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“I’ve chosen to open this painful chapter in my life to inspire belief in what’s possible for your life.”
― Darcy Luoma, Thoughtfully Fit: Your Training Plan for Life and Business Success

“Even our most misguided adventures were some of the best experiences of my life.”
― Darcy Luoma, Thoughtfully Fit: Your Training Plan for Life and Business Success

“Sometimes you need to consistently do boring things to prepare yourself for larger challenges. When you train, you can take on major challenges that otherwise would seem insurmountable.”
― Darcy Luoma, Thoughtfully Fit: Your Training Plan for Life and Business Success

“If you can consciously choose your behavior—by focusing on your choices and what you control—you will be more thoughtful, and it will be easier to deal with whatever life throws at you. This book will teach you how.”
― Darcy Luoma, Thoughtfully Fit: Your Training Plan for Life and Business Success

“When you’re Thoughtfully Fit and life feels easier, this doesn’t mean life is easier. Bad things will still happen. Relationships will challenge you. Crises will hit. Adversity will strike. People problems will still be there. But training to be Thoughtfully Fit makes it easier to deal with these challenges and handle them right the first time.”
― Darcy Luoma, Thoughtfully Fit: Your Training Plan for Life and Business Success

“Thoughtfully Fit is all about focusing on how you can be different—not anyone else. This isn’t about changing your boss or your spouse or your neighbor. Only they can do that. All you can do is change yourself.”
― Darcy Luoma, Thoughtfully Fit: Your Training Plan for Life and Business Success

“I promise you, there will be no push-ups. I’m not going to have you run laps. And I definitely won’t have you do any dreaded chin-ups. Your life is the gym and the training ground. Think of it as circuit training for your mind. Allow me to be your coach.”
― Darcy Luoma, Thoughtfully Fit: Your Training Plan for Life and Business Success

“Just as physical events are easier when you train for them, your life and people problems are easier to manage when you train for them.”
― Darcy Luoma, Thoughtfully Fit: Your Training Plan for Life and Business Success

“Life is hard and unpredictable. Even though you don’t have complete control over what happens, you do have control over how you respond. No matter the situation, you always have choices for what you say and what you do. I explore this with my clients all the time, and it’s not uncommon for them to tell me: “I agree, in theory. But you don’t know what I’m dealing with. You don’t know what I’ve been through. Having control in my situation isn’t possible.” Maybe you’re thinking the same thing.”
― Darcy Luoma, Thoughtfully Fit: Your Training Plan for Life and Business Success

“We hear all the time about how important it is to be physically fit. Our society has become ultra-focused on fitness and health. Our Facebook feeds are filled with seven-minute workouts. There are YouTube videos galore on seven days to rock-hard abs. The radio plays ads to lose ten pounds in ten days, but only if you call in the next ten minutes.
Even the president told us to be physically fit. Remember the Presidential Physical Fitness Test in elementary school? A quick shuttle run, the dreaded flexed arm hang. It tested strength, endurance, flexibility, and agility. All different ways to prove we were physically fit. Or not.
As a matter of fact, Americans now spend more on fitness than on college tuition.1 Over a lifetime, the average American spends more than $100,000 on things like gym memberships, supplements, exercise equipment, and personal training.2 Seems shocking, right?
But where are the training programs for the thoughts in your head? Those thoughts that tell you that you have no choices when bad things happen. Those thoughts that try to convince you everything is out of your control in difficult situations. Where do you go if you want to be Thoughtfully Fit?
Right here in this book.”
― Darcy Luoma, Thoughtfully Fit: Your Training Plan for Life and Business Success

“Keep your focus on the things you can control: your behavior, your choice of words, your attitude, your responses. And if you feel like you’re struggling to control them? Your core can help. Take a deep breath. Pause and Think about what you need to reel it in. Then Act—thoughtfully.”
― Darcy Luoma, Thoughtfully Fit: Your Training Plan for Life and Business Success

“Your thoughts determine your actions. When you have greater awareness and more control over your thoughts, you have greater awareness and more control over your actions. Thoughtfully Fit teaches you to be aware of your thoughts and decide if they’re serving you well. If not? Well, it might be time to think again, consider the choices, and find a new path forward.”
― Darcy Luoma, Thoughtfully Fit: Your Training Plan for Life and Business Success

“You also can save energy by letting things go. Acknowledge that they’re out of your control, and be done with them. No venting, no post-meeting meeting, no middle of the night spinning. Instead, ask yourself questions to find a thoughtful course of action (which in this case might mean doing absolutely nothing) and move on.”
― Darcy Luoma, Thoughtfully Fit: Your Training Plan for Life and Business Success

“New awareness gives you access to new actions. That’s the power of questions: they create new awareness. And when you identify the options and choose the path forward, you are totally sold on executing it.”
― Darcy Luoma, Thoughtfully Fit: Your Training Plan for Life and Business Success

“When you work to strengthen your Thoughtfully Fit core, you are building the power to harness your own expertise and find thoughtful ways forward in all areas of your life. This will bring you stability, prevent injury to yourself and others, and make you stronger to handle all that life throws at you.”
― Darcy Luoma, Thoughtfully Fit: Your Training Plan for Life and Business Success

“Will you get it right every time? No, my friend, you will not. You’ll need to appreciate that there’s learning in failure and that tomorrow is another day to try again. You may get discouraged, but I hope you’ll see enough success that you won’t give up. Failure is essential for progress.”
― Darcy Luoma, Thoughtfully Fit: Your Training Plan for Life and Business Success

“Working with a coach is about taking control of your life. And that’s why I love it! Watching people get excited as they figure out solutions to their own challenges or see new pathways for their life is incredibly rewarding.”
― Darcy Luoma, Thoughtfully Fit: Your Training Plan for Life and Business Success

“It’s worth building awareness about your own behavior and identifying places you could make different choices. We tend to think things have to be the way they are because they’ve always been that way. But being Thoughtfully Fit opens up a world in which you get to choose how you show up and behave in any given situation.”
― Darcy Luoma, Thoughtfully Fit: Your Training Plan for Life and Business Success

“Are your thoughts getting in the way? Telling you all the reasons you can’t do something or making you feel like you don’t have a choice? Or urging you to tell others what jerks they are? Time for these thoughts to get out of the way. When you are Thoughtfully Fit, your thoughts can lead the way to better actions.”
― Darcy Luoma, Thoughtfully Fit: Your Training Plan for Life and Business Success

“Once you hit the Pause button, it gives you time to Think. Thinking is essential if you want to create new awareness, so you can respond thoughtfully to what comes your way.”
― Darcy Luoma, Thoughtfully Fit: Your Training Plan for Life and Business Success

“While some question whether Stillness is selfish, it’s the opposite. It gives you greater capacity to embrace others, like putting your own oxygen mask on first in an airplane. As the saying goes, you can’t pour from an empty cup.”
― Darcy Luoma, Thoughtfully Fit: Your Training Plan for Life and Business Success

“After John’s arrest, life came at me fast. At every turn, I found myself in a place where my gut reaction was fear, anger, or deep sadness. I had to learn to Pause. This was my chance to take a breath and get myself grounded. It helped me not to react unconsciously (which didn’t turn out well when I did).”
― Darcy Luoma, Thoughtfully Fit: Your Training Plan for Life and Business Success

“I bet some of you are thinking, Who has time to Pause? There’s too much to do! Have you seen my to-do list? I have—and I know it well. I’m a recovering multitasker and overachiever. And I also know how hard it can be to even think about hitting that Pause button.”
― Darcy Luoma, Thoughtfully Fit: Your Training Plan for Life and Business Success

“If we don’t Pause, life will find a way to take one for us, whether we like it or not. For instance, sometimes illness is our body’s way of forcing a Pause.”
― Darcy Luoma, Thoughtfully Fit: Your Training Plan for Life and Business Success

“You know what a Pause is. Depending on your situation, your Pause may be three seconds or, if you need more time, the Pause might be a few hours. But no matter how long, it puts distance between you and your reaction.”
― Darcy Luoma, Thoughtfully Fit: Your Training Plan for Life and Business Success

“Think is where you ask yourself questions. Not questions like “Where should I go for dinner?” but thoughtful, coachier questions like “What do I want?” The goal is to create new awareness.”
― Darcy Luoma, Thoughtfully Fit: Your Training Plan for Life and Business Success

“I know Stillness sounds like you need to be still, but I have great news: you don’t! We’re talking about mental stillness, which you might access most easily when you’re physically active.”
― Darcy Luoma, Thoughtfully Fit: Your Training Plan for Life and Business Success

“When we aren’t thoughtful, we do things we later regret. We say yes when we mean no. We overreact. We snap at people. We miss opportunities to connect more deeply with others. We mindlessly eat a whole container of rocky road ice cream. (Oh, is that just me?)”
― Darcy Luoma, Thoughtfully Fit: Your Training Plan for Life and Business Success

“Working to be physically fit takes time and effort. In the same way, being Thoughtfully Fit—responding thoughtfully in every situation—also takes time and effort. When you’re physically fit, every movement feels easier. When you’re Thoughtfully Fit, you have greater stability in your thoughts and emotions, and your life and relationships feel easier.”
― Darcy Luoma, Thoughtfully Fit: Your Training Plan for Life and Business Success

“We all ask for advice at times, and most people around us are more than happy to give it. But Thoughtfully Fit asks you to embrace the idea that you know what’s best for you better than anyone else. Thoughtfully Fit is a way to ask yourself for advice. After all, you’re the expert of your own life. And if you take time to Pause, Think, and listen to your own answers, the path forward becomes clearer. But if you aren’t taking the time to Pause and Think, that path may not appear. Or you may take a path that leads to regrets and greater conflict. Or worse, to a new Mount Crisis.”
― Darcy Luoma, Thoughtfully Fit: Your Training Plan for Life and Business Success