Yong Kang Chan > Quotes

“Your inner child is waiting for a genuine, heartfelt apology.”
― Yong Kang Chan, Parent Yourself Again: Love Yourself the Way You Have Always Wanted to Be Loved

“The more you don’t want to be like your parents, the more you will resemble them.”
― Yong Kang Chan, Parent Yourself Again: Love Yourself the Way You Have Always Wanted to Be Loved

“Your pain needs to be recognized and acknowledged. It needs to be acknowledged and then released. Avoiding pain is the same as denying it.”
― Yong Kang Chan, Parent Yourself Again: Love Yourself the Way You Have Always Wanted to Be Loved

“True acceptance doesn’t require you to fit in or change who you are. It doesn’t have to be sought; it’s given to you.”
― Yong Kang Chan, Reconnect to Love: A Journey From Loneliness to Deep Connection

“Pretending to be passionate when we are truly depressed doesn’t help. Numbing our feelings only makes things worse. Depression taught me to experience all of my feelings and not push them aside.”
― Yong Kang Chan, The Emotional Gift: Memoir of a Highly Sensitive Person Who Overcame Depression

“Beneath anger, there are hurt feelings.”
― Yong Kang Chan, Parent Yourself Again: Love Yourself the Way You Have Always Wanted to Be Loved

“When we feel lonely, we are not lacking in love. We are disconnected from love.”
― Yong Kang Chan, Reconnect to Love: A Journey From Loneliness to Deep Connection

“Empathy is my good friend, but she doesn’t allow me to be angry.”
― Yong Kang Chan, The Emotional Gift: Memoir of a Highly Sensitive Person Who Overcame Depression

“Intuition has always been my greatest gift. It has provided me with many ideas for my creative work and saved me from a lot of trouble. It’s just that when I feel stressed and desperate, I forget this gift.”
― Yong Kang Chan, The Emotional Gift: Memoir of a Highly Sensitive Person Who Overcame Depression

“Blocking our feelings and pretending they aren’t there doesn’t mean they don’t exist.”
― Yong Kang Chan, The Emotional Gift: Memoir of a Highly Sensitive Person Who Overcame Depression

“Anger tried to help me feel better about myself by pushing the blame onto someone else.”
― Yong Kang Chan, The Emotional Gift: Memoir of a Highly Sensitive Person Who Overcame Depression

“You can’t change the outside without changing the inside.”
― Yong Kang Chan, Empty Your Cup: Why We Have Low Self-Esteem and How Mindfulness Can Help

“When you hate your parents or dislike certain traits that they have, you are actually giving them more attention and directing your energy toward them. They occupy your headspace, so how could it not affect your choices in life.”
― Yong Kang Chan, Parent Yourself Again: Love Yourself the Way You Have Always Wanted to Be Loved

“I mistakenly believed that I was my emotions.”
― Yong Kang Chan, The Emotional Gift: Memoir of a Highly Sensitive Person Who Overcame Depression

“Once we let go of our low self-esteem identity, the mind will have to start all over again, collecting new information about us and building a new identity.”
― Yong Kang Chan, Empty Your Cup: Why We Have Low Self-Esteem and How Mindfulness Can Help

“Life isn’t about being strong or pretending we are strong to impress others. It takes courage to be authentic with our feelings and acknowledge that real strength comes from recognizing our moments of weakness.”
― Yong Kang Chan, The Emotional Gift: Memoir of a Highly Sensitive Person Who Overcame Depression

“Words can’t harm you when they don’t mean anything to you.”
― Yong Kang Chan, The Disbelief Habit: How to Use Doubt to Make Peace with Your Inner Critic

“Although we want to be close with others, we maintain a distance so we won’t be hurt.”
― Yong Kang Chan, Reconnect to Love: A Journey From Loneliness to Deep Connection

“People who have low self-esteem might not even know they have low self-esteem.”
― Yong Kang Chan, Empty Your Cup: Why We Have Low Self-Esteem and How Mindfulness Can Help

“Nothingness is the most peaceful state of mind. There’s no unworthiness or inferiority. There’s only pure love.”
― Yong Kang Chan, Empty Your Cup: Why We Have Low Self-Esteem and How Mindfulness Can Help

“Low self-esteem is the belief that we are not good or worthy enough. It’s a self-perception. It doesn’t matter how successful or confident you are. You can be wealthy, beautiful, or well-liked by others and still don’t feel good about yourself. The way other people perceive you doesn’t affect your self-esteem. It’s how you perceive yourself that matters.”
― Yong Kang Chan, Empty Your Cup: Why We Have Low Self-Esteem and How Mindfulness Can Help

“Sometimes, awareness is not enough. Some of your habits have such strong momentum that they will pull you in a direction you don’t want to go.”
― Yong Kang Chan, Reconnect to Love: A Journey From Loneliness to Deep Connection

“We established most of our self-beliefs during our childhood, but they were based on our limited understanding of the world around us. They are either flawed or have become outdated. We can’t take these beliefs at face value anymore.”
― Yong Kang Chan, The Disbelief Habit: How to Use Doubt to Make Peace with Your Inner Critic

“Our reaction to self-criticism is more important than the self-criticism itself. Paying attention to our reactions is very important because the only thing we have control over is how we react.”
― Yong Kang Chan, The Disbelief Habit: How to Use Doubt to Make Peace with Your Inner Critic

“You have no choice about what gets poured into your cup, but you have a choice as to what you accept and believe.”
― Yong Kang Chan, Empty Your Cup: Why We Have Low Self-Esteem and How Mindfulness Can Help

“Telling a person who is depressed to have positive thoughts is the same as telling a sick person not to be sick. It doesn’t work.”
― Yong Kang Chan, The Emotional Gift: Memoir of a Highly Sensitive Person Who Overcame Depression

“Overcoming loneliness is not about getting rid of it forever. It’s about accepting the purpose of loneliness.”
― Yong Kang Chan, Reconnect to Love: A Journey From Loneliness to Deep Connection

“The relationship with our parents will not change until we change.”
― Yong Kang Chan, Parent Yourself Again: Love Yourself the Way You Have Always Wanted to Be Loved

“We are constantly looking to others for love, support, and happiness, not realizing that the best person to meet our emotional needs lies within us.”
― Yong Kang Chan, Reconnect to Love: A Journey From Loneliness to Deep Connection

“The ego only understands love from a survival perspective. It doesn’t understand love from a deeper, spiritual perspective.”
― Yong Kang Chan, Reconnect to Love: A Journey From Loneliness to Deep Connection