Aidan Mc Nally's Blog: Random thoughts by Aidan. , page 18
September 28, 2017
You are IMPORTANT always
How important are we, well actually very important indeed.
I am always attempting to explain clearly that the daily stress of life is part of our routine at this stage in our life. The beneficial piece is if we can find it in ourselves to take a simple moment and breathe, take a deep breath and listen to how you exhale. Taste the air that you breathe.
Can you for right now this very moment do that ? Stop what you are doing, sit or stand and take a big deep breath. It will take you less than thirty seconds, taste the air, feel it filling your lungs, listen closely. Perhaps you are taking coffee in a Coffee shop or on a bus, train even. Sitting in traffic or even making dinner. Take that deep breath and listen as you breathe, can you hear the ambience, a distant noise or maybe complete silence. Take a moment and try it, this might just help you realize how important you are.
So how to important are we? Well if we look at our life and our relationships with others around us, our life partners perhaps. Take, A moment and think, this relationship does not work without you. It takes two to make a partnership, even though we can develop some co-dependency with our partners it is important to understand that WE yes YOU are the most important person, without you it just leaves some other person being single.
Take a look at our friendships with people life long friends and true good friends who are always there for you, you feel grateful to have such wonderful friends indeed. Well without you that is a friendship that does not even exist.
So you are of the utmost importance. Yes we know the obvious ones of being a parent perhaps? The kids need you, right now and always every day. Of course this makes you oh so important yet again. Without you they become orphans perhaps.
So many reasons why you are the most IMPORTANT, then breathe and enjoy your day. Take a single moment, we are talking thirty seconds to inhale, listen and smell the freshness. Exhale hear your negativies flood out with your breathe, cleanse again as we inhale and take in the goodness of life.
Focus on nothing, allow the most important person in your life a second or two to switch off. Become one with your immediate surrounding. Take this little exercise as often as you can amid a busy day.
Tell yourself always no matter what the situation. " I am important, I am very important" taking a nice deep, inhale and exhale.
Pause for that special moment, just as good as any treat you can give yourself.
Just to imagine that through, about a three to four minute time out for ourselves once a day or every other day, we can achieve so much and build ourselves stronger each time.
There are no meditation rituals in my book but I would love for you to rush out and buy it. An easy download to kindle or order from Amazon seems the fastest, title. TWO sons TOO many. Type it in Google and search, come say hello on Twitter or Facebook and have an all round fantastic weekend.
Oh my book, well it is a memoir of some great times and some harsh times. Like any memoir the idea of provoking thoughts or stirring up emotions probably will occur, but don't worry, you can take great comfort in reading my story and not living it.......
Have a great weekend,
Breathe, remember how important you are and take a little read of TWO sons TOO many.
Come by and press the like thingy, if you like of course. https://www.createspace.com/6300312
I am always attempting to explain clearly that the daily stress of life is part of our routine at this stage in our life. The beneficial piece is if we can find it in ourselves to take a simple moment and breathe, take a deep breath and listen to how you exhale. Taste the air that you breathe.
Can you for right now this very moment do that ? Stop what you are doing, sit or stand and take a big deep breath. It will take you less than thirty seconds, taste the air, feel it filling your lungs, listen closely. Perhaps you are taking coffee in a Coffee shop or on a bus, train even. Sitting in traffic or even making dinner. Take that deep breath and listen as you breathe, can you hear the ambience, a distant noise or maybe complete silence. Take a moment and try it, this might just help you realize how important you are.
So how to important are we? Well if we look at our life and our relationships with others around us, our life partners perhaps. Take, A moment and think, this relationship does not work without you. It takes two to make a partnership, even though we can develop some co-dependency with our partners it is important to understand that WE yes YOU are the most important person, without you it just leaves some other person being single.
Take a look at our friendships with people life long friends and true good friends who are always there for you, you feel grateful to have such wonderful friends indeed. Well without you that is a friendship that does not even exist.
So you are of the utmost importance. Yes we know the obvious ones of being a parent perhaps? The kids need you, right now and always every day. Of course this makes you oh so important yet again. Without you they become orphans perhaps.
So many reasons why you are the most IMPORTANT, then breathe and enjoy your day. Take a single moment, we are talking thirty seconds to inhale, listen and smell the freshness. Exhale hear your negativies flood out with your breathe, cleanse again as we inhale and take in the goodness of life.
Focus on nothing, allow the most important person in your life a second or two to switch off. Become one with your immediate surrounding. Take this little exercise as often as you can amid a busy day.
Tell yourself always no matter what the situation. " I am important, I am very important" taking a nice deep, inhale and exhale.
Pause for that special moment, just as good as any treat you can give yourself.
Just to imagine that through, about a three to four minute time out for ourselves once a day or every other day, we can achieve so much and build ourselves stronger each time.
There are no meditation rituals in my book but I would love for you to rush out and buy it. An easy download to kindle or order from Amazon seems the fastest, title. TWO sons TOO many. Type it in Google and search, come say hello on Twitter or Facebook and have an all round fantastic weekend.
Oh my book, well it is a memoir of some great times and some harsh times. Like any memoir the idea of provoking thoughts or stirring up emotions probably will occur, but don't worry, you can take great comfort in reading my story and not living it.......
Have a great weekend,
Breathe, remember how important you are and take a little read of TWO sons TOO many.
Come by and press the like thingy, if you like of course. https://www.createspace.com/6300312
September 19, 2017
Men & Women how different ?
A couple of interesting "clickable" came across my screen just the other day. Well yesterday actually. The message was pretty m such the same, at least the marketing hook was. "Ten things to know about women" was one and the other something along the lines of "what you want to know about men..." I thought how interesting it really is to discover such ground breaking truths and learn a huge secret to life.
Men and women are different. This is great news, I thought, allow me to click and keep clicking until I end up buying something to celebrate my new break through in knowing life.
Nah ! I didn't buy anything and I didn't even click the oh so tempting adverts. So why bother to chat about them ? Cause they bring up a great topic really. Men & Women of course and our differences,
So as to keep the suspense to a minimum, I do not know the differences other than the obvious biological differences, but of course we all figure this out early enough in our life's to not have to panic or stress that one too much. Maybe I have recognised some small traits that I believe are clear and evident signs that one or the other of our species may just be better at something than the other. You can decide which.
No it was not driving or even money management, maybe some of the simpler stuff that most will say is obvious. Based upon our society structures and expectations of our "mankind" that it is great we even have differences.
So what's the point? I have found and am a firm believer that no two people are the same, so why bother to make them into groups of men and women? None of us are the same in any way at all, although, we do or at least I have noticed that we all do a couple of things the exact same.
WE FEEL! Yup that's it that's the revelation, we feel. And of course so differently than others. How and ever when you try as we do, to make comparisons or draw out the differences we see among each other, it is important to remember something, that other person has feelings too. Be gentle with them.
Men may not like all the mushy feelings that can occur inside of them from time to time and women may not like the killer attitude of the violent hunter, but we all have them, feelings that is.
I have experienced a batch of emotions that believe it or not I am and have always been so grateful for. To cry is a wonderful thing and I always hear my own voice inside my head telling me, encouraging me even to have that cry, go on! it cleanses the soul.
When I have hurt or through my own hurt in life I have learned some feelings of my own and then even discussed these with some friends over times, what I learned was that other people said they have felt such things TOO.
Perhaps women are much better at the tears and the feelings game than most of us men, yet we are the same in how we do feel our feelings and they can be really really tough for any of us to deal with.
Isn't it a reassuring thing to even think of, that some other people are just human too and when feeling sad or miserable it is something we can all relate to in our own little way.
We all know happy, as our memories are filled with those special moments we shared with a loved one or the good chuckle chuckle laughter we had with our friends.
It has come to mind that some youth of today 2017 may even think they are the first and only one to ever feel what they are feeling right now. But it is all of us, no person should ever feel alone in a world where we all are so similar.
So what am I learning day by day? Well, that other people too can feel a lot of what I feel and that makes us similar in an aspect that for some reason cause us to isolate ourselves. Or even may give us cause to be insensitive. It is important to remember that no matter what the market adverts say or how much any one person tries to convince you, yes it is true, we are different. Men and women that is but we are all human, we all feel and have feelings. We may not communicate them as well as we should to each other, but we still have them.
So keep your differences and trying to draw lines between men and women, perhaps or even maybe think of that other person as just the same as you in how you treat them as they too might just not "be feeling too well" What can we do to help our fellow person, only to help in understanding those feelings either for them or for ourselves. Giving us an understand or better understanding of our friends and family.
So we are the same in many ways and rather than look for the differences as is blasted in marketing all day everyday, perhaps we forget every once in a while, that we are all people first and should perhaps acknowledge, we are the same and we too can feel the same. Food for thought and perhaps we can change this world , dealing with one feeling at a time.
The book plug as always. Food for thought nonetheless, ok TWO sons TOO many is my memoir book about just that, LIFE it also is a story of great fun and adventure couple with tragic events beyond what humans find very hard to believe, not that I have made any alien friends either. Go out and buy a book today and see if this will bring a tear to you followed by a deep laugh too. The emotional roller coaster some have mentioned in there reviews over on Amazon.
Go check them out and lets see if my life story can bring together some ideas on how different we are as men and women???? Be sure to join me in my story, head over to the link and get your copy TODAY. TWO sons TOO many by Aidan Mc Nally...
https://www.etsy.com/listing/38452029...
Men and women are different. This is great news, I thought, allow me to click and keep clicking until I end up buying something to celebrate my new break through in knowing life.
Nah ! I didn't buy anything and I didn't even click the oh so tempting adverts. So why bother to chat about them ? Cause they bring up a great topic really. Men & Women of course and our differences,
So as to keep the suspense to a minimum, I do not know the differences other than the obvious biological differences, but of course we all figure this out early enough in our life's to not have to panic or stress that one too much. Maybe I have recognised some small traits that I believe are clear and evident signs that one or the other of our species may just be better at something than the other. You can decide which.
No it was not driving or even money management, maybe some of the simpler stuff that most will say is obvious. Based upon our society structures and expectations of our "mankind" that it is great we even have differences.
So what's the point? I have found and am a firm believer that no two people are the same, so why bother to make them into groups of men and women? None of us are the same in any way at all, although, we do or at least I have noticed that we all do a couple of things the exact same.
WE FEEL! Yup that's it that's the revelation, we feel. And of course so differently than others. How and ever when you try as we do, to make comparisons or draw out the differences we see among each other, it is important to remember something, that other person has feelings too. Be gentle with them.
Men may not like all the mushy feelings that can occur inside of them from time to time and women may not like the killer attitude of the violent hunter, but we all have them, feelings that is.
I have experienced a batch of emotions that believe it or not I am and have always been so grateful for. To cry is a wonderful thing and I always hear my own voice inside my head telling me, encouraging me even to have that cry, go on! it cleanses the soul.
When I have hurt or through my own hurt in life I have learned some feelings of my own and then even discussed these with some friends over times, what I learned was that other people said they have felt such things TOO.
Perhaps women are much better at the tears and the feelings game than most of us men, yet we are the same in how we do feel our feelings and they can be really really tough for any of us to deal with.
Isn't it a reassuring thing to even think of, that some other people are just human too and when feeling sad or miserable it is something we can all relate to in our own little way.
We all know happy, as our memories are filled with those special moments we shared with a loved one or the good chuckle chuckle laughter we had with our friends.
It has come to mind that some youth of today 2017 may even think they are the first and only one to ever feel what they are feeling right now. But it is all of us, no person should ever feel alone in a world where we all are so similar.
So what am I learning day by day? Well, that other people too can feel a lot of what I feel and that makes us similar in an aspect that for some reason cause us to isolate ourselves. Or even may give us cause to be insensitive. It is important to remember that no matter what the market adverts say or how much any one person tries to convince you, yes it is true, we are different. Men and women that is but we are all human, we all feel and have feelings. We may not communicate them as well as we should to each other, but we still have them.
So keep your differences and trying to draw lines between men and women, perhaps or even maybe think of that other person as just the same as you in how you treat them as they too might just not "be feeling too well" What can we do to help our fellow person, only to help in understanding those feelings either for them or for ourselves. Giving us an understand or better understanding of our friends and family.
So we are the same in many ways and rather than look for the differences as is blasted in marketing all day everyday, perhaps we forget every once in a while, that we are all people first and should perhaps acknowledge, we are the same and we too can feel the same. Food for thought and perhaps we can change this world , dealing with one feeling at a time.
The book plug as always. Food for thought nonetheless, ok TWO sons TOO many is my memoir book about just that, LIFE it also is a story of great fun and adventure couple with tragic events beyond what humans find very hard to believe, not that I have made any alien friends either. Go out and buy a book today and see if this will bring a tear to you followed by a deep laugh too. The emotional roller coaster some have mentioned in there reviews over on Amazon.
Go check them out and lets see if my life story can bring together some ideas on how different we are as men and women???? Be sure to join me in my story, head over to the link and get your copy TODAY. TWO sons TOO many by Aidan Mc Nally...
https://www.etsy.com/listing/38452029...
September 11, 2017
Words, how strong are they?
In reading and or writing, it's all about the words. How do they flow ? Are the words enough to create that magical feeling while reading your chosen genre.
Is it that the words can be that powerful to draw you all the way in and begin to create an imaginary place, is it the same place the author has attempted to conjure up or is it quite specific to you the reader ?
Within each of our own minds we can create the images of imagination and drift off into a novel, feeling we are actually there,
"sitting on the porch overlooking the ranch hands as they saddle the horses. What a long dry season this year, watering holes will be hard to come by in the cattle drive this summer. The dust rising as the herds continue to shuffle their feet in tandem"
I am already imaging the scene, I even began to feel sorry for the fella sweating and wiping his brow.
So words can be powerful, so much so that we, humans that is, use words every single day in our lives. From early in life a toddler is watched closely for their first word. How amazing, does the toddler know the power of what they have been watching and listening to so intently, do they know? That these words are the key to success, the strongest weapon of mankind. Only simple words, so common as ditch water, WORDS.
My question. Why do we use them oh so wrongly, nah wrongly is a poor choice of word. (Wow even possible to make a poor choice in words)
The use of these words and how we live our lives is crucial to a content place or "happy place" in our journey through life. What can this mean, what is the use of my words right now?
Good question. To explain further we can use an example or two. We could say "I don't suppose you were able to pick up my concert tickets while you were in the city today" This is my example.
Right there in the beginning we could have said, "I suppose you did not" but some how we manage to make It a negative from the very beginning.
We could say "I don't like ice cream" or perhaps we could alter it a little and use different words when offered the delicious desert treat. "I prefer to have pie instead" , "I like to just take cake" another alternative. Why? To cut out the negative in an effort to maintain and live in the content place in life, the happy place where words are not always negative immediately. Just by choosing a different way to say the simple things can allow so.much freedom in our own feelings and life that a positive twist occurs oh so naturally.
So many people say "oh sorry" if you slightly bump into someone or cross right in front of them in a line for something. Or even if they misunderstood what you had just said, "sorry" is a way of saying. Could you repeat that? Or "excuse me for crossing your path like that" no need to be sorry, the person is not actually sorry for anything, it is just a habit we have formed within our society here amongst the human race.
It sounds all ludicrous to be upbeat and positive all of the time, sure I agree. But and as always the bigger than life BUT, it is worth allowing ourselves to develop into a more positive attitude, more vibrant or even flamboyant type character that we are. Why not, we can smile more often and then the world smiles right back at us, we could even help another to alter their own day just by our simple choice in words. Being nice can just be infectious, using nicer words or steering away from immediately negative can help ease many tensions and feelings.
No how magnificent is that? Our choice in words can do all that. How we use our language to speak the simplicities, just keep it simple in language yet with a tone of positivity followed with a well wish or two. What a wonderful world we could create for our children. An all too Mary poppins type world perhaps. Albeit a better one ?
Yes this is how powerful our words are and they do not have to even be the harsh words. Nor followed or presented with tone of voice as that's a whole other animal completely. Let's just stick with words for now.
"Oh I hate when someone drives like that" "I hate that song it reminds me of ...." Why let me ask you even use the word hate for such basic matters, hate or to hate is quite strong in its own right. Perhaps tone down the hatred words and not introduce them into a day that can be filled with happier words. Little words that anyone who may be listening may just learn from our example that to be negative or hateful may just be such an energy absorbing way to live.
Not an easy thing to do granted, I will give you that, however I will wake every morning and choose my words as I speak, my motivation may not last throughout a full 16 or 18 hour day. I will definitely attempt to be positive and change the habits I have learned through life and society of being so quick to turn any sentence negative.
How will I become a more content person?
How will I become positive ?
How will I change my world ?
By simple practice and thoughtful choices in words. The OH SO POWERFUL words.
They are quite powerful and give us a whole range of choices, so I will choose those words that bring me most contentment in my day.
Just a thought, feel free to comment. Would love to hear from you as to your immediate response you can write it below.
Oh and a plug for the book.
You can find my book TWO sons TOO many, over on Amazon by just typing the title in the search bar.
Have a great and fantabulous week.
Is it that the words can be that powerful to draw you all the way in and begin to create an imaginary place, is it the same place the author has attempted to conjure up or is it quite specific to you the reader ?
Within each of our own minds we can create the images of imagination and drift off into a novel, feeling we are actually there,
"sitting on the porch overlooking the ranch hands as they saddle the horses. What a long dry season this year, watering holes will be hard to come by in the cattle drive this summer. The dust rising as the herds continue to shuffle their feet in tandem"
I am already imaging the scene, I even began to feel sorry for the fella sweating and wiping his brow.
So words can be powerful, so much so that we, humans that is, use words every single day in our lives. From early in life a toddler is watched closely for their first word. How amazing, does the toddler know the power of what they have been watching and listening to so intently, do they know? That these words are the key to success, the strongest weapon of mankind. Only simple words, so common as ditch water, WORDS.
My question. Why do we use them oh so wrongly, nah wrongly is a poor choice of word. (Wow even possible to make a poor choice in words)
The use of these words and how we live our lives is crucial to a content place or "happy place" in our journey through life. What can this mean, what is the use of my words right now?
Good question. To explain further we can use an example or two. We could say "I don't suppose you were able to pick up my concert tickets while you were in the city today" This is my example.
Right there in the beginning we could have said, "I suppose you did not" but some how we manage to make It a negative from the very beginning.
We could say "I don't like ice cream" or perhaps we could alter it a little and use different words when offered the delicious desert treat. "I prefer to have pie instead" , "I like to just take cake" another alternative. Why? To cut out the negative in an effort to maintain and live in the content place in life, the happy place where words are not always negative immediately. Just by choosing a different way to say the simple things can allow so.much freedom in our own feelings and life that a positive twist occurs oh so naturally.
So many people say "oh sorry" if you slightly bump into someone or cross right in front of them in a line for something. Or even if they misunderstood what you had just said, "sorry" is a way of saying. Could you repeat that? Or "excuse me for crossing your path like that" no need to be sorry, the person is not actually sorry for anything, it is just a habit we have formed within our society here amongst the human race.
It sounds all ludicrous to be upbeat and positive all of the time, sure I agree. But and as always the bigger than life BUT, it is worth allowing ourselves to develop into a more positive attitude, more vibrant or even flamboyant type character that we are. Why not, we can smile more often and then the world smiles right back at us, we could even help another to alter their own day just by our simple choice in words. Being nice can just be infectious, using nicer words or steering away from immediately negative can help ease many tensions and feelings.
No how magnificent is that? Our choice in words can do all that. How we use our language to speak the simplicities, just keep it simple in language yet with a tone of positivity followed with a well wish or two. What a wonderful world we could create for our children. An all too Mary poppins type world perhaps. Albeit a better one ?
Yes this is how powerful our words are and they do not have to even be the harsh words. Nor followed or presented with tone of voice as that's a whole other animal completely. Let's just stick with words for now.
"Oh I hate when someone drives like that" "I hate that song it reminds me of ...." Why let me ask you even use the word hate for such basic matters, hate or to hate is quite strong in its own right. Perhaps tone down the hatred words and not introduce them into a day that can be filled with happier words. Little words that anyone who may be listening may just learn from our example that to be negative or hateful may just be such an energy absorbing way to live.
Not an easy thing to do granted, I will give you that, however I will wake every morning and choose my words as I speak, my motivation may not last throughout a full 16 or 18 hour day. I will definitely attempt to be positive and change the habits I have learned through life and society of being so quick to turn any sentence negative.
How will I become a more content person?
How will I become positive ?
How will I change my world ?
By simple practice and thoughtful choices in words. The OH SO POWERFUL words.
They are quite powerful and give us a whole range of choices, so I will choose those words that bring me most contentment in my day.
Just a thought, feel free to comment. Would love to hear from you as to your immediate response you can write it below.
Oh and a plug for the book.
You can find my book TWO sons TOO many, over on Amazon by just typing the title in the search bar.
Have a great and fantabulous week.
September 6, 2017
Current affairs, STRESS
"So what does not kill you, will cure you" that is another on those "so they say" kind of things to say.
Stress is the silent killer. Are you stressed ?
What is your immediate response ? Who me ? Stressed! Hell no...... not me .
Funny thing I have found that even though we do not think we are stressed, there are some little things in our day to day living that cause higher stress levels. I could quote a whole bunch of scientific studies from prestigious colleges or you can just take my word for it. So why do you or even we allow these tiny droplets of stress into our lives on a daily basis?
Are we the entire world addicted to stress so much we cannot exist without?
All over the world the nightly news is reporting on some current affairs either on a global stage or a more local matter. We tune in, we read the newspapers and we stay very up to date on social media. Why so ? Because ? Because what?
Because if North Korea strikes a blow of nuclear attack all the world will.end.........So now that we know it could all be that simple, why are we stressing ?
The silent killer, the sort of thing creeping up on you for years, the wiper blade in the car that we forget to change but it does not clean the windshield properly we know the other blade is on its way to do the clean up and a moment of clarity appears right before out very eyes. We could have replaced the wiper blades a month ago but although we drive every day, we could not have been bothered because the stress of not it every time helps us out and our eed for STRESS letting it go until it falls off or something knowing when it will completely smudge out the screen in front of our very eyes, we settle for the simple fact, it will go when it is gone away. That's the silent stress at work in your life. Niggling away at us, gnawing on our spirit or brains or what eve you want to call it.
We love to communicate with the drama queens of our circle of friends because we need some extra drama too, refreshing us that there is no possibility of being comfortable and being stress free at any time.
We take a holiday or vacation to get away and have some stress free time to ourselves or with our family.
The day of, did I pack my liquids, "this taxi better not be late" I wonder how much the foreign exchange is going to rip me off? Why is this taxi driver on his phone all the way? Hope the security lines are not too big.
I hope they do not charge me extra fees for over weight on my luggage.
Did I pack my money belt? Just to be sure so I do not get robbed on holidays.
Do I have all the tickets? Jesus the kids better not get sick on the plane.
And so on it goes. We would need a holiday alone just to distress from that and that could be in one simple morning on the way to "relax"
What is wrong with relaxing for a little moment in your day. Take a distress moment, breath. Allow your mind to become a new blank canvas for the priceless art work that is to come in the rest of your day.
Tell the taxi man it is annoying and you would like if they put the phone away. Communicate to others what it is that annoys you so that you can begin to eliminate or cut down some of the stresses in your life. Complain if you receive bad service. It is not to be an ass, it is to help remove stress from your own life.
Remember the stress is happening inside of you, not outside. No one is making you stressed or causing it for you. People and situations may give us an opportunity to stress, but we do it all by ourselves as it is INSIDE of us that the stress is occurring.
Can we manage to break our addictions to stress and aim to live a happier more content life ? Or can we maintain an environment around us that is free from all negatives? Probably not as we are not on an island and other people and places exists all around us.
What we can do is limit the amount of stressing we allow ourselves to feel and endure. Take those moments, allow ourselves and our minds to become a blank white screen like a television with a complete white screen and just allow ourselves to know all the stress is for nothing. This can help us to achieve so much with that right attitude that when presented with any situation or problem we can deal with it better and not have stressed about things for the 4 hours or three weeks previous, for example.
I have had a life full of anguish and torment and perhaps this is why I try as many times in every day to de stress or limit the stressful events and people. I could be accused that it is a very "I do not care" attitude. Although it is more of the I do care and I care so much I am willing to be clear headed in dealing with everything.
Ask us to CARE this is totally fine
Ask us to STRESS, that you can keep to yourself, thank you very much.
I hope you can find some time to read my book. TWO sons TOO many, a memoir which you can find on Amazon.
So keep on getting on with things and have a great day and week. Try and de STRESS yourself as much as you can handle and you might just be helping someone else too.
Stress is the silent killer. Are you stressed ?
What is your immediate response ? Who me ? Stressed! Hell no...... not me .
Funny thing I have found that even though we do not think we are stressed, there are some little things in our day to day living that cause higher stress levels. I could quote a whole bunch of scientific studies from prestigious colleges or you can just take my word for it. So why do you or even we allow these tiny droplets of stress into our lives on a daily basis?
Are we the entire world addicted to stress so much we cannot exist without?
All over the world the nightly news is reporting on some current affairs either on a global stage or a more local matter. We tune in, we read the newspapers and we stay very up to date on social media. Why so ? Because ? Because what?
Because if North Korea strikes a blow of nuclear attack all the world will.end.........So now that we know it could all be that simple, why are we stressing ?
The silent killer, the sort of thing creeping up on you for years, the wiper blade in the car that we forget to change but it does not clean the windshield properly we know the other blade is on its way to do the clean up and a moment of clarity appears right before out very eyes. We could have replaced the wiper blades a month ago but although we drive every day, we could not have been bothered because the stress of not it every time helps us out and our eed for STRESS letting it go until it falls off or something knowing when it will completely smudge out the screen in front of our very eyes, we settle for the simple fact, it will go when it is gone away. That's the silent stress at work in your life. Niggling away at us, gnawing on our spirit or brains or what eve you want to call it.
We love to communicate with the drama queens of our circle of friends because we need some extra drama too, refreshing us that there is no possibility of being comfortable and being stress free at any time.
We take a holiday or vacation to get away and have some stress free time to ourselves or with our family.
The day of, did I pack my liquids, "this taxi better not be late" I wonder how much the foreign exchange is going to rip me off? Why is this taxi driver on his phone all the way? Hope the security lines are not too big.
I hope they do not charge me extra fees for over weight on my luggage.
Did I pack my money belt? Just to be sure so I do not get robbed on holidays.
Do I have all the tickets? Jesus the kids better not get sick on the plane.
And so on it goes. We would need a holiday alone just to distress from that and that could be in one simple morning on the way to "relax"
What is wrong with relaxing for a little moment in your day. Take a distress moment, breath. Allow your mind to become a new blank canvas for the priceless art work that is to come in the rest of your day.
Tell the taxi man it is annoying and you would like if they put the phone away. Communicate to others what it is that annoys you so that you can begin to eliminate or cut down some of the stresses in your life. Complain if you receive bad service. It is not to be an ass, it is to help remove stress from your own life.
Remember the stress is happening inside of you, not outside. No one is making you stressed or causing it for you. People and situations may give us an opportunity to stress, but we do it all by ourselves as it is INSIDE of us that the stress is occurring.
Can we manage to break our addictions to stress and aim to live a happier more content life ? Or can we maintain an environment around us that is free from all negatives? Probably not as we are not on an island and other people and places exists all around us.
What we can do is limit the amount of stressing we allow ourselves to feel and endure. Take those moments, allow ourselves and our minds to become a blank white screen like a television with a complete white screen and just allow ourselves to know all the stress is for nothing. This can help us to achieve so much with that right attitude that when presented with any situation or problem we can deal with it better and not have stressed about things for the 4 hours or three weeks previous, for example.
I have had a life full of anguish and torment and perhaps this is why I try as many times in every day to de stress or limit the stressful events and people. I could be accused that it is a very "I do not care" attitude. Although it is more of the I do care and I care so much I am willing to be clear headed in dealing with everything.
Ask us to CARE this is totally fine
Ask us to STRESS, that you can keep to yourself, thank you very much.
I hope you can find some time to read my book. TWO sons TOO many, a memoir which you can find on Amazon.
So keep on getting on with things and have a great day and week. Try and de STRESS yourself as much as you can handle and you might just be helping someone else too.
August 24, 2017
A little Reality
Good morning one and all, there it is right there, REALITY. I am writing this in the morning after getting out of bed. After a horrible nights sleep by the way, thanks for the concern, anyway, you may be reading this in the evening, hence REALITY mine or yours just bites....
It is back to school time now for many parents, getting all the expensive stuff together and not really enjoying it, but it comes along once a year which is quite cool really, in REALITY they are growing up, moving on to the next stage of their little lives, the new school year. Remember all the little worries and fears when heading off for the next year in school and starting back after summer?
Ah sure God love them, their REALITY might be in for some shock as they have to begin working harder and doing stuff that is all new to them. So isn't it fair to say or well, let's just say, fair to think that it is good to think on them for a minute and not feel it is a chore to prep them for school or worry for the expense cause that is a real REALITY that it is indeed expensive to get them ready and send them off to school for another year.
So try not to go about your days right now cursing the expense or the workload involved in getting the books and the clothes and shoes and all that is needed for school.
A PARENTS REALITY is it is a hassle but it has to be done.
A CHILDS REALITY is that here comes another year and all the worries and fears that develop in a child like fashion.
This brings me to the REALITY differences for one and for all, ya see I never want to burden you with any realities that differ from your own but to shed some light that others do exist. Sometimes we can gain a massive appreciation for the smaller daily chores or even just going along with what society has ordered, that being, it is back to school time.
So to mention only to help you gain some tiny gratitude or appreciation for your own blessings that sometimes are not clear, but they do exist.
There are people like me very similar and I am not unique at all in this respect. However there is a REALITY out there that can be shocking.
I do not have my sons to prepare them for school or worry about their college, I wish I had to find a fitting uniform for school, it would bring me great pleasure to stand in line at a book store and carry a half a ton of books a home to get my little guys ready for school. This is just a different kind of REALITY.
I do not write to you this morning for any sympathies or the poor me kind of thing, only to share a little of my REALITY.
I lost inmy two sons to the stupidest excuses of death anyone might even imagine and life sucks for any parent that has lost a child, it is just the REALITY that it is. So sometimes it would be nice to have to worry about them staring a new year in school or do the chores to get them ready, send them off out with their hair done nice and fresh for their first day back after summer holidays.
Just was not meant to be.
So
Good morning, good afternoon or good evening.
Find happiness in your little ones and take great peace and fulfilment that you are doing the back to school thing. You have a very special time on your hands right now.
Not every parent who has lost a child may agree with me, but any time of year that is focused around the children can be a bitch for those who lost theirs.
I wrote a book about my life and a ton of great times and a ton of shitty other ones too, so maybe come check it out and gain that extra drop of appreciation. For your very own REALITY.
It is a simple read and a bit of fun TOO. If you are Irish, give me a shout, we are clanish that way lol. Hit the link, take a read now that you will have a little time back on your hands.
KINDLE. or PAPERBACK.
https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B01HJ8...
It is back to school time now for many parents, getting all the expensive stuff together and not really enjoying it, but it comes along once a year which is quite cool really, in REALITY they are growing up, moving on to the next stage of their little lives, the new school year. Remember all the little worries and fears when heading off for the next year in school and starting back after summer?
Ah sure God love them, their REALITY might be in for some shock as they have to begin working harder and doing stuff that is all new to them. So isn't it fair to say or well, let's just say, fair to think that it is good to think on them for a minute and not feel it is a chore to prep them for school or worry for the expense cause that is a real REALITY that it is indeed expensive to get them ready and send them off to school for another year.
So try not to go about your days right now cursing the expense or the workload involved in getting the books and the clothes and shoes and all that is needed for school.
A PARENTS REALITY is it is a hassle but it has to be done.
A CHILDS REALITY is that here comes another year and all the worries and fears that develop in a child like fashion.
This brings me to the REALITY differences for one and for all, ya see I never want to burden you with any realities that differ from your own but to shed some light that others do exist. Sometimes we can gain a massive appreciation for the smaller daily chores or even just going along with what society has ordered, that being, it is back to school time.
So to mention only to help you gain some tiny gratitude or appreciation for your own blessings that sometimes are not clear, but they do exist.
There are people like me very similar and I am not unique at all in this respect. However there is a REALITY out there that can be shocking.
I do not have my sons to prepare them for school or worry about their college, I wish I had to find a fitting uniform for school, it would bring me great pleasure to stand in line at a book store and carry a half a ton of books a home to get my little guys ready for school. This is just a different kind of REALITY.
I do not write to you this morning for any sympathies or the poor me kind of thing, only to share a little of my REALITY.
I lost inmy two sons to the stupidest excuses of death anyone might even imagine and life sucks for any parent that has lost a child, it is just the REALITY that it is. So sometimes it would be nice to have to worry about them staring a new year in school or do the chores to get them ready, send them off out with their hair done nice and fresh for their first day back after summer holidays.
Just was not meant to be.
So
Good morning, good afternoon or good evening.
Find happiness in your little ones and take great peace and fulfilment that you are doing the back to school thing. You have a very special time on your hands right now.
Not every parent who has lost a child may agree with me, but any time of year that is focused around the children can be a bitch for those who lost theirs.
I wrote a book about my life and a ton of great times and a ton of shitty other ones too, so maybe come check it out and gain that extra drop of appreciation. For your very own REALITY.
It is a simple read and a bit of fun TOO. If you are Irish, give me a shout, we are clanish that way lol. Hit the link, take a read now that you will have a little time back on your hands.
KINDLE. or PAPERBACK.
https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B01HJ8...
August 19, 2017
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The memoir tale of a few shocking events along the twists and turns of life.
#gripping!!!
Stars and reviews at Amazon.
Amazon.co.uk available Monday onwards for download 99CENTS.
Remember your phone can easily become your Kindle reader TOO.
https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/s/ref=is...
August 8, 2017
A Day, who ever knew ?
So many words carry so much weight, have you ever thought about them or wondered a little?
Day, what can a day be? 24 hours or is it really just the hours spent awake, clocking in at around 16 or 18 hours for some.
A Day, a date, today, this day makes for a what we can all live our life in a day. They say you can live your life in a New York minute so why not any given Day.
A Day in the life of .... today is the first day of the rest of your life. All in a day's work...
What happens for this day, today we remember certain things by the day they occurred, it will be my Birthday in so many weeks, I cannot forget our wedding day. The day I landed my first real job.
So can a day define us ? Is it possible that today is any different from any other day ?
Who really knows, today the air I breath keeps me alive, this I am quite certain of. Is it that all the stress of life gets twisted up by a over indulgence of days.
I must pay that bill by what day exactly? Can't wait for Christmas day! What day do the kids go back to school ?
There is a lot of focus put on the future days to come ahead, well there is really, when one takes some time to think about what it is they stress over and all the thinking back to the past, oh that was the best day of my life. Or even remembering the worst day ever!!!!!
When really today is the day that life is occurring. Right now here yes, that's right reading this little piece about a day you are alive. Stop, take a moment, take a breath fill your lungs with today, smell, taste the air right now. The future is the future with no actual road map and yesterday is a memory maybe even filled with a lesson.
Today matters, right now is the stress free moment, life is happening right now. Today counts for how you feel right now, not the distant past of a feeling that perhaps even is a nightmare.
Today we think a thought, thinking of how, I like this day. From now on in that mysterious uncharted future I am going to make TODAY my favourite day.
Can I focus on TODAY more often and de stress my life. Is it really true that today counts, I have no control over any future days and cannot relive any past day, so today is the Day to master myself and the universe, today is the best day of my life, today is the time I will live and take in all my wonderful surroundings.
Right now today I can take power over myself and feel so happy, fortunate, grateful, alive.
I am beginning to like my day.
Wow TODAY can be called my day. We greet each other with a "how is your day" so easily but, have we paused to think of our own day.
Are we in so much of a hurry to get to our future days that we "wish this day would end" really that bad ? In any given moment in the beginning, middle or end of MY DAY I can start over and begin again to enjoy, a simple taste of the air I breath can bring us right back to remember how important TODAY really is. After all it is MY DAY and that tells me I am and have been given every right to enjoy it. Today I live my best, today I savour the sweetness of life.
No other day can be more important, even though we have the calendar marked with all kinds of events and important dates we must not miss. Today is the day to live. Nothing time sensitive about today or even my day, (your day) it is here now to be enjoyed.
There is no other day more important than today and so I wish you a very good day and hope you have a filled day and can find the moment to enjoy this day. It happens only 365 times a year so take them as easy and fulfilling as possible.
Who could have ever knew all that stress was not even worth a thought.
Thank you for sharing with me in my day, today.
Day, what can a day be? 24 hours or is it really just the hours spent awake, clocking in at around 16 or 18 hours for some.
A Day, a date, today, this day makes for a what we can all live our life in a day. They say you can live your life in a New York minute so why not any given Day.
A Day in the life of .... today is the first day of the rest of your life. All in a day's work...
What happens for this day, today we remember certain things by the day they occurred, it will be my Birthday in so many weeks, I cannot forget our wedding day. The day I landed my first real job.
So can a day define us ? Is it possible that today is any different from any other day ?
Who really knows, today the air I breath keeps me alive, this I am quite certain of. Is it that all the stress of life gets twisted up by a over indulgence of days.
I must pay that bill by what day exactly? Can't wait for Christmas day! What day do the kids go back to school ?
There is a lot of focus put on the future days to come ahead, well there is really, when one takes some time to think about what it is they stress over and all the thinking back to the past, oh that was the best day of my life. Or even remembering the worst day ever!!!!!
When really today is the day that life is occurring. Right now here yes, that's right reading this little piece about a day you are alive. Stop, take a moment, take a breath fill your lungs with today, smell, taste the air right now. The future is the future with no actual road map and yesterday is a memory maybe even filled with a lesson.
Today matters, right now is the stress free moment, life is happening right now. Today counts for how you feel right now, not the distant past of a feeling that perhaps even is a nightmare.
Today we think a thought, thinking of how, I like this day. From now on in that mysterious uncharted future I am going to make TODAY my favourite day.
Can I focus on TODAY more often and de stress my life. Is it really true that today counts, I have no control over any future days and cannot relive any past day, so today is the Day to master myself and the universe, today is the best day of my life, today is the time I will live and take in all my wonderful surroundings.
Right now today I can take power over myself and feel so happy, fortunate, grateful, alive.
I am beginning to like my day.
Wow TODAY can be called my day. We greet each other with a "how is your day" so easily but, have we paused to think of our own day.
Are we in so much of a hurry to get to our future days that we "wish this day would end" really that bad ? In any given moment in the beginning, middle or end of MY DAY I can start over and begin again to enjoy, a simple taste of the air I breath can bring us right back to remember how important TODAY really is. After all it is MY DAY and that tells me I am and have been given every right to enjoy it. Today I live my best, today I savour the sweetness of life.
No other day can be more important, even though we have the calendar marked with all kinds of events and important dates we must not miss. Today is the day to live. Nothing time sensitive about today or even my day, (your day) it is here now to be enjoyed.
There is no other day more important than today and so I wish you a very good day and hope you have a filled day and can find the moment to enjoy this day. It happens only 365 times a year so take them as easy and fulfilling as possible.
Who could have ever knew all that stress was not even worth a thought.
Thank you for sharing with me in my day, today.
July 31, 2017
Welcome Autumn, Imagine !
Autumn the fall as many may even call it. Yup here we are the four season of the year, I wish I was chilling at the Four Seasons hotel, resort and spa. But sadly No it is just the weather related 4 seasons...Hahahahha
Anyway,
Autumn, so we have had the May,June &July the wonderful Summer and now it will be August, September & October our Autumn. Followed with November, December & January our winter months, well enough with the calendar lesson.
How great Autumn Will be and can be, leaves turn brown and sunsets become probably the most awesome of anytime of the year.
I like to think of encouraging anyone who is reading right now yes that means you, to stop take a pause and think of all the wonderful natural colours that we can be so blessed and fortunate to witness in every Autumn day, the changing of our world/planet in a matter of a few small months.
Some humans cannot change themselves over an entire lifetime and nature can only under go massive changes in a few small months.
I do recall studying well, looking at least at a laneway one day that had trees on either side and as I stood just looking I noticed perhaps 100 shades of different colours all in a single eyesight or glance down this laneway.
How amazing, is what I thought, all this and just for me for right now. I must be special to someone to experience this.....
Well I must be or, I am and have been for a long time over the edge crazy to go around talking to myself and seeing a world in Technicolor.
Some folks just never have time for it and are too busy to slow it all down and savour a moment of beauty. A silent moment alone to where even though here in Autumn everything is changing and moving around us, nature does it in absolute perfect silence.Yup that is amazing really.
So in all my efforts to always bring it back to, slow your life down and take it easy and encourage you to take a moment for yourself. I do absolutely mean it and believe it and live it as often as I can. Our lives can be complicated, our lives can be so full of stress... Help yourself de stress this Autumn, take a moment for yourself by just PAUSE and see the beauty of nature and all the wonderful colours. Check out and evening sky, not for a romantic get together and see the sunset although advisable, romance yourself. Treat yourself to a romantic sunset, see can you take that single little moment to cherish, relish and embellish your life for a simple moment. Be careful now it can be addictive as good feeling may just arise. This can cause you to want it more and do it more often. Nothing wrong with that is there?
The mighty LIFE can be oh so complicated, just too many times and TOO often so why not DE STRESS yourself at least once this Autumn.
I would love for anyone who made it this far in reading to check out my book which can easily be found by searching say Google, type in, TWO sons TOO many. Come over and like and follow on Facebook. Come join some retweeting madness on Twitter and of course get your copy on Amazon. (Leave a review) thank you kindly.
A story of my life to bring us to this point of the de STRESS mode and the reasons I have found to try on a daily basis to make it more enjoyable and have gained some great appreciation.
Enjoy your Autumn, may it be wonderful, prosperous and as STRESS free as you can manage.
Please do not forget to help in spreading the word for my book by sharing this and other snippets with your friends and followers.
Thanking you and wishing you well.
Anyway,
Autumn, so we have had the May,June &July the wonderful Summer and now it will be August, September & October our Autumn. Followed with November, December & January our winter months, well enough with the calendar lesson.
How great Autumn Will be and can be, leaves turn brown and sunsets become probably the most awesome of anytime of the year.
I like to think of encouraging anyone who is reading right now yes that means you, to stop take a pause and think of all the wonderful natural colours that we can be so blessed and fortunate to witness in every Autumn day, the changing of our world/planet in a matter of a few small months.
Some humans cannot change themselves over an entire lifetime and nature can only under go massive changes in a few small months.
I do recall studying well, looking at least at a laneway one day that had trees on either side and as I stood just looking I noticed perhaps 100 shades of different colours all in a single eyesight or glance down this laneway.
How amazing, is what I thought, all this and just for me for right now. I must be special to someone to experience this.....
Well I must be or, I am and have been for a long time over the edge crazy to go around talking to myself and seeing a world in Technicolor.
Some folks just never have time for it and are too busy to slow it all down and savour a moment of beauty. A silent moment alone to where even though here in Autumn everything is changing and moving around us, nature does it in absolute perfect silence.Yup that is amazing really.
So in all my efforts to always bring it back to, slow your life down and take it easy and encourage you to take a moment for yourself. I do absolutely mean it and believe it and live it as often as I can. Our lives can be complicated, our lives can be so full of stress... Help yourself de stress this Autumn, take a moment for yourself by just PAUSE and see the beauty of nature and all the wonderful colours. Check out and evening sky, not for a romantic get together and see the sunset although advisable, romance yourself. Treat yourself to a romantic sunset, see can you take that single little moment to cherish, relish and embellish your life for a simple moment. Be careful now it can be addictive as good feeling may just arise. This can cause you to want it more and do it more often. Nothing wrong with that is there?
The mighty LIFE can be oh so complicated, just too many times and TOO often so why not DE STRESS yourself at least once this Autumn.
I would love for anyone who made it this far in reading to check out my book which can easily be found by searching say Google, type in, TWO sons TOO many. Come over and like and follow on Facebook. Come join some retweeting madness on Twitter and of course get your copy on Amazon. (Leave a review) thank you kindly.
A story of my life to bring us to this point of the de STRESS mode and the reasons I have found to try on a daily basis to make it more enjoyable and have gained some great appreciation.
Enjoy your Autumn, may it be wonderful, prosperous and as STRESS free as you can manage.
Please do not forget to help in spreading the word for my book by sharing this and other snippets with your friends and followers.
Thanking you and wishing you well.
July 13, 2017
LOSS what is this ??
I can recall many times in a short little life the feeling of LOSS. I know many can relate, others believe only to imagine hurt and grief. As to many it revolves around losing someone close to you, a dear loved one.
Yes indeed the loss of a dear loved one can consume us, take grip of our emotional state and flip us like a tumble dryer tosses a flimsy bed sheet, yet our thoughts run wild in sync. I have lost in my life and that time I experienced, being in a car wreck and watching them tow away the crumpled up car, I felt great loss at that time I too felt grief those weeks without the vehicle. Never had any clue in my own mind that I was going through feelings of grief or loss, after all it was only a car.
When faced with the death of my true dear parent, my father, I experienced the harsh reality of loss. The feelings combined with thoughts were very different to anything that had ever come before. What is this horrible feeling, why do I see the day as though wearing "Technicolor" glasses. What is this disaster that has just occurred.
Some of you may find less feeling in saying goodbye to a loved one. For the cycle of life it made some sense, or not even considered that it is normal to bury a parent and continue on with life.
It is hard, surreal and just very difficult.
I have had the surreal experiences to bury my children and take "cycle of life" and turn it on its head.
What can be said? Nothing, nada, zilch LOSS is LOSS whether we feel it or think it. Grief follows in its shadows,
Does losing a loved one project us to another level? a new feeling that when encountered for the first time, places us in another dimension for a small period of time only to return us with a perspective never imagined.
It is normal, it is healthy and it is part of our life that death is the only guarantee we will ever be able to bank on. Yet when it shows up we can be steam rolled to run and hide from our emotions, try to escape our own minds to get away from it.
I wrote my story "TWO sons TOO many" to reflect and try to bring reason or rhyme to events in my life, did it make anything any clearer, you may ask. Not really though it has indeed inspired me to continue going the extra mile as death will come for us all some day, so why waste our time, why plough through without appreciation for the little things and gratitude for everything.
To comfort each other through loss is marvellous although temporary, our thoughts and our feelings live on and reflection upon memories may still cause a tear. Tears that are welcomed to feel the loss and experience raw life.
LOSS and grief may just feel the worst ever yet helps us grow even more on our journey.
Isn't it all amazing? the cycle of life that is.
To think so many just never pause to deal with or feel the pain, but in my pain I am reminded of the love I have for those that have passed and take strength from the lesson they have brought to me.
Hope you get a chance to enjoy the book.
https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B01HJ8...
Yes indeed the loss of a dear loved one can consume us, take grip of our emotional state and flip us like a tumble dryer tosses a flimsy bed sheet, yet our thoughts run wild in sync. I have lost in my life and that time I experienced, being in a car wreck and watching them tow away the crumpled up car, I felt great loss at that time I too felt grief those weeks without the vehicle. Never had any clue in my own mind that I was going through feelings of grief or loss, after all it was only a car.
When faced with the death of my true dear parent, my father, I experienced the harsh reality of loss. The feelings combined with thoughts were very different to anything that had ever come before. What is this horrible feeling, why do I see the day as though wearing "Technicolor" glasses. What is this disaster that has just occurred.
Some of you may find less feeling in saying goodbye to a loved one. For the cycle of life it made some sense, or not even considered that it is normal to bury a parent and continue on with life.
It is hard, surreal and just very difficult.
I have had the surreal experiences to bury my children and take "cycle of life" and turn it on its head.
What can be said? Nothing, nada, zilch LOSS is LOSS whether we feel it or think it. Grief follows in its shadows,
Does losing a loved one project us to another level? a new feeling that when encountered for the first time, places us in another dimension for a small period of time only to return us with a perspective never imagined.
It is normal, it is healthy and it is part of our life that death is the only guarantee we will ever be able to bank on. Yet when it shows up we can be steam rolled to run and hide from our emotions, try to escape our own minds to get away from it.
I wrote my story "TWO sons TOO many" to reflect and try to bring reason or rhyme to events in my life, did it make anything any clearer, you may ask. Not really though it has indeed inspired me to continue going the extra mile as death will come for us all some day, so why waste our time, why plough through without appreciation for the little things and gratitude for everything.
To comfort each other through loss is marvellous although temporary, our thoughts and our feelings live on and reflection upon memories may still cause a tear. Tears that are welcomed to feel the loss and experience raw life.
LOSS and grief may just feel the worst ever yet helps us grow even more on our journey.
Isn't it all amazing? the cycle of life that is.
To think so many just never pause to deal with or feel the pain, but in my pain I am reminded of the love I have for those that have passed and take strength from the lesson they have brought to me.
Hope you get a chance to enjoy the book.
https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B01HJ8...
July 1, 2017
July is here, are you celebrating
Good morning, afternoon and evening to you. Well you might even be night owl, who cares you made it so it is all good.
July has finally come again and each year it does reminds me of all the Bar b Que party times when I lived in the good old U S of A. I always like the fireworks to be honest. When we were kids growing up in Dublin Ireland, fireworks were for Halloween. We would venture into the city and buy them illegally on the streets and set them off all night messing around and hoping never to be caught.
So fourth of July always brought a child like feeling of devious but happy to mess around with fireworks, just something about them, maybe the danger factor but definitely the awe of watching the sky burst with vibrant colours. Does something for those few moments, would you agree ?
It is a prick of a month to be honest for me as it marks another anniversary month and horrible memories really. I lost my second son in July and it holds all kinds of bitter memories, they are just hard to shake. It is one thing to stay upbeat and remain positive through day to day living every other month but I or even we must trudge through these horrible days too.
I do of course wish everyone always a happy 4th but the dreaded 6th is oh so close. Can you relate ? Have you lost someone dear to you, if so, you know the drill.
It is not all morbid though and my book title TWO sons TOO many may seem like I have too many kids or something but it is simply that I lost my two sons in two weird tragedies so for any parent one child to lose to death is far too much and so for me TWO sons is TOO many.
I had some great times along the way and many a happy 4th too with plenty of fun and games that many may never believe, I lived my life blasting on to each and every month like a freight train. Keep the action going and chasing the girls too, oh yes I did not gather moss, hell no not me. You can read the adventure by downloading my book on Kindle where it is easy to make your phone your reading device now too. You may be shocked to find what one simple Irish man has gotten up to in his travels. Or just type in the title TWO sons TOO many on Google and you will find a paperback to order.
I guess we all have significant dates in our lives and it is my belief we need a little more time to remember them, just pause and soak up the moments and be one with our thoughts, if even only for a few seconds. Try it.
July is middle of summer here in Ireland and the younger children just got their school holidays. It is a blessing to see a child excited for their holidays, they of course know nothing of time or what is Sumner really only they don't have to go to school anymore. How great the innocence. Perhaps because I have lost children of my own I have come to a place to cherish the innocence that exists in each and every child, I highly encourage you to take a longer moment to think about this too. Your own children and their wild imaginations. I cannot share these beautiful moments with my sons anymore and so I believe many parents forget how magic they really are and should enjoy each and every one of them.
So here is to middle of Sumner and July, I hope you rush on over to Amazon and get a copy of my book TWO sons TOO many and make it your Sumner read this year, perhaps gain that appreciation or feel how lucky you really are. Why not ? It has taken great loss for me to share a story with you and you can benefit through my pains to get to that level of, live in the minute and soak up all the magic that lives around us everyday.
Perhaps your fireworks display will bring you back to that innocent moment of when you too were a child. To feel it you have to imagine it, you have to think it you have to breathe it. Again why not ? Adult life is not going anywhere and will not notice if you take a little five minute break.
Anniversary here we come, ready or not.
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Happy fourth everyone, oh yeah don't forget. Leave a review if you can manage after the emotional roller coaster. Plenty of fun and laughs along the way.
July has finally come again and each year it does reminds me of all the Bar b Que party times when I lived in the good old U S of A. I always like the fireworks to be honest. When we were kids growing up in Dublin Ireland, fireworks were for Halloween. We would venture into the city and buy them illegally on the streets and set them off all night messing around and hoping never to be caught.
So fourth of July always brought a child like feeling of devious but happy to mess around with fireworks, just something about them, maybe the danger factor but definitely the awe of watching the sky burst with vibrant colours. Does something for those few moments, would you agree ?
It is a prick of a month to be honest for me as it marks another anniversary month and horrible memories really. I lost my second son in July and it holds all kinds of bitter memories, they are just hard to shake. It is one thing to stay upbeat and remain positive through day to day living every other month but I or even we must trudge through these horrible days too.
I do of course wish everyone always a happy 4th but the dreaded 6th is oh so close. Can you relate ? Have you lost someone dear to you, if so, you know the drill.
It is not all morbid though and my book title TWO sons TOO many may seem like I have too many kids or something but it is simply that I lost my two sons in two weird tragedies so for any parent one child to lose to death is far too much and so for me TWO sons is TOO many.
I had some great times along the way and many a happy 4th too with plenty of fun and games that many may never believe, I lived my life blasting on to each and every month like a freight train. Keep the action going and chasing the girls too, oh yes I did not gather moss, hell no not me. You can read the adventure by downloading my book on Kindle where it is easy to make your phone your reading device now too. You may be shocked to find what one simple Irish man has gotten up to in his travels. Or just type in the title TWO sons TOO many on Google and you will find a paperback to order.
I guess we all have significant dates in our lives and it is my belief we need a little more time to remember them, just pause and soak up the moments and be one with our thoughts, if even only for a few seconds. Try it.
July is middle of summer here in Ireland and the younger children just got their school holidays. It is a blessing to see a child excited for their holidays, they of course know nothing of time or what is Sumner really only they don't have to go to school anymore. How great the innocence. Perhaps because I have lost children of my own I have come to a place to cherish the innocence that exists in each and every child, I highly encourage you to take a longer moment to think about this too. Your own children and their wild imaginations. I cannot share these beautiful moments with my sons anymore and so I believe many parents forget how magic they really are and should enjoy each and every one of them.
So here is to middle of Sumner and July, I hope you rush on over to Amazon and get a copy of my book TWO sons TOO many and make it your Sumner read this year, perhaps gain that appreciation or feel how lucky you really are. Why not ? It has taken great loss for me to share a story with you and you can benefit through my pains to get to that level of, live in the minute and soak up all the magic that lives around us everyday.
Perhaps your fireworks display will bring you back to that innocent moment of when you too were a child. To feel it you have to imagine it, you have to think it you have to breathe it. Again why not ? Adult life is not going anywhere and will not notice if you take a little five minute break.
Anniversary here we come, ready or not.
https://www.createspace.com/6300312
https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/aw/d/B01H...
Come say Hi on Facebook or Twitter, my handle there and book page is the title @TWOsonsTOOmany
Happy fourth everyone, oh yeah don't forget. Leave a review if you can manage after the emotional roller coaster. Plenty of fun and laughs along the way.
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