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March 9 - April 2, 2024
Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy
experiences that make us the most vulnerable.
Vulnerability is our ability to share who we are with others.
Being vulnerable allows us to be honest and open about the experiences that have shaped us.
Fearing vulnerability is feari...
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Operating in your role as child instead of parent to your parents
Checking in less often with people who drain your energy
Not using your past as a reason to avoid proceeding with life
Sharing the truth of your past without sugarcoating your experience
Teaching yourself things that you weren’t taught in childhood
I allow myself to feel and not judge my feelings.
I actively cultivate the best version of myself.
I make tough decisions because they’re healthy for me.
I experience things alone instead of waiting for the “right” people to join me.
How are you allowing people to take advantage of you?
It’s your job to maintain the standard of how others treat you. After
When you make disparaging comments or cruel jokes about yourself, you give others license to do the same to you.
I honor myself by speaking up.
Recognize that saying no to others is saying yes to yourself.
Allowing yourself to feel your feelings without judging them as good or bad
Reading for pleasure, not with the intent to learn or grow a new skill
Self-sabotage first starts in the way we talk to ourselves.
we often talk ourselves out of trying before we even start.
Once we start to talk to ourselves negatively, we commit to those negat...
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We may say, “I can’t,” but we’re capable of accomplishing more than ...
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use direct language without ambivalence about what will happen.
we dishonor ourselves by failing to live according to our values or failing to show up as an authentic human being. Guilt
Her life isn’t an open book. She doesn’t have to answer any question that makes her feel uncomfortable.
“That’s an interesting question; what prompted you to ask me that?”
Turn the question back on them: “Do you want more kids?”
glossing
As humans, we change, and our boundaries change with
If you’ve labeled yourself as a person who can’t stick to things, you will be “a person who can’t stick to things.”
The ultimate form of intrinsic motivation is when a habit becomes part of your identity. It’s one thing to say I’m the type of person who wants this. It’s something very different to say I’m the type of person who is this.
Hold memories about how adults made them feel
Lack the mental capacity to appropriately manage adult
issues, no matter what their behavior reflects
We don’t naturally fall into perfect relationships; we create them.
need your help with ____.” “Be home by five o’clock, because I’d like us to have dinner together.”
Notice your energy while engaging with people.
From this space of clear knowing, you can create intentional agreements in your relationships that provide clarity.
to save yourself time and a lot of heartaches, believe people when they say things like “I don’t want a serious relationship,”
can’t see myself with a kid.”
What is the plan for the relationship?
Watch for resentment, burnout, frustration, settling, uneasiness, and anger. These emotions will guide you directly to where boundaries
What does cheating look like?
What’s the consequence if someone cheats?
What are your short-term and long-term financial goals?
Will you have joint or separate bank and brokerage accounts?
How will you address financial issues if they arise?
