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“There is no friend as loyal as a book.”
― Ernest Hemingway

“Sometimes, a gal just can't have too many men.

Maya”
― Cynthia Eden

“Running into a burning building probably wasn't the smartest move Kenton Lake had ever made. Then again, sadly, it wasn't his dumbest either.”
― Cynthia Eden, Deadly Fear

“For the first time in history, middle-class women do not need men in the traditional ways - for safety, for money, for a life. So they’re demanding instead what they always wanted but couldn’t ask for: emotional connection, presence, intimacy. Sex with enough foreplay, enough seduction, enough closeness to please them. Men are baffled not only because the needs they are being asked to fill differ so from what their fathers and grandfathers understood to be their jobs but also because full-fledged intimacy requires strengths and skills they’ve never learned. Moreover… they’re strengths and skills that were once left solely to women: Men didn’t have to develop them. This maturational mismatch may be contributing to distrust among lovers of all ages.”
― Dalma Heyn, Drama Kings: The Men Who Drive Strong Women Crazy

“Married women are far more depressed than married men -- in unhappy marriages, three times more; and -- interestingly -- in happy marriages, five times more. In truth, it is men who are thriving in marriage, now as always, and who show symptoms of psychological and physical distress outside it. Not only their emotional well-being but their very lives, some studies say, depend on being married!”
― Dalma Heyn

“The question is always the answer, provided you want the answer badly enough.”
― Barbara Hambly, The Time of the Dark

“We love people differently at different stages of our knowledge of them. As love changes its hape and its nature, we have to decide what we're going to do about that love on any given day.”
― Barbara Hambly, Night's Edge

“Freedom is just chaos with better lighting”
― Alan Dean Foster, To the Vanishing Point

“The foundation of adult trust is not "You will never hurt me." It is "I trust myself with whatever you do.”
― David Richo, Daring to Trust: Opening Ourselves to Real Love and Intimacy

“The opposite of interpersonal trust is not mistrust. It is despair. This is because we have given up on believing that trustworthiness and fulfillment are possible from others. We have lost our hope in our fellow humans.”
― David Richo

“When we feel unsafe with someone and still stay with him, we damage our ability to discern trustworthiness in those we will meet in the future.”
― David Richo

“We mark with light in the memory the few interviews we have had with souls that made our souls wiser, that spoke what we thought, that told us what we knew, that gave us leave to be what we inly are.”
― Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Our higher needs include making full use of our gifts, finding and fulfilling our calling, being loved and cherished just for ourselves, and being in relationships that honor all of these. Such needs are fulfilled in an atmosphere of the five A’s by which love is shown: attention, acceptance, appreciation, affection, and allowing.”
― David Richo

“Trust in someone means that we no longer have to protect ourselves. We believe we will not be hurt or harmed by the other, at least not deliberately. We trust his or her good intentions, though we know we might be hurt by the way circumstances play out between us. We might say that hurt happens; it’s a given of life. Harm is inflicted; it’s a choice some people make.”
― David Richo

“The more invested I am in my own ideas about reality, the more those experiences will feel like victimizations rather than the ups and downs of relating. Actually, I believe that the less I conceptualize things that way, the more likely it is that people will want to stay by me, because they will not feel burdened, consciously or unconsciously, by my projections, judgments, entitlements, or unrealistic expectations.”
― David Richo, Daring to Trust: Opening Ourselves to Real Love and Intimacy

“Our wounds are often the openings into the best and most beautiful part of us.”
― David Richo

“We do not create our destiny; we participate in its unfolding. Synchronicity works as a catalyst toward the working out of that destiny.”
― David Richo, The Power of Coincidence: How Life Shows Us What We Need to Know

“Synchronicity is a term used by Carl Jung to describe coincidences that are related by meaningfulness rather than by cause and effect.”
― David Richo

“The challenge is to find our destiny in exactly what we are refusing to engage in.”
― David Richo

“Transference is essentially a compulsion to return to our past in order to clear up emotionally backlogged business.”
― David Richo, When the Past Is Present: Healing the Emotional Wounds That Sabotage Our Relationships

“We can actually reconstruct our past by examining what we think, say, feel, expect, believe, and do in an intimate relationship now.”
― David Richo, When the Past Is Present: Healing the Emotional Wounds That Sabotage Our Relationships

“Humility means accepting reality with no attempt to outsmart it.”
― David Richo, The Five Things We Cannot Change: And the Happiness We Find by Embracing Them

“Our tears are precious, necessary, and part of what make us such endearing creatures.”
― David Richo, The Five Things We Cannot Change: And the Happiness We Find by Embracing Them

“In a true you-and-I relationship, we are present mindfully, nonintrusively, the way we are present with things in nature.We do not tell a birch tree it should be more like an elm. We face it with no agenda, only an appreciation that becomes participation: 'I love looking at this birch' becomes 'I am this birch' and then 'I and this birch are opening to a mystery that transcends and holds us both.”
― David Richo, When the Past Is Present: Healing the Emotional Wounds That Sabotage Our Relationships

“Already, Seattle is taking hold of her. She still holds Sedona in the dry tan of her skin and in her hair, but the fine mist of the Northwest is making its way to places she didn’t know were parched.”
― Susan Wiggs, Hotel Angeline: A Novel in 36 Voices

“She reflects on the girl she had been in this place, and the things she had to do in order to survive. For a long time, she’d had to live her child- hood backward, forced to step up and take charge of things that were thrust into her hands.”
― Susan Wiggs, Hotel Angeline: A Novel in 36 Voices

“It isn’t fair, but maybe that’s the whole point. Fairness has no part in real life, and she took that lesson away from the Hotel Angeline with her.”
― Susan Wiggs, Hotel Angeline: A Novel in 36 Voices

“You have seven writers in your basement?”

Donald nods, signing, “They like it here. There’s a poet, a couple of novelists, an opera librettist, an essay writer . . . . They don’t usually make much trouble.”
― Susan Wiggs, Hotel Angeline: A Novel in 36 Voices

“To read Hotel Angeline is to celebrate how this diverse group of writers (and readers, all of them) can pool their talents and expertise to come up with such an entertaining and soul-satisfying novel.”
― Nancy Pearl, Hotel Angeline: A Novel in 36 Voices

“Civilization is only possible for deeply unpleasant animals. It is only an ape that can be truly civilized.”
― Mark Rowlands, The Philosopher and the Wolf