Love More, Fight Less Quotes

“Judgment separates us from the people we want to be close to incredibly quickly. Whether it’s our internal self-judgment that shuts down opportunity for connection or our judgment of others that makes it hard for loved ones to open up to us, judgment is cancer for authenticity in
relationships.”
― Gina Senarighi, Love More, Fight Less: Communication Skills Every Couple Needs: A Relationship Workbook for Couples

“True reliability is built not only by following through, but by following through more than once on promises. Which is why it takes time to build trust. We need to see changed behavior in the person who harms us more than once.”
― Gina Senarighi, Love More, Fight Less: Communication Skills Every Couple Needs: A Relationship Workbook for Couples

“Then the more reliable and consistent we are in our follow through on commitments, and our
relationship repair work the deeper trust grows.”
― Gina Senarighi, Love More, Fight Less: Communication Skills Every Couple Needs: A Relationship Workbook for Couples

“One of the clearest paths to building strong and healthy relationships is practicing mutual
compassionate accountability.”
― Gina Senarighi, Love More, Fight Less: Communication Skills Every Couple Needs: A Relationship Workbook for Couples

“Emotional literacy is a prerequisite for empathy and psychological resilience.”
― Gina Senarighi, Love More, Fight Less: Communication Skills Every Couple Needs: A Relationship Workbook for Couples

“Self-compassion is critical in accountability. We often overcorrect by shaming and blaming
ourselves or under correct by avoiding ways to face accountability directly.

Using self-compassion doesn’t mean letting yourself off the hook for missteps, but owning them and still holding space to love yourself.

Adding compassion to accountability processes decreases shame and isolation and increases growth and connection.”
― Gina Senarighi, Love More, Fight Less: Communication Skills Every Couple Needs: A Relationship Workbook for Couples

“While many of us struggle with taking too much ownership over things that are not ours, there’s
always a truth that both parties contribute to every conflict.

Sometimes your part might be as simple as not speaking up or not staying curious; other times it might be a bigger issue, like a tendency to blame or shout, a lack of accountability, an inability to respect boundaries or projecting insecurities.”
― Gina Senarighi, Love More, Fight Less: Communication Skills Every Couple Needs: A Relationship Workbook for Couples

“Trustworthy relationships are built on a foundation of goodwill. Couples with solid trust are able to give each other the benefit of the doubt in conflict, and they weather conflicts more easily because of it.”
― Gina Senarighi, Love More, Fight Less: Communication Skills Every Couple Needs: A Relationship Workbook for Couples

“Emotional intimacy is something we all deeply crave in relationships. It's that feeling you’re really understood and loved by another not in spite of, but along with your imperfections. It’s a deep sense of knowing, feeling “gotten” by someone who really matters to you.

It’s arguably the best part of being in a relationship. And it’s extremely rare.”
― Gina Senarighi, Love More, Fight Less: Communication Skills Every Couple Needs: A Relationship Workbook for Couples

“The relationship we have with ourselves sets the foundation for every other relationship we have.”
― Gina Senarighi, Love More, Fight Less: Communication Skills Every Couple Needs: A Relationship Workbook for Couples

“Too much and too little communication is killing our relationships.”
― Gina Senarighi, Love More, Fight Less: Communication Skills Every Couple Needs: A Relationship Workbook for Couples

“Direct, honest, straightforward communication is kind. Sidestepping the truth doesn’t serve anyone involved.”
― Gina Senarighi, Love More, Fight Less: Communication Skills Every Couple Needs: A Relationship Workbook for Couples

“It's not possible to have trust without boundaries. But for most of us, boundaries are a real mystery.
Without clear boundaries, it’s not possible to build trust with others- or to earn trust from others.”
― Gina Senarighi, Love More, Fight Less: Communication Skills Every Couple Needs: A Relationship Workbook for Couples

“To grow your ability to cultivate intimacy with others, begin by growing your intimacy
with yourself.”
― Gina Senarighi, Love More, Fight Less: Communication Skills Every Couple Needs: A Relationship Workbook for Couples

“If you’re not asking yourself how you’ve contributed to the conflicts between you and your partner, then you’re not being brave in conversations or with yourself.”
― Gina Senarighi, Love More, Fight Less: Communication Skills Every Couple Needs: A Relationship Workbook for Couples

“Lots of couples get stuck blaming and finger-pointing about topics and can feel like
there’s no way out.

The antidote to blame is personal accountability.
Moving to a mindset of accountability means looking at and owning your contribution to the
conflict (however small it may be).”
― Gina Senarighi, Love More, Fight Less: Communication Skills Every Couple Needs: A Relationship Workbook for Couples

“Couples who stay curious about each other, engaged in learning about their partners, open to growing together fare better long term. They're able to adapt to changes and navigate bumps in the road with resilience. 

And they maintain passion and intimacy by fueling a sense of discovery and space for fascination, mystery, and surprise.”
― Gina Senarighi, Love More, Fight Less: Communication Skills Every Couple Needs: A Relationship Workbook for Couples

“Often couples are deeply connected, fascinated really, with each other in the first weeks of the
relationship but as years pass we build familiarity (which is a good thing) and our curiosity wanes.
We get out of practice staying curiously engaged. Asking strong follow up questions is one place to start that shift.”
― Gina Senarighi, Love More, Fight Less: Communication Skills Every Couple Needs: A Relationship Workbook for Couples

“Empathy means giving compassionate attention to another by either silently or verbally reflecting their feelings and needs. There’s no need to fix or take care of the other person’s experience, only to offer warmth, acceptance and respect for their perspective and experience.”
― Gina Senarighi, Love More, Fight Less: Communication Skills Every Couple Needs: A Relationship Workbook for Couples

“Generosity of spirit is an inside job. It’s all about choosing trust over insecurity or resentment.”
― Gina Senarighi, Love More, Fight Less: Communication Skills Every Couple Needs: A Relationship Workbook for Couples

“Communication can ruin a perfectly good relationship.”
― Gina Senarighi, Love More, Fight Less: Communication Skills Every Couple Needs: A Relationship Workbook for Couples

“Learning to accept and move through healthy conflict is an essential component of keeping
passion alive long-term in partnerships. Couples who honor individuality and autonomy often
experience more fulfilling intimate connections because they more easily save space for
fascination, independent growth, and robust personal adventures.”
― Gina Senarighi, Love More, Fight Less: Communication Skills Every Couple Needs: A Relationship Workbook for Couples

“Learning to accept and move through healthy conflict is an essential component of keeping
passion alive long-term in partnerships.”
― Gina Senarighi, Love More, Fight Less: Communication Skills Every Couple Needs: A Relationship Workbook for Couples

“Change is always possible.”
― Gina Senarighi, Love More, Fight Less: Communication Skills Every Couple Needs: A Relationship Workbook for Couples