloves or used hand creams. They had a choice.
You too have a choice in this situation of corona virus.
You can be callous to the whole thing or you can use your brains and take an action based upon your own thoughts and feelings.
Riot in the streets or give TIME a chance to rid us of the corona virus. We can do the latter by staying at home.
Mind you who wouldn't love a good riot, right about now? Lock down would get ya feeling that way anyway.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Now for the advertising. What would a blog post be without a bit of advertising.
I have plenty of writing efforts to offer you reading material to bring about a few thoughts or emotions while reading.
TWO sons TOO many, memoir.
Life story (mine) where I enjoyed everything and lost everything. I picked myself up again and then I lost again. I became a very tormented person in the brain. I felt I had no choice and callous to life would be a understatement. If you want some reading material that pull on your heart strings, make you laugh out loud and have you cry like a baby. This book is definitely for you.
17 & Life, memoir.
Life story (mine) where I looked back and realized a few things from my younger years.
Subtitled "A major crossroads or just a simple intersection"
Do all the decisions we make in life have major consequences and major affect on our lives as we grow?
Are everyday decisions something that mean nothing to us and we are going to end up at our destination anyway?
At what time in life can a major life altering decision come about for us?
For many it may have never even happened, "yet".
For me I was 17.
Layman's Handbook, Self Help.
I have briefly explained earlier how I was knocked about a bit in life. Again "understatement". My new normal became one of recovery and rediscovery of myself and of "LIFE", call it life after death if you would. Call it life after tsunami, call it life after earthquake, tornado, hurricane, Armageddon.
Point being I was completely shattered and a single fiber inside of me said NEVER GIVE UP.
I grasped for anything & everything. I began to find answers and rebuilt myself. The tools and methods that I found worked best, I have shared with you. No matter what turmoil you might find yourself in, there is a way through it.
Subtitled "simple tools to change how we live.
A Journey To SELF"
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Have a wonderful weekend. Please do comment below either about this post or any of my books.
Share this post for all of your friends and help them realize that staying at home is not such a bad choice after all.
Find & follow me around the web
@TWOsonsTOOmany
We began back in late January, early February with alerts and hearing about this deadly disease type thing that was wiping out Chinese people like there was no tomorrow.
Of course we did not need to do anything as who would think such a deadly virus would spread all over the world?
NOT me, that's for sure. Did you?
So how has this treated you? How do you feel about the whole thing of Covid~19?
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
I have used the word callous in the title of the post here today, I see that many could hide behind the use of the word complacent perhaps? Callous seemed to me a better word.
I know it is more to do with the offensive attitude or disregard for others. More simply perhaps the idea of how a tired old man may look down upon his calloused hands. Meaning of how they have hardened from years of hard work.
Callous, the hard skin that forms on the hands after loads upon loads of hard manual labour.
I must believe the callous nature in which the whole corona virus has been handled is something maybe all of you can understand too.
The callousness in this is not the hardened hands of an older labourer, nope this time we can see the word in the context of disregard for others, an insensitive nature. Just as the workers hands have hardened, so now have our attitudes,
Did I ever think that mass graves would be something that could become so easily acceptable in the now so called "civilized world"?
Did I ever think that my nightly news reel would repeat every evening on a "death count"?
Did I ever think I would see and hear people want to riot for their freedom. Not just "freedom of speech" ?
I have to say with all my anti callousness, my answer to the above questions is;
FUCK NO!
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
I know I have titled the post "Friday Feeling" & callous is not so much of a feeling as it is an overall attitude these days. Just as the labourers hands became calloused from all the years of hard work. We, the general public have become hardened also, hardened in our attitudes towards such horrific scenes as MASS GRAVES for corona virus victims. We have become hardened to the daily death rate reporting.
We have become hardened and have developed a "callous attitude" towards Covid-19.
* Callous, the hard pieces of skin on the hardened hands of a hard working person.
* Callous, an insensitive attitude & cruel disregards for others.
What feeling could one really use to describe what it actually is that we as a human race are feeling towards this corona virus?
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
The efforts to "flatten the curve" may very well be working, though slowly, by staying at home.
The campaign of #StayAtHomeSavesLives is strong and deserves strong consideration.
Can our callousness be so bad that we think the death rate we are hearing every day is fake?
Can our callousness be so bad that we have developed a cloak of complacency to hide behind?
"Oh it will never happen to me"
Who do you think these numbers of deaths represent?
Real people, that is who, real folks just like you and me. A great way to create the cloak of complacency is to say something like either one of these statements;
"It is only killing old people, I will be fine"
OR
"If I get it, I get it. What's it going to do, kill
me?"
YES, it has a high chance of killing you. That is what the entire world has been breaking their pockets trying to do, save you from doing, not getting dead!
NO, you will not be fine as all ages and races and genders have been "getting dead" from this virus.
So why so callous?
So why so complacent?
I do not write to drive any additional fears your way. I do not wish to bring about further anxiety in your life.
I merely wish to offer a snippet of thought your direction. I wish to bring about a situation where by reading something I have written you might, pause for a moment, give it a little thought and perhaps & I do say perhaps. Perhaps you will become a tiny little bit more empathetic towards the poor people who have died from this virus, I hope you will share a thought for all of those who are gasping for air because of the corona virus and most of all I hope you will bury the complacent attitude for a day or two more & remain at home .
Stay at home saves lives.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Becoming callous in our attitudes is very much a choice. Maybe the hard worker who's hands became calloused could have worn gloves or used hand creams. They had a choice.
You too have a choice in this situation of corona virus.
You can be callous to the whole thing or you can use your brains and take an action based upon your own thoughts and feelings.
Riot in the streets or give TIME a chance to rid us of the corona virus. We can do the latter by staying at home.
Mind you who wouldn't love a good riot, right about now? Lock down would get ya feeling that way anyway.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Now for the advertising. What would a blog post be without a bit of advertising.
I have plenty of writing efforts to offer you reading material to bring about a few thoughts or emotions while reading.
TWO sons TOO many, memoir.
Life story (mine) where I enjoyed everything and lost everything. I picked myself up again and then I lost again. I became a very tormented person in the brain. I felt I had no choice and callous to life would be a understatement. If you want some reading material that pull on your heart strings, make you laugh out loud and have you cry like a baby. This book is definitely for you.
17 & Life, memoir.
Life story (mine) where I looked back and realized a few things from my younger years.
Subtitled "A major crossroads or just a simple intersection"
Do all the decisions we make in life have major consequences and major affect on our lives as we grow?
Are everyday decisions something that mean nothing to us and we are going to end up at our destination anyway?
At what time in life can a major life altering decision come about for us?
For many it may have never even happened, "yet".
For me I was 17.
Layman's Handbook, Self Help.
I have briefly explained earlier how I was knocked about a bit in life. Again "understatement". My new normal became one of recovery and rediscovery of myself and of "LIFE", call it life after death if you would. Call it life after tsunami, call it life after earthquake, tornado, hurricane, Armageddon.
Point being I was completely shattered and a single fiber inside of me said NEVER GIVE UP.
I grasped for anything & everything. I began to find answers and rebuilt myself. The tools and methods that I found worked best, I have shared with you. No matter what turmoil you might find yourself in, there is a way through it.
Subtitled "simple tools to change how we live.
A Journey To SELF"
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Have a wonderful weekend. Please do comment below either about this post or any of my books.
Share this post for all of your friends and help them realize that staying at home is not such a bad choice after all.
Find & follow me around the web
@TWOsonsTOOmany
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