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Brittomart
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Feb 20, 2011 10:20PM
I hate it when I'm close to orgasm, and I'm thinking, "I'm totally going to have a million orgasms after I get this one out of the way." Then I climax, and I'm like, "aww, shit, I'm so fucking sleepy. Dammit."
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iBritt wrote: "I'm bawling.This feels so...sad."
Britt... what's up? I know I don't chime in very often, but the thought of you bawling and typing in the night kicks me in the gut.
I'm okay now. swollen eyes are sleepy, so I'm okay. thanks.
Okay... crying yourself to sleep is effective (but still wretched). I'll check in in the morning.
Britt, I'm sorry you're so sad. So alone. So helpless. Crying will help in the moment. But think about this: If you keep doing what you've always done, you'll keep getting what you've always gotten. If that's OK with you, right on, you're on your way to . . . where you are.
The only thing I can do is live for me and fuck all the rest.I'm so angry right now. Guy stops talking to me for four months. Four months! Last night he sends me an email - one of those automated gmail ones, saying that he wants to talk on gmail chat. 4 months, and I can't even get a personal email. I guess he wanted to talk on gmail, but I didn't see the email until this morning. Why? Because when he left, I stopped obsessing over my email 'cause I knew I wasn't going to hear from him again. And now I get this, and I send a response, and I don't know if I'm going to get one back. I should just ignore it because he's an asshole who doesn't give a shit about me, but I can't because I want to know.
Britt, you know what you need to do, even if your curiosity tells you something different. Listen to the part of you that says you don't need him and his crap in your life, okay? *hugs*
Jammies is right, you don't need someone who treats you like that.
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Someone asked me, "If you felt good about yourself, would you still want a relationship?"And my first reaction was, "If I felt good about myself, why would I need a boyfriend?"
And I feel so ashamed!
Britt, you don't necessarily "need" a boyfriend, but it's okay to want one! Everyone, no matter how good they feel about themselves, wants to be loved. It is part of us to want to love and be loved, to have a companion who accepts us for who we are, someone to share our life with. It helps if they are funny and cute. :) Seriously, it's okay to want a boyfriend; that doesn't make you weak. From what I've seen so far, the problem may rest more in the fact that you dwell on that one aspect of life and wallow in it.
Honestly, when I moved home from England in 2002 and got my divorce I was 30 and a bit on the fat side, even starting to get grey hair! He, on the other hand, married within 6 months and had a kid a year later...men. I was the one who left and he had a perfect little family a year and a half later! I spent an entire weekend in my bed with a bowl of chocolate. Then, I got up and got back to life, because even on my own I was happier than I was with him (which is why I left in the first place).
For a while I tried "recycling" as my mother calls it, dating two exes...I don't recommend it, a few blind dates, I even tried Eharmony for a few months at the insistence of my bestie. But, in the end it was so much effort for so little payout. They liked me and I didn't like them, or I liked them and they didn't like me. Let's just say I didn't meet my match AT ALL. I finally gave up on that and just resigned myself to a life alone. After all, I had my books and you all and my family and friends. That was a lot to be thankful for. Six months later, out of nowhere...seriously...nowhere, I met my perfect kindred spirit. It's funny how when you're not looking and content with life that sort of thing just happens, but when you're on the hunt you can't find a damn thing.
You have a choice to make Britt, wallow, or pick yourself up and get on with your life. Focus on the things you have to be thankful for and find contentment. You don't have to be blissfully happy, but if you can be content you will find that wonderful things just happen when you aren't even looking for them. You might find that blissfully happy just happens.
Of course, it's your perfect right to wallow. Some people are happier unhappy. My grandmother was that way. If she didn't have something to bitch about she didn't know what to do with herself. So, as Meg would say, "Swim in it until your fingers get pruney" if that's what you want. It seems a shame to me. You're a smart, funny girl. And, anyone who appreciates Daria is okay by me. But, at the end of the day, it's YOUR life.
Honestly, when I moved home from England in 2002 and got my divorce I was 30 and a bit on the fat side, even starting to get grey hair! He, on the other hand, married within 6 months and had a kid a year later...men. I was the one who left and he had a perfect little family a year and a half later! I spent an entire weekend in my bed with a bowl of chocolate. Then, I got up and got back to life, because even on my own I was happier than I was with him (which is why I left in the first place).
For a while I tried "recycling" as my mother calls it, dating two exes...I don't recommend it, a few blind dates, I even tried Eharmony for a few months at the insistence of my bestie. But, in the end it was so much effort for so little payout. They liked me and I didn't like them, or I liked them and they didn't like me. Let's just say I didn't meet my match AT ALL. I finally gave up on that and just resigned myself to a life alone. After all, I had my books and you all and my family and friends. That was a lot to be thankful for. Six months later, out of nowhere...seriously...nowhere, I met my perfect kindred spirit. It's funny how when you're not looking and content with life that sort of thing just happens, but when you're on the hunt you can't find a damn thing.
You have a choice to make Britt, wallow, or pick yourself up and get on with your life. Focus on the things you have to be thankful for and find contentment. You don't have to be blissfully happy, but if you can be content you will find that wonderful things just happen when you aren't even looking for them. You might find that blissfully happy just happens.
Of course, it's your perfect right to wallow. Some people are happier unhappy. My grandmother was that way. If she didn't have something to bitch about she didn't know what to do with herself. So, as Meg would say, "Swim in it until your fingers get pruney" if that's what you want. It seems a shame to me. You're a smart, funny girl. And, anyone who appreciates Daria is okay by me. But, at the end of the day, it's YOUR life.
You're right on, Bun. I think I just stumbled into that when I stopped trying. ;)
Hermits are good. As long as you're happy.
BunWat wrote: "Ha, I should take my own advice!! Thing is, much of what I like to do can be done quite nicely in the comfort of my own home. Cooking, reading, gardening, knitting, hanging with the dogs, yakking ..."I'm a total hermit, given my druthers.
Go hermits! We are excellent cooks, readers of great books, gardeners and dog handlers. We rule.
BunWat wrote: "Unscary Hermits Unite!!"What do you mean unscary?
Do you have to be a good gardener? Is that a prerequisite? Because, if so, I'm going to have to move along and find someone else to unite with...
BunWat wrote: "Sorry.Scary Hermits Unite!!"
That's better!
I never do anything I think might hurt. Accidentally blowing my face off building a package bomb would hurt.
BunWat wrote: "Okay then, you're in."Don't worry Amelia, We really want you to be hermitish with us. That makes us less frightening, actually.
Are trolls allowed to join the Scary Hermits? I have my own bridge and I don't actually eat small children**they're too chewy
Jammies wrote: "Are trolls allowed to join the Scary Hermits? I have my own bridge and I don't actually eat small children*I'll speak for the hermits, Jammies--you are definitely in. Now I'm going to go and read my book--been looking forward to it all day.
*they're too chewy"
Amelia and Bun, that is GREAT advice! I have been out of a serious relationship for the last year and a half and I have never been happier. It is so fun to do the things I want to do or not do anything if I please. This is probably the first time in my life, that I am taking care of me and not everyone else around me. I am not worried about having a man in my life. If it happens, fine and if not, that is fine as well! Life is too short to sit around waiting and wallowing. :)
Sometimes I wallow. Sometimes I enjoy wallowing, when I am not too busy being a hermit.
The quality of the wallowing depends mostly on the viscosity of the mud in which one wallows.
Between work and my commute I am very jealous with my "off time"...
Okay, so BBM (Blackberry Messenger) has taught me that a) some boys/men/boymen do find me a attractive
b) those individuals are either boring or creepy. I'm more frustrated with boring than creepy. And creepy plus boring just kills me.
c) I am not attracted to those individuals.
But I don' care about looks! 'cause I'm in no position whatsoever to be picky. But I mean, is it really too much to ask for someone to be interesting, smart, charming, funny, nice but not too nice, have more than "when's my next paper due?" to worry about, have something that they're really passionate about other than when the next time they're gonna stick their dick into some poor girl, and likes me too? Oh, and I want to bypass all of that "finding myself" bullshit. Know what the fuck's your purpose in life. Have all that shit settled out, and then come see me. I mean, do I not deserve that because I'm not pretty? Because I'm interesting, I'm funny, I'm smart, I'm caring, I'm a lot of shit, okay. And I want to be appreciated, dammit! But fuck me, they gotta come with something stronger than this because I am not picky. By any means.
ETA: And you know what, I really don't care if they're nice. Fuck nice. I've always been attracted to the misanthropes. But the cool ones.
Britt, welcome to my world! I never thought my expectations were TOO high, but apparently they are!
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There was another vagina farter at yoga yesterday. Besides me. I wanted to run over and hug that woman.
Wow, you are a brave woman Sally. Maybe I missed the original discussion on VF's. I assumed everyone was doing it. I'm glad you now have company.
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**looks around**
if this doesn't go in the TMI thread, where does it belong, oh wise upsidedown friend?
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Do you want to hug Queefer Sutherland?
Where has that trout been all these years?
::wipes off the monitor and keyboard after spewing water on them while laughing at LG's comment::
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**attaches backup beeper to Larry**
Sally wrote: "I don't understand your last two statements Gail.
**looks around**
if this doesn't go in the TMI thread, where does it belong, oh wise upsidedown friend?"
I must be talking gibberish today. Larry couldn't understand me either.
**looks around**
if this doesn't go in the TMI thread, where does it belong, oh wise upsidedown friend?"
I must be talking gibberish today. Larry couldn't understand me either.
