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“Съчувствието е прекрасно нещо. Човек изпитва съчувствие, като види смачкана гъсеница. Извисяващо преживяване. Човек може да му се отдаде и да го разпръсне около себе си - все едно, че си отпуска колана. Няма защо да си стяга корема, сърцето или духа, когато е обзет от съчувствие. Трябва само да погледне надолу. Толкова е лесно. Като гледате нагоре, ви заболява вратът. Съчувствието е най-голямата добродетел. То оправдава страданието. По света трябва да има страдание, иначе как можем да сме добродетелни и да изпитваме съчувствие?... О, то има своя противоположност - но тя е толкова трудна и завладяваща... Възхищението, г-жо Джоунс, възхищението. Но то изисква много повече от отпускане на колан... Затова казвам, че всеки, когото не сме в състояние да съжалим, е покварен. Като Хауърд Роук.”
― Айн Ранд "Изворът"

“...най-здравият съюз на този свят е този между бездарниците. Те са тези, които в условията на всеки тоталитарен режим успяват да изкопаят по някакъв гьол, съответстващ на техните размери, в който се мъчат да натикат и умъртвят онези, които са родени, за да кръстосват океаните.”
― Georgi Markov, Задочни репортажи за България

“Self-education is, I firmly believe, the only kind of education there is.”
― Isaac Asimov

“Единственият начин да помогнем на учениците да станат почтени и принципни личности, а не хора, които правят каквото им се каже, е да им дадем шанс сами да открият смисъл в нравствеността. Това означава да им съдействаме те сами (или заедно с други) да решат как трябва да се държи човек. Няма как да поемем в тази посока, ако не изоставим инструментариума на традиционната дисциплина. Още по-важно е да преодолеем прекалената си ориентация към послушанието и вместо това поведем учениците в процес на създаване и обосноваване на нравствени принципи.”
― Alfie Kohn, Beyond Discipline: From Compliance to Community

“Tiffany got up early and lit the fires. When her mother came down, she was scrubbing the kitchen floor, very hard.

“Er…aren’t you supposed to do that sort of thing by magic, dear?” said her mother, who’d never really got the hang of what witchcraft was all about.

“No, Mum, I’m supposed not to,” said Tiffany, still scrubbing.

“But can’t you just wave your hand and make all the dirt fly away, then?”

“The trouble is getting the magic to understand what dirt is,” said Tiffany, scrubbing hard at a stain. “I heard of a witch over in Escrow who got it wrong and ended up losing the entire floor and her sandals and nearly a toe.”

Mrs. Aching backed away. “I thought you just had to wave your hands about,” she mumbled nervously.

“That works,” said Tiffany, “but only if you wave them about on the floor with a scrubbing brush.”
― Terry Pratchett, Wintersmith

“Mrs. Earwig said the village women know what to do,” said Annagramma hopefully. “She says to trust in their peasant wisdom.”

“Well, Mrs. Obble was the old woman who called, and she has just got simple peasant ignorance,” said Tiffany. “She puts leaf mold on wounds if you don’t watch her. Look, just because a woman’s got no teeth doesn’t mean she’s wise. It might just mean she’s been stupid for a very long time.”
― Terry Pratchett, Wintersmith

“In a word, learning is decontextualized. We break ideas down into tiny pieces that bear no relation to the whole. We give students a brick of information, followed by another brick, followed by another brick, until they are graduated, at which point we assume they have a house. What they have is a pile of bricks, and they don't have it for long.”
― Alfie Kohn, Punished by Rewards: The Trouble with Gold Stars, Incentive Plans, A's, Praise and Other Bribes

“Малко противоположности в образованието са толкова силни и значими, както тази между отправянето на изисквания към учениците и инструктирането им какво могат и не могат да вършат, от една страна, и задружното, самостоятелно търсене от страна на учениците на начина да живеят и учат заедно, от друга. Говорим за разлика между това да си подготвен да прекараш живота си, правейки каквото ти казват, и да си подготвен да поемаш активна роля в демократичното общество (или, в зависимост от случая, да трансформираш обществото, така че да го превърнеш в демократично.)”
― Alfie Kohn, Beyond Discipline: From Compliance to Community

“Morality binds and blinds. It binds us into ideological teams that fight each other as though the fate of the world depended on our side winning each battle. It blinds us to the fact that each team is composed of good people who have something important to say.”
― Jonathan Haidt, The Righteous Mind: Why Good People Are Divided by Politics and Religion

“Oh lovers! be careful in those dangerous first days! once you've brought breakfast in bed you'll have to bring it forever, unless you want to be accused of lovelessness and betrayal.”
― Milan Kundera, The Book of Laughter and Forgetting

“Everyone cares about fairness, but there are two major kinds. On the left, fairness often implies equality, but on the right it means proportionality —people should be rewarded in proportion to what they contribute, even if that guarantees unequal outcomes.”
― Jonathan Haidt, The Righteous Mind: Why Good People Are Divided by Politics and Religion

“Before I began research for this book I was not consciously aware that women were aggressive in indirect ways, that they gossiped and ostracized each other incessantly, and did not acknowledge their own envious and competitive feelings. I now understand that, in order to survive as a woman, among women, one must speak carefully, cautiously, neutrally, indirectly; one must pay careful attention to what more socially powerful women have to say before one speaks; one must learn how to flatter, manipulate, aree with, and appease them. And, if one is hurt or offended by another woman, one does not say so outright; one expresses it indirectly, by turning others against her.
Of course, I refuse to learn these "girlish" lessons.”
― Phyllis Chesler, Woman's Inhumanity to Woman

“Primates – and young humans who lack verbal skills – will use physical aggression to express themselves or to get their way. They will hit, push, shove, spit, kick, punch, and bite. As children grow, they add verbal aggression to their repertoire. They will shout and threaten. As children develop further and gain more social intelligence, they begin to employ indirect and nonphysical forms of aggression. From an evolutionary and anatomical point of view, girls and women are less inclined to attack anyone directly, or physically, than man and boys are – unless, as mothers, their offspring are in immediate physical danger. In addition, girls and women are culturally trained to employ indirect methods of aggression, as a low-risk, low-injury, approach.

Girls learn that a safe way to attack someone else is behind her back, so that she will not know who is responsible. This tracks girls and women into lives of chronic gossip and rumor mongering, but it also allows girls and women to fight without physically killing each other outright.”
― Phyllis Chesler, Woman's Inhumanity to Woman

“According to Brown and Gilligan, by the third grade,
expressing a "different" view among girls has already become "too dangerous and risky." A pre-adolescent girl is sometimes willing to speak more directly when only one other girl is present; this changes when a third girl joins them. However, even as girls are learning how to be indirect and nice, they continue
to judge one another. Girls are concerned about who is a true friend and who is only faking it. A girl risks losing her entire social world if she dares to think for herself or if she refuses to back her best friend or her clique even when she thinks they are in the wrong.”
― Phyllis Chesler, Woman's Inhumanity to Woman

“For most women, being seen, having others pay attention to you, is imagined and experienced as more desirable and more powerful than commanding an army or seizing control of the means of production and reproduction.”
― Phyllis Chesler, Woman's Inhumanity to Woman

“Psychologically, enviers wish to be the one God loves most, the Chosen One, the one whose being radiates excellence. Many women wish to star in this role, and many do. The male universe has room for many more stars; the female universe is therefore much smaller, and the competition quite fierce for the limited number of starring roles.”
― Phyllis Chesler, Woman's Inhumanity to Woman

“Reciprocity is a deep instinct; it is the basic currency of social life.”
― Jonathan Haidt, The Happiness Hypothesis: Finding Modern Truth in Ancient Wisdom

“The best method for acquiring scientific data is direct observation. Nothing beats watching a subject in action. But scientist have an easier time gazing at intergalactic quasars than peeking into someone's bedroom. Quasars don't close the curtains out of modesty of suspicion. In contrast, most of us are unwilling to let curious scientists photograph us as we tumble between the sheets. Radio waves may be invisible, but they don't try do deceive curious physicists and they are incapable of self-deception. Humans are guilty of both.”
― Ogi Ogas, A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the World's Largest Experiment Reveals about Human Desire

“A woman's sexual desire must be filtered through a careful appraisal of potential risks. During human prehistory, women who blindly gave in to every sexual urge likely faced a host of daunting challenges, including - in the extreme cases - death. Most important, from an evolutionary point of view, her children would have a harder time surviving than the children of a woman who limited the expression of her sexual urges to a strong and decent man willing to invest in a stable, long-term, child-rearing relationship. All modern women are the fruit of feminine caution. The result of this whittling away of the impulsive branches of our ancestral maternal tree is a female brain equipped with the most sophisticated neural software on Earth. A system designed to uncover, scrutinize, and evaluate a dazzling range of informative clues.”
― Ogi Ogas, A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the World's Largest Experiment Reveals about Human Desire

“The process of the hero getting in touch with his tender side is one of the greatest pleasures of the romance. Scenes where an alpha male expresses his feelings are always described in rich detail. In the same way that women often find the breathless gasping and moaning of female porn stars to be absurdly inauthentic, male readers of romances might find the emotional confessions of romance heroes to be strangely unfamiliar.”
― Ogi Ogas, A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the World's Largest Experiment Reveals about Human Desire

“The characters populating male fantasies have little in common with those inhabiting female fantasies. In porn, the mind of a woman is usually empty of all thought and feeling – except for an overwhelming urge to have sex with plumbers, pizza boys, and her BFF. Women’s hopes and fears are irrelevant. Their skills are inconsequential, except for the admirable ability to satisfy multiple lovers simultaneously and an impressive capacity for moaning. Their bodies, on the other hand, are depicted in lavish, graphic detail.

The heroes of romance novels often seem like members of a more evolved species. They are natural leaders, rich, powerful, and well-connected. Their minds are intelligent and savvy, though they are reticent about their abilities and hide their inner demons. Despite the fact that they are a five-star general or lord of southern England, they hide a troubled and tempestuous soul that can only be healed by the magical balm of a woman’s love.”
― Ogi Ogas, A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the World's Largest Experiment Reveals about Human Desire

“Но още през следващото лято споменът за голямото наводнение почна да минава в паметта на старите хора, дето щеше да живее още дълго, а младежите седяха с песни и разговори на бялата гладка капия над водата, която течеше дълбоко под тях и със своя шум допълваше песента им. Забравата лекува всичко, а песента е най-добрият начин за забрава, защото в нея човек си спомня само онова, което обича.
Така на капията, между небето и земята, реката и бърдата, поколение след поколение се учеше да не тъжи прекомерно по онова, което мътната вода отнася. Тук у тях проникваше несъзнателната философия на градчето; че животът е неразбираемо чудо, защото непрестанно се изразходва и разхищава, но все пак трае и се държи здраво „както мостът на Дрина“.”
― Иво Андрич, The Bridge on the Drina