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March 9 - April 2, 2024
Explaining yourself over and over doesn’t mean people will eventually get it.
It’s your job to protect your energy.
feeling left out, comparing themselves with others, and the pressure to fake it.
you can’t control the way people respond to what you share.
The moment we continue to follow something that bothers us, we agree to be bothered.
You are who you follow, what you watch, and the websites you visit.
You have the power to choose your user experience.
create based on inspiration, the needs of my community, and my expertise.
what other things you could be doing with your time, what are you getting from your constant online connection, and what the meaning behind your consumption is.
why we use social media is as important as how much we use social media.
Respect your boundaries by honoring the time constraints you’ve set for yourself.
Unfollow, block, and mute people who make you feel uncomfortable.
How can you practice being present with others?
It costs money, time, and energy to always be in the loop.
The worst thing is seeing your friends, exes, and associates doing fun things without you.
If it’s people you know, don’t allow your ego to get in the way.
their social life separate from you is no reflection on their relationship with you.
Is it okay in your relationship to follow exes or people you’ve had a sexual relationship with in the past?
How should you address DMs from people who seem romantically interested?
Are there any expectations about posting pictures of each other?
What’s your philosophy on liking sexually suggestive photos?
Use social media only during designated times.
you’re in charge of how you engage with it.
Human engagement and consumption are more significant issues.
Let your phone die. Use the time while it’s charging to recharge yourself.
Unfriend people who aren’t real friends. • Unfollow people who make you feel bad about yourself.
when someone implements a boundary, it’s to help them feel safe, happy, and secure in the relationship.
Nothing other people do is because of you. It’s because of themselves.
Personalizing assumes that everything is about us.
Has the situation/person truly changed? • What is the evidence that the person/situation is different?
Push past the discomfort, and do it even while you feel afraid.
it’s perfectly natural to feel insecure while trying something new.
consistency is the most crucial part of the process.
Persevere with the awareness that your boundaries are not for people to like.
They’re for you to remain healthy in your relationships.
People with boundaries have healthier relationships that tend to last longer.
Thank you so much for your willingness to be brave and to change.
You know your people best.
