The Path Between Us: An Enneagram Journey to Healthy Relationships

by Suzanne Stabile

If you ask a Five what they feel, they will tell you what they think. You will have to be persistent to move a conversation to the feeling level.

Incompetence and inadequacy are central to the Five’s fear. There is probably never an appropriate time to discuss either one lightly.

Fives have a strong desire to live life so that they never have to depend on someone else to take care of them. If they are in a position where they need your care, offer it with as few words and as little fanfare as possible.