Happiness Is a Serious Problem Quotes

“Yes, there is a “secret to happiness”—and it is gratitude. All happy people are grateful, and ungrateful people cannot be happy. We tend to think that it is being unhappy that leads people to complain, but it is truer to say that it is complaining that leads to people becoming unhappy. Become grateful and you will become a much happier person.”
― Dennis Prager, Happiness Is a Serious Problem: A Human Nature Repair Manual

“The Joy of Victimhood There are some clear rules about happiness. One is that you cannot be happy if your primary identity is that of a victim, even if you really are one. There are a number of reasons: People who regard themselves as victims do not see themselves as in control of their lives. Whatever happens in their lives happens to them, not by them. People who primarily regard themselves as victims see the world as unfair to them in particular. Just as the young student who always sees himself as “being picked on” is an unhappy soul, so is the person who carries that attitude into adulthood. People who regard themselves primarily as victims are angry people, and an angry disposition renders happiness impossible. People who have chosen to regard themselves as victims cannot allow themselves to enjoy life, because enjoying life would challenge their perception of themselves as victims.”
― Dennis Prager, Happiness Is a Serious Problem: A Human Nature Repair Manual

“Unhappy poor people at least have the fantasy that money will make them happy; unhappy rich people don’t even have that.”
― Dennis Prager, Happiness Is a Serious Problem: A Human Nature Repair Manual

“The Missing Tile syndrome is ubiquitous. If you are overweight, all you see are flat stomachs and perfect physical specimens. If you have pimples, all you see is flawless skin. Women who have difficulty getting pregnant walk around seeing only pregnant women and babies. Nor do you need to be overweight, have pimples, be balding, or want a child to believe that you have a missing tile. You can allow any real—or merely perceived—flaw to diminish your happiness.”
― Dennis Prager, Happiness Is a Serious Problem: A Human Nature Repair Manual

“Only marriage combines all three forms of companionship - spouse is family, best friend, and permanent companion. This is why it is widely held that while the death of a child is the most painful loss, the death of a spouse is the most disorienting one.”
― Dennis Prager, Happiness Is a Serious Problem: A Human Nature Repair Manual

“The only people who have no bad tendencies are dead.”
― Dennis Prager, Happiness Is a Serious Problem: A Human Nature Repair Manual

“Most people wait until tragedy strikes before thinking about how to incorporate tragedy into their life.”
― Dennis Prager, Happiness Is a Serious Problem: A Human Nature Repair Manual

“The only happy people I know are people I don’t know well.” This observation is a one-sentence antidote to this obstacle to happiness. If all of us realized that the people with whom we negatively compare our happiness are plagued by pains and demons of which we know little or nothing, we would stop comparing our happiness with others’. Think of those people you know well, and you will realize the truth of Helen Telushkin’s comment. Most likely you know how much unhappiness everyone you know well has experienced. And even with regard to these people whom you know well, chances are that you do not know with what inner demons—emotional, psychological, economic, sexual, or related to alcohol or drugs—they have to struggle.”
― Dennis Prager, Happiness Is a Serious Problem: A Human Nature Repair Manual

“Everyone has been wounded. It is almost inevitable that our parents will wound us in some way. If we are not wounded by our parents, we may be wounded by the death or illness of a parent or sibling, by a bitter marriage or bitter divorce, or if our immediate family is close to idyllic, we might be wounded by some other adult who abuses us or peers who mock us. An unscarred childhood is possible but very rare.”
― Dennis Prager, Happiness Is a Serious Problem: A Human Nature Repair Manual

“One cannot be a good person without gratitude, and one cannot be a happy person without gratitude. This provides a vital link between goodness and happiness.”
― Dennis Prager, Happiness Is a Serious Problem: A Human Nature Repair Manual

“If you go through life cheating others, you will go through life expecting others to cheat you. Liars expect to be lied to; cheaters expect to be cheated; and so on.”
― Dennis Prager, Happiness Is a Serious Problem: A Human Nature Repair Manual

“I often wonder if I am entitled to be as happy as I am, given the amount of suffering in the world.”
― Dennis Prager, Happiness Is a Serious Problem: A Human Nature Repair Manual

“… instead of allowing the enormity of the world’s sufferings to make me unhappy, I have allowed it to increase the depth of my gratitude for the blessed life that I have been allowed to lead. You can look at the amount of suffering in the world and become bitter (this world stinks), cynical (nothing matters, it’s all just a roulette game), or hedonistic (with all this suffering, I’ll rack up all the fun I can) – or you can be grateful for your blessings.”
― Dennis Prager, Happiness Is a Serious Problem: A Human Nature Repair Manual

“Without a philosophy of life, we do not know how to react to what life deals us. Our happiness bounces up and down, determined by the day’s events and the immediate emotions they elicit rather than by sober reflection. Without being able to place events into perspective—which comes from having a philosophy of life—we are at the mercy of events. Our ship has no destination and no compass.”
― Dennis Prager, Happiness Is a Serious Problem: A Human Nature Repair Manual

“Everything worthwhile in life is attained through hard work. Happiness is not an exception.”
― Dennis Prager, Happiness Is a Serious Problem: A Human Nature Repair Manual

“happiness is a battle to be waged and not a feeling to be awaited.”
― Dennis Prager, Happiness Is a Serious Problem: A Human Nature Repair Manual

“The problem in our time is that maturity is not high on the list of goals we offer the next generation. We stress happiness, success, and intelligence but not maturity. And that is too bad, both for society, which suffers when too many of its members are immature, and for the individual who wants to be happy. For happiness is not available to the immature. And one of the prominent characteristics of immaturity is seeing oneself primarily as a victim.”
― Dennis Prager, Happiness Is a Serious Problem: A Human Nature Repair Manual

“And finally, when unhappy people try to help others by founding or joining social movements, they often do more harm than good. There are good reasons to fear social movements made up of unhappy people who want to bring about social change. Those left-wing and right-wing social movements that have destroyed tens of millions of lives were not composed of happy people. They were composed of unhappy people who blamed their unhappiness on others (for Nazis, Jews; for Communists, capitalists) and who looked to movements of radical social change as a source of both happiness and meaning. While there are times when the social order is so oppressive (living under a totalitarian regime is the best example) that personal happiness is essentially impossible, in relatively free societies the sources of one’s unhappiness are far more likely to be personal than social.”
― Dennis Prager, Happiness Is a Serious Problem: A Human Nature Repair Manual

“Blessed are You God, ruler of the world, Who created man in wisdom and created within him numerous orifices and spaces. It is known and revealed before You that if one of them should open when it should close or one of them should close when it should open, it would be impossible for us to exist. Blessed are You God, Who heals all mankind and does wonders.”
― Dennis Prager, Happiness Is a Serious Problem: A Human Nature Repair Manual

“Or to put it another way, fun is during, happiness is during and after.”
― Dennis Prager, Happiness Is a Serious Problem: A Human Nature Repair Manual

“There is little in life that gives so much at so little cost as not having expectations.”
― Dennis Prager, Happiness Is a Serious Problem: A Human Nature Repair Manual

“Many people seem to want this epitaph: “I led as painless a life as possible.” But the purpose of life is not to avoid pain. That is the purpose of an animal’s life—but animals cannot know happiness.”
― Dennis Prager, Happiness Is a Serious Problem: A Human Nature Repair Manual

“That human nature is the greatest single obstacle to happiness is too rarely pointed out by those who speak or write about happiness. First, it strikes many people as too pessimistic. Second, citing our own nature as the greatest obstacle to happiness means that to be happy, we have to battle ourselves, and this is not something many people want to hear. Third, it undermines the common desire to attribute one’s unhappiness to outside forces.”
― Dennis Prager, Happiness Is a Serious Problem: A Human Nature Repair Manual

“One way to test whether you have chosen your friends wisely is to ask yourself why they are your friends. If your only answer is that you like them and they are fun to be with (certainly important components of friendship), you probably haven’t given consideration to their values. Or try this: what case could you make to people who have never met your friends to prove that your friends are good people?”
― Dennis Prager, Happiness Is a Serious Problem: A Human Nature Repair Manual

“If you want financial success, you need the self-control to waste little time on fun things that don’t contribute to your personal and professional development. If you want happy and healthy children, you need the self-control to spend a great deal of time with them (thus depriving yourself of time to do what you want to do for yourself). If you want to be physically fit, you need the self-control to eat less fattening, less delicious foods and to exercise regularly.”
― Dennis Prager, Happiness Is a Serious Problem: A Human Nature Repair Manual

“… when people think or write about happiness, self-control is rarely stressed. … Yet happiness is impossible without self-control. In fact, everything we want is impossible without self-control. Ask anyone who has achieved what you particularly desire to achieve, and you will find a profoundly self-disciplined individual.”
― Dennis Prager, Happiness Is a Serious Problem: A Human Nature Repair Manual

“We determine how much we will allow something to make us unhappy. That we can determine our emotional response to events is hard for many people to acknowledge. Most people think that events make them unhappy, that their happiness level is essentially dictated by what happens to them. But this is untrue.”
― Dennis Prager, Happiness Is a Serious Problem: A Human Nature Repair Manual

“… given my view that tragedy is normal, I try to be happy unless something happens that makes me unhappy, rather than unhappy unless something makes me happy. Most people go through life waiting for something wonderful to happen to make them happy. My attitude is so long as nothing terrible is happening to us, we ought to be happy.”
― Dennis Prager, Happiness Is a Serious Problem: A Human Nature Repair Manual

“As the Psalmist put it millennia ago, ‘Those who sow in tears will reap in joy.’ Many people, however, believe that they can both sow and reap without tears.”
― Dennis Prager, Happiness Is a Serious Problem: A Human Nature Repair Manual

“… Many people avoid some of the very things that would bring them the deepest happiness such as marriage, children, intellectually challenging pursuits, religious commitment, and volunteer work. They fear the pain that inevitably accompanies such things and therefore devote more time to ‘fun’ things that bring little happiness, such as watching television.”
― Dennis Prager, Happiness Is a Serious Problem: A Human Nature Repair Manual