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March 9 - April 2, 2024
How will tasks be divided so that they don’t fall on one person?
How do you handle issues with your partner’s family?
Is it okay to talk about your relationship with people outside the relationship? If so, whom?
How do you protect your relationship from others?
Having uncomfortable conversations can save relationships.
In healthy relationships, communicating your needs is welcomed and respected.
how much they hold back from each other because they fear what the other person might say.
open communication doesn’t mean that you can be mean
Little things can easily add up, so address issues even when you believe them to be “not that big of a deal.”
Telling your partner what you need allows them to honor your boundary. Staying quiet will piss you off.
You can’t make people aware of what they can’t see.
Whatever issues you’re having, you don’t want to taint your partner’s relationship with their parents.
Using “we” language will make it appear to be a joint decision instead of something that comes from only one person.
In most marriages, people report a decline in satisfaction during the first year,
soon after kids are born, and when the kids leave home.
What do you need? What do the two of you need as a couple?
clearly defined their limits and expectations.
having kids isn’t a reason to abandon yourself and your marriage.
Commit to getting to know your spouse again, date each other, and spend time together. You can’t
The number one reason that people fail to communicate their needs is the fear of being seen as mean or needy.
But it’s okay to have needs, and
isn’t the responsibility of one person to fulfill every need you have.
Requests are unreasonable when the other person can’t meet the need.
“If you bring up the past, I will verbalize that you’re crossing a boundary, and I will redirect the conversation.”
if a relationship ends because of a boundary, it’s a sign of a bigger problem.
Other people have no idea of our listening capacity or emotional capacity, so it’s up to us to use our words and behaviors to make them aware.
It wasn’t my job to tell my friend she was wrong,
Your friend acknowledges your quirks and works around them.
You exhibit your worst behavior when you’re with your friend.
Your friend tries to embarrass you in front of others.
Ruminating is talking about the same issues over and over without trying to problem-solve or work through your frustrations in any real way.
Almost everyone complains about something, but the frequency matters.
The friend who complains all the time does so without limitation because we have provided a space for it.
Lead by example; don’t complain.
Ask before offering an opinion, and be mindful of whether the person can handle the truth.
“I’m not sure how to help you with that.”
“The more you appear to handle, the more work you’ll be expected to handle.”
Vacations are an opportunity to recharge and reset.
Before you start your workday, take a few minutes to engage in a relaxing practice
Teach others how to respect your boundaries by being consistent with respecting them yourself.
“I don’t talk about personal subjects at work. It makes me uncomfortable.”
Ruminating about all the things you hate will not improve your feelings.
Don’t offer your professional services for free to friends and family.
“It’s important to me to recharge when I’m out of the office in order to be fully present when I’m at work.
Allowing a coworker to follow you on social media but restricting what they can view
There is no such thing as the perfect employee.
work is where people spend the majority of their time,
and your time is valuable.
Self-discipline is the act of creating boundaries for yourself.
Once you start responding to them, you agree to partake in an argument.
