Sandra

“True love, I said. And yet I'm sticking around unreasonably and knowing it's impossible because who knows? I want to find out. I live hopefully.”
― Miriam Toews, All My Puny Sorrows

“If you can't say no in relationships, then you can't be intimate”
― Christie Tate, Group: How One Therapist and a Circle of Strangers Saved My Life

“As much as we want to improve our relationships with our fathers or mothers, if your father, for example, hasn’t changed, he’ll probably hurt you again. His response is saying that he can’t handle more intimacy with you. Repeated efforts on your part won’t change this. No matter how much we love someone, they have the choice of holding to their limits. I have a certain relative I love very much. I’ve poured my heart out telling of my wish that we might be closer. I’ve been hurt a hundred times. So I finally got it. No matter how much I want to be closer to my relative, I can’t make him take his barrier away. He has a right to keep it. But I can protect myself from being hurt again. I can stop banging my head on his barrier.”
― Anne Katherine, Boundaries Where You End And I Begin: How To Recognize And Set Healthy Boundaries

“I recognized the familiar feeling of warmth and safety that settled after the rush of emotional risk.”
― Christie Tate, Group: How One Therapist and a Circle of Strangers Saved My Life