Kristie

“When the raw pain is so unbearable and unbelievable, you may wonder if you can go on. But, you can, and will. And life can be good again—when you work at it."

"It’s a conscious choice to decide to move through grief, mourn the loss of the person you love, and heal.”
― Chelsea Hanson, The Sudden Loss Survival Guide: Seven Essential Practices for Healing Grief

“The past is somewhere we can walk with our memories
Never with our footsteps”
― Mimi Novic, The Silence Between the Sighs

“This is the same stuff your parents did to you: ignoring your feelings, not recognizing what you needed, invalidating you. You grew up never being taught how to be honest about what was going on inside you. You also had to pretend.” “So now you have blame them too? It this what therapy does—teaches you to blame and hurt others to make yourself feel better?” “I don’t see why we can’t look at the facts without judging them. No one ever talked about what was really going on in our family. We were always hiding, or ignoring, or punishing when things came to the surface.” “That was years ago! If you can’t let go of the past, then I don’t think you’re making all that much progress. And you can tell your therapist that.” She’s waving frantically at the waiter to give her the check, even though our dinner is only half eaten. “Just go…” she hisses, not looking at me any more, fumbling for her purse. “Just leave.”
― Kiera Van Gelder, The Buddha and the Borderline: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder through Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Buddhism, and Online Dating

“Poisoned by what's inside us and vulnerable to anything outside us”
― Kiera Van Gelder, The Buddha and the Borderline