Loveless Quotes

“Give your friendships the magic you would give a romance. Because they're just as important. Actually, for us, they're way more important.”
― Alice Oseman, Loveless

“I've learnt some Things. Like the way friendship can be just as intense, beautiful and endless as romance. Like the way there's love everywhere around me - there's love for my friends, there's love for my paintings, there's love for myself.”
― Alice Oseman, Loveless

“In the end, that was the problem with romance. It was so easy to romanticise romance because it was everywhere. It was in music and on TV and in filtered Instagram photos. It was in the air, crisp and alive with fresh possibility. It was in falling leaves, crumbling wooden doorways, scuffed cobblestones and fields of dandelions. It was in the touch of hands, scrawled letters, crumpled sheets and the golden hour. A soft yawn, early morning laugher, shoes lined up together dy the door. Eyes across a dance floor. I could see it all, all the time, all around, but when I got closer, I found nothing was there.”
― Alice Oseman, Loveless

“You know why people pair up into couples? Because being a human is fucking terrifying. But it's a hell of a lot easier if you're not doing it by yourself.”
― Alice Oseman, Loveless

“She's happy with who she is. Maybe it's not the heteronormative dream that she grew up wishing for, but... knowing who you are and loving yourself is so much better than that, I think.”
― Alice Oseman, Loveless

“I don't think I need to try everything to know I don't like it.”
― Alice Oseman, Loveless

“Rooney dropped to her knees. ‘Georgia, I am never going to stop being your friend. And I don’t mean that in the boring average meaning of ‘friend’ where we stop talking regularly when we’re twenty-five because we’ve both met nice young men and gone off to have babies, and only get to meet up twice a year. I mean I’m going to pester you to buy a house next door to me when we’re forty-five and have finally saved up enough for our deposits. I mean I’m going to be crashing round yours every night for dinner because you know I can’t fucking cook to save my life, and if I’ve got kids and a spouse, they’ll probably come round with me, because otherwise they’ll be living on chicken nuggets and chips. I mean I’m going to be the one bringing you soup when you text me that you’re sick and can’t get out of bed and ferrying you to the doctor’s even when you don’t want to go because you feel guilty about using the NHS when you just have a stomach bug. I mean we’re gonna knock down the fence between our gardens so we have one big garden, and we can both get a dog and take turns looking after it. I mean I’m going to be here, annoying you, until we’re old ladies, sitting in the same care home, talking about putting on a Shakespeare because we’re all old and bored as shit.”
― Alice Oseman, Loveless

“People are really out there just … thinking about having sex all the time and they can’t even help it?’ I spluttered. ‘People have dreams about it because they want it that much? How the – I’m losing it. I thought all the movies were exaggerating, but you’re all really out there just craving genitals and embarrassment. This has to be some kind of huge joke.”
― Alice Oseman, Loveless

“I used to dream of a spellbinding, endless, forever romance. A beautiful story of meeting a person who could change your whole world.

But now, I realised, friendship could be that too.”
― Alice Oseman, Loveless

“Friends are automatically classed as 'less important' than romantic partners. I'd never questioned that. It was just the way the world was. I guess I'd always felt that friendship just couldn't compete with what a partner offered, and that I'd never really experience real love until I found romance.
But if that had been true, I probably wouldn't have felt like this.”
― Alice Oseman, Loveless

“I'm at uni for three months and suddenly I'm not straight any more.”
― Alice Oseman, Loveless

“You're gonna be OK. There's nothing you have to do except be.”
― Alice Oseman, Loveless

“Picturing fanfic characters having sex? Great. Fine. Sexy. But picturing myself having sex with anyone, guy, girl, whoever, didn’t interest me. No – it was more than that. It was an immediate fucking turn-off.”
― Alice Oseman, Loveless

“The aromantic and asexual spectrums weren’t just straight lines. They
were radar charts with at least a dozen different axes.”
― Alice Oseman, Loveless

“[...] and I realised that it was because what I was doing wasn't 'giving up'. It was acceptance.”
― Alice Oseman, Loveless

“I just. Loved. Love.”
― Alice Oseman, Loveless

“I couldn't admit to them how desperately I wanted to be in a romantic relationship. Because I knew it was pathetic. Trust me. I completely understood that women should want to be strong and independent and you don't need to find love to have a successful life. And the fact that I so desperately wanted a boyfriend - or a girlfriend, a partner, whoever, someone - was a sign that I was not strong, or independent, or self-sufficient, or happy alone. I was really quite lonely, and I wanted to be loved.”
― Alice Oseman, Loveless

“Are they also …?’
‘They’re asexual too.’
‘Wow.’ Ellis grinned. ‘Well, that makes three of us.’
‘There are more,’ I said. ‘A lot more. Out there. In the world.’
‘Really?’
‘Yeah.’ Ellis stared out of the window, smiling. ‘That would be nice. If there were lots out there.”
― Alice Oseman, Loveless

“Sunil said he felt indifferent about sex. I’d never heard anyone talk about sex like that before. Like it was a takeaway cuisine you thought was OK, but you wouldn’t personally choose it.”
― Alice Oseman, Loveless

“I've always hated being asked if I'm OK. The available answers are either to lie and say I'm fine, or to massively and embarrassingly overshare.”
― Alice Oseman, Loveless

“I knew liking girls could be hard when you're also a girl. It usually was, at least for a while. But it was beautiful too. So fucking beautiful.
Liking girls when you're a girl was power. It was light. Hope. Joy. Passion.
Sometimes it took girls who liked girls a little while to find that. But when they found it, they flew.”
― Alice Oseman, Loveless

“The crux of it all was that I did not feel sexual or romantic feelings for anyone. Not a single goddamn person I had ever met or would ever meet.
So that really was me.
Aromatic.
Asexual.”
― Alice Oseman, Loveless

“If I could spend every night of my life eating snacks and watching something silly in a giant bed with one of my best friends, I'd be happy.”
― Alice Oseman, Loveless

“But... what if what I am is just... nothing?" I breathed out and blinked as the photographer took the first shot. "What if I'm nothing?"
"You're not nothing," Sunil said. "You have to believe that."
Maybe I could do that.
Maybe I could believe.”
― Alice Oseman, Loveless

“Aromantic.
Asexual.
I came back to the words until they felt real in my mind, at least. Maybe they wouldn't be real in most people's minds. But I would make them real in mine. I could do whatever the fuck I wanted.”
― Alice Oseman, Loveless

“And the worst part of it was—even though I'd longed for these things, I knew that they'd never make me happy anyway. The idea was beautiful. But the reality made me sick.
How could I feel so sad about giving up these things that I did not actually want?
I felt pathetic for getting sad about it. I felt guilty, knowing that there were people out there like me who were happy being like this.
I felt like I was grieving. I was grieving this fake life, a fantasy future that I was never going to live.”
― Alice Oseman, Loveless

“It was something adults said all the time. "You'll change your mind when you're older. You never know what might happen. You'll feel differently one day." As if we teenagers knew so little about ourselves that we could wake up one day a completely different person. As if the person we are right now doesn't matter at all.”
― Alice Oseman, Loveless

“There were never any romantic feelings between Pip, Jason and me. But what we did have -afriendship of many years- was just as strong as that, I think. Stronger, maybe than a lot of couples I knew.”
― Alice Oseman, Loveless

“Yeah, but is the spark there?'
How was I supposed to know that? What the fuck was the spark? What did the spark even feel like?”
― Alice Oseman, Loveless

“I didn’t even know what was wrong. Everything. Myself. I didn’t know. How come everyone else could function and I couldn’t? How could everyone live properly yet I had some sort of error in my programming?”
― Alice Oseman, Loveless