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by
David Deida
The knowledge of death makes you humble and courageous. The knowledge of death strips the armor from your heart and allows the knowledge of love.
Any of her energies that you are unable to transform into love through the force, clarity, and humor of your consciousness will return for you to face, again and again.
She wants your consciousness—clear, strong, and free—as much as you want her radiance.
The secret is to match her energy with consciousness demonstrated through your body.
Your capacity to surrender through your fears and release your sense of separate self in divine communion must be as strong as her surrender into love.
If you have ever tried to increase your income, or magnify your spiritual clarity, you know that the world will test you. Only through your persistence, fearlessness, and loving service does the world yield to your efforts.
You are not trying to please her. You are learning to pervade the world, including her, with consciousness and love. That is what you are here to do.
If you are disconnected from your deep masculine core of purpose and consciousness, then you will also be disconnected from a woman’s depth.
If your purpose is to become ever more free of your self-burdens and give your true gift to the world, then a spiritually mature woman—who won’t let you slather in your comfy habits of security and distraction—may be an excellent ally for your journey.
Rather than dispersing this energy in mental fantasy, a man should learn to circulate his heightened energy. He should breathe fully, circulating the energy fully throughout his body. He should treat his heightened energy as a gift which could heal and rejuvenate his body, and, through his service, heal the world.
You can make use of the native force of sexual desire, for your woman and for other women, and convert your tendency toward fantasy and lust into the force of inspiration.
Feel lust. Feel what it really is, in its totality. Your lust reveals your real desire to unite with the feminine, to penetrate as deeply as possible, to receive her delicious light as radiant food for your masculine soul, and to give her your entirety, losing yourself in the giving, so that you are both liberated beyond your selves in the explosion of your gifts.
When you feel sexual lust or desire for any woman, breathe deeply and allow the feeling of desire to magnify. And allow it to magnify more. Don’t let the energy become lodged in your head or genitals, but circulate it throughout your body. Using your breath as the instrument of circulation, bathe every cell in the stimulated energy.
With an exhale, move into the world and penetrate it, skillfully and spontaneously, opening it into love. Through these means, allow women’s sexiness to help you discover and give your gift, rather than beguile you into cycles of stimulation and depletion.
He knows that when things get dreary it is his own doing.
Women can attract you, heal you, and inspire your gifts, but they will never satisfy you absolutely. Never. And you know this.
stress of not finding it creates its own need to be released. And so the cycle continues. You are chasing your own tail, and much of the time that tail looks suspiciously like a woman.
But you need not stop chasing. Instead, chase. Allow yourself to feel how badly you want her. Feel how deep is the itch you want scratched. Feel the need that drives you, for most of your adult life, to yearn for a woman, in flesh or in fantasy.
Your desire for union with a woman is a stepped-down version of this ultimate spiritual need.
Embrace your woman, if you have one, and give her what you want from her. Give it all to her. Give it away to her. Give her so much of what you want from her that you can’t tell who is who, the chaser has become the tail, and all motion stops in the intensity of self-release. There is only One.
Desire can be a doorway to deep oneness. Sexual union is a fractal, or stepped-down, reflection of the ever-present wedding of consciousness and its inherent luminosity.
Notice the obsessions—tits, ass, wealth, and fame—and practice the revelation of oneness by feeling through the obsessions.
The principal bodily key to mastering the world and women is maintaining a full and open front of the body at all times. The best method is through full and relaxed breathing, drawing energy down the front, and freeing attention from neurotic self-concern.
Your breath is a primary expression of your personal energy. Therefore, your breath is one of the primary ways to give your gift to the world. You can use your breath to open other people’s knots of tension, just as you open your own.
Like meditation or prayer, sex should be a special time of practicing opening your heart and giving love fully, into and through your partner, and in communion with that which you hold most sacred.
Man and woman must support each other in their priorities if the relationship is going to serve them both.
Your woman’s core is fulfilled by love. Your core is released from stress by aligning your life with your mission.
Our culture has become so anti-feminine that many women are trying to deny their feminine core desires and adopt the masculine way of dedication to mission. By denying their feminine essence, such women are predisposing themselves to emptiness of heart, depression, and bodily symptoms of disease.
While it is common sense that she should live a fulfilling and engaging life outside of your relationship, it is sexual wisdom to understand that her feminine essence will always hold the flow of love at its center.
The desire for intimate loving is as central to your woman’s life as the mission toward freedom—financial, psychological, and spiritual—is to yours.
Instead, be authentic to your core desires, and dedicate your life, with utter impeccability, to your highest goals.
When your life is truly aligned with your highest purpose, you will become more present, more loving, and more humorous. Your woman will then be the first recipient of your magnified presence, love, and humor. If your intimacy is not constantly growing in this way, your life is not aligned with your highest purpose.
Nobody can live your life for you. You must create your own health, success, and happiness.
Your masculine gift is to know where you are, where you want to be, and what you need to do to get there. If you don’t know one of these, then you need to discover it by any means necessary.
Your main gift in intimacy is to guide her, moment by moment, out of her moods and into the openness of loving.
Live at your edge. Love as fully as possible. Let your body be erect with the energy of your deep source. And take full responsibility for giving whatever love you have realized to the world and your woman.
If you don’t know your own direction in life, you certainly will stand on shaky ground offering your woman direction. So the first step is to align your own life so that, at least in this present moment, you are living at your edge, fully aligned with your sense of purpose.
However deeply you have penetrated into the mystery of existence, it is that depth from which your gift will spring. Any obstruction to that depth, by yourself or your woman, must be cut through, in the present moment, so your gift may come from the deepest source.
You are entirely responsible for cutting through your own laziness, addictions, and unclarity.
Try talking with your friends, using therapy, practicing meditation or prayer, going on a vision quest, reading scripture, walking in nature, keeping a journal, or studying with a teacher.
You could meditate until you’re blue in the face, but it won’t work, if, when it comes down to it, you’d rather masturbate, read the newspaper, or watch TV than cut through your addictions, discipline your daily life, and give your gift from your deepest, most blissful source. The quality of your intent and the consistency and depth of your application determine the results of your direction in gifting—as well as your capacity to guide your woman’s life into greater happiness and bodily surrender into love.
Unadorned suffering is the bedmate of masculine growth. Only by staying intimate with your personal suffering can you feel through it to its source.
Die in the giving of your gift, so you don’t even notice you have stopped holding onto yourself. Fear is your final excuse. Don’t fight it. Love through it.
